New year, new me! And by that, I mean I've changed my name, and have been going by Raine in my personal life, and now on the internet as well it seems! Keeping New Year's resolutions has a lot less to do with willpower and resolve than it does with being realistic and setting goals you're meant to keep instead of goals that allow you to give up immediately. If you need help with your goals, join my discord server! https://discord.gg/JkPbnhb — Music Kawai Kitsune by Kevin MacLeod Link: [https://f...
Dec 30, 2022•13 min
Problem: It's hard to remember that June and December have different struggles when it comes to productivity, mental health, and executive dysfunction if we don't actually mark the passage of time through the year. Solution: Celebrating the two solstices and two equinoxes is a great way to welcome a new season and actually tangibly remind yourself that things are about to get different. For the upcoming autumn equinox, try some autumnal decor and recipes, but also don't forget about cleaning and...
Sep 20, 2022•11 min
pick it up every day (note this doesn't mean you need to do anything elaborate in it) time management consists of two parts: what you do and when you do it. This results in 4 possible combinations Plan what you do AND when you do it Plan when you're working, but not exactly what - aka time blocking. Combining time blocking and to-dos can be a great system for ND people who need some structure but also need the flexibility in their system to work on their current interests Plan what you do, but n...
Aug 31, 2022•52 min
There's a new podcast on the way, but it needs more work than a standard episode, so I recorded a little something until then. Find the video here: https://youtu.be/VCHGrghlFzU It's tossed about a lot: that you will never grow if you allow yourself to be comfortable. It's bullshit. Growth itself is uncomfortable, but comfort and safety provide the best foundation for the discomfort of growth. In other words, you don't grow by forcing yourself into uncomfortable situations. Growth comes when you ...
Aug 12, 2022•4 min
Mentioned this episode: 1. YouTube video for this episode 2. How to ADHD Bullet Journaling 3. WheezyWaiter explains what Bullet Journaling ACTUALLY is 4. Printable vertical weekly planner 5. ABCs of Time Management (where you can sign up for the time management 5 day email course with time tracker workbook) 6. Tara’s awesome Obsidian tips 7. Digital/analog planning with Rocketbook Problem : You need a planner, but they’ve never worked for you in the past and you don’t know what kind of planners ...
Jul 29, 2022•53 min
In this Episode: My discord community! Bullet Journaling with ADHD on Facebook Problem: Those of us who would love to "just use a planner" - that is, if we could keep it up more than 3 days without losing it or entirely forgetting it even exists. Solution: Make simply remembering that your planner exists your number 1 priority when you first start using a planner. Just pick it up. Just look at it. Just carry it with you. Do this every day, even if you don't actually make any plans in it! Specifi...
Jul 12, 2022•27 min
Join my email list and download my time tracking workbook for free . Time tracking apps: (These apps have a free option, but if you choose to sign up for a paid plan using my link I may earn a small commission at no cost to you!) Toggl (my FAVORITE and with so many features in their free plan!) RescueTime Problem : You don't have enough time to do the things that matter, but your time seems to just get sucked down the drain by pointless things. Often you even look back at the day and can't figur...
Jun 03, 2022•30 min
Get the 2022 roleplanning journal for 10% off with the code SMOL Problem: Things feel too big for it to even be worth it to get started on them. And jumping from task to task is too inefficient. Solution: A simple reframe in favor of taking the smallest step that can move you forward instead of tackling big projects in their entirety (sometimes - when appropriate for your brain and your to-do list.) When your focus is too slippery to hold onto anyway, trying to force yourself to stay on task can...
May 24, 2022•25 min
Chaotic Organized Discord server Problem: You have an ocean of attention that never seems to flow in the direction you want it to go Solution: By engaging your physical senses, the mind becomes easier to direct. In this way, it's sometimes possible to bring on hyper focus, or the flow state. Some ideas for sensory engagement Sound : instrumental music (or music in a language you don't know IF you don't know the lyrics), binaural waves, ambient sounds Smell : candle, coffee or tea, chewing gum Ta...
May 16, 2022•23 min
Dr. K on motivation (CW for problematic language in linked video, probably) Problem : There's stuff you have to do but just don't want to do Solution : Figuring out why I do want to do something works way better for me than just pushing through, trying to convince or cajole myself, or "waiting until motivation strikes" When there's something I really need to do, it usually comes with rewards or consequences. This means I can have a conversation where I actually talk myself through my thoughts, m...
May 09, 2022•27 min
With social media and advertisers spending billions to buy as much of our attention as they can, we owe it to ourselves to learn how to hold onto some of it to invest in ourselves. If you find that your attention is harder to hang onto even than it is normally, you might need an Attention Reset. These are the things I do to hold onto more of that most valuable asset I own - my attention. I go over rules for a short but strict reset period, and also changes that I try to carry through in my every...
May 02, 2022•31 min
There comes a point in April when I...just...can't.... In March I'm hit with some new spring energy and I do so many things and then suddenly I find myself wading through molasses and everything just seems harder than it normally is. My normal flow slows to a standstill. And yet it always comes as a surprise to me. Part of embracing my chaotic nature means not fighting against the fact that my life goes in cycles and I can't be on in the same way all the time. Here are some things I do when thin...
Apr 15, 2022•19 min
Ex-Gifted is now the Chaotic Organized podcast. But still called "Ex-Gifted"! I'm still going to be all about executive dysfunction and telling the story of how I'm working to get my shit together on a daily basis so that you can hopefully learn from my mistakes (hey now - my successes too!) Please recommend it to any of your friends who can relate to the experience of being neurodivergent - or frankly just different - and not understanding how adults are supposed to do all of these things in th...
Apr 04, 2022•13 min
Listen to the Power of Yet Check out my Ko-Fi page ! It's been redesigned and I'm posting so much over there as I work on moving to a new website. I'm hosting challenges, posting previews for blog posts in progress, and of course uploading the video versions of this podcast right here. And the challenges are entirely free for anyone following along while they're currently active! I also have new membership options. The natural 20 membership is ridiculous and includes the entire roleplanning syst...
Mar 11, 2022•10 min
I've come to understand that I can accept that something IS without accepting that it is okay. Accepting that something just is stops my resistance, and minimizes my suffering over things that aren’t in my control. And it works even when I’m not okay with anything about the situation. It helps for things that are terrible. It helps with things that I would do anything to change.
Mar 04, 2022•34 min
Respect your limits, but throw out your limitations. Cure limiting beliefs with a healthy dose of skepticism and a lot of "maybe" "yet" and "is it possible I don't know as much as I think I do?"
Feb 25, 2022•29 min
Sorry I've been MIA! Guess what? Having your brain treat you like an asshole is normal. It happens to all of us at some point in time (some more than others.) That's okay! What's important is to move forward anyway. New episodes of Ex-Gifted resume Feb 25, 2022! Support the show at https://ko-fi.com/reneliza for as little as $1/month All monthly donors will get a shout-out at the end of each podcast episode! Find me at Exgifted.com or Instagram Also, check out @chaotic.organized on Instagram and...
Feb 20, 2022•8 min
Get the Roleplanning System at ko-fi.com/reneliza/shop in order to get help defining your values and then actually living up to them. 3 months of support in the Quest for Chaos is included. Use code DORMANT for 15% off. All monthly donors will get a shout-out at the end of each podcast episode! Find me at Exgifted.com or Instagram @exgiftedcast Also, check out @chaotic.organized on Instagram and chaoticorganized.com for more executive dysfunction tips and commiseration. Music Kawai Kitsune by Ke...
Dec 17, 2021•15 min
The Roleplanning System is made with this need for reflection built in! The 13-week calendar gives you the opportunity every 3 months to set your priorities all over again. And the hourly layout allows you the option to schedule in down time and sleeping hours every day. Get the Roleplanning System at ko-fi.com/reneliza/shop Use code DORMANT for a 15% discount through the end of 2021 All monthly donors will get a shout-out at the end of each podcast episode! Find me at Exgifted.com or Instagram ...
Dec 03, 2021•14 min
Featured this episode: Insight Timer References: https://www.brown.edu/research/labs/britton/research/varieties-contemplative-experience https://www.pacesconnection.com/blog/meditation-may-aggravate-trauma-mindful-action-is-a-better-alternative https://journals.aom.org/doi/full/10.5465/amd.2017.0033 “individuals with a high learning goal orientation (LGO), high need for cognition (NOC), high openness to experience, and high internal locus of control (LOC) showed a significant increase in creativ...
Nov 19, 2021•18 min
Preorder the Roleplanning System and enroll in the Quest for Chaos! Get Labyrinthos and get started with tarot for free! Some witchy accounts to follow on YouTube: Kelly-Ann Maddox The Witches’ Cookery Rachael Stephen The Witch of Wonderlust But exactly who you want to follow will depend on what you want to learn! My list has an obvious European bent due to that being my focus. If you have witchy friends, ask them for resources! Find me at Exgifted.com or Instagram Also, check out @chaotic.organ...
Oct 29, 2021•18 min
Download the thought ladder at exgifted.com/thoughts Find the Unfuck Your Brain podcast by Kara Lowenthiel at unfuckyourbrain.com or anywhere you listen to podcasts. Get video versions of this podcast from ko-fi.com/reneliza . Video episodes are free through the next episode, and then will be available to all donors for the month starting in November 2021. Donors also get a shout out at the end of every episode! Find me at Exgifted.com or Instagram Also, check out @chaotic.organized on Instagram...
Oct 15, 2021•10 min
Welcome back to season 2 of Ex-Gifted - now a Chaotic Organized podcast! In this quick dip back into the groove, I introduce you to the concept of chaotic organization, and also the concept of growth mindset. Us former gifted kids have a very difficult relationship with growth mindset, because we were so well conditioned into a fixed mindset when we were kids in the gifted program. To just dip your toes in a bit, I recommend trying to ask yourself if it's possible that you're wrong when you beli...
Oct 01, 2021•8 min
Watch the video at https://ko-fi.com/reneliza Try out the Roleplanning System at https://exgifted.com/roleplan Season 2 of Ex-Gifted will begin on Friday October 1st and it will include VIDEO for all my current Ko-Fi supporters (including monthly subscribers and anyone else who has donated in the last month) Get a taste for free right here as I test out my new setup and rather obviously read from a script lol In the meantime get to exgifted.com/roleplan ASAP and sign up to test the Roleplanning ...
Aug 26, 2021•3 min
Featured This Episode Tools: If you make a purchase through the links below I may be compensated at no cost to you. Thanks! Clip-on book light Waterproof Notebook Trello : A digital tool for organizing your thoughts Learn More: Thought Ladder Morning Pages Donate $3 to help support the show at ko-fi.com/reneliza All monthly donors will get a shout-out at the end of each podcast episode! Find me at Exgifted.com or Instagram Music Kawai Kitsune by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://filmmusic.io/song/4990...
Aug 13, 2021•17 min
If you purchase through these links I may be compensated at no cost to you. Thanks! Planner: The Kokuyo Jibun Techo isn’t widely available at the time of publishing in late-July, but this academic planner has a similar hourly layout for the week! Smart watch: I use a Fitbit Versa 2 , but there are many affordable options ! Visual Timer: This is the one I use, but there’s a wide selection available. Dry Erase planner: I have this calendar but this also looks great Check out my Ultimate Guide to T...
Jul 30, 2021•18 min
Featured this episode: Take the Clutterbug Quiz Tools: If you make a purchase through the links below I may be compensated at no cost to you. Thanks! The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up Tile Mate digital tag You can also support the show by donating at ko-fi.com/reneliza All monthly donors will get a shout-out at the end of each podcast episode! Sign up to test the all-new Roleplanning Game for free at exgifted.com/roleplan before it comes out and learn how to level up in real life! Find me at...
Jul 16, 2021•21 min
Sign up to test the Roleplanning Game for free at exgifted.com/roleplan Donate at ko-fi.com/reneliza All monthly donors will get a shout-out at the end of each podcast episode! Find me at Exgifted.com or Instagram Also, check out @nerdish_mom on Instagram and nerdishmom.com for more executive dysfunction tips and commiseration. References: r/Gifted: https://www.reddit.com/r/Gifted/ Gro-Gifted: Giftedness research Misperceptions about Giftedness Learning disabilities in adolescents with high IQ s...
Jul 02, 2021•16 min
Donate at ko-fi.com/reneliza All monthly donors will get a shout-out at the end of each podcast episode! Sign up to be a tester for the brand new Roleplanning Game at exgifted.com/roleplan Find me at Exgifted.com or Instagram Music Kawai Kitsune by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://filmmusic.io/song/4990-kawai-kitsune License: https://filmmusic.io/standard-license PROBLEM? Inferiority & Superiority: Because we struggle to fit in during our early years, we start to feel lesser than our peers, then ...
Jun 18, 2021•18 min
HuffPo Quit. Go ahead. It’s okay. NYT Sometimes You Have to Quit to Get Ahead Forbes When It’s Okay to Quit (psst Forbes, it’s always okay, even when it’s done for the ““wrong”” reasons) Find me at Exgifted.com or Instagram @exgiftedcast Music Kawai Kitsune by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://filmmusic.io/song/4990-kawai-kitsune License: https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Problem? Perfectionism: Perseverance is morally neutral BUT - some things are worth the effort Gifted kids often end up on one ...
May 28, 2021•11 min
