On Flex and Frooms Flex and Frooms. This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast. It is Flex and Frooms on CATA. I've been having so many thoughts these days, and you know how I am with the thoughts. I don't want to share them because, as Frooms has observed, I'm more sensitive with age. Yep. But I was thinking to myself, if we want to be better friends and have better friendships, we and I'm talking everybody within the gender binary and outside, need to be better at addressing
our internalized misogyny. Ooh, she said it, and I'm saying it again because the basis of a lot of female friendships and how they're observed is this like safe, a safe space to share, to honor, to accept, to empower and to do all of these things. But we fam to the type of doing in a bubble and not doing it where it counts, doing when the stakes are so low. You know, I'm going to empower you at the girl's lunch on the weekend, but I'm not going to empow in the office when I know you're being
taken advantage of. And I'm not going to empower you, you know, in your relationships when I know that you're degrading yourself for someone else's attention. Women who experience internalized misogyny may express it through minimizing the value of women,
mistrusting women, or believing a gender bias in favor of men. Yes, right, And so I came across the story of girls talking about her boyfriend used to drive her to work, drive her car around all day, do whatever he wanted to pick her up from work, but then make her feel out the tank right, And she was talking about how she felt as though it was an active service because
he was driving her around. But then when she had raised the fact like I can't keep forking out hundred of dollars a week in petrol, he was like, but why why, Like you know, you're being selfish and she couldn't advocate for herself, And then talked about how she lost a bunch of friendships because their friends were calling it out and saying, hey, babe, like this is not appropriate conduct, and she's like, you don't know my man, like you know my man La Da Lah lost a
bunch of friendships, the guy cheated on her breakup. Whatever. What was worse than the store was the comments so many other women being like, oh my god, I went through a similar thing of this whole like this guy taking my resources or putting me in a position where I felt mistrust well of my friends give me advice on how I wasn't being treated fairly, etceterattce. It's not
unusual for women, especially we're not all people. Let's just talk about being women to hold their friends to impossible standards and hold the men around them to these minis skill standards, or to make excuses for the men around them, or if we don't even sent to men into this conversation, to not appreciate, to not empower, to not platform the women in their lives like they would the men, to not go the distance or go the journey with the women in their lives that they would with the deadbeats
that are on the fringe. And it's a very dangerous thing because I feel like how we treat the women around them as a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. Yes, if you view women as inherently mistrustful or not as skill or not as capable, you have to check it because it's a very scary thing to see when it creeps up on you and you're like, oh, damn oh, I'm one of them. I'm doing that thing that I thought I was above. And it's not about not being
above it. It's about just clocking it in a way and clocking in your friends as well, in a way that makes you safe enough to share and do better. The solution you either need to hold the other people in your life to higher standards as high as you do your peers and your friends, or give your friends a break. That's on that miss you already your Flexing Frooms babe, you've been listening to the Flexing Frooms Daily podcast. For more, Tune Indicator on DAB or stream it on iHeartRadio.