"Some people will never like you because your spirit irritates their demons."- Denzel Washington We're often expected to engage with people who hold views that differ vastly from our own. Or we are forced into circumstances where we need to reunite with old friends or family members who know (and hold tightly to) a different version of us than the one that exists today. These situations can test you, but they can also offer an opportunity to expand our window of tolerance. So, how can you effect...
Aug 16, 2022•6 min•Ep. 209
"Every one of you has met somebody that has this aura about them that brings other people joy and excitement just because of their presence." I used to think that being at peace with your life, no matter the outside circumstances, was just for those afraid to challenge themselves to the next level. Now, I know that's not true. But when is it time to stop digging for more in your personal development and just allow yourself to be? And how can you create that space inside that allows you to be tru...
Aug 02, 2022•18 min•Ep. 208
There was a time when I couldn’t keep a needle out of my arm, and Mallory had to stop and buy me a carton of cigarettes on the drive to rehab. I came from nothing. I've lost everything I've had, built it back up, lost it again, and then built it again. But it hasn't always been easy or conflict-free—Mallory and I constantly remind each other that the problems we worry about today are problems the old versions of ourselves would have died for. So, how can you build the life of abundance and love ...
Jul 26, 2022•30 min•Ep. 207
Running a household includes childcare, cleaning, cooking, home maintenance, and more. But each of us brings different skill levels and our own frustrations to these projects when they don't proceed as we expect. So how can we set aside our reactive behaviors in order to see our household projects through to completion? On this episode of Destined to Be, we'll walk you through how our old stories come up when we work on projects, causing overwhelm that can be bigger than the task at hand. Plus, ...
Jul 19, 2022•30 min•Ep. 206
Scientifically speaking, by the time you're 35 years old, 95% of your life has automatic habits or things you're just repeating over and over again. Traumas in childhood and beyond can lead to us being triggered throughout the rest of our lives, causing our body to react in a certain way because our body will always remember what our mind forgets. But you cannot achieve emotional mastery when you’re constantly being triggered by your thoughts, feelings, or emotions. So how can you learn to ident...
Jul 12, 2022•25 min•Ep. 205
We ALL have stories around literally everything—money, relationships, our parenting. They can be as simple as we listen to this music, not that music, because it's what we listened to growing up. Or they can be deeply entrenched, activating anxiety or some other response when we are triggered. Those are the stories we need to shift to grow, and that's when things can become uncomfortable. So, how can we open ourselves up to seeing our stories for what they are so we can reframe them? Today, I'm ...
Jul 05, 2022•30 min•Ep. 204
We all have stories that affect every decision we make and how we live out our lives on a day-to-day basis. From the track playing in our minds that tells us we don't deserve rest even when we’re not feeling our best, to tying our self-worth to the wrong career or relationship. But how can we tell the difference between the stories we tell ourselves and what's real? Today, we're digging deep into how open your awareness to the narratives that play inside so you can let go of the longtime labels ...
Jun 28, 2022•30 min•Ep. 203
Do you find yourself so focused on your regime and achievements you feel like a failure if you take a day off or get up an hour later? Or are you in the flow, with tons of creative ideas, but you accomplish nothing because you’re all over the place? There is a better way! Today on the Destined to Be podcast, Brooke Rozzie of The Power of a Woman podcast joins Mallory to talk about how you can balance your masculine and feminine sides so you can own your energy for every cycle and season in all a...
Jun 21, 2022•47 min•Ep. 202
Is there a one-size-fits-all formula for personal development? We're all human beings living different lives, which likely means we want very different things depending upon the stage of our journey. Some people want to build a business, some want to develop their self-esteem, and others might be somewhere in between. When people first dip their toe into personal development, they often try everything, exploring practices they think will move the needle but only giving each thing a half-hearted ...
Jun 14, 2022•36 min•Ep. 201
Childhood trauma can impact a person's emotional and physical health and personal relationships even when they're an adult, causing issues like addiction and co-dependency. Recently we sat down for an interview with Andrea Ashley on the Adult Child podcast , and today for our very special 200th episode; we're sharing that interview with you right here! We're going deep and sharing the back story from our troubled teen years to what happened that flipped the switch to bring forth our childhood tr...
Jun 07, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 200
Have you ever read a text from somebody that said, "we need to talk," and automatically, your mind started spinning? Your body reacts, and BOOM, it's off to the races. You begin spiraling out. Envisioning scenarios of losing everything, being homeless, your life as you know it destroyed. All these images were conjured up from just a few words on a screen and now, in your mind, you're living out your worst-case scenario. You've been triggered! Your body may react with adrenaline spikes and be rea...
May 31, 2022•23 min•Ep. 199
Did you know that 95% of how you show up, your attitudes, actions, beliefs, essence, and the beauty of the person you are is ingrained by the time you're 35 years old? The question then becomes, who created the person I am today? The way you evolve and grow in the future will be determined by how you answer that question. On this episode of Destined to Be, I'm sharing the paradigm shift that happens when we open ourselves up to expanding our consciousness and commit to doing the inner work aroun...
May 24, 2022•26 min•Ep. 198
I love affirmations. But if you haven't done the necessary internal work, it can be like slapping a band aid on an injury you need to go to the doctor's office for. It's just covering up the wound instead of healing it from the inside out. I started my coaching journey as a mindset coach. That's what I knew. But it only took me so far. You may find the same thing on your growth journey. Mindset tools will get you to a new place, but you might stall or find that old blocks begin to reappear. You ...
May 17, 2022•28 min•Ep. 197
There's a time to push yourself in life, and there's a time to let yourself off the hook and just be. The challenge comes in determining when to do each. It can be difficult to step back and allow things to proceed as they are meant to. So often we get stuck in a pattern of charging ahead, injecting ourselves into whatever situation we are facing instead of receiving what the universe is creating. On this episode of Destined to Be, we share our personal stories of situations where each of us was...
May 10, 2022•27 min•Ep. 196
The thoughts are the language of the mind. Feelings are the emotions and expressions of the body. With our schedules and never-ending to-do lists, many of us find ourselves living in the past, contemplating decisions we made or things we said while forgoing what’s happening today to look toward the future. Living this way can leave us feeling worn out, out of touch with ourselves, and even out of control in our lives. Recently, I’ve instituted a few practices designed to help me let go of my pas...
May 03, 2022•22 min•Ep. 195
Social media is one of the biggest pain points for people today. We hear things like, “I get so nervous when I show up online,” or “I have to retake the same video 25 times before I actually share it,” or “I stumble over my words.” Maybe you hear yourself in some of those statements? We’ve all been there. On this episode of Destined to Be, we share Jeremiah’s own story of why he didn’t enjoy showing up online, and how being vulnerable in his feed flipped the switch for him. Plus, Mallory shares ...
Apr 26, 2022•31 min•Ep. 194
It’s important to have healthy expectations in a relationship. In a healthy relationship, you are each getting your needs met and meeting the needs of the person you love and trust the most. But it can be challenging to express your needs effectively. Especially in that initial conversation with your partner. Sometimes the verbiage we use can trigger the other person leaving them feeling attacked instead of inspired. And things can get even more muddled if you don’t know what your expectations f...
Apr 19, 2022•39 min•Ep. 193
We all need a break. Generally, as a society, we’re tired and overworked. But with all this stress in our lives, it can feel impossible to let go long enough to find a way to recharge. On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the importance of being able to disconnect from stress and how to find true relaxation. We share our experiences struggling to relax on vacation, finding time to unwind as a family, and how our human design types show up in our quests for disconnection from work and bu...
Apr 12, 2022•41 min•Ep. 192
Just because we have grown in certain areas of our lives, doesn’t mean we will always react perfectly to things happening around us. We must practice holding space. This is where we are able to be present and aware of how we are allowing our emotions to show up in conflict. On this episode of Destined To Be, I’m here for another solo episode where I share my strategies for acting, thinking, and feeling in congruence, and how that allows me to understand the true motives behind my emotions. I sha...
Apr 05, 2022•34 min•Ep. 191
“As easy as riding a bike.” That’s the saying. But what if the way you rode the bike changed? Would you be able to unlearn the thing you’ve known since you were a kid? In the Youtube video, The Backwards Brain Bicycle , Destin from the SmarterEveryDay channel changes the gears on his bicycle, so when he turns the handlebars one way, the bicycle goes the opposite way. It took him eight months to learn how to ride it. On this episode of Destined To Be, I talk about this video and how it changed th...
Mar 29, 2022•28 min•Ep. 190
The fear of being judged can drive us to live our lives inauthentically. When we worry about what others think, it can feel safer to show up as who we think people want us to be, rather than who we are. But it’s important to know that other people will never be able to see you the way you truly are. It’s impossible. They can only see you through their own biases and judgments. On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss why our public perceptions can be complicated and how to change the way we...
Mar 22, 2022•28 min•Ep. 189
How many times have you worried about how others perceive you? Maybe you’ve worried people will judge you for getting your nails or hair done too much. Maybe you’ve come back from a night out completely paranoid about every little thing you said. Life is exhausting. Let’s not make it harder on ourselves. As life goes on, we evolve. There should be no apologizing for that. And we can’t let others dictate how we choose to show up in our own lives. They’re OUR lives, not anybody else’s. On this epi...
Mar 15, 2022•24 min•Ep. 188
We all know the feeling of being bothered by someone so much that we can barely stand it. But what does that insinuate for ourselves and our mental well being? Why is that particular thing so triggering? Why are we so worried about what someone else is doing? We know that oftentimes, our triggers are a reflection of something we need to work on in our own lives. On this episode of Destined to Be, Jeremy shares his experience battling with his hatred for hypocrites and what that means for himself...
Mar 08, 2022•29 min•Ep. 187
I’m going to let you in on a little secret. People are not paying as much attention to you as you think they are. I don’t say this to mean that you don’t have a great impact on people, but we often hold ourselves back because we think people will notice we aren’t perfect. You might not launch your business because your site isn’t perfect, or not go to the gym because your outfit doesn’t match. Hint: nobody cares. It’s taken me a long time to realize this, so on this episode of Destined to Be, I ...
Mar 01, 2022•25 min•Ep. 186
In March, we’re starting an intensive, nine-month master coaching certification program. A program we know will challenge us mentally and emotionally. How are we setting ourselves up for success? What are we doing to prioritize the program around parenting and the multiple businesses we run? On this episode of Destined to Be, we explain how we each approach a program we know will test our time and attention, describing how to make decisions around what’s possible from a ‘window of tolerance’ or ...
Feb 23, 2022•36 min•Ep. 185
We spend a lot of our time in the comfort zone. We know what we like and continue our routines in our careers, with friends, and even the small things like a coffee order. But what if your preferences are blocking your possibilities? It’s easy to decide your fate before you’ve even had the chance to explore your options. We often find ourselves being fearful of the bad things that could happen in our lives, instead of embracing the endless opportunities. It’s me, Mallory, and I am back with anot...
Feb 15, 2022•32 min•Ep. 184
In every area of life, to move forward, we must look back and address certain parts of ourselves. This can be one of the hardest and scariest things to do, but we don’t have to go through it alone. On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the ugly side of growth and why it’s not always sunshine and rainbows like everyone online makes it seem. We explore how we have dealt with the many struggles that come with stepping outside our comfort zone and confront many truths that can be hard to swa...
Feb 08, 2022•27 min•Ep. 183
Going into any situation, whether it’s with a loved one or a coworker, it can be so easy to put the blame on others for how we feel. “You should have helped me.” “You don’t care about me.” But what’s really going on inside for us to feel these things so deeply? Is it childhood trauma, built up resentment from lack of communication, or an insecurity that has been pushed down for years? How can we deal with these beliefs and make it easier to have empathy and compassion in our relationships? On th...
Feb 01, 2022•38 min•Ep. 182
With the new year we tend to have unrealistic expectations for ourselves that cause us to hit a wall, throwing all our resolutions out the window. What if instead of adding, adding, adding to our lists, we simplified our lives to be able to fit in more of the things that really matter? On this episode of Destined to Be, I, Mallory, explores the idea that we need to shift from the new year, new me hustle mentality with a more simplistic and joyful mindset, describing ways we can create a space th...
Jan 25, 2022•27 min•Ep. 181
Most people grow up with the end goal to become successful. Though what does success even mean? What if instead of striving to be successful based on what others are doing or to be looked at as successful by others, you got real with yourself with what success really means to you? How can you live in alignment with your idea of success and continue to redefine it as you continue to evolve? On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss how the definition of success is subjective and why it’s so i...
Jan 18, 2022•39 min•Ep. 180
