If left to my own devices I could be addicted to almost anything. Today I want to break down why we get addicted and ways that we can overcome those addictions. On this episode we discuss: Why we become addicted The benefits of overcoming addictions Sympathetic v. Parasympathetic What are you avoiding? You must admit there is a problem Create a regular schedule Don’t go it alone Shatterproof Yourself Video: 7 ACTIONS to START Building Your Legacy Resources: Who Are Your True Friends? (video) by ...
May 23, 2023•29 min•Ep. 74
Do you feel depleted? Like things around you are leaving you drained? Today I want to explore how we can build energy into our lives so that we have the courage and capacity to achieve our goals. On this episode we discuss: Identify things that energize you and fills you up The leaky cup Emotional v. physical energy How energy levels shift What are your energy drains The role anxiety plays in your energy level Making a plan and be accountable What you are good at and what you enjoy Shatterproof ...
May 16, 2023•28 min•Ep. 73
So I bought a car with cash, no loan required. But something was nagging at me and I decided to return the vehicle within the 30-day window. I discovered I was compromising my values by purchasing this vehicle and I want to share with you how to ensure you don’t compromise on your values. On this episode we discuss: Why staying true to your values is so important Identify your core values What do other people believe your values are Values are behaviors Being willing to make adjustments Take a p...
May 09, 2023•29 min•Ep. 72
Are you in a rut and not progressing forward? You need to ask the right questions to expose what is keeping you stuck. On this episode we discuss: The things that are keeping you dissatisfied How perfectionism kept me from making my first course What would you do if you had no fear and 10x more courage? Define what you want Get clarity on what is creating the gap What is the action that you can take Shatterproof Yourself Video: 7 ACTIONS to START Building Your Legacy Resources: My 20 Favorite Qu...
May 02, 2023•25 min•Ep. 71
This episode I wanted to build on last week and focus on how you can find value within yourself. We look at three practical ways you can improve your self-concept and handle the trauma that is in your life. On this episode we discuss: The difference between self-worth and self-concept The role of critical people in our lives Comparison v. inspiration The lies we believe about ourselves Your three closest friends Being a friend to yourself Cleaning up what’s on the inside Shatterproof Yourself Vi...
Apr 25, 2023•25 min•Ep. 70
Some days (weeks, months, years, etc.) just don’t turn out the way that we are hoping. Honestly, I’m wrestling with some of that right now. But today I want to share with you how I’m dealing with my own disappointment. On this episode we discuss: How do you define a close friend? Process your feelings with trusted people The value in seeking to understand others Remember the good things in your life and practice gratitude You must be specific Do things you enjoy (even when you want to isolate yo...
Apr 18, 2023•20 min•Ep. 69
What would your life look like if you followed through on your commitments? So much can be possible when you can take the action that allows you to pursue your goals. Today we are going to get down to some actionable strategies that will allow you to move forward. On this episode we discuss: Become aware of your thoughts Core beliefs you have about yourself Power questions to become aware of your thinking Learn to relax Peace from your mind Taking smaller incremental steps Expose yourself to the...
Apr 11, 2023•32 min•Ep. 68
Whether in the office or on the field, young or old, it’s common for internal or external factors to create pressure that leads to anxiety. I recently appeared as a guest on the Feel Better Be Better Show with my friends Nevada and Kaitlyn to talk about this very subject. On this episode we discuss: The art of letting go The Magic Magnifying Mind The difference between process and outcome Training instead of trying Staying in the game Trusting your personal value Not giving fear time to set in U...
Apr 04, 2023•59 min•Ep. 67
We’ve all seen the “believe” sign on Ted Lasso and experienced the hope that it stirs inside us. We aspire to be people who believe in ourselves and our capabilities, but how do we get there? Today we chart a path to developing a strong belief in yourself. On this episode we discuss: The ways we put ourselves down Accepting your past Forgive those that have hurt you Build positives into your life (big and small) The act of building mastery Shifting your focus to others Identify what you truly li...
Mar 28, 2023•28 min•Ep. 66
Sometimes it’s easy to gloss over the fact that we don’t always know our family and friends nearly as well as we think. But with every day there is a new opportunity to increase that connection in meaningful ways, whether focusing on the past or the future together. On this episode we discuss: The unexpected thing I learned about my dad Focusing on creating meaningful experiences together Creating keepsakes to deepen connection Being there when they really need you Interviewing family members (a...
Mar 21, 2023•22 min•Ep. 65
Sometimes even when we are pursuing our goals and passions, things happen that can just suck the wind out of our sails. These obstacles, whether internal or external, can be challenging to overcome. Today we will break down steps you can take to persevere on the path to achieving your own goals. On this episode we discuss: Being inspired by my own daughter’s resilience Different kinds of distractions Visualize achieving your goals Wanting to want to pursue your goals Using a mindset shift to pro...
Mar 14, 2023•29 min•Ep. 64
Have you ever read the page of a book and then realized you didn’t absorb anything because you were too distracted? Today we are going to talk about how to get out of your own head. On this episode we discuss: What’s happening in our brain when we get stuck in our head What is “brain lock”? Having a vision for life without anxiety Noticing that you are stuck in your head Getting the thoughts in your head out Choosing gratitude Taking an MRA (massive radical action) Shatterproof Yourself Video: 7...
Mar 07, 2023•25 min•Ep. 63
It can take a lifetime to build and a moment to destroy. So much of the depth of our relationships depends on how much we are trusted. Today we are going to break down the key components to build trust with others in relationships. On this episode we discuss: The importance of being trustworthy Ensuring appropriate boundaries in relationships Start by trusting yourself Stop overthinking Create the expectation of consistency Becoming more predictable Prioritize actions over words Build an appropr...
Feb 28, 2023•26 min•Ep. 62
Sometimes we are so focused on the dangers from failure we forget that many of the same traits that lead to failure also lead to success. That’s why I’m so excited about taking the opportunity to fail and you should be too. On this episode we discuss: What happens when I get more comfortable with failure Defining what success and failure are (and what they look like) Success can be just as scary as failure Working on your mindset around failure Doing something hard every day (maybe multiple thin...
Feb 21, 2023•25 min•Ep. 61
I’ve been single for a few years now. And as I have started dating again I became acutely aware of some things that I was doing that would make me more or less attractive to others. Whether looking for a romantic partner or a great friend, the things we discuss today can serve to draw others to yourself. On this episode we discuss: Being you as your best self What it looks like to be a jerk (but nicely) Assertiveness and honesty Taking risks in your own life Maintaining your values Being willing...
Feb 14, 2023•27 min•Ep. 60
So many times fear has held me back from pursuing things that could bring me success. When we look at the successful people around us, I’ve found that there are a series of habits they engage in that encourage them to move forward. Today we are going to break those down so you can apply them to your life. On this episode we discuss: The pursuits I could have taken if fear didn’t hold me back The value of regular and consistent sleep What my dad was always doing to support his health Waking early...
Feb 07, 2023•24 min•Ep. 59
The foundation of so much of our lives can be found in our emotional and relational health. To really unpack this, I brought in my good friend and fellow mental health specialist Todd Nickel to talk about the ways in which we can improve our relationships with others and ourselves. On this episode we discuss: Improving our communication with others Identifying priorities and goals in our lives The faulty assumption we make with our relationships Making communication safe How to build new friends...
Jan 31, 2023•44 min•Ep. 58
Recently I walked a group of people through the process of creating a vision board. Following a similar process yourself can give you clarity and focus as you move towards your own chosen Legacy. On this episode we discuss: How things on my vision board resulted in an RV adventure with my daughter Taking time to reflect Identifying where you want to be Giving yourself a vision board challenge How a vision board creates clarity The process is where the joy is found The four steps to creating a vi...
Jan 24, 2023•28 min•Ep. 57
You’ve heard it before, but journaling is a powerful way to gain clarity and organize your thoughts without being overwhelmed. This week I’m joined by Nick Bertram to discuss how journaling has transformed his life. On this episode we discuss: Why Adam burned a bunch of journals The different types of journals What to write about How journaling helps organize your thoughts What happens when you physically write by hand Don’t overcomplicate things Being kind to yourself Seeing progress over time ...
Jan 17, 2023•36 min•Ep. 56
Do you struggle with being critical of yourself and others? Do you find yourself in a daily battle with negativity? On this episode we dive into what causes us to be negative and how it impacts our lives. Then we explore three ways to overcome that negativity to be more fulfilled, engaged and satisfied. On this episode: Adam answers listener questions How Adam has struggled with negativity and how it has cost him What the ego is doing in causing us to be critical Three strategies to overcome neg...
Jan 10, 2023•39 min•Ep. 55
The world will always come at us with stressful situations, but it’s the ability to manage and regulate our emotional responses that will allow us to live intentionally. With these strategies you can improve your emotional reactions and live more intentionally. On this episode we discuss: The importance of managing stress well How addictive habits form How intentional self-regulation can provide confidence Increase and focus on the positives Prepare in advance Grow in your mastery Engage your br...
Jan 03, 2023•25 min•Ep. 54
As we close in on the end of the year, it’s the perfect time to do some self-reflection on what has happened so you can launch into the new year with clarity. I’m joined by my friends Bryan and Gavin and together we explore some of the reflections they’ve had about their own year. On this episode we discuss: Why self-reflection is so valuable Ways to have a mini-retreat to facilitate reflection Discovering things that surprised you, both successes and challenges Identifying things that energize ...
Dec 27, 2022•30 min•Ep. 53
Some mental health professionals say you need to "move on" from past pain and trauma. But I think the only way to experience true freedom in your life is to face this pain, and today we will cover a process to help you through that. On this episode we discuss: The trauma I experienced in my own life and the scars I carried You need to have the ability to face depression and anxiety in your life Beginning with a life timeline Write about the details Talk with those you can trust Move towards acce...
Dec 20, 2022•33 min•Ep. 52
Growing up I had a bully that always bothered me. One day, I found out firsthand how taking decisive and consistent action can be transformational. And I want you to have that same victory in your life. On this episode we discuss: How the act of spitting energized me What is that one thing you are procrastinating on? Defining the perfection trap Getting out of your head Focusing on how action will help others Identifying how action will benefit yourself Eliminating excuses by having an answer fo...
Dec 13, 2022•23 min•Ep. 51
People are always asking me how they can have better, more vibrant relationships. But often, there is one big mistake that most people make in their relationships. We're going to dive into that mistake and 10 strategies for countering it. On this episode we discuss: The big mistake of invalidating others How invalidation drives wedges Strategies for being more validating of others Avoid being critical Keep the focus off yourself Use someone's first name Show interest in them and their interests ...
Nov 22, 2022•25 min•Ep. 50
As we approach the holidays this year you may be thinking about relationships that have gone stale, or people you don't talk to often or have the level of closeness or intimacy you would like to have. But with the change in schedules you will have the opportunity to use the strategies in this conversation to rekindle and strengthen those connections. On this episode we discuss: The value of relationships on our mental health What makes someone a true friend Loving yourself first My 30-day challe...
Nov 08, 2022•27 min•Ep. 49
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Nov 07, 2022•31 sec•Ep. 50
As we deal with the challenges of pleasing others and overcoming past trauma, it can sometimes be hard to know what we truly want in life. Today we are going to break down some actionable strategies you can use to understand yourself in a deeper and more authentic way. On this episode we discuss: Why I invite people to take risks Knowing yourself as the key to long-term happiness Laughing and having fun What codependency does to us Journaling regularly to externalize your thoughts Creating a pla...
Oct 25, 2022•28 min•Ep. 48
The themes in our lives where we avoid confrontation reveal where we give our power away to others. But to get the best possible outcome we must avoid assuming the end result and become assertive enough to enter those difficult situations. The result can be life-giving. On this episode we discuss: What it means to give your power away How being more assertive can energize your life Staying committed and following through Taking consistent risks The DEAR MAN framework for dealing with difficult s...
Oct 11, 2022•30 min•Ep. 47
We know what it feels like to be motivated right after hearing or reading something inspiring. But what happens on day five, or day 50? How do you maintain that energy level to achieve your goals? On this episode we break down several practical strategies you can engage to stay motivated for the long haul. On this episode we discuss: Making things stick Not moving forward is actually a step back Avoiding the leak, writing it down Identifying the expected obstacles Focusing on a vision The bigges...
Sep 27, 2022•26 min•Ep. 46
