Episode 100 of Don’t Cut Your Bangs is here! What. In. The. World. How did this happen? What a wonderful wonderful (written 2x for emphasis) thing to write and say. In this week’s episode, I enlisted the help of a friend and coach, Juanita Molano Para . She’s a former guest turned temporary host that took me down memory lane, and together we explored the following: What does celebration mean? Why I had such a hard time figuring out how I wanted to celebrate reaching the 100th episode. Hint - cel...
Feb 25, 2022•49 min•Season 13Ep. 1
Social media influencer, producer, and expert Kenzie Kittle and I take a deep dive into the underbelly of social media - Villains, Bullies & Trolls. What is it like to be trolled at scale? You’re doing the right things, your platform is growing, AND so is your exposure to virtual bullies. Is it possible to get “thick skin,” “shrug it off,” or “NOT worry about it”? Kenzie and I explore these questions and how she protects herself, as well as her clients. We also talk about the beauty and connecti...
Feb 21, 2022•1 hr 10 min
What does it mean to trust the way you feel when people you trust, who love you, or leading experts disagree? Who actually knows what’s best for us? Wanting the approval of others and wanting to reach consensus with important decisions in our lives can potentially keep us stuck in people pleasing, over committing and anxiety. Opinions are not facts, and Google is not research. How can we approach differing opinions with compassionate curiosity without abandoning ourselves in the process? Buy my ...
Feb 14, 2022•26 min
Jenna Streit, Director of Advancement for The Milk Bank of Indianapolis , and I talk about the history of the organization, the families they serve and how mothers supporting mothers are heroes in our community. Jenna and I share stories of healing, connection, and why every mother deserves to support herself and her family in ANY way she chooses. Jenna answers FAQs about donor milk, stigma, and the life saving work that The Milk Bank does in the community. Join the Workshop HERE Grab a copy of ...
Feb 07, 2022•38 min
There have been SO MANY moments when I’m in a session with a client where I think to myself, “Gah! I wish more people could hear this!” Enter - Session Reflections. These solocasts are my way of letting you be a fly on the wall for some of the most incredible insights that my psychotherapy clients experience. The details about who they are will be omitted to protect their privacy, as well as many of the details about their specific experience. What will be shared are profound insights, BIG heart...
Jan 31, 2022•22 min•Season 12Ep. 96
Teresa and I talk about working with coaches and being in therapy, all of the beauty that can come from showing up consistently, and how when you do you’re regularly asking for stress sweat. We talk about my experience working with Teresa for 6 months as a coach, how she helped me build my first online courses, and why technology can feel like such a pain in the @ss sometimes! (Hint: bc it is) We explore what we do when we feel stuck and what helps us get out of it. Join the Workshop HERE Grab a...
Jan 27, 2022•1 hr 17 min
Doubt - What does it mean? Why do we feel it? What do we do about it? A preview to upcoming episodes, and what to expect from the podcast moving forward. Doubt - Why do we feel it? What does it mean? How does it affect our behavior? And, what the heck are we supposed to do when we feel it? I share a journal entry (in real time) as an example for when I last experienced doubt, how I felt, and share a process that could be helpful to you too. Referenced in the episode: Join the Workshop HERE Grab ...
Jan 17, 2022•42 min
Meet Gary Noesner - author, instructor, investigator, and FBI negotiator. Gary served as the lead hostage negotiator during the first 25 days of the 51-day siege in Waco TX. His book Stalling for Time, My life as an FBI Hostage Negotiator became the framework with the Netflix mini-series WACO . In his words, "I've talked about WACO more in the past couple of months than in my entire career, but if you don't know history you're destined to repeat it." We explore what it feels like to be negotiati...
Dec 21, 2021•1 hr 20 min
Meet Carey Anderson, a former Broadway performer turned therapist. Carey and I sit down to talk about what it looks like to put yourself out there and get rejected - over and over and over again. What we both learned from our time in the performing arts, and what led to making the career leap to psychotherapy. What I love about this episode is how well it demonstrates that though the details of our life are so diverse, the things we want out of life are the same. We want our life to have meaning...
Nov 09, 2021•1 hr 20 min
Does this sound like you? You’re busy trying to live and work perfectly. The need to get it ALL leads to you feeling anxious and confused. This can lead to us doubting our choices and feeling overwhelmed, and before we know it - we’re burnt out. And just when it feels like we can’t add one more thing you hear, "Take a self-care day!" or "Take a break!," but what does that even mean??? If this feels like you and you’re looking for relief, I want to invite you to "The Overachiever Spiral Workshop....
Nov 01, 2021•1 hr 13 min•Season 11Ep. 90
Today, I want to talk about taking a step back and listening to your emotions, but what does it mean exactly? Examples would look like: Feeling irritable or overly tired Having some form of difficulty in your everyday routine Unclear on why you are feeling a certain way More often than not, we can determine what is contributing to our changes in mood. However, there are times when it’s hard to pinpoint the root cause of your distress, and that’s when our emotions are trying to tell us something....
Oct 18, 2021•42 min
Welcome back!!! It feels so good to be back in front of the microphone and talking with you all again. Many of you know that I have been on maternity leave for the last few months. Once a week, maybe even more than that, I started thinking about making the transition and getting back into work and coming off of maternity leave, which is crazy because maternity leave suggests that I was not working and taking the time to do what exactly? Now, we all know what maternity leave looks like, of course...
Oct 05, 2021•35 min
We're Back For An All-New Season Coming October 4th!!! This episode covers ALL bases - boundaries, loss, leaps of faith, making dreams come true, and laughing 'til you cry. Teresa Sabatine wants to help you build a meaningful life. Certified coach, founder of The Jump Network, Teresa currently oversees Film Indy, as the first Film Commissioner for the city of Indianapolis. Film Indy is focused on marketing and growing the current local production talent and recruiting new film and television pro...
Sep 24, 2021•1 hr 9 min
This stage, I lovingly call - > Embrace the suck. The truth is, change is hard. Even when we know it's good for us and ESPECIALLY when it's something we really really want. The greater our desire: ✔️The higher the stakes ✔️The more we have to lose ✔️The more vulnerable we feel if it doesn't work out "Embracing the suck" doesn't mean that every step along the way will be a painful one. What it means is that even when it's hard, even when you doubt yourself -> you can move forward an...
Mar 29, 2021•18 min•Season 10Ep. 86
You know what you want, you've taken some steps to make it happen, and then ... FEAR SETS IN. This is COMPLETELY normal AND also the point when we're most likely to: *Avoid *Numb *Procrastinate ...Or, abandon the process all together. Listen now to learn more about what I tell clients when they feel stuck and what's worked for me. Enjoy! Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walrus, HERE! If this episode got your wheels turning and you're ready to take self-exploration to the next level in the N...
Mar 22, 2021•22 min
In today's episode we talk about what comes after inspiration strikes. We start to image what it would be like to: *Be in a new place *Have a new relationship *Feel better Then, we start to: ✔️Day dream ✔️Research ✔️Make plans This part of change can be really exciting AND it can also be where fear, doubt, and worry begin to creep in. It's where we start to see the road ahead of us and what could be required to make our dreams a reality. Enjoy! Buy my NEW book Wrestling a Walr...
Mar 15, 2021•19 min
What ACTUALLY leads to change? It's usually one of two things: Discomfort or Desire "I'm in pain, and I want out." "I'm frustrated, and I want to feel better." "I'm bored, and I want to feel inspired." Knowing what the catalyst is for you can be powerful exercise AND can help you stay on track. When we're ready for change there are 3 things we often feel, say, or do: We feel - Frustrated, Tired, Anxious We say - "Ugh!", "This has to stop.", "This sucks!" We do - Hit snooze, a...
Mar 08, 2021•32 min
Meet Kate Kennett - coach, mother, teacher, friend, and fellow whale lover. She's worn a lot of hats in her professional life, but one of things I love most about her story, and this interview, is how she's approached change head-on and with humility. Her experiences have taught her the value in saying "Yes" - even when you don't feel ready, and how to learn from every mistake. More importantly, she wants to help you do the same. One of my favorite takeaways from this episode - “Ask yourself...
Jan 27, 2021•1 hr 28 min
Professional podcast manager and co-host of Two Sisters and a Cult , Alesia Galati and I explore questions like: How do I know what are my original thoughts vs my training? What do I really want my life to look like? What does it mean when the people our lives don’t agree? We relate on a shared sentiment of being in our mid 20’s, looking around at our lives and asking, “Who’s life am I really living?” We also explore the impact of someone you admire confirming the worst fear you have about yours...
Nov 13, 2020•57 min
My boo David Dellen is back and we’re talking about our journey over the last two years with all things: 💚Baby’s 💚Fertility 💚Parenting (in theory) In this episode we laugh at each other, and ourselves, A LOT as we explore our “best guesses” with what it means to become parents, how we hope to be, and the thoughts that keep us up tonight. I know I may be bias, but he’s my favorite person. And together, we’re making a person. So, yeah… this episode was pretty fun. If you want to go...
Nov 02, 2020•1 hr 6 min
Meet Gary Noesner - author, instructor, investigator, and FBI negotiator. Gary served as the lead hostage negotiator during the first 25 days of the 51 day siege in Waco TX. His book Stalling for Time, My life as an FBI Hostage Negotiator became the framework with the Netflix mini-series WACO . In his words, "I've talked about WACO more in the past couple months than in my entire career, but if you don't know history you're destined to repeat it." We explore what it feels like to be negotiating ...
Jul 28, 2020•1 hr 20 min
Meet Sonja Overhiser from A Coule Cooks . What began 10 years ago as an attempt to throw better dinner parties, has grown into a nationally recognized food, wellness, and lifestyle blog. Sonja and her husband Alex, took their love of food, connection, & community and build a multifaceted business driven by their love nutrient dense food, supporting their community, and keeping it simple. In this conversation we talk about their first national tv appearance on The Today Show , their new cookbook ...
Jul 13, 2020•52 min
Today's episode is all about healing. Specifically as it relates to - emotional healing emotional recovery emotional work About a week ago a client that I'd been working with for about 5 months asked me, "How do you know when you're done?" We explored the question for a little while, and what became clear was that she wanted to know - "...when I've healed what I need to heal, and how do I really know when I've made progress?" The short answer is that the less activated a painful emotion is in yo...
Jun 24, 2020•26 min
Owner of Lux Lab Hair and Body , Corey Sleet joins me on this episode to talk about his journey as a kid from Gary, IN working side jobs to buy Air Jordans, to becoming one of the leading professionals in his field. I first sat in his chair over 7yrs ago, and what I appreciate most about Corey is his unique blend of humor, honesty, and professionalism. Today he's fully in his element, with a consistent waitlist of clients, traveling all over the country applying color, and inspiring clients to t...
May 20, 2020•1 hr 9 min
Don't Cut Your Own Bangs ep. 43 with Tanorria Askew ! After speaking on a panel together for Hive Indy , I was struck by Tanorria's mix of authenticity and humor. In this week's episode we talk about her career in corporate America, taking a leap of faith to audition for Master Chef Season 7 ... spoiler alert - she made it, and coming home to Indy to combine her passion for for creating connection and building communities around the dinner table. We talk about what it means to take a leap of fai...
Apr 27, 2020•1 hr 3 min
Today I'm talking to Leah Carey , sexual communication coach and creator of the podcast - Good Girls Talk About Sex . Leah has a unique ability to discuss sensitive topics with candor, authenticity, and humor. In this episode we explore the power of pleasure, asking for what you want, and honoring what you need. In her words, "I believe that taking control of our sexuality, speaking up for our needs, and talking honestly about what really matters is the essence of goodness, kindness, and integri...
Mar 30, 2020•1 hr 15 min
Casey Jordan is a TEDx and Keynote speaker who's passionate about helping clients to shift from surviving to thriving and has message that we can all benefit from: Stop wasting your time. An Iraq war veteran and Purple Heart recipient, Casey has a deep value and appreciation for making the most of each day. She and I discuss her experience of surviving an explosion, the impact it had on her mental and emotional wellbeing, and her journey to re-discover what true wellness looks like for her now. ...
Mar 02, 2020•1 hr 8 min
Last June at 13 weeks pregnant, I experienced a miscarriage. The physical, mental, and emotional toll the experience took on my husband and myself was heavy. I knew shortly after this was a story I wanted to share and needed to tell, in part for my own healing (I'm an external processor). I also felt this was my way to honor the grace that had been given to me. I now recognize that - in the early stages of healing - part of my recovery was credited to a group of nurses who came into my hospital ...
Feb 18, 2020•33 min
Where do baby goats, farmer's markets, and fighting food scarcity in Indianapolis meet? One woman ---> Erin Peckinpaugh. Erin, is bravery personified. Upon reflection, it's clear that she trusted an internal knowingness that her career path needed to change in a major way- AND she didn't gloss over her accompanying experiences with uncertainty and doubt. When we're in the midst of a major life transition, it's nearly impossible to see ourselves as brave because feeling terrified is such a big pa...
Feb 04, 2020•1 hr 21 min
Dear Listeners, you are in for a treat. This episode features two people that are so near and dear to my heart - Sarah Kleinknecht & Marie Demolein. Trust me when I tell you, these are women worth your time. Based in Los Angeles, Sarah is a nutritionist, natural beauty expert, private chef, BIG laugher, hard worker, & dedicated friend. Based in Sao Paulo, Brazil, Marie is a restaurant owner, mother of a baby boy, skincare and beauty expert, & dedicated friend...Oh! and did I mention she speaks f...
Oct 22, 2019•1 hr 2 min
