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Ending The Sexual Dark Age

JV Altharaswww.sexualdarkage.com
Despite what most of us are led to believe, there is nothing mysterious or elusive about the female orgasm. This is one of the many things you were probably never taught about sex, since you grew up in a society too afraid of it to have truly open dialogue on the subject. Ending the Sexual Dark Age will guide you, a step at a time, to the healthy attitude towards sexuality that you would have been taught in a genuinely civilized world. From practical techniques to sexual philosophy, you’ll learn you how to have better sex and more of it; in a friendly atmosphere that doesn’t demean or coddle. As a matter of fair warning, I use blunt language with a "no BS" style, and occasionally I say things that would make a sailor blush. Feel free to address any questions, concerns, comments or tirades to jvaltharas at gmail dot com.
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Episodes

041 Advice Line: Too Many Orgasms, Getting Back On Track After Poor Performance, Men Intimidated By Confident Women, Post-Wedding Lack Of Sex

Listener questions including a wife who feels guilty about how easily and often she can come with a new toy, getting back on track after a really bad sexual performance, men being intimidated by sexually confident, indpendent women and a young lady who's not getting nearly enough cock after her wedding. Lady of the Drake , an erotic fantasy novel from the same filthy mind that brings you this podcast, is now available wherever e-books are sold for $6.99 retail. Don't forget to step up for a 1 in...

Nov 16, 201139 min

040 BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 2, Communication, Reading Your Sub, Bondage, Hair Pulling, Giving Orders, Throat Fucking and Pain Play for New Doms

Part 2 of our guide to sexual dominance focuses on tips and tricks for introducing BDSM to your play time without doing anything intimidating or obnoxious. This episode covers how a dominant can establish and enhance their power through communication, using observation to make it seem like you can read your sub's mind, getting started with bondage, sensual hair pulling, finding out if throat fucking is on the menu, giving orders and getting your submissive to thank you for it, using pussy spanki...

Oct 25, 201157 min

039 Advice Line: Vaginism, Struggling With Monogamy, Bisexuality and Bicuriosity

Topics include Vaginism / Vaginismus and how to discuss the issue at the beginning of a relationship, a woman who loves her husband and family but is struggling with non-monogamous desires and questions from two listeners on bi-curiosity and bisexuality. One is a girl attracted to other girls but unable to get off on lesbian porn, and the other is a guy who likes certain specific play with other guys but isn't sure if the label "bisexual" fits. We also come up with a fun t-shirt contest for our ...

Sep 30, 201150 min

038 BDSM Guide: Sexual Dominance Part 1, Getting Your Head In The Right Space

The first installment of our guide on how to be a sexual dominant, the philosophy of dominance, dom space and why it's awesome, understanding what power the dominant does and doesn't have, discipline vs. punishment, and a bunch of other fundamentals to help fledgling dominants on their way to learning the proper care and feeding of a sexual submissive. Show Website: SexualDarkAge.com Sponsored By: AdamAndEve.com , enter the code "DARKAGE" at checkout to get HALF OFF just about any item, FREE shi...

Sep 13, 201153 min

037 Advice Line: Sex-Positive Christians, Condom Problems, Praying Away The Gay

Listener questions and comments on erectile dysfunction directly related to condoms, Christians doing their best to be sex-positive, and the "ex-gay" movement (which produces Shara's first rant on the show). Shara and I also talk about some upcoming audio erotica that we're doing for Ravenous Romance, the re-release of Episode 36 with Shara doing the female dialogue, and the show's first birthday. Also, Shara gets her birthday spankings on the air :) Show Links: Show website: SexualDarkAge.com T...

Aug 22, 201135 min

036.1 Audio Erotica: "A Shalar Is Born"

NEW CUT with Shara sounding hot as hell playing the part of Celeste. A quick, kinky tale of a farmgirl who gets more than she bargained for when she throws herself at the local blacksmith. This story is a prequel to "Lady of the Drake," coming fall 2011 from Ravenous Romance. Read this story at TwistedErotica.com Show Website: SexualDarkAge.com Sponsored By: AdamAndEve.com , enter the code "DARKAGE" at checkout to get HALF OFF just about any item, FREE shipping, three FREE porn DVDs and a FREE s...

Aug 03, 201121 min

035 Advice Line: Painful Anal, Menstrual Sex, BDSM Mentoring, Female Masturbation for Beginners

Listener questions and comments on topics including terrible sex advice, accidental anal, the challenges of a small woman taking a big cock in the ass, easy ways to deal with the mess that comes with menstrual sex, BDSM mentoring and helping a submissive you're not sexually involved with find a dom, and some advice for a young woman who can't figure out how to enjoy masturbation. Show Links: Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women and Couples by Jack Morin (At Amazon) Tristan Taormino's...

Jul 17, 201145 min

034 Anal Sex Guide: Why Guys Want It, Anal Porn, Anal Health and Safety, Ass Play With Toys

Understanding the ass as a sex object, how to play without causing damage or injury, why guys want to fuck women in the ass in the first place, ass-to-pussy and ass-to-mouth as they relate to disease, use of condoms and finger cots for anal sex and ass play, the importance of relaxation to good ass fucking experiences, the morning after, and a bunch of other fun stuff related to butt fucking in general...including a list of surprising items removed from people's asses in hospitals. Show Links: A...

Jun 30, 201140 min

033 Advice Quickie: Coming Out As A Bisexual Guy When You're A Swinger

This quickie bonus episode represents a great collaboration between Ending the Sexual Dark Age and Life on the Swingset . The Swingset pitches in to answer a question from an experienced swinging guy who's concerned about coming out to the swing community as a bisexual. Many thanks to Cooper, Ginger, Dylan and Shira for lending a hand on this one. Show Website: SexualDarkAge.com Our Friends: LifeOnTheSwingset.com...

Jun 23, 201110 min

032 Advice Line: How To Ride A Cock, Making Your Own Bondage Gear, Dealing With Male Sexual Stamina Issues

This listener mail episode includes questions on how to get good at riding a cock like a cowgirl, tips on making your own bondage gear and fetish wear on the cheap, and dealing with the psychological fallout of male stamina issues. Show Website: SexualDarkAge.com Sponsored By: AdamAndEve.com , enter the code "DARKAGE" at checkout to get half off just about any item, free shipping, free porn and a free sexy surprise....

Jun 15, 201139 min

031 Swinging Part 2: BDSM, Single Swingers, Bisexuality, Open Relationships

We're once again joined by Cooper and Ginger from Life on the Swingset for a lively discussion on ethical non-monogamy that covers topics including BDSM in the swing community, single swingers and the different challenges faced by men and women as singles, bisexual curiosity, swinging vs. open relationships, sex related injuries, couples playing together or apart, keeping the mood intact when something goes haywire, and double vaginal penetration. Yeah, it's a super-sized episode. We also do a f...

May 31, 20111 hr 38 min

030 Advice Line: Anal & Hemorrhoids, Handling Girth With Your Mouth, Sex & New Parents, The Down Side of Safe Words In Kinky Play

Topics include getting laid as a new mom when dad isn't being terribly helpful, how to comfortably deal with a big dick in the mouth (and in the back door with hemorrhoids as a complication), a discussion on the good and bad aspects of safewords in BDSM play, and some general questions regarding dominant/submissive relationships. Show Website: SexualDarkAge.com

May 18, 201146 min

029 Swinging Part 1: Tips For Newbie Swingers, Jealousy, Swinger Parties, Finding Swingers Online

This time we're joined by Cooper and Ginger from Life on the Swingset to have a fun conversation about the joys ethical nonmonogamy. In fact, we were having so much fun that we didn't get to half the topics we wanted to discuss, so we'll be reconvening our foursome to finish the interview in a couple weeks for Swinging Part 2.Some of the issues we cover in this episode include: How to safely and comfortably dip a toe into swinging when you've got no idea if it's right for you, jealousy and how t...

May 03, 201159 min

028 Advice Line: Bi-Bashing Gays, Soft-Selling Your Kinky Side, A Sexual Fresh Start, Teaching A Guy To Be A Dominant

Topics include bisexuality, online dating, introducing a vanilla husband to sexual dominance, re-stoking the sexual fires of a relationship and dealing with new potential playmates who expect a full blown Dominatrix as soon as a woman mentions kink. Show Links: Show Website: SexualDarkAge.com Kink-positive books for newbies (at Amazon): Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism The Loving Dominant...

Apr 21, 20111 hr 4 min

027 Group Sex Basics: Threesomes, Swinging, Polyamory, Orgies, Bi-Curiosity, Limits And Safe Words

Some of the basic concepts and philosophies of group sex as well as some of the pitfalls of threesomes and couples playing together, including how bi-curiosity can come into play and how you can encourage a curious playmate without pushing too hard. This episode begins an arc of topics on group play, swinging, polyamory and other flavors of non-monogamy. Show website: SexualDarkAge.com

Apr 06, 201157 min

026 Gays In The U.S. Military

An in-depth interview with a career military man, who gives us a behind-the-scenes look at the modern soldier's real attitudes towards serving with gays and lesbians; as well as sharing the straight story on the Pentagon's new policy and what it means to the people who will actually be dealing with it. Show Website: SexualDarkAge.com

Mar 22, 201158 min

021 Advice Line: Cock Rings, Sex Journals, Masturbation Stigmas, Polyamorous Complications

Celebrating the first six months of the show, J.V. and Shara look back on some highlights, talk about topics including sex journals, women who frown on masturbation and polyamorous complications. A new section of the website and the show's Android App are also announced. Show Links: Show Website: Sexualdarkage.com New section of the website: Confessions of a Dirty Mind...

Feb 07, 201149 min

020 Audio Erotica "The Taking of Ariel"

A sensual tale of erotic fantasy introducing the Realm of Aeodar, a publication announcement for one of J.V.'s short stories, and a bit of inspirational heavy metal from the archives. Show Links: Read "The Taking of Ariel" on TwistedErotica.com Ravenous Romance

Jan 31, 201146 min

018 Advice Line: Why Guys Like Facial Cumshots, Laser Pube Removal, Unsafe Sex Toys, False Accusations of Cheating

Topics include why guys like blowing loads all over women, laser hair removal for balls and pussies, how to spot and avoid using unsafe sex toys that can leech chemicals and cause problems, being constantly accused of cheating when you're not (and how it can make you want to cheat just to balance the scales) and how to deal with a guy who doesn't care if he can give his woman an orgasm. Suprisingly, my suggestion is not to beat him unconscious with a fifteen inch dildo. Show Links: Coalition Aga...

Jan 17, 201142 min

017 BDSM Basics Part 1: What 'BDSM' Means, Marquis DuSade, Sadism vs. Sadomasochism, Safe Words, Munches, BDSM Porn

A beginner's guide to understanding BDSM. This jumbo sized episode covers the definitions of: the acronym "BDSM", Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism & Masochism as well as Sadomasochism. We also talk about soft limits, hard limits, the Marquis DuSade, Safe Words, SSC (Safe, Sane & Consentual) Play vs. RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink), Polyamory in the BDSM Lifestyle, finding a local or online BDSM community and what you should keep in mind when watching BDSM porn (...

Jan 10, 20111 hr 41 min

014 Laryngitis Sucks

It seems my vocal cords have decided to stage an insurrection, so I apologize for not being able to put out a full episode this weekend. I hope to get back to regularly scheduled programming in a few days once I slap my vocal cords back in line.

Dec 13, 201055 sec

012 Cunni Linguistics: How To Be Good At Licking Pussy And Why Shaving Improves Oral Sex

The art of eating at the Y is examined from several angles with a bunch of, tricks and ideas for newbies and connoisseurs. Included are the anatomy of a pussy (where you find the clit and how to make it happy), rythm and style, why a shaved pussy will probably get licked a lot more often and a sniff test that can save you from an awkward moment. Show Website: Sexualdarkage.com

Nov 29, 201040 min
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