People are always asking me, Marine, how are you so productive? How do you run a six-figure business at 20? I duct tape myself to my desk chair. I'm not even kidding. That way, when I try to get up, I remember, no, I'm supposed to be working right now.
dude it's gonna hurt like i'm off my skin in this episode we'll talk about weird productivity hacks that actually work why do i do this i mean it is working you didn't feel like recording a podcast today now you're locked in like yeah i can't get out i compiled a list of these for you
Jesus. Just weird hacks that seem weird, but they work. Okay, let's hear them. I bet that this first one that I'm sharing with you, people will actually thank me for it because it does make a huge difference. I've had a really productive week so far. Yesterday was really productive.
this morning as well, and it takes two minutes to set up. Basically, the problem is when you're working by yourself from home, you don't have any accountability, right? There's no one really watching you. You're just by yourself, especially if you're an entrepreneur. Have you had a focus mate before? A focus mate? Focus mate. It's basically you have someone watch you work. Like webcam or somebody like physically there to watch you? No, webcam.
So I had someone this morning. What? It's really weird. It works. So the way it works is... You basically, you book a time in the dashboard, right? So I have a time with Ali tomorrow again. How much are you paying him? Dude, this is free. Three sessions per week.
I'm also technically watching him. So we both just hop on a Zoom call or whatever their software is here. I think it's just Zoom actually. No, it is their software. And then you're just like, hey, what are you working on? This? Okay, cool. And then you get to work. You don't talk. No. Every once in a while you look over and you're just like... And it works. Dude, how do you find these things? I heard about it from a friend. Years ago. He uses it?
He used it a few times and it's like 10 bucks a month for unlimited sessions or you get three free sessions a week. And listen, if you... need to study for something or you're writing a book or you do some sort of heavy task that you're dreading like this just guarantees that you'll sit down and do something because you you would feel so off just
being on a call with someone, setting all this intention, and then scrolling around or wasting your time. Dude, what about if people use this for dating? Sure. I mean, think about it. You want to be that guy on this app? I'm just saying. Oh, so what's your name? Perspective. Think about it. You're, you know. No, I want to walk in. I don't want to be raised upon. Ali got lucky. He saw you. You know what I mean? But imagine if he saw somebody hot.
You know? I don't want to be rizzed upon when I'm trying to focus. That's wild. No, but that's honestly a concern. If you see an attractive girl, you're like, oh, wow. I just didn't want to be distracted, but here I am getting even more distracted. This did the complete opposite. I want to hear more about the company's mission. What's the mission for this company? Are they actually making money? I mean, it looks pretty legit. Yeah.
I think it is super legit. And it works. I'm telling you, it works. I also... I don't have the picture ready with me right now, otherwise I'd pull it up, but I'm kind of strapped in right now. That's wild. This guy was just wearing a hoodie. And he looked kind of shady. I was like, yeah, let's lock in. I'll throw the image up in post. What's what you wanted? You wanted a shady guy? Yeah, it was a hooded figure. It was someone who was like, we're here to get you done. Yeah.
If you want to take this to the max, seriously, what is stopping you from hiring someone overseas? Someone young who doesn't, you know, it's very cheap, like five bucks an hour from the Philippines or whatever, from India. to just watch you work. You just share your screen and then whenever you get distracted, they just ring a bell and they fine you like five bucks. Dude, here's the thing.
See, it works. The fining, I think that definitely is going to be the thing that gets people to get shit done. This is, I think, another trillion dollar business idea. One of my friends. This is another trillion dollar business idea. This one? like just having having someone watch you work last week was a really good one the game like custom game for your business yes that's a really good one no one of my friends he hired a performance coach and
She basically told him that he has to go to sleep at 10 every night. And if he doesn't, if he doesn't send her a text in bed by 10, he has to pay her $100. This man paid her a rent for two months. Because he just would always miss his time. And in my head, I'm like, she's a genius. I need to get my clients on this. I don't know. I thought about this too when I had the community and we did community calls.
but I never want it to be incentivized for people to fail. Sets the wrong incentives, doesn't it? 100%. It doesn't help. Yeah. But I think in terms of making money, yeah, I think it's genius. You just pick clients who you know are going to slack off. You're just like, you're just waiting for the ones to just be like, yeah, you know, you look like you.
Don't get that much sleep. All right, perfect. $100. Every time you mess up, you get them to commit to something crazy. Dude, $700 a week. This is actually another hack that I wrote down. So before we finish up, before we move on to the next one, let's finish up this one. I'm telling you, if you're listening out there or you're watching us being duct taped to these chairs, we're actually ducting. If there's something that you're dreading to do or...
you're struggling to commit to the deep work in the morning because that's the most productive hours. It's the two to three hours in the morning where you're undistracted. This is such a hack. Like just set it up right now. I'll put a link in the description. You can check it out. It's free. And you will get up on time if you set a call early in the morning, and you'll do the work. It's just, it's a huge, I mean, it's game changer for me. It's so helpful, seems dumb, but it works.
And this is what this segment is about. Dumb productivity hacks that work. The other thing that you already alluded to is whenever I struggle with something and I was sick of struggling with it, going to bed on time, dopamine detox or whatever, right?
I literally would just tell a friend, hey, I'll give you a thousand bucks if I don't do it. And it's scary to commit to, but I've already talked about it a bunch on my previous channel, but man, what is something that you're currently sick of? Maybe it's diet, maybe it is...
something else you want to commit to, put money behind it and get a good friend that holds you accountable. I did this for a while where I think for two weeks straight, I committed to taking ice baths in the first 15 minutes of getting up.
It's one of the most brutal things you can do. First of all, getting up in the morning is already tough. Just opening your eyes. Getting out of bed is tough. Jumping into an ice bath within the first 15 minutes, I literally had to rush because I had to go to the bathroom. I had to, you know.
get a little bit ready and then jump in. I would literally run downstairs because we had an ice bath that we kind of built ourselves out of like a freezer. And I kid you not, I got it done every single time because I knew that if I don't, it's a thousand bucks and I... I'm not cool with that. So you can make yourself do almost anything that you intend to do that you currently struggle with if you just put the right stakes behind it. Dude, I did that with a friend. We both...
Did that for masturbation. Whole month, 30 days. We're not going to masturbate. No fap. No fap. Literally, no fap. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I'll tell you what. I've stayed away from this exact term. from my channel with a lot of intention. God, that's why I just messed this up. Yes, beautiful. Because I didn't want to attract a NoFap audience because that's a raving audience.
Well, it's literally one 30-second segment that you might cut out. I hope you don't. But we literally said it was 40 days. How did you know you stuck to it, though? I didn't. I paid him. Oh. Yeah, no, no. I lost three weeks in. I made it to three weeks. Oh, my. Which is pretty good. I think that's pretty impressive. How much was it? Money. I'm asking money. Yeah. How much was what?
You listen and be specific. Ask better questions. $500. $500. Yeah, dude. It was $500. It was the most expensive nut of my life. Tell me that wasn't hilarious. Was it worth it? 100%. Actually, well, it was worth it in the moment. And then I woke up the next morning and I was like, yeah, I shouldn't have done that. Oh, God. I should have just stuck through. But no, but dude, you know, like.
Yeah, I don't want to get into it. But, you know, I had a rough day. And I was like, you know what? I just want to win. And it was, you know what? What's the win in that? Dude, it was, again, this was like a watch.
Just like, should we just four years ago? Okay, let's just move on. Okay, I mean, listen, I think the audience might want to know, but you know. No. Got it. Cool. All right, let's proceed. And what other productivity has? I mean, this goes with what you're saying. I'm supporting it. It works. It worked for three weeks. It did. Hey, listen, it did. Three weeks is tough. That's pretty impressive. Next one, this is a weird one that you actually asked me about.
You asked me, do you have two laptops? I'm like, yeah, of course I do have two laptops. I also have two phones. I have my usual iPhone. I think this is an iPhone 13. No, 11, 13. This is an iPhone. Okay. I bought this in 2018, I think. And this is the one that I use for in my bedroom. So this only has meditation apps. Podcast apps, if I want to listen to a podcast or something like that to fall asleep to. Breathwork app. No SIM card in it, so no internet or whatever. I have Wi-Fi, but...
I basically intentionally limit whatever apps are on it. And then I have two laptops. I have one laptop. Kind of like this weird breathing noise. I'm stopping it. You've done that before. You're catching yourself. I'm catching myself. So I told Imad he makes like noises when I'm talking. I have allergies. And it makes the edit a pain.
We're airing out. I'm just gonna call it out and I'm doing my best to hold it back and you agree to a $5 fine, right? I'm gonna skip this one. I'm gonna skip this one, but you're gonna agree to it. Otherwise, no That's horrible. I'm screwed No, it's just accountability. Let's just put our money where our mouth is. I think that's a great idea. I like the phone idea. I think that was phenomenal. I might adopt that. Great. $5 fine for any snorting noises.
You guys don't know this in listening to the podcast, but because I edited those things out with my editor, but it's like these noises that you hear. It's like... Yeah. $5 fine if you do that. And whatever breathing... Breath work session you have over there? You need to stop. Five dollar fine. As you can see guys, this is what it's like to work with Leon. Do you know what it's like to work with you? It's just being in the edit, just like...
So why is this guy hyperventilating over there? This is the content people came here to watch. So I have two phones. I have two laptops. There's a laptop that I have for deep work. That's where I have freedom.to. Have you heard of it? Freedom.to. You can kind of block certain website at certain times. So I can't access certain website on that laptop. I can't go. I haven't done anything.
I'll show you in post. Okay, show me. I didn't do anything that time. Okay. We'll see. I'm just going to replay it. It's so bad. So I can't go on Twitter on my work laptop. I'm breathing. It's frying really hot now. It's great. I'm so stressed out. Ed. Before 1 p.m., I can't go on YouTube on the work laptop. So I'm just doing deep work. And that's really helpful. And here's the thing. If you're like, hey, I'm poor. I can't have two. I'm the same. I...
I simply kept an old laptop. That's all you need to do. So when you buy a new phone, just keep the old one and then you have the setup. That's what I did. So I didn't buy two phones. I didn't buy two laptops. I just kept the old one.
And it's a great setup. I like the phone one. Yeah. I'm going to do the one. I think that's one of the biggest things I struggled because I wanted to get an alarm clock. Oh, yeah. If it's the phone, you immediately, literally, first thing you touch. Maybe second thing you touch.
I'll never forget, man, when I was at Vipassana, they gave us like alarm clocks. And it was, I don't know why, it was the best alarm clock I've ever used in my entire life. And I could not find one. I don't know why. It was just, it was just perfect. It was like so good. And this is going to be really dumb. But it was just like it had nothing. And it was just good for that specific moment. And I tried finding another alarm clock. But the sound was just not as peaceful as the other one.
so what are you looking for peaceful sound i'm just looking for something that i can just look at and just it'll wake me up but like it's not my phone i for me it's my my mattress my eight sleep mattress it vibrates it's really nice Are you serious? Listen, I'm getting you into biohacking. I know you always complain about it. We'll talk about that after today. Okay. My first experience of biohacking today. Great. That's sick though. How much was that mattress?
It depends. If you buy the full mattress, I think it's a few grand. Or you can just get the topper. Is it worth it? I don't know how much it is. Yeah, I think so. Yes. It vibrates? But that's just one feature. It tracks your sleep. And it also adjusts temperature based on what sleeping stage you're in and what keeps you asleep. Dude. Welcome to the world of fucking biohacking, dude. Honestly, that's incredible. I'm a fan of that. The new ones also.
have a feature where it notices when you're snoring or when you make weird allergy sounds in a podcast. Got it. Let it all out. So maybe we just have you on the eighth sleep and then whenever, you know, it tracks that.
So we have the data and I can prove it to you. And then when it notices you snoring, it elevates so that you sit up. Dude, that's insane. I just bought an aura ring. And then the next one that they're working on right now is... um it adds a feature where when you get up it actually helps you walk through the apartment and it brushes your teeth and then it drives you to listen i don't know if they can implement it but i think that's where the vision is going
I literally bought an aura ring for that. My sleep has been off for the past couple of weeks. Great. Can I tell you the next few weird hacks? Okay. If they're on sleep? Yes. Let's go. Talk to me. The last week has been incredible sleep for me. Like so incredible and that's coming a lot from me like for those of you who don't know my backstory. I've had insomnia for seven years and It's really tough. I had a tough journey with sleep and There's a few simple things I did you can just
Implement them right now and I think it'll make a measurable difference in your sleep. Number one, I got... I got blackout curtains, but not the shitty ones that people always talk about where, oh, wow, you can't look through it at all. Well, there's still tons of light coming through on the left and right. I bought this right here, which...
Velcros on your window and I haven't done it fully yet. I've only attached it on the very top But you basically yeah add velcros and then it blocks the entire thing I wanted pitch black in there so I'm still gonna add the rest of the velcro but it's basically a velcro that you put on the side of the window and then it covers everything completely and the difference between having some light come in even just a little bit
versus pitch black where you can see the hand in front of your eyes i think makes a huge difference dude interesting all right so for me i always i mean you've seen my apartment you see my my setup i always sleep with uh Curtains open because I like seeing the view. Oh, there's so much light coming in, dude. Especially a little downtown. Because that's how I wake up towards it. I see the light. I'm like, all right, cool. The light's coming in. That's when I...
It gives me a good measure of what time it is without looking at my phone. Yeah. But it's affecting my sleep. I would say so. Well, see for yourself. I'm not a sleep scientist. We could probably look into the data.
I mean, if you think evolutionarily, we would always have the moon that would reflect light. But maybe it's the frequency of light or whatever, right? The blue light and all that. I don't know. But I know for myself... it makes a big difference like even just being in pitch black um the second thing i did was i um i started wearing earplugs even when it's not loud so
The earplugs that I got are simply... Dude, but earplugs are not comfortable. Oh, they go inside the ear. I knew exactly that this was going to come up. Okay, yeah. I just... I thought about it. These are comfortable. I don't notice them. And I think I heard this on some sort of podcast from someone who started wearing earplugs and then noticed that their deep sleep was like, their heart rate went down. And it's incredible for recovery. Are they comfortable comfortable? I would say so.
Try him out. 20 bucks. I like him. I like him. So even if you don't wake up from noise, I think it may just put your nervous system into a deeper frequency because you're like... oh it's completely silent you know and i mean yeah we were always looking out for danger right and whenever we heard a noise it was probably good to like be a little bit alert not be too deep asleep Then secondly, we all know it's good to have it be cold when you're sleeping. And I wanted to test the limits of that.
Because when we had the snowpocalypse in Austin in 2021, 2020, it's basically a period where it was extremely cold in Austin. and we had a bunch of outages, and the roads weren't safe anymore, and the whole city was in shambles. 30 degrees. Yeah, it was cold. Well, Austin was not prepared for it. Yeah, dude, it's fine. And we had pipes break and everything.
and we didn't have um we weren't able to use electricity for a heater and stuff so it was just super cold in the house we all slept like babies like i was literally sleeping with my jacket on but i slept so deeply same thing with my housemates and i was like why don't why don't i just go back to something more like that where it's really really cold and so test out how cold you can go because
You may just make that one change right now instead of like putting it on 70, you put it on 63. That's a massive jump. Yeah. just put on get an extra blanket whatever but see how it affects your sleep and what difference will that make over the course of your life okay how cold are you making it for you 66 is what i'm where i'm at right now and it's good
I like it. Yeah. I like it a lot. Okay. I'll do the 66 one. I'll do 69. Okay. Slowly but surely. That's where I started off with. And now I went down to 66. And I'm going to zero. I have a weighted blanket. So I'll... Put that into play. Yeah. And then, yeah, dude, because my sleep has been, like, messed up for the past, dude, ever since level three. Can't explain it.
Literally, my sleep has been messed up for the past month and a half. And I don't know what it is, but something shifted that weekend that's been really throwing me off. I just don't know what it is. And that's why I got the aura ring because I wanted to track my sleep to be like, when am I waking up? That's extreme. I would never buy. You're becoming a biohacker. I'm so proud of you. I'm doing it because I really want my sleep and I'm getting annoyed. Yeah.
so i'm like all right now i need to figure this out it's probably the fundamentals honestly something's something's missing it's not like it's mental it's not a consistent sleep schedule it's not uh yeah it's yeah maybe just that sleep schedule
But you don't think it's mental? I think... It could be. It could be. This is what insomnia is. Like, I didn't hit the fundamentals well. And then I told myself a story that I'm not a good sleeper. And whenever I came to... going to sleep i would kind of worry and be like oh i better fall asleep soon and that's mental yeah okay so then what about like sleeping on your stomach or sleeping i heard like you're sleeping on your side is good or like having something between your legs or like yeah
Do you, are you like, does that play a big factor into like, how do you sleep? Are you like a psychopath and like you just sleep on your back? No, I'm a stomach sleeper. Me too. Hey, you're still getting your sleep. Yeah. Full stomach. Head on thing, on hand under. Okay, beautiful. I feel better. Yeah, yeah, yeah, nice. Wow, we're connecting on the seat. Sometimes we have moments of synergy. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's, I think, the best sleeping position. It's so good, dude. I can't.
I call anybody who sleeps like this psychopath. Yeah, I want to get to that, but I just don't have that level of... Psychopathy. I saw an ad on Facebook or something where it was like the guy literally said the best optimal way to sleep is to sleep on your side. Sideways with the hand under your. Yep. And then something in between. Yes. I've been trying to do that. That's usually what I warm up to.
So I start with that and then as I notice myself drifting off, I just feel my body being like, hey, can we just, hey, Leon, can we just get on the stomach like we always do and just fall asleep? And I'm like, no, I want to sleep like this. I saw it online. This is better. My buddy's like, nope, we want to fall asleep. Come on, come on. And then I usually give in. Dude, this is good.
Awesome. You like it? You like it? No, honestly, listen, you're definitely, you're speaking to my, yeah, perfect timing to have this conversation. Great. Two more ideas. Actually, no, three or four.
So my buddy Rian Doris from the Flow Research Collective, he's got a YouTube channel. He said that changing positions when you're working is a big hack. So instead of just sitting and sitting in one environment... then switching to treadmill desk or going for a walk when you're on a call or something like that actually resets the perceived exertion and effort.
So oftentimes it feels really hard to do work when you're just sitting in one place in the same position, but just by switching positions you can almost reset that. So I thought that was interesting. Okay. I've heard about that before. Yeah. So that's something I do as well. Like I do the deep work in my office right here. And then when I do emails or like something more creative or something that doesn't require as much focus, then I, yeah, I go to...
to co-working space or coffee shop or whatever and Huberman was talking about this too in one of his episodes. We can have a look at this here. Next, I'd like to talk about an aspect of workspace optimization that can actually bias whether or not our brain and nervous system are better suited for detailed analytic work or more abstract work.
in fact there's a way that you can arrange your work environment or i should say there's a way that you can place yourself into certain environments that will allow abstract thinking creative thinking and indeed expansive thinking So before we get into five hours of Huberman, basically what he's talking about is that having a narrow view, like, for example, by wearing a hat or being in a closed space.
allows for more focused work, where you're locked in, strapped into a chair with duct tape, for example. If you like that hack, you want to combine these hacks. And you're working on a specific outcome. You know what problem you're solving and you're just like, that's why I like putting on hats sometimes in the mornings because it just like makes you locked in. Also, dude, working from a closet. It's really weird.
Yes, but dude, you have no distractions. You're just like... And then he talks about when you want to do creative work, you look at... You benefit a lot from having an open space. So I... Like even just like taking your hat off makes a difference in how, I guess, open-minded you are and having a place with high ceilings. That's why like co-working at the top of our building, overlooking Austin, great.
for creative work dude it's funny because uh do you do you believe in body language you feel like that plays a big part into communication oh yeah that's huge so i have a i have a friend who uh you know blake eastman Blake Eastman. He's one of the top non-behavioral scientists in the world.
And he doesn't believe in body language. Good friend of mine. But I believe in body language. But I also am not at his level. So I don't want to argue body language with somebody who does this for a living. But I still believe in body language fully. And it's so funny because like when...
When you're doing a sales deal and somebody has a jacket on, it's actually good to tell them to take off their jacket because it makes them feel more open. So them just taking off their jacket in a sales deal is like, yeah, I could see that. I could see.
It's simple. I mean, it's little things, right? Or even I have these blue light blocking glasses that are not orange, but they're just clear. Dude, when I put these on, I feel smarter, right? So it's the whole idea of like the alter ego effect as well. 100%. Oh, that's such a good one. The alter ego. Okay, before we get into that, when we go upstairs, we have a very, very good view. I love going upstairs to do research. So when it comes to, like, I can't do research in my apartment.
So what I'll do is I'll put my audiobook or whatever I'm listening to, and I will walk around that table. And that's how I do my research. And then whenever like I walk to the loop, everything I've gotten from that loop, I go and type it into the thing. But it's like, that's like my little psychology hack where I'm just like walking. And during that time, I'm like recording, recording, recording. And I'll pause it and I'll type in what I needed.
But it's around that big table. You know what I'm talking about. The room I saw you in. Yeah. When I came with my friend that one time. Yeah. Love that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I'll put my back against the, but I'll do it at night. It has to be at night, like around nine o'clock. So it's almost like a four.
For context, it's almost like a co-working space that we have in our building. Yeah. Communal space where it's top of the building. There's a gym, stuff like that, movie theater. Cool stuff. Yeah. Yeah. It's that idea. Yeah. But the alter ego. Initially, in the beginning of my career, I created this alter ego. And I called him Chance. Chance was like the confident version of myself that I always wanted to be.
And I would pull them out on sales calls when I would go on dates or try to meet women when I had big business meetings that I needed to be into that version. And I would just tap into them and it completely transformed my life.
in like my college days and i mean i just i feel like now i don't i don't do it as much but like if there's a really really big high pressure i like try to tap into that version of myself that's just kind of like yeah i have one savage what's what's yours what's your name i keep it i keep it secret it's just for me to know
Wow. Yeah. I feel naked and vulnerable. Yeah. You just pulled your pants down and I'm just like, yeah, I'm looking. Wow. And I keep mine on. Really? No, I think that's one of the things that he actually talked about in the book. don't have to share it and it's actually good not to share it sometimes okay so you lost all this power wow and you're a loser again moving on
There's two more big ones, but I think I'm just going to keep them for another podcast, for another episode. Are they big, big? I would say so. I would say so. It's a big idea. Next topic. I... Wow, you just gave the audience blue balls. That's how you do it generally. Got it. Content. Yeah. Guys, I don't even know.
Guys and girls. Again, we don't want a gender. Wait for the next episode in which we reveal the biggest hacks. But you're going to have to wait until next week. I'm waiting with you guys. Subscribe right now. But next topic. Have you ever felt torn between different ideas or different, I guess, mentors? And they had completely different philosophies. One mentor was like, change the world and just like...
go all in, greatness. The other one was just like, you know what, just enjoy life and make an impact, but do what makes you happy, right? It's like these two, I don't know, I think it's like these two big One is like, hey, let's build a simple and fun business that fulfills you and makes you enjoy life. And then there's the idea of building a billion dollar empire.
And I think then you're in that spot where you have to figure out what do I truly want and who should I truly listen to? So recently I was at a friend's engagement surprise party. So she didn't know we were surprising her. But they were engaged, they had a party, and so we all showed up. And I met my friend's business coach. His name is Ani. I actually just had a call with him earlier. And I checked out his stuff online.
It's really interesting stuff that he talks about some ideas that I think It really sparked some inspiration in me and they they they're counterintuitive to a lot of the things that you hear online from these top entrepreneurs that are like change the world and work your face off and so it's similar to Arnie's ideas I think are similar to a lot of the Tim Ferriss stuff which is more like a minimalist mindset where you do what feels best
If you have to push yourself to do something, you should change it because why do something that's difficult if you can find a way to do something that's much easier and is aligned with what you're best at and what you enjoy most. He talked about a flywheel. Where just figure out a way where you can play an infinite game and you just enjoy all of it. And just putting enjoyment and energy first. Because that's where we create our best work. But then you have...
And also, this I thought was really interesting. You gotta put yourself first as the founder. You gotta ask yourself, what is the business giving you? Instead of like, oh, sacrifice, sacrifice, right? And then you have this other mindset. that it's like the maximalist mindset you could say, where it's just like, I don't care about happiness, I just want to win. I want to be great. And it's like this greatness mindset, right? It's like you have the homozy Elon Musk.
billionaire tech founder idea, right? Well, it's often about like toughen up, work harder, do the work. And I remember in one of my conversations with Mr. Beast, with Jimmy Donaldson, i was telling him hacks like i was telling you earlier right with the sleep and stuff like that and um at some point i mentioned something to him and he was like dude i don't care about being happy happy like that
I don't care about that at all. I just want to win. So you don't need to give me these tips. Love that. You do? I love what he said. I love that. I love that too. He knows what he wants. There's nothing wrong with either. With either mindset. The question is just, what do you want? I found myself in a pickle whenever I was in between both of them. I agree. And then you have this internal like, because like...
If you want to be great and you want to build a billion dollar empire and all that, you kind of got to go all in. Okay. What do you think? I think people go through phases. Because some people don't start off that way and then they end up going one way. And then other people might start off one way and then switch it off later on. And I think they kind of adjust to what feels more aligned to them.
I think those are all people that are not going all in. I disagree. If they're like switching this and that, I think... If you're talking about all in, all in. But you can still be all in. Best in the world. You can still be all in. Because here's the thing. Have you heard of Iman Ghazi? Yeah. He calls this thing called monk mode.
All right, it's like... No, no, no, no. You don't believe... No, I've heard of it, but it's not his thing. Well, yeah, whatever. I like calling it hibernation. He just took that thing and, like, that's not his. Okay, whatever. I've never heard of it before. But basically like how you spend a specific amount of time and you work extremely hard and then you kind of just will chill or relax or... Yeah, but that's the lifestyle.
That's the lifestyle business approach. What do you mean? Are you using Iman Ghazi as like an example for like... No, not successful. He is successful, but I'm talking about the concept. yeah i'm talking about the specific concept of just like yes yes you can still have success and be somebody what do you do not do not he stole the concept i just i don't know i just i yeah i think he's
Yeah, we don't have to get into that. We don't have to get into that, right. I just, like I said, for me, it's not really about him. I just wanted, because I wanted to mention the concept, like... Monk mode. Like when you can, because I don't think working your ass off consistently, because I think you're working sometimes from a place of like, I mean, again, you can't really say anything because that's what they want. It's like you said, Mr. Beast.
He wants to just win. And it's like, all right, what is your version of winning? Is it to be happy or is it to just scoreboard? No, it's greatness. But you don't think you can be greatness without being overly obsessed with something? I think Richard Branson's great. I think Mark Cuban is great. Yeah.
I think they work hard, but I don't think they're obsessed with the work. But also they have... I think they are. I think... So I'm not a greatness, like pursue greatness at all costs. No, I don't. I mean, clearly, as you can see. The same. Yeah. Here's my perspective. I think...
What can happen is that when you listen to people that think like that, you adopt certain ideas that are actually not aligned with what you want in life. Well, most people don't want that. Yes, but they listen to them for advice. And they end up with a business that they're miserable with. I agree. Right? So, because I think...
People think, hey, if I want to grow my business a little bit, let me listen to the trillion dollar founder on how he grew his business. But it's the wrong advice. I completely agree. I completely agree. But everyone listens. And I think oftentimes it's difficult to just pick one idea and isolate it and take it on. Because... With that come certain sub-beliefs or sub-habits that you also take on that are not serving you with what you actually want in life. For example, you could say...
I don't know, like... If you just want to grow your business a little bit but you want to build a business that you enjoy, you may hear... certain advice from a some billionaire or tech founder on like you gotta go all-in you got to build this team and all that stuff and and you take that but you don't actually want a big team right it's just they end up in different state in different destinations
I can agree with that. I had something to add to this. I want to show you this clip to kind of highlight this idea. And I don't know if this conversation isn't even going anywhere. Let's have a look at this. This is one of the top UFC fighters. I don't watch the UFC, but I love him. I can describe this in one word. How would you put that into context of what you four have done, what your father has built? How would you describe it? I can describe this in one word, all about sacrifice.
all about people people talk about discipline but sometimes discipline is not enough you know all about sacrifice like couple days ago was it was I think maybe one week ago One guy is from Mexico, he trained with us. We allowed him to come. We don't allowed anybody to come to our team because we have enough sparring partners. You can look at anybody, champion. champion champion you know we don't need nobody we have 30 like almost 30 killers inside one gym why we have to invite some people and uh
And he come to me, he's like, oh, in holidays, I want to go to Mexico. And I told him, brother, you're Mexico, your family, everybody have to wait. If you want to become best in the world, you have to be inside the room. Same thing. If you want to become the best, there is no family. If you want to spend time with your family, kids, okay, be with them. You're going to become best family man. I'm not against family people.
I just say, if you want to become best in this business, you have to sacrifice. Sacrifice your time, sacrifice your health, sacrifice everything good you have. Other way, I don't know. I agree. Again, it's like, what do you want to get to? Because like I was saying with Richard Branson and Mark Cuban, they're successful, but they only have $3 to $5 billion.
And again, I'm saying only, but in retrospect, when you're looking at Amazon, you're looking at Tesla, you're looking at Mark Zuckerberg, there's a massive... Gap. Yeah, 100%. But then there's a massive gap between us and Mark Cuban and Richard Branson. But the reality is...
Richard Branson lives his best life. Yeah. So does Mark Cuban. The reason why I'm bringing this up is because I think there's a lot of people who are stuck between like, what do I really want? Do I want to go like all the way?
Or do I just want to enjoy my life more? Well, they're doing it for the wrong reasons. I think people do it for the wrong reasons. People see the lifestyle. Most people want to make money because they see what they see on Instagram. Oh, look at the private jets. Look at the...
IG influencers, look at all the stuff they're getting. Look at all the stuff they're winning. Look at how happy they are. When in reality, that's not really what you want. It's kind of like, I think... my like when I was in the beginning of like after college I did professional acting and modeling for commercials and I made decent decent money but I hated it
I did it because it was cool. I could tell people, oh, look at me, I'm on TV. Or I just walked this fashion show. Or I'm in this movie. And... I realized I saw how my roommates at the time were obsessed. And I was getting all the auditions. I was getting all the great auditions for the biggest shows.
And they weren't. But dude, they went to school for it. They obsessed about it. All they did was talk about it. And I'm sitting here and I'm like, why are you guys so, I mean, yeah, this is cool. But like, and I just was, I didn't have that passion. And just seeing that.
Me not have that passion was why I left. I'm like, I don't care about it. I actually would dread emails from my agent because I'm like, damn, now I got to sit here and memorize this script. And then I got to set up my camera. And then I got to do this. And it just turned me off and I would see my friends and I would see like they would get like a little bit annoyed. They're like, dude, I would beg.
for like these roles i would do anything for these roles and you're getting them and you don't even appreciate them and that's when it hit me i'm like i'm doing it for all the wrong reasons did it for my ego but then when it came to like coaching um i put i wrote
A freaking 60,000-word book in literally seven days. And it was just like this level of hunger. I just shut out everything. And I was just dialed. It was so easy. I would literally have... the productivity hack I would work I would write for three hours watch a Netflix show or I would go on a walk and I'd come back and I would have the same energy for the next three hours and I literally did it for seven days straight and I wrote a book
which takes people months, but it just, it showed me, I'm like, damn, I was in the wrong thing. I was just following the thing I saw on TV or people that I saw that I look up to when in reality, it's like, if I actually genuinely enjoyed what I did. It wouldn't feel like work and it would just flow and then you can get an alignment. Yeah. I'm at a point now in my life where I just pick what's most fun and fulfilling. That's it. Because I think...
you'll end up there anyway. Whether you resisted for 10 years or you, you know, you've surrendered to that now. And I think that's where the most success is too. Do you think you end up there? Honestly. people in general yeah uh some people don't but if you're on this journey where you know you like us and you you want to live a life that's really fulfilling and and achieve some dreams and how many is that let's be real
I don't know, but here's the thing. I want to speak to those people. I don't want to speak to people who are scrolling on Instagram and comparing themselves to people with private jets. But most people aren't those people that you're talking to. I don't want to speak to those people. So you think that 1% is all the people that are watching this podcast right now? No. No. I'm not saying that. It's just that's who I want to speak to. It's people who are already, they're already on a path.
Okay. I'm not gonna talk to people who are like, hey, here's how to get started and how to get up in the morning. Like, fuck off. And this is also not for people who are like in the zone where they're just like working and, you know, this is for people who've already achieved some things.
And now they want to start enjoying their life too. Have fun on the journey of self-improvement and achieving their dreams. Because I think that's the stages that people go through, right? They're just like, I have to become great and build a huge empire and all that. And then they're like, oh, this is kind of depressing. And it's like, okay.
They've already built their first business. They already made their first money or whatever or achieved this milestone or already built the family that they want. Whatever the goal is, it doesn't have to be business. But they're realizing, you know what? I also want to be happy while I'm doing it.
Those are the people that I want to talk to. It's a minority of people, but like, yeah. Because if we want to speak to the most people possible, we're going to have to talk about like, hey, here's how you stop jerking off. $1,000. So, yeah. That doesn't even work. It didn't even work for me. Yeah. I don't really know where I was going with this topic, but I just think you got to choose.
what you're willing to sacrifice. I can see that. And whatnot, right? So there's plenty of things that I'm willing to sacrifice. I'm willing to sacrifice being up to date with the latest news. Like a lot of these things are just dumb sacrifices. Is that really a sacrifice? It is. It is. But it's an easy one to make. But I gotta be, I gotta choose consciously. And also, what am I not willing to sacrifice? I think that's an even more important question.
I'm not willing to sacrifice close friendships. A lot of people that are going after really big goals, they are. They truly are. I'm not willing to sacrifice my health. I'm not willing to sacrifice my love life. I know what a huge part of my life that is. If I didn't have that, man, why do any of it? 100%. I think there's specific archetypes of people. And I think I'm like a...
I think I'm like a lover archetype where a big reason for life for me is people I love. I agree. Dude, I think it's not about... It's kind of, I think we talked about this on one of the podcasts where it's like, it's not about the journey. It's about the people you spend it with. It's about the people that are on the journey with you. Yeah. I'm a firm, firm believer. Like life has gotten so much better when I surround myself with the right people.
It's just more fun. Yeah. I mean, you just look forward to more things and I can't tell you how, like in, even in that I've just made so much more money and so much, I've had so much more success just by being around people that lift you up. Yeah.
Dude, it has to be fun. If it's not fun, why are you doing it? People that don't comment on the throat thing. Those are good friends. Those are the real friends that you want to be around. Not the ones that hold you back. I'm glad you have plenty of them. Yeah. All right, so I can fill a different role here. Cool. Did you prepare a topic? Is there something you wanted to talk about? The big topic I really want to chat about with you today was it kind of goes to something similar to this.
But it's like the myths of making money. Making money or? Or the myths of being successful. Yeah. You know, like wake up at five in the morning. All millionaires wake up at five in the morning. They read affirmations. They cold plunge. They ice bath. Listen, you know me. I don't do any of that. it honestly i used to believe it where it got you yeah nowhere you know so maybe i should consider it maybe we're the wrong ones um no but like it's crazy because i remember when i didn't have money
Or didn't have success. I loved affirmations. I had a whole book. Literally eight pages of affirmations that I read every single morning. Took me at least 15 minutes. Every morning I just go through every affirmation. Do you think it helped you? Am I here because of it? I don't know. That's the tough thing to know. I don't know. Well, here's the thing. You can't really look at what successful people are doing now. Like, whenever I heard, like...
Whenever I hear the whole idea of like, oh, millionaires have seven income streams. Dude, that's so horrible. That's the worst advice you'll ever hear. They all have one, maybe two. Then they take it and they diversify it. Then they diversify it.
And then you see all these people who are like, yeah, I have like multiple side hustles. It's like, you definitely, you're not going to go anywhere. You're broke. Yeah. You're broke. Like, no, but it's funny because I should believe that. Maybe the affirmation thing is one of those things. Dude, okay. Here's my hack. Because I did stuff like that too. I don't believe in affirmations.
But here's what I used to, at least when I used to work with my clients and their mindset, I would tell them, don't say affirmation, switch it up and do it like this. So instead of saying, I'm a millionaire. That's a big one. I am a millionaire. I'm a millionaire. Every day you wake up when you're a millionaire. Sure. Instead, say something that you actually are. So like I will say for me, I'm charismatic.
And I'd be like, I am charismatic. And under that, I would write down five sentences around. But it's something you've got to choose something that you actually are. Yes. And that's me. Yeah. You just. Okay. Got it.
No, let's just go with that hypothetical. Hypothetical. Got it. Cool. Let's say hypothetically speaking, I am charismatic, which I'm not. You know what I mean? I'm just trying to, this is part of the affirmations where I do it, I start believing it. And then you're really kind of killing my flow. Yeah. You're a toxic friend. Keep going. Anyways, I am charismatic. And under it, you say five sentences.
And the five sentences are, because I am charismatic, I'm able to influence people. And because I'm able to influence people, I'm able to add value into their life. And in that value, then they exchange that with money. And I'm also able to build better relationships, better communities where I can meet people that can change my life and can help me on the journey to become a millionaire. So what I'm doing is I'm associating those things to me being charismatic.
So then when I say I'm charismatic, I'm not only thinking about me being charismatic, I'm thinking about how charisma makes me a millionaire. And I'm tricking my brain into believing that I actually am a millionaire because of the skill set that I already have. And that doesn't just mean for charismatic, it means I am disciplined. So you believe it works. You believe this works. I think that was the shift that I made.
With my affirmations. Yeah. That started. But it wasn't anything like me being a millionaire. It was traits about myself. Like I am disciplined. I am this. I am this. I am this. Dude, I hate the self-improvement bubble so much. Can I share with you the vision of the podcast and Driven?
Okay, let me hear it. The problem is that the self-help industry takes itself so seriously. Okay. A lot of it is so cheesy, with like these millionaires, affirmations, success, you're going to be around the right people.
And some of it is just downright predatory. Like, oh, buy these courses and all that. I want to make a podcast and create a community and, yeah, just a place where... we can just be real in ourselves and have fun and then talk about stuff that we're finding and you know like that is
So I love that you bring this up, this whole like affirmation thing in our life because there's so much cringy stuff. And that's why I think it's so fun to react to like Guru of the Week and stuff like that because it's just like, that's funny. We're not that. Iman Ghazi, we're not that. Also a completely different target audience. Will not bring him up ever again. Obviously, guys, UC triggered something. Dude. Jesus. I've... Yeah, I've talked to him before and I...
We have very different values, I'll tell you that. Okay. You know what's funny? One of the last companies I worked for, that was the first big company that I told you about, the one that changed my whole career. I remember he spent... I think like a hundred K to get a little table or like a table at one of these like events. And this is what I realized, you know, those big events with 1500 people that are like, that are like a bunch, like you might have a bunch of speakers.
You know I like there's like red like like three-day events. Yeah, these gurus hold That they bring all other gurus to speak for literally an hour where they give no value, but they just talk about their story. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know exactly what I'm talking about. I've been to one of those. I want to tell that story too. Go on. Okay. But they give no value. Like, I don't leave.
They're being like, oh my god, I'm gonna make money. It's just for their own Instagram, so they can have a shot of them speaking on stage. Content. Dude, there's this, please, can we just talk once, like one time, can Guru of the Week be... What's his name? Wes something? Yes. I just wrote it down. Okay, cool. I just wrote it down. He was, I remember, he was at one of those events and all he did, all I heard was F. F-U-F-U. All I came out of now, the whole entire time.
But that's not the point. I just remembered it after saying this. Anyways, so he paid $100,000.
to have this like booth who's that just a client of yours no no he was that was the member of the big company that i worked for that transformed my career the one that trained the big teams yeah he wanted to get there because he wanted to get clients because maybe it's a different outreach the guy sold him on he was like all right you know i have the money i'll pay for it whatever yeah we got it and one thing i realized is at those events you have the affirmation kind of people
Yeah, because they only paid nine hundred dollars or a thousand dollars and Everybody that came in those are the people that are still beginning that also the people that give self-improvement a bad name Well, those are the people why it's so easy to make fun of this sort of stuff
And that's what we're fighting against. Because here's the thing. The real ballers are not at those events. Those three-day events that basically you have those different speakers coming in. And the mainstream speakers. Like the mainstream speakers. You don't learn anything. I'll tell you a story. When I lived in Australia, I went to this event where Arnold was speaking. Okay. And I was like, I want to see Arnold Schwarzenegger speak.
i want to see him live the tickets were pretty cheap 500 bucks less i think it was like 300 aussie so it was like 200 us dollars or something and i attended And there were a bunch of speakers before him. And it was literally just gurus selling their courses with the most aggressive pitches I've ever seen.
extremely aggressive sales pitches so the way they put together the whole event was that we're gonna get Arnold to speak that's gonna draw a whole crowd and we're gonna sell the crap out of them and that's how we make money And it was wild, man. There was this one guy, dude. I want to, I want to, I want to, I'm not one to like expose people, but I want to dig into this guy's stuff and just like, I fucking hate that guy. Okay. What is it? Who is it?
I'd have to look it up, but he used, the script that he used was so disgusting. It was literally like people crying, just like, he changed my life. And then he would like, like, first of all, he would speak.
And he would call people out for talking. Just like, just so you know, this person was never going to be successful. Like he literally shamed people like that. And so the whole crowd, like he just used all these. Tactics. Influence tactics. Not manipulation. Influence tactics. Yeah, good job.
to get people to shut up and listen and like us versus them like anyone who's like not believing in me is a coward and you know and I was like I fucking hate this guy I make more money than all these people here this is one My e-commerce business was crushing it. I was just in the process of selling it. And I remember going to the bathroom and he literally, like, there was thousands of people. He literally was like, ah, there we have another one.
Just walking out right now. And I was just like, like walking. I was just like looking and everyone looked at me and I was like. I was just like, stop. That one right there. Loser. Yes. I see him. You all see him? Look at him. I was like wow like he's using all these tactics and then
I came back in because I was just, I want to witness this. And he would literally like grab people in the audience and be like, hey, this is another one of my clients. And he would physically bring them to the front and be like, tell them your experience. And they would be like crying like, oh, you changed my life. And then, you know. I was so tempted. I was literally, I was literally considering, what if I just completely disrupt this man's speech? Like I just shout like that.
you know like i looked him up online he's a fraud and whatnot but i didn't do it because i wanted to see arnold and i i pussied it out i was like i don't it wasn't worth it i don't yeah i don't want to deal with this but it wasn't worth it and i built So much resentment for that sleazy, slimy self-help. I want to know who it is. I have to look it up. Dude, look it up and let me know. I think Hoffman is something disgusting human being. Dude, Hoffman?
Yeah, let's see. No. David Hoffman? Who's David Hoffman? No. I have to look it up, but... Not the Wolfman. The Wolfman? No. You know the ice guy? The Hoffman? Wim Hof? Wim Hof, yeah. No, why would he do that? That's what I'm saying. He seems like a nice guy. No, no, no, no. That's what you're referencing. No, no, no. He's a legit guy. Yeah, yeah. No, this is just it. I'm going to teach you how to be successful by my course.
I hate BizUp. Find out. I hate BizUp people. Now you know why he hates gurus. He hates gurus because somebody called him a loser one time. in his childhood when he was building his business listen get over it all right we're done all right here we are you got it no but seriously like any biz op biz op isn't if you're in biz op you're a shitty entrepreneur
Man, I'm coming out swinging right here. Guys, listen, I don't... You just made the noise again, just so you know. I did, I did. I think that's five bucks. I'm busy. All right, I'm shooting left and right. There's no easier thing to sell than BizOp. Start a real business. Stop calling yourself an entrepreneur. You're a BizOp guru.
Yes, I'm triggered. I help biz ops make a lot of money. Yeah, that's why I have a lot of resentment for you as well. There's one guru that we're not allowed to call a guru that I really respect because I think he's legit. I've taken a lot of courses. I've studied a lot of this stuff. He's legit. Let's see him. Tony Robbins. Okay, well, he's the OG guru.
Yes, in many ways. He's not the OG. There's people who are like, oh, oh, oh, OG. Then you have, what is his name? What's the guy's name? Jim Rohn. Jim Rohn. Jim Rohn is amazing. Then you have another guy as well. So, Tony Robbins. I see as someone legit, and you only really know what he's like when you go to his events. There's a new segment that I want to try out. It's not Guru of the Week. Tiro of the Week. It's Savage of the Week.
Savage? Savage. Got it. Dior? It's French for savage. Got it. Tell me more. So there's just some people who, uh, there's just some moments where people are like, damn, this guy is absolute savage. Okay. Savage of the Week? And there's... Savage of the Week is Tony Robbins. If you ever have gone to his events...
Date with Destiny specifically, that's his flagship. That's where he works with people one-on-one and it's just like, hey, who is suicidal? People raise their hands and he works with them one-on-one. And just like, he makes couples break up in the moment. Quick question before we get into that. We had a whole video or podcast on the cult. Day with Destiny or the cult. Be real. It's a tough one. I'm telling you because I've heard a lot of people that have went to both.
and have like yes i'm one of them who said um i got more out of the um that's tough to say hey but i think i would recommend people do the cult okay that's it yeah But they're close. Maybe it's also recency buys, but great. Both of them great. David Destiny, that's where he's real. Much more real than you see online. Online, he seems more like a, oh, like...
Let's jump up and down and be motivated. In the events, he's an absolute savage. He calls people out. He says it how it is. What I love about him is that he's not politically correct. And he's also not red pill. Like you either see both extremes, right? You see the one where you can't say anything. Oh, don't, don't offend anyone. And then you have the, you know, like people who are just, they just red pill and it's just, everything is like. Here's a balance between the masculine and feminine.
Yes. He's just legit. He's just real and raw. Online you find these interventions that he does at his trainings. This is the real stuff and I love watching these because these This one is a relationship coaching. I love those when he walks with a couple and this is where he tells a guy The problem is that you're pussy
Love that one here. So most people don't know this about him, but just to give you some context It's a couple and this man has worked a ton to become a better husband But for some reason she can't really let go of complaining so Go check out these moments. Also, super random. I just saw the picture of Arnold behind you. Yeah. And look over there. Tony Robbins. Tony Robbins. Yeah. Where is the picture of me? I'll just look at you live. Got it.
So have a look at this. Does complaining make your relationship better? Has it ever made your relationship better? No. Has it ever made you truly happy?
No, no, not at all. So then why do you continue to do something that f***s everything up and adds no value and you can see by everyone in this room that it's not just your husband, that it is the worst thing you could do to a masculine male. You have... miracle beside you you have a man that has taken your for years and who wants to be more for you and has gone on a nine-month eight-month seven-month journey of working his
What's that? The guy's loving this right now. He actually isn't. You can see him. He's uncomfortable, but like. Yes, you can see him wanting to jump in to protect his wife. And you see him grilling the wife right now, but he's grilling the guy later too.
And that's what I love about him. So this is a long interaction. This is like, I think probably like an hour, an hour and a half intervention. We don't see the whole thing. But having gone to his events, they sometimes last an hour, like an interaction where he just basically coaches a couple, right? And so...
I just love his rawness. And I think if he uploaded videos like this to his YouTube channel, man, he could be bigger than he's ever been, honestly. So if you're working for a Tony Robbins team, you're working for a Tony Robbins team. I know a thing or two about YouTube. I think Tony should get millions of views on his channel. I think he's definitely fallen off in terms of his branding, but I think he's doing it on purpose. I don't think he cares as much.
Maybe. I don't know. I don't know. You think he's still trying to brand? Yeah, I think he's at his peak in terms of how he's performing and how good he is at what he does. Really? Yeah. Let's finish this one up. This is gonna go for a while by the way, but you're gonna love this this it gets really intense Let's see and he's poured all his love into you and he's grown he's felt the deepest feelings He's done everything that almost everyone wants a man to do. He's expressed his true feelings
He's been vulnerable. He's worked hard to improve himself He's loved you through it all and he's not made you wrong Maybe that's the problem Maybe once again, you have someone here that's been rewarded so much. I know you're a good soul, but you've been rewarded so much for so long because you're an attractive woman that you have never had consequences for how you behave. Cool. I love that. That's good. This is this type of stuff that could get him cancelled.
could have tons of, not canceled, but could have tons of like repercussions. And he did, he did once get really real with a person and they were filming at the event, which you're not allowed to do. It got... shared all over social media like how misogynistic he is. Yeah, I heard about that. Supposedly, right? You heard about that? Yeah, and he went and sued them because they made an article. They made an article about him where at the top of the article was a picture of him.
right like in the middle of coaching something and as you scroll down the picture changed to him being like a demon and just like and the headline was like the crazy dude i i don't like when people like dude tournament is good like he really like he his book unlimited power is the first book i ever read to get me into this world this man changed my life even like during college i started my own non-profit where we fed families
uh for thanksgiving just like he did when he was literally man i fed i think my first thing was me and a friend and we just fed 20 families i didn't know you did that that's amazing yeah we call it the unknown givers foundation so we literally We went around and we saved up a bunch of money. And then we would go and drop the food off. We went to the, what is it called? The shelter, the shelter. But we went to the bank, the food bank. And we'd find out the poorest, the poorest.
families they had and we'd go to their house and we'd drop off the food and then they would ask us oh who got this food for us like we have no idea we're just delivery boys so we're just hired to work as delivery boys but the reality is we were the one doing it yeah um and that and i don't tell this to anybody this is something that i just did for myself But I'm sharing it now because it wouldn't have happened.
If it wasn't for him, I saw that story that he talked about when he was like a young kid and somebody came and did that to him and how it changed his life and how he wanted to do it for people. And I was like, I want to do something similar. He literally is one of my biggest inspirations. I love that. Savage dude. He's such a savage. He is a savage. And so these are like these breakdown videos where this coach that works with him breaks down why he's doing what he's doing. And so...
Yeah, it's not just not just her it's also him because just to cut this a bit shorter He's been trying to please her all this time. Exceptually or just in general? In general Oh, God. I'm saying please, sir. I'm like, in turn, just like, please, sir. Yes. People, please. Because in these things, I've seen a couple of these as well. And it's like, usually a big part of it is, it's crazy. Sex is a big part of like, usually, and he'll rip into them.
Huge. Yeah, for sexual stuff. It's a sign of polarity. So what I've seen at David Destiny, the number one reason why relationships don't work out. I'm going to have an itch. Okay, deal with it. Okay. Jesus. All right, anyways, let's keep going. Sorry about that. The number one reason why relationships don't work out, and that's just me having observed it in Date With Destiny, is that there's a lack of polarity, meaning the masculine-feminine dynamic.
isn't there anymore. Both like the woman is in her masculine because the man is too much in his feminine and that's what happened here. And so he kind of drills into that and how sexually active and intimate you guys are as a couple. is an indicator of whether there's polarity or not because if there is polarity it's impossible to to be intimate 100 it's like it's like your siblings or your friends or roommates so if there is a polarity
If there isn't, exactly. Yeah, now you said if there is. Yeah, if there isn't polarity then... Okay, I got it. Cool, see. So this is where he digs into his stuff. Learning new tools, applying, and then... Not succeeding and then change my approach again and again and same thing in my family life too as well. Yes family life or with your wife? With my wife. He's in the tunnel because of this
He's not in the tunnel for business. He's not in the tunnel for those pieces. He's in the tunnel because he's tried all these things and now he's gone to pleasing. First, he went for his dream and make things happen and thought that they had a shared understanding. Then the pain of that...
put him in the tunnel because he felt he failed her now he's actually improved and changed but he's still in the tunnel because he wants her love and acceptance and she's withholding it she's dying for you to not let her do this to you You're such a sweet beautiful man, but you've been so in your feminine that this fucking woman is starving for you to kick her ass.
Look at her grin when I say it. Look at the big-ass smile. She's dying to have her ass kicked. She wants some polarity from you. And she's gotten by with it for so long, she kind of likes getting by with it, but underneath it, she'd like to be put in her place. Controversial. Controversial, but like... Her reaction gives it away. Like how giggly and like cheeky smiling she got. Dude, can we talk about... Can we actually...
Segway into like men and like woman like that what's happening now and dating because of this. Yes Want to finish this up real quick finish it. It ends really Beautifully where he turns him around I think it's just epic. So let's finish this up. You've done nothing wrong. You pursued building a family.
you pursued building a business you pursued those elements that any healthy masculine man would do you need no apology for it and being close to her and finding ways to meet more of her needs you've done that too just magnificent that makes you a really great man you can't let her constantly give you
You can playfully break her pattern. You can warmly break her pattern. You can lovely break her pattern. But there has to be a line in the sand that she can't cross. And she crosses it continuously. 100%. And it doesn't matter how much you love or give or do. She'll keep doing it.
She's a beautiful soul and I know that really hard. You see what he's doing here. He's going back. He's validating. He's validating. He's protecting and nurturing and yeah, and so Tony is just like, okay, listen So she's a beautiful soul and I know that really hard and I believe the family kids and I understand all that all that is true But you're a pussy right now and she's running you like you're her dog
beautiful that hurt look at how she's not disagreeing and he's looking at her for validation he's like do you agree do you disagree and she's like don't look at me she's like Nothing to be added. Jeez. She's stuck in a story. No, she's not stuck in the story. She's using a story. People don't get stuck. It's such a delusion. She's meeting her what? Tell me.
Needs. She's meeting her needs. And what need is top of her list right now? Significance. Significance. Everyone can see it but you because you're so in love with her. You're a good man. But you're... So into pleasing, you've lost your center. Savage. You beat yourself up. You're in the tunnel because you're still beating yourself up. How many can see this, gentlemen? Raise your hand if you can see it.
He's in the tunnel. He's stuck. What's the difference? So the tunnel is actually a concept from Alison Armstrong. She's this incredible woman that studied men for decades. No woman understands men better than her. Like she can make a whole room of grown men cry just by explaining to them how they feel and why they feel that way because they've never felt so understood. That's interesting. Yeah.
And she has this concept that we go through different stages, the prince phase, the king phase, and one of them is the tunnel. It's after you've achieved all these things, you know, like, why did I do all this? It's the book. Send me the book. I'm curious. I studied the slave, the warrior, the prince, and the knight and the king. Yeah. Well, it's a different spin on it. Okay. But it's the slave, warrior, knight, and king. But I want to...
What is the book? It may be The Keys of the Kingdom. Can you send it to me if you find it? Yeah, I'll put it in the description for everyone. Yeah, I think I want to. Because I want to. Dude, I love like. the the understanding the polarity between masculine and feminine yeah and like what makes men men and what makes woman woman it's such a fascinating concept it's crucial if you're in a relationship hundred percent
Yeah. Also in business too. Yeah. Because here's the thing. I think what people don't realize is influence is a feminine trait. It's not a masculine trait. Influence is your ability to navigate through obstacles. It's like, how do you influence people to get what you want? It's not brute force. As I always say, like, charisma wasn't a feminine trait. And it's one of the most powerful traits you can have in existence.
The most charismatic leaders are the ones that tend to be more successful. And that's all feminine. People think it's brute force, but the reality is it's not all just brute force. That plays one part of it. But it's like if you're charismatic, but you also have that brute force when you need to bring it out.
I think that's what Tony Robbins is. Tony Robbins has the charisma, but he also has the brute force to be like, hey, yeah, you're a pussy right now. Yeah, yeah. Most people would not expect somebody like Tony to... talk like this to someone but if you see it in person he swears a lot he uses a lot of like just heavy language but whenever it's needed yeah and it's just like to break people's patterns like i remember this one woman who stood up
She's like, I want to share my story. And he was like, oh, I just noticed you're a total people pleaser. Sit back down. Nobody cares about you. Because her pattern was she was an attention whore. She always wanted to like, oh, I want everyone to see me. And like, and he just broke that pattern. But she'd be like, no, we don't want to hear about you. I just noticed you're a total attention seeker. Sit back down.
I don't want to keep adding. I don't want to fuel it. Exactly. Yeah, there's a lot of intense stuff like that. But, you know, when I talked about the Tony Robbins idea that the chemistry of transformation. where you go through satiation, then threshold of pain, then there's the opening and stuff like that. That's what you see him do here, right? I want to learn more about the tunnel. Yeah. You're in it? Well, I don't know what it means.
That's a thing. I'm curious about it because I'm curious about... Yeah, it's interesting. Yeah. Dude, but like I said, going, working in that company and coming out more hyper-masculine. Game changer. Dude, it's crazy how many girls love that aggression. Yeah. But it shocks me. It's what the feminine is attracted to. It's the polarity.
It's insane because for most of my life, I was raised by a lot of like, well, I wasn't raised by my parents for the most part of my life. And then when I was, I was raised by a lot of single mothers who didn't like men. So I stepped into my feminine a lot. Yeah, to get love. That's what you needed. That was the only way. And then when I ended up going into that company that was full masculine, they were just like results or you're fired.
And you just had, you were forced into that place, dude, it shifted something in you. And then when it went back into my dating life, it was a whole different game. It was a game changer. Yeah. But it's also, you look at the people nowadays, like something as simple as opening the door. That's a masculine thing. but also planning a date, telling them where to eat. Simple. I'm not asking for a lot. So it's kind of like leading, taking charge. That's it. Yeah. Don't worry about it. I got it.
That's it. Well, there was one thing. I was talking to Luke about this. Luke is a good friend of ours. And I have this like itinerary that I send to date when I go on a date. I have an itinerary. I'm like, time. Location, I'll be like, surprise. What to wear. I'm like, I need you to wear this, this, this based on what you need. And then I'll be like, and then what I need from you is just your address. And then the last thing is like, just exist. Don't do anything.
Yeah. Just come in, look cute, and that's all I want from you. And girls, the response has been incredible. That's when they can fall. Yep. Because that's what the feminine is about. It's about surrender. Yeah. It's about let me surrender to this and you can't.
fall if you don't feel safe. You don't feel like there's someone who's leading. And that's what she feels in this clip. This woman feels resentment towards her man because she's walking all over him and he's letting it happen. So she goes... How can I trust this man if I can walk all over him? As a woman like that, they want to be put in a place in a respectful way. Of course. That's really it. Of course. Especially for all the men watching this and women, if you like women, if you want...
a very hyper masculine or super independent woman and you really like her and you want her to like you back, you have to be able to put her in her place and not take her shit because everybody around her takes her shit all the time. What do you mean by independent woman?
There's a strong, independent woman that don't need a man. Yeah, but that's no woman. Exactly. But that's a story who portray themselves as that. That's the story. Because, I mean, there's a lot of guys out here. Just to add context. I believe men and women need each other. Yeah, 100%. Or if you're gay, whatever, you need a significant other that has the other polarity, right? 100%. So I'm not saying women need men. I'm saying women need men and men need women.
People need each other. But you notice even in gay relationships, like I have like, and again, I'm not, I'm not an expert on this, but the reality is there was one. Yeah, it was racist. I wasn't, I don't like talking about it, but yeah, I did this for six years. Okay. Um, there is.
always the more masculine the more feminine one yeah you know there's a pitcher and receiver There's always masculine even in like what i noticed here's the thing when it's opposite polarity it never works out so perspective if the woman is more masculine than the man just like this she's gonna resent him over time yeah You know what I mean? That's just the reality. If the man's more masculine than the woman, it always works out. Obviously, but there's also hyper-masculine.
there's hyper hyper masculine where it's kind of too aggressive where it's like the man the man is not even in touch and with any emotion that's why that's why i think for uh for me the emotional work was really supportive because it got me in touch with my feminine Or were you just completely hyper-masculine? Yeah. Yeah. I can see it because you're very logical, but also because I know you after. It's hard to imagine you...
Would you consider yourself empathetic? I mean, now, yes. But before. Yeah. So, I mean, yeah. I don't see you hurting. I can't see you hurting somebody out of, like, just, you know, like, aggression. Yeah. that's just out of character for you even without the emotional work unless you were completely different I was lacking in the feminine energy I was lacking in that and now that's all you are and it's not that I didn't have it at all
But now I can tap into it more. And I've played around with it more. Cool. Savage of the Week. Tony Robbins. There's plenty of clips like this out there.
So I'll find the best ones for you and curate them for you. I approve. I like it. Awesome. Stay driven. I'm now going to hire a... hitman to take me out if i don't finish my to-do list i'm just trying to get out of this this is gonna hurt man it's stuck to my hair shut up You don't do it one after the other, you're just not doing it in a very systematic, strategic way.