Getting Juicy with Amara

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us and subscribe, rate us, and share this podcast. I want to continue to grow the Exactly A Matter family, UM, and you guys are helping me do that. So Anyways, today's topic is one of the most important topics um that I've ever done on the show, because I really felt that it was important for you guys to know what is happening down in my kiddy cat, which is nothing. I am currently not having sex. Okay, So today's topic is juicy with a mata, which it should actually be

dry with spider webs with a mata. Um. And you know what, but I don't say well because I know that he was the one helping me, helping me break this down biddle before I get to it. Um my producer, friend banda, Amigo, Coole and all that good stuff. Alex had to come through to help me, um go through this because I'm I'm really going through it right now, you know what I'm saying, Like I wanted to be juicy, and it's juicy right now, but nobody's getting it. Alex.

Where you at, bro, I'm over here in Jersey just keeping it, keeping it man, keeping it, yo, Yeah, Alex, Like this is hard. I really thought that now that I'm pregnant, this would have been like the perfect time because this is a perfect time for you to get it in and get freaky and and you know you have nine months where you can't get pregnant because you're ready pregnant, so you don't live your best life and get it in. Bat I haven't gotten it in. I haven't gotten it in, and I'm so sad about it.

And is it my choice for you? What's going on here? The the audience would really like to know for a mad because you're a very good looking woman, You've got it going on, you have a great career, you have a lot of things going for you. Is this my choice or are you being very selective? Like what is going on? So? Because what happened was when I before I got pregnant, I had a man, and then I got pregnant and I didn't have man. So then I

just had to do myself. But that's fine though, because I played DJ all the time, because let me tell you something, I do be horny. I'd be hornie all the time. I just have to wander, wake and wink and handle second play DJ. That is the very first time I've been on this earth for a very long time, and this is the first I'd be like winking and I just handled it myself. I'd be scratching the tables. You know, and I'll be doing it to myself. What

am I supposed to do? I'm not gonna be out here in these streets giving up my good you know what I'm saying, giving up to the people now, not to men, to the fact that now as a mother, because I am a mother, i am protecting the temple of my children, and I'm just gonna let anybody come stick it to me, Helena. So better safe than sorry and eat rank. Like you know, do I have my moments, my freaking moments. Of course, I'm a woman, regardless of being pregnant or not. You know, I have my moments

where I'm like, I want to be sexually active. And it's not just sexually. I think it's more the intimacy part that I miss, Like I want to be cut on me, So let's play foot season. Lie to me, because that's what men do. Not all of them, but most of them. Lie to me. Tell me I'm beautiful that you never love to be like me? I'm really, Oh my god, I love it. Yes, So that's what

I missed the most. Fat Other than that, then the doctor, the doctor told me something, Hey, look, don't memink and I one of my placenta is actually dropped towards my uterus, So I'm not supposed to be getting it in because I can bleed or it can affect the uterus. Blah blah blah. So not even that. My girls won't even let me get freaking go for the questions. Let's get juicy on this show. We get freaky, we get crazy. We understand this is the nature of the show. But

there's certain questions that we have not answered. This is one of them. What doesn't mean to be good in bed? What does it mean to be good in bed? I think that good is being able to find that connection with your partner. And when I mean connection, it doesn't necessarily have to be emotional, because now we're talking about being good in bed specifically, it's just the chemistry. It's important to have sexual chemistry. Um, that's why I don't

like people. Oh I have the best big and I'm gonna tear yourself and all these things I'm gonna do to you. Shut up. First of all, shut up, because if the chemistry sexually is not there, I feel like it's like it's like a key and a key lock. You gotta find the right key that fits to you.

So that's just what it is. Some girls like, oh, I have the best do though whatever is, and that you may have a good dought to someone that has a very big penis, for example, but for someone that has a little one, you maybe too white, like it's you may be loots like you know, she said the right key for you have to find the right key. Once you find it, that's what makes it good, you know. And some people like to please, some people like to

be pleased. It's just finding that connection when you're in that space. Um, And I've definitely had a not a lot, but I've had some people that are not good in bed, and I've had something that are good. And let me tell you something. If I were to find my perfect man and he wasn't to be the gay, the perfect key to my luck, oh my god, this is so corny.

That's what I'm trying to be my best behavior. And I say, you know, but if he weren't to be the perfect key to my to my situation, meaning like if he wasn't he rude, to be small, whatever, I wouldn't leave him. I was still rock. I was still right right with him. Because I think there's another thing, especially now, in this generation and with society these days, we're so concerned just about the sexual part that we forget all the amazing other things that we're supposed to

look for in a partner. You know, it's not just about the sex. Yes, it's sex important, we obviously know that there is, but sex is not just about you know, stick it in and just banging it out. There's intimacy, there's many other things that you can do. And then you know that leads me right to my next question. No matter what, does your ideal one night stand look like? I'm are you? Are you a one nice stand type

of girl? Like? Has that ever happened? Shout outs, shout outs judgment free zone, my mom, judgment free zone by the girls that you know what, I'm gonna go out to the club tonight. I'm gonna finally like I'm gonna get stabbed with it battle. In my case, I'm not a one nice stand girl. You gotta lie to me like me like they all do. Come tell me, take me out to lunch, to dinner, buy me flowers, buy me a bag, do something you know and don't say.

The more you do, the more my legs open like a scissor right and don't say it is there battle? Oh how you These days you don't even ask what people's names are. It's just like, oh, you're hot too. Instagram handle, that's what I know you buy. I'm not exactly what's what's your Instagram? No, I'm not doing it so personally, I don't think I have like a dream one night stand because that's just not me I should afterwards, I'm gonna feel dirty. What's your what's your ideal date? Then? Like?

What what gets you all worked up? And you're like, all right, let's do this? Man? Like, are you the type of person that needs super extravagant you know dinners like you know you need to go out to the best restaurants? Are you more low key where you just want to have fun and get to know the person one on one? I if I really like you, um, you don't have to do all the craziness, of course I want. My biggest thing is always effort. When I know, like, if you don't get it like that, but I know

that you went out of your way. I love that. Now if you get it like that, don't be taking me to the around the corner. No, No, I want to see you billys in what your your bill should be my rent? And then I'd be like Guancho if Devomina he's serious, Okay, let's go for But I like I like efforts. So so a Manna comes over to New York to do some business and let's go, let's go grab Let's go grab some dinner, right, and I

take you out to a a really nice pizzeria. You know, we just have a slice and hang out and talk. Is that you like? Is that something? Is that it might not be the best effort in the world, but the person is still having effort in wanting to see you and talk to you and get to know you're still Is that still good enough for you? Yeah, that's still That's definitely still good enough for me. I just think I'm in a different place in life where I'm

not looking for all the extra extra bougie stuff. I just want to know if this is real, like this is gonna go anywhere? Do you feel that? And what I definitely have learned for my past experience is I'm no longer doing build a bay. I'm not building a bay. If you don't get your stuff together, faba is a rap I feel like we're gonna do this together. Are we're gonna fight for love together? No, baba, the days is over. We're in the pandemic time meta, the what

are dying? We don't have time for this seems to be the most reoccurring thing here. People are dying. Let's get this on, Let's get this Okay, what is uh? Now? You know, if you haven't, if you're not really into the into the one night standing, are you into the hookup scene? Like? What was what has been the most embarrassing thing that has happened to you while hooking up? If you know, because I'm pretty sure, so you know, make making out, you know, getting a little frisky, doesn't

you don't go all the way right? Maybe second base into third base? Has anything embarrassing has happened to you while you're making that transition from like okay, cool, put your hand on my lap too full on making out

or whatever. I've definitely had like bad kissers. That's like an embarrassing moment to me because you automatically expected, if you really like someone, you have these high expectations of what it is going to be like to kiss them, to have sex with them, how they're gonna smell, how they're going to touch you, all these things, and sometimes it doesn't it not to be that way. Um, I've

had really slimy kissers. I hate it. Can you explain to the crowd who's listening right now so intensely, like into their headsets, can you explain to us what what sloppy? You know, slobbery kissing? I've had cold kissers. The cold kissers are the people that kiss you and their mouth is so cold, like they just ate like a frozen juice. Yeah, Like why is your blood temperature so cold? What is

wrong with you? Like no, or maybe I'm too hot, So that's a no. Slimy kissers like that saliva and they say they be trying to do the most just and then you have to wipe the bottom of your child and the top of your lip, like, watch, don't do it. You don't have to do all of those things. There's a lot of grown people that don't know how to kiss. There's a lot of grown people that don't know how to touch you, caress you properly. You know, these are things that you learn in high school. Where

were you, I don't know. Anyways, a lot of just sloppin us. They want to spend There's there's a place in time for that. Um, that's right, Alex. You know what I'm talking do you do you want to know how many sexual partners someone you're dating has had. I know we kind of talked about this once before, but it's become more of a recent topic where people were

kind of like they don't care. Some that do are looking for that marriage material, so they want to know, you know, how much, how many miles has been traveled basically, but you know, for you is that is that a deal breaker? I don't want to know how many sexual points you've had. You know what I'm saying going out with how long we can make it happen. We can survive, you know what I'm saying. If you have some soap and water, we can survive. You know, and you're dangling,

it's not gonna break. I don't want to know how many people you stuck it to. Don't tell me. I don't you know what I'm saying, Like, I just don't um out. What I do want to know is like, if for any reason we're somewhere and there's someone you smashed, it would be nice if you know the little be like, oh, by the way, you don't feel no type of way,

but I used to date this person. You're okay with that, You're okay with the whole communication, Like, all right, that's a girl that I know, she's gonna be her back out. You can just you can just let me know that that's cool. You know what I'm saying, because I never wanted it to feel like she has the upper hand on from far away, she's giving you winksy and I'm like, what's going on? No, But I don't want to know the guy. And that's another thing. I think it's such

a horrible question. Guys, think listen to me. Whatever you do, stop being so insecure and so crunchy asking the gay. Oh so, how many guys have you been before me? Yo, with the whole neighborhood, with everybody. I don't think I've ever asked that question, man, And you know, like, I don't think I've ever even cared. That's immature to me, because like, before you existed, there was other people in my life and that should be fine. The only thing

that you should be concerned is that I'm clean. That there's nothing you know that if you stick it to me, you're gonna you're gonna survive, you're gonna be okay, and that's it. But other than that, I don't think those should be questions that should be asked. Now, flip the script. What if they ask you, are you like open to saying yeah, this is how many people have been or do you just diet it right then? And you're like, listen, I don't want anything about this. I did it because

I don't want you to judge me. If I'm like, oh, I've been with guys, I don't want to be like, oh my gosh, you're a hort Like maybe I would never because then they want you to lie. Then they want you to lie, and I don't want to. Like if I had to start a relationship lying, I don't want to do it. Like how many guys have you been with? Oh, I've only been with five guys? M you mean that year in a couple of months. Wait,

I don't understand. I've even seen someone say like, oh, you know, like after they hooked up and had sex for the first time, they were like, you know, they were like, oh, you're you're my third Like whoa or second? Yeah? Yeah, how do you feel about that like if the guy were to like turn around and tell you, oh my god, that was great. You know, I just want to tell you right now you you're my third one I've ever

had in my life. Like what would you Would you be like, oh, um, great, like whatever, or you'd just be like, let's not talk about that, bro Um. I would probably not want to talk about it. And if I am your third in life, that could be like a turn off to me. Wow, Okay, that's a little bit of a turnoff, only because I feel like I have to teach you a lot of things. It could be good or it could be bad. It could be good because I can feel like I can mold you.

I'm gonna fee I'm gonna show you all the things I like. That's right, And but I'm being you don't have too much experience. And if you don't have too much experience, that means you still have a lot of sucking to do. And I need you to get it out of your system. I'm out of the cougar. Yeah, I want you to go out there and have sex with everybody. Jo I like guys that are older. That means you've already been around the world. Yeah, Yeah, yeah,

I know, you're the first one to say that. I know lots of females that love their men, you know. And I went to college late in my life, right, I was a marine, so I spent a lot of time, you know, thank you, between between being in a war and coming back and being a parent. Um, you know. So I went to college late, and I noticed that

a lot. I noticed that a lot girls in college are like, they could be with the buff you know, whatever dudes that play football, whatever, soccer, but they see an older dude, you know, but dad, Bob, they don't mind jumping on them. Yeah, I don't mind because it's less stressed. They've already been there, done that. They already know how to treat you because they've already been around

you already, you know. And that's another thing, not for nothing, but if you're with somebody that works from far away, let's say you're with a marine, or you're with somebody that that hasn't had a chance to really get it in, that's a tough one too. You know. I want you to go out there and go funk the whole neighborhood, and then when you're tired, then we can do this because you still have you still have some things to get out of your system. The same thing goes for women.

If a woman, if a woman dates you and she just had finished a relationship, they had viva soda. If if he just got divorced, he needs to get some things out of his system that he's been holding in for you know what I'm saying. I think people need to go through their stages in life. Wow, that's uh, that's pretty good, you know. UM. Now for you, for you, do you how or have you ever, oh my goodness, UM,

been interrupted while doing the deed with a gentleman. Has anybody ever walked in on you, whether a parent or a family member, or or a friend or anything? How do you? How do you handle that at that moment? My mom's in my life all day, every day since the day that Um, I you know, she gave birth to me. What she hasn't cut down political cord yet. Let me saying something. I love her to the end of me, but UM, sometimes it's a little bit hard because I want to have my privacy and she's never

literally opened the door because I've locked it. But she's tried to open the door without knowing or she'll be like ahma or whatever. She would just like kill the mood. And then I obviously already know that for the most part in my life, I've always had to have sex on mute. So I've always had to do the put the TV or whatever. And then sometimes my partner doesn't want to have the TV. You know, you want to hear it. You want to hear the you know what I'm saying. Do you want to do? You want to

do the sound effects? He wants to and don't say if you want to hear so you can get excited. I'm like, bah blah, I can't do it right now because as usual, my mom's right next door, so you have to be like a mute all the time. So I've learned and let me use some that's kind of bad. It's kind of bad. And I realized the more I've gone older, I realized how not having the correct intimacy and being able to feel free sexually vocally, Um, can I not come even It makes you not feel completely

sexually open, and that's not good either. So um, so yeah, have you have you ever been on a date or not feeling someone you're out with them and lied to that person? So you can go see someone else. Yeah, yeah, I did it. I did it. I did it. Is that do you do you feel differently now or would you like go back in time and tell yourself like hey man, or like hey listen, live life, go get that. Well.

I I left just because I was over it, um and I felt more interested in the other person I was gonna go see, but not because I was like having sex with one person. Then was either or no. But I have You know, I'm a very nice person, and sometimes it's hard for me to say no, especially if I see you're very sweet, and it's like, oh, I'm gonna have to take advantage of that whenever we have to cord I'm so nice. Let's record today. So

um so, Yeah, I've done it. But at the same time, I haven't felt bad because I'm sure they've done it to me too. You know. Yeah, that's that's a tough one, right when you flip the script and you're trying to figure things out yourself. You know, these guys do it to girls all the time. Oh I gotta go, I gotta go to work, or you know, something just happened. You know when that happens a lot too, when they

when they smash you. Guys said that all the time after they dick you down and be like, oh, you know, I have to go see my homeboy. I gotta go do this, And they don't be going nowhere. They just want you to get the funk out. So it's kind of crazy, right, Like, I know, that's why I don't. I don't like the one that stands. They come, they smash you, they hang and throw the all stretched out and white out and everything, and they say they send

you on an uber battle. If you look at the feminist side, women will be like, no, I had sex with him. You know, I'm the one that's empowered. I wanted it, I got it boom, and you're the one that's on the uger going home. You ever called some on an uber? Have you been in that position where even if you've been dating for a while and you've been you know, doing your thing for a while, you kind of were just like, all right, you need to go home today, like now, because you've been here for

the last couple of days. So like you called them an uber to go home. I never did, but I've always wanted to. I'm not gonna lie. I've been in the situations where I'm made bah bah yeah, Like I'll give you all the signs like I have my mom called me. You know, I'll be acting like I'm tired, comes up, sits in the room to watch TV with you. She's done it seems done it literally with the guy under the seats right there like like and the person

won't leave it. So yeah, guys, learn how to get your cues together, and girls too, learn when you're not wanted. When you're not wanted in the space, you can feel it. You don't have something. You don't have to have somebody tell you, oh Amy, yeah that when or get out. You don't need that. You know when to get out, So just do it. Read the room, read the room, everywhere. It's not that hard. Mom is sitting on the same bed you. Guys just smashed it, you know, have you

This is a tough one. Uh And I know people that have said yes to this. Have you ever been so tired or the person has been so boring and you've probably either fell asleep or we started yawning in the middle of being with someone. Yeah, um, I found it. I found in asleep in the middle sex way. How

did this happen. Oh yeah, no, because what had happened was is like, first of all, any story that starts like that, you know, it's interesting turn your volumes up a lot of times if you're going a lot of times, if you're asleep and your partner wants it but you're not, you know what I'm saying, they'll just roll you over,

or they'll do the side like thing. They get one leg up to the side and you're just like, you know, so you could just go to sleep and just have that one leg and just go handle it, get it out of your system and let me go to sleep. I got shipped to do it in the morning, so they'll be that. Or if they roll you over comp lately, you just lay there like you know what I'm saying, Hot at me when you're done. As a matter fact, don't even hot at me. When you're done, go get

the white bees and everything. You handle everything for me. Just that one has come to remember when we were younger, we would like probably die for moments like that. Just let's do this. And now it's just like listen, man, I got three recordings tomorrow morning, and I gotta go, I gotta I gotta go. Watch the car dead ass. You know, like sometimes sometimes it's important to me. It's important to compromise when you're with someone, it's important to

understand your other partner, your partner's sexual needs. You can't just think of you. So I think it's harder for men because men have well now, men are always ready to get it on, like it could be at any time. But sometimes men are tired too. We automatically assume that they're always ready to go, not necessarily. Sometimes they just don't want it. Just because they don't want it doesn't mean that they don't want you. It just means that right now they're tired and they don't want to put

it on the work. Because for the most part, men have to be the ones to say, get that backworking, like bam bam. They gotta get the motion together. A lot of girls we could just lay there spread it. I just want to get it in real quick. Bumba woman. That's it unless you're like me, because once they start, I never want to start. That's my thing. To get me started. I'm like a car. It's like, oh oh my god. But once we're in, we have to do a couple of rounds before I can just relax. That

sounds interesting. That sounds interesting taking notes for anybody who's keeping up right now, notes because I'm single, redom mingo. You never know, taking notes for am. I gotta go to Florida soon. Maybe bring a friends for her, someone that she can really uh fall in love with, and they get on one knee for her. As a previous episode, we spoke about have you ever injured yourself for someone else while being extremely kinky in the bedroom? I have.

I I have been like my knee or something like that. You know, you'll be trying to do the moss or be the sexiest one because especially the first time, you wanted to get impressed them and show them like, oh I got some moves for you. Oh yeah, that's the worst, right, it's the first time and you're already out with an injury, like yeah. But the thing is you have to keep it together. You can't let him know, Okay, I just busting my ask like oh you know what I'm saying.

Oh this is so hard to You're like thin, I just my sip. But but those are the worst I've had. I've had my little situation here and there. I'm sure guys have to have you Oh yeah, yeah, like I pulled like my hamstring. It's just incredible. You can the immense amount of pain where you're like where you're paralyzed from one leg down your leg. It's like noding. You're like, you're like, you gotta go, man, you can't stop. Now.

What're you gonna think of? You? Bro? Oh my god, It's crazy how sexually we go through so many things, and then we try to fake and keep it together for our partners because we're trying to you know, finans, we're trying to show that that we got it together, but we really don't. Oh my god, Alice, you know what, we should definitely have more shows than this because I love it. I feel like this is a great thing about exactly a matter, no taboos uncensored. This is as

real as it gets because you've been through it. I've been through it. And why we got a sugarcoat it? It It is what it is is. The truth is just give me the truth, tell me the t ALEX. Thank you so much for joining me, for supporting me as usual. You are an amazing co host, no problem, and at least here I know that the only thing that could happen is like sprainer index finger while pressing a button exactly,

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