When you're stuck in a rut, it's often helpful to hear how someone else worked through something, and the ancient stories in the Bible truly bring the instinctual lens home to us. Join Christa for a brief journey and a sharing of wisdom gained through the narratives of biblical characters who struggled with the same instinctual issues as we do in life and marriage. Join our membership The E + M Collective now! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and ...
May 11, 2022•11 min
The Enneagram stances assist us so well with goal-setting in marriage and life and today, Christa is joined by speaker, Enneagram theorist, author, and coach Sean Palmer, Enneagram 3 (3-1 Glow Pairing) to walk you through your goals with both love and success together. Continue plunging the depths of communication across stances in Sean's chart-topping new book Speaking Through the Numbers and make sure to use our E + M code for a major discount! Important spots in the pod by minute: Preview &am...
May 09, 2022•50 min•Season 4Ep. 29
In this E + M Shorts episode, Christa brings us a visual of each of the types coming together as a collective to make a beautiful event, and in this case, a party! As you will hear, every single type is needed to make the project or process the very best and as we open the doors to our new E + M Collective, we hope you will bring your type to the E + M Glow adventure together! The E + M Collective Membership, an Enneagram + Marriage Membership is OPEN! Founder's pricing only till June 1, 2022 an...
May 04, 2022•9 min
Marriage has many seasons and today, Christa talks to one of her favorite couples, author and executive pastor at Willow Creek Church, Tim Stevens and his wife Faith Stevens, 2-5 Glow, about setting important marriage goals around all the seasons of marriage. As they remind us, it may seem slow at times but it goes by really fast and about how to prioritize dates, geting away, not scaring your kids away from God, and previous Enneagram coaching with Christa. E + M Collective is also open for enr...
May 02, 2022•49 min•Season 4Ep. 28
As spouses grow and shift in marriage, it's going to make the ride a bit bumpy at times, with one of you potentially dragging one another along or unintentionally sabotaging or undoing the work of the other partner. This is a must-listen E + M short on how to avoid sabotaging the marriage relationship while you're each on your own growth journey with us here at Enneagram & Marriage. Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @e...
Apr 27, 2022•8 min
We look for the missing pieces of ourselves as we’re trying to find a soulmate as well as in our spouse if we're already married. But if we're not healthy ourselves in our attachment styles, will this really help? In our desperation to make the best match, we often miss doing some of our own work. Join Christa and guest "The Date Doctor Christie", Dr. Christie Kederian, EdD, MFT who has paired the Enneagram with both the healthiest dating and long-term attachment strategies both for those marrie...
Apr 25, 2022•33 min•Season 4Ep. 27
A Forgiveness Practice: The E + M Shorts Series When hurts blocks you from forgiving someone in your life, whether it be your spouse, family member, friend, or maybe even yourself it can be tempting to hold on to the feeling of control and bitterness. Join Christa for this mini-episode where she leads you in a forgiveness practice you can experience as many times as needed as you release to God during this special E & M Short specially made for our vices and virtues month on the Enneagram &a...
Apr 20, 2022•8 min
Conflict is an important part of a relationship, it's how we learn. But when we turn towards one another and attune, we learn how we can truly grow together. Christa is joined by Gottman level 2 coach Melissa Thomson, Enneagram 2 who is also E + M Certified to cover this important topic of couples learning to open their hearts to one another in ways that will truly help them to both self-attune as well heal on the deepest of levels emotionally, spiritually, physically, and bodily as we go throug...
Apr 18, 2022•57 min•Season 4Ep. 26
Every person within an affair has a story and when a couple decides to heal together, those stories must be told, often again and again so the couple can find healing rhythms together in the aftermath. Join Christa with one of the world's leading marriage experts and professors from Northwestern's Family Institute, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, PhD, Enneagram 3w2, as she discusses the very best and researched-backed ways to heal together. Find Dr. Solomon's website and her course on rebuilding trust he...
Apr 13, 2022•53 min•Season 4Ep. 25
What do you do when you get to the end of yourself and you realize your deeper personal and emotional vices are hurting you, your marriage, and your closest relationships? Christa is joined by author Tyler Zach, Enneagram 3 (3-6 Glow with his wife Lindsey) who is a co-pastor of a multi-ethnic church and heads up the Gospel for Enneagram Instagram account to talk about this through the lens of faith and community. Take a peek with us inside of the hopeful narratives of many heroes of the faith wh...
Apr 10, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 4Ep. 24
A lot of our sexual issues stem from issues we just aren't talking about, some of them from within the well-intentioned church of the last few decades. Your married sex can be healed, however, and today's podcast with Christa and Sheila Wray Gregoire offers you beautiful reminders of redeeming romance in the bedroom. can work through! This is an episode that can change your sex life forever! Sheila's blog and store is here! Sheila's website is: https://sheilawraygregoire.com/ Jay Stringer's Sexu...
Apr 04, 2022•54 min•Season 4Ep. 23
Join Christa as she and Jenn take you on a deep dive discussing the following traits of Type Nine in marriage and relationships. They talk about the origins of a Nine, the vices (passions), fixations (thought patterns), subtypes, wings, arrows, and most of all tips for a healthier and more fulfilled life and marriage. Share this episode with the Enneagram Nine in your life so you can shine brighter together all year long! Grab your PDF copy of our in-depth Deep Dive on Type Nine (and all the typ...
Mar 30, 2022•49 min•Season 4Ep. 22
Christa is joined by Lisa Carter of Stonegate Fellowship as they discuss the fascinating forgiveness research surrounding the Enneagram and marriage. Learn through you and your spouse's type's lenses so you can find ways back to true and unfiltered and forgiving connection with your spouse! Find Lisa's ministry outreach team at Stonegate Fellowship here: https://stonegatefellowship.com/ Find Lisa's Marriage Unfiltered podcast >> here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices....
Mar 28, 2022•52 min•Season 4Ep. 21
Join Christa as she and Jenn take you on a deep dive discussing the following traits of Type Eight in marriage and relationships. They talk about the origins of a Eight, the vices (passions), fixations (thought patterns), subtypes, wings, arrows, and most of all tips for a healthier and more fulfilled life and marriage. Share this episode with the Enneagram Eight in your life so you can shine brighter together all year long! Grab your PDF copy of our in-depth Deep Dive on Type Eight (and all the...
Mar 23, 2022•42 min•Season 4Ep. 20
There are three distinctive ways of being that are hard-wired into our nervous systems and they are associated with the three centers in the Enneagram, body, heart, and mind. Today Leslie Hershberger, Enneagram expert of 25+ years, and married to her husband Dave for 40 years, shares with us here and on YouTube about the ways we process conflict in marriage. Don't miss Leslie's very deep dive into the centers with us as she unpacks the ways we defend our positions as well as the ways we can cont...
Mar 21, 2022•1 hr 18 min•Season 4Ep. 19
Join Christa as she and Jenn take you on a deep dive discussing the following traits of Type Seven in marriage and relationships. They talk about the origins of a Seven, the vices (passions), fixations (thought patterns), subtypes, wings, arrows, and most of all tips for a healthier and more fulfilled life and marriage. Share this episode with the Enneagram Seven in your life so you can shine brighter together all year long! Grab your PDF copy of our in-depth Deep Dive on Type Seven (and all the...
Mar 16, 2022•49 min•Season 4Ep. 18
Many couples think that conflict is bad or unhealthy but our most recent studies and experts on the show, including Kimberly Holmes, the CEO of the world-renowned relationship outreach, Marriage Helper, disagree. Conflict keeps a marriage honest, healthy, and allows couples to learn with each other and to teach one another. Today Christa is joined by Kimberly, who is an Enneagram 3, to talk about the healthy ways couples can specifically grow in the area of conflict resolution so that they can u...
Mar 14, 2022•47 min•Season 4Ep. 17
What happens when real love is actually on tap at Netflix? Tune in to hear our fun tea and convo on the social experiment of Season 2: Love is Blind as we discuss the love stories that skyrocketed the show to the number #1 rank on Netflix last week and had seventy percent of our audience intrigued. Christa and guest Olivia Haymond bring you right into the experiment with us as we discuss the love we saw on air, surmise about being in the shoes of the show members, and of course, try to extend gr...
Mar 11, 2022•1 hr 1 min
Join Christa as she and Jenn take you on a deep dive discussing the following traits of Type Six in marriage and relationships. They talk about the origins of a Six, the vices (passions), fixations (thought patterns), subtypes, wings, arrows, and most of all tips for a healthier and more fulfilled life and marriage. Share this episode with the Enneagram Six in your life so you can shine brighter together all year long! Grab your PDF copy of our in-depth Deep Dive on Type Six right here (and all ...
Mar 09, 2022•44 min•Season 4Ep. 16
How can we shift our knee-jerk instinctual responses in marriage? How can we offer more compassion and growth opportunities where we may have written one another off as deficient? In today's episode Christa chats with world-renowned Enneagram teacher, thought leader, and coach Beatrice Chestnut of CP Enneagram Academy about how we can both respond to and gently learn to shift and balance with our spouses, partners, and communities as we learn about our SP (self-preserving), SX (sexual), and SO (...
Mar 07, 2022•1 hr•Season 4Ep. 15
Join Christa as she and Jenn take you on a deep dive discussing the following traits of Type Five in marriage and relationships. They talk about the origins of a Five, the vices (passions), fixations (thought patterns), subtypes, wings, arrows, and most of all tips for a healthier and more fulfilled life and marriage. Share this episode with the Enneagram Five in your life so you can shine brighter together all year long! Grab your PDF copy of our in-depth Deep Dive on Type Five right here (and ...
Mar 02, 2022•43 min•Season 4Ep. 14
Today’s podcast is a special show that aims to both inspire and balance you as we talk about walking through the season of darkness and divorce with Enneagram author Kim Eddy, Type 1. It's so important to know how to support the many who go through a divorce in friend circles, in extended families, and especially when it's personal to you. Join Christa and Kim as we talk through tips for not letting bitterness overtake us in these moments but instead slowly learn to light a candle of grace in th...
Feb 28, 2022•58 min•Season 4Ep. 13
Join Christa as she and Jenn take you on a deep dive discussing the following traits of Type Four in marriage and relationships. They talk about origins of a Four, the vices (passions), fixations (thought patterns), subtypes, wings, arrows, and most of all tips for a healthier and more fulfilled life and marriage. Share this episode with the Enneagram Four in your life so you can shine brighter together all year long! Grab your PDF copy of our in-depth Deep Dive on Type Four right here (and all ...
Feb 23, 2022•41 min•Season 4Ep. 12
Although the love languages were created several decades ago, the Truity Psychometric Assessment team recently studied 500,000 modern individuals to find out if the data had shifted. Evidence shows there are now seven styles of love for partners to discuss and to discover their best ways of loving together, which is exciting. We're talking about them here with Truity's founder and CEO Molly Owens, Enneagram 4 as we bring research practically into our homes and into our hearts together! Don't mis...
Feb 21, 2022•44 min•Season 4Ep. 11
Join Christa as she and Jenn take you on a deep dive discussing the following traits of Type Three in marriage and relationships. They talk about origins of a Three, the vices (passions), fixations (thought patterns), subtypes, wings, arrows, and most of all tips for a healthier and more fulfilled life and marriage. Share this episode with the Enneagram Three in your life so you can shine brighter together all year long! Grab your PDF copy of our in-depth Deep Dive on Type Three right here (and ...
Feb 16, 2022•50 min•Season 4Ep. 10
We all desire romance but making it happen is an intentional process, one that takes both motivation and effort after the honeymoon period of a relationship. However, just because something is hard doesn't mean it's not worth the investment. In fact quite the opposite is true - you and your relationship are very much worth it. Join Christa with special guest Alicia Larkey, an Enneagram Life and Marriage Coach, Enneagram 2, as you discover the secrets to your deepest and most vibrant intimate lif...
Feb 14, 2022•52 min•Season 4Ep. 9
Love takes many shapes in families and in this special episode, Christa and her daughter Hannah take you on a journey to delve deep into The Notebook and briefly, Encanto. In this special coffee-shop style chat about love, romance, and family bonds, join us as we consider who these characters really are as they struggle to find themselves. We also talk about what deep love and commitment really means across seasons and generations. Whether you're married or single, join us in the bustle of the c...
Feb 13, 2022•59 min
Join Christa as she and Jenn take you on a deep dive discussing the following traits of Type Two in marriage and relationships. They talk about origins of a Two, the vices (passions), fixations (thought patterns), subtypes, wings, arrows, and most of all tips for a healthier and more fulfilled life and marriage. Share this episode with the Enneagram Two in your life so you can shine brighter together all year long! Grab your PDF copy of our in-depth Deep Dive on Type Two right here (and all the ...
Feb 09, 2022•42 min•Season 4Ep. 8
As couples, we tend to fall into relationship patterns that make us both comfortable and friendly together. This is great but you don't want to leave intimacy behind in your desire for healthy long-term attachment. Amy Wicks, Enneagram 7 (7-9 Pairing) of the Simply Wholehearted Podcast shares her refreshing joy with us and her seventeen years of marriage wisdom as well! Tune in to hear tips for your marriage as you prepare to enjoy Valentine's Day and an entire month's focus on romance here with...
Feb 07, 2022•53 min•Season 4Ep. 7
Join Christa as she and Jenn take you on a deep dive discussing the following traits of Type One in marriage and relationships. They talk about origins of a One, the vices (passions), fixations (thought patterns), subtypes, wings, arrows, and most of all tips for a healthier and more fulfilled life and marriage. Share this episode with the Enneagram One in your life so you can shine brighter together all year long! Grab your PDF copy of our in-depth Deep Dive on Type One right here (and all the ...
Feb 02, 2022•46 min•Season 4Ep. 6
