Reddit Stuff | Episode 47

What's up everyone we're back with a reddit stuff episode and this is reddit updates uh yes this is from best of redditor updates we're gonna do how many of these two two and we'll see where we're at with two and then we'll see if we do one more and then maybe we won't and maybe we won't don't get your hopes up but maybe you can get them get them uh about a medium half glass have for about a 50 there's a 50 chance that we'll do a third story but you 100 chance that we're going to do two so a

200 chance right math let's let's get into it wait i just thought about what you just said there's a one there's a 100 so 300 chance there's a 250 chance there's a two there's a 100 chance we'll do one story 100 chance we'll do a second story and about a 50 percent chance that we'll do a third story and then you added it up three uh 250 percent chance.

200.5 200 and a half that's how that works 201 half oh my god 274 all right you want to give get into the first one yeah let's go this is a little wacky so this is not from the original poster i tried to find the original post but it was deleted by reddit i think okay so yeah but this is pretty crazy all right my boyfriend admitted he orchestrated our meet cute.

Our what do you don't know what a meet cute is no a meet cute is it's usually like thing you just like say in movies it's like when two characters who have romantic interests meet their meet cute so her boyfriend orchestrated them meeting like fine like talking to meeting each other he planned it so why not why is it called meet cute because it's a cute meet and watch out man y'all gen z just coming up i don't know this is a gen z

thing i think it's just a movie thing it's like oh that's a meet cute or we met meet cute i think it's a movie term anyway my boyfriend admitted he orchestrated our meet cute okay i have no idea how i feel about what he told me i want to think it's cute that he cared this much but it's just coming off as creepy and i feel lied to he got drunk because we were celebrating my first successful day at my clinic my clinicals and he ended up saying something along the lines

of could you believe we wouldn't be this happy if i hadn't watched you for so long to which i was confused and didn't know what he meant well i had worked Well, I had worked at a local library for two years before we met during college, and apparently he saw me there but didn't actually talk to me. He just would watch me and listen in on my conversations with the people I was checking out and my coworkers to figure out what I liked.

Then he apparently followed me and found the coffee shop I frequented. What? All this time, I thought we had a sweet first-time meeting story. He accidentally bumped into me, apologized, and offered to buy me coffee for the trouble. He told me what he was ordering, and it was the exact same thing I always get, and I thought it was an amazing coincidence. I joked that it was fate, and we spent like an hour talking over coffee. I feel so stupid.

Apparently, it was similar to a scene in a book that I had read and told my coworker I thought was cute. I'm just so frustrated and angry. I feel betrayed. Like, why would you do this? And how much of our year and a half relationship is a lie? Like, it sounds like he was stalking me. Edit. Yeah. Just so we're all on the same page, I don't believe he was watching me the whole time I was working there. I think it was the last six months or so before I actually met him.

He's a bit socially awkward, but he has a group of friends that he plays D&D, oh jeez, and hangs out with once a week. He's 25 and I'm 22, so it's not a weird age gap. I have never really considered him going through my phone weird because I basically let anyone look at my phone whenever.

I'm not worried about anyone seeing anything. I've also never really been worried about my safety with him before, but I do know that he has anger issues and has gotten in trouble for getting into a few physical fights. So for those of you worried about me, I will be watching for any signs I might have missed. I am mainly just upset because I feel like our relationship was built on a lie, even if it was a smallish one.

He also said he was interested in a lot of the same things I was when we first met, and for a while he kept up with them, but lately he hasn't at all, and now I'm wondering if he lied about those things too. I definitely need to have a conversation with him, and I'm driving home now, so I'll talk with him when I get there. Thanks for the feedback, Bolts. This dude is a walking red flag. It sounds like you, like the show, like Joe Goldberg.

I've never seen you, but I know that's what he does, essentially, just finds someone, likes them, learns all about them. Oh man, we just crazy how we just met here. You know what? My favorite coffee is an oat milk latte with no oat milk, extra decaf on the side with rice on the side in the middle, stirred and mixed around in a smoothie. Thank you. And it's like, wow, that's what I like too. We are meant to be. This reminds me of like an early 2000s rom-com, not rom-com. Rom-com turn.

Or like romantic thriller, like Swim Fan or something like that. You probably like Swim Fan. It's crazy. It's a wild ride. Swim Fan was another one. Something along those lines. Anyway, this dude is a walking red flag. It's a bit of a wackadoodle. He stalked you. He stalked you. He stalked you. He stalked you. Oh, my gosh. Look, listen. Look. It sounds like he was stalking me. He was. He was. That's stalking. That's what stalking is.

Maybe he didn't follow you, but he went where you were every day, learned about your interests, listened to your conversations. And orchestrated the bump into? This dude's a walking red flag. Look, there's a fine line between, you know, something being, like, quirky romantic and something being, like, there's nothing quirky about this. Like, this guy is... Weird. He's mental. He's a little weird. I probably shouldn't be with him anymore.

Because that's really weird. Like, he orchestrated the meet cute or whatever. But, like, then she said, okay, well, he has anger issues and he's been in fights. Listen, being in a fight is one thing. If you don't start fights. Hey, maybe he was defending himself. Like, hey, if he was defending himself, but we don't know. But probably not. I feel like if you got into fights, you wouldn't. The anger issues wouldn't come into play. Did he start the fight? Right, right.

He's probably a fight starter. It's one thing to be a fight starter and another thing to be defending yourself. So if someone comes at you. Hey, but if you just start in fights, this dude's a walking red flag. She should separate herself immediately from him.

That's just the first post oh this is you're gonna read a second post about this same situation we have an update oh my gosh okay so it was like that post was from june 3rd 2025, this update is from june 6th three days later literally hey everyone i know a lot of you have been worried about me and i just yeah.

I just wanted to tell you all what and i just wanted to let all of you know that i'm safe good good because man wow crap has definitely hit the fan but at the moment i'm safe at the moment what do you mean at the moment he's coming after her oh oh gosh there's another update after this so oh man okay let's see all right uh first no my god what first no i didn't make that last edit so the edit i just read wasn't her what my boyfriend

went on my phone while i was showering and trying to figure out what i wanted to say to him about everything and he found and edited my post. He then started yelling at me while I was still in the shower about sharing it online and calling him creepy. At the same time, he was guilt-tribbing me and telling me that it was romantic and he did it because he loved me.

He literally read a few of the comments out loud to me. He barely let me out of the shower, but I did manage to get my clothes on while he was screaming at me. What really freaked me out was that he started listing off things that he could have done to me. What? I won't listen. I won't. Well, I won't list them here because it was extremely gruesome and I don't think it's allowed.

But he said that he didn't do those things because he's such a nice guy the way he described the things he could have done though also made me feel like he had genuinely considered doing it also i thought he was only watching me for a few months apparently it was upwards of a year and it was genuinely genuine actual stalking he had followed me home into my college campus he pulled out a collection of my lost hair ties that he kept i told him that he was scaring me and that we needed to take a

break and come back to it later. At that, he put a hole in the wall next to my head. I told him that I was leaving after that because screw that crap and it was like a switch flipped and he started crying. He got on his knees and begged me to stay and apologize. I ended up accepting his apology because I didn't feel safe leaving.

Yesterday morning after he left for work, I grabbed all my important documents and irreplaceable things before my clinicals started and kept them in my car after my clinical i didn't go back to the apartment i'm not going to give much more detail than that because he does know my account obviously and for andrew if you're reading this which we both know you are please just leave me alone the person i thought i loved doesn't actually exist and that's heartbreaking i no longer feel safe with

you like i did before and i hate that please let's just move on from each other this dude is certifiable crazy this dude is crazy so the first post you read wasn't even he edited it so like okay the original story okay the original story and then there's an edit the edit that you read that was not her, This dude's crazy. This dude is crazy and dangerous because he's escalating now.

He has escalated to the point of now violence can happen. And then told you things that he could do to you. Before he was just a wackadoo. Now he's a violent wackadoo. He's dangerous. This guy is dangerous. He's a fight starter. He's definitely a fight starter. He's the fight starter. Those fights he started, yeah. It sounds like drunk at a bar. Like, hey, man. Yeah. He think you, nah. Yeah. I don't trust it. Yeah, this dude is problematic, violent.

Dangerous. He's dangorous. He's dangorous. What did they say? You in danger, girl. You in danger. There's another update? There's another update. You know what it sounds like? It sounds like, and I'm not a professional. Is he like a, what's his character in D&D? That would tell a lot. But also even more than that, like, and mom could probably diagnose this guy based off just reading all of this but he there there is there was a certifiable diagnosis obsessive.

Obsessive obsessive but also like people always say things are narcissistic and sometimes it's stuff don't be narcissistic but there is there is definitely something wrong with this guy this guy is also the switch up when she said i'm gonna go he start crying begging there he he may be he may be bipolar this guy is oh man what is the okay what's the what's the next update update from june 14th okay hey long story short my ex-boyfriend ended up being more than a little crazy i

learned that he stalked me for over a year before we started dating and after i learned that he became violent i have screenshots of threats of violence that he sent me as well as pictures of some bruises that i have from him so he put his hands on it there's also security footage of him attempting to sneak into my place to find me my local police department has been generally unhelpful with their advice and have told me that unless he's actively harming me they can't

do anything time time out that is a problem watch a bunch of stuff on tv where someone tries to report someone in these types of situations and the police say that there's nothing they can do until the person actually does something. That's a problem.

Until she gets, what, murdered? That's a problem. That's... Mmm. Mmm. But this is why people take justice into the law into their own hands in a lot of these situations, too, because if she kills him out of, you know, out of self-defense, essentially, then now she can get in trouble. That's crazy to me. It's crazy. Go ahead. This is regardless of all of the evidence I have that he fully intends to hurt and or kill me. He's threatening her. That should be a crime in and of itself.

They have taken statements from me and there is a report open, though. Do you believe the evidence I have is sufficient to get an order of protection? And if I'm going to file one, do I need to have a lawyer? I don't know. I ain't a lawyer. I don't know the law like that. And I received help. She made me start carrying weapons. But that's premeditated. No, no, no, no, no. If she, I don't know what state she's in. Does it say?

Virginia. I don't know Virginia's gun laws, but here in the Lone Star State, you can do that. I have carried my weapon before just out of an abundance of caution. You can carry a weapon in the state of Texas. I don't know Virginia, but in the state of Texas, you can carry a weapon. If you can legally buy a weapon, you can legally carry a weapon and you don't need no license to do it. They changed that a few years back. You used to have to have a concealed carry permit to carry a weapon.

You don't need a concealed carry permit to carry a weapon. and you can openly carry it in Texas. You can walk around with the gun on your side in plain view. As long as you are legally in possession of that gun, it is legally yours, you can carry a weapon.

She needs to. Whatever the laws are, she needs to abide by them and she needs to protect herself because this guy is escalating to the point where, it's in between where he hasn't done anything quote-unquote bad enough to get the law involved, apparently, but it is bad enough to the point where she should be fearful of her safety.

Date three honestly i just want to scream into the void because this is annoying as crap it is it's scary too but i'm mostly just fed up with it like i'm not even like i'm not even that pretty why did you latch on to me why did you decide to constantly text and call me after we broke up on that note did you think threatening to murder me would pull me back into your arms showing up in my clinicals is also really crappy and not even because i'm scared but because telling my educator

in the hospital i'm trying to learn at that my ex-boyfriend is psycho is embarrassing yes also low-key embarrassed that i dated a guy without knowing he stalked me for over a year prior to our relationship but that you cheat okay because now she's she's now she's blaming herself he's a stalker stalking means you don't know you don't know that by the very nature of it or at least the initiation of it you didn't you don't know no she now i don't she she should

not blame on myself in any kind of way this dude for whatever reason is a crazy violent person and. Yeah that ain't her fault not to mention i'm spiraling between laughing hysterically at what my life has come to and just wanting to straight up stop it all because i'm so tired of being on edge all the time that's crazy it'd be easier to just sleep and not wake up i haven't gotten a full night of sleep in weeks though so thanks also literally self-defense

stuff is so expensive i I hate it so much. Like, yes, my safety is important. But who has this much money to spend? But I have to spend it because even the cops say they can't help unless he's actively attacking me. Right. Getting a protective order is great and all. But it doesn't mean crap if they won't follow it. Ugh. Screw you, you a-hole. You know who you are. I hope she's doing fine because now it's July. Is there any other updates? Mm-mm. Oh, gosh. Well, I hope she's okay.

That's crazy, man. That's crazy. Like it. And he probably knows enough about the law to know how to move in a way where he can't get in trouble, which is also just wild in and of itself.

Because if you intend to do stuff that is criminally close or close to being criminal and you know the law to an extent of what you can and can't get away with, that's also crazy.

I don't I know I know the law to protect myself I don't know about laws to try to mess with somebody else wow all right so we got another one or is is that that was this that was this that was that story all right that that that's that story what you got next oh okay this is, okay am I the a-hole for telling my sister that no wonder your husband left you Go on. I am a 26-year-old female and am very happily married with my husband, who is a 30-year-old male.

My sister, 34 female, is married to a man who cheated on her, took her gold jewelry, left her at eight months pregnant, and left their four-year-old. He sounds like a gem. From the start of mine and my sister's relationship, we've had problems.

We've never been close. we always argued over the smallest of things but ever since i've been married it's just gotten worse in my opinion to cut a long story short my sister and i didn't speak for almost two years and during these two years i got engaged married and now live three hours away with my in-laws away from my side of the family i was told not to ask i was told not asked that i needed to help my older sister

with the baby and her four-year-old for a week whilst my father is away on holiday my father lives close to my older sister and helps her with the kids normally. I agreed since I have been out of work and my husband was also willing to accompany me as he was able to take a few days off to help and work the rest of the days from home. We've had a nice week so far. Me and my husband would get up early in the morning to help with the kids and stay at my sister's house until around 6 p.m.

Each evening, which then we would leave to go back to my dad's house as the kids would go to bed. We have done countless favors for her during the past week. From my husband mowing her grass to picking up the four-year-old from school, etc. Every single day this week, my older sister is mentioned, as she always does when I come to visit, about my weight. She had also put on weight since I saw her last. I've seen her eating habits and she eats for two people.

She's obese herself. When I leave to return to meet my in-laws, I always come away from my side of the family feeling absolute crap about and upset about myself. I am no skinny girl, far from it. and I have struggled with my weight for years. I hate the person I see when I look at myself in the mirror, but yesterday, my sister was aggressively pushing me for an answer, and we ended up falling out.

We started off by watching a TV program, which I commented on how someone in the show had lost so much weight. She asked me why I didn't want to lose weight, and why I'm so lazy and that I'm not doing anything. Ooh! I wanted advice off my sister about kids, etc., so I asked her subtle questions this past week, and on previous occasions, for example, on how she tracked her cycle, etc., and even told her I had suffered a miscarriage two weeks ago, to which she just offered a few words.

I'm sorry to hear that. But me and my sister are sitting watching TV, and she starts to talk to me about losing weight and looking good. She then insults me by calling me ugly, says I struggle to get off the sofa, and tells me that I'm lazy. I fall silent because my heart was beginning to race. I could feel a panic attack coming on, so rather antagonize, I stayed silent.

I don't like to talk back because I've been told by my dad not to say anything to her because we always argued and that she's going through something right now and it was not a comfortable conversation to have with someone I'm not close with. Anyway, she continued to ask why being so selfish to my future children and selfish as to my future babies wouldn't be healthy. She then continued and asked why I'm angry, and I said to her calmly, I don't think you know when I'm angry, she said.

I do because you go quiet. I told her I don't know what she wanted me to say. She said I'm lazy and could have gone for walks while I was here or could have done something else. She said I don't do anything about my weight. I made changes this year, big changes, which I know myself and my husband supports me too, And to be honest, because I don't want to speak to my family about my problems. They don't ask me anyway.

I don't feel comfortable speaking to them about things, so why would I share anything with them? I said to her, I've been making changes and that if we continue this conversation, we will argue. It was clear by her tone that it was headed that way. She laughed and said, I'm not arguing. I'm having a conversation, but this was not a conversation that I wanted to engage with, so I stayed silent. Okay, I told her this isn't a conversation I'm comfortable with having with

her. She said, sometimes you have to be uncomfortable to have these conversations. She then lied and said that our dad has asked her to speak to me about my weight, which is a lie because my dad knows that we argue over the smallest things. My panic attack was brewing. I could feel it. But when I mentioned I have been changing my ways, she laughed. Her voice is getting louder and it's like she's shouting at me, bearing in mind she's holding her six month old in her arms, who is asleep.

I said to her, because you live with me, you know what I'm doing, right? She said, I have seen you sat up, sat here on the sofa all week. I then said, I've been sat here to help you out. I've made myself a bit available for you this week.

I'm here for you and the kids she got super angry and said I will never ask you for help again I knew this was coming from you and I knew you would throw it in my face I knew it even if I'm struggling I will never ask you again she continued you said so much crap to me that I thought you that you know what I'll forgive them because they love my kids I immediately apologized and said to her she took that the wrong way I did not.

I did not say it to her like I was throwing it in her face, but she didn't want to hear it. She was shouting over me the same thing she said before. I also told her she said enough to me over the years and that she always starts off an argument over the same subject. My weight. Even the last time we fell out, we argued over the same thing. She asked me, what have I said to you? When we stopped playing over the course of the two years, my sister told me that I probably asked.

My sister told me that I probably asked to get S-A'd. My ex. Whoa. S-A'd me, cut a long story short. I told her she said this and she laughed and said, you never got essayed, you're lying. I was shocked. I sat there stunned. All this time, I was scrolling through pictures on my phone and put my phone down and stopped everything. I was just in pure shock. I said to her, I don't want to continue this conversation

because I'm having a panic attack. She then chuckled and said, oh my God, here we go again. I walked out the room and my husband was in a meeting in another room upstairs. I went to my husband and told him we were leaving. He immediately hugged me and saw I was having a panic attack. My husband tried to comfort me, hugging me to calm me down. My sister comes to the room while I'm still having my panic attack and starts shouting at my husband.

I'm her older sister. I can say what I want to her. My husband shut the door in my sister's face as he's trying to calm me down. My sister slams it back open and shouts at me, no one disrespects me in my house. My husband then tells her, I'm trying to calm her down. Please leave. Sister, this is my house. I can do what I want. To be honest, at this point, my husband and my sister seem to be having an argument. I'm in a panicked state. I can't seem to concentrate on anything.

All I'm doing is crying and panicking, trying to control myself. All I can hear is my sister then starting on my husband saying she's always done this. She's a liar. You can't be so soft with her. Speaking to my husband, she needs to be told. By the way, my husband is softly spoken and gentle. He raised his voice slightly as she was going ballistic. All I remember is I needed to be sick. So I run to the toilet and start being

sick. My husband comes after me and I'm violently shaking whilst vomiting. My sister says to me says to my husband, just because you and your brother aren't close. My husband got angry and asked, why are you bringing my brother into this? What? Why'd she go there? She said she's using it as an example. My husband's brother has absolutely nothing to do with this conversation. At all. She proceeds anyway, saying my kids have been through enough emotionally.

She's screaming down her house at this point. Stop doing this to them. She's referring to the arguments and her taking the decision to keep her kids away from us. She screams, I ain't no... Yeah.

But but head i calm down after i've been vomiting this ordeal which included my husband lasted hours in my head but was around 15 to 20 minutes or so my husband tells me we're leaving i wait downstairs while whilst my husband gets my bag from the room from the room where she and her baby are informs her that we are leaving and that we are still here if she needs anything but for now it'd be it'd be best we leave she then storms towards me and says no that's it we are finished I'm done.

That's it. Finished. We're done. I told her I'm going to calm down. She said, no, we're done. I got angry as she was literally shouting at my face and getting even more aggressive. I told her, you need to get off your high horse. No wonder he left you. As I was headed out the door, I regret saying this as I don't agree with how her husband left and him walking out on his kids. I don't. Everyone knows when kids are involved, I get so upset and so angry.

His kids are innocent. All of this. We left and came back to my dad's house.

She then sent a text to my husband informing us that her and the kids are dead to me and to let her know any cost for for petrol etc she would pay back she also said to to tell her to lose weight out of concern as an elder sister is nothing to do with anybody else especially if she's talking to me about having kids in the argument my husband told her it's not a conversation she should be having and that i cannot talk to them about anything he also told my sister me and

him are a team anything you can say to her you can say in front of me it always seems my sister will bring up this topic when my husband is not in the room. This has happened on more than one occasion, and I'm just worried about what my dad's going to say when he comes back from his holiday as he is closer with my older sister, so will definitely take her side. Not to mention both my dad and older sister have the mentality that the elder person is always right. Ah, not necessarily.

To me, it always seems my sister hates me. That's a long story. Yeah, she always finds a way to make herself the victim.

She always has to fall out with me. She always has to be the truthful one in everyone's but i'm exhausted mentally i can't take this anymore i'm on the edge my husband and i didn't like the words that i that i said at the end but given the situation i think some unpleasant words were going to be said am i the a-hole any advice would be welcome thank you you go first oh my god that's a lot.

Why were we attacked for watching tv we just like, yeah and i and that like imagine imagine you're just sitting down on the couch, watching televised programming and you say something about someone and you're like wow they lost a lot of weight and then someone literally is like you should do the same you know you, Whoa, we're watching Sinners. I'm sorry. We're watching Love Island UK. I just was commenting.

Love Island USA, man. I was just saying that Lea Koteb, like, I was just like, that's crazy. Is she the a-hole? No. No. I would say no. This is another, like, this is not from the original poster. What's not from the original poster? The story. Like, this is not, like, this isn't the original poster's account. Oh, okay, okay. The question is, is she the a-hole for... For telling my older sister that no wonder your husband left you. I don't think so. She sounds like a horrible person. Horrid.

Because a lot of stuff was brought up while she was silent. If I'm answering the question based off of the question, and knowing everything that happened that was probably the tamest thing she could have said to her i'm gonna say she is an a-hole why what she could have just she could have just left without saying anything but like what no no no i get it i get it the question is am i an a-hole for telling my sister no wonder your husband left you no wonder your husband left you she could have

just and listen i'm not saying that this if i were in this situation i would walk away and not say and not say nothing. I'm not saying that. But on the face of the question that she asked, she is. Because she could have easily, just as easily as she said it, she could have easily just not said anything and then just left. I'm compartmentalizing what she is asking her being the a-hole about knowing all of the other stuff that happened.

All the other stuff that happened that led to her saying that, yeah, that's one thing. But she could have just walked. They were on their way out the door when she said this. Or they were outside when she said this. They were making their exit when she said this thing, right? Yeah. She could have not said nothing. She could have just said. She was being shouted at. Her sister was shouting in her face. Okay. About how they're finished and done. So I'm going to say on the face of the

question, she is an a-hole. She is. Is she an a-hole in the totality of the whole situation? No. She just fought fire with a little bit of a spark. Yeah. But saying that, and then she felt bad about saying it because the children. Obviously, her sister had no empathy when saying. That's different. That's different. That's a different situation. Look, look, again, I'm not saying if this were me. If this were me, probably would have choked my brother. If he would have.

All right. And I love him. but if this was me and an older sibling and he said foul things to me like i'm not i'm not not saying nothing and it probably would have fist it probably would have been fisticuffs as they say but on the face of what she asked her question yeah she is but also so is her sister her sister more so because her sister is the catalyst for her saying such a thing but if you if you were already leaving you were already on your way out you could

have just not said nothing and then just left i feel you can't talk like this and expect nothing now on the flip side she lucky the sister lucky that her that this sister that that is not the op but that this you know is asking the question she's lucky that this girl is not the type put hands on yeah because i know plenty of siblings like hey all right okay we got to fight yeah now i got to now i got to fight you.

Now i got to fight you and we just finna be fighting and we finna be both just fighting, but yeah she is she is because she could have just because all that time she she pretty much didn't say anything because she was crying she's throwing up and all this stuff at the very end of the whole situation as she is making her exit she says something look right wrong or indifferent asking if she's an a-hole? Yes, she is. Is she wrong? No. Not necessarily.

So two things could be true. She is an a-hole for saying that thing, but she's not wrong. She's not wrong. And again, she's lucky that this sister is very demure. She's lucky she didn't have a sister that would chop her in the throat. Because, like, seriously, man, like, why you be rating this girl? Y'all watching The Price is Right or whatever y'all was watching. Jerry Springer. I said, Jerry, you lost some weight. Y'all watching the Boondocks.

You watching Big Bang Theory. And then all of a sudden it turned into a whole thing. Like, I feel like you cannot talk to someone that way and expect them to actually just walk out and have nothing be said. That's right. That's true. That is unrealistic. Right. Because, because you, because. There's no overreacting situation. Sister 1, sister 1 is, I'm going to refer to them as sister 1 and sister 2 for the rest of this topic.

Sister 1 is the one that's just crazy. Sister 2 is the one that asked if she was a a-hole. So sister 1 is lucky that sister 2 didn't put hands on her. But Sister Warren also probably knows that she could push this girl's buttons. She probably been pushing this girl's buttons for years. I mean, they hate each other. They don't talk. Right. They're not close. Right. They fight a lot. Yeah. So she's been pushing this girl's buttons for years and years and years.

And now Sister 2 is like, boom, I'm going to say this thing. Sister 2 is an a-hole for that. But also, let's talk about who made Sister 2 go to Sister 1's house? The parent? The dad? Yeah, because her dad was on a trip. Damn, watch out. and she has two kids man watch out she could get a house I don't care her and her two kids. Daycare? I'm sorry. At a certain age, as an adult... She's older than OP.

OP's only 26. Her sister's 34. 26 is old enough to be able to tell your parent, you know we don't get along. Yeah. You know that if I go and do this, chances are it's not going to end well. I'm not doing it. Respectfully, mother, father. They didn't speak for almost two years. Whatever the case may be.

I i i i i'm not gonna go since she got married it's been worse and so now what sister two needs this is too got to protect her peace so never talk to her again never first even it may even have to be like never talk to her again but definitely don't talk to her anytime soon like protect your p protect your peace talk to her when you need to talk to her when you need to and then don't talk to her until she

apologizes at the very least apologize because what because Not when she's told to apologize. Right, right. When she of herself says, I was wrong. That day that we got into it, I was wrong. I'm sorry. You don't even have to accept the apology. And then even then, you don't even have to accept the apology. Because sister one is. A lot of stuff was brought up. It started with weight, but then it got. It got real ugly. Got real ugly. But yeah, that's my take.

She's not wrong for saying what she said, but she is an a-hole for saying it. Two things could be true these are crazy situations.

These are crazy situations and we're going to read more of them in future episodes, you kill huh there's redditor updates to that story yeah i'll get ready in the episode but let's go let's go what you got i'm uh.

Paraphrase okay okay sum it up summarize if you will yeah thank you everyone don't care i am truly overwhelmed by the support and kindness i have received thank you from the bottom of my heart oh by the way did people what was the numbers for her being the a-hole not okay okay i'm sorry this post was so long and too long for some people to read but i don't want to sound biased some questions people were asking the gold i'm indian and girls get married the parents gave the

bride and groom gold which is worth a lot of money you know getting therapy i'm definitely going to consider attending therapy sessions today again i've had therapy before i do not have a relationship with my mom and two younger sisters because she's meant she mentally abused me and then the and ended in me leaving the family home quite similar to what happened between me and my sister and her parents are divorced, but she has a decent relationship with her dad.

Going no contact with sister and dad. I've gone with my husband and we have agreed if my dad takes her side and tries to flip it on me in any way I'm definitely done with my side of the family. I'll have no one left on my side of the family. In regards to my sister I only kept going back because of the kids because they're so adorable, sweet, innocent, especially the four-year-old. He's very fond of his uncle and myself.

He said several times this week I love you. I love my uncle so much it breaks my heart that we are having to separate and cut contact. Sister uses her kids as weapons, and anyone who does that is the most vile person in the world. Ba-ba-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da. Being the a-hole myself, I have been a doormat to all of my family and not just my older sister, and this is why I believe I am mentally mature and way more mature than anyone else in my side of the family.

I agree with the comments of not having a backbone, but honestly, one of the reasons I stay silent is for the sake of those sweet and innocent kids who are in the middle of this. I'm scared for them that their mother will not be able to provide them with emotional support. I'm scared they will grow up to hate me. I'm scared they will be told lies about me. I'm scared to not have a relationship with them.

My husband allowing this to happen my husband has never had to deal with these sort of situations before he supports me and is a gem he cried so much with me when we came back to my dad's house he took off work and was there for me he told me he could feel his heart rate increasing and it's very softly spoken he does not confront people at all please do do give him the credit he was the brave one in all of this thinking about the future

i've thought about this for 24 hours and every time me and my sister argue i already made the decisions to go no contact with her the kid that includes the kids too unfortunately unfortunately which feels like i'm ripping my heart out of my chest i'm going to move forward go to therapy and continue to work on myself.

She can have a relationship with her nieces and nephew or yeah the kids once they're of age, maybe so all is not lost there like she can you know because i'm sure she can get the contact information for those kids if they have their own like cell phones as they get older and stuff she can get that contact information and she can have a relationship with those kids as they become of age so yeah i don't know man i think the sister's kind of crazy and she needs to see she

needs to seek therapy herself yeah some people some people and their siblings just. Crazy i couldn't imagine you and ari having a relationship i can't relate you can't relate you and y'all get along decently so not that y'all don't have y'all spats y'all do all siblings do but yeah that's another level that's another level and it's unfortunate but some people just don't have that it's pretty wackadoodle city man yeah yeah.

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That was crazy. That was a wild story. I don't know what was you going to say. Go ahead. I love reddit stories where the person posting it is the most delusional person on planet earth like when it's like am I the a-hole? I pushed my sister's dog into the street and she got mad at me and was I wrong? The dog barked at me and I didn't appreciate it. Am I wrong? It's like yeah. And then they come and it's like well the dog is a Doberman so therefore it

doesn't have rights. Am I right guys? Am I right? Am I right? Am I right? And it's like no bro you push someone's dog into the street. Don't care what breed it was. push the dog push the living thing just out into the street to get hit that's yeah there's something, there's some circuits i love when people say something and it's like how would you ever be the a-hole and it's like mind the a-hole for um suggesting that

my uh sister stop the carnivore diet because she hasn't pooped in seven weeks. Oh my gosh. You pooped in seven weeks. You got issues. But I know what you mean. It's like, no, you're not the a-hole. No, you're trying to help your sister poop. Which of those stories was the craziest for you? The first one, man. That first one was nuts.

Crazy i pray that you never ever to be careful with these people it's one thing let's do a conversation because like you can do that it's like oh they listen to details it's one thing they listen to details it's one thing if they write down the details stick to the details like make a script for themselves so they can plan out everything and fully orchestrate like a relationship it's a little crazy i pray that y'all never either neither you or ari never end up with anyone like that because i'm

i'm a little i'm i'm a little i got some screws loose myself what and i, yeah i i don't know what i would do if y'all found yourselves in a situation like that with someone like that like i i black out i feel like if he was very protective like if he wasn't violent like if he was just like.

Like if he wasn't a violent guy and he was just wackadoodle would be like okay yeah because if it's just if it's a situation where he's just quirky and weird like he wouldn't but he would like he never if you but never escalates to violence yeah if he had never gotten in fights if he wasn't yeah it'd be like okay you're just weird dude it's weird it's weird and even then I'd still probably right relationship yeah but it's like okay but now it's threatening your physical safety. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.