Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Parent Coach Andy Goldstrom to the podcast. From a career in business, to a journey supporting a child struggling with mental health issues, Andy brings his passion for helping parents find the tools and empowerment they are looking for while navigating a family's journey towards mental health. Go to www.parentsjourneycoaching.net for more on his work and www.oplm.com and www.skysthelimitfund.org for more information on donations.
Dec 12, 2023•41 min
Dr. Reedy talks about principles involved in discovering and setting healthy boundaries. He explains that boundaries are synonymous with - or come out of - self-care. He warns against trying to explain your boundaries and using boundaries to change other people.
Dec 06, 2023•1 hr 4 min
Choosing How to Die (Q&A) - Ep 571
Dec 01, 2023•48 min
Communication and Differentiation - Ep 570 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Nov 29, 2023•1 hr 5 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions on difficult parenting issues. He talks about learning what is inside of our control and how to face life threatening dilemmas with our children. He talks about understanding the boundaries between self and others and unlearning what we learned about love and life as a way towards greater enlightenment.
Nov 17, 2023•56 min
Social Anxiety - Ep 568 by Dr. Brad Reedy
Nov 15, 2023•1 hr 13 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on setting boundaries with our parents when our parents are toxic. He talks about how to motivate others to enter treatment and accepting what is outside of our control.
Nov 02, 2023•1 hr 1 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the shift that occurs when parents turn inward. He talks about how parents can model vulnerability and accountability. He uses communication skills to illustrate that the work of healing is to take responsibility for your own life. He explains that what happened to us as children is not our fault but how dealing with it and healing from it is our responsibility.
Oct 25, 2023•58 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions from the live audience on how to effectively encourage those we love to seek treatment. He explains that resistance is a threat response, and the primary objective is to create safety. He explains how curiosity replaces judgment and he explains how and why a sense of self and boundaries must be at the foundation of anything we do with those we love. He gives the audience an assignment to apologize to the identified patient as a starting point for creating safety.
Oct 20, 2023•57 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the relationship between attachment (secure or anxious) and trauma. He explains that how we relate to our children - focusing on our nervous system regulation, our personal trauma histories, and how well we “see” and provide safety for our children, the more we can minimize the effects of traumatic events. He explains how exposure to a regulated and healed parent can foster resiliency in our children.
Oct 11, 2023•1 hr 2 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He talks about how to create safety while still holding boundaries. He explores how to set boundaries without judgement.
Oct 06, 2023•41 min
Dr. Reedy discuses Evoke’s perspective on Behavioral Contracts. He talks about why they don’t work and now attachment is more important that managing behavior. He talks about how the key is for parents to use such tools to get clear on their boundaries and focus on their own relapse and regression.
Sep 28, 2023•57 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on parental alienation and how much is ideal for the kids know about the other parent’s responsibility for divorce. He talks about the outcome of doing your work: unlearning and becoming a larger person. He explains how boundaries are for self-care and not for changing the child or other person.
Sep 22, 2023•59 min
Dr. Reedy discusses the tasks in building a strong and healthy marriage. The talks about the critical do’s and don’ts in co-parenting.
Sep 20, 2023•1 hr 14 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions on setting boundaries with parents, dealing with a child with Borderline Personality Traits, and helping children resolve difficult feelings.
Sep 13, 2023•58 min
Dr. Reedy talks about the diagnosis of PTSD, C-PTSD and trauma in general. He talks about small and big “T” traumas. He talks about how resiliency is tied to how well a parent sorts out their childhood and how it this is the greatest predictor of the quality of attachment that can mitigate trauma in a child.
Sep 08, 2023•1 hr 4 min
Dr. Reedy talks about a child’s anger and forgiveness in the context of child psychology and a child’s development. He talks about the paradox of letting go of a child’s anger in order to facilitate its release: the greatest way to impede a child’s moving through anger and forgiving is to try to manage or control it.
Sep 01, 2023•58 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from audience members on dating in sobriety, the relationship among guilt/shame/regret/and a humble apology. He talks about the necessity of doing your own work and how not doing it asks your children (and partner) to carry your burden for you.
Aug 30, 2023•45 min
Dr. Reedy discusses accountability. He explains the best way to teach accountability is to model it to our children. He talks about why parents are challenged with modeling this and how guilt blocks our ability to own up to our part in things.
Aug 25, 2023•1 hr 8 min
Dr. Reedy explores the distinctions between and boundary and a consequence. He also talks about showing up with humility and not taking on shame for triggering our children. He talks about the difference between trying to get it right and being yourself.
Aug 23, 2023•1 hr 4 min
Dr. Reedy explores recovery and how it is supported in the wilderness. He explains the underlying principles of psychology embedded in the 12-Steps and talks about how surrender is a necessary starting point for change.
Aug 17, 2023•1 hr 4 min
Dr. Reedy explores the difference between enabling and authentic behavior in parenting. He also talks about letting go vs. trying to control what others feel, think, and do. He explains how guilt and shame must be dealt with on our path towards greater mental health.
Aug 11, 2023•56 min
Dr. Reedy explains attachment theory and how a secure attachment creates resiliency. He reads the children's book, "You Are Special" by Max Lucado to illustrate how a secure attachment is earned and how it helps us to see ourselves as whole and not needing external validation.
Aug 05, 2023•43 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from audience members on parenting older children, medication management, and how family members (older siblings) can support someone while in treatment.
Aug 02, 2023•59 min
Dr. Reedy discusses what makes Evoke’s Coaching program unique. He explores what to look for in a coach or a therapist. He also explores the process of therapy/coaching and how it promotes growth and mental health.
Jul 30, 2023•1 hr 9 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions for the audience on questions of the role of medication, nature vs. nurture, epigenetics, and when is a boundary a boundary or when is it manipulation.
Jul 26, 2023•40 min
Dr. Reedy travels back in time to present a parent seminar he would present for parents visiting their children for the first time in months. From 1996 to 2010, Dr. Reedy would teach this meeting focusing on letting go, communication styles and assertive communication, and the Cycle of Wholeness (as a basic model for therapy). He provides this updated version to share the information and his current perspective on the skills presented.
Jul 21, 2023•1 hr 16 min
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience and discusses the challenges and the support needed when parenting children who struggle with mental health issues and addiction. He talks about how diagnoses help therapists understand the style of the person's defenses, but that the real task is to find the individual story that explains the symptoms.
Jul 19, 2023•1 hr 1 min
Dr. Reedy discusses transitions and how they expose our ways of emotional maturity or lack of it; how we can be inclined to regress into old, comfortable ways of dealing with stress. He talks about going home from wilderness and moving on to another program. He explains how family work is best done when we focus on our work rather than how the child or others are doing.
Jul 14, 2023•1 hr 27 min
Dr. Reedy takes questions on various topics from the live audience. He talks about how to respond when children regress or relapse into old behaviors. He talks about not trying to control how the child feels and how letting them feel helps them to move through and let go of emotions.
Jul 12, 2023•1 hr 1 min
