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Kicking off 2024 with our sneakers laced and humor at the ready, Dr. Nii and I, Dr. Renée, are your willing accomplices in setting personal fitness goals that stick. Picture us, stethoscopes to the side, tackling pull-ups in scrubs and sharing our resolutions that range from mastering wide grip pull-ups to making consistent workouts a non-negotiable part of our daily lives. We're not just here to motivate; we're here to get real with our own triumphs and spills in the quest for better health.

Embarking on this journey, we unearth the secrets to turning aspirations into tangible realities. Drawing wisdom from "Atomic Habits," we discuss the power of incremental changes that accumulate to create significant leaps forward. Whether you're aiming to crush a fitness plateau, ace your professional endeavors, or simply get your finances in order, we're serving up a hefty dose of inspiration paired with actionable strategies. Plus, we're cracking open the vault to our personal stories of battling procrastination and embracing organization – think Marie Kondo with a medical twist.

As we wrap up, we're sharing a toast to the year ahead, reflecting on our theme of 'Family Focus' and inviting you to join us in being more present with our loved ones. From fitness fumbles to family fun, this episode is packed with heart, humor, and a hefty dose of Dr. Nii and Dr. Renée's banter. So tune in, get comfy, and let's make 2024 a year of health, progress, and a whole lot of laughs on Doc's Outside the Box. Here's to a year of peace and progress!

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Fitness Goals for 2024

Speaker 1

All right , all right , let's jump right into this .

Speaker 2

What are those ?

Speaker 1

Man , we quit playing Some nice sneakers over here . Yo , what's good everyone . I'm Dr Me . Welcome to 2024 . I'm joined by my co-host , dr Renee . Actually , it's 2024 . I need to stop saying co-host . It is now joined by my host , my other host , or joined by . We are the host , dr Me , dr .

Speaker 3

Renee , you did this last year and quickly I got revoked .

Speaker 1

Oh , that was just a joke though , but it's 2024 . We up in our living room , the kids are asleep . And we just going to show y'all a little something different from the Darkos how we do things Right , and normally a lot of shit gets done when the kids get put to sleep .

And what you're going to see and what I want to show you is this pull up bar that I have here , this pull-up bar that I got from Amazon , and we're going to be talking about new year's resolutions this year and one of the goals , one of the things that I want to be able to do , is I want to be able to do more pull-ups , so I want to be able to do

25 wide grip pull-ups by the end of the year . The question is is why ? The reason why I want to be able to do that is ? I don't know . That just sounds like a nice number to use . You should want to stop saying is , is , but whatever , all right . Well , stop hating from the peanut gallery back there .

But 25 pull-ups to me is just like a number that would show overall fitness to me , me . So right now I can only do maybe like six , but I can do more if I do it like this . But I want to be able to do like this , which takes a lot more back muscle working on and I just been ignoring all that stuff . But yeah , that's what we here .

We sharing everything with y'all . Let's see what you got . We sharing everything with y'all , with Doc's , outside the box , the Box , so let's show y'all how we do it . Let me show you how I look when I do it .

I want you to see exactly how I look when I do my pull-ups so that by the end of the year and I'm busting it out you see where I started and where I'm at . So let's see if I can do this now . First of all , I got scrubs on , so should I start with an excuse .

Speaker 3

Listen , don't start with the first excuse , okay .

Speaker 2

Okay , let's be real .

Speaker 1

This is a worldwide exclusive y'all on Docs Outside the Box . Okay , and I'm going to have to make sure your feet are actually off the ground . Oh shit , okay , wait , you might have to go to wide view or something like that . I did go to wide view .

Speaker 3

I did go to wide view .

Speaker 1

All right , all right , let's go . I'm going to show you . All right . Are we ready ? Yes , you ready , all right .

Speaker 3

One , three , four , five , six , seven .

Speaker 2

If I do anything more than that it's going to look ugly Seven .

Speaker 1

If I do anything more than that , it's gonna look ugly . I was about to bust my lip on that last one man . Hold on a second Hold on . Does this one count ? I don't care .

Speaker 3

No , don't count , because you stopped .

Speaker 1

That's eight , all right , and that was seven consecutive , seven consecutive wide grip pull-ups , plus I had these scrubs on . If I had a tank top on , I could do more , but yeah , okay . But you know what ? Let's turn the tables on you , dr renee what physically ? Are you gonna be working on hold on ?

Put yourself on there what physically you're gonna be working on to get your uh we get my year right , my 2024 right , yeah , yeah , what you're gonna be working on all right , yeah , yeah , what you gonna be working on ?

Speaker 3

well , um , started working out , and started working out about two months ago and trying to be consistent , um which I haven't , so I don't know about what are those right ?

Speaker 2

what are those ? They are my crocs . Listen , my nephew gave me these for Christmas .

Speaker 3

Okay , so that's what those are . They'll be left now my slippers , but yeah , so I think maybe a push-up or two .

Speaker 1

Okay , so you want to do push-ups ? Yes , all right , let's see what you can do .

Speaker 3

Okay , usually I do the push-ups like the girly push-ups on . Like you know , got to get on your knees or whatever . I'm going to try to do some push-ups , not on your knees .

Speaker 1

All right , for the sake of the show , jump into it . Let's go Okay .

Speaker 3

All right , whatever . Help me , lord , now I can come up with my excuses too . I got my what's the name ? My slippers on and scrubs .

Speaker 2

Why you keep moving .

Speaker 3

Okay , but you move in . Okay , all right , on your mark , get set , go One , that's good .

Speaker 2

Two , three , four , five .

Speaker 3

All right , that's it . Damn , that's pretty good , Renee . Okay , thank you .

Speaker 2

I'm shocked .

Speaker 3

I'm dying , I'm dying .

Speaker 1

I'm dying . I'm not even gonna lie . I'm actually kind of shocked that you was able to do that .

Speaker 3

I was gonna do some marine push-ups , you know some claps in between , but I didn't want to show you up . You know what , I'm not even going to lie . I'm actually kind of shocked that you was able to do that . I was going to do some marine push-ups . You know some claps in between , but I didn't want to show you up .

Speaker 1

You know what I'm saying ? Look at that . So Look at that . Doc's outside the box , nation . Yo , you see , we don't just podcast . Yo , what do we do ? Yo , we work , we pump iron . Yo , joe , it is the calisthenics department over here .

Yeah , all right , let's , let's , let's get back to how we podcast let's get into the show , okay , so , yeah , so that's for real how we do things , guys . Is you know when the night time comes ? You know that's when we get our , we get our work on . You know , it's just how it is . Let me turn a light on here so we can see it , stuff .

So heading downstairs yep , yeah , we're heading downstairs , so let's go ahead and get ready for this podcast . And we in the studio now , just to give you guys a little different perspective on how things occur here behind the scenes . So we are , in any second , about to switch to our new not to our new studio , but Our regular setup .

Speaker 3

Our regularly scheduled programming .

Speaker 1

Mm-hmm , all right , and we are good and we are going to switch in three , two , one .

New Year's Resolutions and Achieving Goals

What's up everyone ? It's Dr Nii .

Speaker 3

And Dr Renee still Breathing through it .

Speaker 1

Turn your mic off Breathing through it . I'm still breathing from them . Pull-ups , yo , Breathing through it . So what's this show about ? Yo ? What is this show ?

Speaker 3

about what . This episode Turn your mic off , this episode you mean .

Speaker 1

Yeah , so this episode , y'all this episode is about really New Year's resolutions . Why so many people fail , why I failed in the past , why I don't know . I'm assuming you failed in the past .

Speaker 3

I sure have why so many people fail yo .

Speaker 1

You know , and you know , I think part of the thing with our show is we're talking about paying off debt . Sometimes we talk about money issues that we make or that you can make , but then also at the same time , we talk about how to get like your mind right , and that includes getting more productive and that's just a all encompassing term .

But also how can you get more efficient , how can you get more confident and how can you like use systems right in that buzzword type way you know , to kind of hack yourself into better behavior .

Speaker 2

Yeah .

Speaker 1

That's what I did last year , or at least attempted to do so , and that's kind of the , I think . Since this is like the first episode of the year , I just think that that's where we should start , which is , how do we get to a point where we're letting people know this is what we do to make ourselves more efficient ?

So let's talk about New Year's resolutions . I'm not going to front .

Speaker 3

But technically this is the second episode of the year .

Speaker 1

Well , but it's the first one that's recorded in 2024 .

Speaker 3

Correct . There you go . You don't want to confuse our audience .

Speaker 2

now I'm not going to confuse the audience and stuff . But yeah , you know so audience and stuff .

Speaker 1

But yeah , you know , so , yeah , so that's that's the gist of this conversation . Y'all is to if there's anything that you're struggling with or if there's any goals that you've always wanted to to get done . You might be studying for boards or I don't know .

Whatever it may be , there's ways in which you know this show , the topics that we talk about , can help , and let's jump right into it . Okay , so New Year's resolutions . So by the time this episode comes out , I think probably the majority of people would have given up on their New Year's resolution .

They would have been like , yeah , I'm going to eat salad Eat salad , and then let you know they're eating cupcakes or going to the gym , going to the gym or giving up soda , giving up alcohol , whatever it is . In terms of the New Year's resolutions , the statistics show that you are likely going to fail , whether in the first two months . First , six weeks .

Two weeks , two weeks . There's studies everywhere . Hold on .

Speaker 3

I'm like if you did two months , that's actually not bad .

Speaker 1

You know me , I like stats . So it says that there's a study from the University of Scranton . This is 2014 . Found that only about 8 percent of people are successful in achieving a New Year's resolutions . And obviously 90 , 92 percent failed their resolutions .

Speaker 3

Right yeah no-transcript .

Speaker 1

46 of everybody in united states I was like damn .

Speaker 3

People are just giving up , man , no , no , no respondents .

Speaker 1

Respondents so the stats show that if you're going to make a resolution , more than likely you're going to fail at it .

So yeah , but you don't have to you don't have to you , don't have to you don't have to , and I think that , um , you know the what it came down to , or what it comes down to when you're listening to the show is like , well , why should I listen to the shows ?

I think what we want to show is that through you know our mistakes and also through this dope book right here , atomic habits that I I did a review on several episodes , like last year or two years ago I did a review on this book . We're going to put this on the show notes . This book right here changed how I look at fitness .

It changed how I look at developing habits .

It changed a lot of things about what I think is possible versus not possible , and it really took a lot of the pressure off of me because , you know , this is one of those books that when you look at other people who are really successful and you want to emulate them , you think it's all because they work hard and they are motivated and that's really only a

small part of the picture it really is about . You know , in essence , the systems that they set up around them right . Like you know , just having a gym in your , in your own house , right , and the gym is like it's . It doesn't have to be like a regular gym , but like a regular small home gym .

Or like how much time do you have set for yourself to read , or how much time do you really want to spend with children , and all those different things . Like how do you set up those systems to make sure that that stuff always occurs and stuff .

So that's what we're talking about and since I've done this book , the biggest thing that I wanted to work on was I wanted to become an athlete . Remember that , yeah , I wanted to become an athlete . I felt as though , being a trauma surgeon , which I got something I want to say real quick and I was thinking about this .

You know I do a lot of thinking in the shower .

Speaker 3

A lot of people do a lot of thinking in the shower .

Speaker 1

Because I'm always thinking , like why do I do this show , like why are you listening ? And I think that the key thing for people to understand is that there's a difference between becoming a doctor versus being a doctor .

Speaker 3

Oh yeah , oh yeah .

Speaker 1

And the lessons , like some people will be like well , being a doctor is tough and it's like , yeah , it's tough , but it's a different type of skill level than going through the process .

Right , and I think that's the whole point of the show is , is we want to give you the tips and tricks as you are going towards becoming a doctor , but then , once you are a doctor , or once you are whatever health care professional , the goalposts change .

Yep , and all the things that you use to get you to becoming a doctor A lot of that stuff changes actually . Right , like , becoming a doctor is one of the hardest things that you can do . Not many other people can do this .

Speaker 3

Right .

Speaker 1

Right . It requires a certain level of dedication , reading , comprehension , perseverance .

Speaker 2

Right .

Speaker 1

But then once you become a doctor , particularly in today's age , you're basically a high-priced employee . You could be Right .

Speaker 2

The key is if you choose to be if you choose to let yourself , you could be Right the key is if you choose to be , if you choose to let yourself , you could be .

Speaker 1

And I think that I think , when you think about that topic and talk about atomic habits , I always think about this thing of like if you don't create a schedule for yourself , somebody else will . Oh yeah , if you don't create habits for yourself , somebody else will .

Like , if you aren't intentional about your career , somebody else will be intentional about your career .

Speaker 3

Yeah , you know and maybe not even your career that someone will be intentional about , because they're not being intentional about your career , they just being intentional about where you need to be and how you going to show up .

Speaker 1

Isn't that crazy , though ? Like if you're not like cognizant of that .

Speaker 3

They're not thinking about your career .

Speaker 1

Like that's just like . Everything just gets reduced to that . You just become a person who fills a schedule A butt in the seat , yeah , yeah . Well for me . I was in my , you know , late 30s , 40s and I was not happy with physically how I was looking .

I was not taking care of myself , living a typical trauma surgeon life which is , you know , 24 hours on here , 24 hours on there , 24 hour shifts here , eating hotel foods , if I was doing locums when I was doing locums and then , once I switched completely to locums , I'm in extended stay .

Hotels don't have time to make meals and , you know , cholesterol is going through the roof , almost pre-diabetic , and you know , I just knew that there needed to be a change , I just didn't know how to make that change .

Speaker 3

What is almost pre-diabetic Is that like pre-pre-diabetic Did I ?

Speaker 1

say almost pre-diabetic . I think I was pre-diabetic , then you got me there . You be listening yo for real , I do be listening , because if you almost pre-diabetic , that means you ain't near diabetes . I think technically on my hemoglobin .

Speaker 3

A1C , I was pre-diabetic . I think I be listening .

Speaker 1

Yeah , you be listening , I be listening . Anyway , damn this girl the audience , yo For real for'd be listening , I'd be listening . Anyway , damn this girl Yo the audience . Yo For real , for real yo . But yeah , I was struggling

Achieving Physical and Mental Health

, for real . I was struggling , I think , from a mental health standpoint also , like there's this you know I'm hard on myself , you know we tend to , we just type A individuals , we tend to be really hard on ourselves .

Well , the reason why you can't physically get your life together is because you don't want it hard enough , which is tough right , because work is hard already .

Speaker 3

Right , that's what we tell ourselves . Yeah , you must not want it hard enough , and it's like you know . There could be other reasons besides . You just don't want it badly enough that could interfere with you being successful at something .

Speaker 1

Yeah , so I , I agree , then I think this book . I read this book um way before the year started yeah , I think 2022 no , no , I read this book 2021 , I think , no , no , you might be right . We're going into 2024 .

Speaker 3

We're in 2024 .

Speaker 1

So I read this book in 2022 , before the actual beginning of the year . So this wasn't like a New Year's resolution type of book . It was just a book that I wanted to read and from whenever I finished reading it , I knew exactly how I was going to do it and I'll just leave it to you , like this I'll give you . Let's just jump right into the results .

Like I've been working out at least on average five to six days a week for the past , two years now . You know , I've lost weight , I lift more , I have less back pain . Mentally I'm in a better place because I feel like I'm more in tune with my body . I feel like actually exercise is like therapy for me , right ?

Because that is the time when I'm working out . I'm not thinking about anything related to work , I'm not thinking about anything else that's stressing me , it's just me really focusing on something that I'm really concerned about , which is my body . Stuff is no joke , but for me this is therapy because you know , the job is so stressful .

It's very easy to , you know , lose track of taking care of yourself because you're so busy putting all your effort into taking care of other people and , as a result , you get a lot of neglect .

That stress adds up , that cortisol level adds up , depression kicks in , possibly , and you develop like a mentality of like it don't matter , just get it done , take care of the patients . Next thing , you know , you end up with a lot of issues .

I think for me , I just don't want to have those issues and the fact that I , for 45 minutes or however long can be , can focus on that , like I feel good about myself afterwards , and to me that's been the biggest achievement and look , you can go back to that previous episode to listen to the specifics of Atomic Habits .

But let me look at my notes real quick . I'm going to give you five quick tips , or sorry , five quick main points of this book , which is number one , the power of tiny habits . Number two , the four laws of behavior change . Three , habit stacking and environment change . Four , the importance of identity .

Six , or sorry , five , five what did I say I mean listen alfred , give me some shit . Five , five , continuous improvement and feedback , and one , two , three , five . Those are all the five main points of the main points of the book .

I'm not going to get into specifics and bore you guys , but if you read the book , if you go back and listen to the review , we talk about that and in some form or fashion I've gotten all of these points . I've had to reread this book at least two to three times .

I listened to it on audio book , I've read it and I just I feel like I'm at a point now where you know it started off like painful , like I started off doing T25 , something that if I did T25 when I was in , you know , in college training , or even if I was in the beginnings of residency , I'd be like this is nothing .

But after so many years of just working and not taking care of myself , t25 was kicking my ass , renee , kicking my ass sometimes , being a fitness professional , I'm like why do I do the things that I do ?

Speaker 2

because I want to look good . Here we go , there , you go , grab a shaunti right here . How you feeling I want to leave .

Speaker 1

Yo , but I stuck to it , yo . I stuck to it , yo . And you know , alfred , if you can throw in some B-roll here and there , I stuck to it , you know . And one of the things that the book teaches you to do first is , you know , really focus on who you want to be right .

That's the whole notion of identity change and that whole notion of okay , well , listen , I just want to be an athlete . So if I want to be an athlete mentally , then that means I got to start doing things that athletes do . So I got to get some athletic clothes right . I've got to , you know , be a little bit healthier with how I eat .

I got to drink more water . And then I got to exercise , and for me I just said well , listen , I think exercising five to six days a week is OK for me . And exercise was anything . That's how it started off . It was like I don't care what it is , don't have to be lifting , whatever it is .

Speaker 3

Ten squats .

Speaker 1

Ten squats . I was always going to continue that . So for be lifting , whatever it is , 10 squats , 10 squats . I was always going to continue that . So for me , I said , look , I'll do t25 . It's a six-week program , it's dope y'all 25 minutes for six days a week and it's basically dedicate 25 minutes to just working out , getting your heart rate up .

It's high intensity training . I love it . I'll put the link in the show notes , and if I couldn't do it , then it would just I would have to do some type of physical activity . 10 squats , 10 squats , she right , right , yeah , I've seen you do it .

And then the next thing is is I needed to be able to create an environment that was really like embracing of this , and that was either , you know , making sure that in my hotel room there's enough space to exercise , or even , after call , making sure , as soon as I walked through that hotel door into my room , my shorts are there , my sneakers are there , my

socks are there . The you know , everything that I need to work out is there are there the you know , everything that I need to work out is there , so I just I just made it , as you know , warm and inviting as possible .

And then the other thing that the book also teaches you is you need to be able to track your results , you need to be able to have accountability and you need to be able to prove to yourself that you can do the work . So , for me , something as simple as just having a calendar and having the workouts on the calendar Monday , you're going to do this workout .

Tuesday , you're going to do that workout . Thursday of next week , you're going to do this workout when I'm done , just X-ing it off and making sure that every time the calendar is there , there's a marker there and I just X it off . Boom , boom , boom . And then , over time , those X's add up right , boom . And then over time those x's add up right .

And when you get to a point where it's really tough like you either are sick or maybe you had a rough day and you get in home late or you just don't feel like working out I could always look at that calendar and say , hey , do I really want to break the chain this time ? And I'm like hell , no , I all that work .

Or if I do break the chain , the key thing is don't break the chain two days in a row , because once you break the chain two days in a row , then that is a new habit . There you go , you got it and that's how Nii did it , you know . So throughout this whole discussion I hope you guys saw a little bit of some of the B-roll that we showed .

I'll show you some of the B-roll of me , of some of the calendars that I've used . But for two years I've just been kind of using calendars and just kind of X-ing off and gotten to a point where I just don't want to disappoint myself by doing it .

Speaker 3

Yeah .

Speaker 2

You did a good job .

Speaker 3

That's what's working for me , you did a good job .

Speaker 1

Thank you .

Speaker 3

Why are you looking at me like that ? Tell me you love me . You all right .

Speaker 1

You just can't even say I'm looking sexy .

Speaker 3

I said you bringing sexy back . That's what that means . Hello , is that not what that means ? Yep , go ahead , be going , do that thing . Go ahead , be going .

Speaker 1

So I know I'm sexy , I'm looking good , I'm looking good . So , dr Renee , what is it that you're working on ? Do you have a New Year's resolution ?

Speaker 3

I think it's to well . This is my resolution last year and I was very much like those people who did not fulfill their New Year's resolution .

Speaker 1

What was your New Year's resolution ?

Speaker 3

Last year it was to be more organized . Boy , do I need to be more organized ? It's funny , because I'm organized about some things and then other things I'm very loose on . But the things that I'm very loose on are now starting to pile up , you know , and interfere with just my productivity .

And the other day , someone said something to me that I thought was very interesting and described me in a way that I was like oh man , like that , what you just said like describes me . And what she said was she was talking about herself , but she was like she finds herself to be , to be practicing productive procrastination .

Speaker 1

Describe that . What is that ? What is ?

Speaker 3

so productive procrastination is . Productive procrastination is when you are procrastinating by doing other things that make you feel like you're productive . You might need to , you know , clean up the house , clean a certain room in the house , whatever , Right .

And instead of doing that , what you do is you might go on your computer and work on something that you know . Let's say , oh yeah , I got to do this . You know , I got to do a post for you know , for something , Right , you have to . You have to post something on Instagram , Maybe .

Maybe you do have an online business , but you got , you want to post something on Instagram . So what you do is you take a long time to do this post because it's got to be perfect , and you do iterations of this thing when you know you got that damn work to do .

Speaker 1

You ain't gonna to do it Right .

Speaker 3

You know in the back of your mind that , literally , this post could have been done in five minutes , but you spend so much time on this post instead of cleaning up that room that you know needs to be cleaned . So you feel productive because at the end you actually put the post out .

Speaker 1

So

Productive Procrastination and Getting Organized

my story is opposite actually . So I let's say I need to do the podcast or I need to work on the podcast .

Yeah , I hate like clutter , so I'll actually clean the room instead of working on the thing that productive right , because it's for me like cleaning the room doesn't require thought , right , so it's very easy , it's work , but it doesn't require thought . So I'm just like , oh yeah , I gotta move this here , move that there , move this there , move that there .

Oh , three hours later I guess I'm gonna go to bed and I didn't do what I needed to do for the podcast but you feel good , because clutter is gone . Exactly the clutter is gone , but the clutter of a what is accumulating on a to-do list is building up .

Speaker 3

So I got I got you there , so you're trying to get more organized . Yeah , I'm trying to get more organized and stop this productive procrastination that I do , and you know , there are certain systems that I think I do need to set up in order for that to happen .

You know , I think I don't have , I don't , I don't think I have enough spaces , so what that means is , like you know how everything should have a space , right .

Speaker 1

Like everything in its place . This is a safe space . No , not like that .

Speaker 3

No , but everything in its place . But if you don't have the place , then all the things kind of just accumulate and they just go to whatever space you do have , which might not be the appropriate space , but it's a space , yeah .

Speaker 1

I got you .

Speaker 3

You see what I'm saying . So , yeah , I think I need to be more thoughtful about how I set up the room , basically set up the system , set up the room in order to be more organized , so that things have its . You know , everything has its appropriate space .

Speaker 1

So when should we check in on you and make sure that you're doing your work ?

Speaker 3

Check on me in March .

Speaker 1

But that affects all of us though right . Because that affects I can tell by your organization . Your organization determines how quickly the kids or what time the kids go to bed what time you're cooking ? What time ? Just in general , all of that stuff is happening and stuff . And I could tell the more , the more blustered you are or the more overwhelmed you are .

The kids be going to bed , like at one in the morning .

Speaker 3

OK , you know what ? That is a damn lie . My kids are usually in bed by 8.30 , the latest Usually .

Speaker 1

What happened today ?

Speaker 3

What do you mean ? What happened today ? You were home today . The kids were in bed by what ? 8.45? .

Speaker 1

You're getting more , they're getting later .

Speaker 3

But I said usually , what does that mean ? So usually so if six days a week the kids are in bed between 8 and 8.30 , the one day On New Year's Day . Oh , please , that's New Year's Day me Come on what time do they go to ? Bed . That's New Year's Day . That's New Year's Day , the day on New Year's Eve .

Speaker 1

On New Year's Eve , what time do they go to bed ?

Speaker 3

OK , you know what Shut this podcast down .

Speaker 1

All right , so we're checking with you on March right March . We're checking with her on March to see if she's working on her resolution or building a system .

But so when you're doing , this is this I know you talked about spaces and solutions and all that stuff Like what are you going to go as far down as like identity change , because that's what the book says is the most lasting type of change is ? I am an organizer , I am the Haitian version of Marie Kondo . Like , shouldn't you be doing it ?

Speaker 3

Marie Kondo , is that how it is ?

Speaker 1

Oh , marie , okay , Marie Kondo .

Speaker 3

That's the Haitian Marie .

Speaker 1

Kondo , marie Kondo . So are you going to do an identity ?

Speaker 3

I'm .

Speaker 1

Marie Kondo Okay , so she's going for an identity change ? Okay , okay , let's do it , let's do it . So my New Year's resolution for this year that I'm working on is as people don't know but in 2025 , I want to take a sabbatical . So I want to make sure that we're saving up enough for the sabbatical .

So , just making the financial budgeting things that we need to do on a monthly basis to make sure that the money is going into an account that is going to be saved and not touched , so that when 2025 comes and we're doing a sabbatical , there's no stress .

Speaker 3

So 2024 , your New Year's resolution is to be a lazy bum who doesn't work . For wait which year ? For 2024 . It's to work up to the point where you can be a lazy bum who doesn't work .

Speaker 1

No , 2025 is when that's going to occur .

Speaker 3

That's when you become the lazy bum . Yes , okay , gotcha .

Speaker 1

Moving on , moving on , moving

New Year's Resolution and Family Focus

on . What's the next question ? The next question I have for you is what's the New Year's resolution that you gave up on that you regret the most ? Exercise Really yeah .

Speaker 3

Have you tried this in the past or yeah , I mean , I think that's always part of you know , I think that's always in the back of my mind . Something that I want to do is exercise more , and not not necessarily , like you know , hardcore exercise , but like literally kind of , like you said , just any sort of consistent movement .

You know what I mean , consistent movement . So , whether it be , you know , four days a week , six days a week , whatever it is , but that's probably the one because you know when . So , for me , you know , that's kind of why I picked up exercising again and I didn't want to do it as my New Year's resolution .

I wanted to start to like what I started , I think , in November . I didn't want it to be my New Year's resolution because I felt like I would be more likely to be like , you know , just holding off , holding off . But you know , the last time I exercised this consistently was like 10 years ago . Yeah , it was like 10 years ago .

Speaker 1

Wait this right here , yeah the last time I , right now you've been working out for how long now two months but we did t25 together yeah , we did t20 .

Speaker 3

We did do t25 , but that was a 10-week stint . The last time I was consistent in just making sure and I remember I did T25 because you were like , oh , just come on , just do it with me . I didn't really do T25 because I wanted to do it . I did T25 because you asked me to do it and I was like , all right , fine , but do you want to work out ?

Yes , I do want to work out . Now I do . Yes , now , I actually want to do it .

Speaker 1

I see the difference now .

Speaker 3

So now this is something that you actually want to do right , like I want to do it , I want to be consistent with it , you know , and you know I can't say , oh , I didn't want to exercise , like I don't want to say that , but I don't . I also wasn't like convicted , like you know , because , remember , you asked me on the show the last time .

You were like , well , you know , what are you going to change , what system or what identity are you going to have ? And we went back and forth on that episode as to what my identity was going to be and I was just like , lo and behold , she failed Exactly .

But you know , but that's important , right , because part of that was that it wasn't intrinsically from me . This was something that was like , yes , I'll do it because you're asking me to do it .

You know what I mean , whereas this time it's not , and I didn't want to couple it with the New Year's resolution , because I did feel like if I coupled it with the New Year's resolution , I was going to fail less likely to succeed the organizing .

I feel like I could do that as a New Year's resolution , because what I see as the resolution is setting up the systems and that's not necessarily something that should take an entire year to do , but that's very important though to set up the systems , because in the book , the book says that we , according to you know , clear it's , we don't rise to our goals .

Speaker 1

So whenever you make a goal , it's like this aspirational type thing , like we don't really rise to our goals in the setting of stress we actually fall down to , like the systems that we have .

Speaker 2

Right .

Speaker 1

Right . So it's like , like you said , like if you can create a system that is , for the most part , foolproof and that is going to direct you towards a positive habit , even on your worst days , the shittiest days , you always going to fall back down on that system .

That's the worst that could happen , which is exactly what you want to happen what you want to happen Right . I like that Okay .

Speaker 3

So , so , yeah , so that's what I want to do . I want to be very intentional about having a period of time when I'm working on the systems and then you know if the playroom , for example , gets really crazy and messy .

Speaker 1

That's fine , because now I have a system to fall back on this goes here , this goes there , this goes there , this goes there . Boom 're going to worry about focus on for the entire year . We were really good at doing this on a yearly basis when we were paying off debt .

Once we paid off debt , we kind of went into like autopilot mode and we had kids and all these different things . So we are picking that back up . So for 2024 , you want to let them know what the family theme is .

Speaker 3

I forgot no , I didn't . It's she forgot no .

Speaker 1

I didn't . She thinks she's buying herself time right now . No , I didn't , let me continue . Let's keep stalling so you can it's family focus yes , okay , you had me going for a second . I thought maybe you was BSing for a second . No , no , no . Family focus yes , okay , you had me going for a second .

I thought maybe you was BSing for a second , no no , no , no , Family focus .

Speaker 3

So we want to be able to focus more and be more intentional on things that we're doing as a family , for the kids , for us as a couple . So we just you know , it's easy to go on autopilot .

Speaker 1

Yeah , we've been on autopilot .

Speaker 3

Yes , we've been on autopilot for a while , so you know just again . But I think that that also falls in line with kind of me being organized as well and figuring out in our schedules like all right , what are the things that we are going to do . So does that mean that we have some family fun activity ? You know , every week .

You know a couple of hours a week , you know .

Speaker 1

So something like a game night or something like that yeah , like a game night or something right . And then we got to have like a date , something Right , where we are enjoying each other's time , just me and you .

We're not talking about the finances , we're not talking about the finances , we're not talking about podcasting , we're not talking about any issues , we are just enjoying each other . So that could be a movie , that could be a bootleg Bootleg . You know how it is . I still go to Newark downtown .

You know what I'm saying Get out of here , get my stuff , you know what I'm saying of Newark downtown . You know what I'm saying . Get my stuff and and play it on what your DVD player was to check it out . Shout out to the check it out , man , I'm saying check it out , right .

But whatever it is we focusing on , for me , basically the best , the best way I could , just I could describe it as addition by subtraction , right like Instagram is off the phones now .

Speaker 3

Um yeah just really focusing on us yeah and go from there yeah but it's got to be attentional , intentional yeah , it can't be you going . You want a factor too . You want a factor meal too yeah , yeah , it can't be that that's your date night from for the last . I don't know how many weeks you want to eat a factor with me .

Speaker 1

Sure , I'm thinking about you , you are . So , yeah , I'm going to hold us to that Also . We will give you guys an update on that . But yeah , you know , that is . That is basically why we're focusing on 2024 , is because , you know , I think , financially we kind of all , we , we , I think the behaviors have been ingrained in now .

Speaker 3

Yeah .

Speaker 1

We don't overspend too much . Actually , we don't really overspend , but we're not monitoring like we were before .

Speaker 3

Right , right .

Speaker 1

And we kind of fell off our savings goals and we need to get right back into it .

Speaker 3

Right , right .

Speaker 1

Just so that you know I can go and be lazy in 2025 . It's not going to happen . Nowall , I'm not gonna get lazy in 2025 , but I still want to take my sabbatical in 2025 .

Yeah , so that's what we're doing and we will keep you guys updated , as that book just fell , as you can hear on the podcast or see on the audio version and the video version what I said I said video , didn't I ?

Speaker 3

no , you said as you can see on the audio version . I'll . You said as you can see on the audio version , alpha replay that for everybody , or see on the audio version . I be listening .

Speaker 1

I said as on the audio version and then on the video version .

Speaker 3

Let's see who's right , Alfred .

Speaker 1

Represent me . Right , alfred ? All right , y'all , we will be right back . All right , alright y'all , we will be right back . Alright , y'all , we are back . Check out Dr Renee's cheap ass 2024 glasses me cheap what's ? The prescription on them . Bad boys 2024 . That's all in your sight .

Speaker 3

I got 2024 vision below .

Speaker 1

go ahead and let us know what you think about Dr Renee's cheap glasses .

Speaker 3

I got 2024 vision .

Speaker 1

So listen , guys , we're going to have a real bit of fun on this next segment . Alfred , go ahead and cue this up .

Speaker 2

I'm Haitian , of course I drive a Toyota . I'm Haitian , of course . I've been dropped off to school with this car . I'm Haitian , of course I drive a Toyota . I'm Haitian , of course . I've been dropped off to school with this car . I'm Haitian , of course . My mom's a CNA . I'm Haitian , of course . Our garage is a storage room for the free .

I'm Haitian , of course . I can't go because my mom had a dream . I'm Haitian , of course we have a jaden . I'm Haitian , of course we have spaghetti for breakfast .

Speaker 1

I'm .

Speaker 2

Haitian . Of course the function starts four hours late . I'm Haitian . Of course I won't date a Haitian man Oof .

Speaker 1

I really like these videos . You really like these videos and these videos are , of course , I'm Haitian I these videos , you really like these videos and these videos are , of course , I'm Haitian I . So , dr Renee , yes , you've been wanting to do a video like this .

Yes , right , obviously , most of the people who are doing the video , they're walking around and doing something , but we potting , right , so why don't you go ahead and take it ?

Speaker 3

Okay , so of course .

Speaker 1

I'm Haitian .

Speaker 3

Let's see All right , let's see .

Speaker 1

Damn . She took them glasses off like watch me do this , watch me be real Haitian .

Speaker 3

Of course I'm Haitian . Right , that's what you want me to do , yeah .

Speaker 1

Okay , I'm .

Speaker 3

Haitian .

Speaker 2

Haitian right .

Speaker 3

That's what you want me to do . Yeah , okay , I'm Haitian , of course . I say instead of potato chips , you didn't like that one ?

Speaker 1

Yeah , you didn't like that one . Well , that's where you're going to stop , though . Actually , I'll let you get one more . Go ahead One more , do one more .

Speaker 3

There's a lot ? Okay , do one more . Okay , I'm haitian . Of course , I throw water after you when I don't want you to come back to my house . That's what we do .

Speaker 1

You don't like that one no , okay , you gotta do something like we see you do , like when . When has someone thrown water after someone ?

Speaker 3

doesn't , they don't like them and they don't want them to come back to the house .

Speaker 1

That doesn't happen , though , okay , fine , okay , move on , okay fine .

Speaker 3

Okay , I'm Haitian . Of course , I'm going to put some urine masquerade on your chest when you have a fever , instead of taking you to the doctor with a 105 fever .

Speaker 1

That's good , because you actually did do that to me . Yes , and it worked right , all right , it did work . So , for all you haitians out there , if you see this and you agree with what she's saying is you know , make sure you know , represent her right , make sure she representing y'all , right , you know I'm saying so , I'll do one .

I think mine , well , mine , is very self-explanatory . I'm gone yen of , was it ? So is it ? I'm Ganyan , of course I . I'm Ganyan . Of course I take a shower with this net exfoliating sponge right here . If you are watching on YouTube , you know exactly what I'm talking about . If you see this in a Ganyan's shower , you know he's real .

This is what I use and I've been using this since I was what ? Two years old . But y'all know what I mean . I know what you mean . Boom , did I win that one ? You won that one , I won that one . There you go , boom , yeah .

So , for those who are listening on the podcast experience , the audio version , you need to be checking out the video version , because I just dropped . I had a mic drop right there . Yeah , a mic drop right there .

Speaker 3

We gotta do something for the takeouts .

Speaker 1

Alfred , do you even know what that is , what this is ? Do you know what this is ? Because I think this is more of like outside of the United States people . You know ? Well , somebody is selling this now on Instagram Instagram yeah , I saw that they sound they sound it for like they make a mad money .

Speaker 3

Make it bank because you know how much I got that for in Ghana .

Speaker 1

I don't even want to tell you the folks in probably the equivalent of like five cents , folks in Ghana . We need to get y'all to raise the prices up , you know , but it's crazy it's crazy but listen y'all . That's the end of this episode . Let's just get on out for this right , because this is also 2024 .

We're looking at stats and y'all don't be making it all the way to the end of our episode and we don't like that . So we're trying to make our episodes shorter , but also getting it to the point , and I see what y'all saying put it in the first 30 minutes and then go from there .

So that's what we do some outtakes too , yeah , we're going to start doing some outtakes , so make sure you pay attention . And those outtakes we can't put at the end of the show because they're not watching at the end of the show . Well , maybe if we say we're going to do outtakes at the end of the show

Excitement for 2024 on Doc's Show

they'll get to the end of the show , maybe that 2024 for the Darkos , and we also hope that it's going to be a great 2020 for 24 .

Speaker 3

2024 .

Speaker 1

For y'all also . Yo , listen yo before I mess this up anymore . Yo , I am Dr Knee . I'm joined by Dr Renee , who's not as drunk as Dr Knee still is for the new year and this is Docs Outside the Box yo . A fusion of money , medicine and pop culture . We're going to catch you guys on the next episode , y'all .

Speaker 3

Peace . Happy New Year , Peace , peace peace , peace , peace , peace , peace .

Speaker 1

I need to get something to do this next segment . I'll be right back , okay .

Speaker 3

So just keep it recording . Can you get my glasses please ? Yeah something to do . This next segment I'll be right back . Okay , so just keep your recording maybe we should play some music no-transcript .

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