Flex and Frooms, Flex and Frims. This is the Flex and Frooms catch up podcast. You're back with Flex and Frooms and FLEXI a bit of a personal question. Yeah, have you ever been in love with a friend? Yeah? How does it feel?
Well, it's one of those situations where you don't intend to be friends and you end up friends and you're like, mmm, hold on, I think I may.
Be in the friend zone. Here is a little story that i'd like your advice on. Great. I went out with my best friend on the weekend and he confessed that he's in love with me and has been for the past five years. He said he knows it's probably not reciprocal, but had to tell me. I brushed it off and told him that I would just end up hurting him, and continued with a night.
Is that brushing it off? I would break your hair?
I mean, it's in theme. He wants to hang out again this weekend, but I feel awkward about it. Now? What should I do to help make it less awkward?
Is that assuming that she's not keen? Yeah, she's not keen. Yeah. I mean, look, I'll have a think about it, because I think from his perspective, I can understand wanting to just get off your chest and being like it's probably not reciprocal, but I don't need to deal with this on my own because I think what's happening is that he's shouldering the burden of it on his own and
it should be shared. Because if he had told her from like day dot one year in, it would have been like, Okay, cool, we can't be friends, we can't be lovers.
Let's just get it.
But he's chosen to like shoulder the burden on his own for no clear reason, because she could be keen.
I think that it's so hard are you to cry? I really feel for this guy. Look, I gather that they had been consuming out whole the time, which I think makes you, I don't want to say horny, but it definitely elevates feelings, if you know what what I mean. Like if you're a bit drunk and you're just decide or it's time for me to tell this person like he couldn't be that in love with you if it's been.
Five years now, I disagree.
Has this person been in a relationship, Well.
Hasn't the person he's telling been in a relationship for five years?
We need to check with the brook. So the girl has just gotten out of the relationship, but the guy hasn't been in.
One exactly, so he was biding his time. Oh do you know what I think? Also remember those debates on the internet can girls and girls it would truly be friends? And I was like, oh, my God, of course. And then I realized that with most of my guy friends, I would date them. I find all of my friends attractive. Why don't you then, well, because it's been like it's
been decided, we just aren't dating. It's like semantics at the point, there are very few of my guy friends where I wouldn't allow myself to see the possibility of something because I've picked you well, I like you as a person. I think you've got great qualities. I think you're attractive. I could definitely do some like subtle mind Judiam be like, let me just give it a sec let it simmer. But I will say I commend him, because what is that saying? Is it better to speak
or die? Sometimes it's just better to like get things off your chest rather than like take them with you, because at the very least you've cleared your you've cleared space for something fresh. You know what could have been like killing him is anticipating that the weight would have been worth it. At this point, he could have waited forever,
ten years, twenty years. The intensity of his feelings were growing and growing and growing with time and him misinterpreting all the time they spend together because he's in love with her and she has no idea. I think it's for the best.
Is it better to speak or die?
And I'm learning it's better to speak, But sometimes speaking feels like dying, That's.
What I'm thinking. Yeah, well, rip to this guy. It does feel real for him.
It is real on both of both ends. And we challenge the girl to hold space in her heart for him, to let him down easy, because this is how people turn into quote unquote nice guys. He's going to use this story as this villain origin. Well, I was in love with every here, didn't want me back.
And last thing they say, never be reckless with people's hearts and never put up with people who are reckless with yours. You've been listening to The Flex and Froom's daily podcast. For more, tune Inticater on DAB or stream it on iHeartRadio.