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I love that yet Yeat Bix my new favorite breakfast.
There's something there.
Oh God, I love to say it.
I haven't had a Wheat Bix since I was a child, and I've been really craving milky things like I want to get back into crunchy not and wheat bigs, but I just don't think it will agree with me.
I can't have chok tops anymore.
Why Because I mentioned to you earlier that I'm trying to improve my mind body mind muscle connection, which means listening to my body's feeling after everything. So, as you know, sally best friend, Sally lactose intolerant in denial, as we all kind of are with that kind of thing. But she started taking lack teas. I was like, I don't know that, mild with it. Went to the cinema, had a chok Top, guts bustard spawn.
I could not believe it. I didn't even enjoy it that way.
Did you go to the toilet?
Yeah?
It was.
It was like dead fall and.
I was squirming in the seat and from there I was like, nah, it's not for me.
I don't want to say this, but as you're speaking, my gut, he's making the most crazy noise curdling. I gotta go, so let's get this show on the road.
Let's go.
We haven't even done our podcast intros through anyway. Coming up, we're talking to our alleged residence psychic astrologer Aunte has just started with is it the commercial.
Team the Caya Family.
Rooms?
Our resident cult leader shout out some people were a family, which is very sickening to do. But Auntie apparently has this uncanny ability to guess someone's star sign off the dome, so he's gonna guess ours.
Fremy does have.
Some suspicions about whether he just googled this information, which is completely likely impossible, and even if he did, I love shared delusion because what is shared delusion but just a truth?
Yes, I agree with all of the above. Let's get to it. Not me just playing on my line. They're really going to go flex and frooms. So I have a love line for you. It's basically where someone sends in their relationship dilemma, we answer it by not answering it. So here's one. The title is is it a deal breakout that I've had sex with all of my present close female friends. Initial thoughts, live your lacking, go off
my virile prints. Here's what he said. I currently have four close female friends whom I have slept with at least at at least one point in the past. What's the past. We're going to go through them.
Great.
The first one was a classmate whom I've known for more than a decade. She didn't marry until recently, so when she was single, we used to go on staycations when we were feeling a little bit stressed and have sex. Families actually pretty close. Second, she didn't marry. Phrasing on this one. Second one is a friend who everyone thinks is a lesbian, but when she singles, she wants sex with the guy. We did it maybe just twice. Third phrase it like that, so unnecessary, but you know it twice.
And third is a neighbor whom I have known for maybe four years. Ever since the first one got married, this friend has been my go to travel buddy. We go on trips maybe twice a year. And the fourth is a coworker. We tried to date briefly but it didn't work, so we just stay as friends. Anyway, even if they're in a relationship, or if I'm in one, we still talk often, maybe once a week. We would meet up maybe every other month for lunch or coffee somewhere.
So they're besties, right him, These four girlfriends nothing sexual whenever any of us are in a relationship. I brought this up with my girlfriend because I always get conflicting opinions. Some say I should bring this up with my future dates because it would be unfair for her to be all chummy with them, not knowing that I slept with them. On the other hand, some say it shouldn't be spoken about it because it's in the past, and because the other the rest of them, like most of them, are
in longtime relationships anyway, so it doesn't matter. I don't know if this also matters, but they're all decent looking, educated and pretty well.
Off hotties that I would like to continue to occasionally. But he wants to know if he should be disclosing this information to people that he starts to see in future.
What do you think for a MENI don't ask, stump.
I reckon if the chance of the new girlfriend finding out from someone else is quite high, then I would mention it, like, for example, if he doesn't tell her, but she's likely going to find out, like at a party a few months into them dating, and it's going to shock her. I'd rather if I was in her position, I'd rather him tell me straight up, rather him say, you know what, all of my for best friends were rooted.
I don't think it's can I don't think it's necessary to know until it's necessary to know. Otherwise it sounds like a subtle flex just so you know they're hot, and I could if I wouldn't have.
I think that's a bit odd.
But I also feel like telling a date, so what is it I think that's unnecessary to do. The degrees of separation between people have rooted before. That's weird.
Well, but what if they're all hanging out?
Still don't think it's necessary until it's necessary.
See I thought that, But I've been in this situation where hanging out with a partner's friends and they're acting a bit sus.
Well, that's when it's necessary to know.
Didn't know exactly, but I feel like if you had to preface every interpersonal relationship with the context of we slept together, what if.
It's not relevant they're just adding.
And also we have to remember this is a guy speaking from his perspective of the relationships he's had with these women. Who knows if these women would ever go there again? Like maybe it was a pity route, you.
Know, maybe I don't know, like I went there and now I'm not into it. It would never happen again.
I just feel like he's complicating his relationship with these other friends because maybe it's not just friendly, you know what I'm saying. Maybe he knows that he would rather be with any of those four and they're unavailable, so he's had to look elsewhere.
I reckon, That's how it sounds. He seems a little bit too invested.
Yeah, now there's a dark over his head where he's like, I've got to hang out with these rodents because the people I want aren't available.
Oh, we've all been there. Let's send him on his way with a song. This is one of my personal favorites by the by Skills that's called.
Tell Me. That's a really really well hold on, hold on.
If you want to be.
My lover, you gotta get with my four well.
Educated, well educated, hot and eligible friends that I would probably but I won't.
I like him. Shout out to that mystery caller. It can stay flex and firms.
We have a very special segment. We are not alone in the studio. We do have a poltergeist in our mits, but we also have a real human man his Aunte.
Hello.
Hello, So Auntie is a member of the cad family. It is a family.
No, don't do it.
No one of those small business underpaid over resource.
We're a family. Don't ask, don't take that annually.
No, Ante is part of the Kita.
Auntie's an employee.
I mean what it is.
And you're new, aren't you?
I am Yes. I started last week on Monday, So first week done in the camp stunning.
Well.
I knew that you were coming because I used to work with one of my besties, Eliza. She had lots of good things to say about you. Well, that's good, like he's just really cool. He's really nice, so really like gets the brands. He's really cool. It was a glowing reference. It was very excited to meet you. And on the weekend she was over at my house and she told me that you have a very special skill. Ane apparently can tell people's star signs. Tell us a bit more about your skill.
It's a bit of a weird one. I kind of like picked it up over a couple of years of just feeling out people's auras, like when you meet them, you know, you get like a certain energy or a feel.
It's my kind of guy. Yes, my kind of guy.
Okay vibes, And I just kind of like had a little bit of background like researching me like, oh what star sign is? Like what? And then all of a sudden I was just like sometimes I could just pick it straight away and then it would work out to be correct.
So do you do like the star sign, the moon sign, the rising or just doing like.
A star sign like general star sign right now? I mean I would like to get into the moon. That'd be could you imagine for expansion? There you go, that's the next level. I see colors, Oh you literally.
See the person?
Yeah?
Yeah, do you see any of else? Yeah? This is like a red.
Orange because there's an orange light in the studio. This is like a legit thing, and it would be like blue like aquamarine. Maybe.
Wow, that could be related to my star sign as well.
Do you want to give it a red hot go?
What I kind of start with is like filling out people's energy. So obviously color was yours like a bit more orange, you red, So I'm thinking like ferocity, but also very very stable, just kind of like the way you're sitting, very like strong posture. You've been doing anything lately to kind of work on your posture?
Weights and pilarates.
Pilarates okay cool? Yeah, pilates all right.
I feel that there's my history.
I feel like you would be into like arcane topics, like things like maybe like conspiracy vibes my.
Thing at all, No, exactly exactly, the skill works.
The skill works, So maybe my aunt has just been in the logs like Wright as a character profile.
Were we were not in communication on the spot, I would say Aries definitely, okay cool.
If you said anything else, I would be very surprised, really, because I think you would need to know me to understand there's anything under the surface of just being an Aries.
Sweet you are aries es? Yeah? And anti yeah April Aries though?
Are you sure?
Yeah?
Yeah, I think so because my sister was April Aries and she's April ninth.
Yeah.
I feel like you've got a little bit of that there.
What would what about me doesn't feel like a March.
Aries March two borderline Pisces. So it's a little bit more watery, but you're fighting, right, Okay, yes.
All right, so Anti's I am and April Aries, you read it all. There was not one thing you said that was off.
That's amazing. Are you not more amazed?
Yeah?
But as soon as Ante said spiritually vibes, I'm like, okay, I trust him.
Okay. So the aquamarine blue feeling like you're very in tuned emotionally, like your eyes give off like how can I connect to someone emotionally first? So kind of in the right park Yep.
That's crazy And I never noticed until.
That video and I was like, you know, I can't see it.
I see it.
Crazy beautiful. Yeah, you know.
So I'm thinking, like a lot of water around you. So who's tough. I'm going to go out Pisces.
Yes am?
I right? So you are? That's right. I would have thought was an Aquarius.
Yeah, I thought that, But I think it's because you remind me a little bit of me. So I'm like, yeah, a little bit like Pisces. And I just had like a guess. I was like, I'm just going to go for it. Thank you, very colorful.
What month? Uh?
Oh, that's a good one. You remind me and my dad so much.
I don't trust.
How do you got a whole family? So stress?
Are you serious?
Once again?
Hm? Hm? So serious?
What did it say? Repeat?
So the polter geist is in here?
So it was like, I'm sorry, please repeat.
That, repeat it please, gentle she's chilly?
So your dad is also a Pisces in March.
Yes, he's a March too?
What am I? Can you mind?
I reckon?
It's like fifth maybe no fourth.
Th yep, let him have it?
Okay, wow, okay, now we're gonna guess you ant's Pisces?
But which month?
M severy February twenty seven?
Whoa?
Who have you been talking to you like you're one day off? That's very good, guess says.
Wow, he's just a vibe in the room. He fe witchy today. Auntie has a very textbook pisces man vibes?
Really, what's that?
You got to know it to know it? If have you not met a Piscy's man who was just like you?
Uh no, not really.
No, you gotta I feel like here's textbook pisces man number one, very calm, inviting, disposition and aura.
Always feel listened to by pisces man, but emphasis on feel listen to.
My king, Thank you, humble king, thank you.
Two favorite pieces in one's face.
This is flex and frooms.
Have you ever worked in an office? Miss forms multiple times? What'd you do?
I worked a pedestrian?
Oh yeah, my, does that count?
But I'm asking because I'm sure that you, and like most people, despite whether you work in a office or a different workplace, have dealt with being micromanaged. And I've experienced it on both ends as someone who has experienced micromanaging, and then my first foreward into being a manager and not understanding how to manage effectively because I was micromanaged.
So I remember I worked in PR and like that was the worst, because I remember our boss used to make us do like some lord of the flies, like would invite us into have one on ones, but wouldn't ask us about ourselves, would make would ask us about other employees. So for example, I would have one one with her and she likes her house rooms going.
You know how shay that is.
And so because everybody does those meetings and knows what happened, you developed this sense of mistrust between everybody in the office.
It was cooked. Very smart of her to do, but super cooked.
Anyway, I came across this article about this woman who won a lawsuit after being micromanager, and I said, I.
Wish I knew legal literacy back in the days, because that could have been us.
How did she do it?
Listen to this say no more.
An Australian woman has been awarded two point eight million dollars after it was deemed that she'd been micromanaged and bullied by her boss. A racing club in New South Wales was ordered to make the major payout after a long time manager was subjected to an overbearing micromanagement style. The federal court found the workplace was negligent in preventing the woman from experiencing psychiatric harm, and that the CEO had breached the company's contract by withholding her benefits and
denying her bonus. The court also found that the CEO had bullied the manager by singling her out, micromanaging her tasks, distracting her from work with relentless emails, and denying her benefits that were offered to other employees. The woman, who'd been working for the club since nineteen ninety one started having the issues when the new CEO came on board in twenty sixteen. It was at this point the new CEO felt the manager was being paid too much and
the harassment began. Manager was denied annual leave, long service leave, and commission payments, but after numerous complaints, the manager left the business in twenty nineteen, and the court awarded the manager of the payout in December twenty twenty one.
Good on her, incredible.
I can't think of any other outcome that is more deserving than that. One ask for three millions, yes, take it. But also what I think is really interesting is that how many people read that article and relate to the treatment that they also receive in their workplaces and was inconfident let's that sewing.
I don't know anyone who works in like a media job that has a boss that isn't micromanaged.
I think it's two sides.
In extreme spectrum, you're either getting micromanaged or not managed at all, like not trained, no resources, can't get a hold of them, no meetings when you need it, no feedback when you need it.
True, but I guess don't know what I'd prefer. Probably the latter me do my side hustle.
I think it depends on how much you get paid. You're paying me seven hundred K. I'll be on my back.
Jump on, I'll strap you when I'll swallowing you.
Let's go.
Go dear.
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Can I tell you about this little something something I read on the internet? It's always something because where else am I reading things?
Anyway?
I haven't read a book that I've been obsessed with in close to a year, and I was averaging maybe two books a week.
What something happened.
Between two books a week?
Babes?
When am I sleeping reading? Rhyme would be like eleven to three am. I'm in the train if I want to read something I'm reading. I don't know why I am surprised by that. I was every day I.
Being like I just finished the book.
Don't care?
Wait you at the time and don't get the time?
Do you?
How how many hours of a week do you? How many hours a day do sleep?
Depends?
Like on a weekday, I might do like a four hour. On a weekend, I'll do a twelve hour. Listen to this Have you heard of fixed law? No?
I see judgment on you.
I don't understand how you sleep before hours. That's like very manic scenes.
Yeah, but I just I really like sleeping. But realistically I'm I am prioritizing my enjoyment. I hate finishing a day feeling like all I did was work or stress. I need to unwind properly. That means I'm cutting into sleep. We're cutting into sleep not afraid to do it. I'm not to live your truth at all.
Literally, Okay, listen to this.
Hix law is a simple idea that says, the more choices you present your users with, the longer it will take them to make a decision. It's common sense, but neglected in the rush to cramp too much functionality into
a site or an application. Now that's obviously about UX and UI and building computers, but I was thinking about that in the context of just being people, and that like every day we fatigue ourselves with all these micro decisions we think we need to make to just live, right, Like do I wear this red shirt or this black shirt?
Do I wear these crocs or these Nike shoes? Who cares?
Because like, either way, even considering having to make a decision is taking too long and is adding is like leaving less time to live and more time to ruminate over things that we don't need to think about anyway, mile of the story. Just do stuff, think less. Okay, do stuff you're thinking, I stop it.
If I could do less, I would just sit here and listen to you and just chill in my chair.
That's it.
But even the action of like doing this show, for example, it's like it should be and feel easy because the more we complicate it, more complicated it will be. The more time you take to make a decision, the more time it will take.
Cut back, get it.
So, just like choose what you can wear, don't think about it? Maybe cool?
Okay, do a Steve Jobs did see how it feels?
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