Energy Influences

Now of course our energy impacts greatly on our horses and you've all seen that if you're impatient or you've got high energy oh, you're anxious about something your horse will show you in no uncertain terms usually that something's not right and what I normally say is you need to look at yourself, which is it's usually the case, a hundred percent okay but on this occasion it's more about yourself, it's not just horses, it's people, it's situations, circumstances that impact on our life and

we're all open to that but how we behave and how we react is the thing that I'm sort of focusing on today. It's your reaction to what happens? Now in the moment you usually get carried away with whatever is happening and it makes you either withdraw or react in a big way or do something that you don't normally do and then afterwards you're feeling guilty or you're feeling cross.

The thing is we re react to something because that's what we do but what we can do once we calm down, is look at ourselves and think, okay why did that make me feel that way? Why did I react in that way? And this is relevant to human, to human and also human to horse to animal. So if somebody does something say something, what will happen is you will react accordingly to what your pattern is, when you recognize that afterwards and start to think, okay what was that, in me what is it?

You can start to realize what it was and change it, or once you've recognized it, it's not such a big thing because what happens is when you react that can affect you for the next 24 hours, 48 hours, whatever depends on how big the thing was but once you start to see what's going on with you, then you can diffuse that and limit the time is spent on it, if that makes sense. So why am I talking about this subject today and what does it have to do with hostess?

What it has a lot to do with horses because as you know how we turn up with our energy impacts on a horses big time impacts on people impacts on everything but as this is to do with communication I thought I would share what happened today and how it's highlighted, reminded me what I need to look at and it's about looking at yourself.

Somebody can say something to you, somebody can do something and it can hurt your feelings and it can trigger you into reacting to a certain way or behave differently. That is your responsibility.

So if you behave in a certain way or you react, it is your responsibility yes another person may have enabled that reaction but it's your responsibility and when you realize that and when you look at why somebody has triggered you into behaving in a certain way Or saying certain things, that's when the knowledge and the understanding and the change takes place and that has a big impact with you and your relationship with your horse.

But it has an even better and bigger impact on your relationship with yourself, which at the end of the day That's what you should be looking at your relationship with yourself because that's what your horse will be reflecting back at you. Something happened today and I reacted but actually before then, my behavior had changed because of other situations and I found myself doing something that I don't normally do and I didn't actually like it, now.

It wasn't saying something, it wasn't doing something, it was not doing something that I would normally do, I would normally do this thing straight away.

Your thinking what is she talking about, it's something personal so I'm not going to talk about the actual situation but it highlighted something and it affected me and whenI calmed down and talk to friends, I realized that when somebody says something and it makes you feel upset it's that small in a child in you the vulnerable part of you that is wantingto react back or to withdraw.

Once you recognize that you can see the pattern but you can also change for the next time you you can do something about it.

Now it doesn't mean that you're not going to react because that's not, what's going to happen in real life but you can live at the time that it takes to realize why that happened and what it's showing you about you and what you need to address in you because you can't change somebody else you can't make somebody else see something or see it from your point of view because that's your point of view and sometimes it's not that you're right they're wrong or they're right.

And you're wrong it's just, that's the way it is. We see things from our own perspective, our own point of view. We can either get drawn into the drama and get hurt and validate why we're feeling hurt and all of other things that go along with it or we can actually, once we've calmed down, take a look at ourselves because there's always something there that we can do for us. Because as I said, you can't change somebody else point of view or how to react only your own.

This is where we say it's really important to look at yourself first and it's very relevant when you're dealing with horses but it's relevant for you and at the end of the day The horses want you to be okay. And to see what's going on, not to overreact act in the moment, horses are very good at acting. In that moment, they can be stressed and we get anxious because we can see them stressed. And. Once that situation is past. They've often got the head down, eating.

No, it doesn't mean to say it's not effected them. But they're going back into the moment of doing what they do, whereas the human could walk away and they're still got that ball of energy that, that fire burning and it's like, whoa. And it hangs around for days sometimes. If we learn to cope with that, to work with it and once we've come down to actually just go back into the moment and see it for what it is. Then that changes what happens with the horses? If we go back.

In a few hours to a horse with that same energy they think, you know my God there's that energy again. So, this is why I'm talking about it today. Cause it's those moments that you wake up in it say thinking of the same thing and you know, that you've not dealt with it because it's still there. So that's why I'm sharing this and I do apologize if I'm sniffing I've got a cold. So Try not to. To sniff in between chatting.

But it's really important and it's a big learning curve and it's not that oh if I learned that I will not get that again, you will. The learning is how quickly you come back. So imagine in an athlete when they're first starting to train, you build up to it, you build up to that level. Of fitness and the same with your your mindset, you build up with it.

You never not going to have these experiences because that's life but it's the recovery time, the same as an athlete, their recovery time the more fitter they get is a lot quicker. For somebody that's out of fitness, it's not done any exercise it takes a lot longer and our mindset it's exactly the same.

It's not about stopping the reaction, it's limiting the reaction but limiting the impact it has on our behavior and when it changes your behavior that's the thing that you want to change if you're doing something out of character. Then you think, okay I need to address this now. So, this is why I'm sharing how the energy impacts and if one person think oh my goodness, I did that today and recognizes this up for the next time that's worth it for me.

So there you go that's today's short version podcast and I hope you find this of use and I hope it helps somebody, even if it's one person, like I said that'd be worth it and it's about sharing the ups and the downs because nobody has a perfect life and nobody sweetness and light the whole time we all have triggers and we all have reactions.

It's dealing with it any way that can help ourselves to change, to change for the better so that the next time it's not such an impact and it doesn't stay with us for days on end. So be kind to yourself Don't beat yourself up if you make mistakes because that is going to happen, just be kind but always look at yourself because you're the only person that you can change and it's you, you're responsible for you, your actions and reactions.

And that's where it starts So have a wonderful week wherever you are in the world I hope this makes sense and I apologize again for the nasal sound of having to cold but take care out speak to you soon. Thank you for listening bye for now.