Finding Fifty

21. Love Languages

Do you hate the love language paradigm? Is it useful at all?

19. Their Opinion is None of My Business

Everyone says this, but how can you really learn how to not care about their business and believe it's really what you think about yourself that matters?

18. If It's Going to Get Done . . .

If it's going to get done, it has to be by me. Ever feel like this? We do.

17. Optimism

We take a little quiz to see how optimistic we are. We are both surprised (though you may not be).

16. Forgiveness

What is forgiveness? Is it letting things go or is it something more?

15. Religion After 50

We have both been through changes in our religious beliefs, but have also ended in very different places.

14. Birthdays

Some people hate birthdays. Some people love birthdays. Guess which of us is which?

13: Physical Appearance

How do you feel about your changing physical appearance after age 50? Wrinkles, gray hair, sagging--um, other parts. We chat frankly about these issues.

12: Being Happy

What is happy? How is happy? Is happy?

11: Trusting Yourself

How do yout rust yourself when you are the one who has always minimized and betrayed you?

10: Past, Present, Future Selves

Trying to figure out how to reconcile the different versions of ourselves, offering them all grace.

9: Putting Yourself On Hold

Women tend to put their own needs on hold. We talk about how to not do that anymore.

8: Losing People

Mette and Candice talk about the pain of losing people as your life changes, and the choice to lose people, as well.

7: Depression

Depression is scary and lonely. It isn’t something I would wish on my worst enemy. But it is something that I’ve ended up helping dearest friends through. Sometimes I’m even grateful for my depression because it has allowed me to understand something I never understood before and to help articulate the thoughts that depression whispers to you.

6: Mettice

In high school, one teacher who only ever saw us when we were together called us "Mettice," Candice and Mette. Here is our origin story, even though it took us a decade to remember the first time we truly met.

5: Brooms of Joy

Do you think brooms are not things of joy? Well, listen to us discuss why they can be.

4: Being Alone

There are wonderful things about being alone. Here are some of them.

3: Loving Yourself

How do you love yourself? What if you hate yourself? Why does it matter?

2: The Rules

We all seem to enter into relationships with the idea that there are certain rules, but when other people don't follow the same rules, we're angry. And discover that they never had the same rules in the first place. How could they not?

1: Owning Your Choices