Ep.39 – A Radical Commitment to Truth with "Agreement 1"

Welcome to the FemDom Revolution Podcast, where we believe that authentic power exchange relationships have the potential to transform lives. We're here to adopt a new approach to FEMDOM that encourages men and women to step into their power. I'm Season Traveler and together we're creating Leadership and life. It has been quite a while since we have had our sub season traveler here on the podcast. And he's joining us today. I have Essie Grace. Hello. And Travel. Hey guys. And I am.

We as the Femin Revolution released a Last year, twenty twenty five. Called the twelve agreements for any of the voting. And this is a six-month course. You could take it faster or slower. That lives on our Patreon we'll make sure to include a link. But it goes over twelve different agreements that you can hold. and really carry with you in life not just your FLRs, but that will support you in your femdom dynamics as a sub and also as a man navigating this wild world.

I was recently on call with Traveler and he was saying that he had been working very closely with the first agreement and had had some pretty Transformational results from this agreement that he wanted to share with us, the femrev goddesses, but also you listeners. So let's dive in. Traveler, what inspired you?

It's been a really interesting journey for me, especially coming back to the 12 agreements after taking it initially as the course was being developed and going through each of those agreements. And kind of sitting with it and processing it. And then now returning almost to do it a second time, but with now a different understanding of it. And as I've moved through my journey, I've really come to see agreement number one, which says I will be impeccable with my word.

as the foundation upon which every other gr agreement is predicated. So if you're not holding agreement one. You can't do any of the others. They simply cannot be And I think that goes for anything in life, not even just an FLR, not even romantic or any type of relationship that you have with another human being, these agreements can apply in some way or Including Yes, absolutely. Especially with yourself. And I think I I'm glad that you said that because.

I think you cannot be honest with someone else if you're not honest with yourself first. And so really and truly these agreements do start with yourself before you can ever hold that agreement with someone else.

I looked up the uh definition of impeccable, and it says, in accordance with the highest standards of propriety or fault. And I think this agreement doesn't But it does mean that you have to be honest with where you're. And something that I've moved through more recently, or really come to realize, is the idea that you can lie to yourself. And in fact I s I saw a quote the other day. A lie starts with lying to yourself first, before you lie.

And it's such an interesting concept to consider that you can lie to yourself. And it arose over a conversation that me and you where I was processing and moving through a lot of anger that was coming up in my life. Some regret about the past and some mistakes I had made. And I remember putting in the vent That I had this anger coming up and it I said that it surprised me because I've never been an angry person. And you were very quick to call me out on that.

Because if you look at my track record and you look at my history and some of the things that I've been through. That tells a different story than the story that I was telling myself and that I was telling others. So here I was putting projection or trying to say that, yeah, I'm not an angry person. But if you look at my actions, my actions said otherwise. And I think to a degree, I truly did believe it. I truly thought like, oh, I'm not an angry person.

But when I actually sat down and reflected and took what you said to heart and really like looked inward, I realized, wow, I've actually always been an hidden behind that because that's not who I wanted to be. But there's a distinct difference between who we want to be and who we actually are. And sometimes those those waters can get kind of muddied when we're not clear about that. And so Really, when when this when I look at this agreement, again, I think it's it's not asking you to be perfect.

Because at the end of the day, we all have our faults and our challenges and our weaknesses and things that we can and work and improve on. But what it is asking. is for you to be honest with yourself first and foremost with where you're at. And I think that's so important for for growth. Because you can't grow, you can't habits or or patterns if you're not aware of

And if you've got your head buried in the sand and like, oh no, I'm a happy, cheery person. I'm not angry. But then your your behaviors say otherwise, it eliminates the possibility for.

Yeah, we can only step forward steps forward from where we have to be able to take the next steps from where we are to get to whatever that destination is that we want to get to. And I'm just gonna I was talking with Essie not too long before we sat down to record about my experience tree climbing recently. And as you're speaking, traveler, I'm picturing being on a tree and

Thinking I am halfway up the tree when I'm just at the beginning, and thinking what move I'm gonna make halfway up the tree to the next spot. And that really doesn't matter until I get there. What matters is where I am and that I am. making moves that will get me there. But I have to actually look at what I'm working with and work with what I've got to get to that point. 'Cause I'm just starting up the tree. I'm not in the middle. Not yet.

Tree is man. Also, I want to add a quick little side note. I didn't call you out on your anger thing from the vented channel. I just want to be clear, because in our Discord we do have a channel where you can vent and you can put things down, things that you need We have a rule, and the rule is you can only ask someone is there more or tell them.

And you cannot see something that someone put in the vented channel and take it to the DMs or bring it up in any other channel unless they specifically say in My DMs are open. That's your space to just vent it, let it go, and practice asking for So it was actually on a call. So I I clocked it there, obviously, but I'm not that's your event. I'm not leave it, let it let it do its thing. But it was

that that came up and you mentioned it and I then since you said it to me, I was like, okay, now's my chance. Yes. Absolutely. That is that is correct. And something that you've said before that I always come back to because I think it's so beautiful and holds so much truth. We are mirrors for each other in relationship. And that's kind of the beauty of Especially a dom and sub relationship, but really any relationship.

is there's things that I'm not going to be able to see as clearly when I'm in it versus when you have a different perspective, you're able to see things sometimes more clearly. And you're able to reflect those truths back to me. And that's yeah, that's exactly what you did in that moment was. processing this anger and and going through this and that opened a discussion. And something I won't I won't sorry, go ahead. I might be I'll remember it. What were you about to say? Okay.

Something that I wanted to share. I I will say it does sound a little woo-woo or out there, but I just challenge you listener to hear me out and perhaps you might uh find something that you But there's a Piece of stoic wisdom.

Essentially, we are not our thoughts, we're not our emotions. We essentially exist outside of that. And we have a body, we have a brain, we have. this lens of consciousness that we see reality. When you get to a place where you can separate yourself from your thoughts and feelings and emotions. and really see them from a different perspective and realize that it's something that we have.

And you start to realize that again, our consciousness is essentially a lens in which we are seeing the world. It becomes very clear to me that when we are dishonest, it's essentially Causing distortion. So now we're not seeing things clearly and we can't operate clearly. Essentially everything in our world and this uh universe exists as a vibration. Vibrating, it's moving, and we essentially exist as energy and vibration, and that leads to form, which is. experience our world.

And so I think It's extremely important that we prioritize truth and honesty at a very high level. because otherwise we can't we can't see the world clearly and then it also sows kind of chaos for other people because if we're not being honest with ourselves, we're not being honest with others, they can't see things clearly and it just becomes this whole mess. I think that's actually the root cause for a lot of a lot of turmoil and chaos in the world.

is there's just so much misinformation and so much dishonesty and and so many people are kind of lost in that uh I don't even know the word for it but they're lost in not seeing things clearly. And so with that mindset is is why it's it's really been important to me to prioritize honesty. And there is a uh a scientific study done by Dr. Masaru, I think is how you pronounce his name, uh, that I find really fascinating. And essentially, I'm gonna pull up, I found Blurb about it.

So essentially he did uh a series of experiments exploring the effects of human consciousness on water. And in the experiment, water was exposed to these positive affirmations or emotions. And he found that when frozen, they form these really intricate and symmetrical, aesthetically pleasing crystals. Uh these were not only clear, but also displayed a remarkable size increase compared to those formed when water was exposed to negative influence.

And if if you look at the picture, there's one that shows love and gratitude. And it's this very beautiful, well-formed crystal uh next to one that says uh you discuss. And it just looks kind of chaotic and a mess. Whether you believe that effect or n or not, I think it's telling about how powerful our words and our thoughts.

emotions can be on the outside world. And I can, you know, just only imagine if if that's what those words do to water, you know, how does that affect our body and and how does being dishonest affect basically our whole lives and and how we perceive the world and how we how we feel. mentally and physically and energetic. I I would um waiver that it has a huge impact.

Mm-hmm. Agreed. This I love that experiment so much and it always makes me A kid again for the reason well just because of where I heard. Yeah. Not my grandpa, his father actually. So my great grandpa ran a very similar experiment with plant. Because I don't know, I guess he had already had this feeling like this makes a big difference. So we had trees. And he would he would always go out and talk to So I think that's where it came from, is he would always be speaking to his plants.

And so he ran the experiment where he Said beautiful, sweet, loving things sing to one tree, and then the other one he was a And very much like the experiment. Yeah, you you saw the difference. And the one that he was awful to withered and got sick. And the other one. It's something that I mean you can all do this experiment at home and there's the experiment you can run with rice. Just cook some rice, put three jars, do nothing to one, say beautiful things to the other, and say

I saw this in action at a hostel in Chile. And same amount of time and one was moldy. One looked like how you would expect with rice and the other just a And then with the honesty piece and this is where as it Just as a human, I think it hurts when I hear people lying to themselves, but especially in the feminum context as a Dom, when I hear a sub saying something that is it's twofold negative and untrue about themselves.

It just it hurts. And I can only do so much to convince you otherwise. Like part of you has to be willing to look at why you might be saying those things and be willing to See yourself different. That is a process. You can't overnight you know, you can't think I'm really stupid. You know, can't think I'm stupid and be telling yourself you're stupid.

for years and then one day just be like, I'm super smart. I'm the smartest person that ever lived because you might actually be lying to yourself in that context as well and even feel like Where in the other contexts maybe the lie has gone on so long that you really feel it and it feels more true, but you might just instead

be willing to stop saying that, stop saying anything of the sort. Um not I'm stupid and not I'm the smartest thing in the world. Just I am myself and learn how to love who you are that like in that moment. And if you feel stupid or like incompetent in certain areas, put some work in there if you actually care about it. If you care enough about it that you're putting yourself down, you probably care enough about it to put in some effort and change the

Yeah, it hurts. It hurts to hear you, listener, traveler, you as well, say things about yourself that are painful to hear and doubly so true'cause it's like this burden that whether you see it or not, I believe you're choosing to pick it up and carry it and make life harder with it. And we might all have those things.

And I think that's part of life's process to be able to at some point take inventory and be like, Oh yeah, what was I doing? I can put that down. Um and that takes some real honesty. That takes like getting very real with yourself and sometimes that takes Somebody you love looking at you and being like, what the heck man? Why are you doing this? I've had those moments.

Um even with the FemRev ladies or where they I know they watch me keep putting the rock back in my backpack and be like, no, it's my burden to carry. It is just like this. But we we can we can't just stop you, push you down, unload your backpass to the right. Is just as important. The rock in there.

It's something that I've I've found and this is in part what really s inspired this conversation. The path Several months have been a really potent uh period of growth in my life that has been really beautiful. And I've come to recognize that. There's this this force between the the masculine and feminine. Me as as a man, as a sub, as a masculine creature, when I am lying to myself, when I am dishonest, when I'm not living truthfully.

It's like we've all tried to put two ends of a magnet together and it physically repels each other. And that's exactly what happens between a man and a woman. When you, as a man, are not being honest with yourself and you're not living in truth, you're literally pushing away the women. because women, especially the caliber of women that we're talking with here that are are truly divine feminine creatures that are living in truth. you you become this repulsive energy. Reporting.

Strong. Maybe also repelling. Yeah, repelling. Okay, yeah, maybe maybe that's a better word. But and it's it's um it's uh Yeah, it's it's like energetic. It's not even it's not something you can fake or like choose, like it physically. And and please correct me if I'm wrong. But I think it it It um like a woman's nervous system, she's not gonna feel safe around you, she's not gonna feel attracted to you, and so it creates this. energetic expense for her to overcome that.

pour in love and support to you. Because I look back to when me and you first started working together. I was in a really bad place. And while I was somewhat honest about it. I wasn't completely honest. And I was really and truly lying to myself about how bad of a position I was in. And so when I came to you, I'm sure you recognize that. And so it You had to spend energy to go into those places with me and I'm sure it wasn't comfortable and it wasn't it wasn't always fun to do that.

And that's I don't think that's a problem at all. I think that's a really beautiful thing to have relationships where others care enough to invest. The only thing that I would clarify there is maybe just more energy than might have been necessary. Because if you were resisting part of yourself, but also wanting to walk toward And I'm I'm like, yeah, let's walk towards it, you know. Each step of the way, if each step of the way is like a fight.

you in that obstacle or you in that part of yourself and I'm there for it, even just It's mentally, emotionally just exhausting and draining to be exposed to something. Especially for an extended. And again, not to say that's not worth it,'cause we did that. We did that for a reason, but I do think it is yeah, the only distinction I wanted. But what we can do in those moments. just being more clear and more honest is it's almost like we're budgeting. Like we're we're able to budget.

More intention and a lot more realistically actually, because there's less surprise. On the way there. And that's Like, actually, this is probably gonna be a lot of work, you know, and we can sit down and make that plan and go do it, you know, without maybe. Side quest monsters. They had to fight on the way to the main bus.

And it it just makes me so grateful that you were willing to just spend that time and energy and effort because I can definitely in reflection see that there was there was times where Inability to be honest with myself and my actions did push you away. And I was, you know, longing for that closeness. But I until I was willing and able to take responsibility for myself. It pushed you away. And the beautiful thing that I'm really seeing just tenfold happen in my life.

is as I've started to step up and really take responsibility for myself, for my actions, for my words, for everything that I am. And I hold myself accountable and I prioritize the truth and being honest and truthful to my word, it's the opposite effect that we were just talking about, where now there is this magnet. Now there is this draw to connection. And I've even found some of our more recent calls have uh felt more playful and live.

Bye. you seem to open up more and even direct the conversations into a more playful manner when I am holding myself accountable. I I I can't speak for every sub, but I think it's fair to say that most subs like crave that playful energy, that that connection with a woman. And you cannot get there if you're not being honest with yourself, if you're not holding yourself accountable, if you're not being impeccable with your word.

My message to our listeners is: this is the starting block, this is square one, this is where everything else builds upon the. And for me I kind of identified what I consider to be like the three pillars of of masculinity, what I I try to strive for, and that's truth, responsibility, and discipline. I think what separates a boy from a man are the second and third thing is responsive.

You know, when you're a child, you have parents that are responsible for you as you're learning, as you're growing, as you're maturing. But at some point, as you become a man, as you step into manhood, is you have to now take responsibility for yourself. There's not a parent. There's not someone else taking responsibility for you. You are responsible for yourself, for your actions, for what you do.

And then second is discipline. Again, as a kid, you have a parent that's saying, oh, you need to go brush your teeth or you need to eat your vegetables. You need to do this, you need to do your homework, you have that that force that's holding you accountable, where at some point you have to again take responsibility and hold yourself to that level, that standard or that discipline. And I think there was There was a long time where I was

make these commitments to you, whether it's I'm not gonna drink or I'm not gonna, I'm gonna be chased. And I would mostly follow through, but then I would slip. It's like can you honestly say you're holding that commitment? Sure, you went You know, in one week he only drank one time. But that wasn't the commitment. The commitment was I'm not gonna drink, not I'm gonna drink less. I wasn't Wasn't necessarily outright like if you had asked me if I had a drink, I would be honest.

I was almost being deceitful to try and paint this picture of, yeah, I'm I'm being sober and I'm I'm doing what I need to, knowing. that I'd slipped up or knowing that I wasn't chased or I had had a And in my mind, I was telling myself, oh, I used to drink every single night. So, you know, one drink isn't a big deal. But that's not being honest. Yeah. And I think especially you as a very intuitive woman, you could see straight through it. Whether I said something or not,

Yeah. to say something about it just so you know and if it wouldn't come out be like I guess I gotta My mama taught me that if you're not telling the truth your line. So like to hold something You know it needs to Withholding withholding the truth is lying. I can't remember what she called it. Yes, exactly. Yeah. And that was That was kind of a hard truth to uh recognize within myself that I was here I was claiming to be an honest person, but I was I was lying.

holding the truth by omission, like you guys just said. And But like women get a lot of slack for being all paranoid. Oh my gosh, if XYZ then it must mean and something big and dramatic, right? But Thank you. I think that we're like that for a reason. And not that I would get paranoid But I can watch the feminine in me be like, if he's not telling me the truth about something like this, if this is the pattern when it's something small, what does it look like when it's something big?

And so there's no security or trust in the

Until there is, until we can see that like those foundational bricks are in place. And we can count on them to be there for something bigger. It can hold more weight because the work is there. It's not something hollow. Yeah. Yeah, so the you know, women. Women will be women, but I think And even just for the pressure that it puts on those small things for all of us, but in in this case on you and men. Yeah, actually it matters. If you withhold on something small.

So the importance of the honesty and the transparency and the communication, it's there. It's always there. I know there is Me, me specifically, I'm I'm really bad at hiding things. I think it's written all over my face. And when we would jump on a call together without even saying a word.

if I had been holding true to my commitments or if I had been I'd been messing up because it was you you saw through that bullshit. And sadly had I come to you and said, hey, I've I made this agreement, X, Y, Z. I'm trying my best, but I have slipped up here and here. It could have been that much lighter conversation, maybe even playful. And very trust holding.

Yeah, and yeah, very trust building and could have been something lighter and maybe even playful where you might give me a hard time versus when I took it to where I'm trying to hide and pretend like I'm doing my best. That eliminates the possibility of it being something light and playful and now turns it into the heavy, energetically draining thing that then has to be a Well it goes back to the difference between a boy.

Because kids hide and lie and aren't straight up with the things that maybe they knew that they wanted. Whereas like a man or an adult. By the way, this is probably a whole other topic of conversation, just podcast in the future. I find it very funny that when you said, yeah, the difference between a boy and a man, and there was the discipline and the responsibility piece. And I would I would say how a man relates to that also determines whether he's a fantasy sub. So not even a real sub.

Or like a genuine. Like the fantasy subs want the woman to take on all this responsibility. They want her to dictate. How disciplined he is and punish him when he's not. And it's just this offloading of what a man needs to step into to It's men who don't want to grow up. It's Peter Pan. Where, you know, a great sub, the best subs, in my humble opinion, are the ones who are disciplined.

because it serves. They know that they are also responsible for taking care of themselves so that they can take care of their dom. And they readily accept the responsibilities that they have. Because it's through doing that the woman or the dom in this case is free to be in her feminine and in her gifts and share that in the relationship. And there were will for sure be some responsibilities that she will love to take. 'Cause like that's our jam and we love it and it's gonna be unique.

But the ones that are not my jam or that I don't want to take on for you, I need you to see. And take responsibility. I don't want Or fake subs or fantasy only subs I want. real men who offer something of value, who offer their strengths, who offer who put in the work to make sure that it's valuable and it has ground, that they have feet to stand.

'Cause how else are they gonna follow me if they can't walk the walk and come down to their knees when I tell them to? So yeah. I can't speak for everyone, but I know for me personally. You know, no no kink shaming. I'm sure there's people out there who are into this the whole

the whole mommy thing. But for me, one of the biggest killers of attraction between a man and a woman is if she has to And I can think of specifically an incident between me and you where I was being immature and not taking responsibility for myself. You uh he basically dragged me across the room and And in that moment, I felt like a little child being scolded by his mother. And it completely killed all any attraction between me and you. Like it it was not a fun experience.

It was Can we appreciate the fact that like How a man shows up'cause in that moment I'll I'll speak for Depending on how you're showing up. So in that moment, you're either showing up as a man or showing up as a And if you're showing up as a little boy, have two choices. Treat you like one. or walk away.

up in a more responsible way. So it's like that pattern I mean I'm sure it can start at any point in that cycle, but if as a man listening Or hopefully if you feel like you're not being treated as a man, there are probably ways that you could show up more like one so that you're not

Essentially'cause it it's almost like forcing a woman's hand. If you show up in a particular way she only has limited options and you might not I mean you might actually but if you don't like either of those options do something different. As you've started showing in, you know, a more mature way yourself traveling. You are single. 'Cause I'm I'm free to play with other parts of my

personality and energy because there's room for it. It's not like, all right, I pretty much can do X or Y. There's not even Z right now. Right. It's been really beautiful. And just to see you connect the dots in real time too. Like, oh okay, so if I X then she'll Y. If I boom yeah. Absolutely. It's I agree. It's it's been a beautiful experience. And again, I just come back to the gratitude that I have for you for going into those places with me and sticking it out through some challenging times.

Because there was, yeah, especially at the beginning, there was a period where I was I was pretty childish and I was uh pretty immature and I resisted Concept. Like I I wanted to pretend like I was You know, I'm a tough guy. I'm a real boy. I'm a real man. But that was that was a lie. That was I wasn't being honest with myself to my own death. And it took your reflection and a little bit of fire to help.

kind of move me in that direction. And of course I still had to walk the walk. But at the end of the day, you can't you can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. And so it took my willingness ability to reflect and go inward and to make those changes. But it it again this whole conversation we keep coming back to it wasn't until I could be honest with myself that hey maybe I'm not as mature as I like to think. Maybe I do have some room to grow here.

maybe I am acting immature or or holding these patterns. It was only when I could be honest about it and recognize it that then I could do something. Because until until you do that, you can't you can't change a pattern that you're not one aware of and two that you're not honest. Made a world. World of the just the ways that I interact with the world and I interact with other people and especially the way I interact with women. It's I've noticed a distinct difference.

Trying to think of how to say this without like I don't mean this in What's the word? arrogant way, but I've noticed more women seem to be attracted to me. More women are initiating conversation with me. Or I had a waitress at a restaurant the other day that was very openly flirting with. Yeah. caught me by surprise because that hasn't happened in a long time. And a friend that I was with, even um, she commented on it.

I feel like the waitress is really hitting a We kind of laughed about it, but I think it's telling and the fact that When you step up and you live your life by those those three pillars that I talked about, truth, responsibility, and discipline, you become more attractive as a man. to the feminine, to women. It creates that magnetic attraction versus the when you're being immature and and not taking responsibility, it has the effect of repelling.

And so just just seeing How distinct that difference has been in my life over the past couple of months has been really cool to see and experience. And

And this is again for you listening. This is the first agreement. And it's the foundation and it's taken traveler this far. So there's a lot that you can dive into in that Twelve Agreements course that this was where it was birthed from is wanting to give you something that could support and sustain you and nourish you through. through the tough stuff and the beautiful stuff. Um and we don't necessarily need to

be there one-on-one, though we can be, but just something that you can have and work with as you're ready for it and take all the time that you need. And if you're listening to this and Or taking the twelve agreements course. And it's resonating with you and you want to dive in deeper, you could always pop into the Discord and start a conversation. I'm sure traveler and other subs who have taken the 12 agreements would be happy to.

You could start a conversation on Patreon where we host it. You could also book a call with myself or with Essie. Get support on any of these, get feedback. Deep dive, like bring us bring us your questions. Ask what you need and we're here. And my hope has been and will continue to be that these agreements can support you. In FLR, in all of your Femdim relationships. Even more importantly with your Through life,'cause F L R

is sitting in the bubble that is your life. So if your life is better for it, your relationships Yeah, and I'd I'd also just like to reiterate that these don't just apply to a DOM and sub dynamic. Obviously, that's the context in which we're sharing. but they definitely apply to any relationship. And I think Me as a man, I I like to be close and have that genuine deep connection with the feminine, with with women. And just just to see how just agreement number.

Has made a tremendous impact in my interactions and my relationships. has has been really beautiful. And it's it's really great to get that feedback to see other people in my life where I've I haven't told them. But for them to bring it up to me to say, hey You know, one thing that I've I've been doing is is going to the gym and

holding myself accountable and disciplined on I'm going to the gym every day, whether I want to or not, I'm gonna do it. And the results speak for themselves. This isn't something you can face. Okay. The results will speak for themselves when you commit yourself to being truthful, when you commit yourself to being a man of your word.

Might not happen overnight, but you will see results. You people will notice the the change. You are going to feel different. They're going to experience you different. And women in particular. Are likely to feel safer around you because they know that when you say something that you mean it, that you're going to follow through. There's safety in that. Mm.

In my early 20s, I was wild and irresponsible and immature. And so if we went out, you know, we're just as likely to end up back in bed at eight o'clock as we were to end up in the back of a And that that wild difference sure could be exciting, but it's it's not safe. It's not. Chaos. Whereas now that I've put in time

And holding myself responsible to the agreements that I've made, not only to myself, but to my Dom and my other and other people in my life. Now my word carries more weight, it's more grounded. she knows I'm speaking to my Dom creatrix. She knows that when I say something, I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna follow through. And that it's not just this, you know,

promise rooted in fantasy because I think that's what she wants to hear, but it's actually no, hey, this is this is my heart, this is what I'm offering. And it does hold weight and it does It was actually it it made me smile. I Have been talking to a girl recently. And we were talking on the phone. couple of weeks ago and she asked me, she said, Who taught you how to speak to women? Bye. Oh yeah. Is this the time that the disclosure happens? Emma. Yeah, yeah. I just can't.

Yeah. But possibly one of the most incredible like feedback or compliments that I've ever gotten from a woman was in the same conversation. She said my nervous system feels really regulated. Oh yeah, that is a great compliment though. I I was just like, I was speechless. I was like, I don't know what to say. Like, that's I just felt like I'm succeeding as a man. Like that I felt I felt so As a sub, but as a

You know, that's again, that's not something you can fake. The fact that her nervous system felt safe. To the point where she brought it up and like made that comment. That's the proof and the pudding that putting in that work, holding myself to that. that standard of truth of responsibility of discipline has a uh mistake has yeah exactly yes thank you has a tangible effect in my relationships and

So this is step number one. You can't do any of the others until you get this one down. And I think that's that's why it's agreement number one. It's the foundation upon which every other agreement is stabled.

Agreives, you're here. Also so cute. Oh my gosh. If only you guys could have seen Traveler's face when he's like, I don't know what to say. He has both of his hands on his cheeks. I'm succeeding as a man. It was just so That melts me. Mm-hmm. Not just that you're accomplishing this, but yourself like you It's such a it's so great to be here and to hear you sharing this.

Yeah, always a treat to see you guys um back and forth. And for me, it's really inspirational to like what is possible when you are so devoted to the dynamic like as a Dom. Really? And yeah, it's just such a gift to be part of it. I agree. From my own position, it really I've said this a few times. in the past week. That's how important I think it is. And I might have even said it on another podcast at A sub told me

He had just gotten out of a business meeting and that they were talking about success. And they said, Oh yeah, there's like all these different qualities that are linked to success, but there's only one So you can have all these other qualities, that's great, but that doesn't necessarily mean you're going to be successful. The one that really matters is resilience. And you have that, traveler. You do. There were so many times where I saw you get knocked down by life, probably more than anything.

And even how you related to getting knocked down. Sometimes you knock yourself back down later. You'd like you'd like throw your Oh my God, you know. But You'd get back up and you'd get back up and you'd get back up. And there were times I know I I had to deliver. And there would be even in me like this tinge of almost like unknown of like, we'll see how he handles this. You know, like that could be enough for him to be like, I don't know if I can handle like that flavor.

that type of care, it stings a little bit, you know? But you would get And that doesn't mean it was in the very moment you'd be like, Oh yeah, everything makes sense. Everything's okay. You had to go through the field. You did. Every time you fell, I watched you go through. That resilience. And every single time I don't think you fell. will knock wood for you, but I think like you you fell further in the beginning and then over time you had built a foundation

as far when you fell. You would work on the foundation a little bit more. Next time you fell, you would And I've watched you do that over years. And now you're you're standing a lot taller than you. a lot more happy than I've seen you and like genuinely happy than I've seen you and maybe ever. Like there were times you'd be you'd be happy but it'd be And it swings.

But there's real happiness that holds you even when you're low. There's still a foundation of acceptance and love and this like inner joy to even be alive to be experiencing the low. It's very beautiful. So you have that resilience and listener. I hope And if there's anything that you can develop, I think we all owe it to ourselves to strengthen that part. Because that's what carries us through. That's what gives us the space to develop anything else that we And be honest with yourself.

You already have all that response. I think so. Okay. That's my PN.

Wow. Wow, I think I wanna wrap this episode here, but on the next Traveler, would you be open to talking with us about how your life changed when Like be on like and this connects to the honesty piece because you had to be honest with yourself about where you were and what you needed to let go of and yourself through to the other side. And that is an amazing story of transformation and growth that stemmed from that honesty. And I You wanted to share that.

Absolutely. Yeah, that that piece right there might be Let it letting go and Surrender, not being attached, that could be one of the most pivotal things in my entire life. So I'd be more than happy to talk about that. Thank you. This is why FLR. Why like surrender is one of the key words that you will hear over and over and over. And it's not just surrender to your fantasy. Surrender to your Dom. The FLR as far as I'm concerned. I know I have my own unique approach. It is the space to practice.

Because it affects us in every as or it can affect us and support us in every aspect. And life and death are so close. There's always going to be letting go and there's always going to be a birthday. Surrender. If we can't surrender, that process gets really hard, but if we can surrender We can smoke. We should probably not do the whole episode here. We'll save the rest we'll save the rest for the next Thank you, Traveler, for being here. Thanks for having me. Thank you.

And listener, check the link. I will share the 12 agreements course. You can buy it one-off just as the course. I'll share that link. If you want to subscribe to the Patreon, you can do that. You can access the course there too. But I'll give you the link to the full course. And if you are interested in serving either myself or Essie, head to femdomrevolution.com. There's a tab called Our Ladies. That's your directory that has all of our Okay.

We have merch. You're gonna want to check that out too. You'll also find that at fumdomrevolution.com. And if you are interested in key holding chastity. Oh, we're doing a cuck theme in there right now. Oh yeah, we are. Likely to do other pink themes in there. Oh yeah. Travelers like, oh. Um there will be more more he's waving his face. More themes rolling through. We will have that posted on the Chastity page if you go to femnome.

You can join at any point. You don't need to wait and you'll see the theme if we're doing But turn over your keys. It is fun in. Alright, we will catch you on the next