Episode 289 Why You Suck At Relationships
“God’s man should be great at relationships. He should love aggressively because he has been aggressively loved. We love because he first what? Loved us. See the connection? Burnin’ Love.”

“God’s man should be great at relationships. He should love aggressively because he has been aggressively loved. We love because he first what? Loved us. See the connection? Burnin’ Love.”
“Love is the primary objective of life. If you don’t know how to love, if you do not live a life of love. If you’re not good at relationships…. nothing you say, nothing you know, nothing you believe, nothing you give, or nothing you accomplish will matter.”
“But love without deeds is simply indifference. You can blah blah blah it all day long but until people see you actually extend yourself and extend your hand and reach into their lives, the translation to them is, ‘he’s indifferent’. You know what the world needs? Guys who don’t substitute sympathy for action.”
“What is the general texture of your relationships? Not as how you would assess it but how would others around you assess you? Are you easy to be around? Are you affectionate in the same way that God has shown his affection toward you? And guys, we just gotta, we have a problem with this, we just gotta get over it!”
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“How do the men in your life speak into your life? They say, “Dude, I’m convinced that you’re more than what you are now. I’m convinced you’re good at that, you should be doing that. You’re God’s man. So,when you go on that business trip- be God’s man. When you go into that situation- be God’s man. This thing with your wife - be God’s Man. Do your duty.!’”
“What are you known for? Do you have that ease of movement among people? You can then go to a man or woman or child anywhere on the planet and you can love them because God has accepted you. God’s man, let me tell you something. It should be easy to be around you too because it was easy to be around Jesus.”
“What’s our new normal? We fight for the weak instead of exploit the weak, or exploit the situation for selfish purposes. We fight for the weak to serve God’s purposes. Let me ask you something. Are you fighting for the weak? Do you bring your masculine strength to come alongside of the people around you to lift them up and you use your strength to encourage the weak?”
“That when you experience in view of God’s mercy. you experience that. You begin to love aggressively. You start crossing borders and boundaries with people and wives and kids. That’s your new normal. God’s man knows how to love because he’s been deeply loved. He loves much because he has been forgiven much.”
“The measure of God’s man is not his behavior. The measure of a man is his willingness to, one, understand that he’s experienced mercy and he’s been accepted by God with all of his flaws. And then the expression of that comes with accepting people who are not like him.”
Millions of men are winning the battle of images and losing the battles of life because they are afraid of sharing their real life issues with another man. Like many men in the news today, they are like icebergs - you only see the tip of their true life while the rest remains hidden. The result? Destruction. Join men's expert and Pastor Kenny Luck for THE OTHER SIDE of fear.
“Do you know what the currency that truly speaks that people really want to see in God’s men? It’s not their ability to make money, not their ability to do politics, not their ability to build businesses. You know that the world is waiting for men to do? Love. To know how to love aggressively.”
“If God is God and if He is sovereign, providential, omnipotent, omniscient, all knowing, has my best interests in mind- if He really is the sovereign ruler of the universe, then any political structure that he allows is therefore his purpose, whether we get that or not… Government is not God.”
“As a man presents himself to God for change, as you stay in this relationship with God, as you humbly submit to your relationship to God. His areas where I have to sacrifice my agenda for his agenda, whatever the area is as I present myself and all of who I am and I’m squirming and I stay there on the altar… God begins to transform me.”
Fear is a controlling force but only if we give it place and permission in our lives. God wants you to live in the power and freedom of his Spirit free of fear. He has done his part, join this livestream and learn your part with Pastor Kenny Luck.
“Guess what guys, fear is pride masquerading in another form”.
“Is a relationship with God about what I do or is about that I accept his choosing of me and his grace? And when it’s about what I do all of a sudden now it becomes less about what God did and about what I do. And so then that minimizes what God did and it maximizes what I do. And isn’t that the language of pride? It exalts me.”
"FOR THE SPIRIT GOD GAVE US DOES NOT MAKE US TIMID..." If that is true then why do so many believing men live on the side fear versus faith? What has overtaken their vision and consequently taken over their spirit? If you want to break free from fear and experience Spirit-Empowered freedom and boldness join us this week at the CALL studies. Stop being a slave to fear. Start being a son of the King who prays and acts like Christ.
“God wants to use your mouth today to proclaim the Good News of salvation to someone who is not saved. God wants you to use my mouth. Let’s say that together, God wants to use my mouth. That’s right. He wants me to articulate what’s inside of me for someone else.”
“There are a lot of people who stay right here. ‘Well, you know, I just want to get all smart about the Bible’. The knowledge in you is only good if the knowledge the goes through you to people. And there’s no knowledge in this book that’s more important to go in you and through you than the salvation by faith in Jesus Christ.”
“God wants everybody to be saved. You can never write anyone off. Some of you are like, ‘man, i’ve never done something like that.’ And then there’s some of you and you’ve shared your faith a little. You may have even gone on a missions trip. But, you need to get activated. It’s sort of like your radar is off. It’s like, well that’s someone else’s job, or that’s my pastor’s job. I’ll just bring them to church.”
“You’re in one of those situations and you’re like, ‘why is this happening?’ It doesn’t seem right, it doesn't seem fair, it seems unjust. Yet, at the same time, because of the Gospel, our new normal is you know what? I don’t understand, but I know some things about you and I’m going to trust your choices for what you’re allowing to come to me.”
“How has your relationship with Christ and what he has done for you increased your sensitivity of others to others and their relationship with God and where they’re at spiritually? And then, how sensitive are we to the spiritual destiny of others around us? How far are we willing to go?”
God's man is called to target and overcome evil within himself and in his world. Specifically, we are called to fight the good fight of the faith. Don't enter this arena uninformed or ill-equipped. USE God's weapons. Watch the final segment in our 4 part series entitled Target Acquired.
“Sometimes in life, God is working and tinkering on you and the only thing that will do- the only thing that will create maturity and character is test, trial, delay, difficulty. Because it’s going to get you to look to him versus look to yourself. Look to your faith versus your feelings. And God will do whatever it takes to get the end product.”
“There is one thing that does not happen instantly- the deliverance of character. A lot of times we think, ‘Oh, well, if I’m in Christ, well then, I’m going to become mature right away.’ Now on that one, God wants to pound that out. Because you didn’t get into the way you are overnight, you’re not going to get out of it overnight. That doesn’t make anybody mature.”
“And so oddly, in the midst of hell. There was an experience of liberty, of freedom, of finding out the truth and saying, ‘Oh God, you surely can bring something good out of something so evil’.”
Smart men discipline themselves to target relationships for strengthening and intimacy. Why? Because they know that if they don't do their relationships right they are not doing life right! They also know that at their funeral the people in their life will not be talking about their portfolio, their job title, where they vacationed, or how they served themselves. They WILL talk about how you gave life to them... or not. Join us for Target Acquired Part 3: RELATIONSHIPS.
My heart is God's target because my character is his biggest concern. People measure outward actions while God is measuring private intentions.
"What God is looking FOR in a man of God tells us what we should be looking AT as men of God. Most important is knowing what he has called us us to eliminate."