Dear Shandy - podcast cover

Dear Shandy

Sharleen Joynt & Andy Levineart19.com

Sharleen Joynt and Andy Levine—aka "Shandy"—combine dating advice and reality show recaps for a fun analysis of modern romance.

Sharleen and Andy are two former commitment-phobes who have now been married for over a decade. They don’t believe in fate, soulmates, or The One. So how did they wind up so happily married? They learned the tough dating lessons by living them. Get no-holds-barred, non-judgmental & honest advice from two people who actually have what you want: a fun, blissful partnership.

As an iconic former Bachelor contestant, Sharleen brings her insider knowledge (combined with Andy's hilarious commentary) to deliver what are hands-down the best Reality TV recaps in the business. They interview reality TV (or reality-adjacent) couples in double-date style episodes called Love Fests. New episodes drop every Thursday, and during TV seasons, twice a week.

Last refreshed:
Follow this podcast in the Metacast mobile app to refresh it and see new episodes.
Download Metacast podcast app
Podcasts are better in Metacast mobile app
Don't just listen to podcasts. Learn from them with transcripts, summaries, and chapters for every episode. Skim, search, and bookmark insights. Learn more

Episodes

Bachelorette Recap: Finale | Devin & Jenn, A Shakespearean Tragedy - Ep 332

Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're breaking down the shocking FINALE of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://sundaysfordogs.com/SHANDY or use code SHANDY at checkout for 40% off your first order! - Go to https://mudwtr.com and use code SHANDY to get up to 43% off your entire order, Free Shipping and a Free Rechargeable Frother! - Go to https://www.skims.com/SHANDY for free shipping on your purchase of $75 or more!...

Sep 05, 20241 hr 30 minEp. 332

LOVE FEST! Caelynn & Dean Bell Are Mega Yin Yang - Ep 331

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today Shandy is joined by a Bachelor Nation POWER COUPLE who has been married for nearly a year. You got to know Caelynn on Colton Underwood's season of The Bachelor, and Dean on Rachel Lindsay's season of The Bachelorette, but it was on season 6 of Bachelor in Paradise where we saw them escape reality TV, hand-in-hand! Today Caelynn and Dean chat their true first impressions of one another, the ways in which their partner isn't what they might have predicted for themselv...

Aug 29, 20241 hr 18 minEp. 331

Bachelorette Recap: Ep 8 + Men Tell All | Fantasy Suites & Hot Seats - Ep 330

Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're doing double, we're breaking down both Episode 8 and Men Tell All of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.pestly.co and use code SHANDY at checkout for 40% off your order! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your firs...

Aug 28, 20241 hr 26 minEp. 330

Your Crappy Childhood Ft Anna Runkle, Aka Crappy Childhood Fairy - Ep 329

Today's guest has come hotly requested by many of you and we're so happy to dissect the not-so-happy topic of childhood trauma with her. Anna Runkle, aka the one and only @CrappyChildhoodFairy , is the author of the upcoming book "Re-Regulated" (releases October 1, 2024 - preorder below). She has amassed a whopping 860K+ Youtube subscribers with her content covering how to heal from Complex PTSD—or as she has coined, Childhood PTSD. If you struggle with regulating your emotions, if you get stuck...

Aug 22, 20241 hr 7 minEp. 329

Bachelorette Recap: Ep 7 | Hometownzzzzzzz... 😴 - Ep 328

Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 7, aka Hometown Week of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://sundaysfordogs.com/SHANDY or use code SHANDY at checkout for 40% off your first order! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 50% off your first subscription order today! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY...

Aug 20, 20241 hr 2 minEp. 328

Q&A! The Case For Fading, Judging Breastfeeding & Confronting Tardy Friends - Ep 327

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your long distance boyfriend suddenly stops texting you without warning to go play video games, is that a sign of disrespect or a silly nothing burger? If your friends say they'll visit but routinely show up late (or not at all), what's a Shandy to do? If your dating situation makes you feel like one of the final two women on The Bachelor, how long is too long to give him to make his choice? And if your friend's public breastfee...

Aug 15, 20241 hr 8 minEp. 327

Bachelorette Recap: Ep 6 | Sam And The Case Of The Missing Adjectives - Ep 326

Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6 of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com:/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! Thanks to our Word Watch sponsors... ...

Aug 13, 20241 hr 18 minEp. 326

UPDATES To Shandies' Questions, Volume 4! - Ep 325

It's that time again, Shandies!!! We're back with volume 4 of our very special biannual UPDATES! When listening to our caller episodes and Q&As, if you find yourself wondering "where are they now?", today is all about filling in those blanks! We called out for updates from our question-asking Shandies and many were kind enough to provide their subsequent chapters, the good and the bad! Come join us in the living room where we're on the edge of our seats! Thanks to our sponsors! Time Stamps: ...

Aug 08, 20241 hr 23 minEp. 325

Bachelorette Recap: Ep 5 | Farmer Devin & The Sheep Herders - Ep 324

Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5 of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.oneskin.co and use code SHANDY for 15% off! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY ...

Aug 06, 20241 hr 6 minEp. 324

Caller 📞 Sessions! Career Vs Love: "He Moved For My Dream And Now Says It's 'My Turn'" - Ep 333

Callers are back in session! Today we're joined by lovely Elaine. She's on the exciting precipice of transitioning from grad school to career, but she feels a sense of obligation to her longtime boyfriend who's followed her to support her dreams. When it comes to the sacrifices we make for a relationship, is there such a thing as quid pro quo? Listen on for the Shandy take! Are you interested in getting the Shandy take but don't want to appear on the podcast? Email dearshandy@gmail.com for infor...

Aug 01, 202439 minEp. 333

Bachelorette Recap ft. Wells Adams: Ep 4 | Sam, Devin and Smoked Sam’N - Ep 332

Shandy is back with their world famous recaps, and we're joined by a very special guest, Wells Adams, bartender extraordinaire and host of Your Favorite Thing podcast! Today we're breaking down episode 4 of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Shop the Skims Soft Lounge Collection at https://www.skims.com/SHANDY! - Go to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first box plus 20% off your next month! - Go to https://...

Jul 30, 20241 hr 20 minEp. 332

Q&A! Bi-Curiosity, Sister Read Your Journal & Does Imitation = Flattery? - Ep 321 -Dear Shandy

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If a guy you meet online copies something from your dating profile and pastes it to his while you're still dating, is it a secret message or just straight-up plagiarism? If you know you're bi-curious but your (straight) wedding isn't far away, is it now or never to act on your curiosity? And if your sister purposely reads your journal and finds the not-so-nice things you wrote about her, who's the A-hole? Come join us in our living...

Jul 25, 20241 hr 14 minEp. 321

Bachelorette Recap: Ep 3 | Smooth Fists, Rough Personality - Ep 320

Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3 of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save 30%! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 50% off your first subscription order today! - Go to https://www.oneskin.co and use code SHANDY for 15% off! Thanks to our Word Watc...

Jul 23, 20241 hrEp. 320

Bachelorette Recap: Ep 2 | Devin Gets A Pearl Necklace - Ep 319

Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2 of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted su...

Jul 16, 20241 hr 3 minEp. 319

A Day In The Life Of Dave Neal - Ep 318

We're thrilled to debut a new series in our episode lineup, A Day In The Life! These are episodes dedicated to meaningful, intimate conversations with your favorite people! Our first ever A Day In The Life guest is none other than Dave Neal, standup comedian and host of The Rush Hour podcast! This is a man who never seems to sleep, and our curiosity finally got the best of us so we decided to ask him for ourselves: Where does he find the time to do so much? What's the hardest thing about running...

Jul 11, 20241 hr 29 minEp. 318

Bachelorette Recap: Ep 1 | Jenn Tran Makes History And A Historic Makeout - Ep 317

Shandy is back with their world famous recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6 of Jenn Tran's season of The Bachelorette, Season 21! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.oneskin.co and use code SHANDY for 15% off science driven skincare! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Thanks to our Word Watch sponsor... - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save 30%! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 3:27 - ...

Jul 09, 20241 hrEp. 317

Q&A! Dating a Guy Who's TOO Handsome, A 14-Year Situationship, & Right Guy, Wrong Timing? - Ep 316

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If the guy you're seeing is TOO good-looking, how to escape the insecurity spiral? If you've planned your friend's bachelorette party AND bridal shower and she can't even remember your birthday, is it worth the confrontation or does she get a bride pass? And if he was the right guy at the wrong time, when circumstances change, could the time be right? Finally, Shandy gives a pep talk to a Shandy newly out of a situationship of 14 Y...

Jul 04, 20241 hrEp. 316

Caller 📞 Sessions! "Should I Avoid My Reunion Because I Feel Like An Outcast?" - Ep 315

Caller sessions are back in session! Today we're joined by two lovely callers: Our first caller, Ali, has found herself PLANNING the reunion of an old friend group. However, she's been feeling ostracized and like maybe she's outgrown this circle. Should she simply not attend the reunion that she's planned, or is that more trouble than it's worth? Our second caller, Kat, is a Shandy who we've actually met in person (in Switzerland!) Her close relationship with her aunt has been strained lately an...

Jun 27, 202446 minEp. 315

Perfect Match Recap: Finale | How Did We Get Here & Why Did We Come? - Ep 314

Ask and you shall receive! By very popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the third and final batch of season 2, aka the grand finale! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to http://www.OliveandJune.com/SHANDY for 20% off your first Mani System! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five d...

Jun 21, 202442 minEp. 314

Q&A! Holding Grudges, When He "Forgets" He Said The L-Word, and Big Age Gaps - Ep 313

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your guy says ILY in the heat of the moment but later on "forgets" this happened, is that a sign you need to end things? If your 19 year old sister starts dating a 34 year old, can you express your disapproval or should you back off? And if your family sells a possession of your grandparents that you wanted and even offered to pay for, should you hold onto that grudge and confront them? Come join us in our living room for the Sh...

Jun 20, 20241 hr 7 minEp. 313

Perfect Match Recap: Eps 7-9 | Harry Jowsey And The Bathroom Kiss Whodunit - Ep 312

Ask and you shall receive! By very popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the second batch of season 2, meaning episodes 7-9! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://www.pestly.co and use code SHANDY at checkout for 40% off your order! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.skims.com/SHANDY to shop the Skims t-shirt shop and get free shipping on order...

Jun 14, 20241 hr 9 minEp. 312

Perfect Match Recap: Eps 1-6 | Shandy Pops Their Perfect Match Cherry - Ep 311

Ask and you shall receive! By extremely popular demand and for the very first time, Shandy is recapping Netflix's Perfect Match! Today we're breaking down the first batch of season 2, meaning episodes 1-6! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://jennikayne.com and use code DEARSHANDY to get 15% off your first order! - Go to https://oakessentials.com and use promo code SHANDY15 for 15% off your first order plus a free gift! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year sup...

Jun 10, 20241 hr 41 minEp. 311

We Got A Dog!!! Shandy's Dog Adoption Story - Ep 310

Shandy is officially on the Dawg Side! As you may know, 3 months ago we adopted a small dog named Ruby! We hadn't planned on doing a fur baby episode, but it came so hotly requested (and we were so touched by the enthusiasm!), we couldn't help but oblige. Today we're answering YOUR questions all about our pup, her adoption story, and whether or not the famed Cat Person (Andy) has been converted. Warning: unfettered gushing ahead! Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHAN...

Jun 06, 202450 minEp. 310

Q&A! Morality Check, What To Do When Your Friend Deserves Better, & A Travel Am-I-The-A-Hole Bonanza! - Ep 309

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! You met your boyfriend shortly after getting laid off—with a new job lined up, is it morally wrong to never tell him about the layoff? If you're single and sharing an Airbnb with couples and even some families, should you pay the same amount for a room in the rental, even if there's only one of you? If your friend unexpectedly invites her boyfriend on your planned girls trip, are you the a-hole if you pull out? And finally, what to...

May 30, 202459 minEp. 309

Heal Your Attachment Pattern With Eli Harwood, Aka @AttachmentNerd - Ep 308

Attachment Styles are at the core of SO many relationship dynamics yet so few of us know much beyond "secure", "anxious", and "avoidant". Isn't it about time we learned WHY we behave the way we do so we can learn how to stop getting in our own way? We're thrilled today to be joined by Eli Harwood, aka @attachmentnerd , therapist, author, and attachment theory expert! Eli has amassed a massive following on Instagram with her attachment expertise and analysis. She is the author of "Securely Attach...

May 23, 20241 hr 31 minEp. 308

Q&A! Responding To Stupid Questions, Friend-less Fiancé, & To Wed Or Not To Wed? - Ep 307

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is marriage necessary, or even at all what it's cracked up to be? If your partner struggles in the friendship department, how can you help? How should you respond to a question you hate being asked? And finally, an epic Am-I-The-Asshole question! Where does Shandy stand on unintentional door slamming? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://jennikayne.com and use code DEARSHANDY ...

May 16, 20241 hr 2 minEp. 307

Caller 📞 Session! "Is My Relationship Worth Saving?" - Ep 306

Caller sessions are BACK, baby! This is our SECOND Caller episode of 2024 (!) and we're thrilled we're joined by a lovely (and lively!) caller named Erin. Erin, whose relationship began with beautifully romantic gesture. However, 2+ months in, there are still kinks that need ironing. Erin is quick to defend her boyfriend, but when are excuses just... excuses? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $...

May 09, 202449 minEp. 306

We're Officiants! Officiating Nick & Natalie Joy Viall's Wedding - Ep 305

This episode is a surprise all around because Shandy had absolutely zero intention of recapping their experience officiating their friends' wedding. However, on Instagram you requested this with a fiery passion that couldn't be ignored! So today is all about Shandy as WEDDING OFFICIANTS! As you may know, on Saturday April 26th, 2024, Shandy officiated the wedding of Nick Viall and Natalie Joy, their longtime friends. This episode will contain reflections on the experience, tips (and regrets!) fo...

May 02, 202453 minEp. 305

Q&A! Too Much Complaining, The Seed Of Resentment & Is "Boring" Healthy? - Ep 304

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you have a tumultuous relationship history, is "boring" maybe a good thing? If you feel yourself becoming resentful in your relationship because your sacrifices outnumber your partner's, what to do? And not one, not two, but THREE heavy-hitting platonic friendship questions! What does Shandy consider a "friendship-reconsidering" level crime? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to htt...

Apr 25, 20241 hr 3 minEp. 304

The Genius Of Empathy With Dr. Judith Orloff - Ep 303

At the heart of so many relationship questions we've received—and relationships in general—is a common thread: EMPATHY. This "healing force", as our esteemed guest calls it, has the power to not only heal our relationships with others, but with ourselves. So why do so few of us understand its powers? Today we're honored to be joined by THE foremost expert on empathy, Dr. Judith Orloff, dubbed “the godmother of the empath movement.” Dr. Orloff is a board-certified psychiatrist and the New York Ti...

Apr 18, 202459 minEp. 303
For the best experience, listen in Metacast app for iOS or Android