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From Long Distance to Marriage

From Long Distance to Marriagewww.longdistancetomarriage.com
Hosts Aindrea and Rich were in a long distance relationship separated by over 5,000 miles, from Arizona to London. They closed the distance and are fast approaching a decade of marriage, having experienced many ups, downs and challenges along the way. From Long Distance to Marriage exists for all types of relationships, and covers topics often not discussed. The podcast covers date ideas for couples who can be together physically and those who can't, the difficulties in relationships and how to overcome them, and the vital role of communication. And much, much more. This is a podcast where listeners can get involved. Aindrea and Rich read every email and social interaction they receive, giving their insight on every step of a relationship that followers want to know about - from long distance to marriage.

Episodes

122: E122: Anxiety about closing the distance

Listen - it's a big deal, and if you don't get at least a little worried about closing the distance, you're in the minority. In this episode, Rich & Aindrea address a listener email about their worries and concerns about moving from the US to Denmark to close the distance with their boyfriend.

Jun 13, 202137 minEp. 122

121: E121: When your partner throws a curveball...

We all think we know our partners and what our life with them is going to look like, at least to an extent. But what happens when your partner throws a curveball and makes a big announcement you never thought you'd hear? Maybe they're gay. Maybe they've decided the don't actually want kids or they want to change religion. Perhaps they want to drop everything and pursue a degree in a niche field that they can only do on a remote island in Indonesia. These things can shake your relationship to the...

Jun 06, 202138 minEp. 121

120: E120: Being a considerate long distance partner

Anyone going into an LDR needs to understand that certain things will be expected of them. Each long distance couple will need to agree on how much they expect to communicate with each other and see each other, and at the end of the day, being a considerate long distance partner means holding up your end of the bargain. In this episode, Aindrea & Rich dive into what that means.

May 23, 202126 minEp. 120

119: E119: The Power of PDA

Relationships change over time and eventually, that constant need to have your hands all over one another begins to fade a bit. While that's normal, couples should make an effort to continue affection for the fun of it. In this episode, Rich & Aindrea talk about the power of (tasteful!) PDA, and the importance of continuing to be affectionate - just because - behind closed doors, as well.

May 09, 202124 minEp. 119

118: Ep118: Why your controlling behaviour is ruining your relationship

We all want certain areas of control in our lives - that's natural - and healthy to an extent! Having control over our health, welfare, finances and careers is something we should all strive towards. But what happens when our controlling behaviour starts to leak into other areas of our lives - specifically our relationships? The answer is that it can cause big problems and permanent damage if we're not careful. This week, Aindrea & Rich discuss what this controlling behaviour can look like, ...

May 02, 202142 minEp. 118

117: E117: What about men?

Off the back of a Tweet that Rich found addressing the emotional needs of men, in this episode, hosts Aindrea & Rich dive into the topic and ask: what about men? In a society that encourages toxic masculinity and then vilifies the very same thing, how and when are the emotional needs of men being ignored and not met? Is this issue at the root of the problem, and what can we do to address it?

Apr 18, 20211 hr 1 minEp. 117

116: E116: Prioritising your relationship during the pandemic

Couples, long distance or not, have all been affected by the pandemic. Our routines, habits and the things we enjoy doing together have all been turned upside down. So how do couples overcome this and still find ways to connect? Aindrea and Rich weigh in on the topic in this episode.

Apr 11, 202123 minEp. 116

115: E115: Couples who workout together...

... stay together. Or at least, Aindrea & Rich have certainly found that it adds value to their relationship. Whether working towards a common goal or challenge, or physically doing the same workouts together, dig into how facing fitness together can also make a positive difference in your own relationship - long distance or not.

Mar 21, 202138 minEp. 115

114: E114: Making an effort in your relationship

It's something we hear joked about a lot in pop culture - people "giving up" or "not making the effort" when it comes to themselves or their relationship. But these things are very real and they can affect our relationships in very real ways. At the end of the day, it never hurts to make a big more effort - even if you're already doing really well in your relationship. We can all offer a bit more. In this episode, Rich & Aindrea discuss how these issues can manifest and how to address them....

Mar 14, 202133 minEp. 114

113: E113: Supporting your interests as a couple

It's important that couples have things they can enjoy together, but it's also important for each person to have their own hobbies and pursuits. What's even better is supporting your partner to enjoy those hobbies, when you're involved and when you're not. Tune in for more.

Mar 07, 202122 minEp. 113

112: E112: Communication with exes: how much is too much?

It can be a tricky topic - but there should be some boundaries when it comes to talking to exes - especially when you're in a new relationship. In this episode, Rich & Aindrea address the situation and follow up on a listener's question around being uncomfortable with how much is partner is talking to their ex. How much communication is too much? Does it mean something unfaithful is going on? Are you allowed to feel uncomfortable? Tune in for all this and more.

Feb 28, 202126 minEp. 112

111: E111: Dealing with parents who object to your LDR - Listener request

In this episode, based on a listener request, Rich & Aindrea dive into the difficulties around telling your parents about an LDR, how to handle it, how not to handle it, and how to salvage the situation if it has gone badly, while addressing issues specific to the listener's situation and other common issues that can arise from telling parents.

Feb 07, 202151 minEp. 111

110: E110: Trauma in relationships, with Esty Rappaport and Orit Krug

This week, Rich and Aindrea welcome back two very special returning guests who specialise in trauma therapy from different approaches. You might remember Orit, from episode 89 , and Esty from episode 91 . Join in for an incredibly interesting conversation with two trauma experts who specialise in helping women and couples get past their trauma to help improve their relationships. Find Esty here and get a free mini session: @LifePixRelationships For a FREE mini session: LifePixRelationships.as.me...

Jan 31, 202149 minEp. 110

109: E109: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships: Putting each other down

It’s easy to bring other people down, but it’s one of the worst things you can do within your relationship. This week, Aindrea & Rich continue to examine inappropriate behaviours in relationships, and the focus is bringing your partner down - either to their face, or talking badly about them behind their back. Listen as they dive in to all the ways this can be done and the long-term damage it can bring upon your relationship. Discover why you should be talking and lifting your partner up - w...

Jan 24, 202133 minEp. 109

108: E108: Closing the distance during the coronavirus pandemic, with Tarley

If ever there was a better story to give long distance couple's hope right now, it's Tarley. Listen as Rich & Aindrea have a conversation with LDR survivor Tarley, who managed to move from Australia to London during the coronavirus pandemic to finally be with her boyfriend, Bradley. Tarley shares her experiences, advice as well as the realities and challenges of closing the distance at a time like this.

Jan 17, 202141 minEp. 108

107: E107: Is constant communication bad for relationships?

We live in a world were it's easy, and expected, to be constantly contactable. This often results in almost constant communication in relationships - especially for long distance couples who don't have any other way to spend time together and feel they need to compensate. But what effect can this have on your relationship and why should you prioritise time spent NOT talking to your partner? Find out in this episode where Rich and Aindrea discuss the topic at length.

Jan 10, 202148 minEp. 107

106: E106: Fresh starts for your relationship

Happy New Year! Rich and Aindrea are back for their first episode of 2021, and this week the focus is goals and fresh starts for your relationship. From sharing some details on their individual goals and goals as a couple, this episode is all about fresh starts. Maybe you want to take on a challenge as a couple this year, or maybe it's time to lay some issues within your relationship to rest. Either way, there's tons of inspiration and guidance in this episode.

Jan 03, 202132 minEp. 106

105: E105: Anxiety in long distance relationships

LDR is hard. It makes everything about your relationship more complicated, and for some it can even bring up serious anxiety. In this episode, Aindrea & Rich discuss symtpoms, how to talk about it, and how to deal with it in a productive way so that your relationship flourishes rather than suffers.

Dec 20, 202044 minEp. 105

104: E104: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships - Your Family VS Your Partner

Many of us struggle when it comes to balancing our family and our partner's needs. But when you're in a committed relationship, it's vital that your partner is your first priority. Easier said than done, but how can you balance that? In this episode, Rich and Aindrea discuss the damages than prioritising your family's opinions and needs over your partner's can have on your relationship, why it's an inappropriate behaviour, and how to stop it.

Dec 13, 202041 minEp. 104

103: E103: Getting engaged before closing the distance

Closing the distance is a big deal, especially if that distance is significant. Based on a listener request, this episode sees Rich & Aindrea diving into how to broach the topic of whether or not you should get engaged before closing the distance, what to consider, and why it may or may not be necessary.

Dec 06, 202030 minEp. 103

102: E102: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships - Unrealistic Expectations

Expecting too much of your partner, or having out of this world, unrealistic expectations within your relationship can cause real problems, and a world of hurt. In this episode, Rich and Aindrea discuss what constitutes as unrealistic expectations and the effects that they can have on your relationship.

Nov 29, 202030 minEp. 102

101: E101: Making the holidays special during Coronavirus

The holidays will likely look different for most of this year, with coronavirus still making social gatherings and travel problematic. Long distance couples are still facing extra challenges, so Rich and Aindrea have brought out their best tips and advice for making the holidays special, even if you’re separated from your partner this year due to COVID-19.

Nov 22, 202033 minEp. 101

100: E100: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships - Manipulation

Continuing their series focusing on behaviours in relationships that are (or can be) inappropriate, Rich and Aindrea look at manipulation this week. Manipulation can be on the big or small scale, and comes in many different shapes and sizes. Listen as Aindrea and Rich share an example of manipulation from their own marriage and how eliminating that behaviour has improved their relationship. Other methods of manipulation and its indications and possible outcomes are also covered.

Nov 15, 202033 minEp. 100

99: E99: How to handle differences of opinion in your relationship

In light of recent world events like elections, protests and pandemics, sometimes it's helpful to know how to manage a situation in which you and your partner might have a difference of opinion on the big things. This translates into life choices, religious beliefs and so much more. Listen to this week's episode as Rich and Aindrea unpack how to respectfully handle differences of opinion in relationships.

Nov 08, 202041 minEp. 99

98: E98: Rough patches in your relationship

Every couple hits a rough patch now and again. Sometimes you can’t seem to have a simple conversation without bickering, sometimes your individual rhythms are completely out of sync, and sometimes life brings you obstacles that set you down a difficult path. But is a rough patch always something to be overly concerned about? How can you make steps to get back on track as a couple. Join Rich and Aindrea as they discuss these points and more.

Oct 25, 202025 minEp. 98

97: E97: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships - Spending Habits

This week, Aindrea & Rich continue their series focusing on inappropriate behaviours in relationships and discuss spending habits. How can financial issues, spending habits, and ignoring monetary goals and agreements within your relationship be inappropriate? How can you work together for a common goal and support one another, forgiving the occasional financial slip up? Listen now to find out. Related Episodes: Episode 27, Money Management for Couples Episode 88, Aligning Your Future Goals...

Oct 18, 202033 minEp. 97

96: E96: Ziv and Shachar of the Generous Marriage podcast

Aindrea and Rich are joined by Ziv and Shachar, hosts of the Generous Marriage podcast . Ziv and Shachar are both successful business owners, and educate men on how they can be more successful both in business and in their relationships. In this episode, they explain how men can be more present in their relationships, why that's important, and the similarities between relationships and businesses. They also have a 21-day blueprint to accelerate your results in boosting intimacy and improving you...

Oct 11, 202037 minEp. 96

95: E95: Knowing when to close the distance

Closing the distance in your LDR can and should be an exciting time. But that’s not to say that there aren’t big conversations to have or that you won’t have some concerns and doubts. It’s a big commitment, so how do you know if it’s worth it for one of you to make the big move? This week, Rich & Aindrea talk through the preparations you should make and the issues you should discuss with your partner to help make the decision. You might want to also listen to episode 36, on when to call it q...

Oct 04, 202033 minEp. 95

94: E94: Inappropriate Behaviours in Relationships - Flirting

This week, Rich & Aindrea continue their ongoing series of things that are, or could be, considered inappropriate behaviour in a relationship. The topic of the day is flirting. What actually is flirting? What defines inappropriate flirting and perhaps harmless flirting? Is it sometimes ok, and how do couples potentially look at this differently? All this and more is covered in episode 94.

Sep 27, 202039 minEp. 94

93: E93: Relationships with In-laws

This week, Rich and Aindrea are discussing a topic that many couples have to face at some point during their relationship - getting along with the in-laws. Every family dynamic is different, but it’s not uncommon for there to be some struggles when it comes to having a good and comfortable relationship with your partner’s parents. The severity of these struggles can vary greatly, and Aindrea and Rich take a look at what these problems can look like and how to address them.

Sep 20, 202041 minEp. 93