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Tell Me when it's okay to end a relationship over text. I've had a lot of complex thoughts about this one because for some reason not for some reason, dating and conversation is always relevant. But what we're seeing and hearing more of than usual is almost like the demise of relationships. We rarely hear positive relationship content. We got engaged and when we love and it's a fairy tale and it's amazing. It's like we are experiencing the worst situations ever. Let's
talk about it, and so we will. Vice recently published an article trying to discern when it's okay and when it's not okay, and I don't think it's binary, but I feel like there would be scenarios where it's more appropriate than not. My main point of it is that texting is so vital when starting and maintaining a relationship, Like a lot of relationships can only function or can only grow consistent intimacy because of texting. So to end a relationship with one, it seems like it would make sense,
that would be fair and reasonable. However, it's not really the case. And I'm not sure why. For example, a lot of people measure the success of their relationship by how frequently someone's texting them. Like, we recognize it's an important medium of communication. We put a lot of value on that medium. Yet when it comes to breaking up and ending the relationship that's not working, we're like, it's
not valuable enough. Suddenly we need words odd. The article is titled is it ever okay to call off a relationship over message? They've crowdsourced and this is what we found out. If you've hit boyfriend girlfriend status, then no. Generally no, but it depends on the circumstances and the length of the relationship. Do no, it's not show a little backbone and at the very least call the person general rule of thumb, everyone deserves at least a phone call.
And then there's a minority that argue that it's totally in your own rights to end it. However suits you, you have complete control over the notification. And then there are some people who are like, Okay, there are exceptions to the rules, So let's talk about those exceptions. Number One, if it's just a fling, so if you've seen them for less than two months, or less than three months, or it's just casual a situationship, then you're well within
your rights to end it via texts. Somebody also says if there's been manipulation at play, So if you feel as though it's kind of like an abusive situation, a manipulative situation, a physically abusive situation, just get out there
by any means necessary. People have also mentioned that if you just struggle with inneral life communication and you feel as though you can't get your words out and you need to you process better when you're typing, or you need time to sit with an emotion, it's fair to just do it in a way that suits you. Also, if you're a bit concerned that someone's going to misinterpret what you're saying and how you're saying it, then just
get it in writing and have the paper trail. And then the last person said, if you feel as though time wasting has happened, like they're wasting your time, you're wasting their time, don't wait till the next day in eighteen days to break it off. Just do it now, get it over quickly. What do you feel about breakup text?
For me, I would say phone call is important I think, yeah, if you've entered boyfriend girlfriend territory, definitely give them like a little bit of a heads up if things aren't right. But it's in person conversation. I think the common social norm is that it should be in person, so in order for them to not demonize you as annoying it assease like you probably should do it in person because
it's easier for optic. Because I actually think it's worse getting dumped in person or dumping someone in person, like it's just horrible, horrible stuff. However, I would say you should text them and say, hey, we got to talk. I'm not feeling things. I want to talk to you on the phone, but if you need a little bit of time, like I want to do this, how you want to do it? Beautiful because if you give a phone call like, hey, are you going like listen listen and buddy listen, who's impropriate?
What do you think? FLEXI Yeah, I like the warning text because I feel as though a lot of people think they're they're like brolic enough to handle the unsolicited pick up the phone or organize a date. Hey, just like let's hang out, and then you spring open a spring on a breakup. I definitely feel like texting is not a medium that we should look at poorly. We just need to figure out how to text better. Yeah, yeah, text text like you talk. It's a really good habit
to get into. Yeah, Freeman is really good at that, great at it. Pity you can't get into the freebie files.
Oh yeah, unfortunately every master class at one point.
Yeah, but who's going to take the master class with no evidence? But she's really good.
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