BEANS I’m currently on vacation in Europe, so we're diving into the back catalogue to revisit one of my favourite episodes all about self-confidence and self-assurance. It's a topic that I get asked a lot about a lot, and I think it's important to touch on this topic. And I think that self-assurance is something that needs to be worked on all the time just like a muscle, just like your health. So, what is self-assurance and where does it come from? A lot of us struggle to assert ourselves in cer...
Jun 02, 2024•39 min•Season 1Ep. 337
A difficult in-law relationship can really make your life haaard. It puts pressure on your romantic relationship, strain on your mental health and can make your home life more stressed. I go through some questions asked by you about your in-law relationships and give my advice on how best to manage those tricky dynamics and keep your sanity. LINKS Listen to Episode 247. Narcissistic parents and in-laws: How to spot them and deal with them at https://bit.ly/Dyfm-247-narcissists . Pre-order my aud...
May 26, 2024•47 min•Season 1Ep. 336
Do you want to have a child at this point in your life, or do you want to wait? Do you yearn for a relationship or are you feeling stuck? Have you considered moving countries, quitting your job or doing a completely new degree to change the trajectory of your life? If you're struggling to make a decision that you feel is right for you, this episode will help you get the confidence to make those tough choices. They might even help determine whether it goes well for you or not! LINKS Pre-order my ...
May 19, 2024•45 min•Season 1Ep. 335
How do you stop caring about what people think of you? How can you let go of the things that keep you from living the life you want? This question is so crippling for so many of us, but there IS a simple solution. In this episode we’ll learn how to deal with these feelings in a way that don't consume you and stop you from going on with your life. Plus I'll give you my 7 steps to overcome falling into the trap of caring what people think about you! BUT FIRST! BRAIN FACT: Central Sensitization and...
May 15, 2024•46 min•Season 1Ep. 334
My brand-new audiobook HOW TO CHASE CHANGE is the ultimate guide to shifting your mindset to become your best self. This 30-day program covers everything from turning aspirational goals into action and increasing self-confidence to overcoming heartbreak, eliminating negative self-talk, and so much more. LINKS Pre-order my audiobook ‘ How to Chase Change ’, on sale September 10th https://bit.ly/44xwszR . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @al...
May 09, 2024•2 min•Season 1Ep. 333
Do you let the outside world take control of your happiness? Does it feel like you’re always at the mercy of what’s happening outside your control? In this episode we’ll find out how to become more intentional and less passive when it comes to creating your own Happiness. BRAIN FACT: HIIT – High Intensity Interval Training, cortisol and over-training syndrome. Read about Overtraining Syndrome here https://bit.ly/overtraining-syndrome . LINKS Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group...
May 08, 2024•49 min•Season 1Ep. 332
Beans I'm taking a much-needed long weekend so I thought it was a perfect time to bring up one of my most listened to episodes. It's a perfect place to start if you're new to the pod and a great reset if you're a long-time bean. I'm diving into discipline, and how reframing how you view it could be the ticket to a more free and enjoyable life. LINKS Listen to Ep Being Better: Do These 4 Things for 30 Days and Watch Your Life Change at https://pod.fo/e/2130c1 . Listen to Ep 66. Top 4 Discipline H...
May 05, 2024•39 min•Season 1Ep. 331
First up I’m going through your ICKS – you loved when I did it in episode 322 so thought I’d pick more of your hilarious icks to read out. And then I get into Head Noise where I answer your questions – this week it’s all about heartbreak in long term relationships. How do you handle a relationship when your mind is telling you to run but your heart says otherwise? Me and my boyfriend are in our 20s and have been dating for a few years long distance. Early on there was some lying and deception an...
May 01, 2024•34 min•Season 1Ep. 330
So you’ve been dumped, or maybe you dumped someone. You’re scrolling through social media, or maybe a well meaning friend mentions, that your ex has moved on. Cue the SPIRAL. “How Could They?!”Already?!!!” “Did our time together mean NOTHING?” I’m giving you ten steps to keep yourself in check when your ex moves on before you including how to not let it derail you, keep your perspective, and quit the feeling that they “owe” you something. First up however, we’re diving into a SCIENCE FACT: GHB –...
Apr 28, 2024•46 min•Season 1Ep. 329
In the last Head Noise episode you guys LOVED the lies exes told so I’m bringing I back for an even more cooked part 2! And then I get into Head Noise where I answer your questions. I'm 24, forever single, thriving and upset with men. ‘ve been single my whole life and honestly thrive. But I’m curious about what its’ like in a partnership and am open to a boyfriend but very rarely do I get genuinely excited by a guy. When I do I REALLY do. But every guy I’ve ever like has had another girl in thei...
Apr 24, 2024•30 min•Season 1Ep. 328
New York Times best-selling author and international life and dating coach megastar Matthew Hussey joins the podcast! We're diving deep into his advice on dating, owning who you are, being comfortable with what you want, and his brand new book Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person and Live Happily (No Matter What) . I DARE you to leave this episode not feeling like a changed bean! LINKS Buy ‘ Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily (No Matter...
Apr 21, 2024•1 hr 14 min•Season 1Ep. 327
First I have a life update about something TRULY shocking that happened to me over the weekend, and I go through your stories of things men have lied to you about! Then I get into Head Noise where I answer your questions. In today’s episode we’ve got two really opposite topics! My husband and I are in out mid 20s and have been together since our late 20s. His family are very close with him. I have recently realised that I have always put his needs above mine – his personality has become my perso...
Apr 17, 2024•43 min•Season 1Ep. 326
What exactly is Trauma bonding? What if I told you that bonding with someone else over a traumatic event isn’t actually trauma bonding – it’s something else entirely! It’s about a relationship with someone who is traumatising and abusing you. I’m going to take you through what a trauma bond is, how to spot it, the 7 stages of trauma bonding, and how to know when (and how) to get out of a trauma bonded relationship. LINKS Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcas...
Apr 14, 2024•54 min•Season 1Ep. 325
It's Headnoise my beans and that means it’s time for me to answer your questions. I'm answering four of your questions this week ranging from an imbalance in sexual relationships in a partnership to trying to overcome the terrible relationship model parents set for one listener from childhood til now. AND if you want me to answer your question just email me at info@dyfmpod.com My current partner has had very limited sexual experience and our sex life is very average. Sexual compatibility is impo...
Apr 10, 2024•39 min•Season 1Ep. 324
How do you know when something isn’t right for you? Sometimes we get caught up in the idea that hard work or working really hard for something will always bring it out in the best in us, but sometimes it’s just not worth it. In this episode we’re going to find out how to identify that and how to stop chasing after things that are not meant for you. We’ll also find out what you can do instead to start living a life that feels right. LINKS Listen to Episode 317 ‘ Intrinsic Vs Extrinsic Motivation ...
Apr 07, 2024•42 min•Season 1Ep. 323
It's Headnoise my beans and that means it’s time for me to answer your questions. Here’s what I’m tackling this week. AND if you want me to answer your question just email me at info@dyfmpod.com I’ve had the same partner for a few years and we’re two women in our 20s. We’ve had a few bumps in the road as most relationships do, and without sounding like a douche a fair few have them have been her doing/from her. She has pushed me away quite a few times and treated our relationship poorly in the b...
Apr 03, 2024•36 min•Season 1Ep. 322
First up I have a life update – I’m going to try out publishing my episodes on Mondays and Thursdays from here on in (although this episode is coming out on a Tuesday because it’s a national public holiday here in Australia.) And on Thursdays you can expect the Head Noise episode. Okay now – THIS episode, I’m diving into how to stop inviting drama into your life. Do you find that drama alllways finds you? This is going to help you stop finding yourself in the middle of the bitching, get away fro...
Apr 01, 2024•41 min•Season 1Ep. 321
Habits! Those pesky little things that we're told time and time again are key to getting your life on track. They can feel like a tough nut to crack so in partnership with Medibank I’m taking you through my tips for how to form habits that last. LINKS: Listen to my episode 108. How Habits can Transform Your Life at https://rebrand.ly/he7hbsr . Listen to episode 280. How to form a habit that STICKS ! At https://rebrand.ly/bxmjqfy . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @...
Mar 28, 2024•14 min•Season 1Ep. 320
First up I have a life update about my Sydney Live show. Then I get into the science of your nervous system, and the 7 types of nervous systems. (no there isn’t just one). Then I take you through my top 10 non-negotiables to be aware of when you’re dating. LINKS: Listen to episode 284 ‘ Boundaries vs Controlling Behaviour ’ at https://pod.fo/e/211dea . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @listnrentertainment on IG C...
Mar 24, 2024•45 min•Season 1Ep. 319
This is my HEAD NOISE episode where you send in your questions and I answer them! In this episode you’ve asked for my advice on these questions. A friend of mine admitted that she had been having an affair for 10 years. Looking back I think she told me because she was looking for someone to condone her behaviour. Unfortunately for her I did not. Every time I pointed her in the direction of bettering her situation she would come up with an excuse. I don’t know what else to do. Is this friendship ...
Mar 21, 2024•28 min•Season 1Ep. 318
A couple of topics in this episode today Beans! Firstly I’ve got a cool science fact about milk and hydration. And a life update – I’m in META hell and it’s a PSA that you need to turn on 2FA on your social media accounts cause the scam artists are out in full force! Plus for the bulk of the episode I’m talking about Intrinsic Vs Extrinsic Motivation. How understanding the difference between the two is going to help you to get things done – particularly when you keep falling off the motivation t...
Mar 19, 2024•39 min•Season 1Ep. 317
The 'Sleepy Girl Mocktail' was a trend going around TikTok that claimed to help you fall asleep, stay asleep and even improve the quality of your Sleep. And it’s all about Tart Cherry Juice – specifically Montmorency cherries or sour cherries. So what exactly are the ingredients in this drink and how much validity is there to the claims that it helps you not only fall asleep but also stay asleep? In this episode we’re going to dive deep into the science behind the ingredients, find out what the ...
Mar 17, 2024•24 min•Season 1Ep. 316
This is my HEAD NOISE episode where you send in your questions and I answer them! In this episode you’ve asked for my advice on these questions. I'm in my 20s and feel unsure of my direction and purpose. Why do many of us in our 20s experience such feelings of uncertainty? My relationship with my ex-husband has left my in a flight or fight mode. I can feel myself finding myself again and all I crave is peace. I have an amazing new partner who is very patient and understanding HOWEVER because of ...
Mar 14, 2024•25 min•Season 1Ep. 315
What do you do when someone doesn't support your goals? The AMOUNT of times I have been asked this question! So it’s high time I dedicate an episode to it. I go through the reasons why people might not support you, and how to manage that relationship if you find yourself in that position. Plus I have an EXCITING announcement about the podcast for my Sydney Australia Beans! LINKS: Sign up to my mailing list at the bottom of my website to purchase presale tickets to my Sydney Live Show! https://ww...
Mar 12, 2024•29 min•Season 1Ep. 314
Memories are fascinating things. In this episode I’m covering how memories can be implanted, the concept of false memories, and repressed memories. You might even find the way you view memories completely changed by the end of this episode! RECCOS : Read ‘ Semantic Integration of Verbal Information into Visual Memory ’ by Loftus, Miller and Burns at https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1978-26704-001 . Watch ‘ Making a Murderer ’ on Netflix https://bit.ly/49FEIzp . Listen to S1 of Serial about Adnan S...
Mar 10, 2024•29 min•Season 1Ep. 313
Let's get into HEAD NOISE where I answer your questions about friendship, work, love, relationships, you name it! If you want your question answered you can email me at info@dyfmpod.com . My sister-in-law and I have a complicated relationship. I believe she is abusive toward my brother and has told him that I am the one making things difficult. Is the only way forward to cut my brother, who is my best friend, out of my life completely? Is there another way forward? My boyfriend has been liking p...
Mar 07, 2024•26 min•Season 1Ep. 312
Asking someone “so what do you do for work” is such a SNOOZE. Here’s my 6 questions to ask people when you want to get to know them. If small talk drives you around the bend then this episode is going to help you improve your chat game by 100% RECCOS : Buy my DYFM Card game at https://www.dyfmpod.com/shop . Buy Flex Mami’s Conversation Cards at https://shopflexmami.com/collections/conversation-cards . LINKS: Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follo...
Mar 05, 2024•24 min•Season 1Ep. 311
This episode is an encore of one of my early early days episodes – all about Forgiveness! If you’re a new bean this is a great place to catch up, or you’re an OG bean it’s helpful to have a relisten! This is for people who have apologized but even more so for those who have never sought to apologise or repair the problem. This episode will get you in a place of power and give you much more peace around situations where someone has wronged you. LINKS: Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/d...
Mar 03, 2024•36 min•Season 1Ep. 310
Let’s get into HEAD NOISE where I answer your questions about life, love, friendship, and all the fun messy things that make being alive so lit. 1) My partner and I are great, and then every now and then they snap when talking about or learning about my past dating history. My dating history isn’t anything wild, and I can’t control that I’ve been with other people, so how do I deal with their reaction to the fact that they’re not my first and only love? 2) My partner has genital herpes, and has ...
Feb 29, 2024•22 min•Season 1Ep. 309
Do you constantly replay scenarios in your head? What is rumination? And how can you stop these thoughts from taking over your life? In this episode we’ll find out what rumination is, why it happens to some people, and how you can turn it around so you can start living life to its full potential. LINKS: Listen to my episode #48 on Attachment Theory – https://pod.fo/e/1f8308 . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG Follow @alexispredez on IG Follow @lis...
Feb 27, 2024•30 min•Season 1Ep. 308
