TW: Grief and SA (see below for more). It’s my (Ali’s) first official solo episode and we’re starting things off with a re-introduction to my background - both for newer listeners and even our OG crowd as I share deeper insights into my childhood/early adulthood & the things that led me to who I am today. We chat friendship wounds, anxious attachment origins, grief, and much more in part one of this two-part series to kick off my solo podcasting journey. Plus, we get into some early days nic...
Mar 10, 2025•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 212
We’re saying goodbye to Erica as a Finding Mr. Height co-host on this week’s episode of the podcast, and it’s definitely an emotional one! After getting the latest Roommate update, Ali interviews Erica using questions from both you the listeners and ones Ali has herself. Topics include: Erica’s highlights and learnings from her journey on the podcast, her favorite (and least favorite) piece of dating advice, what she hopes for her career moving forward, advice she has for Ali on the pod moving f...
Mar 03, 2025•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 211
For Erica’s second to last episode on the pod, we’re doing one of our favorite formats one last time together…Am I The Asshole featuring submissions from Reddit! This week we have: a man wonders if he’s being unreasonable in wanting his girlfriend to loosen up her 50/50 view of household chores, the finances of a long distance relationship causes resentment, and a husband and wife clash over whose responsibility it is to wake themselves up in the morning. In Updates, Erica is still traveling and...
Feb 24, 2025•54 min•Ep. 210
We had so many grab bag questions from you that we’re back to answer more this week! Tune in for our thoughts on: choosing bridesmaids & navigating friends’ feelings about it, texting with someone who canceled a first date, feeling anxious when you haven’t heard from someone you’re dating, admitting romantic feelings for a friend, deciding whether to pay for dating apps, and navigating your partner’s friendship with an ex. In Updates, Erica sees The Roommate twice (!!) before she leaves for ...
Feb 17, 2025•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 209
TW: Mention of verbal abuse & body shaming. We’re joined by an FMH listener this week for a Storytime about his journey through a bad marriage and into the dating journey that followed his divorce. He takes us through all the lessons he’s learned along the way (and some intense stories) as he worked on himself to lead to his current, healthy partnership (and new baby!). In Updates, Erica recaps her long-awaited first date with The Roommate and reflects on how her upcoming travel could impact...
Feb 10, 2025•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 208
This week we are joined by Julie & Yue, cohosts of the amazing Dateable podcast and authors of the new book, ‘How To Be Dateable!’ Julie & Yue have drawn on their deep dating histories to develop the advice in their book (and their podcast). And it turns out our two duos have something in common: we’re both Dreamer/Maverick cohost teams! Ali, Erica, Julie, & Yue dive into how these archetypes have shaped their dating journeys and give advice on how listeners can make their type work ...
Feb 03, 2025•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 207
Ali & Erica are answering your rapid-fire questions in another grab bag episode! Including: filtering out ghosters, dating in other cities besides your own, handling breakups, and managing expectations for a second date. In Updates, Ali is back from her travels and recounts some special & emotional memories from introducing Skyline to her San Diego people. Erica looks forward to the roommate date when she returns to LA. Don’t forget we’d love to meet you live in NYC on Saturday, February...
Jan 27, 2025•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 206
Erica & Ali have a major podcast update at the top of the episode. It’s an emotional one, and we thank you all for being here for it. We then transition to a lighter topic, discussing several Am I The Asshole situations from Reddit. First, a woman disagrees with her mother in law on who should pay for a broken phone. Then, a husband has issues with her sister in law’s new partner (and they how they got together). And lastly, a woman wonders if she went too far when she told her boyfriend he ...
Jan 20, 2025•58 min•Ep. 205
We’ve all been in conflict before, but have you ever thought about how your conflict style affects the outcome? And how that style might shift over time and in various situations? This week, Ali & Erica dive into five conflict styles: Competing, Accommodating, Avoiding, Collaborating, and Compromising. Is any one better than the others? Or are some styles more effective than we might think depending on the scenario? We also dive into our own conflict styles and how we’ve experienced them in ...
Jan 13, 2025•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 204
If you’ve ever wondered what men are thinking as they’re out there dating, Ali & Erica have got your back: this week, we chat with Blaine Anderson, who exclusively coaches men on their dating journey! Blaine gives insight into what her clients struggle with most, what makes them seek out her coaching, how to make it more likely that a man will approach you IRL, and more. Plus, she gives a plug for giving “nice guys” more of a shot - attraction can grow, y’all! In Updates, the gals are fresh ...
Jan 06, 2025•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 203
It’s our last episode of 2024 and we’ve got a roundup of the year coming at you! We polled our audience for your best superlative categories plus added in a few of our own. Tune in as we discuss our best/worst dates (and kisses) of the year, best new movie, pop culture moment, place to meet people IRL…and more! PS apologies for the occasional ticking sound when Erica is talking in the topic section - we had some audio issues that should be resolved now! In Updates, Erica has a bit of a NYE dilem...
Dec 30, 2024•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 202
We’re doing a full episode debating Am I The Asshole submissions from Reddit! Ali & Erica discuss the following scenarios: a couple quarrels over their holiday traditions, a poster questions whether he should have told his friend he doesn’t like her boyfriend, a guy comes back from my vacation to discover that his partner has left his apartment a total mess, and a couple disagrees about whether it’s okay for one of them to attend a rehearsal dinner alone. In Updates, Erica encounters a very ...
Dec 23, 2024•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 201
Ali & Erica welcome an OG of queer dating coaching & matchmaking onto the pod this week - Dr. Frankie Bashan! You may know her from the sexually fluid season of Are You The One? or from her company Little Gay Book Matchmaking. Dr. Frankie tells us about the specific challenges her queer clients face compared to other daters (and what parallels she sees!) along with giving advice on approaching dating IRL and coming into your own at a later age. We can’t wait for you to hear our conversat...
Dec 16, 2024•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 200
Ali & Erica are answering listener questions on the pod this week! But first, we start out with a listener update from a prior Hot Topics episode - remember our distant security guard?? Then, the gals answer 3 new questions. First, what to do if a match’s app profile disappears before your first date? Second, we give advice to a listener who is struggling with getting back onto the apps after a dating hiatus as the only single friend. Lastly, a listener is headed to a wedding where she’ll se...
Dec 09, 2024•55 min•Ep. 199
It’s our first ever public Uncensored episode, featuring Abigail Jensen of the Rat Girls podcast! Abigail was such a popular Patreon Uncensored guest that we had to bring her practical sex and pleasure tips to the main pod. You’ll come away with some amazing tips from this discussion including: navigating mismatched libidos (and why they may not actually be mismatched!), working on initiating sex when it doesn’t feel natural, testing out new things in the bedroom, working through intimacy with b...
Dec 02, 2024•2 hr 36 min•Ep. 198
Ali & Erica are breaking down one of their favorite personality tests this week: Myers Briggs! The episode starts with a break down of Myers Briggs as a concept - each aspect of the types and the limitations. The gals then discuss their own (basically opposite, lol) personality types and how they impact relationships, both romantic and otherwise. Plus: What personality type is Skyline?? In Updates, Erica has an IRL encounter with a potential date while Ali recaps her surprise date night with...
Nov 25, 2024•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 197
It feels like flirting just comes naturally to some people, but is it possible to learn to be a better flirt? Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, says yes! He’s taking us through his best flirting tips this week, all the way from approaching a stranger at a party to keeping the flirt going in a long-term relationship. You’ll come out of the episode with concrete tips designed to get you out there and flirting! In Updates, Erica is back in LA and reflecting on how life has blossomed in her new ...
Nov 18, 2024•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 196
We’ve heard more and more in the dating space about Facebook groups like Are We Dating The Same Guy lately - so we sent a survey out to our listeners asking your thoughts. On this week’s episode, we discuss all sides of these groups, including their original intent, what they’ve become, and how they seem to be impacting our view of dating. In Updates, Erica recounts how dating burnout seems similar across the world and prepares to bring her apps back stateside. Meanwhile, Ali reflects on lessons...
Nov 11, 2024•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 195
Jewish Matchmaking remains one of Erica and Ali’s favorite dating shows, and this week we welcome its host: Aleeza Ben-Shalom! We get into her viral dating philosophies including no touching for five dates and “date them until you hate them,” plus her thoughts on what qualities make a good match. In Updates, Ali debriefs a Halloween night that was very out of her comfort zone while Erica discovers that dating app tropes span multiple continents. Where to find Aleeza: On Instagram @aleezabenshalo...
Nov 04, 2024•2 hr 40 min•Ep. 194
Did you binge Nobody Wants This on Netflix as quickly as we did? Ali & Erica are diving into the show that took over our social media feeds (and for good reason) and how it relates to real-life dating. For Ali, the early days of the characters’ relationship hits very close to home and both gals contemplate how they’d react to some of the scenarios if they happened IRL. In Updates, Erica spends time with her Italian family & learns more about dating/relationships in their culture. Ali is ...
Oct 28, 2024•1 hr 24 min•Ep. 193
Have you ever dreamed of travelling abroad and meeting the love of your life? Kacie Rose (@kacierose_ on IG) just did that and she’s here to tell us all about dating long distance and cross-culturally. We discuss her best tips for long distance, what worked in managing conflicts between her and her now-fiancé, and how dating an Italian man is different. Note: Ali’s mic wasn’t hooked up properly for Kacie’s interview, we apologize for the less-than-stellar audio. In Updates, Erica & Ali recou...
Oct 21, 2024•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 192
Have a question? Erica & Ali are here to answer it! This week, we answer three listener questions. First, a woman has been setting her friend up on dates and wonders if she should share “exit interview” feedback with her. Second, when should you share potential dealbreaker like pet allergies with a date? Lastly, a listener considers canceling a date when she notices something has changed on his profile. But first, the gals are together in Portugal with their moms! Erica reveals a side missio...
Oct 14, 2024•59 min•Ep. 191
Do you experience anxiety in dating and relationships? Worrying that you’ll say the wrong thing, be in the wrong relationship, or ruin things with the right one? Sarah Yudkin, relationship anxiety coach and host of You Love and You Learn podcast, has some soothing words for you (and us!). Sarah shares how her own experience with her now fiance shaped her relationship anxiety work and we discuss issues such as: knowing if it’s your gut or anxiety, how to bring up anxiety with your partner, and de...
Oct 07, 2024•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 190
Erica & Ali are back with another hilarious (at least to us) Sex And The City episode, where we dissect its theories while acting out scenes from the show. This week, we’re covering Taxi Cab Theory, how long it takes to get over a break up, and faking orgasms (with a new character introduced!). In Updates, Erica attends a friend’s wedding…or is it one of those “pitch your friend” events?? Ali awaits Skyline’s surprise and the gals discuss Hinge’s latest update that’s designed to keep convers...
Sep 30, 2024•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 189
We always hear, “it will happen when you least expect it,” but letting go of societal timelines and expectations isn’t as easy as a catchy phrase. Enter Beth Gulotta, therapist and host of Quiet The Clock podcast. We chat with Beth about quieting the noise surrounding what you “should” be doing (hint: stop using that word!) and getting more in touch with your inner voice. She gives incredible advice on dealing with social pressure, the urge to compare yourself to others, feeling present in the n...
Sep 23, 2024•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 188
This week, Ali & Erica are answering short-form listener questions, rapid fire style. We take turns asking each other things like: is it ever okay to be sexual in your dating app profile? Can you be friends with a past situationship? Is it better to be good on paper or have good chemistry? And are people ever actually bad texters, or do they just not like you that much? Plus many more! In Updates, Erica explores a new app designed to meet people in person while Ali winds down at work and han...
Sep 16, 2024•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 187
It’s our first time doing Ask A 40-Something Man, featuring Erica’s good friend and standup comedian Charles McBee. We asked our listeners: “What’s something you’ve always wanted to ask a man?” and y’all did not disappoint! Tune in for Charles’s thoughts things like: moving on after a breakup, how much men share with their friends, and whether you can tell your partner you don’t like their gifts. In Updates, Erica’s Don’t Tell Comedy set is live!! Thanks to all of you for the support. Ali naviga...
Sep 09, 2024•2 hr 37 min•Ep. 186
Ali & Erica switch it up this week with a new episode format: discussing scenes from Sex And The City and how they apply to life today (complete with some voice acting!). We discuss lending money to friends, whether friends can be your true soulmates, & what to do if you hate going down. In Updates, Erica gets her Don’t Tell set back and works on selecting social clips. Meanwhile, Ali settles further into life with Skyline and confronts some things coming up from past relationships. Time...
Sep 02, 2024•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 185
Erica & Ali could not HELP but let this interview with ShrinkChicks (aka Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT & Emmalee Bierly, LMFT) run a bit long because, y’all, it is incredible. The foursome starts off discussing how difficult it can be to find a therapist and offer some advice for navigating that journey. Then, we move into our most popular listener submission: boundaries and conflict. What is a boundary, anyway? How best to set one to invite closeness (because it turns out that’s what boundarie...
Aug 26, 2024•2 hr 30 min•Ep. 184
Erica & Ali are back answering your questions in a Hot Topics episode this week! We counsel a listener who is nervous about having sex for the first time. Then, a listener is struggling with a guy who’s chronically late and recently stood her up. Third, Erica gives advice on navigating a herpes disclosure in your relationship. And finally, a listener isn’t feeling cared for by the guy she’s dating. With Ali still traveling and Erica focused on work (check out last week’s episode for more on ...
Aug 19, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 183
