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gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show

Steve Bennet-Martinwww.sobersteve.com

gAy A delivers inspiring stories about queer people in sobriety who are achieving amazing feats in their recovery, proving that we are all LGBTQIA+ sober heroes.

If you are looking for a safe space where all queer people, no matter their gender, sexual  orientation, age, length of sober time, or method of recovery are valid, this is the sober show for you. If you are sober, you are a hero! 

This show is not affiliated with any program or institution, so you will hear stories from alcoholics and addicts where people mention getting sober using recovery methods such as rehabilitation, both inpatient and outpatient rehabs, sober living, hospitals, and some of us who got sober at home on our own. Guests may mention twelve step programs like AA, CMA, SMART Recovery, or other methods, while accepting that no one answer is perfect for everyone.

This podcast will provide valuable insights for any interested in learning more about queer recovery, from those of us with years or even decades of recovery under their belt, to people just beginning their sobriety journey, to even the sober curious or friends and family of alcoholics and addicts.

Each week, host Sober Steve the Podcast Guy tries to answer the following questions in various formats and with different perspectives:

·       How do I get and stay sober in the queer community?

·       Can you have fun while being sober and gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, or queer?

·       What does a sober life as a member of the LGBTQIA+ community look like?

·       Where do sober gay and queer people hang out?

·       How can I have good sex sober?

·       What are tips and tricks for early sobriety?

·       How can I get unstuck or out of this rut in my recovery?

·       How will my life change if I get sober?

·       Can you be queer and sober and happy?

·       How can I untangle sex and alcohol and drugs?

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Episodes

Putting Down the Sword ft. Kevin

Send us a text Steve welcomes Kevin to share his experience, strength, and hope while celebrating living a queer and sober life today. Topics discussed include: Kevin's favorite parts of life today Entering recovery 'young' Struggling with negative self talk The impact of family and culture Being kind to yourself Putting down the sword And much more! Follow Kevin on Instagram @kev.chiang , and follow us too @gayapodcast. Head over to the Patreon page to hear our post-show where we will chat abou...

Jan 18, 202438 minSeason 1Ep. 174

Sober Magik ft. Dallas

Send us a text Steve welcomes back friend of the podcast, Dallas, to discuss how integrating Magik and practices like Akashic Records has helped enrich and enhance Dallas' recovery and his abilities to help others. Topics Covered Included: Our relationships with magic and religion growing up How drugs and alcohol affected Dallas' connection to spirituality His experiences connecting with Magik and using it to help people in recovery How Akashic Records can help understand your history and roadma...

Jan 11, 202427 minSeason 1Ep. 173

A Change in Perspective ft Phil #172

Send us a text Steve welcomes back a friend of the podcast, Phil, to discuss the change(s) in perspective that comes to us in recovery, along with what it's like navigating life queer and sober today. Topics Covered Included: Our favorite parts of being queer and sober today Our perspectives growing up How alcohol and drugs affected our perspectives Moments of clarity that shift our perspective How our perspective has evolved in our recovery Looking ahead while living in the moment And much more...

Jan 04, 202436 minSeason 1Ep. 172

Bossing ft. Frank

Send us a text Steve welcomes back friend of the podcast, Frank, to discuss how our careers evolved in our recovery to eventually becoming our own bosses. Topics Covered Included: The work ethic we were raised with and our first jobs How alcohol and drugs affected our work through our teens and early 20s The shift from 'job' to 'career' and how alcohol and drugs affected our performance and mindset. Getting sober at work- 'downsizing' our jobs for the sake of our recovery Realizing the 'now' whe...

Dec 28, 202330 minSeason 1Ep. 171

Sober Holidays ft. Jimmy C

Send us a text Steve welcomes Jimmy back to celebrate the holidays by looking back on what the seasons have meant to us throughout our lives into today, as we are celebrating sober! Topics discussed include: Our holidays growing up How our holidays changed with alcohol and drugs What our first holidays were like sober. How our recovery has changed the way we see and feel about holidays 'Tips' for managing the holidays sober And much more! Follow Jimmy @jcorn104 on IG, and follow us @gayapodcast....

Dec 21, 202328 minSeason 1Ep. 170

Enough is Enough ft. Ben

Send us a text Steve welcomes his GSM bestie Ben to share his experience, strength, and hope while celebrating living a queer and sober life today. Topics discussed include: Ben's favorite parts of life today Entering recovery 'young' Struggling with ego Challenging yourself in recovery Learning more about your sexuality in recovery The differences between the first few years Participating in #TranSanta And much more! Listening in December '23? Donate to Transanta - learn more here: https://www....

Dec 14, 202332 minSeason 1Ep. 169

Sex in Recovery ft. Jason R #168

Send us a text Steve welcomes Jason back to reflect on how our sex lives and the ways we look at sex have evolved in our recovery. Topics discussed include: Catching up with Jason How did sex, drugs, and alcohol affect one another in our addiction What was sex like in early recovery What sex is like for us today The power of communication with sex Putting aside shame And much more! Follow Jason @rudabega82 on IG, and follow us too @gayapodcast. Head over to the Patreon page to hear what is basic...

Dec 07, 202326 minSeason 1Ep. 168

Stinking Thinking ft. Mark

Send us a text Steve welcomes Mark back to celebrate 18 years of recovery while chatting about overcoming negative thoughts and actions many of us refer to as 'stinking thinking!' Topics discussed include: Mark's favorite parts of being queer and sober right now. Best ways to handle life's challenges What happens to our thinking when we aren't doing 'the work' Mark's E-Bay and Steve's Amazon bad habits Acting out sexually, in person or online How to self-correct when you find yourself off course...

Nov 30, 202328 minSeason 1Ep. 167

Not a Glum Lot ft. Cintia

Send us a text Steve welcomes Cintia to share her experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community. Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast Find Cintia on Instagram @cintia0129 and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast. If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at [email protected] ...

Nov 23, 202320 minSeason 1Ep. 166

Gratitude ft. Savanna

Send us a text Steve welcomes back Savanna to discuss finding gratitude in all things while living life queer and sober. Follow Savanna @savannadanna on IG and @lucci_mamas on Tik-Tok, and follow us while you are at it @gayapodcast. Head on over to the Patreon page to hear Savanna and Steve talk about Sexuality in sobriety! Support the show...

Nov 16, 202322 minSeason 1Ep. 165

Higher Power Stuff ft. Kristen

Send us a text Steve welcomes back Kristen to discuss navigating their relationship with their Higher Power through their step work and in their lives today. Topics discussed include: Grasping a Higher Power as queer individuals Our experiences going through the first few steps Living in the 11th Step Explaining Higher Power 'stuff' to people not in recovery And much more! Follow us online at @gayapodcast. Head over to the Patreon page to hear Kristen and Steve spin the Topic Wheel! Support the ...

Nov 09, 202323 minSeason 1Ep. 164

Managing Your Career in Sobriety ft. Elsa #163

Send us a text Steve welcomes back Elsa to discuss navigating your career in recovery, along with our favorite parts of being queer and sober today! Topics discussed include: What it was like for Elsa working in the alcohol industry while getting sober. How career changes can impact your recovery. The formula for having a 'good day' at work. How to cope with having a 'bad day' at work. How do you plan ahead in your life while also living one day at a time? Steve finally breaks his silence on the...

Nov 02, 202321 minSeason 1Ep. 163

The Gift of Desperation ft. Dick G

Send us a text Steve welcomes Dick to share his experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community. Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast Find Dick on Instagram @mercuryrising63 and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast. He is also on Facebook as Dick Gunstone (from Canada) and you'll catch him in the Gay & Sober Men's Facebook Group! If you are intere...

Oct 26, 202326 minSeason 1Ep. 162

Sober Superhero ft. Thomas

Send us a text Steve welcomes Thomas to share his experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community and how Gay and Sober changed his life. Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast Find Thomas on Instagram @thomas_andreww and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast. He is also on Facebook as Thomas Gronert. If you are listening on release week and near Florida...

Oct 19, 202347 minSeason 1Ep. 161

Sober Gay Sunday ft. Dave #160

Send us a text Steve welcomes back one of his most popular guests, Dave, to discuss embracing and creating a sober community. Topics covered include: Connecting with a sober queer community, in real life or virtual. Creating events and a community, whether you are near a big city or the middle of nowhere. How Sober Gay Sunday started and became one of Boston's hottest social groups. How Sober Gay Sunday turned into a podcast, and how podcast has affected both of our recovery journeys. And much m...

Oct 12, 202320 minSeason 1Ep. 160

Don't Take Yourself So Seriously ft. Jimmy A #159

Send us a text Steve welcomes Jimmy to share his experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community. Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast Find Jimmy on Instagram @himynameisrecovery and @ sobrietykween (and @jimmyarmstrongrealestate) and us while you are at it @gAyApodcast. You can also check out his podcast, Hi, My Name is Recovery, wherever you find us! If y...

Oct 05, 202321 minSeason 1Ep. 159

You Won't Always Feel Like This ft. Roger

Send us a text Steve welcomes Roger to share his experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community. Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast Find Roger on Facebook at Roger Harrison and follow us on Facebook and Instagram while you are at it @gAyApodcast. You can also check out his website, https://waystosobriety.com/ If you are interested in sharing your story, ...

Sep 28, 202324 minSeason 1Ep. 158

I Didn't Listen ft. Jeff

Send us a text Steve welcomes Jeff to share his experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober and paying it forward to the queer and sober community. Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for an extended uncut version of Jeff's interview! Find us on Instagram @gAyApodcast. If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at [email protected] Support the show...

Sep 21, 202327 minSeason 1Ep. 157

90 Days Sober ft. Mrs. Chan-Charley

Send us a text Steve welcomes Mrs. Chan-Charley to share her experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community. Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast Find Mrs. Chan-Charley on Instagram @black_ellen1 and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast. If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me a...

Sep 14, 202317 minSeason 1Ep. 156

Sobriety and Recovery ft. Danielle #155

Send us a text Steve welcomes back Danielle to discuss the differences between sobriety and recovery, and our journey through both in the queer community. Topics Discussed Include: Catching up with Danielle since our last episode Defining sobriety and our experiences being sober before starting our recovery journeys. Defining recovery and how that changed not just our sobriety, but our entire lives. Discussing how twelve step work worked for us, as well as other tools we use in our recovery. And...

Sep 07, 202327 minSeason 1Ep. 155

Smashed, Not Wasted ft. Sam T

Send us a text Steve welcomes Sam to share his experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community. Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast Find Sam on Instagram @samthomas8186 and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast. He is also on Instagram @sam_thomas86 If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please ...

Aug 31, 202324 minSeason 1Ep. 154

Acceptance is the Answer ft. Joshua

Send us a text Steve welcomes Joshua to share his experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober. Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast Find Joshua on all the socials @joshuaatone and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gm...

Aug 24, 202321 minSeason 1Ep. 153

Deeper Dating ft. Ken Page

Send us a text Steve welcomes Ken Page to share his experiences with Deeper Dating and the struggles queer and sober individuals face when it comes to finding love. Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show where Ken and I discuss Sex and Dating, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast Check out all the information on Ken at https://www.deeperdating.com/ Find Ken Page on all the socials @deeper.dating and follow us while you are at it @gAy...

Aug 17, 202330 minSeason 1Ep. 152

Negativity Be Gone! ft. Bruce W. Brackett

Send us a text Steve welcomes Bruce W Brackett to share his experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober. Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast Find Bruce on all the socials @bwb.positivity and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at ga...

Aug 10, 202334 minSeason 1Ep. 151

Celebrating 150 Episodes ft. Steve B

Send us a text Kristen interviews Steve as he reflects back on his first two years of recovery across 150 episodes of this podcast and what living queer and sober means to him today. Topics touched on include: Why reflect and be my own guest now? My journey through addiction and into recovery. How the podcast and my own recovery have both evolved. Learning there's more than one way to stay sober. How being 'fucked and insane' is a good thing once you accept it. The peace of bringing serenity to ...

Aug 03, 202323 minSeason 1Ep. 150

Celebrating Sober ft. Savanna

Send us a text Steve welcomes back one of his sober besties, Savanna, to discuss learning to celebrate sober. Topics covered include: What celebrating looks like for us before recovery. How we got through our first year or so of celebrating firsts. What celebrating looks like to us today. Tips for celebrating and finding happiness in recovery And much more! Check out our Patreon page for our Post-Show, now featuring video and the Topic Wheel and follow us wherever you are listening to get new ep...

Jul 27, 202329 minSeason 1Ep. 149

Overcoming Obstacles ft. Joey B

Send us a text Steve welcomes back Joey B from Rainbow Hill Recovery to discuss Overcoming Obstacles, as well as all the new exciting work he's been up to since our first episode. (He was on Episode 15 if you want to go back and check it out first!) Obstacles we discuss overcoming include: Learning to accept and love our sexuality Letting go of resents related to sexual abuse Coping with social anxiety Putting ourselves in dangerous situations Working with your partner/spouse And more, including...

Jul 20, 202323 minSeason 1Ep. 148

Triple Threat ft. James T. Lane

Send us a text Steve welcomes James T. Lane to share his experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober. James is currently starring in a one-man autobiographical show - which he wrote - at THEATRE ROW called Triple Threat which chronicles (among other things) his struggle with addiction and journey towards sobriety. In his share he will touch on the 'triple threat' he's faced and overcomes daily being a "Black gay addict", and how there is a way through ...

Jul 13, 202322 minSeason 1Ep. 147

Light of a Clear Blue Morning ft. Shane

Send us a text Steve welcomes Shane to share his experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober. Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast Find Shane on all the socials @uncleshanerocks and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@...

Jul 06, 202340 minSeason 1Ep. 146

...Don't be an Ass Hat ft. Kole

Send us a text Steve welcomes Kole to share his experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober. Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast Find Kole on all the socials @koletaylor57 and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail...

Jun 22, 202318 minSeason 1Ep. 145
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