Love Against The World Tour Recap Part 2

The shit that happens behind the scenes of the tour is probably more entertaining than the tour itself.

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And I cannot think of one moment that was my favorite moment.

I had so many favorite moments on this tour. Hilarious, dead Ass. Hey, I'm Kadeen and I'm Devout and we're the Ellis's.

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Story time.

So first thing I want to do is shout out my cast and my crew, the team.

We love y'all, oh man so much, but this story.

It's about our driver, said, because said had the nerve to try to joke on me for trying to help with the bags. You know what I'm saying, Like, our crew is predominantly women, right, Other than Matt and Josh, everybody else on the tour is a woman. So there's a lot of bags they have. You know, we have all the luggage, we have.

The clothes, and sure he literally has like three body bags full of clothes about like, how many outfits are you traveling with?

We have one tour stops.

So whenever we get to a stop, I want to help unload because I know that the ladies can't and said, be getting out the cars sounding like batman. So I always get out first. I don't wait if I'm not that type of guy. It's like I'm with like town talent driver and he's open the door. No, So I always get out the car first so that I can help. And when I get out the car and by the time I get to the back said, it's still not there.

That's it?

Said, why every time we go into a you sick bro period?

Wow? Last year he had a kidney Yeah, so I don't know.

It was a kidney and chest pain. Maybe it was two different doors, two different stops.

There was two different at one point he had a kidney issue and he had to go to the hospital, and then he did also have a chess problem business out there, and we all need to pray for, sayd, that's my man's we got pray for. So I'm unloading the bags, right. He's like, they're making jokes with Matt calling me Belle hop ellis.

Right.

So I said, all I fuck it, I ain't lifting another fucking bag, right. So I go across the street and I'm watching said labor across the street with the bags.

So I'm like, you good, bro. He's like yeah, I said you're not. You're not good.

Then I was like, are you antibiotics?

Oh?

You remember hearing antibiotics thing?

He was like, bro, you have a sinus affection and you're getting antibiotics in yo.

He said, I'm a head of that. When I get back.

I said, you will not make it back, said, you can't even make it back to.

The van right now?

Bro.

That was in New York.

Yes, that was to drive to Philly do a show, drive to DC do a show, and for him to get back home.

Yes, that said, but you know what about said though, said always going to be exactly what he needed to be when we need.

Him to be there, so reliable.

He gonna take eight thousand trips because we do have some demanding women on our tour who need things and they always call and said, like said, is an uber and said, never says no to them.

He just walks right up to me and goes and I'm like, said you all right, yeah, man, we're gonna talk. I said, are we going to talk? Because right now you can't talk?

I love that? Was that a favorite moment of yours for the tour?

It was because like Josh and Matt, typically there's two vans, right, Josh is always in the van with his crew, and it's me and me and Matt. So me and Matt are typically the only dudes in the van. So the only person that we have that camaraderie with that gets us. It's said, so we have our own little locker room in the front. So we be arguing about who's better push your tea versus jay Z, which to me ain't even a fucking argument.

But how you argue with somebody who was like this, push your te does the best cocaine rap.

So Matt, stupid Matt gonna talk about something. Do a push your t rap right now?

No one said can't because he can't even bring Well, listen.

All we need, said you to do is drive safely from point A to point B.

He does that every single type and you don't.

Notice because you'll be sleep.

Me and Matt being in front, and all we hear is the thing. And Matt be like, YO said put your seat but on, and he'd be like, I'm gonna just turn up the music and.

Put your seat on. Bro.

The logic come on, said Ric.

How you gonna protect us be security and driver, but you're not protecting yourself, sir.

He's gonna tell you I've been doing this for years. Ain't no seat belt gonna save me? Swear God, this swee told me. Okay, I said, I said, well, well I'm gonna put my seatbelt on period, all right, because I know I'm gonna need some help getting on these bags out of the back because you ain't even get to the back of the van in time period. Me and Matt unloaded the bags, said we love you Batman, all right, West.

Batman, Batman said. Batman said, but that.

Is one of my favorite moments like this one of my favorite times, like traveling and having time to spend with, you know, with everybody's one of my.

Favorite good story time, mad stories, story stories for days, y'all, stories for days, all right, karaoke time now. When Develle came up with the episode and he said, you know, let's do a favorite moment's episode because we already spoke to you guys about how the tour came to be and all that good stuff, creative direction all that.

So he said, what's on do you want to do for karaoke?

So I could have done something about like, oh, favorites this that, you know, having a great time, blah blah blah, But this one is pulled from one of my personal favorite moments on the tour. On a shout out our girl Urihanna, who came to see.

Us at the Apollo from Brooklyn.

From Brooklyn, our cousin Jadass who was in the roof top Joints. You know, she was up top, you know what I'm saying. So her video has gone viral social media after Trible interviewed her after the show. So maybe we can talk about this as we come out of karaoke, and we'll give you more background into Urihana and how this became a thing and how she pretty much became famous from a moment at the Apollo show where Deval

A little bit.

She said, what they do, it's beef a little bit. That's exactly what you said, Uriana. It's a hashtag now it's beef in one word. Okay, that you inspired that.

But also in the video she ended with saying in her own video that she posted after with her recap Sorry two thousand and four by Ruben Stutter, and it goes like this girl, this is my sorry fun two thousand and four, and I ain't gonna miss no more this.

I'm gonna take this.

One chance and make it real clear that I'm sorry for May, I'm sorry for Jude, and I'm.

Sorry for July.

The fact that this song came back up and resurfaced me and Trouble listen to it when we got back home. We just pull up the YouTube video and Triple knew the song word for words.

It was a song like it slapped sack. It was about was it?

It was two thousand and four that he made the song.

Why would it be another year?

Kay, I'm sorry for it might have been two thousand and five.

Why wouldn't be sorry for two thousand and four and two thousand and.

Five because it's a reflection he's sorry for all the months prior.

You know, it's funny you said that you may be right.

I know you wanted to disagree with this, but I was like, nah, you may be right, because in order for to be sorry for two thousand and four, he wrote it in.

Two thousand and five, or it could have been two thousand and six and he just recapped two thousand and four.

No, I'm pretty sure it might have been me for a little bit. Gonna check it.

I'm gonna check it all right, y'all, stick around while we checked this whole thing here with Ruben thunder song, and we're gonna pay some bills and come back, all right, stick around, all.

Right, we're back.

So we did some fact checking real quick, just so we can round out karaoke time. And it turns out that Rubens Thuter dropped that song in two thousand and three, so he was sorry for two thousand and four.

It was a preemptive he knew he was.

He said, baby, I'm sorry what I'm about to do. You know what I'm saying. So let me let you know.

He was trying to be proactive versus reactive exactly by putting out the song early because he knew he was gonna be Ain't shit, that's crazy.

Let me apologize, you know what I'm saying.

If you think about it, a lot of R and B is about apologizing for shit you wasn't supposed to do.

Yeah.

Yeah, So it's like, while I'm apologizing for being like a dirt bag or being for like a bum bitch, let me just also at least.

We apologize again, you know what I'm saying, Alicia, apologize.

They remember Donnelle Jones and I wish I never met her.

Yeah, even though I love her so and she got love for me, but she still being longs to someone else.

True.

That whole song was about him being in love with somebody else wife baby, And he ain't apologized or.

Ruben, you was on something you was on or something Ruben shout out to Ruben study where's he at now?

Apologizing?

Still apologizing to twenty four?

Maybe I'm sorry for out of twenty twenty four.

I ain't gonna mess.

Up no moment that's effect because it still twenty years And.

But seriously, though, that was a that was a funny moment for me. That was one of my favorite moments. So in the moment right at the Apollo, Yes, New York was live, okay. And one thing about a New York audience, when you talk, they're going to talk back. Yes,

The best of our ability. Yes, Now in New York, I believe Uriana.

Who was up in the rooftop joints so she was at the top right, she believed that the people asking the questions down below were not asking good questions. She said, we got real problems. We got real problems up in the rooftop joints. So instead of making her way down to ask a question, she was like shouting questions from the top, and she had a voice baby that carried. She reminded me of like your typical Brooklyn Roundaway girl

Do you know what I mean? And don't mean any harm by your at all. It's all love.

But she was shouting from the rooftops, literal questions like we got real problems up here, like like, how come y'all like coming up to me. I don't think she believed that the process was you have to come down to the microphone. So Tripple interviewed her after and it was a really hilarious video where she was just like, you know, we got real problems up there, and I

Well, to be honest, I was.

I was more concerned about her in that moment because we are in New York and there's mad Brooklyn people in there, there's mad hauling people in there. People want to hear questions, and when we couldn't hear the people asking the questions because she was screaming, I heard people murmuring and people started getting.

You know, or like yo, especially need to shut the fuck up.

And I was like, before it gets to that, and I didn't know who she was with, and then they start screaming back at each other. Then it becomes a problem. I said, let me just intervene not be disrespectful. And I was just like, hey, yo, shorty, like like real talk. You think that you being disrespectful is going to get you called on, That's not how you go and get called on.

And she screamed out.

I'm sorry, I'm so sorry that it's all love, and I was like, it's all love, ma, It's all love. But it really was in an attempt to kind of like settle what was brewing. And I've been in places where, of course, I grew up in Flatbush.

I remember going to Ken Moore movie theater.

I remember being in Kim Moore movie theater and somebody started talking to the screen and then somebody screams out, he yo, shut the fuck up, and well, you shut the fuck up, make me, And then before you know it, it becomes a thing that has nothing to do with the movie.

Right, that's true. I didn't even think of it that way, but yeah, you're right. Environments like that, you know, the beef a little bit can turned to beef A lot of it, A lot.

Of it, you know what I'm saying.

And to be honest, she wasn't trying to be disrespectful now. She was enjoying her she was.

She definitely said she had time and she was like, I was talking to me even though the valve was checking her.

She was like, Yo, Devo spoke to me like period.

Yeah, it was it was cool and it was all love. It was against the world.

And I never want anyone to leave the Dead Ass Podcast experience in a bad mood or in a bad place, like when we do the meet and Greece. I always tell people, Yo, make sure you get home safe because I also never want people to leave in it here.

Oh you know we left from dead that's and this happened.

Yeah. I always want them to leave and go home and feel like, man, I really felt better after being there.

So what that was about, Yeah, totally, that's fun. That's fun. So yeah, that was a little more context to the part of karaoke.

Yeah.

But then for story time where de Vous spoke about Cedric, Cedric was just one piece of the team. But it just shows like we genuinely are concerned about our team, Like we had to adjust a couple of things within the schedule, to make sure that our team was getting rest, that we weren't up at the crack of dawn checking out of one hotel to get on the road to

So shout out to Cedric for or being that.

You know, we're always worried and concerned about him, so we want to make sure that he's good.

Take care of yourself, said man, real talk man. We as black men often say we'll take care of it later. We'll handle it later. Oh, let me get this done, because you know you're a workaholic. Orse like, my health is never the priority. I got to take care of everybody else instead. Is that type of guy, He's always focused on everybody else. Yeah, and then you'll always take care of it later until there is no more later.

That's a fact.

I mean, baby Deve, I don't even know it, but he got about two three doctors appointments coming up this week because you that tour yesterday, so he about to get blood work, stool samples, sample, chiropractor appointment. You got a couple coming up, baby, I mean only a ship.

Always.

Baby, You're nasty always always. But anyway, really back to more favorite moments from our Love Against the World tour. Did you have a favorite stop? We had Dallas first, which was an almost sold out show. The only seats that didn't sell out in that show were in the roof top choices.

They were on top of the building.

So when we saw the venue, we kind of understood why nobody would want to buy those tickets, though I didn't believe that was really a bad seat in the house, but the ones at the very top balcony never sold out.

But this is the truth, though, and I got d MS, people said, if I knew the show was going to be that, I would have got those tickets because they weren't. They didn't know what to expect, and why would I sit up there to hear them talk.

Like the podcast show you didn't want to be that far.

But then once they saw the clips of the show, they were like, damn, I would have got those tickets to be there for that. Yeah, you know, so.

So that's a note to Dallas.

If we ever go back to that venue again, just make sure that you guys get the tickets up top if you have to, because it was majestic theater. Yes, and there's not like really literally no bad seat in the house, and the energy is so electric. But we had Dallas, we had the Apollo in New York, we had the Fillmore Theater in Philly, we had Warner Warner Theater out in.

D c DC.

I'm gonna be honest, it's hard for me to say I had a favorite spot because it seemed like with every show the crowd got more alive and they were more in tune.

But it's also not fit at.

The early shows because the later shows got an opportunity to see what was coming in social media. And I remember when we went to go see Beyonce the first couple of shows, you was like, the crowd was a little and it was sweet, but the crowd was kind of But by the time they got to Atlanta and anybody knew how to do that what was it the mute challenge and there were so many different things.

They were practicing. So you're you're absolutely right about that. I think about how the show evolved from Dallas to Atlanta, like even Dead Ass Court. We added the Blazers and the Josh came out as Bayles. At the end of the Atlanta added the judge exactly, so every show progressively got better. And that's a great analogy that you made.

Though.

I think Dallas, for our first stop, was so live amazing.

It was a great time there.

I was my most nervous in Dallas, and I went You can tell if you go back and look at the footage from our first show and look at us dancing to the last show. The first show, you can literally see me going, oh, you were like counting.

I was counting because I wanted to get the steps.

And by the time we got to Atlanta, I knew the steps, I knew the crowd response. Is so why I was able to add things and I just lived in it a lot more so for me, Dallas was like a good I hate to say practice show, but I think Dallas got the raws version of the show because that was the first time we had ever performed it everything together. Because in these venues you don't get a chance to do a wet tech days prior.

Every day, show up, show up, and do it.

Yeah, my biggest anxiety moment each show was like dancing on a new stage in different shoes.

Oh yeah, I can imagine that.

So it's like I'm.

Dancing in heels first of all, like actually dancing dancing. And then all stages are different. So I remember Dallas being super slippery and I was dancing in some shoes and I'm just.

Like, oh no, Dallas slippery.

The stage was slippery, so I was like, man, I'm gonna have to get my shoes scuffed up.

Sure, we had to put on some.

Souls on the bottom of it because I'm like, I'm sliding all over the stage. And then we went to the Apollo and I was like, I'm sticking to the stage, Like how am I gonna do this?

Split?

And then and I had to kind of like work out a way for me to find my way into the split because of that. So so yeah, we had a lot of those moments where I felt like, damn, Dallas did get the royst version. But all things considered, Dallas got a dope as first show.

Oh yeah, Dallas show is a live spot for us. We appreciate you. Dallas also one of our largest venues. Yes, sixteen hundred people man in that spot and we sold thirteen and forty nine tickets are.

Only not sold but still the visor.

Crazy top part, but it was, it was fire. I have three like moments to me, okay, that are like like moments that I feel epitomize what we wanted to accomplish, and I'm gonna do them in the order of three.

Two, one.

Okay, we may have some overlapping, I'm thinking, but go ahead, we.

May Number three. Number three is the baby announcement.

Oh yes, that was so dude, was so surprised.

And so happy. Kathy and Jonathan I think their names were.

I can't.

I can't remember the name somebody, but I know his name was John remember her, Kathy, I remember his name, And he cried and I remember him grabbing me and hugging me and being like he almost picked me.

Up, right, he almost knocked me over too, And to see the joy on his face to be a father, because if you look at social media so much, just so much back and forth about men and women in fifty fifty in this and you hear so many men talking about what they're not going to do and women talking about what they're.

Not going to be. To see a man just stand in his power and just be like.

Yes, yes, I'm making everything happen so that my wife can give me child and she could be comfortable. And he talked about, you know, her mom retiring and his mom retiring and created that experience.

And then when she says she was pregnant.

Right, and it was her saying, man, my husband wants this so badly, and even though I've had my own struggles and obstacles with my health, I'm going to do this for us and our family.

So shout out again to Kathy and Jonathan.

That was a freaking amazing moment, and what a great surprise for the crowd.

That was That would have to be Apollo number three moments. Now, I'm going to put these next two moments at one A and one B because it really isn't the two Okay. The reason it is one A and one B. One B would have to be the kids coming out in Apollow.

That would have been my number one Okay.

One B is because you saw much I cried hearing them introduce me. But I started crying before they even introduced me. When Jackson got out there, I wasn't out there. You weren't out there. All four of the boys had their mics. So now here's a little story about what happened backstage. What was supposed to happen in that moment was Jackson, Cairo, and Kaz were supposed to go out there together. Jackson said, I said, Jackson, you feel comfortable

So when he saw Sammy Davis Junior, that's when he came up.

With the chebaring mind because he was watching videos, yes, And that moment just moved me so much because I got a chance to watch four little versions of me do what I wanted to do. But the three came out, and the Coda was supposed to stay back with me me because I thought he would be overwhelmed by the moment. And then when we introduced you, the Coda was going to come out with you in his sands, and I think everybody was like, oh my gosh, you came out

Right the time comes.

For them to go out there, Jackson walks out, getting ready to walk out with his mic, and Dakota is not like walking away. So I said, Jackson, come in, come in, come in, come in. He said what I said, just hold the Colda's hand. Dakota hold his hand, and then looked at the mic guy that was pointing, and Mike gave him his mic, and he walked out there.

With his brothers.

Oh my god.

And it was just for me.

It was the feeling of a father watching his oldest son take care of his youngest son, and the two middles just being there for support. And I was like, I felt like I'm raising the right type of young men.

Oh man. They're solid as a team, super solid.

It just shows how much Coda cairo Cas look up to Jackson and how much Jackson looks out for them. Because I watched backstage as I was doing my look change and I was kind of waiting for my queue. So I saw the Coda go on stage with the brothers and I was like, oh my god, like who dropped the ball? I thought somebody like messed up and like sent Coda out there. And then when I got to the you know, the wings to make my way out, they were like, no, Coda wanted to go out on his own.

They showed me to how how safe Jackson makes them feel because he's the oldest. So being the oldest and you're the oldest, I'm the oldest. We know it was our responsibility to take care of our siblings. And I always tell Jackson like, yo, you're the oldest, you got to take care of them.

I know how much pressure that is.

But if you watch Jackson on the stage, he always made sure he included all of them. When he did a dance, he looked, and he he schooled them in. When we did our hug and stuff, he made sure that the Coda was party were included. That to me was my second and I'm saying second because that's my favorite moment.

But that's why I was like one A and one B.

Okay, I hope you're you're one A is not my moment because you literally are taking on my mind.

I'm annoyed. I know it's not okay, what is it?

My one a was watching you do a split.

Oh, because I'm no no no, no, no, no no no. It wasn't only because I'm nasty, but it's because I've watched you work so hard to get it back. But also, Yo, if people knew what four kids can do to a woman's body, and if they watched you gain weight, lose weight, gain weight, lose weight, dance, you were stretching and then you felt like you pulled the muscle.

And yeah, I was worried about that Atlanta show because my hip was and the DC show because doing it two days in a row, we were ambitious doing like three days, which we had done in the past, but because we didn't do the actual physicality, it was easier in the past.

Yeah, So for me it was just some It's almost about my family, man, you know, And and for me everything starts with us and it would be no boys if it wasn't for us. So watching you conquer that moment, I was just as proud when I watched you walk across the stage on Fashion Week in a in a in a two piece bikini, so I can believe it with a big as I.

Can't believe that I did that sidebar.

Oh my gosh, your ass straight swallowed up freaking leotard. Yea, I'm telling you swallowed the leotard up.

Christina in wardrobe and Cherie, we're literally taping leotards to my ass. I see it, double sided tape everything that they could do. They at one point had double I had on double underwear, trying to make sure that the city and it just got swallowed up.

Y'all.

It is lucky.

You know what I'm saying.

I keep it from my mama.

You do, you do? Definitely. Mimi's definitely stacked. Shout out Jamaica, Jamaica to the world, you know, But I'm not.

It was just good to watch my family go out there and perform, Oh my god, and have fun before you were smiling the whole time, and you were cheesing, you were confident time in that space. I just those are my favorite moments.

I love that.

There's definitely some overlap favorite moments for sure. Kathy and Jonathan that that was a great Dead Ass Chord episode.

It was so good.

Another one of my favorite moments was us, well me saying, you know, I think we should do a thank you video to the crew facts and then talking to Joshua about it, and josh put that video together in like record time, which I appreciate. Found the song crew love, and I was like, oh, that's perfect, and then watching the video in that moment on the screen, but then also looking behind us and seeing our crew like kind of in the wings, watching it and watching them cry,

When we do.

Our look changes out of the Divusher and Beyonce or chaance costumes. I don't see you in your kind of fashion fit for the show until I.

Hit the stage, and nor do you see me.

And every single time I look over at you, I feel like I have to fight back a moment of tears too, because I'm just like wow, like look at my husband, like look at my life, look at what we are creating, look at how God is moving through us in this moment to be a vessel for people to take from our experience, our energy, our talks, our crew, whatever it is, taking away whatever it is that they need. And that's always Donora's prayer, which is another favorite moment

Then having everybody there.

In the space with us and feeling that energy and then praying for what we want in that moment, for our crew and for our audience, and then feeling it in that moment alongside my husband and then my boys, Like my boys introducing me on stage is like the world's greatest mom in Atlanta.

Yeah, that was Jackson And did you hear did you hear Kyro jump into World?

Yes?

And I heard all that backstage, and I'm just like, man, it was just like the compilations of everything that led me to that moment at the Atlanta show, Like it was so hard to pick a favorite moment, but it was just like the run of everything into that moment and then having Tyler Perry attend the show and just hearing him speak life into us and talk about the things that he loves and appreciates about us as individuals but also a couple.

You know, so many friends and family.

Cats from Zatima came out.

Cam getting into town for it, Crystal who always supports people like people who expects to see certain people they know Crystal's going to be their support the way we support her. But it's like Trinity came out, give I came out, Cam came out, like you said, Tyler came out. It was it was amazing, freaking uh Gito flew in from La from l A just for the day to go check us like that.

To Melyn freaking surprise, he brought my favorite chips. He was like, since I know you've been training and you've been working hard, you dropped some pounds, here's some chips. After the show. He and I love the same chip as a kettleis Jalepeno kettle chips, which we love, both of us.

It was that, you know what to now I'm thinking about There's so many more moments I could think of, like our whole family being backstage at the Apollo signing the wall at the Apollo, like.

You love that.

There's like historic moments being like in those those stages, like all of our family backstage in Atlanta. They get a little overwhelming in Atlanta because there were so many people backstage before the show, but it was all love, like they were there to just like who needs what and what moment.

Helping us with the kids.

Like I'm literally putting eye drops in Jackson's eyes, like right before I hit the stage because I'm like, you gotta get his medicine.

A seven thirty, Like you know, it's just it was just so many things.

That's the funny part too, because I remember when you you went to go see Beyonce at in Sweden. Any went with Tyler, Yeah, and you in the box and jay Z was there in the box and he was holding Roomy and he.

Was like, like devows, he's like such a dad.

Yeah, He's like, he's just holding Roomy and panthers need to be changed and he's holding this one so this one can go.

People are going to go back and look at us.

And when it was like at the Apollo, do you remember when Kadeen was changing this one and Dakota needed this and then deval and got the Dakota had a breakdown in Atlanta because there's too many people and I run in there from my just you.

Heard him cry.

I'm crying and Daddy scooped him out, grabbed them up and I was like, give me my son, give me my son.

And I took them back and calmed them down.

But people don't understand we're entertainers, yes, but we're still also family people like parents, and.

That's like precedents. I didn't even think about it.

It's literally like I looked down at the clock from the makeup chair and I'm like, oh shit, Jackson gets his his eye drops and then he was getting his haircut by tip. I'm like, Jack's, what time did you get your eye drops last? He said two o'clock.

I'm like, oh, we almost twenty minutes behind schedule. So I just did that, and you know, it was just like she did.

You know. My hairstylist was like you just like you just mom, Like you didn't even think about that, And she said, but it's crazy to see how like you're getting ready to perform in front of eighteen hundred.

People and this what you guys thought about.

And I'm like absolutely, Like it was just effortless, Like I don't even think about it.

It's like that's just the priority. You know, those are.

The moments, man, Like even even all of our cast and crew being at the Apollo, that is a historical place for great entertainers. We sold it out, not as a couple, we sold it out as a team. So now everyone can say, yo, I was a part of a team that sold out the Apollo. I was a part of the team that sold out Warner Warner is one of the last two places. I think Dave Chappelle did his. I forgot which tourter is. I'm gonna look it up. But these are historical theaters that greats have sold out.

And on the wall. Because the Warner Theater was the one hundredth anniversary of the Warner Theater.

They made us some beautiful T shirts too that said like Warner Theater, Dead Ass Podcast sold out.

Of it opened nineteen twenty four, and in twenty twenty four, Dead Ass Podcast was one of the first people or productions to sell out Warner Theater.

And one hundredth anniversary.

Oh wow, because it's February. That's dope.

But I mean, like, think about that. We're all a part of history. That to me is also a moment that I'll never ever forget. You can't take that moment away from me.

You know.

My whole family was at the Apollo.

Yeah, and we signed Yo. Signing the wall of the Apollo was freaking amazing.

It's just there's so.

Many moments I can't even count down because now that I'm thinking about, I'm like, shoot, how could that not be in my top three?

Right?

How could exactly?

And then just some of a BTS favorite moment of mine is just like being on the tour bus with the crew, arriving at hotels together, we stop at the bar, have a drink. Tiff is always going to buy us a drink. She's just like, yeah, y'all need this to kind of, you know, decompress real quick.

Being late to the airport in Dallas and Janelle getting the wheelchair and being like I got us and flying through the airport so that we could get to the gate.

On times we can get to Dallas. Those are times.

That so many laughs like y'all have no idea.

They don't have no idea, so many labs from the tour bus to traveling together, to squeezing into ubers, to leaving people bags behind, like it's just crazy.

Putting most of the team that's from Atlanta on a private jet to fly most of them, most of them had never been on a private jet, and we were able to provide that for our team for an experience like that's just these are moments that that I can't even put them in order.

I can't even put them there.

It felt good to be able to provide that for everyone the same way Tyler provided it for us and for many people who don't know. When you see certain things, it becomes real for you and you're like, man, that black man was able to do that for us. He put our whole cast during the quarantine on private jets to fly safely from Atlanta from LA to Atlanta.

To do Season two.

And I was like, man, that's dope that he can do that and put all of us young kids on a private jet. And I said, you know, at some point I want to be able to put my family and my team on a private jet. And two years ago, when we first started working with said I told Sad, I said, Yo, it's sad.

At some point you're gonna be picking us up.

He reminded me of that. Yeah, he reminded you of that.

Reminded me that, He said, d you remember you said that you I was gonna be picking you up from a private jet. He said, I'm headed to Teeterborough to pick y'all up. That was only two years ago.

Yeah, I can't. I don't have a top.

Three no more, because those are all moments that when you hugged me, When you hugged me getting on the jet, and then you looked at me and you said, babe, like like we're doing it.

That's one of my favorite moments.

I'm doing it with my best friend and then all my friends is around me, Like I get to sit in the.

Back of the chair with Matt be like, yo, mad, look at this shit.

It's crazy. Everybody has a little photo moments.

We had a nice meal on the jet and then our kids are there, Like it's so important for us for our kids to be when they're with us, especially on tour, that they feel like they're amongst family, Like I can leave and be on stage to perform for all of you, but know that backstage, whether it's Shreija now whoever.

Like they're good.

They were like aunties and uncles. Like it's an extension of us and that trust that we've built and that loyalty and that vibe, that energy, that positivity. That love is something that cannot be duplicated. It cannot be duplicated. So shout out to our favorite tour moments. Love against the world, love within our world. It's something that's going to definitely go down for us in our history books.

The best tour so far. All Right, y'all, let's go ahead.

And take a quick break and we will be back with listener letters. Alrighty, listener letter time, we are back for the last portion of the show.

Do you want to and dive in baby and read first?

I like to dive in, Hey, Kadeen in devowed.

This letter is aimed mainly towards Kadean, but would also love for Davou's input. My husband and I have been together for seven years since ages twenty and twenty one, married for two years, and recently had a baby. We are still in the building phase of our relationship to become financially secure. It's a great thing. We actually like each other because, oh child, this is a rough with

Gotcha so you want? She I'm trying to everything.

She's working towards being helping her husband be financially secure.

As a nurse, which I guess bags be there.

And she's like, I want the bag, but she feels like she misses out on the family stuff, right, And she's like, how does she figure out?

Well, you know, I could definitely relate to that.

That's how I felt when we were back in Brooklyn and you retired from the NFL.

You want to start your business when it.

Came to the gym and all that, and you had to be a stay at home dad for a bit because I had to work to keep the health insurance going and of course, bringing money to give my portion towards whatever we needed to sustain in each other. But the good thing about Deval and I is that we had a plan. I knew that was a temporary situation because I expressed to Devou how important it was for me to want to be there.

For our family.

Say that again, I expressed to Devow how important it was for me to be present for my family, for him as a wife, and for my son as a new mom. So when recently having a baby, I completely understand how you feel, because that mom guilt is something that really really lays on heavy when you feel like

Not what she wanted.

But you also supported me in that you were like, this is what we need in a temporary moment for our family. So you did what you were best equipped to doing that moment, which was take care of our son while I worked at home. But I knew that it was temporary, so after discussing with you what I wanted and where I expected for our lives to go, because I wanted to be at home more.

That's when you worked towards it.

Yeah, the good thing with your baby being young and deval actually gave me this perspective early on when we first had Jackson and when like our chir and casts came around and they were younger.

Sometimes you have.

To sacrifice time at home with the children when they're younger to be able to build, and to be able to stack some money, and to be able to really go hard in the moments that they may not remember. So when your baby is one and two and even three years old, those first three years of life, grind, do what you gotta do, take that extra shift, build because it's going to give you later on the autonomy

You know.

But the good thing with being a nurse is that there's flexibility. You can work per dim you can pick up shifts here and there, because I know you want to still be a contributor to your family and that's important to you. So in terms of having it all,

I have nothing.

So I'm going to go ahead and read this second question because you literally answered it the exact same way I was going to answer it. I was just going to tell her that if you feel this way, express it first to your husband. You to create a plan so that you can eventually move out of that space when the children are old enough to remember.

Because that's what we did.

That's literally what we did.

I have you crush that. Give me some all right?

Thanks? I read let one since you okay, go for it, go for it.

And baby, you got it, says trust me, you got it. Oh yeah, make a plan with your husband.

Y'all. Only two years in the.

Marriage, so yeah, two years in seven years together, you're still living twenty Yeah, that sounds like literally de Valinize at age twenty seven to twenty eight, just married, trying to figure things out. The way you start in your twenties is not how you're going to finish later on. So good luck to y'all.

Talk about babies, I'm talking about I got nothing that was great, awesome?

What though? This person must be from Detroit, Kadeen and Daval.

I just want to start by saying, I'm so happy I started watching your videos. I've been with you guys since the beginning. Your content is so relatable and I love it. I love your transparency, the knowledge that you both spew on the podcast and zach on sisters then as Atima.

Love it now.

I'm not asking for advice, just some inspiration. I've made major changes in my life, getting myself in the gym and working with a personal trainer four days a week real consistent since December, talking with a therapist, enrolled in real estate classes, and trying to advance in my career, just to name a few. But I'm a single mom who works two jobs, who loves her kids and never stops with gentle hands in the heart of a fighter.

That's what's up with.

Gentle hands and heart, and I love every single mom never starts with gentle hands in the heart of a fire.

That's dope. I'm a survivor.

Yes, I sang Reba as I typedd. I'm thirty seven from Detroit. I do you for the d with an almost fifteen year old daughter. Trying to date has been awful. Guys assume that I'm just so busy, and don't get me wrong, I am at times, but between both jobs, class, my baby, her basketball or volleyball practices, games, and more, I can still find or make time for myself and what I want to do. I have made myself available

Thank you in advanced stay blessed.

You know what I love how she started that whole thing. She is working on herself.

That's all she got to keep doing.

Keep doing that, keep working on yourself. When you are the best version of yourself, you will be happier. That's the energy that you're going to present to the world, and whoever is deserving of receiving you at your best will come.

It's not your time, sis, it's God's time.

You fucking on one today.

Once a day you are well, thank you.

But the sooner you believe wholeheartedly that things that you want in this moment are only deferred to a greater moment. When you can receive it fully, with a full heart and with a completely happy spirit, that's when it's gonna happen for you.

So keep going, don't stop, don't stop.

If you'd like to be featured as one of our listener let us email us at dead ass Advice at gmail dot com.

I've given all the advice and the team. You know what I'm saying, take you to leave it.

But it's just how I feel like I and it's like I'm talking to myself, like literally when we have these questions.

Sometimes there's so many relatable moments.

In the listener letters because we've either been there, have felt that, have experienced that still experience it twenty two years and feel it as an individual, feel it as a spouse, feel it as a parent, like we relate to you guys so much, so much so I feel it because I keep telling myself the same thing.

And at forty I'm still working on myself.

She said that she's thirty seven doing all of this stuff. I've watched this woman here next to me now at forty walk into who she is thirty seven year Oldadan, You wouldn't been able to give these answers, But it seems that over the last couple of years, if you continue to work on yourself, but also you've realized that I'm not having any more kids, you've been in tune with yourself.

Yes, I have nothing to add to that.

Like birth control. Yes, of somewhat down time.

Yeah, because these kids will drive you crazy and a husband will drive you crazy.

I'll be driving on crazy in the best way.

But no, I agree with everything you said. I really have nothing to add like this. In God's time, And if you're looking to be featured as one of our listeners letters, be sure to email us at D A D E A D A S S A D V I C e at gmail dot com.

As right, y'all, it's dead ass Advice at gmail dot com. Moment of Truth time, we recap some of our most favorite moments of the Love Against the World Tour. Put your moment of truth, baby.

My moment of truth is. I can't wind down the tour to a few moments. I could do a few moments at each stop. I could do a few moments at rehearsal. I can do a few moments with discussion. Josh was just talking to us about how we came up with the idea. He said, de where was your mind? Remember we were on a group text. It was me, you, Matt, Josh Donor, and we were like, what are we going to call this tour?

And I was like, I got it.

We're gonna call it the Love Against the World Tour yep, and we're gonna do a Love against the World doc.

And then it was like boom.

The whole team got in motion, and then it was just like boom, Matt, capture content, Boom, Josh, let's go edit content.

Let's let I just I don't have a moment of truth. My moments of truths are The.

Love Against the World Tour was everything I wanted it to be, and it was because I got through it.

My love of my life, my sons, and my best friends.

I love that and I can echo the same sentiments. My moment of truth time is that with each stop rounding out in Atlanta amongst family, friends, an amazing crowd almost eight thousand, seven hundred people who attended in all, over eight thousand.

Seven hundred people, eighty four hundred.

I cannot wholeheartedly say that this may be my last.

Now I might be speaking on a high and she ain't need to smoke it.

This don't hold me to it.

But my hard no for wanting to just really phase out the live show.

For us.

Seeing people in real time in person. And I say this at every show, like this is y'all's show, this is not me and devout show being in that space and filing you guys as energy and that the gratitude and the love, and it makes me feel like like why stop?

Like we are.

Literally giving people love within our world that we've created for them.

So you know, listening to you right now, you need to do your own thing.

What do you mean.

You need to have your own Like I could see a day with a day with K where you go out on tour and you speak and it's your perspective, not your perspective tied to me.

Just your perspective.

A day with let us know what.

You'll, let us know what you're thinking about it.

If Kay, if K did a day with K and she went and in person, like an intimate in person place where you because hearing you answer these questions for these young women, right, it was insightful and eye opening to me, as your husband, of how your perspective has changed from for sure know you so to me, it's like them, I would I would be interested to see how women would take to hearing you speak on your own without being connected to me.

That's I think. I think that would be dope.

And listening to you answer these questions, it was like, I feel like I would be doing you a disservice if I answer, if I added anything to it, and hearing you say that you are continuing to do more, right, maybe that's what it is what it looks like. You know, they don't have to be a big venue.

I want to do something more because I wanted to be like close to y'all and see everybody and see faces and talk, and.

I don't know. I think I think, I think that's I think that's I wonder.

If we're onto something here. I said he'd be coming up with ideas out of nowhere.

I can see things. Literally, you crushed both of these questions. I got up. To be honest, I was like, wow, like that was actually fucking dope, right.

I mean, I was just thinking about it if I was in these shoes, because I have been in those shoes.

I want to see you do your own thing.

Right, Like we said, God's timing.

Like I talk about having a daytime talk show, right, Maybe I could have had one in my thirties, But would it have been as impactful because I haven't.

You've lived.

You got to live a little bit more, you know, And which makes me think a lot of women who do have their own daytime talk shows are a little bit farther into their life.

Maybe for these fifties.

You know, you've accomplished.

Podcaster, you're a New York Times bestselling author, your mother to four boys, you've been a wife to an NFL athlete and actor.

Let us know what y'all think, Baby, would you come see me on tour?

I know?

Now, let's just know that out.

Let trouble know.

Let trible know what TBD TBD. All right, y'all.

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