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Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

Dr. Brad Reedyfindingyouprograms.com
Finding You Therapy Programs is an experientially based therapeutic program serving individuals, parents, couples, and families. Email the host [email protected]

Episodes

What Is Wilderness Therapy and How Does It Work? - Ep 483

Dr. Brad Reedy talks about wilderness therapy and how it can be effective for struggling children and young adults--and their families. He covers how being in a therapeutic setting in the wilderness forces a digital detox, fosters grit and mindfulness, allows clients to play again, all while exposing them to positive mentoring and experiential therapy. Wilderness therapy is especially effective with resistant adolescents and allows kids to build self-esteem through tangible accomplishments. It r...

Aug 11, 20221 hr 5 min

The "Dents" We Make in our Children (Q&A) - Ep 482

In a live Q&A parents asked questions about a child with a potentially devastating mental health diagnosis, the basics of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and how it might help, what to do when you are overwhelmed by guilt about the ways you have "dented" your children, and one parent reached out expressing fear and loneliness because her son's involvement in gangs has left her feeling like she has no parental peers in the treatment world.

Aug 09, 20221 hr 3 min

Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: Reflecting on the work of James Hollis - Ep 481

Dr. Brad Reedy, recently back from vacation, speaks of lessons learned during his time off, through the lens of the works of Dr. James Hollis, a Jungian psychoanalyst. One of Dr. Reedy's opening quotes from Hollis's book The Middle Passage, perfectly previews this talk: "But such is the first [half of] adulthood: full of blunders, shyness, inhibitions, mistaken assumptions, and always, the silent rolling of the tapes of childhood. If one had not set forth and made those mistakes and crashed into...

Aug 04, 20221 hr 10 min

Guest Host Travis Slagle on The Myth of Being Good - Ep 479

Evoke Intensives Clinical Director, Travis Slagle talks about the myth of being good, and how our need to be "good," bred into us from the earliest parts of our lives, can destroy our agency and authenticity. "It's better to be a Self, than to be 'good.'"

Jul 27, 202254 min

An Interview with Casie Fariello - Ep 478

Dr. Brad Reedy talks with Casie Fariello, co-founder of Other Parents Like Me, a subscription-based online platform designed to support young people with mental health and substance abuse challenges.

Jul 18, 202228 min

Become Selfish Like the Buddha (Q&A) - Ep 476

Dr. Reedy takes questions from a live audience. He discusses how to hold boundaries and develop greater capacity for those we love. He explains how the foundation of compassion develops as we take care of ourselves and do what some might consider selfish.

Jun 30, 202253 min

Book Review: No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, PhD. with a Forward by Alanis Morrissette - Ep 475

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the book No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz, PhD. He covers Schwartz's writings on the parts of the self, the eight C's of Internal Family Systems, and other concepts elucidated in the book. Reedy ends with key takeaways from the work that overlap with Evoke's philosophy. Find out more at www.evoketherapy.com

Jun 24, 202255 min

Influencing vs Controlling Our Kids' Behavior (Q&A) - Ep 474

Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about what to do when you discover your child might be into dangerous pastimes or behaviors, how to feel and contain your anger so you can then be a safe container for your child's feelings, and how to best support your child while they are in wilderness. He also addresses a parent who will be taking in a Ukrainian refugee, the value of somatic experiencing, and family visits to the wilderness, among others.

Jun 22, 202259 min

Parental Trauma: Share Your Stories - Ep 473

Dr. Brad Reedy did a short discussion of parental trauma, including how to think about it and some key take aways for handling it. He then invited parents to share their tough stories, to show everyone that they are never alone in their trials. Parents opened up about dilemmas that felt terrifying and unsolvable. They shared about overdoses, run aways, relapses, and seemingly intractable behavioral problems. The goal in this episode was not to troubleshoot and help parents solve their problems, ...

Jun 16, 20221 hr 3 min

An Interview with Noel Koons - Ep 472

Dr. Reedy welcomes Evoke Intensives therapist Noel Koons to the broadcast. Noel covers topics that ranger from Taoism to mindfulness to Fining Nemo as he explains how he helps clients move through difficult and painful emotions to find themselves and heal.

Jun 12, 20221 hr 10 min

Is It Compassion or Is It Guilt? (Q&A) - Ep 471

Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about compassion vs. enabling, guilt, the nature of addiction, and co-dependency. He also talks about what to do when your therapist may not be the right fit, how much to share with your children about your own personal growth journey, and whether/what to tell a child's potential new school about their time in the wilderness.

Jun 10, 202259 min

The Evoke Clinical Vision - Ep 470

Dr. Brad Reedy explains the Evoke Clinical Vision. He explains the Cycle of Health and Wholeness, what Experiential Therapy is, what Attachment Theory is, and why we base our care on it. He then walks through some memorable quotes that have important ways of thinking behind them. He finishes with the Three Keys and explains the Shame Cycle.

Jun 08, 20221 hr 5 min

What is "The Work?" (Q&A) - Ep 469

Dr. Brad Reedy answers questions about what he means when he refers to "the work," how to handle it when the work feels too hard, and what to do when your co-parent is not doing their work. He also answers questions about when one's child is ready to leave wilderness, whether and how Evoke supports spirituality/religion and its practice for its students, along with several other questions.

Jun 01, 202258 min

Let's Talk About Sex - Ep 468

In this podcast, Dr. Brad Reedy talks about sex as it relates to parenting teens and young adults. He covers topics such as consent, promiscuity/sexual "acting out," sexual double standards for boys and girls, and how to walk the line between privacy and safety for a child who is under 18. He also makes the case that parents' attitudes/shame/hang ups about sex will have an impact on how their children feel about sex, how they talk about it, and how safe they feel opening up about it.

May 25, 20221 hr 1 min

Why Wilderness? Why Therapy? (Q&A) - Ep 467

Dr. Brad Reedy took live questions about how therapy can help us, why and how wilderness therapy creates positive change, Evoke wilderness's different phases, and Evoke's parent mentoring program. He also addressed what to do when visiting an adult child with severe OCD, how to think about writing a will when you have a struggling child, and how to manage your own life and health when you have a child with multiple behavioral and mental health issues.

May 19, 20221 hr 2 min

An Interview with Christian Snuffer - Ep 466

Evoke therapist Christian Snuffer joins the podcast and discusses his journey from wilderness therapy to the Evoke Intensive team. Christian discusses his integrative approach, including psychedelic assisted psychotherapy.

May 18, 202229 min

The Masculine and Feminine Energy in Each of Us - Ep 465

Dr. Brad Reedy explains the definitions of masculine and feminine energies and how they differ from the terms "sex" and "gender." He then goes on to discuss the qualities of each and how we are at our best when we accept and cultivate a balance of both within us. He also touches on toxic and healthy masculine and feminine traits.

May 10, 20221 hr 4 min

A Parenting Paradigm Shift (Q&A) - Ep 464

Dr. Brad Reedy took live questions about what happens when a child goes directly home from wilderness, what to do when we wound our children, holding a boundary against marijuana in the home, and how to find the balance between being self-focused and others-focused, among many others.

May 06, 202258 min

Evoke Family Work and Family Walkabouts - Ep 463

Dr. Brad Reedy talks about the importance of parent work, both while their child is away at wilderness/treatment, but also as a routine practice. He shares, "Doing your own work isn’t about 'You caused it, you broke it, you gotta fix it.' Doing your own work is modeling for your child to do *their* work.” In this context he also discusses Family Walkabouts at Evoke, and why they can be a benefit to all.

Apr 28, 202255 min

Toxic Families (Q&A) - Ep 462

Dr. Brad Reedy took your live questions. He addressed toxic families and how to (or not to) live with them, wilderness solos, and the benefits of attending an Evoke Intensive therapeutic retreat. He also discussed the impact of siblings vs parents on family systems and adoption.

Apr 21, 202259 min

Wilderness Solos: A Tool to Find Your Voice - Ep 461

Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the concept of wilderness solos, the practice of Evoke students taking time away from the group and on their own during their stays. He likens the solo to Joseph Campbell's hero's journey, where the circumstances in the hero's life compel them to go deep within themselves, understand who they truly are, and experience life-changing revelations because of that reflection.

Apr 20, 202255 min

When the Work Gets Difficult (Q&A)- Ep 460

Dr. Brad Reedy took live questions about individuation vs. rebellion, what to do when a child doesn't honor your boundaries, and what families can do toward their growth and healing while their child's away at wilderness. He also discusses how to think about the concept of a higher power in recovery groups if you are not religious, and what to do when you are doing your work and growing, but difficult emotions are overwhelming you as you do that healing.

Apr 14, 202252 min

"Contexts" by J.D. Gill (book review, part two)- Ep 459

In this second part of the book review of "Contexts" by J.D. Gill, Dr. Brad Reedy dissects the destructive nature of binary thinking, the importance of safety in healthy attachments, and how rebellion happens and what it signifies.

Apr 05, 20221 hr 1 min

That “Tube” We See Through (Q&A) - Ep 458

Dr. Brad Reedy answers parents’ questions about what to do when their child, who is back from treatment, starts smoking weed again, how to handle defiance, and how to avoid seeing your child or partner in a predetermined “tube.” He also covers questions about author J.D. Gill’s new book "Contexts" and his latest book, "The Audacity to Be You."

Apr 01, 202259 min

An Interview with Justin Baldoni: Connection in the Struggle to Be Human - Ep 457

Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes actor and director, husband, father and human, Justin Baldoni to the podcast. Justin shares about the work that went into writing his book, “Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity.” Justin shares his perspectives on God, life, and family from the perspective of the Baha’i faith. Brad and Justin talk about the growth that can only come from failing and struggling. Justin shares his “why” about doing your own personal work. The special aspect of Justin’s words are how challe...

Mar 30, 202253 min

"Contexts" by J.D. Gill (book review, part one) - Ep 456

In the first of this two-part series, Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the book Contexts, newly released by his therapist and mentor Dr. J.D. Gill. The book dissects the meaning and importance of contexts—familial, societal, and behavioral, among others—when endeavoring to understand one’s Self and Others. This understanding, this “seeing” as Gill might call it, can help turn judgment into compassion, leading to a more authentic and honest way of living.

Mar 24, 20221 hr 8 min

Art, Therapy, and the Unconscious: An Interview with Caitlin Connolly - Ep 455

Dr. Reedy welcomes renown artist Caitlin Connolly to the podcast. Caitlin shares her perspectives on motherhood, activism, feminism, and duality. Caitlin uses her art to give a voice to themes that often lie just beneath the surface of the conscious mind. She shares insight into her accidental journey into feminism and the challenge of dialectics—holding two seemingly opposite ideas at the same time. She talks about exploring all of life, the light and the dark, and how such a pursuit adds depth...

Mar 18, 20221 hr 9 min

The Opposite of Addiction is not Sobriety…It Is Connection (Q&A) - Ep 454

In this Q&A Dr. Brad Reedy discusses how to handle it when your child, who is back from wilderness, starts to smoke pot again. He answers other questions about how not to let the symptoms of your problems distract from the root of your problems, what one parent could do about being triggered when attending the Evoke recommended 12-Step programs, and how to “detach with love.” He also addresses what to you do when it seems like your child is not really doing the work out in the field and how to c...

Mar 17, 20221 hr 2 min

Trying to "Solve" Another's Anxiety (Q&A) - Ep 453

Dr. Brad Reedy took your live and pre-submitted questions. He answered questions about the value of psychiatric evaluations, "rescuing" our children, what happens to a child when one household seems more "stable" than the other, and whether or not there is such thing as "healthy codependency" (there isn't), among many others.

Mar 04, 20221 hr 8 min
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