Baby, whatever, I ain't got no job, man, What do you mean you're got no job? I'm working with Tobby.
Well, I will say, on the bright side of things, I am happy to have you home and be more prepared for a situation like this this time around. Hey, I'm Kadeen and I'm Devout and we're the Ellis's.
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Wait, I make you need therapy most days. Wow.
Oh, and one more important thing to mention, we're married.
Yes, sir, we are.
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I'm gonna take y'all back all the way back to May May.
I always laugh when you say all the way back, because it could be like yesterday it could be May, or it could be like two thousand and two.
Yo.
So no matter of fact, I'm gonna take y'all even further back than May.
I'm gonna take you back to April. April. I'm in Canada, Toronto.
Yeah, we're filming, filming a movie that I can't disclose yet because we're on strike. And also when I can't disclose it, I'm gonna be excited to tell you about. But we're filming, and I hear from Tyler Perry Studios that the scripts for season seven Sisters are starting to
come out. And when we get the scripts, we're looking through the scripts and we noticed that there are some changes, and there are some characters who are no longer here in the script, no longer script or any story right, And we're starting to like wonder, like what's going on. And we found out that TP is no longer writing the scripts for Sisters, and he's hired the writer's room.
So the writers took liberties to write their own stories for certain characters, introduce new characters, and dismiss certain characters. So the characters that have been on the show that are no longer going to be on the show found out via a phone call.
Approximately three weeks before we were supposed to start filming in May. So we're planning to go back to film and then you find out that you're not going to be on the show, right, And it was heartbreaking for us because there's a camaraderie, right. I remember being cut in the NFL and you get that phone call they asked you to come bring your playbook and you get cut, and then like the team just continues to go on, Like you go back home, you with your family, You
don't see your teammates no more. Your teammates walk in the door one day and they're like, yo, where's Ellis And they're like, yo, Ellis got cut. Yeah, and it's kind of like it's very similar. So I remember that fit.
I remembered that feeling and having to deal with that with some of my cast mates, and it kind of hurt because it brought me back and I felt sorry for them because three weeks you're planning on getting these next group of checks so that you can plan out the rest of your year because as an actor, there's no guarantee that you book. You know, sometimes you have good years, sometimes you have bad years. And in bad years.
You know, you're constantly auditioning, but you may just not have a project that fits you, so you don't make that additional money. And I remember saying like, man like, I'm proud of myself and I'm proud of us that we prepare a table for our family to eat if I don't book anything or if I ever get cut from a project. And then literally after doing season seven, we hear about the writers' strike and they were saying, oh, the writers will be on strike, but we're supposed to
go back and shoot Satima in August. And now we're in June and July and we hear the SAG strike is happening, and then I get that phone call that we won't be returning in August, and I was like wow. I was just saying to Kadeen, at least we know what we have to do if this ever happens to us. And now we're literally here and it's happening to us. Very simple for karaoke today, I'm gonna take you back to a time when we were rapping about things that matter, like.
The power, fight the power that be. Let's say, fight the power, fight the power that be.
Right now, power is the AMPTP, and that was all the collection of studios that the actors are fighting against to get fair wages, fight against AI and also health insurance, which is.
A big deal.
Listen, it's a lot of layers to this whole thing here, and I think it's worth us kind of chatting about it. We're going to talk about what the Screen Actors Guild AFTRA is and why they're striking.
And ultimately the importance of knowing your labor union and understanding what your role can be in any of this, because it may not be a sad strike for you.
You could be a teacher.
The teacher's been talking about going on strikes ups work has just went on strike. Amazon workers on strikes at one point, and I feel like it's important for people to understand why strikes happen, why labor unions exist, but how you can protect your family in times where you may have to strike and not work.
For sure, and then how we've been able to find a silver lining around all that. So stay tuned. We're going to pay some bills with whatever money to Veil got in his bank account now and we'll be back, all right, So we're back. So if you've tried to tune into your favorite daily shows like The View or the Today Show, only to be surprised by a repeat episode from a few months ago. That's because Hollywood's performers
and writers are now on strike, y'all. And if you are not in the entertainment industry, you may not know a lot about WGA or sag Afstra unions. But if you're familiar with having a eight hour work day, then you are familiar with the work of unions. Okay, so
we're going to unpack that for you today. We have some facts and stats, and then we'll be chit chatting in between it just to kind of break some things down and develop being as though you are a member of sag Astra and Astra and keep saying tongue ti Afstra. Since you are a member, you will be able to also break down what that looks like for you from an actors dam point. But let's start with the basics here in case people don't know what a labor union is.
Right, Well, before we even start about that.
You want to go back to the story.
Yeah, let's just unpack the story, right, and how there's success to that.
Let's do that.
The reason why strikes affect people, especially actors. And I don't want to make it about actors only, sure, but I just want to clarify some things, and even even the NBA, because I was a part of the NFLPA. Yes, when I played in the NFL, which is the players Association, which is our labor union against the league, and the NBA also has their own players union. Right, when you watch people on TV, everyone assumes the minute that you make on TV, the minute you make it on TV, you've made it.
Right, So whether it's a commercial or whether it's it's.
A one liner or you have one word you're a co star on the show, people think, oh, you made it, you made millions of dollars.
That is absolutely wrong.
Much like when you were signed to the NFL. Yes, oh millionaire, multimillionaire.
That's what people thought.
No the hell he was. I was there. I've seen the checks. The checks wasn't checking it.
Well, no, no, they wasn't checking. It wasn't checking.
We were grateful, We were extremely extremely grateful, grateful. What people need to understand even about performers or even if you if you work.
As an actor now not as an actor, if you work as an athlete.
Right, I'll give you. I'll give you some stats real quick. Right, Duncan Crabtree Island. The sag After National Executive Director reports actors make made a median salary of forty six thousand dollars in twenty twenty one, a median salary, So most actors that you see make a median salary of forty six thousand dollars, with the lower quartile averaging thirty thousand dollars.
Those studios make over twelve billion dollars a year. However, actors must make a minimum of around twenty six thousand a year to qualify for healthcare benefits.
We've been there.
According to We've Been There Sean Sharman, actor and sag After board member, just twelve point seven percent of sag After members qualify for the union's health plan, which means most of the people you watch on television still have to have another job, right, still have to carry some form.
Of health insurance.
So if they're only acting and they're only making around forty six forty seven thousand a year, if they're paying their own health insurance out of pocket, because they don't qualify for sag Extra, because that median doesn't mean that you only make that money acting right, like you could have done some non union work to still make up that money. But the truth of the matter is only twelve percent of actors have health insurance.
Do you remember when we were literally looking at the mail every single day, yes, knowing that we needed an additional I think it was like thirty five. It was like an exact number, thirty five ninety two, was it or so it was something like that. It was like down to a dollar that we needed to qualify for health insurancement. At this point, we had Jackson. I was trying to go back to freelancing.
Yeah, we had just had jack.
Yes, I was trying to go back to freelancing so that I would have more flexibility with my schedules to spend more time with you and Jackson, to kind of make my own business flourish. But I was holding onto my job in retail because I'm like, I needed this health insurance for the family. And Deval made me a promise.
Deval said, could he even promise you? He said, as soon as I get enough money in from these commercials and my residuals, you will be able to cut back a little bit to start your own makeup business and
have flexibility to be home with us. And I mean literally every day checking the mail and counting the dollars and adding everything up, but also the uncertainty of not knowing when that would even happen, and getting that check almost down to the dollar amount just to qualify for health insurance, and then having to maintain that so you can get it for a.
Quarter, get a full quarter, but if you don't maintain, if.
You don't maintain it, it's like what happens. Then?
Well, here's the crazy part is that I.
Was one of those actors before I became a series right now, I was doing commercials, living off of residuals. But I also owned the gym on the nonprofit organization mentoring young men and women. I was also a substitute teacher, Like there were so many things you helped supplement our income while working freelance as a makeup artist, Like we had multiple jobs while I was pursuing my acting career.
And I remember, and the reason why I wanted to talk about this before we get into all the details of the strike, but I remember when I got cut by the NFL, and at that time, that was our only source of revenue got cut in two thousand and eight. That's when the economic crisis happened and I ended up having to go back to the University of Michigan to work as a learning coordinator, And that's how you started
working at MAC that fall. And I remember saying to myself, never again in my life will I allow one source of income to be my sole source of revenue from my entire family, because if that revenue was stopped for whatever reason, then we're.
Fucked, particularly in a field like for example, professional sports, right, or you know, the entertainment industry, where so much of your livelihood is dependent on someone else's decision.
Right.
You know, somebody wakes up on the wrong side of the bed in the morning and decides, you know what, I'm going to go with this person instead of that person, or oh, we have this role and you know this person looks good, but ah, he doesn't look as good with this person, so we can't match them. Like that was I think the biggest thing, knowing the fields that you were into, it was that much harder to maintain a job.
What I'm going to say now, I want people to really listen to right, because what I'm going to say is going to sound disheartening for some, but it is.
It is an absolute fact, and it is the truth.
To be accepted or to get an opportunity in any field, whether it's TV, film, whether it's being an athlete, whether it's being a CEO of Fortune five hundred company, whether it's being an executive at a tech firm, right, requires more than.
Just your ability to do the job.
Like the world is overpopulated, there are tons of people that can do the same job you can do, but what is required to get that opportunity is relationships. And I feel like a lot of people miss out on opportunities because they refuse to build and maintain relationships that can give them opportunities.
Right.
So, I feel like I was able to reach this level because I understood the value of relationships early on from playing.
Oh no, no, no, absolutely, I won't.
I won't discredit someone who works hard, right, But but my thing is just working hard and being good at the job is not enough. That number the old saying it's not what you know, what's who you know. That's not even the same. It's not who you know, it's who knows you and who.
Likes you, just wants to be around you.
Thank you.
Who wants to work with you?
Thank you. That's what I wanted to get to bab. Yes, that's imagine.
You have to work, whether it's on a team and you got to spend fourteen hours and travel with them, or you're on a set and it's eighteen hours and you may have to travel with them, or you're working in sales, or you're working as a Fortune five hundred company. You have to be with these people more often than you have to be with your family.
People don't want to work with people they don't like.
That's a fact. Or it's hard to work with you know what.
I'm saying for sure, So a lot of it ends up being CLICKI right. Yes, Hollywood is CLICKI yes, the basketball is CLICKI yes.
Working in the financial district, it's clickie.
Why do people hire so many of their friends in the fund Why is nepotism such a big deal in every industry?
Because people like to work with people they like.
It's a classic case of I know a guy, yes, or I know a girl, or I know somebody who man not only is he a beast at his job or is she a beast at her job. This person is just cool to be cool to be around a breeze, right, yep.
The reason why I wanted to put that out there first is because what I'm gonna say next is gonna bother people.
Right, Okay, how many blockbuster movies.
Come out every summer? We'll say, let's say that's eight weeks in the summer. Eight weeks in the summer. Right, let's just say that's eight blockbuster movies a week. A blockbuster movie comes out every week. Right, That's not the case, but let's just say that's the case. You got eight blockbuster movies. Do you know how many people want to be the lead actor in those movies?
Yeallions of people.
And of those millions of people, those people are constantly working and working and working on their craft, taking acting lections, going to conservatory, going to all of these schools to learn about being the best performer they can be. They're only gonna pick eight, and of those eight, typically they go with people who've already had a certain level of success or.
They know or experience.
So you have millions of people fighting for those eight positions. Same way in the NBA, same way, if you're going to be a CEO of Fortune five hundred company.
It's no different.
It's a very limited space, but there's millions of people fighting for those jobs. Those people who are constantly working and fighting are the working class actor.
You know what I'm.
Saying that who you see in those eight blockbuster movies is not the working class actor. When you look at a Tom Cruise, a Will Smith, a Tom Hanks, a Wesley Snipes, a Denzel those are actors who've worked their way through the ranks, who were able to become the top one percent. Same thing as you look at the Steph Curry and Lebron James. But those are not the
working class people who the unions have to protect. And the reason why I'm saying this is because when people hear these stories about actors who may have lost their homes or mayor have to go to food banks, or for example, the young man who played Elvin on The Cosby Show, who he was working at Traded Joe and people saw him and was taking videos and it was just like, Yo, this is Elvin, how is he working? Like guys, everybody is not going to make millions of dollars in television.
Yeah, And it's kind of kind of rude and disrespectful for people to insinuate that just because somebody is in a position where they are now having to return to an everyday job or a nine to five, because it may have been on TV years ago, thinking that they were frivolous with their money or that they were just being you know, like thinking the money was going to keep coming, and that's not the case.
Sometimes it's not the case.
Sometimes what happens is you get an opportunity, you work on the show.
I'll give you an example.
You work on a pilot, pilot gets picked up, picked up, Ye, pilot is picked up.
Yo, pilot gets picked up.
When you first signed on to do a pilot, you sign a contract in case that pilot gets picked up. Say that pilot gets picked Say say for example, it's for a cable network. Right, the base the base for that pilot is you'll make twenty five thousand per episode. How many episodes in a cable show? Oh, we know what, we'll We'll buy six episodes. Remember the first season of Power was only six episodes. So you make twenty five
thousand an episode for six episodes. I put you at one hundred and fifty k Okay, So now you see an actor on the show that you really really like on this cable network and you like, Yo, that was fire.
I love this. This guy's killing it right now? Right?
What happens after season one ratings weren't that good? And you know what happens, The show gets canceled it.
We've seen a lot of shows like that, some that I were pretty good shows, absolutely, and I was just like, oh my god, I can't believe that got canceled.
And I'm gonna explain to you why a lot of those shows get canceled. You get one hundred and fifty thousand dollars. Other than one hundred and fifty thousand dollars, you automatically have to pay ten percent to who your manager, if you have an manager, and if you have an agent.
So that's fifteen k there, fifteen k there.
Right, because manager and agent are two seven different.
Things, two different things.
So now you pay ten percent to your manager, ten percent to your agent. That's thirty thousand dollars going of your one fifty. So now you're down to one twenty. Oh shit, you know what, you gotta pay taxes? Right, say you're smart enough to open to start an LLC and have an escort and have a loan ow company.
You should.
Now you'll pay tax on one hundred and twenty k, not the one fifty. But of that one hundred and twenty K, you're probably gonna pay because that's in the top I think that's in the top seventy five percent earner. Yeah, because if you make one hundred and twenty k you make, you make a sufficient amount of money in America, they're going to tax you that high rate of forty percent. It so forty percent of that one twenty is forty eight thousand dollars. So subtract that one twenty, that forty eight.
Now you left with seventy two thousand dollars. Seventy two thousand dollars you you might have just like yo, I'm on to show. Let me hire a stylist for this, let me do this for that, let me buy this for that. Market yourself. You're trying to build things. You hire a PR firm to promote the show. Three PR firms if you're low end PR firm three thousand a month.
I was about to say that PR build through me for a loop.
You see what I'm saying. So where were we at seventy eight K?
Yeah, so let's go we going to three a three month tour runt on the show. That's three this nine thousand. So now you're a sixty nine K. You bought some clothes and stuff to do these red carpets, say about a ten K?
Ten K?
Because now I want to take an investment. It's an investment. I have to look at this.
You know what I'm saying.
So you take care to that sixty eight Now it was down to fifty eight thousand dollars. Right, Wait a minute, I still have to survive the rest of the year, so let me save the rest of that. You don't go on a trip. I'm not even going to say you went on.
A trip or you left with after everything.
Fifty eight thousand dollars.
So if you were to divide that by, say, let me pay my rent, okay, whatever your rent is for twelve months.
Say you live in New York. Say you live in New York.
Our apartment now in New York goes for over four thousand dollars more. But no, everybody doesn't need a three bedroom. So let's say you live by yourself. You got a one bedroom in New York. It's twenty five hundred, twenty five hundred a month times twelve puts you at.
Thirty thousand a year. Thirty thousand a year.
We had fifty eight left, thirty eight, so you have twenty eight thousand dollars left for the year. You like, I'm good, right, I'm good. But now your show got canceled. And now the following year you're trying to get onto another show, and you don't get onto that show. But you had twenty eight thousand dollars left, and you still have to survive the next year because you auditioned. You auditioned, and you didn't get picked up as another series regular. Yeah,
maybe you did some guest star work. Guest star work means you work two, maybe three episodes on the show, But if you get top billing as a guest star, you may get nine thousand per episode, and there's no guarantee you get more than two or three episodes.
Remember, we had a friend who was on the show, and turns out his character recurred a couple I think, I don't know he was co star guest star, but they made it so that, however many times he recurred in the show, he had to come out to film in Atlanta.
So this is what happened, and they're fighting against this, right, I'm glad you I know you're talking about.
I don't want to out them, of course not, but just the situation of somebody that got a job and then had to stay with us to try to save money because he couldn't even afford a hotel room to stay.
So this is how this is how hard actors are working to just get opportunities. He was booked as a recurring character. Right now, They didn't say a recurring guest star.
Just for people to.
Know, a guest star is someone who's a recurring guest star. Guest star is someone who's going to be throughout the episodes, maybe in about three or four scenes. Right, if you're a co star, you're in one scene, right, maybe two, and the second one ain't gonna have no lines.
You just be there, right.
They billed it as a recurring character, but they didn't say a recurring guest star. So they build it as a recurring You go when the audition, they say they want local talent only. But you already know this if you live in la and you know somebody who lives in New York or Atlanta. Yo, can I borrow your address so that I can use so I can just get some work. I want to get some work. I just want to get some credits so I can start to build my resume.
Right, which is allowed. You're allowed to say that you're willing to work as a local hire. So if I get an audition for something that films in LA and I really want to go for this, I live in Atlanta, but I'll say I'm willing will as.
A local hier.
So what they'll tell you is bet you get booked for the role. You find out that the role is a recurring co star, not a recurring guest star, which means you get the SAG minimum for a day player, which is nine hundred dollars for the day. You're only in that episode one day, but you have to be in Atlanta for at least a week and a half to go to pre prep, go through all your fittings,
go to a rehearsal, and then shoot. So now you have to pay for your own hotel or you have to pay for your own flight to get there because you're supposed to be what a local hire. You just got paid nine hundred dollars to do this episode, but you had to pay for your hotel.
I mean you had to pay for your air flare there and back.
If your person gives you a place to stay cool, you don't got to worry about hotel. But now you got to eat for seven to ten days. So it cost you more money to get this role than it did for you to actually do the role. Like you had to pay money to be on television.
There was no opportunity really other than just the opportunity.
But people watch you on this show every week because you're a current co star and you have one scene with one line.
So they think, oh, you're making money bro yep.
But you not.
And there's a lot there are a lot of actors living that life and not for nothing. Kadeen and I were living that life from two thousand and fourteen, which is my thirtieth the year of my thirtieth birthday. That's when I officially said to Kadeen. I said, Yo, I am going to duplicate myself and I want to talk a little bit about this. I'm going to duplicate myself at the gym and teach people how to do my job at the gym so that I can go on more auditions, so I can fully invest in being an
actor full time. And that's what I did. You know what I'm saying. I worked with Dolo Todolo. This is how I worked with the kids. I hired Rick, I hired Kamal. I ended up moving the gym from Aviator to pack Plex, and I said, there's going to be a fully fledged, full service gym. I'm just not going to be the one doing all the service things so that I can go do my auditions.
Yep.
Right from twenty fourteen to twenty and eighteen, I did guest star work, I did commercials, and I did co star work, but most of my money came from me owning the gym. It didn't come from me being an actor. So it was about four years that I was going hard and I was making some money the commercials, really
good residual money, really really good residual money. And it was a good balance because there were times when things weren't going so great at the gym gym and I had that act that we like you remember.
My seasons were new. But one thing I loved about you, and this is something you taught me. Just about being fiscally responsible is knowing when you get certain lump sums of money how to disperse it. You know, and get excited about the lump sums that come in and think that we can have a field day with it, because there are those dry seasons, especially when you're an entrepreneur.
So Kadeen and I, well, I made a promise to Kadeena at once she was able to cut back freelance, she would never have to go back to work full time. That was my promise to her because as my wife, I felt like she's dedicating herself and her body to give us children. I have to be able to dedicate something to her so that she can feel safe in this space being able to cut back. Because imagine, just imagine your career is based on you being physically able
to do it. Kadeen works in front of the camera, right, but every time you get physically able to go and do it, you get pregnant again.
Because we want to have more kid again and again.
And the only person that you can rely on to make sure that you didn't care them is the father of your children. A person who was asking you to have more children, and that person is not holding up their end of the bargain to make sure you're okay. That can become stressful, sure for a woman, and I just felt like it was my responsibility to do that.
And I appreciate that so much about you.
So when we were making a lot of money, when the gym was hitting and TV was hitting at the same time, and my nonprofit organization was hitting, and I was able to just make, you know, lump sums of money, I always told myself, I'm going to put money away in groups of threes.
So if I made a.
Lump sum of money, all of our bills for the next three months are going to be put to the side first. So for example, our rent at the time of the apartment was two thousand a month.
We had one car.
I would say the total car payments for everything was about fifteen hundred dollars a month.
That's thirty five hundred.
The bills for the gym at the time were five thousand dollars a month plus the employees employee salary, so we're looking at eighty five hundred plus the employee salaries. In additional twenty five hundred months, it was about twelve thousand dollars a month. Every time I got a lump summer money, I would take like a thirty six K. I was just put it in the bank. And then if I got another lump sum I was just putting it in the bank. And before we knew it, we had a
truckload of money. But it was already accounted for. It wasn't money that Kadeen and I could blows. It was money so that it was like, yo, if we ever get in a time where I'm not booking and the gym is off, we at least got six months.
I remember you said.
Everything cover Like literally, I was like, yok, if we don't make another dime after today, we're good for six months. Yes, and that give it. That gave us some relief, yes, yes, but it also was like, you know, there's a time on that. So I ken pushing.
There's a reason why we did that, and we're going to do a full podcast. The podcast is going to be called how bad was it when we learned our lesson? Because we had ran out of capitol and we had did some things to actually get some capital, and no, Kaneen wasn't stripping.
Contrary, it's the popular dumb ans. I was not stripping. I didn't have an only fans, No, but it was.
Only fans, or at that time they might I might have had some.
Content on that contemplating every day that's how do we take this ship to the next level?
Facts?
Yeah, facts, because when when Ridge is touching man and you gotta eat grits every day, man, sometimes it's like, yo, let me just do this real quick.
Facts.
But during that time, especially when when we were transitioning from the NFL and building, I just learned so many smart ways to make sure that money is accounted for. And when this strike happened, Kadeen was like, yo, are we going to be all right? And I was like, you don't have to worry.
Babe, it's about this is tight. My entire twenty almost twenty one years with you. One thing I will say. We've had ups, we've had downs, We've had moments within our relationship like are we going to be together or not? But there was nothing from a perspective of are we going to be okay? Am I going to be okay? Okay? I've never had to worry about that.
That's good today and I love.
And appreciate you, appreciate you so much for that because it didn't matter if we were at odds, it didn't matter where we were. We could not have been talking to each other, sleeping separate rooms. But I never feared that I was going to be left out to dry or alone.
That makes me feel good.
I always wanted to make you feel safe, you know what I'm saying, Like that's and that's a very important part of what we're talking about today, chasing your dreams and feeling safe because you never know when a strike is gonna come, or when you're going to get cut, or when the industry is just going to be on the downslope, you know. And it's important for people to recognize that this can happen in any industry, you know.
And I'm gonna be honest, I never thought for a second that there would be months because I haven't worked since May currently, yes, currently, and in the past four years, there has never been a three month stretch where I haven't booked something. And that's that shout out to God and the blessings he's given me. I have worked my ass off for people who don't know. I'm not just an Instagram or YouTube guy that wants to be an actor.
I am a trained actor.
I did a two year conservative store, two year conservatory at Esper Studio.
I got my.
Bachelor's degree in speech Community. Yeah, r rip bill Man william Esper to go. He was one of the creators and masterminds behind the technique, and he's part of the reason why I've been able to advance and do well in that space because I studied his techniques. I worked directly with him in his class for two years and he taught me a lot.
But also shout out to Hastra. Got my bachelor's.
Degree in Speech Communications and Performance and Rhetorical Studies. So being in TV film is something I've always wanted since I was a young child, and I knew it was going to be a hard road right when I met Kadeen when we were eighteen, when she asked me what I wanted to do, I told her this and Martin was on television, but I told her I had a financial plan because I didn't want to be what a starving artist, A starving artist, starving artist like I just
did not want to be a starving artist. And this goes for all artistry, you know, painters, rappers, singers, dancers, stuntman. I was a stuntman for three years, you know, as part of the sad Gil when I worked on Power doing stunts for Mari Harwick. So I've done a ton of jobs. But I also remember telling Ky that you have to have a financial plan to be an artists or be an entrepreneur. It's not just chasing your dream.
You have to dream with a plan for sure. So let's break down some of the nitty gritty things so you can understand when you hear people talking about this.
Strike right right, because of course we're speaking about sag Astra because they're striking now into bout an ira in the industry. However, if you are in any job, it could be know your eight hour workday job? What is a labor union? A labor union is a group of two or more employees who join together to advance common interests such as wages, benefits, schedules, and other employment terms and conditions.
Now this is important, right, and so many people don't know who's in charge of their labor I mean their labor union.
They don't know who to call if something happens on the labor union.
Right, they don't even know which is important to know because you can fight things on your job like discrimination, unfair wages, unfair work practices, unfair conditions. Just by going to your labor union. You don't have to be the whistleblower. You just go to your union and be like.
A this, Yeah, they have your interest to her. A lot of times you don't want to have to go to the hierarchies, or you don't want to have to go to the people in charge. Right. You want someone who will be in support up to you and will come with that lens versus the And this ain't I know, y'all. Since August twentieth, eighteen sixty six. The National Labor Union was actually founded then in Baltimore, Maryland, and it was the first attempt to create a national labor group in
the United States. And one of their first actions was the first national call for Congress to mandate an eight hour work day.
So I want to I just want to point something out to people who understand history, right, just think about history. The National Labor Union was founded in eighteen sixty six.
What happened around that, What happened in eighteen sixty.
Five, what happened in eighteen.
Well, the Emanciplation Proclamation was signed in eighteen sixty three.
It'sok, two years until.
June nineteenth, eighteen sixty five, when all slaves were considered free, and now people actually had to work to build their businesses. And a minute people had to actually work to build their own businesses.
Let's create a labor union. Doesn't that sound awfully coincidental? I'm saying. I'm just I just want to put that out there.
We just wanted to put to in case you missed it. In case you missed it. So, labor unions were a pillar of the civil rights movement. Many civil rights leaders you may know who helped shape the labor union, Mary MacLeod, Bethune Bayard rustin A, Philip Randolph, and Martin Luther King all worked with labor unions to create more equitable conditions for black workers in various industries.
And we're still fighting those same battles today.
Of the twelve thousand writers in the writer's strike, only eight hundred are African American. That's not crazy to you, wild because and the reason why I want to point that bring this up to is when you're a black artist who are fighting, who is fighting for opportunities, if you don't have black writers writing for you, How could they even find a role that fits it's fits you if the people who are.
Writing don't know to write for you. You know what I'm saying.
And it's the same thing with producers, directors, everything. So there's a reason why these labor unions are important. They're not just fighting for equitable, fair labor practice for everyone, but specifically for Black Americans because, as you can see on the timelines when they created labor unions, labor unions were not.
Created for black people.
It is a fact that the people you mentioned here, Mary MacLeod, Bethune, Martin, Luther King had to fight, and especially a Philip Randolph had to fight to integrate labor unions so black people could be included in the labor unions. An additional fight when first of all, you have to fight to be a part of the union. Then when you get to be a part of the union, fight for equality within the union. I watched, I watched remember
his another quick story anecdote. But when I first retired from the NFL twenty ten, officially, we were looking for help insurance and before I knew that SAG because I knew nothing about SAG, and I didn't know SAG had health insurance.
I was going to be a firefighter.
Oh yeah, yeah.
And at that time I made a fun.
Come on baby, you know, you know baby, I was that calendar would have been, we'd have been in it saying April baby, April fool.
Then we've been fighting in them covers.
You're fighting them covers. You nasty, nasty, You just took my mom. I was going somewhere else, go back.
That's the story. Now.
I was going to be a firefighter, mainly because I could get health insurance, but also because I could work three days on and have four days off based on the way their cycles work. But I remember during that time, in twenty ten, they were fighting the Black Firefighters Union were fighting for equal wages and discrimination because the five previous years before this union was created, studies had shown that once again, firefighters were.
Being accepted into firehouses based.
On what is what is the term I just used, go, I just forgot the term. Oh man, oh my gosh. Nepotism built on can help you. But if you notice the families in New York, all of the families that random fires all had the same name, and they were hiring their kids and their nephews and their kids friends and their nephew's friends, and they were leaving out black firefighters.
So by the time we came in, they were giving blackfire because the union fought and won their case against the Fire Department of New York that all black firefighters who were hired during that time were going to be hired with five years vested into it. So you didn't start at the starting pay, You started as if you had already worked.
For five years. But that's something a union fought for to get.
Black firefighters caught up to what they didn't get for all of those previous years. I just wanted to use that example as to important why unions exist.
Totally makes sense. And if you're curious about what other industries in the United States have a union representation, this may be you and you don't even know it. Teachers, public service workers like police, and like we said, firemen, transportation workers including bus drivers and rail workers, electricians, plumbers, postal workers, just to name a few. So if you don't know who your union is, your union reps, now's a good time just to find out, just to know.
And today there are even non labor unions like the debt collective that focuses on collective actions to cancel student debts. Listen tenant unions as well that focus on collective action to help guarantee safe and affordable housing for everyone. Yes, so that's pretty dope and good to know, because I'm sure our listeners out there somebody falls into any of those categories at any given moments.
And we don't really want to make this whole episode about actors, right, because it's not about actors, but it's about being an employee and being a worker.
Right.
There's so much emphasis now on people to be an entrepreneur, right, being entrepreneur. Okay, this sounds nice to just wake up one day and be like, you know what, I'm just going to be an entrepreneur. But the truth of the matter is most entrepreneurs have to be a worker first.
Yes, right.
Unless you've inherited some funds to start your own business and you've inherited the knowledge to be able to run your own business and have your own business make money, you have to work first.
How is are you gonna learn how to run your own business? That was literally what I did with mac Cosmetics. My goal and my aim and my passion was not makeup artistry. I kind of fell into it in a recession, enjoyed it, got to meet people, and then saw the opportunity to no longer work for a company and then use the knowledge that I gained to then use make my own company. Yes, right, so do you remember I was moving up fairly quickly when I worked at mac Cosmetics.
As you've always done in the latter And no, no, this is I don't I'm only pointing this out and this is not to brag on you, but ever since I've known you, you've been an overachiever. Right when we first moved into the dorm, and I keep saying we we were not together, but I said, weeks, I'm used to doing everything together. When we first moved into the dorm at Hofstra, you hated your roommate and you asked, how could I get my own single?
They say you should register to be an RA.
You registered to become an RA in one RA of the year, and then you were just like, Okay, this room is small, but I want my own like suite. Then they were like, well you can be a a D. Then you registered to be a a D and one a D of the year. Then you was like, wait, I can get my education paid for if I become an r D. You registered become an RD apartment. We had a own apartment, but you won what r D of the year.
The same thing.
When you started in Matt Cosmetics, you were thirdy No, not even a third key you were.
I was just a part.
Part artists.
Yeah.
Then and then with full time.
Artists, well not even I went from a uh, part time artist to a third key key keyholder, which is like the lowest level of management. But it was a full time job and it gave.
Me benefits and health insurance, and that's.
Why you ultimately what I wanted. And then after that six months, within a year, I was promoted to an assistant manager.
It was just the same thing.
But I learned so much in that time. I was not only learning the artistry side of things, but I learned how to read p and ls. I learned how to you know, do events to make money. I learned how to do contract part of the impact team or the impact team that I was pushed as an artist.
So then that gave me the latitude to then say, you know what, I can kind of do this on my own and start my own little side business here and then that gave me the flexibility to become a freelance artist, to keep my toe in the industry and work a couple hours here and there in the store. But I was doing a majority of my work outside of it. So that's how the cookie crumbled.
I will say this, KOs, kudos to you because you had a plan to go in there and learn, and you learned, and then because we worked together, you were able to take the leap of faith and go out on your own when I was able to establish myself.
Yeah.
Part of the reason why I'm bringing that up is because in times of strikes like this or work stoppages, when you have a spouse, yeah, and one is busting in or ask to get something done and say, for example, you're not working, you can be a support system to that person in that time to help them. But the most important thing is when you're working right, don't just be a worker. Don't just clock in the work, say man, I know what time I'm getting off. Don't help build
the business and then leave. You're not helping yourself as an employee. It's important and imperative that you learn every aspect of the business because if you really want to be an entrepreneur being a worker, it's not a shortcoming. All it is is a paid education. Paid education. Learn as much as you can about the business. You know how many people I know who started working in electricity as an electrician, and now I have my own company.
How did you have your own company? Well?
I started to notice once I was going to all of these houses. I noticed how they took the invoices, how they submitted payments, how they committed sales.
And I said, you know what these are now my clients.
I've the ones that's been in contact with them, So let me start my own company. And then they started soliciting to those same people and say, hey, if you're looking for an electrician, now I started my own company. You know you're used to me. But it only happens if you learn first. The best way you can learn is going through your union. I learned so much about labor agreements and contracts through the NFLPA.
Oh yeah, I started.
To learn how much we deserved and how much we weren't getting. And I learned a lot about business through the NFLPA, going to events the NFLPA had. It's not just a union where I pay dues every month. No, they have events where I can learn about stuff. For example, Tiffany and Steve got their master's degrees through a program that was offered through the NFLPA.
Right, and if you don't even know you see what I'm saying, that's a possibility or a luxury essentially extended to you, then you can never take advantage of it.
When I took Jackson to go speak at USC three years ago, we spoke in front of some NFL grades. These guys were working on second career plans. Guests who offered this opportunity for them to learn the second career plans. The NFLPA, your union, that's union. So ultimately this whole episode is about getting in touch with your union. If you work, learning about your business through your union, so that if you have a workstop or something, you can
find all the benefits. I've also had friends who got what received payouts for concussions, oh.
For sure, extended dental coverage for their family, like through your unions.
Through your union, shout out to the union, Shout out to SAG after shout out to the WAG for you know, coming together and to sign that they were going to put their feet down collectively and fight for equity and equality for all of us. And we want to ask everyone here to continue to watch your favorite shows. Yes, would let them know that you're only watching for the actress.
I remember I mentioned that silver cloud in the show opening. The silver lining not the cloud, the silver lining around this cloud is that we've just been happy to have you home for a little bit. I think that this gay, this was God's way for at least for our family, God's way of saying, you know what, devel, you need a little time home. So the week you were supposed to be filming Asa Tima, you actually were able to go away with your family, the first side of family
in five years. And that was awesome because you know, had you been working, which would have been great of course to get that income, you would have missed out on some really great moments with the family. So we've been happy to have you home, and we love you, and we were standing with you ten toes down.
Let me tell you my team, my home team, and they send ten toes down. We are missing a little bit of that money, and money is good. It would have been two more seasons of television films and that I was watching.
You can see my eyes, But that just reminds me of the times that we've had to endure before and just making sure that we're being responsible. I just feel more comfortable this time around versus the whole NFL time when we lost out, just knowing that we've prepared for moments like this, Yes.
And we also prepare the table that we can continue to create content for sure, and also make some money through real estate through the podcast, through book sales like that. And that's also a message we want to sell to tell people. If you're an artist and you get in an opportunity, you are getting an opportunity to stand on a platform, utilize that platform to create other sources of revenue for sure, so that you never find yourself in need at any point.
And thank y'all for continuing to support the LS family.
Yeah, we love y'all, man.
We love y'all. All Right, we're gonna take a quick break and get back into Listen letters.
Okay, baby, all.
Right, darling, we're back for another round of Listener. Let us listen to what y'all have for us today. Sure, Hey, Valancadin, I love you and your family. What you all represent HEIHI, thank you. Funny story. I saw you guys at my son's AAU basketball game, and I froze like KaDee with Beyonce. That's so funny. My husband had to speak to Devo because I was so nervous. Thank you for all that you do. Oh since she said, say hi. But I
know sometimes I'll be looking really unapproachable. If you see me look like that at my son's games, it's only because I'll be so focused on him. And I'm AAU mom football mom. Take it very seriously, and I really just have tunnel visions. So I'm not trying to be mean or dismissive. Y'all. Not just be in the zone, I promise, But I digress. My issue is I am thirty six years old, married for the second time to my thirty eight year old husband, and I have a
sixteen year old son from my previous marriage. My husband has no children. We've been married for a year now, and he keeps insinuating that he may want a child of his own. But while we were dating, he said he was fine either way. As the years went by, I decided I didn't want to start over. My son is almost an adult who wants to go back to diapers. I understand, girl, but I feel selfish if I expect
him to go without having the experience of being a dad. However, I also feel justified because he never stated not having a child was a deal breaker. What should I do? How could we compromise? Any advice would help? Ooh, that's tough. So you were kind of wishy? Why she wit your answer there? So, like you said, it was never really they both work because he said he may or may not,
and you said, well, I might or might not. Yeah, and you're thirty six, Yeah, thirty six, you have a sixteen year old and starting.
Over two years, he will be out the house.
He'll literally be out of the house.
And if she starts getting pregnant now, which means ought you to be at the same age we were with Dakota.
With Dakota, yeah, yeah, yeah, And the I mean, I wouldn't say that my pregnancy was difficult. It wasn't. It was just more the after, you know, as you get up there in age, theatric pregnancy with disrespect thirty plus
something year old bruh, so stupid. So if I was in this position, right and I was thirty six, my husband thirty eight, and I'm thinking about like, well, Jackson's only twelve, but still starting over again, because essentially, once we were done with Kaz, I was like, man, I'm thirty three years old, done with my kids at thirty three,
Like I wouldn't technically have to start over. But if I were in your position and I have my now second husband who I'm so deeply in love with, I feel like I would want to know what a child together with him would be like, Like what would the product of this love be? And that's probably coming from the emotional, mushy side of things and not maybe the realistic side of like going back to diapers and starting over again, because girl, when I look at it, you'll
be thirty, ate and free like you. Yeah, travel, you can do whatever you want. How about y'all sit down and do a list of pros and cons together. I was gonna say the same thing, you know, way out the option.
There's no right or wrong way to answer this, but the only way to rectify this is having constant conversations.
And that's what marriage is.
And to be honest, him changing his mind or you changing your mind isn't a bad thing when y'all met and y'all are dating. Even if he said he didn't want kids, but now did y'all together, he wants to have kids. People are entitled to change their mind the same way you're entitled to say, I'm not cool with that, But y'all have to have that conversation. As long as you guys keep your thoughts to each other, y'all never find a solution. But if y'all can sit down and say, yo,
I feel like this. Maybe it's not pregnancy, maybe it's adopting. But if he's saying he wants to know what it's like to be a father, and maybe he wants to know what his gene pool will look like with you because he doesn't have any children, ask him how important it is to him. Ask him the truth. Don't say babe, what do you think? And he says, I don't know?
Maybe No, do you want want to have a child or not?
Yeah?
You know, do you want to have a child or not? And like Kadeen said, weigh out the pros and cons.
Definitely point out the fact that this will be a geriatric pregnancy, which means that there are you know, higher risks of certain.
Things, say geriatric pregnancy anymore.
Why you can't say that because it's.
Like it's not like it's derogatory or anything, but it just be making women feel away. I know when I told my doctor somebody told me I was geriatric, she was like, don't you ever let people label you as geriatric thirty six.
That is a clinical term used by scientists. Now you're telling me, y'all can't nothing nothing.
Nowadays, you can't say nothing no more. So we know what it is.
We won't say geriatric if you're gonna have old bitch pregnancy, if you're.
Gonna have less decrepit pregnancy.
I just, I just I want to I'm very big on maternal health because I watched you go through everything. We can't act like having a baby past thirty five doesn't put a woman's health.
At risks and a higher risk.
You know, we can't act like that's not a thing so true. That has to be something that is discussed. Yep, you know, yep, and do what you want. Don't let nobody else make you feel like listen, you know you being judged if you want to have a kid. If you don't y'all talk about what y'all want to do and do what's best for y'all.
Being that's the whole fact that I have a friend of mine who is in her second marriage. She has two children, her husband has two children that they came into the marriage with. That's four children total, and they are now debating about having a child together because yeah, they love each other that much. What would our child look like together? Like? They can? They can do that because I'm like, all right, well cool. Some people might say, well, damn,
you won't have a fifth kid. That's too many kids. Anytime you start listening to outside and noise, that's when things get really convoluted. So have the conversation, sit down with hubby, make those lists of pros and cons, and then let us know how it goes.
But talk to each other for sure. You know it ain't no wrong answering. Continue loving on each other. I'm glad you found a husband that's gonna love you, and he clearly loves your son, yes, the same way for him to be that type of guy, so he'll probably be a really really good father for sure.
And shout out to y'all, man, we appreciate y'all. See me out the AAU game. Say what up. Yep, you know, because we love y'all. And of course I was only joking about old bitch pregnancy.
But kay, gonna tell me, I can't say Jerryatric So I know that might have just.
Been my doctor, because my doctor back in New York she was very much like feminists. Don't let them do that, don't let them call you that, don't let them put a label on you. And I'm like, all right, girl, you better empower me. Meanwhile, I ended up with a post part because you had an old bitch pregnancy exactly, Mick.
No, here's the crazy part where we used to go for checkups and stuff, right. I remember when we first used to go with Jackson. We were the young kids in there. We were twenty six, you know, we were in there. It's like, you know, watching people. But then now I'm like, I'm happy it was COVID because I couldn't go with you because I was just like, man, I don't want nobody to looking at that me like this old lass nigga.
I think you're still looking like a young.
I appreciate you. I appreciate you, love me too much.
All right, on to the second one, Yes.
So where to start lol whenever they start did chest So I'm gonna be crazy all right. First, let me tell you me and my newly married husband love you and your wife.
Thank you so much. We love y'all back.
My husband is currently incarcerated and has been since he was sixteen years old and will be coming home next year. Wow, we have a hard time communicating crazy, right, since that is a major part of our relationship. I can be a strong black woman with not always allowing him to lead or my mouth is deadly when upset.
Now, my husband is amazing.
Even through our distance, we are still reading your book and listening to the podcast because we are really wanting to find our piece in our marriage. We want to better understand we came from two different backgrounds. We want to better understand we came from two different backgrounds. I'm just hoping before he comes home that we are able to communicate better, because him coming home after all these years will already be its own battle, and I don't want us to be a part of that battle. What
tips can you give us about improving our communication? Well, shit, I'm gonna be honest. She already pointed out some things that she know about herself and she knows about him self awareness.
That's the first step, is self awareness.
Right, And how are you now going to curtail these things?
Yeah?
You know these these these traits that you may have, are these qualities or these uh you know moments with the deadly mouth when upset? How can you now?
I sure do Jimi sucking souls? I'm sorry, I couldn't. I couldn't help myself. I couldn't help.
He could never help himself. But you're welcome. So, but now that you know that these are the things that may insinuate a fight or an argument or make things hard for him to then communicate or reciprocate communication, you may have to find oasis to kind of hold it down and maybe ask questions or within conversation speak in a tone in a manner in which you're actually encouraging
conversation from him. Because there's been times recently with Deval, for example, say we get into a little spat that I have chosen not to raise my voice or not to fly off the handle because I just say, you know what, I know, if I do, it's just going to go far left. And to avoid that, I sometimes bite the bullet where I want to just you know, essentially jump out the window with it, and I don't.
Sometimes she does about five percent sometimes most of the time. The other ninety five percent. I got to remain came.
I think we both have to remain com I think it's very fifty to fifty right now.
That's how you feel based.
That's exactly how I feel.
You have that.
Thank you.
See how I just did that.
See how we did that, prime example, prime example. But also too, I think within the constraints that they have now with him being incarcerated. Yes, you know, you are going to have to reacclimate to what life is going to be like together. But sometimes a lot of communication is just in eye contact body language, but like being in the same room with each other.
He's been incarcerated.
They haven't had that type of relationship, knowing his body language and stuff like that.
She doesn't really know, meaning that they're gonna have to learn.
They're gonna have to learn, which which is exciting, Yeah, but it can also be scary. But you also have to understand if he's been incarcerated since he was sixteen, Yeah, you have to understand that.
I don't know how old he is.
She didn't say, but how long ago was that and where was his mind at that point when he was incarcerated, So be open to knowing that however old he is now that he's out, that sixteen year old person is still going to be more prominent because that's who he was when he went inside, and she's probably helped him a lot develop because he has a reason to work
and do all these different things. So just be able to have empathy and don't expect him to be the version that you want him to be, right, especially not out the way.
To accept him for who he is and see if that works for you.
Because I'm sure on both sides, there's gonna be a lot to unpack, yes, for both of you, and like you said, transitioning to now even being together in the same space and living together. But I do wish you guys the best, and I think that if you guys were able to stay together within this current situation, absolutely that there's definitely a great promise for moving forward because at the root of all of this is genuine care. It seems like in love.
Bro, imagine if all you have is communicating because you can't see each other.
Yeah, and the frustration that comes with not even being together because we know we have that a lot. Like if Devo's away filming for six weeks and I can't high tail it to wherever.
He is, going crazy, she'd be going crazy.
I'd be like, Kadeen, calm down, Okay, let me tell you six weeks. I'll be home soon.
When he's away, and god forbid, I don't have enough communication or I'm not calling enough, or he can't FaceTime me or get me because I'm running around with the kids. He is a whole big ass baby me Devo.
Me today, me.
Yes, you answer the fucking phone when I call you, especially when we away for six weeks.
And I call your answer the phone right as I'm juggling your four children, and every day and every it goes to show lack of district what FTK, don't tell me that, don't I know what that acrom and you're not going to tell me to fuck them kids?
Now?
Now?
They all right? Daddy calling you, Daddy calling you into the phone.
Goodness, good luck to your I pray that that everything works out for y'all and that you can get your man you know, in your arms again. Y'all can get that communication flowing all right, y'all. If you want to be featured as one of our listener letters, email us at dead ass Advice at gmail dot com.
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Dot We're talking moment of truth. We're talking about the sag after strike only because it's timely to what's happening now, but also just labor unions in general and what that looks like for everybody within their respective fields.
So in the moment of truth, yeah, my moment of truth, I'm going to speak directly to my entrepreneurs, my artists, and people who who like to live freely. It is important to have some structure in your life in times like this, when living freely means that you may not
have any income for an extended period of time. Creating a source of structure financially through other streams of revenue or other businesses will help you have a safe transition during this time, or even just feel comfortable existing in a different space without your main source of income. So continue to just evolve as a person, as an entrepreneur, as a business person, but have a financial plan while chasing your dreams.
Definitely, definitely, you never want to get caught with your back against the wall and no other options. I think my moment of truth is regardless of what field you're in, because we gave a list of so many fields that have labor unions and people who are there to be your voice or to you know, stand in solidarity with you. If you have an issue on the job, just know that you have to find out what that is, What does that look like for you in your respective job
if you're working that eight hour work day. You know, if you are a civil servant and you're working you know, post office or whatever it is, know what your union looks like, and know what's offered to you. A lot of times, you know, there's.
So many benefits.
There's so many benefits out there that can help you. And it doesn't have to be within a strike. It can just be on a regular day to day. You can get some sort of perk or some sort of benefit from a union. So no more, you get more, so you can do more like it all right, y'all, And if you have not as yet, be sure to join us on Patreon. We have so much more to offer there, more long form content of the ellises our family.
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