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Don't Change A Thing

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Join hosts Elisa Goodkind and Lily Mandelbaum, the mother-daughter duo renowned for their groundbreaking YouTube channel StyleLikeU and 'What's Underneath' series, as they delve deep into the heart of radical self-love in an intimate filmed podcast. From cultural icons to lesser-known gems, each episode features a guest working to proudly embrace their identity through the lens of unapologetic personal style, challenging societal norms and owning their differences as superpowers.

Through candid conversations exploring themes of redefining beauty, dress as self-expression, and shedding shame, Elisa and Lily not only spotlight those who defy conformity but also unravel the complexities of their own evolving relationship in the name of self-acceptance.

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Episodes

Everything You Need to Know About Self-Acceptance: Podcast Season 2 Finale

Welcome to the Season 2 finale of “Don’t Change A Thing”! From redefining beauty and reclaiming confidence to owning personal-style and radical self-love, our wonderfully unique and singular guests remind us that freedom begins when we stop trying to fit in. Tune in to this final episode for golden takeaways and nourishing nuggets that will transform the way you think about deep, unrestrained self-acceptance, along with exciting news of what’s coming soon from Style Like U! What were your favori...

Aug 16, 202541 minEp. 93

My Superpower is Being “Too Much”: Moonchild Sanelly

Singer, songwriter, and fashion designer Moonchild Sanelly has reclaimed the label “overbearing” as a badge of honor. When mentors told her she was too much, she refused to shrink, proving instead the power that is creative expression unrestricted by boxes or rules. Moonchild’s music is her medicine, and her style, sound, and story are declarations of freedom. She processes her pain through her music in order to heal herself and others, overcoming eating disorders, sexual abuse, and bullying, an...

Aug 02, 202543 minEp. 92

Rejecting the Hetero Blueprint Was My Gateway to the Good Life: Lava La Rue

Musician and director Lava La Rue opts out of any system that seeks to control them. From embracing their queerness in the face of a traditional Christian background to rejecting the idea of a 9 to 5, they take accountability for their choices, which has aligned them with their truth and set them free. Tune in now to learn why having the bravery to stand out not only brings your life together but is the antidote to our world’s judgement, hatred, and violence. Watch the video version of the podca...

Jul 19, 202558 minEp. 91

How Adversity Gave Me My Voice: Intersex “Ponyboi” Filmmaker River Gallo

Intersex filmmaker and actor River Gallo debuted their first feature-length film “Ponyboi” on June 27th, turning their “otherness” into their power. Coming of age in an antiquated world that tried to erase them by deeming their intersex variant medically and socially “faulty,” River discovered the truth of their wholeness through the joy of self-expression, sobriety, and spiritual enlightenment. Tune in now to learn how they overcame the crushing weight of being forced into the mold of manhood a...

Jul 05, 202558 minEp. 90

Hot, Wise, and Free in her 70s: Creator of “The Vagina Monologues” V (Formerly Eve Ensler)

V (formerly Eve Ensler), rebellious flower child and author of “ The Vagina Monologues” , DEMANDS liberation . In a world that once tried to destroy her, surviving family sexual abuse as a child, she claims life, committed to feeling the depths of pain and the heights of joy. V defends humanity in the face of fascism, from protesting nude in her 20s to embracing her sensuality in her 70s. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how V healed from her trauma and reconnected with the magnificent cr...

Jun 21, 20251 hr 19 minEp. 88

Everything You’ve Been Told Is a Lie: Barry Brandon

Queer, creative powerhouse Barry Brandon found his way back to his heel-wearing, unshackled childhood self by embracing a radical truth: everything he’d been told was a lie. After surviving multiple heart surgeries before his mid twenties, Barry realized early on that he couldn’t live his life “safe,” watered-down, or stuck behind a desk. Instead he unlocks the portal to his most freed self through small moments of defiance that ultimately turn into life-defining choices. Tune in to this week’s ...

Jun 05, 20251 hr 13 minEp. 87

A Rockstar With a Limb-Difference: Victoria Canal

Singer-songwriter Victoria Canal was born with one arm – but that never stopped her from stepping into the spotlight. Victoria challenges assumptions and questions celebrity culture, embodying the liberating belief that your body doesn’t define how you move through the world. Embracing her limb-difference, position in the public eye, and recovery from sexual assault, Victoria makes space to live out her depth and nuance. She reveals that while her wildest dream is to win a Grammy, she also crave...

May 29, 20251 hrEp. 86

“Bad Feminist” Roxane Gay: Is Perfection Holding You Back from Self-Acceptance?

Author, "bad feminist", and cultural icon Roxane Gay believes that self-acceptance isn’t a destination – in a society obsessed with robotic perfectionism, embracing our messy, complex humanity is a radical mindset. She attempts to welcome the parts that don’t fit the mold of her “ideal” self, including her trauma, fatness, age, lack of self-love and finding romance later in life. Roxane chooses acceptance over shame, nuance over binaries, and grace over judgement for herself and others. How woul...

May 15, 202558 minEp. 85

I’m 35 and the Biological Clock Is Ticking: Elisa & Lily on Motherhood vs Career

In this special Mother’s Day episode of DCAT, Elisa and Lily get raw about the pressure of the biological clock—from Lily’s decision to freeze her eggs at 35 to Elisa’s choice to leave her styling career to become a full-time mom. Together, they explore the sacrifices motherhood demands, the tension between ambition and caregiving, and the intergenerational conflict around bringing children into an uncertain world. Is choosing motherhood an act of hope—or a gamble on a future that feels impossib...

May 08, 202538 minEp. 84

How Chappell Roan’s Stylist Failed Her Way to Success: Genesis Webb

How did Genesis Webb go from a misunderstood, punk wallflower in the Bible Belt to superwoman stylist to artists like Chappell Roan and Lisa? A mixture of constant failure and unyielding faith in her authentic self. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how being an outcast gave Genesis the strength to drive pop culture. Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeU We want to hear from you! Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like...

May 01, 202545 minEp. 83

The Bible Says the Truth Will Set You Free… & I’m GAY: Queen of Melrose Cosmo Lombino

How do you get to be the Queen of Melrose? You start as a little catholic queen with a mob dad and an accepting family, punching the bullies back, and living steadfastly by his own version of the Bible adage “the truth will set you free.” That’s how gay internet personality, fashion designer, and stylist Cosmo Lombino did it anyways. From his battle with addiction to the soaring success of self-expression that is his store “Cosmo’s Glamsquad,” tune in to get inspired by Cosmo Lombino and how he ...

Apr 24, 202545 minEp. 82

I Failed Loudly to Get This Fearless: Amber Ruffin

After over a decade of being vulnerable on stage, comedian Amber Ruffin delivers the magnetic message that someone else’s truth is your lie, so take risks and fail loudly, because you are discovering your most authentic path. Amber has learned not to shrink herself – in fact, she’s embraced herself so much that she was uninvited from hosting the White House Correspondents' Dinner. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how Amber taps into her “consequences be damned” attitude, pushing humor to ...

Apr 17, 202549 minEp. 81

How I Loved Myself When My Family Didn’t: Flèche Love

Musician, composer, and artist Flèche Love found strength in her imagination, using clothing, music, and her voice as a vehicle to access the self-worth she didn’t receive in her loveless childhood home. She healed herself through self-expression, renaming herself, writing music, covering herself in tattoos, learning multiple languages, and dressing herself into the characters she imagined. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how Flèche Love reclaimed and redefined herself from a victim of t...

Apr 10, 202556 minEp. 80

Lena Waithe Is at Peace With Being Different

Lena Waithe, Emmy winning writer, actor, and producer, has learned one essential writer’s rule: don’t judge your characters, but rather try to understand them. Living in a state of nonconformity and nuance, she has no need to worship OR tear down idols and celebrities, treats herself and others with grace, and is committed to the limitless internal value and beauty that everyone possesses, regardless of what society has told her. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how Lena lives life with a...

Apr 03, 202552 minEp. 79

Love Yourself Like Democracy Depends on It: Sarah Jones

In this week’s episode, actress, comedian, writer, and director Sarah Jones is the embodiment of turning rejection into alignment. As a multicultural, Black artist who always felt like she was too much, she was boxed into minor, stereotypical roles in the entertainment industry. So, she created her own Tony Award-winning cast of diverse characters in her one-woman shows. Now she’s taking her understanding of the power of self-acceptance to the next level in this moment of extreme polarization th...

Mar 27, 20251 hr 4 minEp. 78

Why Skinny Is Back In, StyleLikeU Origins, & Call for Listener Questions: Lily and Elisa

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to work with your mom? In this week’s episode, Elisa and Lily uncover the StyleLikeU origin story and get real about everything from FOMO to the underbelly of the fashion industry to their recent decision to “individuate” after 15 years of working side-by-side. Tune in now to hear how grappling with being beginners again has pushed their self-acceptance journeys to a next chapter amidst a cultural backlash against liberation. We want to hear from you!...

Mar 20, 202532 minEp. 77

How this Death Doula Cracked the Code to Life: Alua Arthur

New York Times bestselling author Alua Arthur did everything “right,” but after years as a lawyer left her drained and numb to her humanity, she found a surprising escape – death work. As a death doula, Alua discovered the freedom to be fully alive, guiding the dying and their loved ones to the next chapter. Tune into this week’s episode to learn how a loving relationship with death, aligned Alua in her purpose of helping others by radically accepting life, death, and ALL parts of themselves. Wa...

Mar 13, 202547 minEp. 76

Why Emilia Fart Traded in Being Small to Be Free

From villainesque lipstick to braid charms made of drag queens’ earrings, gay, fat artist, writer, and YouTuber Emilia Fart unapologetically fills her reality with magic. Whether she’s using her platform to call out hate speech, or dressing in layered, deliciously monochrome outfits to break suffocating beauty standards, she thrives through taking up space. Tune in to this week’s episode as Emilia reveals how to be extravagant in a world that wants you to be small. Watch the video version of the...

Mar 06, 202552 minEp. 75

How this Boomer Became a Gen Z Style Icon: Heidi Clements

Writer, storyteller, style-lover, and viral pro-aging influencer Heidi Clements’ bread and butter is convincing women to be confident in exactly who they are. Heidi has lived a life full of self-discovery, including navigating childhood trauma, shedding shame through sobriety, and becoming fully comfortable in her single status – but still open to being swept off her feet. Tune into this week’s episode as Heidi reveals to Elisa how she’s given up a life of people-pleasing, putting herself first ...

Feb 27, 202559 minEp. 74

I Infiltrated the Met Gala…in a Dress Made of Garbage: Maya Penn

25 year-old veteran environmentalist, artist, and sustainable designer Maya Penn’s never felt ashamed of being an outsider. At eight years old Maya harnessed the hope of climate activism as a form of self-love against systems of greed and destruction. She’s never been one to follow a trend, from insisting on her natural curls, to giving three Ted Talks, to wearing a dress made of garbage to the Met Gala. Tune in to this week’s episode as Maya reveals to Elisa how she’s fully accepted herself as ...

Feb 20, 202555 minEp. 73

Why I gave up my Happily Ever After: April Kae

April Kae, artist and viral bassist in the band Fever 333, used to live her life to please others. From eating disorders to clothing, she erased herself and her curves in the pursuit of safety. She unsuccessfully chased happiness and self-worth through her devotion to caretaking and marriage, starving herself emotionally in the process. Tune into this week’s episode as April reveals to Elisa how she broke the vicious cycle of invisibility and now takes up space, defying society’s expectations wi...

Feb 13, 20251 hr 5 minEp. 72

Trans Supergirl Nicole Maines’ Secret to Self-Acceptance

Nicole Maines, trans activist, actor, and bestselling author, never doubted who she was from three years old. In this week’s episode, she explores with Elisa the painful journey of having to hide in order to survive - something no one should ever have to do. Tune in now to learn how she maintained the strength to be unapologetically herself, secure the legal right for trans kids across her state to use school bathrooms, and take up the mantle of TV’s first ever live-action trans superhero, Dream...

Feb 06, 20251 hr 6 minEp. 71

How Letting Go of Shame Got Me Off the Sidelines | Bestselling Author Candice Brathwaite

To the untrained eye, Candice Brathwaite—bestselling author, podcaster, journalist, and presenter— had it all, including a vivacious wardrobe. But in this week’s episode, she reveals to Elisa that while she was talking the talk, she wasn’t truly walking the walk, seeking approval from external sources. Tune in now to learn how Candice has truly cracked the code to wringing everything out of life: making herself vulnerable and accepting ALL parts of herself. Watch the video version of the podcast...

Jan 30, 20251 hr 10 minEp. 70

Mother-Daughter Duo Elisa & Lily Get Real: We’re Changing (Some) Things for Season 2!

Welcome back to Season 2 of our video podcast, “Don’t Change a Thing”! This season, we’ve shifted to a virtual format to reach our dream guests from all over the world. Expect endless golden nuggets as we interview guests who work to proudly own their identities, discover their personal style, challenge societal norms, and embrace their differences as superpowers. Another change this season: Elisa is stepping into her voice as the primary host while Lily’s stepping into her shoes as a documentar...

Jan 23, 202531 minEp. 69

Why People Hate When You’re in Love With Yourself: Jeffrey Marsh’s Guide To Being ‘Too Much’

In this episode of Don't Change a Thing, a solo Elisa goes deep with Jeffrey Marsh, the non-binary author and life coach—not to mention viral TikTok star—who wasn’t always the ray of sunshine you see today. Growing up, Jeffrey’s visible queerness made them a target, and their isolation and pain led them to a place of despair where they were forced to denounce everything about themselves that was supposedly ‘too’ much. But, they did realize their otherness held great power; anytime they entered a...

Oct 03, 202456 minEp. 68

How I Tore through Menopause Feeling Hotter than Ever: Sexual Liberator Pamela Madsen

Welcome to this new episode of our video podcast, “Don’t Change a Thing”! In this episode, Elisa and Lily sit down with Pamela Madsen, the vivacious sexuality educator, author, and advocate who is all about helping women connect to their most erotic selves to live their best lives. Married from a young age and long affected by an eating disorder, Pamela underwent a metamorphosis in her 40s, learning about the power of touch through gay men as she started to feel safe in her body and discover her...

Sep 19, 20241 hr 5 minEp. 67

My Dreams Came True—Just as I Lost My Brother: Jonica Booth

In this NEW episode of our video podcast, "Don't Change a Thing," Elisa and Lily invite comedian and Rap Sh!t on Max star Jonica “Blu” Booth to get vulnerable about one of the most challenging times of her life. The moment Jonica got the dream opportunity she’d been working towards was the moment her brother lost his life. Watch the video version of the podcast: YouTube.com/StyleLikeU FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @StyleLikeU SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.com FOLLOW JONICA BOOTH: @jonicablubooth ...

Sep 05, 202454 minEp. 66

Blond in Car: I Found My Purpose at 58

Welcome to this new episode of our video podcast, “Don’t Change a Thing”, now published the second and fourth Thursdays of the month! This episode finds Elisa and Lily interviewing Robin Schorr as they dive deep into what it means to experience a total rebirth long after society’s told you it’s not possible. At age 58, Robin—a prestigious Hollywood film exec and producer— had an epiphany: why was she so hardcore about a career that wasn’t her life’s purpose? Never quite fitting in as she climbed...

Aug 22, 20241 hr 8 minEp. 65

Victoria Pedretti: I Felt So Insecure on Broadway But Now I’m Owning Who I Am

Welcome to the fifth episode of our new podcast, Don’t Change a Thing, sponsored by BetterHelp, the online, accessible therapy site. Visit Betterhelp.com/dontchange and use promo code: dontchange to try BetterHelp today. In this NEW episode of our podcast, "Don't Change a Thing," Elisa and Lily reconnect with actress Victoria Pedretti who previously sat down with them for an episode of “What’s Underneath.” Victoria—star of Netflix’s “The Haunting of Hill House,” “The Haunting of Bly Manor” and “...

Aug 08, 202459 minEp. 64

How Designer Mara Hoffman Found the Courage to Shut Down Her Sustainable Label

Welcome to the fourth episode of our new podcast, Don’t Change a Thing, sponsored by BetterHelp, the online, accessible therapy site. Visit Betterhelp.com/dontchange and use promo code: dontchange to try BetterHelp today. In this NEW episode of our podcast, "Don't Change a Thing," Elisa and Lily sit down with Mara Hoffman, the groundbreaking sustainable fashion designer who recently made the tough decision to shutter her eponymous label of 24 years. Mara, who worships women, reflects on the joy ...

Jul 25, 20241 hr 7 minEp. 62
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