Social Media and Dating

I'm single. So how's your love life? What are you doing with your with your according to social media, I'm still in a relationship. Social media did not affect my relationship. You know, everybody lived on social media throughout the whole pandemic. That's all people were on, were on their phones. It is true. I mean social media, it really is a big important part of life. Battle is even bigger when

you're single or even if you're in a relationship. Social media is like it could either make it or break it. So for you and your kind of experience. When don't know, I've had my situations with social media, you know, I mean not just social media. I be on these you know, dating apps, I'm being believe it or not, isn't that crazy? Well, now with your whole new look, I'm out of I've been getting every d M in the book talking about is I'm out of single? With she in a relationship?

What's her status? This is this is breaking news right now. Are you in a relationship or no? I am looking because I still haven't found my husband. Don't give me that. Don't give me the whole Come give me already. Look at this body, Look at me. I get my own money. I'm independent, how that gold and everything. I'm smart all that bitch? Where are you? I mean, I'm saving, protecting my overies from my husband. Well, listen, this is the show is called exactly exactly what I'm on. I'm like,

are you really in a relationship or not? Don't be come on. Okay, So I do have a little boothing or whatever you do, but it's not offish. So though, yeah, you know, I'm still working on it. But I'm gonna

tell you this month though I'm not gonna lie. Social media did put a little, you know, bumps in the road for us a couple of times, because it did make me feel insecure when first of all, I never dig because so I've never looked into his phone d MS now, so now I'm not that type of girl battle I do be looking at the girls that you've been giving likes to. Why are you liking this bitch picture? Are you really micro that type of person you're on

like that? Well? Yeah, I protect with mind and social media. You know, come out. We're very you know, flirtatious. We'll do a little like it, but that's nothing wrong. Okay, so there's nothing wrong with I know, but Latino man can sometimes be very machista as well, So they don't want you to do it, but they'll go ahead and do it if I would be liking a whole bunch of guys and that they know. Because that's another thing too.

Men don't want to feel insecure. You know who to feel some type of way about, And the same thing was for women. We know who to feel insecure with, Like that's your type? Why are you talking to her? And if you're liking her pictures, you're already probably talking her in your m That's it always the case the social media. There's people that are like a million miles away that you're never gonna see. You're just liking the

picture don't like? Okay, So does it bother you if your significant other is liking or somewhat commenting under My situation is completely different. Why you know, I don't care if my if my significant other likes anything. What. We're secure the comments. But I'm different, I'm very different. But I explain what your different looks like? Sounds like be about She might like the same thing I like, so it's a little different. But again, did I get playing? No? Nothing,

She is going to like probably the same. Me and her have the same type. So are you in a relationship, you're married together, you're you know, mingling, you're figuring it out? What's happened? I am in a relationship, okay, And as flamboyant as I am, you are, it is a woman that I'm in a relationship. So you're in a relationship with a woman. Okay, And how does this work? Okay?

Your birthatile? Okay. She may like a tall black man and I might like a tall black man too, you know what, I say what I don't think I'm the only one in the world because I don't know, you know what, as long as you're happy, and I don't even but I love how you just threw it back at me, look back at it. Okay, So so you're so your girl is cool with whatever makes me my wife? He said, your wife say right, get it right, and they'll say your wife is cool with letting you be yourself,

no bound. It depends where being yourself looks like. Explain because I'm not embobbing, but you're speaking on social media that and you're toping here. So I mean we may both like Terry Crews when we may both like I wasn't saying lamar Oldham, but I don't know. You may both like, but that doesn't mean that is it going to happen? Correct? Can't be delusion o here? You know what I mean? Yeah? Yeah, but you're But I love the fact that personally I don't know too much because

this is gonna get new information. Bat I like the fact that you are liberal and you're open with your sexuality, with who you are as a person. That makes me even more confident. And I love the fact that you're being open about it because there's so many people in your situation that feel like I know, so that people don't judge me better. You're a perfect example of you could be whoever the it is he want to be,

but there has to be a level of respect. Respect and talking about level of respect, the same thing goes with boundaries and going back to social media because I'm sure your wife's sees, you know, the things that you post, the things that you do and everything else. When are you supposed to set boundaries when it comes to so to media in the beginning of a relationship, while the relation while you peep things happening, well, it depends, you know,

I'm out. You're an artist, so you do have to put stuff out there promo y R. Right, we're not speaking only fans, but we're not showing all of that. Correct, That's okay, But that's okay, that's okay. I mean, the only thing that you have to protect though that you have to protect it, but the gay that listen one everybody's open eyes. But sometimes you don't want your significant other to be harassed. There's people that are in a

relationship with people that don't live their lifestyle. Get it, Like, my wife is not an artist, is not You have to be respectful. He doesn't like to be posted all the time, got it, you know? But there are men that are like you you know, she can't be hiding

me either. So so when it comes to that, and that goes back into you know, social media and privacy, how much should you put out there and how much should like what should you go and get keep to yourself because these days, I feel like every single thing that happens to you you post on social media. If you're in an accident, in a hospital, whatever, I'm here in the bed, I'm dying just in case you guys

can see me or whatever, even in the toilet. So so, how much when it comes to privacy and social media and being in a relationship or whatever the case may be, what are the lines that you should in crypt It depends on you and your spouse or significant other, partner or whatever it is nowadays, it depends on how much of it do they want. You guys have to come to an agreement, and then, you know, sometimes it's better for your significant other to know first before the whole

world knows. I don't know. I've never really been being on posting my significant other and so to media, I've always been very cautious. That's why no one really knows who I'm dating or who I'm dating. And then as an artist. You also always want to sell up a legal a movie. I'm so sexy, I'm hot, get me. It's not gonna happen, but I see a comfort me. Um.

You know a lot of my sexy pictures. My mom takes my pictures, or my significant other be like, baby, just take me this sexy picture and he'll be like, or the lighting is not good or whatever. So I think social media kinda is a fantasy world. But I will say what I'm not gonna do. So what I'm not gonna do, ladies, But I'm not gonna do my And this message goes for you because most likely your man is in my d M s too. Don't be away here on your social media talking about talking about

the game the love of my life. He loves me so much. You know I am the reason why he breathed and he couldn't live with him. In a second goal said because he means so much to meet meta. I'm very scared of that ASA writing all that crap. And right as students, you post that pitt that picture in that caption, Yo, man is lighting up in my d M where you are? And Hi, can I come check you? What can I invite you to dinner the second, so you have to beat me up. Be careful. Sometimes

it's better to keep things on the low private. I think it is kind of embarrassing. Comes and everyone's posting there's a significant other. You didn't know they were married, they had a family, but then they all pick I like, and in social media it looks amazing in in a perfect world. In a perfect world, that's that's what it is. Social media is a fantasy world where where we sell

what we want people to see. You don't post there when your man cheating on your or when you're girl cheating on your or when he came home late, or when you're stressed out. So I feel like sometimes we even put our own standards based off someone that we may admire or look up to on social media and try to compare our relationships with them. Like me all the time, me that I'm going through the stage in life right now. You don't I see it this, So

here's the tea or whatever. Now every time I wake up and I see my social media and I see everybody getting married and engaged in there. You know, oh my god, you know pregnancy announcement. Now it's talking crack and then we're getting married. Look at this, and maybe that's stupid that how happy she is. Okay, look at me. I'm honest because it's exactly me. You're being honest, I'm being on a spit. Then I also realized that a lot of the times we're just comparing our lives to

unrealistic standards. We don't really know what the hell is, you know. I was when a Rod was always posting j Loo because j Lo lived such a secretive life, like no one knew her personal life, and this guy was like her stalker, like he was like a fan. No, no, Rod was a fan. He was like posting everything about this woman. And I'm like, yeah, yeah, she also posted, but she posted him because he kind of made she felt obligated to post him because he was always posting her.

And I was so aggravated. I was like, why is he always posted j Loo? We love that he was in love and look at them now, though, give us so now that he knew he had a season now that perfect relationship looks weird. No, no, no, no no, the world Jennifer Lopez is a seasonal relationship. It's okay. She renews her license all the time. If you knew. If you know that you're with j loo Ba, you're not gonna be there forever you're there. You know what I'm feeling.

In two weeks your terms up, and I already had my backup planet I've been You think that really happens. I feel like she is like a driver's license, like renewal. And I love and that's okay, because she is enough woman for the world. But I also love the fact that let's admire this part. A lot of people may call her a whole, a lot of people may have negative things to say. She's a great mother, independent the woman, she's an entrepreneur, she has so many great things. She

works out, she takes care of. Let's look at all the positive things as a woman, as a Latina that she's able to accomplish the world. Yes, and the way that she inspires so many other Latinos and Latinos as well. So let's admire that part as well. And I also admire the fact that and she isn't in an unhappy relationship. Now it's obligado, you're not obligated to stay there. Who cares what the world think when you're un yoke. Let's

talk about be an unevenly yoked. I feel like j Lo is always above what she dates, you know what I mean? Reason for that? Jealous, So there's a renown. There's a reason for that. When you are a woman that is as powerful and as strong of a character as she is can be with someone that's too soft better than her. She likes to feel I'm the one in power. I got the background dancer, I got in mess the way I got I got this one. You just think that in this business, if they see you

with someone, they expect you to date them. And a lot of times people are there for a season and a reason. So sometimes maybe they were just meant to be friends, would benefit or whatever to each other. He looked like he could have been a good husband. Look like social media. Look and let me tell you this to Mina and don't say that you see talking about that.

But I don't know if it's true or not. But okay, I had heard has done like this long as list of all the requirements in order to be with her, like I didn't have your password, I didn't give you my security wherever you go, and you can't have more than three drinks and if you're gonna go out to the corner. I need to have my DPS on you to make sure that you get there. And there's cameras in the house just in case you bring a bitch into the house. And I mean, that's what I heard.

She's a lot to you know. It's the same with you. Is going back to social media? Is it okay for you to ask your significant other further password to their social media or you know what's really dumb those joy accounts. But let's say I mean you were in a relationship, I'm out of Stevie request, I'd be like denied. That's so insecure, Like that's so dumb. I don't know who I'm talking to nothing, Like you don't talk to the

two people at the same time. Because yes, if you have your account, if you have your account, I have my account, right and then we have our account. If we break up, the account goals none and everybody's good, nothing ever happened. But I don't even have to go to my page and Sunday leading going all the way to the bottom. They get two years ago now. But if you're my sister and I'm trying to get in contact with you now your boyfriend, I have to ask permission.

It's almost that's the case with a joint account. It's almost like, can you head, by the way, can you tell what I don't joint accounts? Just a password to your phone? Would you give your wife the password to your phone? Help to the nah who you know that type of party? So you wouldn't, So you wouldn't give your password, I would go. So you're basically saying it. If she looks she's gonna fine, Well you know what,

she does know everything. But there is some things that are going to annoy you, Like if a girl sends me a picture of her feet, and then like, what the fun is a girl saying you a picture of her feet? Um? Okay, well that's another conversation. I don't know how they've been trying to lick these tolls. I got the true Spanish. That's another conversation. But sorry, I have never No, I'm lying. I learned out of experience not to look into my significant others, like either social

media or whatever. My oh my god, I'm gonna know I'm not even gonna him blast, but I'll just say that I was in a relationship and um, we were together on a yacht and then he went to go get something, and I was like, he was like, oh no, mentheta. I told him I maybe take me a picture. So when he tak me the picture of my phone died. So I was like, oh no, let's just do it

from your phone. And then when I said, oh, let me look at the pictures to see how how I came, he left to go get a tower against something, and my womanly instinct automatically was that is dangerous. I was there to just look at the pictures he had taken up me on his phone. But his phone was open, and my womanly and said, look at it. Look at that dam open it. And that's exactly what I didn't

when I opened it. That first of all, you couldn't even compare these bitches to me never and you're talking to these kinks and you have an what is wrong with you? So anyways, that was that. And I didn't tell him nothing, and you have to be smart. I knew, and I started, I didn't say nothing. I don't know that. I'm let me tell you something. You said that very nicely. You had that you were like him, and he leaves, say, memento, that was your moment right there. You were like, no,

this is the moment right now, now or never. I'm gonna look at that man's phone and I'm gonna find No, I wasn't even doing that any friends that you know or anything like, because you know, some friends be thirsty, sod. No, no, no no, I didn't look that hard. But you know, it was really weird to me. It was a weird biddle and made me just look at things differently. So Tosa,

and I'm very proud about my melanin better. All the girls that he was talking to were white and blonde hair, So I felt like, so, either you really don't like me and I'm like an experiment to you, or you're just seeking for validation, or you're seeking for something else. So I don't know, I don't know. I mean, it's all good because you're blond, because I can't be blind even if I wanted to. So you're okay with with

open accounts and going through each other's social media. I'm not, And don't say another one from the you know, from the past. I also looked into his phone and I found some pictures of him with another girl to Venezuela. He was gonna recording video in country media. The point is that if you look, you shall find it. Be careful, don't look if you're exactly do the way you said it.

If you're happy with your significant other, Mama, Bobby, don't be looking for stuff because if you look, you're gonna find it, You're gonna be unhappy. You're gonna be unhappy, you're gonna stop, or you're gonna still love. Why not just tell each other? Like, why not just say, listen, this is what I want to do. You know, especially if you're young in a relationship, you're in your early twenties, you know you want to explore. You know you want

to go taste everything. Why not just tell someone? This is how diseases come because you can't tell people you want to keep a secret. Then you're out there exchanging fluids and then everyone sick. How about you just tell me listen. I have to tell you this, whether it hurts or not. But I'm young, and can we explore together? Like? Can we do this together? Put it together? When you stay explore together? What does that mean? That means you and I plus one? But okay, what about if this

person doesn't want to do you and plus one? Then that's not the person for you at the time. Why are you in a relationship if you want to be out look outside of a relationship. What about free bees like the free like the hall passes like free pass like. Once they hear me that you have Christmas standsgiving and fo day, there's no ring, no commitment, then that's it that you're not. No one owns you but God. And that's the problem. Everyone thinks that in their relationship, somebody's

your problems. You approve of that. One day I give you. One day, you're you and in a committed relationship. You said you're asking you. Yeah, you said that you want to be with me for the rest of your life. That means it's you and me and me and you. However, I understand it. If you eat rice and beans every day, one day you're gonna get tired and one day you might want some spaghetty. Okay, we did, Okay, If once a year I give you, I don't want to know

about it. I don't know where you went. I don't want to. Don't tell me. Just go on. I'm gonna let you go on vacation. I'm gonna go on vacation. We're gonna come back and We're gonna let the listeners answer this question. Go to our social media exactly amount of and d m U s and answer that question because I would like to know what the listeners think. I'm curious we should do a point. Would you'll be

okay with that? I'm totally okay with it. But but but I am kind of like hot production works nowadays where they want you to take tests. So like, if you're gonna do my significant other, I need to know that you're also clean because we're gonna be So it's it's a whole registration problems, application fee, all of this. Like if you want to do I need to know that you're one clean, so don't be bringing that's the problem. I don't think that's bad. These days, you can find

a clinic. If there wasn't no diseases, I would have been out here, like out there's ideal. There's a lot of clinics. I'm glad that we're talking about protection though, but there's a lot of places that you can go to get tested real quick and make sure that everything is good. I almost feel like in the beginning of the relationship, no, because I'm in love and that's that dealing is mine. All of that is mine. I'm not sharing my bloot. I don't want nobody. Okay, I will

stab a bit battle bat. I do have to be understanding of the fact that, look, whoever came up with this beautiful fantasy world of you and me and you and I for the rest of our lives is blowney. Our great great grandparents used to be together for sixty seventy years and they used to smash, but they used to do it on the low. Respectfully, don't let me find out. Don't let no bits knock on my door talking about they get a no, don't be having no kids out in the street, which they used to do it.

And then my wife says, no, I'm won't do it. It's not something that like I control. Just just make sure you don't. While that's terrible, I can never give you that advice. I'm like, they can't do it. But doesn't let her know about it? While don't. But that's whack. I think that we have. We've grown so much us going it's it's it's even better. And don't say let me ask you, don't talk about social media or whatever you know. Get the only fans has been get really

popular in the people are struggling out of me. When I get it right, you gotta do what you gotta do. Could you date someone who has an only fans account? Who's you know? Who shows your body for? You know? Bother you what? Ready? Yes? But put your seatbelt on quick fasting your seatblt because I'm gonna tell you if you're out there popping and dropping and stuff on only fans,

ladies and gentlemen. Um, I think that if you're doing this when you started the relationship, and if it's okay with you in a significant other, than it's all right, okay, alrighty then, but yes, if you guys are not in agreement and you're out here showing your Coca Coco to the whole world, and I'm finding out from someone else, and even though the coins are right, where's the integrity there? Though?

So you feel like they if you meet them doing this already, it wouldn't bother you as much because you already agreed to it. But if you find out later on during your relationship, you bother you, right, because I feel, okay, you know what, my little friends say, hello to my little friends. So it's it's unknown. It's a note for me. But but, but but it's got to be in an agree like if you and your significant other agree to this and are okay with them. No. I mean, let's

be clear, Agay. Not everybody that is not an only fans is, you know, showing their goodies. There's some people out here doing you know, showing their feet or doing like fetishes or just taking sexy pictures. It doesn't necessarily mean that you're out here putting out your goodies. Now, listen, a situation you want to get what you get it you gotta pay a bill, and then you said listen, baby, um the bill to taken care of. And then later on I find out that it was you showing your

feet to the world that it's okay. For example, I personally don't think that I could be able to be with a man who has only fans account and you know, doing sexy stuff, you know, for the money. I'm all about, babba, Go get your money, go handle it. Battle for a guy. For example, if I were to have one, which I don't and I don't plan on having one, but I still do a lot of sexy things on social media and stuff, and I'm gonna be honest I don't know how a guy could date me, Like you have to

be so confident and be so cool. I mean, you know, as a fantasy world. But it will make me uncomfortable to see half of the things that I do. And I know that my partner has to accept item go now line now, Oh you need to stop taking sexy pictures or I don't want you to do that or that. No, no, no, no no, no, this is my career. I think it's my whole life. No, you're not gonna stop me Taco molas and you adapt to the system, or you need to find somebody else. But Dan you they're success stories

from only fans like Eric Amana and Safari. They I guess bought a whole house out of out of only fans and everyone got to see his you know. The only the only reason why I was like it was only because I know they're going through a tough moment in their in their personal relationship right now. So but but I'll talk about their success moment that was a

milestone for them one day. We're not only fans. Everyone got to see Eric Amanda, which was amazing, and then everybody got to see Safari, which even more amazing different because they did it as a couple. And I think that if you're supported and your if your spouse and you guys are supporting each other and you're doing the same thing, it's a definitive. Because you're chasing a gold

brown nakasa. We want to do something. It is for a greater purpose, yes, but right if you just want to be showing everything because you want to Gucci back, people got Birkins Gucci and they're to do with your body whatever you want. Nobody's telling you not to do it. I'm just saying as far as would you be comfortable to be in a relationship with someone who's doing that, because you always see that if you're doing that, I'm sure you're getting private messages, you're doing things on the load,

you're doing side things for something. But if you know that you get fifty dollars from one picture. If what I need to tell us you Mina, I'm gonna give you five. Just show me a private video or plump plank. The money gets enticed. Yeah, that point from und you want a thousand dollars five thousand, yeah, not to mention, I mean you think of kardash his whole Empire was made on a video that was probably the only fans Pirates only fans was her sex video with Ray J

and now she became very successful. So hey, if it works and it helps you shoot for the stars, then letter whatever wrong? Now I don't know, but what I do want to know is yellow painting. So you already know.

Go ahead, exactly a mata, Go out exactly a mata and tell me what your thoughts have been of this amazing podcast, because we have so many great questions, like, for example, ample, is it okay for me to still say in contact a little bit with my ex through like social media, Like we're not talking, like our relationship was over a long time ago, but once in a while he gives me like and I give him a like, or he'll send me a little comment through DM like

oh I hope you're having a good day. That sounds like he's messing something, but that we're not going to talk about that friendly again. It depends on a situation. You feel uncomfortable if your wife is still maintaining, you know, some type of communication with her ex, well, let's let's

do some backtrack. Let's backtrack a little bit. If that was my wife's or certificate others best friend in high school and they got it twisted and they made a mistake and they did something and dated and they were meant to be friends. That her family and her family are friends. I'm secure enough who mistakes. But sometimes you do have those moments where you feel like someone's supposed to be in a relationship with you, but they really were supposed to be your friend. But meyak, you had

a vulnerable moment. Things happen, right, yeah, but personally doesn't sound so terrible, and don't judge me or whatever. But Okay, I kind of still maintaining contact with some of my axes. And it doesn't mean that I want them back. It's just that we cool like it just I didn't break up in bad terms. It's just like we're not. At some point we did like each other. We did have some type of love for each other. You and they could be like, oh, I'm glad to see that you're

happy with someone else. But but but what does it look like so much? What does the inboxes look like? Because it's like, damn, you look better, Damn that STU looking at me. You look good? No, no, no sound The last two like that's too more or what you're doing. It depends on the time as well. You ain't gonna be but no, no axes, gonna be hitting up my significant other at one am. Sorry about w y D. What you're doing? No, no, no, no nothing. You have

to put boundaries, you have to do a respectfully. But I don't find good thing you go. If I would have found out that that good thing, if my significant other is still maintaining some type of contact with his with his axes or whatever, I don't think that I would feel too bad. I just think it depends what type of communication you guys are having, and I think that also comes with maturity. You just don't have time for this, Listen. Relationships are mutual. I choose to be

with you, You choose to be with me. If you don't want to be with me. I hit that point that so this is not no, we're not really as soon. We're not obligated to be with me. So I don't want to have to feel like I have to be insecure of every single woman that you're talking to. So if you want to stay hi to your ask mo or let's do it together. I mean I'll be the first one to be like that, she's pretty when she

has a names asked. And I don't have a problem because guess what, Mama, You're the past and I'm the future. I'm the president, and don't say I'm clear, so I don't feel bad about Have you ever been out in the events and seen your ex with someone else and you what you're new? I share you the hell have? And do you say? Hi? I shorely? The hell do exactly? How does that high look like? Can we get a

little idea of this? I don't know. I just want you to know that look sometimes or sometimes I can see that I wouldn't lie sometimes, but it happened with one person where they were still gonna a little chemistry even though that you're with somebody and I with somebody else. Time when we side, I was like, hey, what's up or whatever? I don't don't talk to me, don't look

at me. You know, it was one of those moments but didn't mess up like your whole vibe like it didn't, because I think sometimes you just like a little bit of look so good. It's a little bit of so good, And your new thing wasn't It wasn't his best day and your acts looks so good. He's like, you know, I don't dressed it up nice. Imagine he has a really additive you're not going to put that no, because really good day. So I'll say this much. I'll say this much. Some of my axes, um for the most part,

I'm not gonna say. I'm not gonna do here. I'm not going to generalize and say all of them, but most of them after leaving me, they all look like trash. Which one do you back? Which one would you date? All over? Because because all of them, at least from what I've seen, none of them have have actually dated better than me after me. So I'm okay with that, right, not never gonna You're always gonna be looking at my social media, and when you don't see me on social media,

you're gonna have to hear me on the radio. And if you don't hear me on the radio, when you go to the supermarket, you're gonna see me in the magazine cover. It is. I'm always they have to turn on the radio and hear your ex because there's no other good show exactly. Today's topics have been very spicy, They've been very spicy, very informative and I definitely want to know you guys. You know, I want to know

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