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Not to be confused with your situation ships, your textuation ships, your relationships. But really, there's been an instance where you know you've been bubbling away with someone, maybe texting, tuning, there's something happening, there's a romantic precedent that's been set for some reason, it does not eventuate. Is this person free game for me? Wow?
I gotta say, there's only so many singles in Sydney.
Eligible singles please sorry.
Correct, correct, And so therefore, if you and your friend, like I think friends tend to be of a similar attractiveness, I believe that I don't know why that is, or at least they're a similar.
Do you know what that is?
Well it made me say one reason social hierarchy say what you will? You therefore have similar interests and probably similar clothes. So as an outsider, let's say I match with a guy and I match with his friend, Well, you're cut from the same cloth. Of course I'm attracted. I will say if there's been some emotional trauma, like if this person has talked to them a lot on the app and they were a bit cut up because like he didn't ask her to go out or vice versa,
then maybe cool you jets. I think in dating something that people learn once they come out of long term relationships, if they're the kind of people that have like cut their friends off. Something that a lot of people say. It's like when people are about to die and they're like, I wish I did X y Z. People that get out of long term relationships say I wish I kept my relationship with my friends. So I would go into this thinking is this going to really hurt my friend's feelings?
Because if so, it's not worth a little route or a little situationship with someone that maybe doesn't even like that much.
I'm inclined to agree. Sometimes we value how high the stakes are based on our interpretation of the dynamic. Oh, they never dated, therefore it's not that deep, it's not that serious, and for a lot of people it is, you know, so I would do it on a case by case basis. Fundamentally, people aren't objects. We cannot own them or DIBs them. The dating playing field of eligible partners is very, you know, scarce, So you get it
where you can. But I will say, of all the people you end up dating or talking to casually, very few ever make it to a full blown reciprocal romantic relationship. And so if you're gambling away a friendship based on the very low odds that you and this person will be together, you're an animal, a sick, sad and a gambler.
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