Surviving Trump While Black

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Right, everybody knows trouble and on storytime because trouble is opera do so she creates the whole thing. And for the runner show, she ain't even put a story time. That's how tired niggas is. Because we tired, like we really really tired. Okay, So I'm gonna tell you a story about fatigue, and I'm not even gonna take you back to a specific time. I'm gonna take you back to what I had to live through in my life.

Right.

I was born in nineteen eighty four. The president was Ronald Reagan, so I was born into Reaganomics.

Right.

I lived through both Bushes.

Trump one term and now Trump another term. I honestly feel like there's nothing that I haven't seen in these forty years. I lived through stopping frisk, mass incarceration, nine to eleven, the pandemic, like all the things, and every time something came up, I thought it was doomsday. The older I get now, I realize that they don't.

Have the control we have it.

That's a fact.

So that's my story.

Every other day, I'm like, geezus coming for forty years. I'm like, be prepared. Let me get prepared. So you know, facts here, we are.

Here, we are karaoke.

Okay, you started in the sound bite.

I was like, we've used this song before, but I think it's just very appropriate.

Truth is, some time.

Options are few.

Right, they're actually fruit few.

It's bad.

I mean, I mean we have I mean at this point, what can we control. I feel like it's my biggest thing.

You know, you're tired because y'all just stop singing Carrier completely.

Well, I have.

Another part of karaoke, though, Man, I do have another part of karaoke, and it's the song that we sang before my man, Tupac uh Huh's favorite song. Yeah, remember changes? So I see no changes? Wake up in the morning and I asked my self, is life work living? Should I blast myself? I'm try to be im poorant even worse some black. My stomach hurts, so I'm looking for a purse to snatch. It is twenty twenty five, and

It don't it is gonna be what it's gonna be, yes, but at least we have some solidarity together.

We can visit and we can just talk about how this all feels.

And here's the truth though, because I've been watching a lot of television, black people ain't the only people trying to survive in this administration, all right, we are back, and before we get into the meat horse of the show, we can go to my favorite segment of the show with my home girl trouble trips.

Yo yo, no, I'm interested what you got for me today?

What's happening?

So?

Uh these are mostly politically.

This a little bit because the United States is getting a bad rap out of all over the world right now, and uh it wasn't bad enough. A French lawmaker recently said that he wants the US to give back the Statue of Liberty, and I wanted to hear y'all's op for no op on. This is your New Yorkers. You grew up with the girl, you know, the girl.

That's the big sense, that's big Sense.

I definitely went up to her crown, you know, one day with Bethlehem.

That was the second school trip.

Shout out now trade.

School, yes, yes, yes, So before you answer this, though, I wanted to share with you some history I learned about the Statue of Liberty recently.

Okay, so the Statue of Liberty.

Is supposed to come in ain't the end of slavery? And because of that, the Lady Liberty is supposed to be a black woman who is broken free of her chains. However, Americans, whoever was in charge at that point, they did not want to depict a slave in the Statue of Liberty. So the French dude who made it, he delivered the statue without the chains. But if you go to the Statue of Liberty, you can actually see the broken chains at her feet. They're still there, but they're not visible

Her features aren't given system at all because they didn't want to where's the full lips and the nose like I want to see us? So maybe they should like send her back and fix her and bring her back.

Well, if we're being honest, I'm just wondering if France is going to if they want stuff back, or they're going to give Haiti back reparation as they did to the Asian people.

That's just really if we're going to stalk.

To hold people accountable, that really hold people accountable, because France has been exploiting Haiti since the Haitian Revolution, the actual first slave revolution against the French people.

So if we're gonna, you know, talk about reality France.

I appreciate you saying that, you know, the United States needs to do better, but United States is not the only country that needs to do better.

And that's that's my opinion on that.

So Haiti is one of a couple of Caribbean islands that I know I've been the rule.

People talk about it, talk about it, talk about it.

Talk about it.

We're going to be pulling straws here, you know what I'm saying. Let's go all the way with it.

That's my opinion. I agree with that.

I think the French France is probably one of the worst perpetrators of colonialism.

So yeah, I feel like m maybe deal with that. I wonder if people know that.

And after the slaves freed themselves in Haiti, the French government told them, you know what, will give you your freedom, but you're gonna have to pay us for all of the freed slaves y'all had. So the Haitian government has been paying France for freeing the slave, which is the most asinine thing. But let's be honest, that happened here

And these are not opinions, these are facts. You can look it up.

Imagine what twenty five hundred per person would have done for the black community in that time if you gave every slave, not just forty eight was in a mule, which was promised before it was taken away after the assassination of Abraham Lincoln. Or give them twenty five hundred dollars in that time in eighteen sixty three, imagine what twenty five hundred dollars.

Would have done.

Twelve hundred dollars people got during COVID Was it the similar checks.

Yeah, everybody was fighting over because the modern mortgage system is based off of slavery, So that's where it comes from. Slaves Enslaved people were kind of assigned an amount that they were worth, and if you were a slave owner, you could basically like take out a second mortgage on a person. But if you think about it today, if you default on your mortgage yep, and the bank takes your house, you don't get the money that you paid back.

You don't get anything. Batter the bank gets it.

So if as an enslaved person you were freed, the slave owner no longer owns you, You own yourself. You should get here to get the work. Hello, it seemed like common sense.

Don't yeah happen?

Like if they could friends come.

Over, They're gonna have to deal with a bunch of niggas that like going to the statual liberty.

But I have to take it.

With us.

It's getting really well. It's been concerning for black people. I don't know that this moment in time is worse. But uh, they did just rip up the Black Lives Matter Street muror in d C.

On that it was time. It was dirty. You need to if they're going to redo it, redo it. If you're gonna get rid of it, get rid of it. But it's time.

They're not going to redo it though, they're just pulling it up for the sake of pulling it was time, you think, so.

My my opinion is it was it was it was show place. I didn't mean anything taking up something that benefit us, like it didn't benefits monetarily and he positions a power or anything that it was. It was just a show. You want to take your show back, take your.

Show performance performance, I feel like more than anything else, and put a target on was back.

So that is true.

It did put a target with a people correct unattentionally.

Unattentionally, I think I think there were two things.

There was the movement and then there was the capitalist side of it, you know what I'm saying. And I think a lot of people ran with the capitalist size of it made it seem like BLM was a bad.

Thing, and realistically it wasn't.

And the fact that you have to put Black Lives Matter on the street for people to understand that it's problematic.

We'll think about writing the book, like when you wrote the book that was essentially our like a history lesson that we wrote for the boys, right, we wrote for the boys that listens to the time machine. Yeah, the question the tagline is why do we have to say Black Lives matter? And that was because that was a legitimate question that Jackson asked us at the time. So it wasn't us trying to like capitalize on Black Lives

I agree with Josh Man, it was performative.

I think that America does a good job of doing performative based things to make us feel comfortable while on the back end rolling back.

The things that are really supposed to help us.

For example, they made this big deal about pulling down Confederate statues and shit while rolling back DEI like programs. So it's like, oh, let's perform this, or they can cheer while we do this.

If they get rid of.

The BLM thing, what I think is going to do is let black people realize, like, yo, they not fucking with us like that, because I think a lot of us went to sleep. We fell asleep. If you notice, during all of the administrations I talked about Reagan administration, Bush administration, Trump administration, black people got stronger because the racism went from covert to overt and when it goes

Man.

Joe Biden wrote the ninety four crime bill he called the super Predators. Right, he's a Democrat. The Democratic Party is no longer what we thought it was going to be, which was going to be the party of black people. The Democratic Party just became a shit show, you know what I'm saying, And we lost the election because we didn't really have a viable If we're being.

Honest, bigger problems with black people's.

And that's why the Democratic Party has a huge problem. And it's not Black people, which means they're not going to focus on us, yes, which means we have to focus on us. And the Black Lives Matter being removed is going to make us focus. That's what I think.

The more racist they get, the more focus we get.

Yeah, that's I mean, we've been pulling back our dollars in certain areas and we're seeing the benefits facts.

We need more impactful protests instead of just words on the street or in the back of the end zone, because I don't think that really helps.

So we don't never we don't got to say stuff all the time. Like remember the underground rail road was the underground wrail world for a reason. If Harriet tell Me would have got up there, it's journal truth and we've been like, nah, Black Lives matter, we all leaving at this time, it would have never happened. We have to be justice covert. And when I mean covert, we don't have to be covert racist against them. We can be covert in our development for our own people. And

We just built ourselves.

That's how I feel about it.

So they get rid of it, they get rid of it. I don't care.

Yeah, I think you just maybe realize something though, because during Joe Biden's presidency, I guess the last couple of years, there was a big movement for Confederate symbols to be taken down all over the United States, and I feel like that's where this is coming from it's like backlash to what white people consider Southern white people racists, white people consider their culture and their right and now they're trying to get back and the Black Lives Matter movement

And we can thank Mildred Rutherfood for that.

All of these books, over all of these years.

Still exists.

Yes, the u DC, the United Daughters of the Confederacy still exists.

Wow.

And it's because of that education on mis education is why these emboldened white nationalists feel they can do the things that.

They do about y'all ever met a baby named Mildred? You only meet a Mildred when she owed me think.

Mildred does sound like something that Jamaican baby would be.

Next Mildred, my Mildred, Doris Thelma, but.

Barbara Thelma?

Yeah, ye sorry, Ed is one of them.

Absolutely.

I've never seen a young and those are names that haven't come back like some names come back that.

I haven't seen a baby named Doris.

I think I think that Joshua name is dying. I don't see no little kid.

There's no Joshua.

We know matt Ellis is not dying.

There's a lot of matt Ellis's. Daval never lived for.

It to die. I'm the only person I know what my name other than my.

Pops, right, and a baby named after you.

I do have one baby.

It's a baby named kade in Trinidad. Oh really yeah, wow, yeah, look at.

That you're telling people my name is Kadeen.

I love that for you.

I believe you.

We believe you've got a great name.

Bro bbl triple is.

That's not going anywhere.

Not common.

I feel like there's been an influx of Cairo since our Cairo. I feel like I see Cairo everywhere now my baby named Cairo. I have seen a lot of influx of Cairo's.

You know what, You're not going to see a lot of what, but we so we grew up seeing shanik Was and Keisha's when we was growing up, there was a lot of Keisha's Aisha Letitia.

Then I'm probably mad at that I actually like those names because you grew up with it. No, I like those names for the symbolism. It is like we don't have our own names, like that year, you gotta old, Lou, you gotta got, So that's on their side for Black Americans, we like. Although some of those names came off as like ghetto names like Boom, Cueisha and all that, it was like the ghetto names, the reality is those were

I went to elementary school with a kid named e Quavers and he was a bully and he was kind of chubby, so I used to call him Equavers because that sound fat.

You was all.

The bully.

Story around.

I used to make fun of him because he was a minute famous, was me bro.

He deserved it, I'm sure, because he had that name and people like sounds like something of sorry. I took us all the way on the top of ya.

It's just fine thinking about politics, thinking about politics and being black in America. I forgot who said it, But being black and conscious in America is being in a constant state of anger.

I forgot who said it.

I think it was that was No, it was James Baldwin. James Baldwins. This series his centennial.

We have a we share a birthday, August second, it is his one hundredth birthday.

So if you don't know who James Baldwin is, go find.

Out that that statement means so much though, because even as I continue to ascend in life, what we all see that you you find yourself in spaces that are less black.

And they always ask that question. Wait, wait, I'm so angry.

I fucking hate that question.

Bro.

It's like the minute we get cool and we sit down and they start to realize that the valor is relaxing a little bit. I always get that question, you know, that's a question that sound that's a question you know, like I got. I got it trying to black friends and I just want to know you know what, and I'll be like, oh.

Because y'all know me, y'all know me.

I said, that leans forward.

Well, this is how it always goes.

I said, well, where do you want me to start?

And most of the time, at the end of the conversation, I realized how so many white people do not know American history like at all.

And then when I explain to them American history.

That's when they're just like, oh, white people don't know about redlining, black holes, the Vagrancy Act.

They don't know about this stuff because it's not taught and.

It's never affected them, you know what I'm saying.

Like they when I start bringing those things and they say this that really really that was really going on, was really goal, It's yeah, still we're still voter suppression still goes on today like today, and they're just like, oh, yes, it's not fair.

I'm like, no, ship.

There's a really great uh the last season of Curb Your Enthusiasm, there's a running storyline where Larry David is in Atlanta and he sees somebody he knows voting, and so he gives her a bottle of water. Apparently it is illegal to have water if you're waiting in line to vote in Georgia. Yes, yes, And so he has to go through this whole court process because he gets arrested and he's getting.

Charged with a crime. When did that come on this year? Twenty twenty four?

When the episode came out last year, always said, because you know that happened here in Georgia during the election, people were handing out food and water to people who were online and getting in trouble.

Yeah, I swear it just seemed.

They want to make it in an uncomfortable situation. Absolutely, we don't want to discourage. Yeah, of course, it's funny when you mentioned, uh, you know, when your white counterparts, you know, asked these questions.

But Sterling K. Brown. I was just watching a clip from his podcast with his wife. I think it's called.

We Yeah, we don't always agree, and he was talking about his experience on set where he had a white counterpart that must have been reacting reacting, was angry about something, and he said he kind of, you know, peeked out, and we're just like hmmm, and he was just like, man, if I.

Remember what he said, they coded it as they coded as passionate.

Yeah, yeah, you know, he was passionate.

In his anger, right exactly.

But then of course he said, if I were to perform in the same way and be as passionate, it would not be received the same way. And it's just that it doesn't matter where or what avenue, what job, what realm you're in, it's always going to be seen as the disgruntled black person.

Let me ask you a question, right, well, do you have one more for us? Or yeah, will go back. Even though we're kind of already on the topic.

I have been watching social media a lot around this topic because I am one to say black people should be politically involved and politically aware. We cannot afford to be a political because we are affected the most. I did change, but I did see a post on threads that was like them, why why y'all not marching, and it's aid us we are. And it's a video of a bunch of black people doing the line dance, wear them fans.

So I've just learned it and new line dances out.

Yeah, and I know that some people are behind learning your Tamia dance and you need to get on your zoom honey.

Get on the to me a dance, because they've moved on.

Yes, they've moved on left beyond.

Because you have to get bank that one, the same way you have the electric slide, the Cha cha slide, the wobble, all of those cupa shuffle. You got a bank to me and now to learn the next two.

And they're playing them in succession.

In succession now, So it's a marathon of line dancing y'all won't be won't be none.

Of them get on your.

Especially if you're going to be at Cowboy Carter this summer. I think you need to know the boots on the ground period. Country's I would like to know what do you think about that? Like, uh, black people putting their joy or using their joy as resistance? A lot of black people, I think are saying after the My point was after during the election.

After the election, black people felt kind of betrayed.

A black woman ran for president and they literally elect did somebody a fascist?

Let me ask somebody who wants to be a dictator? Did she really run for president? Or was she?

Because to me, I think that this was fucked up what they did to her, to be honest, because if we if she was really going to be allowed to run for president, they would have given her the nod before at the Democratic Convention, so she would have had the runway to.

And do things.

They came in the last minute because the white man that they thought.

Was going to be able to last for the last four years started to slowly lose his mind.

And now the narrative that they're putting out there is that he was pushed out of running that they forced him out of running for president so that she could run, and not that they forced her into running.

Whose they they, whatever the powers that be, And let's let's let's really think about this for us.

At what moment in a world history did anyone ever.

Say, you know what, we're gonna get rid of this white man and bring this black woman in.

That's right, Come on, this is what black people.

Choosing joy That don't even sound like something I'm going to debate about, not going to debate about why.

I'm not like, there's no way.

But my opinion is yes, if that's where you find your joy. If your joy is not debating over the water ruler about nonsense and politics, because you want to preserve your joy, Ladies and gentlemen, my fellow brothers and sisters, don't do that shit. Find your joy within your community of people, your circle of friends, your line dances.

If it's cowboy Carter tour, I'll see you there.

If it means oh we got a cowboy, I knew it was going to come back to this. Find your joy, I knew it.

I don't find your joy where it exists and your pockets. Find your tribe of people.

With that.

Nation build within your people.

Agree with that.

Yeah, let's get back to like gathering and having functions and caring for each other.

Let me ask you a question, guys, because I'd be struggling with stuff. I do not blame current white Americans for where we are in America.

I don't.

The reason why is because I feel like the racism we experience now, although there are some overt racists who still call you a nigga, right, but those people are still few and far in between. Most of the racism we see as millennials, and yeah, we're all millennials, is the systemic racism that people don't understand. And that's where I think we have to do a better job, as people love color, all of us being black, of explaining that to some of our white counterparts, rather than just saying, oh,

To them history. Miseducated, yes, and more miseducated than others.

Because I just saw a meme and it wasn't really a meme, it was more facts Oklahoma. The state of Oklahoma, right, red state, overwhelmingly red state. When it comes to education, literacy, wealth, they're all bottom three in America, right, And there's a reason why.

If you keep.

People mis educated and uneducated, it's easily to do what control. But then you go to a place like New Hampshire, right, and main top two in everything but also education, and they're both blue states. So our issue now is that we're fighting against white people who just hate black people. We're fighting against people who are really miseducated and uneducated.

And here's the truth.

It ain't only white people, because there are a lot of miseducated and uneducated black people. And I watched it in this election cycle. I watch people our age who look just like us, say things and do things that I'm like, yo, you have no idea what you're talking about. And those are the people who voted for Trump. Because overwhelmingly, outside of what people think, people think like, oh, we were split on voting for Trump black people, we were

So now they all pissed.

And I'm just like, hey, guys, if you were educated on what you were talking about, you would have voted for someone who wouldn't take your liberties away. And that's why I no longer to blame like our contemporaries of white people for the state of white America.

It goes way deeper than that.

And I just want to know what y'all think about that, because I don't look at the white person calls me, be like you just racist, your parents had slaves.

I don't. I don't look at it like that.

I think there's a couple of people, well, from what I've observed from a distance people who I've done business within the past, or former clients when I was a makeup artist, and some of them have voted openly and will say that they voted for Trump. And I know that one in particular was very much in favor of Trump because Trump was now going to go back to there being only two genders. Voted and she was like,

But she can't right now, whether there's two genders or not, as long as there's a man on the planet, you can't go send your daughter to the bathroom exactly.

So then she's the same person now crying.

I'm saying it's the truth, though, but you see what I'm saying about.

Just like the one thing that she kept harping on. But then now she's the same person crying because her mom was let go from her job because of d E. I.

Because of d E.

I rollbacks a white woman who was in her job, you know, and now she's a job anymore.

And it's just like, now you want to be upset about that? So what what exactly are these people.

Who voted for him? Like, what was your like your driving force? That's what I really want to understand.

Because me and Matt talked about it.

We're sitting here watching NBA games and a commercial comes on and it says Trump Now it says Kamala, she is for they them, Trump is for you.

Fear bongering.

And it used to come on every Sunday minutes, bro, and me and me and Matt used to.

Be laughing look at this like it's like how.

Crazy liberal liberal commalis for commalass something like that, Trump is for you? That's around there, And I was.

Like, but that's fear.

When when did the president control genders? That's like at one of history did anybody think that Trump or Biden can set genders in place? How is that the point that? How is that the hell you're dying on?

And if you believe that, you know, you can only be born as male or female, you can't change it, then why would you think the president can change it?

That is a good point.

That's not considering everything, like they hold on to one point that they feel like is in favor of what they believe. And then also it's also when you when you vote, thinking it's not going to affect you and your people.

Yeah, like I'm stropping away somebody else's liberty to choose how they want to dress, if they want to wear or not, but it's not gonna affect me, so until that boom comes back.

It's also the lies I had to do.

Tell me he only votes for Trump, he's a black dude to the only voted for Trump because he's a very successful businessman. And I was he was just like, here's what he said to me. He's like, man, Trump started from nothing and he's now worth like a billion dollars. And I said, who started from nothing? I said, did you miss the whole clip about him being clown saying that I started from the bottom. My father gave me a small million dollar loan? Did you forget about that?

I have empathy for racists.

And the reason why I have empathy for racist is because if my mom or dad told me that I had to hate certain people from the beginning of my life and I and I just thought that that's how it was. And then I went to church and those same Christians, those Nationals tell me we got to hate these people. How can you then blame that person who is indoctrinated this way? Right, I have empathy for them, and if they ask me that question, like why are

Know because it was taken out of American history level, you.

Know what I'm saying, Like the fact that we even have to call it black history is a problem because now white people, Asian people, Indian LATINX are going to be like, well, that's not my history, I don't have to learn it. It is your history because you were brought to this continent under the same pretense. A lot

Right, we can't get black people to build on it.

So what we're going to do promise Asians when they come over here, they're going to get the prosperity that white people get. And what they did was they gave Asians the opportunity to do all this other stuff and said we're going to do this to separate yourself from black people. This is a fact because Asian Americans have said it over time. We were given loans, and we

And when you explain things like this to people, they start to Because I.

Definitely have Asian friends too. My father came here with nothing. How come you know your parents have been here? How come they haven't built? I said, well, do you understand about Seneca Village in Telsa, Oklahoma? No, what is that every time black people build something for themselves, much like you did, like Chinatown, it was burned down. So if people burned down Chinatown right now in New York, y'all still gonna say the same thing.

Oh, that's what we need. We need education of history.

We don't need to feel sorry for ourselves. Because I don't feel sorry about my blackness, but I also am not gonna harbor no hatred towards people who are just also just miseducated and uneducated.

I'm not gonna do that no more. Y'all got problems with me for whatever reason.

Okay, y'all got that problem, but I'm not gonna have that roll around in chess.

Is that why we have much Chinese Chinese food restaurants?

And that is exactly what I was like Literally where we used to live in Crown Heights, on the on Notion Avenue, there was the Chinese food restaurant and the liquor store owned by the Indian dude. And then yeah, it's like literally in succession, and it repeats every two blocks.

They were called the moat.

They're called model minorities.

You bring minorities into start business, and that business gets taxed and that business goes into the government. But you put those businesses in black communities, that was redlined. You don't give them a lot of money. You give them enough money to be able to spend money with other model minorities.

That's and and people don't understand that that was a systemic.

Put in place.

You know, m.

Very very interesting stuff.

I think it's also interesting now that you were talking about Asian Americans coming or Asians coming over. Something that the President did recently was used the Alien Enemies Act

They recognized their color. Yes, like vagrancy acts. Yeah, if you can't read or write or own property, now you're a felon. And now we can put you in prison, and we can use convict leasing to lease that work out to people who don't have to pay you.

So what they did with that.

Was, oh, these immigrants think that they can talk bad about our government, we can do this and deport them.

But let me ask you a question. If we deport all the people who are here doing the work, who's going to do it work?

Who's going to do it?

I just got to build in the mail from Bill, right, I got to build in the mail from Bill talking about the price increase going up for our landscaping for example, right, and then Bill.

Just told me simultaneously last spring.

It's so hard to find workers. And you know your flowers won't be put in for maybe about four to six weeks. Somebody spring will be over by then, like it'll be multiple and you want to up the price too, And who's going to do the work because you ain't doing it?

Bill, Bill has some you know, say.

He has some illegal people for the company so he can pay them there minimal exactly, just like the government did with the age over here to build the railroads for western expansion.

That is part of the American dream to.

Bring people who.

Don't look like us.

We villainize them, we criminalize their existence to keep them in a small part of the country.

But we need them, and we need them for LA cannot function without their services.

So, uh, you might have heard about I think his name is my Mood Khalil. He was deported recently for uh protesting what's happening in Gaza, Israel at Columbia.

Yeah, there's test.

Going on, yes, yes, yes, yes.

Detained and we talked about taking funding away from Colombia.

Yes, And Trump has been saying he'll deport students if they speak, if they're pro Palestinian. And so what followed the Alien Enemies Act was the Sedition Act of nineteen seventy seventeen, where they targeted American citizens for speaking against the government or anti war protests.

That's when they created concentration camps here in America. Correct, that was right right before, because they had concentration camps here in americament camps, tenement camps, my bad, not concentration guys, I'm sorry, which is very different, but tenement camps. That was around the same time, right, I just want to be clear. I don't know, because I know, I know of Western expansion, there were tenement camps where a lot of Asian people who were not quote unquote citizens.

Oh you're talking about this was after yeah, this was like the twenties. This was during World War War yeah, or was it after World War Two?

It was during Hiroshima? Yeah, so that was that's when. It was right after Hiroshima.

And it was just like the Asians were the enemy, you know how you know how America always finds an enemy. It was it was black people, internment cancers, black people, then it was Asians then during nine to eleven it was Muslims and Indian people. It's like America always finds an enemy, you know, and they put a face on the colored person and say that's the enemy.

I think that's when that happened with those camps.

So now, yeah, that was that was during World War Two in the forties, but this sedition was happening from the nineteen seventeens all through the fifties when you people could get arrested for being accused of being communists, for speaking out against the government, or for saying stuff like we're saying black lives matter. There will come a time during this presidency where if you are talking about black lives matter. That's why they're making it illegal for race based groups to exist.

Is it's going to there's gonna be a shit show. I mean, hasn't it been like that? Though?

The Black Panther Party was pretty much considered a terrorist organization in the sixties and seventies because they were trying to feed their families.

But that's where we're going back to the times in the fifties and sixties where it was illegal to speak out against the government.

Free speeches.

Is is going down and I blame Barack Obama for all of it, because everybody was saying, we wanted a black president. Finally black people get something that we've been owed. And Barack Obama wouldn't even talk about reparations. He wouldn't even prove the anti lynching laws. He didn't do anything because he was too scared of anti white sentiment during the time. And now Donald Trump is just blatantly doing anything that conservative white men want.

Him to do. Let me ask a question, though, was he scared or was he handicapped?

He said that, Well, I guess okay, but he did say that it was because he saw, you know, the effects of anti white sentiment during the time.

Now I will agree with that. Right every time, you can't be handicapped, because that's what I'm saying.

Trump is showing us that as president, you don't have to listen to anybody himself.

Right.

I think Bock's hands retired with a lot of things.

Think about history, right, Frederick Douglas. What came after Frederick Douglas? That this is the power hate? Martin Luther King? What happened after Martin Luther King white hate? We got mass incarceration. What I think is and I'm only speaking what I think because I never spoke to Barack Obama. He is now the president of the free world. Is it going to be more detrimental to my people if I go up here and I am the black president or if

We don't have to exclaim anything, you know what I'm saying.

Yeah, I get that, But like when the America was just the thirteen colonies that was ruled by the British and the French. The people that founded America, that was their whole thing. They had to stand up and they got came down on harder every time and then until they had to go to war. And I feel like black people were only willing to go so far. You know what I'm saying, Like, if we get somebody in the presidential seat, that person has to be willing to

I disagree with that.

I feel like if he goes in there and put himself on the line for black people, he gonna be finished and Black finished.

That's just my opinion. It could happen that way, that's my opinion.

I just think that it's unfair to put that on on him. I feel like we have learned though that we even if we have a black president, we never going to be the priority. That's why I said, I don't give a fuck who the president is. You know what I'm saying. I'm just like, yo, let them do what they do at that level. And because my biggest focus is what I deal with every single day. Right, I go from here to my kids' school, I go from here to the studio, I go from here to

Right.

We went to our local We went to those local meetings for the Democrats earlier because we wanted to know who our local government was, you know. So that's my biggest thing is, Okay, the president can do whatever he wants. I want to know who my old min is city council.

I want to know those people.

Those are the most important. People don't know. And that's the problem with our community. We don't know those people. We don't do mid mid season polls or all these we don't participate, and then when it's time we start complaining. Also, only was the president while they had the House. It ends with tied that literally facts.

I mean when he forged out in, I think we had the House and then we didn't vote, and then they got that.

So Democrats had the House and the Senate.

I believe when Obama first got in we had the House because I remember I don't remember, you can look it up, but I remember people saying that once we won the presidency, black people stopped voting and we lost control.

That's what I kept hearing.

And they said the last six years of Obama's presidency, he really couldn't do much because they wouldn't control everything was read at that point.

Yeah, I don't think anything was getting past.

And then he got obama Care passed, which they're quickly rolling back now, Yeah, you know what I'm saying, because they just want to undo anything that he's done.

Yeah, and I do think racism is a distraction from everything else because I did also see a video of white people immigrants in California that were upset because they're losing their Medicaid. Yeah, a dude on oxygen who voted for Trump is out there now upset because he's going to lose his health care and he can't afford that damn oxygen without it. So I think I do think that everybody it is class issue.

I think that's a class issue.

Racism always distracts people from the fact that they're poor and they don't have any power either. If you are not in the top one percent, you don't have shit, you know. And so you should be on the same side because right now there's somebody who is the president has to be us born, and he his closest advisor right now, is not elected.

You know what I'm saying.

Let's remember that.

Is doing the same thing in Germany with their government that he's doing here. He's using his billions to pretty much create an oligarchy and all of these these places so that he can have control to do whatever he wants to do, which is make more trillions.

That's all he whatever wants to do.

So I got it here. Nine to eleven Democrats out of the House and the same so the first two years, the.

First two years, So that's what happened the first two years, and then.

His final two years Republicans at it both. Oh well, that makes it was split for four years and then for the last two Uh, they had it.

One thing I want to say before we take a break, because we will have to take a break, I do want I want people to realize this. Black people have never been the priority right in this country. But also black people haven't been the priority to take down because they don't even care enough about us to try to take us down. That's why we need to be more quiet. Right the whole DEI thing, a lot of black people got upset they rolling.

Back to the DEI programs.

But what they don't realize the people who benefited the most was white women.

So then rolling back DEI programs isn't going to affect us directly?

Is it?

Fucked up?

Yeahs fucked up? But it doesn't directly affect us the way we think it will. And that's how sometimes we got to get out of our emotions and be like, Okay, I see y'all, I see what y'all doing. Let me you know what I'm saying. That's why I think that's what I am with it. I'm not even focused on the.

Other bullshit the more you know.

All Right, y'all, let's take a quick break and we're going to get back with our listener letter of today. All right, and we're back. Let's dive into listen letter and see what y'all say. I'm mountain this week.

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I met my boyfriend back in undergrad at Delaware State University. He's from Fort Lauderdale born and raised, while I'm originally from up North. After college, I found myself moving to Fort Lauderdale, not technically for him, partially because I got into a master's program in Miami, but let's be honest, it was mostly for him. That sounds like me, Yeah, I'm sure. Yeah, it's like it worked out. It was the divine intervention. Fast forward to now we're living together.

I recently gave him an ultimatum.

I told him that when I graduate with my doctorate, it's time for him to put a ring on it or I'm out of there. I have big plans for my future and I don't want to put my goals on hold. I intend to become a motivational speaker and a professor at an HBCU back home near Jersey. So I'm curious what's your take on this? Is it too much pressure? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts.

Whatever?

You already know how I feel about this. I like when people say what they need and what they want and what they require. I hate ultimatums because I feel like it's unfair, Like ultimatums is your way of the highway.

And if this is supposed to be a.

Team, how about you tell me what you want and let's see if we can work out a way to get what you want while getting what I want. But when it's the ultimatum. Put a ring on it. After this, when I'm done, it's kind of like, wait a minute, so now I have to live on your timeline.

That throws meals.

I wonder if this person listen to you, I think we've done it episode about this where we or at least when we explained when we were in a similar situation. So Devall was playing in Detroit at the time, and I was finished grad school, moved to Detroit to be with you because I know you needed the company and the support. You needed it while you were there, and then it was me trying to figure out, Okay, what's next.

Think how she gives that message is important because the way you said it just now wasn't the way you said it. Remember you said to me, I'm going back to New York. I'm not trying to be your living girlfriend, right, Like think about you say.

That to delivery and words have power.

Words have power, right.

So I feel like for a lot of people in this situation, because we've had a couple of men to be like I'm ready for you, and she don't want to do this. It's like, Yo, don't give people ultimatums, right, tell them what your plan is, right, tell them you have timetables, how you feel is what.

You want and what you need.

Absolutely, if that person values you and your company, they'll find a way to make it work for both of y'all. If they don't, they're going to be like a well that's what you want to do, what you gotta do. And then from there, you.

Know, because she did say she was He's from Fort Lauderdale. She got into a program in Miami, maybe on purpose to be with him, maybe not. But then at the end of this she says she wants to eventually be a motivational speaker and be up at HBCU and Jersey.

Does he plan to leave Florida to go back up to Jersey?

Like?

Is that even in the cards for him? Or is he assuming that, Well, you came to Florida to be here with me, so maybe we'll build a life in Florida. Like, these are just open conversations that need to be have with your full intentions laid out on the table.

Have a question for sure, is she gonna be a motivational speaker and she plans on being good? How come she can't motivate this man to put a ring on.

God inquiring mind of motivations, that's a whole different.

You cannot motivate anybody to want to be married.

The wantval has said, and I've heard this from several men, Josh and Matt included. Men have a timeline, Men have a plan. If his intention is to be with you long term and to marry you. Chances are he's already thinking about that, and he's already putting the wheels in motion and making the plans.

Did you have a.

Plan, Josh? Did you have a plan when you were ana.

To propose and eventure?

Did you foresee like this is going to be my wife, and I got a plan and I want to do it?

Yeah at twenty six. Yeah.

See, so these three different men who al said they had a plan, And if the woman at that time would have been like, well it hate it happened at twenty three or I'm out, she'd have blocked a blessing, like that's just a fact, you know what I'm saying, Like, that's just a fact.

Did you have a plan at the time?

I always had a plan.

I had to play.

I mean, whom I asking.

Think about it?

When I was the first date, I told you that I wanted to go to the NFL in the practice squad get one hundred thousand dollars so we could buy a brownstone and we can live downstairs.

And you said, how we going to do it?

Yeah?

And I told you the plan I know, and that was my and you were included.

In my plane the plan.

That was the first delusion, that was the first day.

That's what I'm thinking.

I'm like, he said it, But what in me after the first date and at that age felt like I really wanted to put my trust.

Into this crazy I don't know, because two weeks later you told me you loved me, and I was like, this girl's fucking nuts.

So you had a plan too, You had a plan, You've seen it. I did.

Indeed, Lulu I was de Lulu before de Lulu was a thing.

Everything we've done in our relationship would be considered red flags in the.

Same age if you think about it so unconventional.

Like you're telling me you love me in two weeks red flag, me telling you my whole plan for my life, red.

Flag, and me signing up for that ride, red flag.

You're including yourself in my plan when I told you, red flag?

That's did People say that all the time.

What we're doing, what you're talking about, what we're doing.

It's only a red flag if you don't like facts.

But people say in relationships, if you're a single woman, you don't do this if.

You're a single man.

Second, you wanted to marry a nigga since you was in third grade.

You know what, Josh, you might be right.

Maybe I just had asked for you early on, and I just felt something early early on, Like who.

Knows, It's just it's just what we always tell people. Listen to yourself, listen to your spouse, and listen to God. Nobody else can tell you what your plan is for life. Can't nobody here tell me what my plan was for you? My father and my mother couldn't. They told me that I was moving too fast. Your mother told.

You you was moving to fast.

The only person who never told you anything was your father. So your father's like, you guys, do what you.

Guys do.

Him.

I swear that's what he told me.

Did y'all ever tell you how I spoke to her parents? Yo, this is a true story. It's only gonna be thirty seconds. Sit her mom and dad down and said, listen, and I want to get married to a dean. I love her and I want to make her my wife. Your father said, what you guys do? What you guys does do?

I think we should have a drink? Said I think we should ever do?

And her mother said, Mary just can't get done as you give away to have Did I have a plan and you know what's going on? And I was like, actually, I do have a plan. And then your father said we could.

Go over this a drink downstairs. Her mother was pissed. Bro he took me downstairs, never asked about the plan.

But then if you let my mother tell the story, your father used to kick me up at night?

How did Kadeen get up and move all the way over to Michigan?

And like, first of all, it's Michigan, Mom, It's not like this.

H I know, I know how I Jamaican Zoo, but it's Michigan. You just pick up and move to Michigan. And how I'm going to explain that to your grandmother? And I'm just like, yeah, that's so. That's so typical my parents.

But I mean your father does do that, though he does.

Her father will act like everything is okay, and then when we all leave, be on her.

Mother about him. How you're gonna let this happen? This happened, And she said.

These questions yourself, but you chose to have a drink and go downstairs and drinking it's all about the drinks.

Just like I just want to marry your daughter.

This if I was delusional at that age, and you probably were just as.

Delusional to delusional now true I've been. When I first saw you, no, Lie, I was like, damn, sorry.

Aren't most dreams that you aspire to, like really big dreams and stuff? You got to have a little bit of a.

Lot of delusion and insanity.

I don't think it's delusion. Everybody will believe in God, right, that's the higher being.

Right, God, I think exists to give you the visions of where you're supposed to be in life.

You listen to God, he.

Tells you your journey ultimately as well.

Yeah, but ultimately he gave you the vision of what it was for you.

He can give it to me.

So when you say you love me, it's because somebody made it clear to you, like this is where I was supposed to be. The same way when I told you my plan for my life, God gave me that vision for me to say this is what I'm going to do. Most people to that point were just.

Like, TV, you're not doing that.

And this woman right here said, so, how are you going to do it?

And I in my mind, I was like, what made I think that I was capable of.

Do it this, but the fact that you believe there in me made me be like, nah, this is the one.

It might be because I also wanted to be on TV and do those things and haven't been.

You know, a pageant.

Asked Matt.

I told Matt the visions guy gave me about you over ten years ago.

I was like, my wife's going to do this. My wife is going to do this.

I'm gonna do this, watch this, and hasn't it all come to pass? And it's not because I'm a brilliant genius. God gave me the vision.

So stupid God gave me the vision. He said, just follow follow this the fun. Look, look, look, come on, come.

On and here guys is why I go home to my house.

Queen, you can always say.

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