Do You Take This Man?

Welcome to the "Do You Take This Man?" podcast by Men's Vows, co-hosted by Eduardo Braniff and Sam Ervin. In this podcast, our guests discuss stories of "for better" and "for worse" from men doing their best to navigate the seas of gay romance and relationships. We belong to a fantastic team of dedicated gay men creating the popular wedding and lifestyle blog Men's Vows. Join us as we discuss the real highs and lows, ins and outs, and do’s and dont’s of gay relationships, and laugh plenty along the way! Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/doyoutakethismanpodcast/support

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Episodes

13: Eduardo Braniff: Editor in Chief of Men's Vows

Eduardo Braniff is the Editor in Chief and co-founder of Men’s Vows. He’s been a guest at over 150 weddings and tells us about the most memorable ones he’s experienced. Listen to him talk about ginormous Mexican weddings, the number one piece of advice for giving toasts, and what it means to have an indulgent wedding. Sam tests Eduardo’s knowledge of Men’s Vows with a series of trivia questions. We explore the deeper meaning of the mission of Men’s Vows to “support men who marry”—creating a sens...

Dec 23, 2020•1 hr 10 min

12: Getting Groomed with Jason Mitchell Kahn

Jason is the author of Getting Groomed: The Ultimate Wedding Planner for Gay Grooms and was named one of Brides Magazine's Best Planners. Having witnessed as many weddings as he has, he brings a unique perspective to the meaning of marriage. Listen to Jason and Sam discuss the difficult questions of when to begin—or end—a marriage. Jason tells us about some of the most touching moments he’s observed at weddings. Sam asks about the differences between gay and straight weddings and makes a plea to...

Dec 16, 2020•1 hr 3 min

11: Carson Tueller on the Story You're Telling Yourself

Carson is an advocate, coach, and public speaker in New York City. Hear how he coaches people to understand the narrative they write for themselves—and how to rewrite that narrative. Sam learns the meaning of the word ontology and wonders if he is outsourcing his self worth. Carson tells us about how he and his boyfriend didn’t allow the lack of accessibility for wheelchair users in New York City to keep them from seeing each other in the early stages of their relationship. Listen to Carson and ...

Dec 09, 2020•57 min

10: My Gay Brother & His Boyfriend: Lawrence & Alex (Part Two)

Lawrence and Alex dive back in for Part Two. We start by hearing about the book that they read together. Listen to the couple talk about how they met each others’ families and an interesting idea about the commonalities between a man from the American South and a man from the United Kingdom. Lawrence and Alex share some of the questions they get asked at couples therapy. Lawrence opens up about why he changed his name as a young adult. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/doyoutakethisman...

Dec 02, 2020•49 min

9: My Gay Brother & His Boyfriend: Lawrence & Alex (Part One)

The conversation is off to a rocky start as Sam’s younger brother Lawrence tries taking over the hosting of the show. While the brothers catch a case of the giggles, Lawrence’s boyfriend Alex tells us about how they met. Hear Alex’s advice for first dates and why he reminded Lawrence of Indiana Jones. Sam and Lawrence talk about growing up together, dealing with gay stereotypes as kids, and their coming out experiences. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/doyoutakethismanpodcast/support...

Nov 25, 2020•48 min

8: Jack & Greg on Gay Marriage in the Church

Husbands Jack & Greg recently celebrated their 36th anniversary as a couple, but were together for 30 years before they married. They were the first couple to be married in the state of Colorado using the Episcopalian wedding ceremony written for same-sex couples—a ceremony that Jack helped to write. Hear how they organized forums for LGBTQ people to tell their stories, and how it felt listening to people opposed to same-sex marriage. Find out why their own wedding ceremony almost ended earl...

Nov 18, 2020•1 hr 3 min

7: Jonathan and Thomas: Daddy and Papa

Jonathan and Thomas of @daddyandpapa tell us how they became dads. We hear what parenting is like with two dads having daughters. One sibling’s kitchen misadventure ensues when Daddy and Papa come home with a new baby. They tell us what it feels like when people assume they aren’t the dads to their kids. Hear how they built their partnership while Thomas served in the military and Jonathan supported as an army spouse. For questions on parenting, you can text Jonathan and Thomas (802) 278-0214 Re...

Nov 11, 2020•1 hr 17 min

6: TikTok's Sweethearts Chris and Ian

You know Chris and Ian. They’re the funniest couple on social media. They were an overnight sensation and now have literally millions of fans, called “Bloomers.” Hear how they managed a bi-coastal relationship before moving in during quarantine. They explain each other’s generational idiosyncrasies in texting, play a word association game, and discuss Ian’s unique shower curtain situation. Listen to Chris share about the importance of play and working through miscommunication. Ian talks about th...

Oct 28, 2020•52 min

5: Andrew and Ross

Get to know fiancés Andrew and Ross, friends of Sam, as we chat over a few glasses of Aldi rosé. Hear how they managed a long distance relationship for several years before getting engaged and moving in together. Once again, another novel idea for a new dating app emerges. We learn why watching Netflix together isn’t in the cards for these two and hear how they set expectations for visiting one another. Andrew helps us understand how to view the world through someone else’s eyes as he tells us a...

Oct 21, 2020•48 min

4: Getting to Know Carlos Brandt

Carlos is an entrepreneur and activist in New York City, but sits with Sam during his visit Denver to explore the Rocky Mountains. We bond over mutual love of the outdoors and disconnecting from busy lifestyles. Carlos tells us what it was like growing up in a Catholic community in Spain. Sam does his best to flatter Carlos with compliments on his own podcast, Dear Queer People. We talk about non-traditional relationships like throuples and … quadrouples? Hear how Carlos and Sam were both able t...

Oct 14, 2020•1 hr 8 min

3: Dating in NYC with Luke

Luke and Sam talk dating strategies, including knowing when and how to cut things off. Sam gets a tour of Luke’s New York City apartment. Luke tells us how his last relationship ended and how the new one began. We wonder if there’s such thing as “alphas” and “betas” in most relationships. Despite being in an older generation, Sam tries (and fails) to associate himself with Luke’s youth as we discuss generational perspectives of LGBTQ history. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/doyoutake...

Oct 07, 2020•52 min

2: Michael and Matt

Michael and Matt tell Sam he isn’t allowed to ask them about themselves, but Sam does it anyway. They tell us about sharing their lives on social media and how they met via their coming out videos on YouTube. Creativity abounds as we think of new ideas for dating apps. Sam is fooled by exceptional Photoshop skills during one of Matt and Michael’s travel stories. We find out what Frodo Baggins, Ron Swanson, and Michael and Matt all have in common. Best of all, hear about the couple’s first years ...

Sep 30, 2020•54 min

1: Richard and Steve

Husbands Richard and Steve tell us about what made their Santa Fe wedding special for them and their guests. Hear how they (unintentionally) upstaged Beyoncé’s sister in the New York Times and managed a wedding ceremony without chairs. We talk about the keys to a successful marriage, the importance of the word ‘husband,’ and laugh at Richard’s alleged drawer of secrets. Steve tells us how he, as an event planning expert, was able to delegate wedding duties to his fiancé. Richard shares the origi...

Sep 23, 2020•1 hr 8 min

Introducing the Do You Take This Man? Podcast

Ever since marriage equality was legalized in the United States, the popular blog Men's Vows has been celebrating the stories of men who marry. Now, the creative team behind Men's Vows is pulling back the curtain on what happens after you say "I do." In this series you'll hear stories of gay relationships from men who are doing their best to find—and keep—their significant other. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/doyoutakethismanpodcast/support...

Sep 13, 2020•3 min

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