Todas Tus Preguntas Answered

to get get two and three. No, no five stars. Because this show is lit. I entertain you, I educate y'all, I keep y'all motivated, and I tell you the truth exactly how you need to hear it. Today, I want to do something a little bit different. I've never done this before, but today I want to talk about UM. I want to talk about y'all. I want to answer all y'all's questions. Is ask Amada is the ask a Mata show? There you go. UM. I had an opportunity of telling you guys, I'm posting it also on my

Instagram and just letting you guys ask whatever question. It didn't matter how intimate, how personal how whatever it could have been. And I was just like, Okay, go ask questions and I will be answering them. And today is the day that I'm going to answer them. But I'm not going to answer them by myself because I wanted to have my team here with me. They are amazing and they're part of my team, behind cameras, in front of cameras, behind the podcast, and in front of it

with y'all. Well, with y'all support. Most definitely I have here today. Alex and Arlene on the Asked Amata episode, how are you guys doing? We're excited we get to listen to the fans questions. I know rights everybody, but I love it, so I want to get right to it because we had a lot of people hit us up with questions. Ama. We had so many people chime in. A lot of them want to know about the baby, but some people they have some they have some questions

about their love life too. Uh. First stup, we've got Layah Nicole, Okay, when are the girls? Do? I know that you haven't shared that necessarily and if you don't want to because it's too personal, Uh, you can hold back if need no, But that's okay. I mean, I'll tell you this much. The only reason why I haven't

said my dude date me. You'll say, like very open and transfering me mama as a Latino a woman culturally my mom is like no, b they say you can't say this and that you know, it's very like the midst of like you shouldn't say when. So that's it's, you know, it's a cultural thing. That's the only reason why I haven't said. So. I'm gonna keep you guys guessing,

And to be honest, I thought about it. I don't know if I want to post the day of like oh my god, my baby is here, or like a week or two later, like oh this is when I gave birth. You know, I don't know how I should do it. I'm still trying to figure it out. That was definitely another question. Will you be posting baby pics on social media? Or are you keeping those babies all

to yourself? Funny No, if you know that, I've been checking out a Cardi and Cardi B. I admire to a certain extent right how private she's been about her son and how she's made sure that you know her baby isn't like all over the media cultural when I think it was the first one, she was really excited

she decided to do it. But there's a part of me that feels like the privacy is important until you feel prepared, especially in this industry, because they're going to be there to judge and you know, just and this is other part of me that feels like, you know, this is the happiest moment of my life, this is the most important moment of my life. I want to share this with the world. So I'm still trying to figure out what's the best way and how I should

go about it, like you know, like old school. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's the only reason why I'm trying to figure out if I should it, if I shouldn't. And I will most definitely. But the question more is like when will I. Well, Lilibeth wants to know if you already have your daughter's names picked out and what are they? Here's another question you may not want to share. Oh yeah, I've been

had these names. Let me tell you something. I had the name of one of them because I was prepared for one not to um since I was like in middle school. I've had the same name. I said the day that I have my son. The day that I have my son, I'm gonna name him Blase Blase. And the whole time I thought that I was going to have a boy, and then I thought, well, I'll probably have a boy and a girl. And then when they

said they're both girls, I said, what a memoir. Thankfully, this name is unisex, so you're gonna have to you're gonna take this name. So I already know, already know one. And then my m chose the other one. So my mom chose the other. The both balls, I guess the second baby his name UM, and I picked the middle of the middle name for both of them. But there was it was complicated because the father for two seconds he wanted to be the one to choose the names.

And then that also brought me to the question of like, is it a cultural thing where in certain countries do the guys pick the names um and their girls? Do the moms picked the him with their boys? Do men always picked the names the women always pick the name? How does that work? Alex? Did you pick your baby's names? So my um, my second child, yes, I picked her name and middle name, so yeah and um, and the

mom was cool. She wasn't tripping or anything. No, no, no, she was just like, you know, yeah, this is this is fine, like this I agree. So was like Myke's wife was cool about it. I don't know if it was because of all the men she was on, but she was cool about it at the moment. So when the other subbice, so, I gave her her her first name in and middle name. Yeah, my husband. We don't have kids, but my husband said that if we have a girl, he wants to name her Denarest, like Denarest

Targarian from Game of Thrones. I'm like, that's local. When a middle name, I feel like I don't know the first especially if it's your first child. You want to name your baby yourself, and it's like it's my first little but so yeah, I know, I know he's probably gonna be so salty when I'm like, the names are nothing, nothing like what you wanted. But these are my first babies and I just want to be able to feel

like I'm, you know, really part of them. So yes, and I'll tell you this much how I can say this, The names are very exotic. It's extra as hell like I am because you already know I'm extras hell and when y'all here, you're gonna be like, ah, hell And I'm like, yeah done. The mom baby. It's another big topic the fans wanted to know is about the dad. Cuddles wants to know. Will you tell your kids who their dad is and is he going to be part of their life? Most definitely I'll let him know. Well,

I'll let the girls know. Yeah, Like, um, you know, this is your dad and that's just what it is. You know, just because things didn't work out with mom and dad, it doesn't mean that we don't love you. We love you very very much. And because we love you very much, you want to be able to be happy and give you all the love you know possible, and that's what we decided to, you know, do things whatever way it is that it goes down. But I

think it's important, especially me coming from a fatherless household. Um, that's like to me, it's so important, Like I don't want to repeat the cycle and not give my girls the opportunity of having that father figure. Now I will give the opportunity. It definitely is up to the father to take advantage of the opportunity because there's only so much as a mother. There's only so much as a woman that you can do. You know, no matter what you do, it's it's it's a partnership thing. You know.

Everybody has to play their part, so I wouldn't hide them from them, you know. Now, will they have a stepfather? Most definitely eventually. You know, I'm guessing that we'll have to do. I'm not by myself forever. I'm not gonna do I'm not gonna be that girl. Okay, you know what I'm saying. I can't be over here to get depressed, finding apart and everybody, everybody is over there, you know what I'm saying, busting it down. No, I'm gonna live

my life. I'm in and eventually find a good stepfather that can represent, and then my girls will know the difference. Blase his dad, Blase is a father, you know whatever. Yeah, that's good. I mean, you know, uh, you're doing your part. He has to do his at some point, he's going to have to pull his weight. Another fan question is what advice would you give to a twenty six year old girl I'm married as well, with no kids. Well to each his own, getting married I think is fine,

But I would say UM, don't have children to your thirties. Personally, don't have children to your thirties. So enjoy those couple of years that you have. I left, UM, travel, live, go, party, have you know, UM explore and the most important part UM, which I'm I kind of learned that in my late twenties, UM, become financially educated. You know, and as long as you still feel strong and you still have the energy to do it, this is the time to put in the work.

I know that everybody wants the party while you're young, but I almost feel like I wish the society would teach us to do it reverse. When you're young, work your ass off like a beast, three or four jobs, everything that you can think of while you're young, so that later on you can enjoy. Yeah, when your body is a little bit tired, Yeah, you're more mature. You know, when you get to that page, we're being home, UM is more fun than going out. Once you get into

that place, now you can enjoy your money. You can enjoy your husband, you can enjoy your children, you can enjoy what really matters in life. So I would say, you know, save up your money, invest your money, become financially educated, find several sources of income, worker ass off. While you're young, enjoy your husband, travel, travel and and go on vacations and cruises, have all all types of

freaky stuff because later on with them kids come. I'm not saying that you won't be able to do it, but okay, it's gonna get You're gonna have to be on mute. It's funny that you say that about vacations because Freddie Prince said something before that when before you got married and had kids, or while you were married without kids, it was vacations. You would go out, explore, have a great time. Now that you go out and or you go away with kids, it's trips. Their trips

and you're hoping you survive. Yeah, they're trips. I don't even have my girls yet, but I can't imagine that. Obviously, life is going to be different. You think about them before you think about yourself. Are they going to be comfortable or will they accept them in certain spaces? Um? Are they to be in the best behavior? So more Jack Golsa, you're when you want to have fun and be free, you're concerned about don't over there? Where are you? And they're so and only that it's not just about

their behavior. You also have to be concerned about the people that surround them. Well, speaking of traveling, do you have plans on raising your kids here in the US or in the d R No, no, no, no, no, no no no, no, no no. I'm having what was that little song? Oh you'll know that song? Girl? Well I can't I can't sing it, but I'll tell you this. I'm having my kids here in the United States of America and no, I definitely want to be able to show my kids both sides. So Sam getting through then

that's dominic. I want my children to most definitely, Um, you know a blur pakutel that you better not okay before I booked that ask you're gonna learn to speak Spanish? But because I was born here in this country as well, But um, I learned. My mom forced me to learn, and I'm so grateful because it offered me so many more opportunities. So I definitely would like to have my children go to a Dominican republic and spend time there

and get to know your culture. Um races right. Um. Obviously they're going to be studying here in the United States as well. And the one thing I would love to be able to do for my children and my mother wasn't able to do for me, is to also take them out to Europe and take them out to Tripps and give them the opportunity to explore and open their mind and see other things. Unfortunately, you know our parents, uh if you come from an immigrant parents, they did

the best that they could with what they had. But I would love to be able to show them because obviously the more you show a child, the more their mind expands, and the more opportunities and and um creactivity and many of the things come about. So I want to be able to do that for them. Are you gonna want them to be in show business? Someone? They don't gonna be. You're gonna be showing them around the world. They're gonna be seeing you work and you are I mean,

you're an entrepreneur, you are in demand. Yeah. They don't have much of an option, so they will be. Um. I I think that in the beginning, I already have a talent agency for my baby is already and they're not even born yet. So like whenever you need a baby for like an ad a movie, I got two of them pick one. Um, I want to be able to create you know, their savings account will they already have the little money, and I won't force them like

you have to be a singer, you have to be. No, But I am going to bring you into the industry if I see that you're talented, because some kids you can bring them and they don't like it. So I am bouncing side and wells in side, like you just don't got it. If you don't got it, which I doubt it because your mother is fabulous, Okay, then you're not doing it. But if I see a little potential, a little sassy and you're good for this, I'm gonna put you in there. There's also there's also a flip

side to that. You gotta be careful too. They could rebel against you for wanting to what you're wanting them to go there, and then that's that, you know, World War No. But you know what I think, My mom always says that your children will become what you want them to be. And in the aspect of you lead them, you guide them, right, you guide them to become those things. Uh, Serena, Serena Williams, Okay, yes, you you're you want to you

show that you were talented it. But they gave you an opportunity to play with that ball on that rack. And yes, you have to have discipline if you like it. You have to force them to learn how to be disciplined in a certain areas so they can be successful. The same thing happens if you play basketball. Yes, I'll give you the opportunity of playing with the ball you like it, I'm going to force you into learning how to be disciplined so that you can become the best

at this. So if you just leave your kids so just let them do whatever they want, you're never gonna get the result that you want. I'll let you choose. I'm gonna give you many opportunities. Play piano, play la fla violin, jump around, pay with doctors, think whatever. I see that it catches your attention, and you show me that you're good at it, and this is what you want to do. I am going to do my best to force you into being disciplined and becoming the best

at that. That's pretty cool. Well, if they're gonna be anything like their mama, they're gonna be us. Um, we did get some, we did get some career questions. Who is Bonita wants to know. I'm scared to put myself out there as an artist. I need advice. How is it like for you? You're scared to to do she wants to put herself out there as an artist. If you're scared, yeah, right, there already lost. So change plans.

Look for something else that you're not scared, because in this life, if you feel anything in life is scary, it doesn't matter what it is. Everything in life is scary. Going to war is scary. But if you wanted to do it, okay, well here here you are. You know, doing nails is scary. You might cut somebody's finger. Doing everything in life is scary. This world is not meant for scary people. It's just not you know what, screw it.

I'm just gonna go ahead and do it. And even if I messed it up, guess what, I had the guts to do it. At least I did it. You know what I'm saying. It's better to regret having done than regret not not doing. So you can't be scared. What's the worst that can happen? They say, oh, your music sucks, so what that was one person out of seven billion human beings on this planet. Oh well, you keep pushing, you keep trying, you keep perfecting your craft.

That's what it is. And sometimes I'll tell you this much. In the entertainment industry, a lot of times, it's especially now, is not about your talent. It's not about how talented you are. It's about your work ethic. It's about how hard are you willing to work in comparison to others. There's a lot of people that are extremely talented, but because fim tanto of their talent, they don't put in as much work as a person that has less talent,

who's out here hustling and in people's faces all the time. So, and there's a lot of jealousy too out there, a lot of unwanted jealousy. Instead of celebrating each other as humans who are who are striving, there's a lot of jealousy. Yeah, but that's always gonna happen. Because I wish that we live in the world where people support each other and they weren't jealous. But that's just not how it works. We have a lot of envious people that are waiting for you to fail and just to laugh and be

happy and have joy. Off that. So whatever you do, you can't be scared slat up in people's d m s. Keep doing music, UM, and the question shall always be how bad do you want it? Because if you want it bad enough, you're gonna figure out a way to make it happen. I like that. I'm out. I got a big one here. Now we all know your situation with your kid's father. Yeah, let's move it back one generation. Your dad. We've obviously seen him on the show before, right on your show on TV. Um, is your dad

going to be part of your children's life? Alito is not going to be around at all. You don't even want that title for him? I mean, what's going on there? He can have the title. I don't have a problem you're having the title, but I just you know, like you can like he can see them because he got ass like look at them. But do I want you to be all of my baby's face now as zone?

Only because I've realized that I I gave you the opportunity of fixing you know, first of all, you can't fix it, but I gave you an opportunity of giving me some type of closure of of you know, putting a band aid over our past situations and moving forward, and you haven't taken it vantage from You haven't taken advantage of it properly, you know, if you haven't been able to shown me that. And I am literally your child and I you know, unfortunately we even like resemble

each other. You don't have that connection. I don't expect it to have it with my children now. When I had my gender reveal, I was told that he was crying on the low, like he was wiping off his tears and stuff, and he didn't let me see it. He's very prideful. But they told me, oh my god, your dad was crying when they announced, you know, the sex of the babies. And they told me, well, there's a possibility that you know, he's regretting that he wasn't there for you, and he might be trying to fix

it with the girls. If I were to see that, like you weren't a good father, but you're an amazing grandfather your family, I would be like, okay, when at least it's a totally different feeling. I think that there's there's a sort of a self redemption that goes on in someone's mind. I've seen this a lot in families where daughters father, Yeah, nobody, nobody gets along. But when those smaller kids come around, you know, you have you have something incredible going on there. Yeah, I think that

that's what it will probably be. But I'll give him a chance. I'm very flexible. I like to give people chances in life. So that's great. I'm gonna ask you another question here. How did you feel when you when you found out that you were having more than one kid? Like, did your mind blow up? This came from uh, it's dot salth su and I messed that all up. But you know, so yeah, they they they want to know, like, how was your thought process in this? It's one thing

like yeah, I'm pregnant, you were having multiple kids? Here? You know that it took me a long time to understand and realize that I was pregnant in the first place. And then nonetheless that because you also have tonderstand I come from having a miscarriage and in my mind going through that process of oh my god, I lost a baby this and that, you know, unexpectedly, but I lost a baby. Um that trauma to them being like, yeah, you lost one baby of the three, and I'm like,

of the three. What, Oh, there's still two more in there. You know. Just going through that process alone was a lot. And it took me a lot a long time to even understand that I was pregnant because I wasn't even showing. I just really started showing not too long ago, and I'm about to pop, so um. So it was a lot. Was that like a mata when they told you that you had lost one of your one of the three babies?

I was, I was, you know what at the moment, it was just because I felt like I was having like a long period and I was cramping and stuff like that. So I didn't even realize that I just feel like something is off, but whatever, I think it was knowing afterwards that I was with child and I lost it, that was the you know, I was about to be a mom. It was hurtful, you know, and you love that you love that baby almost like if it was already in there, like just the thought of

I had life in me. And it was very hard and I cried a lot, and I kept saying why me? And I was just upset. And then I moved the white me into God, like what are you trying to tell me? What? Because in every experience, there's a lesson. So what do you want me to do? What's the sign? Like you do things for a reason, you do things for a purpose. What was the purpose of this? What am I supposed to learn? And sometings? Is to help you grow mature? It could be for many reasons. So

that's what it was. And then God was like, Okay, when I'm blessing you with two girls, and you're gonna be able to handle it on your own, and I am gonna in my mind, I feel like He's going to provide all the things that I need, all the sources that I need to be able to be the best mother I can be for two people. So it's hard, Bettle, you know, I think it's gonna make me even a better person, a better mother, a better entrepreneur, or a

better many things. Speaking of those two little people in your belly, I am Sandy Vice wants to know do you have any morning sickness? And what are the babies craving? At the moment? Everything I am eating everything in sight. Oh my god, I've gained so much weight. I'm getting twenty seven pounds already. Ah, bettle most of it, they say, it's just the baby on the tummy. But my fast is getting thick, my booty is getting real juicy, and my face, my cheeks is getting around and I'm like,

it's all right, it's it's pregnancy weight man. Like you know, you're you gotta remember your eating for three that's including yourself. So a point when your breastfeed. When your breastfeed, they get it helps you, yea to lose the weight or whatever. But no morning, no morning sickness is anymore. That was like the first trimester. Um, now it's just my back really hurts. My back hurts so much. It's hard to

lay down, it's hard to sit. I'm wobbling now. That that pregnancy walk where you walk side a side like this like a penguin. Okay, that's what I'm starting to do now. Um, I'm really tired. I'm really exhausted. Because if being pregnant with one is tiring, imagine doing two brains, you know, four arms, four legs all day. The girls are much stronger now, so they're kicking and they're doing

this thing. It's really weird, but they do this thing now where you know how the head stretches out the skin and it looks like from one side to the other, they're both doing that at the same time, so it looks like I have aliens in my stomach. They're just like stretched the drop in your inside. Yeah, and I love just watching it happen because it's so weird. But

I'm enjoying. I'm enjoying the process. I'm enjoying it, you know, recording a lot of videos so I can have the memories and taking a lot of pictures and not have to go, you know, baby shopping stuff, trying to learn how to do this. I want to go now to take classes how to breastfeed, labor work, and all these other things. It's a lot of The great thing is that you'll you'll have a midwife to be able to help you. They'll send them to your house too if need.

Especially with COVID, it's been a lot easier for you to be able to get someone to come to your house. I have to do C section. The C section from what I heard, is like thirty five grand and even if you have insurance, you still have to copey cobago. You still have to pay. And it's a little bit more when you have to because even when they have to put them in incubators and all these other things mama has to push through. So you know, it sounds like, oh, babies,

they are beautiful. Babies are beautiful, but especially in this country, it's very much it's an investment. Is an investment? Yeah, it really is. So the last question is coming from me before we wrap up out of here. I'm a big believer in in, like you just said, education, learning the Spanish, learning everything right, all the different languages. I've been very guilty of not sticking to the Spanish heart and costing my my daughters the fact that they can

understand it, but they're not speaking in fluently. For you, Um, when do you think that you'll be throwing them right into the into the firing into school. I sent my youngest one to school, um, at seven months old. They were already they were already in in school that were you know, there's not a lot going there, but they're absorbing everything and she is like super smart, language skills everything.

What what do you what are you thinking? Are you thinking more or less keeping them home with mommy and you are you thinking, you know, education wise? I want to put them directly into something. The thing is that now things also have changed with COVID. You know, before I feel like people felt more comfortable to take them to school early, and now it's like a lot of teachers are not even working anymore. Everything is done online, and I like, I personally like the one on one

physical connection. I want you to ask questions, put your hand up like. I want you to feel comfortable in that space. It's not the same when you're on a computer all day. I think it also makes you like antisocial. It messages up your social skills. It's there's a lot of things you have to look into. But I would love for my kids at an early age to start taking classes most definitely also languages, not just Spanish and English.

But I know that while they're younger is the best time to teach them as many languages as possible and go through that process. So, um, you just wanted at two years old already's new sign language. It look at the legal Everything for kids is what you expose them to their sponge, just expose them to a lot of different things. I want them to go to school early. I just pray that. You know now with COVID, oh it's such a mission. Yeah, we want to catch a break.

Definitely want to do there. Yeah, yeah, I think that everybody's over it and I'm over it too, so um so yeah, let's see, let's see what happens. Last one. I know you talked about that C section, but was that an option for you having a natural birth? So having a natural birth at this moment is not even an option because my babies are breached, meaning like the heads are up and the leg and the booty and the legs are down. So that's not an option at

this moment. Maybe later on they will flip, which I truly doubt. Bato um. I would have loved to be able to push. But then at the same time, I've heard and we'll get you know, you go back the same. I don't want to experiment. They're like going as a

muscle a lot. I don't want to I don't want to hear it, and don't say it rips and don't say one can come out now, and the other one can be like, oh no, I'm not ready to come out yet, and be stuck there for an hour and you have to like double push me that slice me up and get them out, okay, And we're gonna protect the toto because you know what I'm saying, that's a moneymaker. We're gonna protect it, so we're not gonna do it. But with that big said, by the way, guys, I

love when we do these shows. I love when you guys ask questions because I know that it keeps us, you know, it keeps that bond going on, and it makes us feel that we're one and what we're here together. So thank you so much, and feel free to ask as many questions as you want at exactly a Mata on Instagram and also on Twitter. Don't forget to check us out on the YouTube channel. Go to the YouTube channel and write exactly a Mata or go to you

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