Is It Okay to Want What You Want?

Ever notice how the moment you let yourself truly want something, shame shows up like an uninvited guest? What feels like selfish desire might actually be your inner wisdom trying to guide you toward the life you're meant to live.

In this episode, Leona explores the "shame slough" – that murky, uncomfortable space between wanting something and actually pursuing it. You'll discover why vulnerability feels so gross, how shame uses the "who do you think you are?" message to keep us small, and the crucial difference between surviving in a straitjacket versus thriving in alignment with what truly matters.

In this episode, we explore:

(00:00) Wanting what you want isn't as simple as it sounds

(01:35) Why "who do you think you are?" hits women extra hard

(02:13) When taking Fridays off becomes an act of courage

(04:21) Patterns that feel like solid ground become straitjackets

(06:21) What happens when shame drives shotgun with vulnerability

(08:34) Why permission is your bridge across the stinky slough

(11:25) How to notice thoughts as data, not danger

(12:40) The difference between "I am bad" and "I did something bad"

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