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I would like to welcome my Instagram audience. If you'd like to see me while I do this segment, you certainly can just log onto Instagram and the handle is at doctor Wendy Walsh. After this segment, I am going to be taking your calls and if you have relationship questions, it's time for my drive by makeshift relationship advice. But before we go there, I was talking about green flags that are often mistaken for red flags in relationships and also when
you're in a relationship. This is a common common question that I get from people. They say, my girlfriend, my boyfriend, my husband, and my wife whatever is going through a really tough time. I'm wondering if they have mental health issues, or they're depressed, or they have anxiety, how do I help them? How do I help them? And usually I say, well, you're not their therapist. Don't forget that, it's not your job. I mean, sometimes the best way to help a partner is to
say, you know, maybe it's time you find a license therapist. Right. On the other hand, you can make matters worse by being a bad partner and not providing emotional support. And then comes the question, well, what is emotional support. It's very simple, and I've got a few tips for you when your partner is struggling emotionally, when your partner's going through something, this is what you need to do. Number one, It's really simple.
Listen, really listen, concentrate with no distractions, eye contact. It's so easy to be looking at your phone and having the TV on and having a halfway conversation. They're trying to tell you something important. I want you to focus and give your partner your full attention. The next thing I want
you to do. Did you ever notice lately when you call some of these call centers, they've been so well trained in emotional communication that you tell them your problem, whether it's the airline or the credit card company, or your internet not working or whatever. And then you tell them your problem and then they repeat back what they think they heard. They're like, so, what I'm hearing from you is that baby, And I'm like, did they go
to some emotional coaching? Right? So that's what you need to do. Paraphrase what you just heard and repeat it back. This is not mocking them. This is called active listening. You know what it does. It validates your partner's feelings. Plenty of times when people are hurting emotionally, they just want to be heard. They just need to know that they're heard, that someone is there who understands them and hears them. And the way we do
that is by being an active listener. So it starts with something like, so what I'm hearing you say is that? So as I understand it, what you're going through? Is this right? And then just repeat it back in your own words. This is super important. Now. The next thing I want you to do is ask them what they want from you, Not like I don't you know? Well, what do you want me to do? Not like that, that's sarcastic. I mean something like, would you
prefer me to listen right now? Or would you like me to offer some solutions in a soft, gentle voice. Would you prefer me to listen right now? Or should I offer some solutions? I don't like to begender on things. However, it's more likely, because men tend to be more action oriented, that they're going to be busy problem solving and offering solutions. And gentlemen, we usually don't want you to do that. You know what we want you to do. We want you to listen and see us and hear
us and mirror us. I also want to remind you to take their problem seriously. There's no I mean I have had relationships where I've come home from a bad day at work and I'm you know, went on and on about this happened and that happened on my boss, this and that, and my partner said, yeah, well you know what happens to me, like they get in a competition, like in other words, they have a worse life. No, no, no, that's not the thing to do. Or
they laugh, they go it's not that bad. Happens all the time. I don't know why you're stressing over this. That feels so dismissive, especially to someone like me who had kind of an anxious attachment style. If someone said, I don't know why you're overthinking this. I don't know why you're stressing about this. Is not that big of a deal. No, take their problems. Seriously, your partner's problems are serious to that they're big to
them. Also offer affection. I said earlier that story. I knew that I was in love with my boyfriend Julio the first time we had a fight, when I was very honest and told him because he was mad at me for something that I had a running feeling in my stomach, and rather than him making a joke or dismissing my feelings, he stood up and came towards me and he touched my shoulders. He goes, no, No, it's
not that big of a deal. Affection touch, hold their hand, hug them, touched their arm, to let them know when they're having an emotional experience that you're connected to them. Literally, it relieves I can't tell you how much emotional pain gets relieved just by a little bit of touch, just by knowing that somebody's in the trenches with you. Here's the story. Last week, I was on an airplane. It was a very short flight.
I was on the aisle seat, and sitting across in the other aisle seat was a woman who was actually flying to Los Angeles to visit I'm specialist doctors as seater Signai hospital, and she was hooked up to some kind of belt that had some kind of medication in it, and she had an IVY in
her arm. I didn't know if she was having chemotherapy. I didn't know, not my business, right, but at a certain point her little energy belt there and the box started making very loud beeping sounds and she's frantic and she's pulling it out of its pouch and she's trying to read it and press buttons and she's checking the connections, she's looking for links, and the flight attendant goes by, and the flight evan does nothing. I mean, she's
got a frigging body alarm going off and nobody's doing anything. So I leaned over and I just touched her forearm, not the arm that had the IVY, the other one, and I said, do you need any assistance? And she looked at me and said, oh, do you know about ivs? And I said, no, I know nothing about them, but it looks like you just need a buddy right now, and I have two extra hands if you need to help me unravel something. Anyway, she starts to
tell me about her medical condition, what was going on. She got the beeping to stop. She just needed to be seen and heard during a moment of stress. That's all people need in a moment of dress and we ignore like, oh, I don't know nothing's going on, I don't see anything. We do it in our love relationships too, Right, if your partner is having a hard time emotionally, please do something nice for them. Pick up their dry cleaning for them, run another kind of air and stock the
fridge, cook something for them, Buy them flowers. Literally, a gesture can mean all the world to somebody who's going through a hard time. Just a gesture, some little flowers. Right. I do not expect you to, nor what I ever suggest that you become your partner's therapist. But sometimes if you simply offer them love, just say I'm here for you, I'm not going anywhere, I love you, We're in this together, can be very calming to the person who's having some emotional stress. Right. And also
this is really important. So you've had this emotional conversation, you've done your active listening, you paraphrase back to them what you think that you heard. You let them know you're there for them. Again. You're not analyzing them, and you're not being their therapist, just being supportive. Now, check back in with them in a day or two. Don't let this be water under the bridge. Go hey, how's that issue going, how you're feeling now? I just want to check back in to see how you're doing.
This is really important that you bring it up again, because they might be too embarrassed to bring it up again, whatever this difficult situation is for them. Here's what you shouldn't do. We all do it sometimes, okay, But when your partners having emotion distress, don't dismiss their feelings. Don't say it's not a big deal. Don't say cheer up. Don't try to be
the worst. Oh, this is the worst. Some people their own coping mechanism because they feel upset when their partners upset, so they've been taught to express I call it toxic positivity. They get happier, thinking it'll be contagious and the other person will catch the happy feelings and then therefore everything will be okay. And so when somebody is feeling sad or angry or afraid or ashamed, the last thing you want to do is to have a happy gesture beside
you, because then you feel worse In comparison. You want somebody to go, oh gosh, I'm so sorry you're going through that. Also, don't try to solve their problems for them. That's not your job right not to. And also, don't analyze them. You can politely suggest that they see a therapist and talk to somebody else about this. I mean, give them the love and support before you say that. Don't just say I don't want to hear it, oh doctor therapist. Give them love, support and listen,
but don't analyze them. All right, when we come back, I am taking your calls from my drive by makeshift relationship Advice. A reminder. I'm not a therapist. I'm a psychology professor, but I'm in around and I got some life wisdom for you. I've written three books on relationships. My dissertation was on attachment theory, and I'm happy to weigh in on your love life. The telephone number is one eight hundred five two zero one five
three four. That's one eight hundred five two zero one KFI. You're listening to the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show on kf I Am six forty. We're live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. You're listening to doctor Wendy Walsh on demand from kf I am six forty, Ay, am six forty. You have doctor Wendy Walsh with you. This is the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show. I'm taking
your calls from my drive by makeshift relationship Advice. I'm a psychology professor, but I've written three books on relationships and did a dissertation on attachment theory. Be honored to weigh in with my life's wisdom. Who do we have? Producer Kayla, we have Melissa with the question Melissa. Hi, Melissa, it's doctor Wendy. Hi. Hi, what's your question? Love? Yes, So I am dating and I go on a lot of dates, but I don't really connect with the guys that they seem interested. But then I
just recently connected with one and we there's chemistry. We're both liking each other. But now I can catch I catch myself getting scared. How fast you go? How slow do you go? I feel like a turtle that goes back in the shelf. But but I okay, Melissa, this is very, very normal at the beginning of a relationship where you feel you have chemistry with somebody and then you're like, how fast do I go, How slow
do I go? What do I do? You can't really hold the clutch for very long, Okay, But what a healthy person does is they learn to self regulate, meaning that when you have those feelings, you describe them as being scared. You use the language with your partner. You say, you know, I'm really falling for you, but I'm feeling a little bit scared. This is a very common thing, and it's a compliment because you're like, I don't know what I'm falling into here, I don't even know
who you are, And don't be afraid to take it slowly. But the most important thing is that all the feelings you're feeling express them to your partner, because that's how you build intimacy. Don't listen to rules rules that say, you know, you shouldn't be boyfriend and girls until this many months, you shouldn't have sex until this many weeks. You shouldn't forget about all that.
It's about intimacy and growing that secure attachment. And that means all those feelings that you're sharing with me, I want you to share with your partner. And if his reaction isn't sort of welcoming, if you don't feel reciprocation, then you know to move on, right, But I think just being honest from the beginning, Hey, I'm falling for you, but I'm really
scared here. And see what they say. If he says, well, let's cool it, chick, I wasn't going there then, you know, right, But if he if he said, I have the same feelings, then you're building intimacy is a good thing, Melissa, It's normal. Okay, So that makes sense. That makes a lot of sense, especially you're saying how he responds because my last relationship he was emotionally unavailable, right, so you have a little more anxiety, yeah, because of his last experience.
Yeah, so just say that. You know, I said it to my Julio when I met. I'm like, oh, you should know. I have a little bit of abandonment issues. You know what he did to me, Melissa. One time we were only dating a few weeks and he was in Miami and he was supposed to come back I don't know, the next day or something, but he changed his flight and he came back a
day early. But he never told me. So he called me the next day and as we're chatting, he said, oh, no, I'm in La already and I'm like what And it deregulated me so much because I thought you didn't even tell me. And I'm talking to him and he's in my own city and he didn't tell me where he was, like my locator was off. And I just said to him, look, I have abandonment issues. I need to know where you are at all times. Are you okay
with that? He laughed, He said, you are so cute. Sure, And then he said, why don't I just put location services on my phones? You can see where I am. I'm like, what, I don't let me seeing him a few weeks? Isn't that nice? So there you go. You tell him your feelings and then you get somebody who is comforting and the one who isn't comforting. This is the important part you have to move away from, right. There's nothing wrong with you for being honest
about your feelings. You just move away from them. But thank you for calling, Melissa. I really appreciate the call. Okay, Producer, Kayla, who do we have next? Do you have Danielle with the question Danielle Danielle or Danielle Danielle? Yes? Hi? Did I say it right? Yes? Thank you? Yes, Danielle, are you got it right? What's your question? Love? All right? Actually the question comes from my son. He is eleven years old. I've been divorced four years and I've
been in a relationship with someone that fell in love with us. We fell in love with him, we became very close and a lot of the same patterns from the same marriage, from my previous marriage, with alcohol and anger and being absent emotionally. But we're now so close to the second person. How do we move on when we all love mister John so much, but we know it's not the health relationship. Yeah, so so trust me. Kids, know when you said this is a question from your son. Your
son knows that this is not a good person. This your son knows that this person is struggling, and yet you have an attachment to them. I think you need to tell your son, you know what, you always come first in my life, and your happiness and your future is more important to me than anybody else. So I'm going to put you first and we're going
to move on. And that's where and you'll find other surrogate allow parents, coaches, teachers, pastors, other people in the community who your son can look up to But if you see those patterns and when I hear drugs and alcohol involved, this is not a healthy nest for a kid to be around. Okay, so I want you to be strong and be honest with your kid. Say you come first. I love you. Thank you so much for calling Daniella. That's heartbreaking. Producer, Kayla, do we have someone
else? Or should go to stars? Nelson with a question? Nelson, Hi Nelson, it's doctor Wendy. How are you hidy? How are you today? I allow you're almost Lisa a Sunday on the weekend too, biblight for and you and your family with you? My question? Thank you. I have friends all fame. I walk in on a housepital I said, go on every team. But my question is why do people man hungry,
sad and crying? I feel people like, come on, let's speak nobody and like I'm a example, like I'm on you let speak somebody in your job. But you just speak so the first of about me? Help hop or it's something wrong for the people. I don't understand. Um, I'm so sorry. I wish I could understand your accent. So you're asking me about why men do what at work? Did you say cry? Nor? Why are they so emotional? Sometimes they come in they're happy, they're sad,
they're angry. He doesn't know why. Every day it's a different emotion, and he wants to know how to deal with particularly man you work with women. Yeah, he's that man. Well, then you need to ask him. You need to ask people what's going on with you? What's happening? This is not your normal way of being. I think you just need to ask them. There's no one right answer for this. This is just the way people are bringing their emotions. And maybe they feel safe bringing their
emotions to you, Nelson. Maybe they feel like they is a safe place for them to express I don't know. It's a good question, though. I'm curious to know who comes into work mad, people who hate their jobs. Maybe all right, do a time for one more as we go to break. We gotta break. Okay, We're gonna go to break. When we come back, I'm going to continue to take your calls and go to social media and answer some of your dms. The number is one eight hundred
five two zero one five three four. That's one eight hundred five two zero one k five. You're listening to doctor Wendy Walsh on demand from KF. I am six forty kym or do you have doctor Wendy Walsh with you? This is the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show. I am taking your calls with your relationship questions. Reminder, I'm not a therapist. I'm a psychology professor, but I'm happy to wait in with my wisdom on your love life. Producer,
Kayla, do we have somebody on the line. I'm still screening, left, I'm still screening, okay for the number is one eight hundred five two zero one KFI. I do have a lot of dms coming in on social media, so let me read a couple of them. Here. Dear Doctor Wendy, my husband left me after five months for a mistake I made. She didn't say what the mistake was. I feel like I failed him and our relationship. Maybe he won't even talk to me. He has not
filed for divorce, but I don't know where we stand. How can we figure this out? Well, it's really hard to have a relationship with somebody who's not talking to you. So that's the first thing is you have to actually get them to engage with you in some way, so you need to be able to say to them, hey, are we going to therapy, you know, and also in a way of like, I made a mistake and I'm looking for your forgiveness and I want to find a way to work
it out. If he continues to give you the silent treatment, then he's, you know, trying to punish you, or he doesn't know how to manage his own feelings about everything that's going on. I would give him time, but you might want to enter therapy yourself, because I'm sure this is bringing up a lot, a lot of painful feelings. I have to tell you back in the day when I was single and I had a kind of anxious attachment style and people wouldn't call me back or give me the silent treatment
or whatever. It hurt like. I can't begin to tell you how much it hurt. It hurt as much as a physical pain. It really did. It's awful, So I know what it feels like, and especially because it's sort of combined with all those feelings of shame and guilt because of the whatever mistake you made. I'm not sure what it is, Dear doctor Wendy. I recently found out that my girlfriend comes from a really really that's two really's really really rich family. She never told me. Good Now I feel
insecure being with her. Oh lord, really, I feel like she didn't tell me because she doesn't think I'm good enough. Challenge that thought. I don't want to break up, but being with her makes me feel insecure. What can I do? Okay, this is your problem, not hers. Okay, you have a girlfriend who did not disclose the money her family has. Because I'll tell you why, it makes many men, in particular runaway. You know, there's research out there to show that when men make more
money or have more money, they're much more attractive to female mates. However, with women, it's the opposite. When women earn more money, men feel insecure and get like move away sometimes, and the same with it. If you think, like you know, she's got this really wealthy family, I want you to work on yourself a scene. It's not like she Okay, The reason why she didn't tell you is not because she doesn't think you're good She wouldn't be dating you if she didn't think you were good enough.
She just doesn't want that family money to get in the way of building a normal relationship and a normal love. Life. You have no idea. I mean, I don't want to sit here and talk about the plight of the poor, trust fundus, the plight of the rich people. There's poor children with all that money, but they really have a hard time finding healthy mates because they get targeted by people who want money and want their money or want
to get close to their family or their connections. So they don't they hide it so they can just be seen for them. I think you should treat your girlfriend the way you always treated your girlfriend. It's just a wonderful person and you need to work on your self esteem, maybe even with a therapist. Okay, here's another question that just came in. And by the way, I am live on TikTok right now. If you'd like to come on
to TikTok and say hello to me, you certainly can. The handle everywhere is at doctor Wendy Walsh at are Wendy Walsh, and while we're live on TikTok, I also want to mention that if you want to come over to my patreon, I do a live Zoom Room Zoom Room every Wednesday night and we talk about it's kind of like I always say, it's like a book club without the book. We talk about the latest and scientific research on relationships.
We talk about relationship skills. People do disclose some of their personal stuff and the group sometimes ways in. But it's not therapy. It's just a wonderful community of relationship enthusiasts. So if you want to join that, it's patreon dot com slash doctor Wendy Welsh. Okay, let me go back to social media. I see there's a question, Dear doctor Wendy. I think I'm bisexual. I come from a very religious and strict family, and I'm not sure how to tell them. What do you suggest? Well, I
have a few things to say. First of all, I know I'm going to get all those crazy, evil emails from every side of the spectrum. Evolutionary psychologist would say that every single human being is bisexual. Calm down, not necessarily in behavior, not necessarily in this life and this time. But we are all wired because sex is used for many more things than just reproduction.
We are wired to seek closeness and affection and even sexual contact. And sometimes in our evolutionary past, we were in a mating marketplace where there weren't enough mates to go around. Right now, for instance, we have an oversupply in America of successful women. The feminization of college campuses has been going on for a few decades. For every two guys that graduate college, there are three women. And this has been going on for a long time.
Women, young women are starting to make more money than their male counterparts. There are plenty of women, sadly who still have their own Cinderella complex, who would rather date another successful women than a less successful man. I don't necessarily condone this, and so as a result, when you have an oversupply of one gender innimating marketplace in this case, I can comically successful women, then you're going to see bisexual behave. You're much more condoned and accepted in
the culture. But I digress. So first of all, you also said I think I'm bisexual. You won't know until you experiment. Almost everybody goes through a period of experimentation in their life. I don't think rushing to tell your family is the thing to do. They don't need to know about your
sex life necessarily. I mean it'll be different if you find a primary, secure love relationship, and you know relationships are bridge between tribes and you want to introduce them to your mate, great, They don't need to hear about your experimentation. Just go be you, be real, and don't turn this into a big problem before it's a problem. It's okay, and we're all we're all just people. We're all just finding ways to stay connected and to
love each other. And good luck to you. Always breaks my heart when I get those calls. All right, when we come back, are you being micro ghosted? Micro ghosted? It's actually different than red crumbing. I know all these new terms. I'll explain when we come back. You are listening to The Doctor Wendy Walls Show and kf I Am six forty. We're live everywhere on the iHeartRadio Act. You're listening to Doctor Wendy Walsh on demand from kf I Am sixty I Am six forty. You have Doctor Wendy Walsh
with you. This is the home stretch of the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show. Producer Kayla, have you ever been ghosted? Um? I don't think so, not that I can remember. I don't think so. I'm lucky you yea yeah one time, yes, ma'am. And so wait first, Kayla, so what happened? Like how cloaks were you when you got ghosted. I just met the guy and we were supposed to go on some date somewhere when I first moved here, and then he just stopped responding to me.
Oh yeah, I can't remember. What did I feel like? It didn't feel great. It didn't feel great. He was my plans for the day, and I was like, I guess I'm just going to chill in the house, because there's more than a plan. Don't you take it like totally personally? Like I didn't know him well enough to take it personally personally, but I was like, oh, man, Christina, what about you? Well, doctor Minnie, I have the same attachment style as you. I
took it very personally. We were on like date four or five, and I just I could not understand. I couldn't comprehend. We don't have to answer this, but had you had sex? We had not? Okay, thank goodness, because that's the worst. Right. They court up until the sex and then they ghost like nothing more painful. I've even told people that before the first time I have sex, I'm like, I fully expect flowers. I expect you to sleep over, I expect you to call tomorrow check
in with me. I'd give them a whole owner's manual of how to deal with me after they've had sex for the first time. I was ghosted one time, and it was a terrible ghosting because I went on one date with a guy, this obviously before I met Julio, and it went okay, Like it wasn't like huge sparks. It went okay. And then there was a whole bunch of texting back and forth, and I, you know, I was just tracking, you know, when you're looking at text and you're
busy doing other things. And maybe I said something I don't know in the text, and he wrote rude and sent one of those little gifts like you're being rude or something, and I didn't know what he was talking about. I just kind of moved on with it didn't matter. So like a week later, he texts me and says, oh, you want to get together for dinner at this place whatever? And I'm like, go sure. So he goes, I'll come to your neighborhood. You name the restaurant I do.
So I get dressed up, I walk over to the restaurant and he does not show up. He literally leaves me alone in a restaurant. This is not decades ago. This is fairly recently, right before I met Julio. So you know, I am one to make lemonade at Lemons. The owner chef was at the bar, so ISAAIH can I move? I was at a two top table. I said, oh, my companion is unable to make it to night. He had a last minut cancel. Could we could I just sit up at the bar and they said sure. So I
sat at the bar. I ordered dinner. I know most people would leave the restaurant with their tail between their legs. Not I. I am going out high. I sit at the bar. I introduced myself. I tell the owner chef, bartender, you know, I just got stood up. He's like you, that's impossible. Oh my god. So he ends up pouring me all kinds of free wine. I'm tasting all his foods. I'm talking to the guy next to me at the bar, and they're all commiserating
with me, like I can't believe it. It turned out to be one of the best nights I had. Such a night. So anyway, I was worried because when you have an anxious attachment style and somebody ghosts you, you can only imagine one thing. One thing, Christina, did you know what that thing is? That we imagine where'd they go? They fell into a wood chipper. They died exactly exactly they died. That is all we
can imagine is they died. So I was actually worried about it. I sent a few texts like are you okay, I'm a little worried aboutever nothing,
and I'm like, he must be dead, that's it. And then one night, like a week or so later, I'm having dinner with my I think my daughter was like eighteen at the time, with her no, seventeen with her seven the teenagers high school, and I'm telling and she's like, my mom got completely stood up. I'm like, you're kidding him, And all the girls were like and then one of the girls is like, let me just call him, call him, let me call him for my
phone. And I'm like, what, you're gonna call him? So she calls him and he answers and she says is this so and so says his name, and he says, yes, who's this? And she just says you should be so ashamed of yourself and hung up at him and then blocked him. I'm like, these teenagers, these teenagers out there to protect me anyway. That was a story of true ghosting. But another thing that's happening in our culture is something called micro ghosting. Now, micro ghosting is where
they just kind of take a little longer to respond to those texts. When you call, they don't call back, they text. They just take their sweet old time and you can feel the distance. Right now, there's another trend in dating. I love these funny names. I don't know who makes up these names called breadcrumbing. Now, breadcrumbing is a little it looks very similar right, inconsistent contact, mostly texting, except breadcrumbing is designed to bring
to reel you in, bring you closer. Let me just throw her a little bit of bait so she doesn't go away, because I want to keep her as a backup mate. I got my little harem here. I'm going to breadcrumb this one. Shoot or a text everyone as well. Do some likes on her Instagram posts, be kind of like oh yeah, you know, just to make sure that she hasn't dropped off and that if I ever
needed to reach out that direction, she'd be there. That's breadcrumbing. Micro ghosting is, you know, Oh, I don't even know, if this relationship is right, maybe I should get out of it. They're just unsure about the relationship right, and so they really are slowly moving away. Now, this also happened to me once. That's that video I put on Instagram. They got like three million views and it was just a story that I was telling, but it got a lot of views. And so I had
been dating this guy for not that long. I want to say, Oh God, three four weeks or something, and something shifted. It could have been something I said again, I say things that us upset people. Something I said, so whatever, something else going on his life. I don't know, but I felt the distance starting, taking a little longer to respond to my text texting instead of calling, not having a next date on the
calendar, I could just feel it. So instead I called. He happened to pick up, which was a miracle, and I just said hey, I just commented on the elephant of the living room. I was like, hey, I'm noticing, like we kind My favorite line is we kind of lost our rhythm. We lost our rhythm there, and I'm wondering why. Just as I said it like that, and he hummed and hot and kind of said something yeah, I noticed that I don't really know why either, and I said, cool, goodbye, darling. No worries. Now,
this doesn't mean that I didn't feel lost. This doesn't mean that I didn't feel sad. In fact, I had a little boohoo in the shower. I was sad, right, But I knew to cut things off because I was not going to go down that road of being stringed along by anybody ever again. And when I first gave him the opportunity to say, oh, no, I'm sorry, I've just been busy working. Let's definitely make up for it. Let's get together Fried, he didn't that he was homin and
han. I had all the information I needed by just being direct. So if you feel yourself being micro ghosted, don't do what many girls do, which is say I'm putting gender on it, because more often happens with guys do it to women. Don't like start to act like the perfect person and put more provocative house on Instagram or contry to contact him more, or reel him in and breadcrumb him in some way. Just comment on it, and
if you don't get the answer you want, move along. That's what I say, all right, That brings the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show to a close. You can find me every Sunday from seven to nine pm right here on KFI AM six forty. I'm also on social media everywhere. The handle is at doctor Wendy Walsh and I have a wonderful group on Patreon on Wednesday nights. You're welcome to join patreon dot com slash doctor Wendy Walsh. Kayla Christina raoul Mark. Wonderful to have you guys again. We will see you next
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