Your worldview greatly affects how you move in relationships and in life, and it especially influences how you get stuck, too. Depending on whether you're an idealist (1, 4, or 7), a relationalist (2, 5, or 8), or a pragmatist (3, 6, or 9), you operate differently, often contrasting your spouse in other groups or even a different kind of idealist, relationalist, or pragmatist than you. Listen to today's episode for insights on how to learn how your spouse sees the world and to grab the freebie a...
Jul 19, 2021•37 min•Season 2Ep. 46
Dr. Camden Morgante of the 9-6 Glow Pairing joins Christa to talk about both her pairing as well as her specialty of sex therapy. Many couples struggle in the sexual arena and today we take a different angle. Tune in to talk with us about some of the most painful and perplexing moments most couples walk through, including ED, pain and trauma in the bedroom, and more! Visit www.DrCamden.com for more info on working with Dr. Camden or to check our her freebie. Head on over to enneagramandmarriage....
Jul 12, 2021•47 min•Season 2Ep. 45
We're often so quick to grab our phones, work the extra hours, and totally forget about the best reasons for marriage, healing and play together. Sometimes there are deeper roots of connection we've lost or never really had and sometimes it's because we've just lost sight of what's really going to refresh us both as a couple and individually. We're joined today by Dr. Steve and Lisa Call of the Reconnect Institute, 3-4 Glow pairing and a beautiful heart dyad, who help us to reconnect to one anot...
Jul 05, 2021•58 min•Season 2Ep. 44
It's so much fun to get inside of a couple's brain and heart and find out what makes them tick - together! Caroline, a full out heart type 4 and Parker an optimistic 7, show us a piece of their lives and their 4-7 Beautiful Adventure Glow as well. After almost fifteen years of marriage, they've grown in learning how to love not only each other but the world together as they help hurting children across the world. Join this inspiring episode as you see just how deep love for others can run with t...
Jun 28, 2021•47 min•Season 2Ep. 43
Ever wonder what the personality trends are during pregnancy? How your marriage will shift with a baby? This listener-requested episode was fun and fascinating to research. Tune in to hear the commonalities between types as well as the encouraging tips for getting through this difficult but tender and rewarding stage of life and marriage. Join Christa for stories, tips, as well as type by type trends on this week’s show! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our amazing fr...
Jun 21, 2021•39 min•Season 2Ep. 41
Although it may seem a bit like a paradox, the 8-9 dyad is a very popular Enneagram Glow pairing and for good reason. Today's podcast is an interview with Liza Carden, Enneagram 8 and business coach, who shares so many tips and tools for helping your 9 to feel heard, helping your 8 to feel healthily vulnerable, and whatever your type, will be a gift to many listeners alike who want to find their best compatibility as well as their own vibrancy in the world! Liza can be found at www.lizacarden.co...
Jun 14, 2021•52 min•Season 2Ep. 41
This week's interview with Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, may be a truly life-changing episode for individuals or couples dealing with the ongoing cycle of addiction and destructive sexual behaviors. Get ready to embrace the opportunity to let your past story teach you about what it is you're truly looking for in the act of every destructive cyclical behavior, as well as how to find freedom from its grasp. Continue plunging the depths with Chr...
Jun 07, 2021•49 min•Season 2Ep. 40
Have you ever been told you’re good at guessing the types of others? Do you like hearing stories about couples who have gone the distance together? Today's episode is full of fun, family stories and forgiveness in marriage and is all for you as you get to try to figure out the mystery. What are this couple's types? Join us as Christa talks with Sears and Alisa Taylor on their surprising trek from fast-paced architecture life in the Windy City to farm-to-table life in Yuma AZ, where they homescho...
May 31, 2021•52 min•Season 2Ep. 39
When big dreams meet parent life, assertive personalities must shift in stride, as best as they can. Join Christa in talking to the assertive 3-7 heart and head Jet Set Glow Pairing as the delve deep into parenting life, working through trauma together with EMDR, and most especially, learning how to titrate the combination of their personalities as they take on planning, pain, and positivity in marriage, for better and for worse! Check out our guest's podcast at www.effectuallyactive.com Head on...
May 24, 2021•45 min•Season 2Ep. 38
Approaching addiction recovery in a family without grace can place an already vulnerable spouse and family right in the shame cycle when what they need most is the blueprint for both healthy attachment and healthy self-soothing. Join Christa and find hope in understanding more about the process of working on your spouse or family member's addiction with critical relationship tools and research, from both inside and outside of the Enneagram world. Book referenced: Unwanted by Jay Stringer Nationa...
May 17, 2021•43 min•Season 2Ep. 37
Want both a drama-free marriage and the opportunity to work on conflict? Join the posh peacemaker Dr. Morgan Cutlip, PhD of the world renowned @mylovethinks as she takes us through this fascinating idea, sharing not only the depths and rhythms of her 3-9 Enneagram Glow pairing but also the ways she's learned to walk with patience each season, and with as little drama as possible. Dr. Morgan and Christa talk about the early years, mid point, and the best long game strategy for your pairing, too! ...
May 03, 2021•48 min•Season 2Ep. 35
Dealing with conflict in marriage takes a certain amount of wisdom, patience, and love. Enneagram coach Brittany Thomas of one of the biggest Enneagram accounts, Enneagram Explained, takes us on the journey to find just that as she explains not only her 1-5 pairing Glow, Classically Brilliant, but also through the lens of the harmonic groups. Learn about the blind spots and strengths of those in the competency group (1, 3, 5), the reactive group (4, 6, 8), and the positive outlook group (2, 7, 9...
Apr 26, 2021•52 min•Season 2Ep. 34
In this coffee and chat episode with the Maxey Co, Christa chats with Robby, 7sp and Morgan 1sp, to see how subtypes and gender cast a somewhat culturally different glow with a male 7 and female 1 in the mix. Learn exactly how the goodness of a body type can both ground and bring safety to a head type, while the head type brings self-compassionate and bigger dreams to the table. This couple is committed to bringing light and fun, yet vivid vulnerability as to what’s still in process, glowing and...
Apr 19, 2021•1 hr 11 min•Season 2Ep. 34
Child loss is something no one can prepare for fully nor can we full recover. However, support is not only possible but vital and this episode is full of just that for those who have walked this journey, as well as those supporting friends and family through it. Christa interviews Dave and Laura, the 2-9 Loving Hospitality Pairing, as they share the process of walking through their own loss and through their worldwide grief ministry GPS Hope, share specific tools and strategies to other families...
Apr 12, 2021•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 33
When you're stressed, you either go within, find a friend or spouse to chat with, or you aim to get social support with your favorite crew! In relationships, sometimes our favorite ways of surviving don't exactly appeal to our partners. What's more, often we sabotage ourselves by isolating one or two of the ways to survive and completely repressing the other. Join Christa in finding ways to soften your dominant instinct, to enliven your repressed one, and to join your spouse in balancing the bes...
Apr 05, 2021•34 min•Season 2Ep. 32
Often in marriage, we bring our childhood wounds to the table in a way that carries on cycles, hurts our partners, and us too. Many times however, especially as we learn our Enneagram types, marriage can become a safe harbor for us to learn healthy vulnerability and attachment together. Join Christa in a talk with trauma expert Glenda Reagan who will help you find ways to grow close and to heal together and individually! Glenda also discusses her 2-5 Marriage Pairing! www.emdria.org https://app....
Mar 29, 2021•45 min•Season 2Ep. 31
Have you wondered why sex is so often out of sync? Why it's often only pleasurable for one, or why there's so much emotional and physical pain in this supposedly wonderful area for many couples? Join Christa in interviewing Sheila Wray Gregoire, author of the new and vitally important book, "The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught And How to Uncover What God Intended." As an Enneagram 8, Sheila has been championing this important topic with courage and tenacity and helps couples trade ...
Mar 22, 2021•52 min•Season 2Ep. 30
Marriage issues cut deep to the heart and yet often it's uncomfortable to reveal ourselves at our vulnerable levels. Seth Studley, MA, LMFT and Melanie Studley, husband and wife and podcast hosts of the popular Anatomy of Marriage do NOT hold back as they admit to experiencing the rough edges of real marriage and how they've grown since finding the Enneagram. Join us as we talk about Melanie's 8 wing almost taking over as Seth as a 9 fell asleep, and hear how the Enneagram has been offering even...
Mar 15, 2021•54 min•Season 2Ep. 29
When you're raising a family, how do you bring your personality type and subtypes in for the best form in family? Perhaps just as importantly, how do you block the worst of your pairing from showing up as well? Join Christa with husband-and-wife power couple Daniel and Christina Im, co-hosts of the popular Im Between Podcast to find out. This double heart, assertive 3-3 pairing share about their life lessons as a truly dynamic duo, ultimately called to a narrative of true joy and strength they n...
Mar 08, 2021•1 hr 10 min•Season 2Ep. 28
Are you engaged, planning a wedding, or in the first few years of marriage? Have you been married for awhile but you're struggling to remember the "musts" of marriage? Join Christa (and late in the episode, a surprise guest!) in this fun and all-inclusive episode that goes into marriage "do's and don'ts," the "Big 3" areas (sex, finances, and communication), and of course, type by type tips for you as well! Episode Rersources Premarital book: https://www.amazon.com/Saving-Your-Marriage-Before-St...
Mar 01, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Season 2Ep. 27
Your Enneagram work on your relationships is so important to your ongoing relationship success but did you know that before the world of Enneagram was popularized, there was and still is a marriage research system that every person working on their relationship will benefit from called The Gottman Method. Today's episode surrounds identifying key features of the research-based Gottman program for you to learn from the heart of a passionate therapist, Mac Cazeau, LMHC, who in addition to sharing ...
Feb 22, 2021•40 min•Season 2Ep. 26
We are so honored to have the best-selling author of "The Road Back to You" and "The Path Between Us," Enneagram teacher Suzanne Stabile as our guest this week. Suzanne expertly teaches us relationship tips for every type and also offers us tips to help avoid typing our spouses. Suzanne has learned so much over the years, not only from her 2 & 9 marriage pairing with her husband Joe, but as an Enneagram teacher of over 25 years, bringing both her wisdom and a most welcome heart-centered pers...
Feb 15, 2021•1 hr 11 min•Season 2Ep. 25
This Valentine's week, we have our first official Enneagram Glow story for you with Jared and Kate Shaughnessy, an Enneagram 8-3, "Unstoppable" couple sharing their powerful falling-in-love and maintaining love stories both! Get ready to learn how to be more intentionally and healthily passionate from this strong and assertive couple, as well as what it takes to humbly let down one's guard and to truly surrender as well. Jared and Kate share many practical tips about sexual intimacy, forgiveness...
Feb 08, 2021•43 min•Season 2Ep. 24
Among the most frequent questions around the Enneagram world are those that revolve around relationship pairings. Though there’s no such thing as the "perfect type compatibility," there are indeed fascinating relationship trends. In fact, this January 2021, Truity conducted an 88,000 person relationship study to aid in Enneagram and relationship research and we're so grateful to share the results! Join Christa and Molly Owens, founder and CEO of Truity Psychometrics in a conversation about frequ...
Feb 01, 2021•49 min•Season 2Ep. 24
You hear about the holy idea of the Enneagram but how do we practically find soul care as we journey toward healthier life and relationship work? Join Christa with Penguin Random House authors Jackie Brewster, Enneagram 7 and Eve Annunziato, Enneagram 8 who have 7-3 and 8-5 relationships, respectively. Eve and Jackie have carefully and prayerfully laid the groundwork for you as you learn and grow, in their beautiful new Enneagram devotional book, Hearing God Speak: A Fifty-Two Week Interactive D...
Jan 25, 2021•52 min•Season 2Ep. 23
Today's families in our current cultural climate need to balance our hearts, minds, and body instincts more than ever. As anger brews in the world often for good reason, this MLK Day, we're taking time to process from a place of peaceful reintegration with our lost center's gifts, specifically the gift of the five senses and the body, especially considering our 8, 9, and 1 work. Don't miss out on ways to connect and to grow in family and marriage with healthy vulnerability, strength, and always,...
Jan 18, 2021•33 min•Season 2Ep. 22
As you begin a new journey of 2021, how can you manage the massive levels of stress that we're dealing with right now as a culture, now including not only a global pandemic and a racial justice movement but also the issues at the Capitol last week? How do you help a spouse with their stress as well as show patience and love for people who are different from you? Perhaps most important to these times, how do you stay afloat so you can best serve others despite the mounting stress? Join Christa in...
Jan 11, 2021•43 min•Season 2Ep. 21
We know the our Enneagram passions all too well, they are the ego fixations and parts of our personality that we get stuck with all the time. Sometimes, however, we trick ourselves into thinking these maladaptive parts of ourselves will heal our deepest wounds individually and in marriage. However, instead, it is our type's virtue that will provide the steadying factor to soothe our weary souls. Find your type's passions and virtues as you listen to this brand new 2021 episode and find out how y...
Jan 04, 2021•41 min•Season 2Ep. 20
We said goodbye to 2020 and now we're saying a big healthy hello to 2021! Let's do it together with a challenge that helps us to create a healthy flow in our hearts, minds, and bodies this year, one that considers our angst and issues but is ultimately comprised of gratitude, thoughtfulness, and love. This special episode outlines steps to restore things that have been unintentionally lost in the busy, hard, and whirling 2020. Together we're moving forward intentionally so we can glow brightly a...
Jan 03, 2021•29 min•Season 2Ep. 19
The thinkers among us are equipped to shape the world with their innovating dreams that often become inspiring realities, sometimes even shaping the world abroad. However, for the people who are constantly dealing with an active brain, living in a family with others who are more heart or body-based can be a daunting challenge, to say the least. This episode covers our wise Fives, our brave Sixes, and our optimistic Sevens in depth. There are tips for dealing with the passions of each type in mar...
Dec 28, 2020•40 min•Season 2Ep. 18
