Alyssa Limperis • Films To Be Buried With with Brett Goldstein #215

think there is room for both types. Every week I invite a special guest over. I tell them they've died. Then I get them to discuss their life through the films that meant the most of the previous guests include Barry Jenkins, Kevin Smith, Sharon Stone, and even Bled Clambles. But this week it is the brilliant actor, writer and comedian Alyssa lim Paris. Head over to the Patreon at patreon dot com forward slash Brett Goldsteam, where you're getting

extra twenty minutes of chat with a Lissa. We laugh a lot, We talk about beginnings and endings. She tells me it's secret you get the whole episode, uncut, ad free and as a video. Check it out over at patriot dot Com forward slash. Brett Goldstein, so a listen in Paris, is a brilliant actor and comedian. If you've never seen her online sketches of her mum, you've got

to look them up. She's currently appearing in Flatbush Mistermeaners on Showtime, and she's just released her own one hour comedy show, No Bad Days, about the death of her father. I've seen all of it now and it is brilliant. It's available on Peacock. We've met for the first time on this podcast. She was an absolute treat. I really enjoyed our time together and I think you will too. So that is it for now. I very much hope you enjoy episode two hundred and fifteen of Films to

be Buried With. Hello, and welcome to Films to be Buried With. It is me Brett Goldstein, and I'm joined today by an actor, a writer, a sketch a stand up, an improviser, a superstar, a viralologist, internet star, a TV star, and a world star, and also a legend. Please welcome to the show. I can't believe she's here. It's the word anili listen live Paris. Wow, what an intro. I can't believe World Star wasn't the end. You went up from world Star. Wow, you thought you thought you'd peaked,

but there was more. There was more, there kept being more. Yeah. Yeah, it's nice. A nice intro. It is. It feels nice. It's lovely to meet you. This is the first time we've met. I've been a fan of yours. I saw you from well, I saw you from when you were making videos of pretending to be your mum, which is so funny and delightful. Thanks. And the secret to them,

if I may, is they're not remotely mean. They're like completely sort of observation and I think everyone can relate, and they're funny and they are like incisive about hum humans and stuff like that. But they're not at all mean. And I'm sure your mom loves them. Well. Thanks, that's so sweet. That's how I feel about tag Lasso too. I feel the same way about watching your shows. It's no, it's true, it's a it's a I appreciate that coming from you, because, yeah, that was always the goal. I

love my mom and she's part of the video. She films them and stuff, so she films it. Yeah, does she ever go that's too much? You know what it is? Sometimes I'll drop like you know mollyne did. Then she's like, well, you can't say, Molly, she might be watching this. So sometimes I have to cut personal references like ah, there's my sister calling again. She said, don't you cut that? Cut that. I can't have that drama. So tell me tell me how you the very first one? Then did

you say to him? I'd love to make a video bit like how did it start? Because I can see how it then became more normal very first way. Well, you know, my daddy died and my mom was living with me as I was an adult, and she was living with me because she was having a tough time, so she moved in with me into my New York City,

very tiny apartment. Right. I was just spending so much time with her, and at the time, I was making videos for a website, so like a lot of what I was doing already was making videos and character videos, so it was kind of I was just like, we should do one together with each other instead of for the website. You want to make one, And she was like sure, So she had already been in a couple of videos with me, so she was kind of like on board with it, and then it just became a

really fun thing we did. I love that. I love it. I bet there is a lot of mothers listening to this. You're very jealous. That's quite an unusual relationship in it. It's right, true, true, true. When we're recording this, I don't know when it will come out, but you have a special it's called No Bad Days, and it came out two weeks ago on Peacocks. Yeah, and so I

think to be honest, I think you should be honest. Yet, Okay, I'm heart very good to say I've watched forty minutes of it because I had to go to set, and then when I came back from set to watch the rest of it, the link had in sex by it and I don't have Peacock, and I was so stressed about me because I thought, I haven't seen the end of this show. Okay, so let me think forty minutes.

So what was like the last thing you saw? If you can remember the thing that I found about it, because it's really interesting, tell you, tell the listeners what it's about. And then I'll tell you the experience of the beginning of it. You'd tell it, okay, okay, So yeah, the show's about losing my dad and loving my dad

and learning to live without my dad. And I lost him when I was twenty five to brain cancer, and I was doing stand up at the time and just was very like, I can't go back to doing the stand up I was doing so right when I got back, I moved home to be with him, and then once he died and I moved back to the city, I was like, I need to talk about this. It's the only thing that's on my mind. But I can't do it at like basement shows. So I just started making

a show about it, a solo show of sorts. So you never did that stuff in clubs that I did, I did, I did. But the origin of I suppose the solo show was like, I want to talk about the whole thing. I want to be able to do some comedy and do some serious stuff, which I felt that you have a little less leeway on when I was doing at that point, like five minute or ten minute spots. But then this show I toured on the road, which was an experience in comedy clubs and stuff. Oh wow,

How often was it a struggle? Can I tell? Well? Yeah, because the thing that's most I found really interesting is I knew where it's about, but you and I think it's brilliant and brave and powerful and great, but there's no you open bang. You opened with heavy shit right, first line, heavy ships, and it's a real like wow, okay, it's a real sort of statement of intent for a comedy show. And I could completely understand how an unprepared audience made like oh geez, totally totally yes. That must

have been so interesting with different audiences. Yeah, yeah, definitely, I would say, well, one, when I would do it on the road, I would always preface, I would get I would do a little bit of crowd work before going into that so that wasn't the first thing. Um and same within the day of the taping. I did some crowd work before that. But yeah, the road was interesting. I mean, sometimes you'd be surprised and it's like, oh,

this audience came on board with me. And then sometimes it's like this is a bachelor at party and it's not their fault, but we're have you heard me? I've said this a couple of times, but it's I think it's worth repeating. Have you ever done shows in Philly? Okay, so how about Boston? No I happened, Okay, I've got you gotta tour. Okay, New York in LA. Yeah, New York in LA. Crowds are like yeah kind and I don't know more, but yeah, Philly's really rowdy. They're like

just a sports culture that drink a lot. It's just a really awesome town. But it's very rowdy, right, And I was doing that part where I run in a circle, it's like, if you're listening, it's like the most sort of intimate part of the show where there's no jokes. It's like meant to just kind of yeah, it's not it's sad. It's very it's sad. Yeah, I mean that that. I was like, well, this is this is really sad, I mean, very moving and anyway, that section in particular

is tough. Yeah, it's it's tough. That's why I stopped doing the show early on. That part started to make me cry every time, and I was like, I gotta stop this. So it's like a sad it's a sad part. And as I'm doing it, I like, go down on the ground for that part where he's in a coma and I just hear someone in the bag just go what the fuck? And you know, at that point you can't really even like joke out of it, the point like if it were a joke part, but it was

like I just gotta kind of take it. Did you carry on with the show? Did you have backup stuff? I care? I would say I carried on with the show, and I got off stage. One of my best friends open for me, and we were both just like, all right, this is this is different. But it helped me because then every time moving forward, I opened my shows by talking about that and being like, so this is gonna be weird, this this is gonna be And then it almost like helped along my tour that I was like,

it's not going to get worse than that. So when I got to the taping, I wasn't super scared. Yeah, it's such a thing like listen. I don't know if you've ever had this podcast, but one of the reasons I do is well, good, thank you if you like. And I watched and I listened to the whole episode, so not to brag or whatever, Yeah, Bill Harris entire episodes. So yeah, someone making more of an effort. And but you know, I like to talk about death on it.

And one of the reasons it is because I think it's something we don't talk about enough generally, and it's obviously a part of everyone's life. But I also what's interesting about your show, and I wondered the experience of you making it and different oudiences, is because it is something we don't talk about enough. I don't think generally as a culture. Ay, it scares us and it makes us sad and uncomfortable, and we don't know how to deal with people who are grieving either because we don't. Yes,

we'd rather not sort of look at it. And so even doing your thing, which is totally legit and brilliant in your stand up show, I can understand a reaction of like, oh God, I don't want to I don't want to hear this stuff because I'm in denial that this exists. Be or B. I feel really sad for you, and I can't cope with having feeling. So can we can we not do this? Do you know what I mean? Yeah? I think so. I think that's why with the show

I was always wanting to bounce in and out. So it's like if I'm going to talk seriously, then I'll break it afterwards with jokes, so that like I'm almost allowing people the space to feel it and then be like, well we'll laugh after this. So even if you're sad right now, like I'm going to give you a break in a second. Yeah, And then did you give to

the part where people raise their hands? So there's a part the end where I like ask if anyone else like has lost a dad or a mom, or a brother or sister, And and that was really important to me towards the end of the show because there's something about watching everyone every club, every city, watching everyone's hand go up, and there is this moment of like, oh, we're all like, yes, this is it's a shared experience that we're all going through, which helped I think that

feeling of like oh, you're sad for me, it's like, well, we're all it's normal. It's like it's sad, but it's also normal every one of us is dealing with something like this. And then it ends on zooma dancing and everyone gets up and dances, so yeah, I don't know it yeah it all yeah, yeah said anyways, I'd say that though the last quesson I have on this is a fun all very fascinating. Is having done this show, which you toured for like a year. I'm guessing around

that making it to this special. Has it helped you in terms of your grieving, in terms of moving on, in terms of you're making I don't know sensible this. Has it made it worse continually talking about it? Or has it freed you? Like how do you feel about yeah too stuff? Yeah? So okay, so this show which I talked about a little too, but I've I've actually been doing it for six years. So I have been doing a version of this on and off for six years.

And I think at first, so I would say it went in stages like at first, I do think it helped to talk about it because I felt so alone with it that I was just like, I need to talk about it. And then I think it hit a point where it hurt to be reliving, especially that just

running experience. And then I lived life and grew up and moved and changed a lot of things in my life, and then the pandemic and then I revisited it and it was cool to see how much I'd changed and how different I was from when I first started the show, and how maybe still I had some letting go to do with my dad. And I think that this final chapter was very helpful. This was a way that I was like almost than the opportunity to spend a little bit of extra time with him and then and then

really let it go and move forward. So yeah, I think it like took me through the stages of Greek in a way. It kind of took me through it. Yeah, So that must have been very motion of the very final performance of that then, having spent six years with it totally. You take two things first special, you take two shows. First show, I was just like and second show, I think I cried through every segment. It was basically unusable because I was just basically yeah. Basically at every

moment I was, I was because yeah, I was just yeah, yeah. Oh. Can I have one more question on it, please please? What did or has your mom made of this show And was it difficult doing it with if she was in the room, or how was that side of it? I think it was like the first time, but my mom has watched this show a lot. She's seen it

a lot. He was on the road, and she came to a few locations and she came to one where my friend was at it, and afterwards she's like, your mom was mouthing all the words it's time to end show, It's time we got to wrap this up. But I think that my dad was really a joyful person and brought so much life and energy, and it was just

a really big loss. So in a way, I think my mom being able to come on this, like see the show and see other people react to my dad, I think we both I think it helped both of we were both so attached to my dad that I think probably the same experience I had with it she had with it, because I know she was emotional too about it being over. But also she's now moving and she's starting She's dyed her hair blonde and got a

nose ring, and you know, she's like moved up. We're both like, yeah, we're both different, So it's kind of like, yeah, yeah, I think we've both had a similar experience with it. Yeah, I mean, it's absolutely incredible. Alsa I have forgotten to tell you something. It's weird that I didn't tell you this up to it's particularly weird this time that my memory is this bad. But I forgot. I just have to because I forgot to tell you. I've got to tell you you've died. I don't know I heard. Haven't

I been through enough? Well that's why. That's why you've done. You've been through enough. It's yeah, it's time. I'll just tell you on the light because I am in absolute darkness. Okay, Brett has this weird like not weird, but he has this like fuzzyness behind him. And then it was very you said I died, and then you sort of became a ghost and you disappeared into the background. Yes, yes, look and then well now with the light it's a little less profound, but there it is. And then you

just left. Oh my god, yes you were the grim Reaper. It is scary. You've died. Wow. Oh coming this way, it's even scarier. Yeah, yeah, it's pretty good stuff. Tell me this. How did you die? Oh? Well, it's kind of you ever have those days where you like, you have so much coffee you haven't had any water, and then you go out and your friends like do you want to get a coffee? And you're like, you know what, if I think if I have this cup of coffee,

I'll die. That happened to me. And it was cold brew, and I was like, I think I'm gonna die if I have this. But it was cold brew and it was all the milk and it was homemade on and I was like, I gotta I gotta have at least a sip boom done out like because my heart went, my heart went yeah yeah, instant in the cafe. Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, next to my friend who your last yummy? My last heart is yummy? Good? Yeah yeah, I mean good, yeah good. Which is the day of your next special?

So you you dine friend of your friend. It's quite dramatic for your friend. But now she has a solo show about me dying, and so it goes, this is a business. This is this is a business. Okay, that's good. Do you I mean, this is a weird question. Now was ask people, and obviously it's very different in your case. Do you worry about death? I ask? But obviously you've thought about it a lot. Do you worry about it for yourself? Is it something you fear? Do you fear

dying yourself? You know, I'd love to say that I don't because of this experience. But my dad like wasn't ready for he was scared and he wasn't ready. And I think that that tripped me out a little, this feeling of like, I don't know, I guess when you're young, you kind of assume like when people die, they're like ready or they're at peace or that. So I think he was at peace with his life and the way

he lived, but he wanted more of it. And so I may be haunted by that feeling of like I could go before I'm ready, so, you know, trying to do whatever I want now because I'm very aware of but yeah, I think I'm I think I'm still scared of it, for sure. How do you feel? I feel, weirdly more scared of other people dying. That's what successes me. I'm much more worried about other people dying. Me dying, I'm less bothered about, although I'm sure I would be

at the time. Ship yeah, I will be like, I don't know, I didn't mean this, and I definitely I definitely worry about getting everything done. Yeah you know, so yes, but I'm more obsessed about other people. That worries me more. That makes sense, because we feel it more obviously. The other one is we're going or is losing people. It's like yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. What do you do you what do you think happens when you die? Well, I group super religious, so I think that I'm reluctant to

believe that nothing happens. I really do feel my dad, I've really, I really felt when he died, just this sense of like we are all kind of still here, like we are all still here, just in different forms. So whether that, I don't know. I think you're still around around just ye maybe you're not conscious, but I think that like we are, all our souls are all swimming around. I think I have to believe that. I just I don't know where else his soul would go.

I don't think it. That's what I felt when my dadad is like, oh he's he's still right here, just his he's still right Here's just his body's gone. But I don't know if I think that's more for maybe the people left behind than the people who die. My dad feels he's still here. I don't know. I don't know. Do you talk, do you talk to him? Do you

still feel that way? Yeah? I do. I I sort of find him, and I would say quiet and nature, And if I meet him, he seems to show up in ways that maybe or even just my own fabrication or maybe I'm just looking for it. But I do still and he's like very much within me. So I do still feel I do still feel him, and sometimes I we used to sort of like to this to each other. So sometimes I'll give a little. Maybe I'll give a little to him, and yeah, I don't know

if I talk. I don't necessarily hold conversations with them. Well, here's the thing. There is a heaven. In the case of your dad, it goes I think that it goes both ways. That that you're that you, your soul does stick around and hang out with you if you so wish. But in your case, you're going to heaven. But for a big, cloudy one. I'm going to the word. I'm going to the big the big one. You made it to the big one now, hell yeah, but we don't say that there. What is it? What is it? What

is your favorite thing? Because it's filled with the favorite thing. What is it? Oh, my gosh, Swedish fish. Okay, well, the seats are made of Swedish fish. The Wold. The place absolutely reeks, and it's your heaven. And there's Swedish fish served on treys morning. The coffee is blended Swedish. The serial is coffee took me down. I don't want to see coffee again once I'm up there. Coffee even you're saying it is kind of rude. But yes, okay, yeah, okay.

Everyone's very excited to see you. They're big fans. They've watched all of your stuff, including the end of your special. Because they are much better people. Well, they have a lot of time, they don't have to make money. They're up there. Yeah, and they won't know about your life, but they won't know about it through the medium of film. Interesting in it. The first thing they ask you, it's what's the first film you remember seeing at Okay, this

was was tough. I think it was probably Matilda. I think I have a strong memory of really wanting to be able to move things with my mind, the Danny de Vite film, the excellent film. Yes, yeah, it was just it was so exciting to see someone my age with all these superpowers, and you feel so trapped when you're young, you can't do anything, so to see someone who's able to You can't drive, you can't you don't have a you can't go outside without holding your parents hand.

And so to watch this girl be able to do crazy things with her mind was exciting. Do you do you remember seeing that cinema or was that on video? No? I don't, I want to say, on video at home. I feel like I don't have a ton of memories from a young age going to the movie theater. I feel we were a movie at home. You're a nine child, right, are you a niny child? No? I have a brother. Okay is three years Okay? Are you plays? Oh? Yeah, yeah,

we're super close. We're super close. He um. Because I also remembered watching this is probably a little bit later. But have you ever seen Searching for Bobby Fisher? You know the chess? Yes? The chess. Yes. My brother was like a competitive chess player. So that was a that was like, that's also a movie that That's probably the movie I watched most as a kid. That movie still holds up. I watched it recently. Still great. Matilda is Carrie for kids discuss? Okay, so there's a bit of

a blind spot we're gonna find on this podcast. I am like a big woos. I haven't watched nearly any scary movies out of blind fear. Okay, so then let's discuss this. What is the scariest film you've ever seen? If? Okay, and I can't even say I actually watched it. And this was in theaters all my friends were going. I knew I didn't like scary movies, but it was like middle school or high school, and I had to go.

And it was the Exorcism of what, yes, the Exorcism of Emily Rowse, And I just remember sitting in the back row covering my face the entire time and just like ever so often covering my ears and yeah, because that was so scary because I was religious, so it was like, this could happen, This could happen. This is in the realm of possibility. This could happen if I say a swear word, yeah or whatever. It's quite good that one. And that was the last time you watched

a horror film. You're like, nfe things I want to say. I want to say, I mean, I was in a horror film. I probably I've really seen something. But in terms of like sitting down and watch and so I know it's fake. I know that blood is not real blood. I know that, but once it's in my head, I can't stop think of it. I was watching the horror film that you were in. Well have you noticed it? I think no. I did watch it, and I think it was fine because I I knew it was like, oh,

that's my friend Ron. So it was like he's my friend, so yes, he's he's a monster, but he's my palce so I can. I can. Yeah, I still like jumped. I still jumped. It's like, how why are you jumping? You were there, you were in that closet. Yeah, there was one shot that was like in a dark alley, and I remember being like, this is I'm scared. I'm scared of the dark. Last night I locked my I

heard it always. I locked my bedroom door. It's like, if someone has broken into my apartment, they're gonna break into my bedroom door. This isn't gonna Yeah. I got two front doors with double locks. One's a great It's like if they made it through that silently, I think they're gonna be able to make it. I would in bedroom door. You bought yourself in time, though, and in that time, I'm you're planning to turn al out through the wall. Yeah exactly, I'm channeling Matilda. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

get me through this wall. Yeah. What about crying? What's the film that made you cry the most? So? Now this one horror? I had like one. When I heard this question, I was like, Oh, this is I could, this is kind of my genre, this is like, this is why I watch film. So okay, I would I have to say Interstellar takes the lead that when when Matthewikonda has just watching his children grow up. Oh that's insane. I mean we are both your parents life, Yes they are. Yeah.

I think that that might have been like a I think I probably watched it soon after my dad died, and maybe it was just because I'm like, I don't even know if it's that set, but I was it is probably like, oh, I'm my dad's not gonna watch me grow up, So it was probably like it because because yeah, I heard that was a while ago. Now that I watched me like four years Jesus Coco. Have you seen Coco? Kaka is one of my favorites, and Coco, of course it made me cry because is a Pixar film,

and that's monsters. But genuinely made me feel better about death, changed the way. I agree, I agree, I agree. That's a perfect film. Yeah, I was so beautiful. It kind of reminds me of the way you introduced me were it was like, I kept thinking, like, this will be the saddest part, this is where I'll cry the month, and then it just kept topping it and topping it. Oh,

that's a good cry that movie. Though, You're right, it's like a really happy sad cry because it's not Kaka is one of the rare ones that isn't like it makes you cry, but it's like a nice thing that is happening, whereof in so many of their films, like you're just trying to destroy me, You're trying to destroy me. And that's a totally, totally, totally yeah that Coco remember me? Oh that song? I mean, yeah, that's that's probably on

my Spotify top whatever that list. Is that the whole thing of talking about death and death being part of the world and that the idea of you live as long as you remembered is a very beautiful, totally totally It is funny now that we're talking about this. Yeah, inside out Coco, what it sounds like in soul. It is like remarkable that these movies are tackling like life's issues in a way that maybe sometimes adult movies aren't even quite doing to that same capacity. Yeah, they're really

I think you can take it. They take them for granted because they're Disney and animated and popular, but they are tackling huge Inside Out is a fucking art movie. It's encapsulating consciousness through visuals. It's yes, yeah, yeah, no, it's true. Clever, clever, clever, and that thing of like making you, making you crime, making you feel, but rewarding you as well with like happiness, and it's got a nice balance. Yeah. It never leaves you feeling like, oh yeah,

you left me feeling just sad. Yeah, yeah, maybe that's true. They learned from those They learned, they destroyed a generation, and then they were like, all right, we got to a little bit better for you. Yeah, okay, what is the film that you love? People don't like it? It's no, yeah, a critics favorite, but you love it and everyone else is a dumb dumb like, well, you know, I feel like the ones I chose people love, but I looked them up on Rotten Tomatoes and I love Misscongeniality. I

looked at Miscongeniality for rotten. To me, that's crazy, that's crazy that I know. It's a great it's a films, so yeah, yeah, I love Sandra Book and I just feel that was that was one of the first films I watched for I was like, oh, she's like a badass and she's it was just like it was a good, empowering film, saying Michael Caine, third best performance of his career. Yes, yes, I know, I know, and and iconic. I feel too, like you, everyone's seen it. It's a movie that most

everyone's forty one percent. Yes, I think it's like Legally Blood, Legally Blonde wasn't necessarily critzily acclaimed, and now everyone's like, hang on that films fucking brilliant. It's perfect. It's a perfect film. You know what it is. It's sexism. It's sex and say it. You can say say it is it is. It's oh yeah, both of these women who are yeah, women women films boo boo, all right, they

can't be pretty and smart? No, no, isn't it. I assume that is where that comes from with the bad reviews, because they're unequipp good films, right right, Okay, great answer. What's the film that you used to love? You loved it, but you've watched it recently and you've gone out, And that's the same for me. No more this. I feel that this is going to be this is maybe going to hurt some people. Okay, but I loved The Notebook. Who doesn't You watched The Notebook? Have you seen the Notebook? Yes?

When did you watch it? When it came out or recently? I have it. I have a sister, so there's lots of films like that that I think I certainly came out. Yeah. Is she younger or older? She's two out? Nyah. Yeah. They that's the thing when you have an older sibling, they kind of call the shots. I watched The Bourne Identity before legally bo okay a million times. Yeah. I didn't even get to that because we were rewatching searching

for Bobby Fisher. Okay. So I watched The Notebook like when I was younger, and I was like, this is the most beautiful love story of all time, and then I rewatched it. I want to say this year, I was like, these people seem to hate each other's just like as an adult, you know, you're like, because when you're young, like, oh, that's so romantic and so fun. But then as an adult you're an adult relationship, you're like, oh,

that would be a miss. If they seemed to the other guy and her seem to kind of get along in function, these two they don't really seem to be able to. Like I was just like, oh, that's gonna be a mess. They're gonna that's not gonna be a sustainable thing. Sure, they love each other, but I'm like, they don't really seem to. Yeah, gil, Yeah, they seem to have yeah, structural issues that are yeah, gonna really fuck them up. Yeah. Oh, and they're gonna keep reliving

this every day. Yeah right, it's like every day we're gonna fight. It's like, well, I don't think you have to you have to fight every day? Yeah? Do that? Yeah. Yeah. The other guy was just kind of like super nice and he's it going and kind of got along with the family and everything. Yet and then this guy was like, but I mean it's still it still made me cry, it's still beautiful. But I was like, oh, I used to really idealize this relationship in a way that now

I'm like, oh, that seems exhausting. I'm tired. Who has the time. You gotta do chores and grocers. You gotta work because I can't be fighting as well. Yeah yeah, yeah, you'll you'll really fit, but still fargulingly right, like your hotness gets you far for like a month, and then it's like okay, no, no, no, You're like you're you're annoying me. I don't care how how you are. Yeah, true, yeah. What is the film that means the most to you?

Not necessarily the film itself is any good, but the experience you had around seeing the film will always make it special to you. I feel like I might have misread this question because the way you're saying it is sort of sounding like really nice, and that wasn't exactly the I think if I the movie, it doesn't have to be a nice answer. It can be I'll always remember this experience because it was fucking horrible. If that's what your answer was, well that was my answer. That

was my answer was not really horrible. But I just remember anytime anyone wants to watch The Departed, which is like I'm from that region of the world of the US that sort of strong accented region. So anyway, it's a popular movie. And that was the first movie that I had a boy over and that I got caught kissing him. And then because of that, that's what made us made me have to have the sex talk with

my parents. And granted we were like kissing. I didn't have sex like five years later, but I was like, it was so humiliating and horrifying because it was like the first time I had a boy over, probably like one of the first times I'd made out with a boy, and it was like I not only got caught kissing him, but also had to get sex talk after him. From The Departed from those boys. Yeah, okay, I will plaint in the film where you're kissing is my first question.

I mean, I don't think that I was very invested in the on the Departed, So I don't because I rewatched it and I was like, oh, I I didn't have remember, so probably probably early yeah, probably. And when you say they caught you, did they walk in you You had your eyes closed kissing and they said what are you doing? Hey? Hey? No? I um, we had like a finished basement, so like you know, that was the spot. So I was in the basement, and I feel my parents were just kind of constantly coming down,

like trying to offer food or whatever. So I like my eye was in like the stairs were here, and I was positioned this way, and I just yeah, while we were kissing, I saw my dad come down there and we like jumped off each other and then my yeah, and then it was like, yeah, did they remember did they say anything in front of the boy? Great question. I think like they didn't have to do. It was just so like, oh, we're not like this is where we're We're not We're not doing this. Do you know

what's fascinating? That guy turned out to be a cup. He ended up becoming a cup, So maybe that was maybe that was a really formative. It was a formative moment for him too, because that's the whole movie is all about about. And yeah, huh they both like they're at it. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah that's me. He became a cop also because he realized what a thrill it was being coolt He was like, I want to be the catch. I want to be that guy. Yeah yeah, never again. Yeah, I was I let my guard down

for one second. Never again. Yeah, what is the film? You most relate to. I do think this is kind of an easy answer, but I do think when I saw my Big Factory Wedding for the first time, I was like, wow, this is very cool to see a lot of my people in my family represented like this. Yes, yeah, that movie was like yeah, it was all the rave at church in the family. Did you all right? I have seen it, and I think I know a lot of people who feel that way. Now. It's fund it.

It's really like fascinating that it. Obviously it's the sort of thing I think that people say like, oh, this is stereotypical or this is thing, but if it is you, you're like, no, this is bang on. This is very totally accurate. And this isn't as broad as it may see. I don't know, like it's interesting totally. It really hit

with so many people. Yeah, yeah, I was telling someone the other day that, like, when my dad started dating my mom, he was and he was Greek as well, but he was a vegetarian and he like was a runner and sort of a hippie, and literally he had to before he took my mom on a first date. He had to go to dinner with her parents before he took her on a first date, and then before they got married, my mom's parents were like, well, you're gonna have to You're gonna have to eat meat, and

he was like all right, and he just started eating meat. Wow. Sound like it's really not that. It's like comedically it's ended, but it's like a lot of that stuff is very h yeah, very yeah. Yeah love it. Listen in Paris. What's the what's the sexiest film you've ever seen? Okay, well this also I miss read a little as maybe the like first time I saw a movie and was like, oh it might it might still be. It might still be the time. It might still be because it is

still the one that popped in my head. But I remember the first time I saw Twilight being like, oh my god, you know, because it's like the movie is so like they can't be together. It's so like it's so charged. It's like oh, and that's how it felt like when you're younger, like I'll die if I kiss this person, but like living without them is too unbearable that I have to kiss them. So that experience it was like such a young like yeah, yeah, such a yeah. Yeah.

I just remember being like, man, this is it this is so, were you team Jacob or a team the other Geezer? Now? Definitely not the other geezer? Please, we don't even remember his name. Who needs some team Jacob? Of course I read those books too, and I remember feeling those books like Jacob's the wolf. Then I'm the other one. I don't want him. I don't want I don't want. I want the main guy. Yeah exactly, I don't know. I don't have a nuance to view. I

just want I want Batman. Yeah, come on, yeah exactly. Would I won't go anywhere near that fucking wolf. No, no, no, I don't trust them. Those books too were crazy, and at that age it's just like it was pre internet too pretty much. I think like at the very least, I couldn't like Google stuff in my room, Like it was like you had to be on the family computer. So just you must know this that Fifty Shades of Gray was originally Twilight fan fiiction. Did you know? That?

Was it? Really? Yeah? That she then changed the names, but the first draft of it it was Edward Team Edward, isn't it Edward's That's that's it Edward. That makes total sense, That makes total sense. Yeah, that means yeah, exactly. So there you go. So I'm not I'm not wrong, I'm right in this. That was a highly sexually charged series. Yeah, topped only by yeah, literal erotica. Like those books are

pretty much right. I haven't read them, but I think they're pretty much like socially acceptable, so it's an acceptable poet Twilight, fifty shades are gray. But I guess no, but fifty shades are gray. Yeah, there's a subcategory to this question. Troubling bone is worrying. Why don't a film you found the rousing that you weren't sure? You shit? I think that that's probably also Twilight. I'm like a grown woman. I probably shouldn't be thinking to my life. Well, listen,

he he's very old and she's a child. Is that the due? I hope not. I hope not five hundred and five. But he's hanging out. Yeah he might. He might be really old put but he's fish. She becomes old. He's funny, he's fit as hell. Can you blame me? He looks young and yeah, yeah, I guess he's for I guess yeah, he's been around for forever. But but I like to think he froze at that age, So it's not he's not doing anything wrong. He's lived for a while at that age. Yeah, but he hasn't developed

over the last he hasn't developed any materiality. He's no, he's just an absolutely nothing. I'm gonna have to do his laundry. It's going to be a chore, but whatever. He's Yeah, he's fit, he's fit. Yeah, Yeah, Okay, it's a twilight for both thats okay. Yeah, Well, it's objectively the greatest film of all time. Might not be your favorite, Oh this one was hard. I think Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind goes down for me as the as

the greatest film of all time. What an excellent answer. Thanks, excellent. It's just beautiful and funny and smart and relatable and yeah, and every time you want you pick up new things like I feel like you could watch as you Yeah. Yeah. And the idea of being able to erase your memories and then is it I often think about is there anything that you would want to erase from your memories if you could? Would you? It's very difficult because you think all these things make you who you are. Yeah,

I don't think I would. I don't think I would I feel like there are some traumas that people experience that would probably be helpful to have them removed. Absolutely, Yeah, tell me this, talk to me. What is the film that you could or have watched the most over and over again? Can this would be the same as the movie that I take with me to the afterlife? Yeah? If you want to spoil the ending, sorry, sorry, okay, okay,

we'll okay, okay, okay. I think I mean, if I'm being honest, the movie that I've watched the most times is Good Will Hunting. Oh, really, have you seen Good Hunting? I've got a standard about Good Will Hunting. I've seen it for sure. Yeah. We refer it a lot, Yes, yeah, yep, yep. Why is that such a rewatchable one for you? Well? I think that it's I'm probably homesick. I think it's probably something that just hearing those accents just makes me feel.

So it's probably like since I've moved to la or since I've been out here, it's it's a real comfort just to even hear them speak. But I yeah, and Robin Williams is just so brilliant in it, and that's another great movie where it balances laughs. And feels in a beautiful way. Beautiful. Yeah, yeah, you get it all, you get it all. It's a really good film. Holds up, it holds up, I think, so yeah. I don't like to be negative. Let's do it quick. What's the worst

film you've ever seen? Okay, I got I got a hot one worst film I've ever seen. I saw it probably when I was like too young, way too young. My dad was like, this is the greatest film of all time. It was Citizen Kane, and I remember looking at my brother going, this is the worst movie I've ever seen. And for years we would make fun of my dad and taunt him and go Rosebud because we thought it was just drash. Sally thought it was just

so boring and didn't make any sense. He was trying to educate us, and we were just like, nah, this is terrible. About time someone took down Citizen It is a hot take. I watched Citizen Kane again recently. I can't why, but I watched it and I was like, hey, it is obviously brilliant and amazing and and not boring. But of course you can't watch as a kid because it's about like the media and about like sort of capitalism, and it's about it's about so many things that you're like, oh, oh,

you understand that the fucking Sledge. You don't understand the rest of the film. That's what I was just gonna saying that related to is the Sled exactly? Yeah, you don't. You don't understand corporate magnates and ship and media lives. Still don't. I still don't corporate magnet. I'd still have to google that at the end of this. Yeah, you're in comedy, you're very funny. What's the film that made you listen? Im Paris laughter most Oh my gosh, Yeah,

Dumb and Dumber. Great, it's fucking funny. It's so funny, and it's such a physical I feel, it's so much there's so much physical comedy in that movie, and so much desperation and confident incompetence and that kind of thing is just my favorite. Yeah. Yeah, good ship, that's good ship. Yeah, did I make it past the pearly gates? Let's see. Listen, lim Paris, You've been absolutely wonderful. Really, word if, I've

absolutely loved this. However, when you you'd had twelve coffees and it was ten Alien you'd been up early for a casting, which you got, and you were celebrating, you were buzzing. You had another ten coffees. You met up with your friend in a cafe and she said, she's get your coffee and you said, nah, pbably shouldn't have had twenty four coveries already, I'm kind of buzzing. And she said, but this cold brew and they've got oat milk. Anyway,

that sounds delicious. Don't get you a single shot? And you go, fine, I don't know what that means. Sure, you take the coffee, you sit with her, you have one sip, you go yummy ga, and then you're immediately explodes and your friend thinking you're doing a big guys, yummy ga? What is that the name of? Really special? Yummy ga? Yummy ga? And then you collapse onto the floor and everyone's like, oh, she's now doing physical comedy. We know she likes physical comedy because I love a

dumb and dummer. Maybe there's the whole thing. People are gathered around, they're clapping, this is brilliant. Oh she got the casting. She's doing physical commany everyone it's a w Yeah, yeah, what a day. I'm walking past the window I've got a coffee with me, you know what I'm like, And I'm like, I don't think she's doing a big guys, And I was like what, and I go, I mean, she's always been very committed to stuff. But she's been on the floor two hours and you're still standing around

and clapping like, I don't know. It feels my shows are an hour hour and a half tops fields before clapping for two hours straight. Way to go out? What a way to go out? I don't upset your friend because your friend's not really yet seen you don't. So I said, listen, off you go, I'll pull, I'll pull, I'll pack up all their props and stuff, because yeah, what does your show? Off? You go? And so everyone clears out and I'm like, I mate, oh god. So anyway,

I'll put you in the coffin. But because of all the coffee, the twenty five coffees you had, you are bloated in a way that you are much more than I had expected. So I have to like stick knives and you. So the coffee spreading out everywhere, it's like so much a bit. Anyway, it's all over, the wolves, all over everyone stuff you in the coffee, but there was more than I was expecting. There's no room in

this coffee and it is absolutely full. There's only enough room for me to jam one DVD into the side of you, for you to take across to the other side. And on the other side, it's maybe night. Every night. What film are you taking to Swedish fish heaven to show the Swedish fish on their Swedish fish sofas on your movie night and listen in Paris. Well, I'm changing my answer. You know what I'm taking. I'm taking this congeniality and I'm gonna go. Weren't they wrong? Aren't we

glad to be up here? These idiots voted this forty one person. This is the time of our lives. We're eating Swedish fish and we're laughing and we're having fun, and we're growing. These idiots they don't know what they have down there. Thank god we're dead. Thank god they have rosebud, they have rose. That's what they think is cinema. These idiots, they're watching stuff about corporations. They must they were so bored. They think they have to do this.

We're watching Michael Kana his best Sandra Bullock and her prime. You know I'm not asking you to do learn the history of William Randolph Hurst. Ah, God is good. Thank God, we did good deeds. Thank God. I went to church. I knew it. I knew the prayers would pay off. I picked the right God, I picked the right religion. Did it? You did it? I mean absolutely magnificent. A listen in Paris? Is there anything you would like to tell people to listen, to look out for or watch?

Isn't it coming? Thank you so much for having me. This was so fun. Yeah, walking on bad days on Peacock and Flatbush, misdemeanors on Showtime. I played Sydney and it just wrapped its second season. Very exciting. Alyssa, I've loved me and you. I've really really enjoyed this. Thank you very much for your time. Please have a lovely death, you do. Good day to you, Good day to you.

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