145 How Can I Help My Children Who Suffer With Nerves Before They Compete?
Episode description
In this short solo episode, I answer a question posed by a parent. “How can I help my son, a goalkeeper who gets very grumpy and nervous the evening before a match?” Many children across a range of sports face this challenge, often talking themselves into performing poorly before they go out to play a match or compete. They let nervousness win. Today’s episode is set up to help parents where I share some ideas on how you could adapt your approach so that you help your children.
Key Learning
- Consider if you are providing emotional support or if you are drawn into problem solving?
- Offer your children some space.
- Help your children to find ways to switch off from their sport.
- Be careful not to over-coach your children.
- Consider if practice the day or evening before is fun and relaxing or actually fuelling anxiety and perfectionism.
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