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Can I ask a question. What's the worst gift you ever got from a boyfriend?
Lipstick?
Oh? That's the worst.
It was.
It was my birthday and he bought me this lipstick. What was the brand? It's from Mecca, really good lipstick. Pretty sure, I still got it. It's Shanta Cala, Shanta Kai, Shanta Kai. All he bought was a lipstick.
Oh that's the worst gift.
Yes, at least chop out like one hundred.
And fifty how many years it been?
Yeah a hear Yeah, okay, so you know what hit me because three months earlier at Christmas, I'm getting a veritable buffet of gifts, like four gifts.
Oh so he kind of like he blew his load with that when he was like, oh, we got it.
However, I will say we'd go to Bali two months before and he did pay for that. But like, why turn the tap off on the third gift giving?
Yeah, this is what I'm saying. You have to start as you intend to finish, So you can't, like I said, give it your best shot and then start, you know. But this is also The tricky thing about gift giving because are you in the camp of people who are like it needs to be like almost like a surprise, or do you want to say, oh, I.
Don't want to fugle you surprise, I shill always crack it at Christmas? Or my mum would like branch out and get me one surprise would make me so mad that I wanted to punch a wall. Why because I love my mum. But if it wasn't right, you know, I want to like.
It's not right, it's not right, and now I gotta be a preacher. Do you feel that. I feel that because I see every now and then I do this thing where I'm like, I can be different, you know, Like at the start of October, I was like, I'm gonna be a passive princess. I'm not gonna I'm just gonna like let things happen. No, try that for a seven days. It was torturous. I remember with one of my boyfriends. I was like, you know, I'm gonna try like letting you decide what you want to get me,
you know, like I trust you. Yeah, I don't know what I was thinking because I knew what I wanted, but I was like, Max, I wanna say, you can get it. I just moved house. Naturally annually I do it, and he I want to get you a practical gift. I was like, okay, cool, okay, so what's that? This guy got me a microwave number one. I don't even eat left a microwave. He got me like this chrome cast thing. I don't want to watch anything on a TV. Dude like all this, Like, he got me like a blender.
I'm like, shut up, honestly, I'm drowning under the confusion. And he was so stoked. He's like She's like, He's like and he was going He's like, no, you're gonna this is why because like the blenders, Like I know you like Smoothie by Boost. I make Boost.
There's a big different son.
And then from there, I'm like cracking the whip. At all times. I'm like, do not ever deviate you want to you want to get me a gift, here's a list.
Let's bring back brattism. Be spoilt little brat. Did you ever do that beauty test? You should do it. You did choke me before. Literally, anyway, we're giving up. We're giving away too much Flecks, just this wave of an idiot. I had a big ass breeder for a madmex about one. Let's stop in there, Let's get as I said, I want to say this one TikTok. Imagine the food that you've eaten then being inside of your stomach fucked up. Oh, abolish it anyway, whatever, let's.
Go Fleck and Frooms.
Unfortunately, I have some bad news for you. Starting off on a somber note, Frooms did leave her mug in the work bathroom. It is unfortunately a breach of our comfort and our trust. Why are the sanitary hygienic work mugs in the unsanitary work bathroom? Through Mini please advice.
Look, I did have a keep cup today, so I went and took a mug from the kitchen and out got a coffee at the coffee shop. Finish it, obviously, finished the coffee, run straight to the bathroom. Ye use the coffee cup in the bathroom, every intention to take it out and put in the kitchen.
Oh so you've done your bit for the environment, but not for your fellow men. I understand.
Yeah, the felat man not got to be around, so I might as well piss you off. Now, flixie, I want to tell you about what happens when you die, which seems like clu.
I can tell you what happens.
Okay, let me tell you what it's about to go down. This is a TikTok.
This new study made be excited to die. Researchers were able to study what happens when you die by going to five hundred and sixty seven patients who were having cardiac arrests and while they were being resuscitated, studying.
Their brain, not asking them questions.
They could see that people trying to resuscitate them they were aware that they were dying, but they also felt this pull towards a place that felt like home in their brains. They found that the neurons no longer had the same inhibition they did when someone was not quote unquote dying, So their brain started firing in all these
really intense ways. They didn't really have their lives flash before their eyes, but they had this really strong sense of moral judgment of their life, going through every aspect of their life and almost seeing if what they had done had followed proper ethics and moral values. This is a fascinating study that makes you realize you need to be a good person because right before you die, you're going to be assessing whether or not you were a
good person. But also that the experience of dying is going to be very out of body and you know, honestly croaking my pickle.
Yeah, I disagree with that one. So like, let's say you are about to die, and then you start measuring your life against a moral and ethical code. Hello, keyword, you're about to die. Live it up, live it up, live it out. That's not the time to be judging yourself. Get off it. This is it narcissistic?
No, we need some self positive informations as you day. Yeah. Also, we always talk about this, what is what are morals?
What are morals? Does this name?
We shouldn't have morals full stop?
I think we need a couple just to get by. But I also feel like the emphasis should be living fully. So even if there's some look back on, you can say with certainty, you know it's a bit red hot in a few of those years, but I lived, true, lived well.
It makes me think it's like, if you're gonna die anyway, who cares if you go through the roller deecks. It's kind of like when people go, oh, I'm wearing good undies in case you get hit by a bus and die.
Yeah, and you die, base, that's it, Flex and frooms.
I've just had a sip from my coke no sugar. I'm more of a diet coke girl. The coke no sugar tastes like a regular coke but with no sugar, whereas the diet coke has a softer, lighter flavor profile.
I'm all about a regular coke. The last thing I want is any kind of diet sugar free whatever. Whatever I'm gonna do it, Let's crank it. Give me the stixy tablespoons of sugar. Who gets raised my veins?
Flex, I've got a This is kind of like an am I the asshole, but it's more like a relationship advice issue. It is from a woman who writes, is it a bad idea to get my boyfriend a dog?
Oh?
Hard the dome?
Yeah, let's have a look.
Absolutely.
Hi, I twenty three year old female, have been with my boyfriend twenty four year old male for four years. Who this year, he's mentioned multiple times that he wishes he had a puppy, specifically a chiuaba. He's one of yours mucking and that he would love to have something to hang out with and take care of.
I feel that something is not specific enough for me.
However, I know that he won't actually take the steps to get one, because he tends to need to be pushed a little in order to make big decisions or changes himself. My baby prints. So I found out that a couple in my neighborhood have some newborn chihuahuas that they're going to be selling at the end of November. I decided that I'm going to surprise my boyfriend with a chihuahua as a Christmas present. I went over there and told a couple I was interested. I even picked
out which dog I'd be buying. I mentioned this to my friend and she insists that surprising someone with an animal is a really bad idea. I thought it would be nice and thoughtful, and now she has me second guessing that what does everyone else think? Too long, don't read I want to surprise my boyfriend with a puppy is a Christmas present? Trying to determine whether or not this is a recipe for disaster.
There's a distinction between a push and making the decision for him. You know what I'm saying. You know, one is one is saying, hey, there are some chuahas for sale, what do you reckon? And if he said, oh yeah, I really want to get one, they said, okay, cool, I'll book an appointment. That's a push. But getting a
non consensual pet for someone is so hectic. I have just come to terms very recently that I really don't like people who buy pets as successories, because I know I would be that person and it's not a good thing. Like my decision making for wanting to get a pet, I don't have one, by the way, is well, which
breed do I want to get? And I want to get a cute one and one that has this kind of coloring, you know, for coloring, And before you know it, you're not thinking I gotta be with this thing for fifteen years.
Now buying a house one hundred percent.
I did that on a whim. Two But but I wasn't hurting anyone in that process, you know what I mean, Like I was atually building something stable for my own future. This random dog that I'm going to pick because it looks cute, and then decide that I have the capacity to look after it. I don't like that at all.
In this instance as well, I was talking to someone the other day or maybe like a month ago, now who his The reason why him and his girlfriend broke up is because she bought an impulsive pet called him up one day they lived together and said, hey, like, I just was at the shops. I saw this really cute pet. I'm like, I got it, like it's dunt dog. I should have clarified that sounds odd. I saw a really cute pet, saw a really cute dog. And he was like, okay, like I made shops. Yeah, even that's
where I draw the one. He's like, yeah, maybe not. She's like I already got it, like it's already confirmed, Like I'm picking it up. I'm taking it home now, but I need to go out letter, so can you look after it? They come home, they have this huge fight because she cannot understand where he's coming from. You just gon't buy pets randomly. Naturally. She does not look after it. She does not train it, feed it, walk it, none of it. They break up. Obviously he's still has the pet.
I mean maybe he's growing to love the pet.
Oh, they like obsessed, like it's great it's a happy ending, but it could have been an unhappy ending.
Well, I've been in this position perform. When me and my sister were kids, her friend bought her a cat whoa like a kitten. Of course, it's very presumptuous. You sister loved it. Of course, my friends are kind of like, this is crazy.
It's the whole responsibility you sign me up for.
So the friend bought my sister the cat. And then the friend's younger sister came over to hang out at our house, and I had a canary called tweety What does a little girl do? The little girl crabs tweety no out of my cage and puts it in front of the cag and the cat.
You were in the room with a whole sociopath.
The cat bit my canary's head off. So then obviously I had to get another canary.
What was it called tweety tweety too? Yeah, of course tweety too.
Naturally, imine that playing with a little sick honestly, but I don't really care for pets, so I wasn't that sad. No, I'm kidding, Rope, She's not kidding.
I'm not kidding. She's one that is terrifying. I hate that story. Don't get your boyfriend the chihuahua as sweet as you think. It might be the one thing I know about people who are in relationships, they break up.
Yeah they do? Do they do?
And you know the worst thing about a breakup is you're stuck with those memories and that trauma, and he's gonna be stuck with the physical embodiment of your failed relationship. Not that you're breaking up, no god, no, no, no no no, but you could.
Leave that little body thing in the cage. Please, thanks truly, This is flex and frooms for me.
Has only had, you know, two career paths in her life. One was selling window tint and the second being a media personality. I have had a bajillion, bajillion jobs career paths. The whole thing started at McDonald's, as you do. How many years, I don't know. I did three months. Yeah, I don't think I did very long.
You were definitely the one with the headset on bar.
No no, no, no no. I was in the drive through, and then I was front cashier, and then it was just a lot like it was very high stress, and I just went there to hunt with my friends because we all got jobs. There wasn't I wasn't serious. Worked at Diva, the jewelry store. Rip, you are such a dance, such a d guy. Worked at Some Last Heart did a bunch of things right, But there was a point in time. I worked at Bets Shoes and Zoo Shoes, right, and Zoo Shoes was a footwear store for men and women.
Very cool, very cool.
I worked at the Bondai one. So if you know, you know, and so generally when we do I my best friend there Sully shout out, that's what we meant. The store was split in two men's shoes on one side, women' shoes on the other. And then often what would happen when two people were working, you'd separate and you kind of tackle one or the other generally, right, and then you kind of developed your habit of knowing who to sell to. And I just always selling to men. I
felt like it was an easy sale. It is what it is, internalized misogyny much, No, not at all. It's just like in that was like a play joke. Babes, you're a comedian. They got a lamb better?
Why am I?
Why are.
Something is gone?
All right? So The reason why I'm bringing this up is because the other day I was on my Love Island show. I've got a text with Josh and flex. Josh, my co host, complimented my shoes, my Balantiaca crocs the greatest right now, other ones. But I was wearing my slip on crocs and then I said, He's like, well, what size are you? And then I was like, oh, I'm a men's eight and a half nine. And I was like, what size are you? Am you going to say you're an eleven? And he was like, oh yeah,
I am like I'm like an eleven. I'm like, yeah, okay, because all men are size elevens. He's like, what are you talking about. I'm like, in my experience, the majority of men who walked into this shoe store, you'd say, hey, what size are you? They'd be like, I don't know either one, I don't know. I gotta ask my girlfriend, I got to ask my mom. Those were the answers. And if it wasn't those three, the fourth are size
eleven twelve. Okay, so you've got liars, liars, liars liars, So naturally I'm talking to Josh and I say, okay, cool, let me try on your shoes. I'll bet I'll fit them. Betty, you try my shoes? What does he do? He swoops, he's went to the Plantager Croc Perfect fit, perfect fit. He said he was a size eleven. So he's like, whoa he' said these seem a little big. They seem a little big. Maybe your feet are big at no faith, No, no, no,
I'm a size eight and a half. Nine men, you're also a size eight and a half, he said, he's here eleven. I don't want to hear it. So back in the shoe store, though, every time, pull out of size eleven and we get a ten down just in case. Not climbate that latter twice for this guy who's a lie. So you give me eleven. Oh, these seem like they made kind of big. Did you want to size down? I'm usually an eleven. Oh okay, these ones seem to be made big. Maybe try it. Maybe try the ten.
Do you have a half size ten and a half? No we don't. You just get to get the ten, bring out the ten, put it on. Yeah, these seem huge. These seem really really big. I mean, do you want to try the size down? It just seems like a weird making model. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Majority of the time these men were size eighth and size nines, and there's no shame in it. You're just not all built like a size eleven. It's like, how there are no guys who are five to eleven. It's a fake hut.
It is a fake hut. What is with all this dysmorphia? Guys?
Do you know what? I can't even throw shade because I've been going through my own battle with dysmalphia shout out. So in my head, I'm a tall person, I swear to you. In my head, I'm five ten, maybe even five eleven, And it only dawned to me in the last six months or so because I'm always wearing a high ponytail and a platform.
Yes always.
The platform is giving three inches maybe four. The pony is giving an extra one or two. I'm walking around five ten, five eleven looking at fellow five ten to being like, where this is us? We're in it together.
It's not your community, bit, it's not.
Because I stand next to someone who I perceived to be short and they're.
Towering over meus me.
It's cooked. So I'm working through it. You'll notice today I'm not doing the high pony because I'm practicing what it's like to show up as myself. Obviously wearing the three inches because don't be ridiculous, they're.
Bigger than three inches. You've got these massive black blints.
No, I don't know. I don't know.
That's at least five inches.
Anyway, So to me and the men lying about our heights and shoe size, this is what it is. No shade, just in confessions.
Get closer to your real self.
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The other day, I bumped my knuckle on the corner of my bathroom mirror cabinet. It sort of nicked a bit of skin, It didn't bleed. Didn't think much of it. Why is it raised? Why is there a bump, and why does it still hurt?
Let me tell you why. That was actually a figment of your imagination that occurrence. But what really happened was while you're asleep, Edwin Colin came in and had a little nibbling on your finger. Just get a little taste. See if you're rolling with that, Oh blood type.
I think I am, oh blood time really yeah, I just knew.
Ready, listen to this. That's Edward Clin cracking open a can of your blood. Girl.
That's really romantic. Thank you so much for sharing number two. Four years, I've been plagued with moving into apartments with bad tasting tap water. Every time I expressed this concern, people gas like me. They don't say, let me come over and try the tap water. They say, no, no, no, no, you must be picky, or only people who don't drink water enough don't know what water should taste, like Laddy daddy dada out. No I've tasted at all. What I've done is every time someone comes over, I make them
taste the tapwater. And what do they say? Oh, my goodness, so true, your pipes might be too fresh. Then I start doing some googlings, and I was like, yeah, there is like a bit of that taste. It's like you know when you get a new aluminium lined bottle, it has that taste. You know, it's probably what's happening in your apartment. And the good tasting water is from you know, I don't want to say it, but decrepit taps, really, I think. So that's the only correlation. You move somewhere fresh,
you get the fresh pipes. You're getting all the chemicals and the things that we used to like make the pipe, and the residue of the aluminium and the metal. It's actually terrifying because now bottle water Warrior, it's not sexy.
What I do want to say is I just thought of it. When you have a Tapo home that you're drinking from and you turn the tap on, is the water is just chilling there in the pipe until you turn it on.
No, it's not getting pushed up. I mean, I know I've seen my water pipes in the garage, so that they're coming through a bunch of different tubes. But by the time they get to mine, they're going through old tubes into my newtubes, picking up the newtube residue. And I think, I know you want to ask, like, what does it taste like. I can tell you exactly what
it tastes like. First, thing's gritty. It tastes gritty, and like there's a sensation that feels as though there's sediment or dust or dirt that's sitting at the bottom of something. And by the time it gets up, it's picking up a bit with it picking up a bit, with it, picking up a bit with It also tastes as if I was in my bear grills era. I'm like doing some off you know, off path, rough terrain hiking. I've stopped by a local lake to get a bit of
water because I've run out of my own. I've scooped a bit of that water where the pebbles are, not in the pit, but where the pebbles are you get a little bit of something. That's what it tastes like.
Why are always people having the water from the pebble bit rather than the stream.
I'm not sure. Because the pebble bit is where it's just been sitting stagnant. I feel like you'd want it from the stream.
Also, it's where the rain comes down. Well, I will say, I'm having the opposite problem. My building's probably built in the nineteen forties. The water is cloudy, cloudy, apple, bro. It's not looking good.
It's not looking good, bro.
So what I suggest you do is it a soda stream. It's good for the impire.
I have one, but then I need to use the tap water to use a soda stream. So someone said ihould use a brit of But it wasn't American who told me that, And I just felt like, no comment, no comment.
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For a moment they're getting DMS was not fun. But you guys have been really really poping off recently. Got one the other day, it says, and I quote, Hey, Flex, you said once that if people don't DM you after following you, you think they're a bot. I don't remember saying that, but I stand by it. So after several months, I want to prove that I'm not. Recently, in your podcast, I heard you teasing Rooms for not knowing how to close, and I can't bullying.
You can say what it was harassment in the workplace.
In the workplace, HR is not present, this person says, and I can't either either. I never know which one it is either. So if it's not too forward to suggest it would be fun to hear you guys chat about it someday and maybe you could share some tips of the train. Also, no, that's a private message, love for me your fellow aries.
So our woman in the DMS wants to know how do I close in a relationship in a sexual way with a prospective partner.
I think we can broaden it out. Closing is just getting to your desired outcome. Okay, right, So that could be a text back, that could be a date, that could be a root, that could be marriage, could be children. Though I tease you for not knowing how to close, I'll have you know that Frumi does in fact have game. I'm going to put it out on record. I'm going to manifest into Frumy's life. Frumy has a ton of game.
If you saw her roster, okay, if you saw her past conquests, you would know the jokings in jests, the teasings and jests. It's a bit of a gag.
Okay, don't jinx it.
What do you mean jinx it?
Say that I've done well in the past.
So you want to humble your game because I can do it?
Okay? Yeah, no, I've had enough.
Any tips for how to close?
Okay, tips on how to close? Think about this like a business meeting. Never under sell yourself, never explain too much. So when you're texting somebody, you don't go, oh, and I did this on the weekend. I did that on the weekend. And let's strip it back. Why are they texting you? Do they want to go for a route?
Probably?
Yes, let's keep it simple. Wait, okay, number two. I don't want to say play it cool.
You've already lost me. But it's good. We have different approaches.
Please, Okay, let me think about it. I meet someone at the club, I think they're really cute. Maybe the reason why I'm not closing is I have a self confidence issue. You know, this comes up time and time again. Sometimes you just need to go on the date. So we have to do put yourself out there and just say. The worst that can happen is you don't take the shot and you don't get anything. So just put it
that way. Also, I heard Chantelle Ott and the sex Ologist once say that you should approach dating like it's like fun, like think of the story. And I think if you're thinking of your life as a story, which is quite a narcissistic main character energy approach, which I back, just think of the story. So just try and approach someone, try and close it.
Let's stop you there.
I didn't really answer the question.
Yeah, yeah, let's stop you there. Okay, this is how you close. A Comprehensive guide by Lillian Flexmami A. Hankm So what you want to do is you need to know your role in life, know what role you play, and play that position accordingly. So for me, I try not to give dating advice people who are not feral and also Turbo. It's never gonna work because as you start is as you have to maintain, is as you
have to finish. Right, there's nothing worse than someone coming in all hot and then realizing they're insecure, or they're not hot, or they don't have the confidence to keep it up. It sends mixed signals. So if you are in ares, I did clock that, so i'mna say you're a fellow Turbo number one. You always have to make sure you're creating a comfortable environment for the preferred outcome. Everybody loves flirty, they love fun, they love a safe
place to land. If you aren't creating fun, flirty, safe place to land, you're never gonna close, all right, So you need to be making sure that everybody comfortable, everyone feels safe to share. It's amazing. From there, I need eye contact, prolonged, I need full sentences, no mumbling. I need direct, direct everything. That's part one. Part two of closing is plausible deniability. Everything you do you need to have the potential to shake it off if it doesn't
land all right. So if you say, oh, my goodness, you're so cute and they're like, I have a girlfriend, you're like, oh, can I compliment a friend? You can't compliment people this that's phase two. Once you know there's mutual thirst, you take a page out of Flex's book and you say the most direct thing you can think of. I think you're cute, and I think you want to take me on a date? Am I wrong? Intogestion that and they say, oh my goodness, ha ha ha, I
love that. Your so forward ha. Then you're on a date and you fall in love. Works every time. Don't do it if you're not trying to secure someone though, Otherwise you become the love bomber that I was in my past.
No more of that. I think we need to put this into a video and go tick one, two, three as your tips, and then we'll go.
No, don't do that. Don't do that.
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