Episode Notes In this episode, I sit down with my friend Kim Acquaviva who is a Professor at the University of Virginia School of Nursing. I talk with Kim about her relationship with her late wife Kathy Brandt, and we discuss what it was like for Kim to deal with a spouse who was sick; how their intimacy changed, how their relationship was affected and more. The convo around care-giving illness and disability is extremely important and is required listening. A lot to unpack in this one! Enjoy! Y...
Jul 02, 2020•1 hr 30 min•Ep. 197
Episode Notes In this part 16 of Quarantine & Chill, I invite my best friend Kristen back on the show to talk about her experiences doing her personal care on her own, and why she chose to stop seeing her personal support workers during the pandemic + a whole lot more and some laughs too! You can follow Kristen on Twitter at www.twitter.com/kdub155 If you want to be a part of a Quarantine & Chill Episode, be sure to e-mail us at disabilityafterdark@gmail.com using the subject line "Quara...
Jun 26, 2020•55 min
Episode Notes Hi friends! In Episode 196, we sit down with a new friend, Katie Pennick. She shares with us why the social model of disability is so important, we chat her experiences of dating in London as a wheelchair user, and a whole lot more. Enjoy! You can follow Katie Pennick on Twitter here: https://twitter.com/KatiePennick You can also follow her podcast about transit, disability and more called How We Got Here at this link: https://www.transportforall.org.uk/podcast/ Buy a #DisabledPeop...
Jun 25, 2020•1 hr 45 min
Episode Notes In this episode I sit down with Jazz who is queer, non-binary and has multiple disabilities, as we discuss the impact Covid19 has had on them living in rural British Columbia, Canada. They share how their experiences with hip dysplasia, sleep apnea, osteoarthritis and other disabilities have been affected during this time, and what might happen if they were hospitalized. We also explore how their poly relationship has been affected as well as their work as a Seamster + so much more...
Jun 19, 2020•1 hr 2 min
Episode Notes In another episode of "What Would Happen if You Became Disabled Tomorrow?" we sit down with my friend Kris Robin to talk about how their experience as a Gender Non-Conforming person might change if they used a wheelchair. How would they use the washroom, how would their job as a teacher, and their volunteerism look and feel differently. We also explore how their relationships might look differently. Enjoy this one. You can connect with Kris Robin here: https://www.instagram.com/kri...
Jun 18, 2020•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 195
Episode Notes In Episode 3 of the Handicast we sit down with our new friend and collaborator Katy Venables from the UK, as we talk about her experiences with masturbation and EDS. She shares how certain meds for her disabilities make it hard for her to cum, what pain can feel like and a whole lot more. We also tease that we are working on a book at Handi! Enjoy this one! You can follow Katy on Insta at https://www.instagram.com/vebberss/ You can follow Heather and I at Handi on @thatshandi on al...
Jun 15, 2020•58 min
Episode Notes In this episode of Quarantine & Chill, I sit down with Maria Morrero as we talk about her experiences with invisible illnesses like PTSD and PNES, as well as her experiences as a black woman trying to access medical care. We also have loads of laughs. It was really fun to sit with her and talk about her experiences during COVID19. Enjoy! You can reach out to Maria by e-mail at: morrero@umich.edu If you want to be a part of a Quarantine & Chill Episode, be sure to e-mail us ...
Jun 12, 2020•1 hr 18 min
Episode Notes In this episode, I take a look at the history of the word Cripple. Where did the word come from? What were its roots in language? How was it used to describe someone, and when was it first used as a slur in the English language. We also discuss use of the word "Crip" and the importance there, as well as take a look into some of the people like Nancy Mairs who have reclaimed the word cripple, and why she uses it. I hope you enjoy this one. You can read Nancy Mair's essay "On Being A...
Jun 11, 2020•32 min•Ep. 194
In Part 13 of Quarantine & Chill, I sit down with Felicia MacCay and talk about their experiences with work, productivity, POTS and EDS during the pandemic. We also chat about their experiences using a port system to get medication, and the difficulty they may have getting key medical supplies. A lot to unpack in this one. Enjoy! You can follow Felicia at: @ForThe.GirlWhoWaited If you want to be a part of a Quarantine & Chill Episode, be sure to e-mail us at disabilityafterdark@gmail.com...
May 29, 2020•58 min
In this episode, I sit down with Certified Sex Educator and Pleasure Advocate Elle Chase as I help to answer some questions she has as an educator about sex and disability. I loved being able to chat with Elle and give her the tools to make her sex education classes that much more inclusive. I hope you enjoy this one. You can follow Elle Chase on all socials at @TheElleChase or at her website www.ellechase.com Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afte...
May 28, 2020•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 193
In episode 2 of The Handicast, Heather and I sit down with the founder of an accelerator program we're a part of called Remarkable out of Sydney Australia, Pete Horsley. Pete explains to us all about Remarkable, and how they are working to ensure that disability tech startups, like Handi and other projects that help disabled people get to market. Pete also shares with us his personal connection to disability, what he thinks of Handi and a whole lot more. You can find out more about Remarkable he...
May 25, 2020•47 min
Episode Notes In Part 12 of Quarantine & Chill, I sit down with motivational and inspirational speaker Marco Pasqua, as we talk about how Covid-19 has played a role in his work as a speaker, but also we take a deep dive into his views on being a person with a disability versus disabled person, why positivity has helped him through, and more of his thoughts about the pandemic and disability. You can connect with Marco on his website: marcopasqua.com If you want to be a part of a Quarantine &a...
May 22, 2020•53 min
Episode Notes In this episode I sit down comedian Nicky Paris to talk about the relationship that he has with his brother who has Spinal Muscular Atrophy. Nicky shares with us some stories about them growing up together, why his brother is hilarious, and why Nicky felt guilt sometimes around his disabled brother. I thought this was a really important discussion that highlighted the experience of siblings of disabled people, and I hope you enjoy it. You can follow Nicky Paris @NickyParisBitch on ...
May 21, 2020•59 min•Ep. 192
Episode Notes In Part 11 of Quarantine & Chill, I sit down with my long time friend and colleague, Claire AH, as we talk about her experiences as a stroke survivor throughout the pandemic. We talk about her feelings having been a stroke survivor, why she sees herself as an "indoor cat", her concerns about the way symptoms of Covid-19, may be being overlooked, and more. We also chat about her how her work as a matchmaker with Friend of a Friend Matchmaking has been affected. You can follow Cl...
May 15, 2020•1 hr 4 min
Episode Notes In this episode, I sit down with escort, sex worker and body worker Daddy Lance Navarro to talk about his experiences working as a sex worker with disabled clients and what that meant for him. We also dive head long into our sexual experiences as client and worker, and Lance shares what he enjoyed about our sex together + a whole lot more! Enjoy! You can follow Daddy Lance Navarro's work on his website: www.LanceSF.com Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by ...
May 14, 2020•59 min
Episode Notes This is the first episode of Handicast, a show within the Disability After Dark feed all about the new sex toy company created by Andrew Gurza and Heather Morrison with an aim to put pleasure within reach. In this first episode, you are introduced to Heather and Andrew as a team, you learn about why they started their sex toy company Handi, and so much more. Episodes of Handicast will be released on Mondays at 12 a.m. EST. To follow along with Handi's journey, you can follow us on ...
May 11, 2020•38 min
Episode Notes In Part 10 of Quarantine & Chill, the podcast episodes dedicated to hearing about disabled people's responses to the COVID19 pandemic, I sit down with Kat Nantz, Sexual Wellness Coach, as she shares how her experience with Charcot Marie Tooth Disease and being hospitalized as a kid informed and prepared her for the pandemic. We also discuss her role as a disabled parent, and what that has meant to her in this time. She also talks a bit about how she has managed sex, desire and ...
May 08, 2020•1 hr 6 min
Episode Notes In this episode, I explore How to Help Your Disabled Lover Into Bed. I look at transfers like the Manual Lift, and explore some ways to do them properly but also create a sensual vibe with your disabled lover. I explain what a Hoyer Lift is and exactly how to use it, while also sharing how it can help create a sexy foreplay. I discuss the ways you can use a ceiling lift for sexy times, and we consider the ways that other transfer devices like turning aids and transfer belts could b...
May 07, 2020•1 hr
Episode Notes In this 9th episode of Quarantine & Chill, I invite my friend Charlie Garner from across the pond back on the show to catch up on how she is dealing with and managing her host of disabilities during the pandemic. We talk about how she feels more included in some ways, and how she feels like her work has never been this accessible. We also chat about her feelings on the UK response to Covid19, her fears about being hospitalized and a whole lot more. Enjoy! You can follow Charlie...
May 01, 2020•1 hr 9 min
Episode Notes In this episode, I sit down with future Congressman Jonathan Herzog as we talk about growing up with a stutter and whether or not he sees that as a disability. Then we chat about Universal Basic Income, Disability in the United States political system and whole lot more. You can follow Jonathan on Twitter at @JonathanHerzog5. Be sure to support our sponsors Come As You Are and Adam & Eve.
Apr 30, 2020•1 hr 6 min
Episode Notes In episode 8 of Quarantine & Chill, I sit down with disabled actor, documentary subject and stroke survivor, Maggie Whittum as we discuss her experiences being a stroke survivor through Coronavirus. We talk about how the language we have used around the pandemic mimics the language used as a stroke survivor, her thoughts on theatre in the time of Covid-19, and a whole lot more. Enjoy! You can follow Maggie on Twitter at @MaggieWhittum. You can also follow her disability theatre...
Apr 24, 2020•44 min
In this episode, I invite the guys from Gayish podcast back on the show to discuss whether or not certain gay sex positions are accessible. We explore whether or not you can pull my legs apart to finger me, why Kyle and I both like big arms, and ask, are spontaneous blowjobs in clubs accessible to me, plus a whole lot more. Enjoy! You can follow the guys from Gayish at @gayishpodcast on all socials. Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by u...
Apr 23, 2020•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 188
In episode 7 of the Quarantine & Chill series, I sit down with my friend Jase Grimm (formerly known as Jay Austin) as we talk about his experiences with an undiagnosed disability during the pandemic, and how he feels about claiming the disability identity during this time. We find out that he's baking bread during our convo to stay happy, and a whole lot more. Enjoy! You can follow Jase on Insta at @jasegrimm. If you want to be a part of Quarantine & Chill episodes, e-mail us at disabili...
Apr 17, 2020•47 min
In this episode of "What's Your Condition?" this week we explore the condition Ataxia with special guest Courtney Ng who lives with Ataxia herself. We talk about how it affects her physically and mentally, how she felt talking about it with her family, her work on Social Media with Hope For Ataxia Facebook Group and a whole lot more. Enjoy! You can follow Hope For Ataxia here. Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "after...
Apr 16, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 187
In this episode of Quarantine & Chill on Disability After Dark, I sit down with disability activist and thought leader Emily Ladau as we discuss how the pandemic has played a role in her life as a disabled person. She tells us how she is working through the feelings of access that everyone is all of a sudden getting, fears that she won't be able to help her disabled family members, why she wrote an op ed about her thoughts as a disabled person and more. You can follow Emily Ladau on Twitter ...
Apr 10, 2020•45 min
In this episode, I sit down with disability and LGBTQ advocate, Carson Tueller. We talk about his experiences before becoming disabled, and some of his experiences after becoming disabled. He shares his thoughts on his "palatability" within the LGBTQ community versus other disabled people, and a whole lot more. Enjoy! You can follow Carson on instagram @carson_tueller Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". Bu...
Apr 09, 2020•1 hr 26 min•Ep. 186
In this episode, I sit down with Sara Bensinger and Rachel Kamen about their experiences as disabled friends and podcast partners through this pandemic. We talk about their experiences with Ehlers Danlos and Gastroparesis, what they already understood about social distancing, what it's like to maybe not have access to their meds and more. We also touch on their work with the #wearethevulnerable podcast they want to start. Enjoy this latest episode of Quarantine & Chill. You can follow them o...
Apr 06, 2020•1 hr 10 min
This week I sit down with life coach Heather Morgan and we talk about her experiences having an undiagnosed disability, being the disabled parent of disabled kids, her experiences of sex and disability, living with a partner with a whole other set of disabilities and a whole lot more. You can connect with Heather on Twitter at @poweredbylove2 Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". Buy a #DisabledPeopleAreHot ...
Apr 02, 2020•1 hr 49 min•Ep. 185
This is just a little announcement to say that Disability After Dark will be moving in a new direction. New content, new shows, new ideas. Enjoy!
Apr 01, 2020•8 min
In Part 4 of Quarantine and Chill, I sit down with past guest Rachael Rose to ask her how she is dealing with the COVID19 pandemic. She talks about how her chronic illness, "masto", as she calls it affects her during this time. We talk about how fragrances that we use to stay clean could adversely affect her. We talk about hoarding and why we shouldn't panic buy and so much more. Enjoy this bonus cripple covid content. You can follow Rachael on socials at @hedonish. You can write in to be on an ...
Mar 31, 2020•43 min
