Have you ever wished you could scientifically determine what’s wrong in your relationship? Or felt it would be helpful to somehow mathematically see how compatible you are with someone you’re dating? Or gone through a difficult period with a relationship partner and wished you could understand one another better? There’s a love tool that may be able to help. Zoey Charif went from getting a degree in Crimonology to writing about love and relationships — and in her love work, she brought to bear h...
Jun 20, 2025•1 hr
What does it mean to be a good parent? If part of your job is to provide stability, then it can seem like even if your love relationship isn't fulfilling, it's best to grit your teeth and get through it -- at least until the kids are out of the house. The truth is a lot more nuanced. Consider the following, for example: What are you role-modeling to your children if you stay in a relationship that's physically or emotionally barren? What are they learning from you and your partner about conflict...
Jun 13, 2025•54 min
Have you experienced any of the following yourself, or been in a love relationship with a partner who did? You've held beliefs like, "I must be broken," or, "The world is completely dangerous." You constantly tested your partner's loyalty You've thought things like, "I'm too much and my needs are too much." You've played out patterns to the effect of: "If I meet your needs perfectly, maybe you won’t hurt me or leave me." You've experienced health issues like chronic pain, gastrointestinal issues...
Jun 06, 2025•1 hr 17 min
We all know the "rules" have changed when it comes to dating and relationships. There are few absolute in terms of how to relate to a dating or relationship partner, which begs questions like: If not money, then what IS the modern man supposed to provide? If you're a man, it may be hard to grasp what a woman truly craves from you. There's good news on this front, though: We women still need you! In fact, many would say we need healthy, passionate, masculine men now more than ever. And there are ...
May 30, 2025•44 min
Have you ever doubted? Whether you've doubted yourself, the existence of a higher power, the efficacy of "alternative" healing techniques, or anything that goes against the mainstream -- this has likely come up for you at some point. When Naushad was young, he came very close to being a pro soccer player. But physical injury after injury stymied him, and set him on a path of healing that took him from North to South America and beyond. This is one man's personal journey of going from being a ske...
May 23, 2025•1 hr 24 min
Are you concerned about your lack of experience, whether that's sexually, in a dating context, or time in long-term relationships? Maybe you feel behind in some way, and hesitant or fearful about telling a woman about your level of experience. As Jason says, "For men in particular, it means something about you if you haven’t had sex." If it took you a while to start dating, have sex, or get into a relationship (or if, perhaps, you're not there yet as of today), you're not alone! Here we talk thr...
May 16, 2025•1 hr 11 min
Want to be even sexier to women than you are now? ;) Learn to strike while the iron is hot! Seriously though -- striking while the iron is hot makes you a man who can generate polarity, build trust, and have women want to surrender to you. Knowing how and when to take action is very sexy ... and passivity, not so much. And all of these principles apply whether you're in a dating relationship or you've been married for decades. Here we go through examples of men who've done this well in dating, r...
May 09, 2025•1 hr 32 min
Have you ever just felt STUCK? Stuck in your dating life, stuck in your marriage, stuck in your sex life (or stuck in your sex life within your marriage)? As one man on our panel put it, "I felt stuck for most of the 20 years of my marriage." Maybe you've felt trapped -- like you just couldn't work your way out of wherever you were. Here, four men get real about their journey going from totally stuck to in flow. Work with us Want to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with ...
May 02, 2025•1 hr 44 min
When I ask my male friends, "Do you trust men?" most of them say, pretty unequivocally, "No." Why does this matter? A lot of our clients come to us because they want to improve their dynamics with women. Whether they're single and dating or partnered and seeking more sex, intimacy, closeness, or harmony with their woman, there's a lot of focus on women. So what does a man's relationship to men have to do with it? Why does it matter to know whether you trust men, if you're working on healthy rela...
Apr 25, 2025•53 min
Want to generate sexual heat, and also inspire safety and a sense of belonging in your partner? Learn how to claim her! We've talked about claiming before on the podcast, especially with respect to building polarity. When a man is on the more passive side, it can feel lackluster and also confusing. As one woman put it, "Do you even want me?" This throws off polarity. When he knows how to take inspired action and lead by claiming us, we want to see him more! We feel the polarity. And because of t...
Apr 18, 2025•1 hr 12 min
When Wayne Forrest was 25 years old, he was a strong, rugby-playing farmer who was married with two twin babies. Then he had an accident on the rugby field and broke his neck. A doctor said he would never walk again. His wife wouldn't touch him anymore. And he thought, "How the hell am I going to survive this?" What follows is his story, which touches on everything from love, sex, and dating, to dependence, interdependence, and the power of the human spirit. As Wayne puts it, the Inner Warrior i...
Apr 11, 2025•1 hr 25 min
What does it mean to be a good husband? Many men we work with were trained to take care of everyone else before themselves. They often feel burnt out, and like they don't get nearly as much back as they give. If you've ever felt like you've tried everything you can to make your woman happy, but this only results in both of you being miserable ... you might be able to relate. Or perhaps you've lived some version of, "No matter how hard I try to please her -- how much I do -- it's never enough." H...
Apr 04, 2025•1 hr 12 min
If you've ever been with an emotionally volatile partner or perhaps suspected that you yourself might be emotionally volatile, you hopefully already know about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). (And if you haven't, we have lots of episodes on the subject!) Here, we talk to a therapist whose clientele is largely comprised of those contending with BPD. What's it like to be a therapist who works with clients with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? What are some of the big challenges and gr...
Mar 28, 2025•1 hr 40 min
Ever wanted to be a fly on the wall while women talked about their dating stories? Ever wondered what the men who have women feel both safe and turned on have in common? Here, four of us women discuss a specific skill that men have shown that has us feel taken care of and turned on. It boosts polarity like crazy, and it's relevant whether or not you're dating casually or you're in a committed, long-term relationship. What's extra intriguing is that while this is a relatively easy skill to master...
Mar 21, 2025•59 min
Does a part of you ever feel like just giving up? It's too much, it's too heavy, it's too complicated, it's too hard. Or has it ever felt like, "What's the point?" The truth is, we all have points in our lives when we feel overwhelmed. This can also show up in the, "Here I am again… I’m in the SAME SPOT. I always circle back to this.'" If you're single, perhaps it's: "Nothing's working in dating." If you're partnered, it could be: "I'm trying and trying, but nothing’s working to get us reconnect...
Mar 14, 2025•56 min
Ever feel like you need to be tough in order to be seen as "masculine" enough? Ever feel like you wish you could just let your guard down and be taken care of? The truth is, it is a deep human need to be nurtured in relationship. It's neither masculine nor feminine, and we need to expand our awareness of and perception of love, relationship, and what it means to be taken care of, whether we're dating or in a committed long-term relationship. Men need to feel safe, desired, and received just as m...
Mar 07, 2025•1 hr 16 min
"Porn was the #1 relationship I had in terms of intimacy." So says Jason on his experience of sex, love, and closeness in his 20s. (Fortunately, after engaging in personal growth, including men's work, he's now married to a radiant goddess!) If you've ever struggled with your relationship to porn -- and if that has also impacted your relationship to sex and sexuality, you're far from alone. Countless clients of ours start out with a challenging dynamic with porn, and here's the truth: Porn use i...
Feb 28, 2025•1 hr 3 min
Most of us, on our growth journeys, become aware that we need to heal from some kind of trauma. We also often discover that we need more than talk therapy. Altered states have been used since time immemorial to help us on our healing paths, and can be particularly helpful in trauma healing. And while plant medicine (ayahuasca, psilocybin (magic mushrooms), MDMA, psychedelics like wachuma/peyote) can be a strong ally, it also has certain drawbacks and limitations. Fortunately there's another way ...
Feb 21, 2025•58 min
A common pattern in a lot of love relationships sounds like one partner (often a man, in a man/woman dynamic) saying things like: "I wish you weren’t so busy with the kids." "You never dress up for me anymore." "I wish you'd flirt with me more." "You hide yourself from me; I never really see your body anymore." "I wish we had more sex." --- What's driving this, and how does a couple navigate it skillfully? A lot of men yearn for more sexual connection with their partner -- but it's not just abou...
Feb 14, 2025•59 min
Have you ever felt unworthy, less than, or "deeply ugly and stupid," as my guest this week put it? The fact is, we need all the support we can get. We need it from our fellow humans, and we need it from something greater. The word "God" can be very triggering -- for those who experienced religious trauma growing up (which, let's face it, is literally billions of people), it can be a dirty word. Yet the concept of Life -- aka Divine Intelligence, the Field, Spirit, etc. -- can be extraordinarily ...
Feb 07, 2025•58 min
Is it painful for you when you feel that your woman is closed? Do you long for more ways to help her open up fully ? (Not just sexually, but that is included!) Most dating and relationship advice doesn't include the concept of polarity and the three stages of relationship, but it can be nothing less than magical when worked with properly. According to polarity work (originated primarily by David Deida), there are two primary forces in dating, relationships and sex: alpha energy (what we sometime...
Jan 31, 2025•59 min
Ever been with a woman partner who was emotionally volatile? Ever felt like you were walking on eggshells, or that no matter what you did it wasn't enough and she was always disappointed in you? If so, she may have had Borderline Personality Disorder ... or at least traits of it. More people are diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) than schizophrenia and bipolar combined, yet few are familiar with it. Some mental health professionals estimate that a whopping 10% of the population...
Jan 24, 2025•1 hr 41 min
Are you gettin' out onto the dating scene in 2025? Whether you're newly single, a refugee from the world of pickup, recently divorced, or you've been dating for a while now, there are a few myths we see as obsolete that we wanted to bust. Sex, dating, and relationships can be confusing territory, and there are a lot of dos and don'ts when it comes to dating in the modern world. This is especially true in a post-#MeToo culture, where a lot of men have deep-seated concerns around coming off as cre...
Jan 17, 2025•48 min
There's a certain quality in men that a lot of women long for -- and I mean long for it from the depths of their beings -- but often don't talk about. Why don't they? Because a lot of women (myself included) hold a certain amount of shame around wanting it in the first place. And what is the quality? It's an aspect of healthy masculinity that we don't often discuss, but we're putting front and center here. I've also noticed that in every chick lit novel I've ever read (a version of romance), men...
Jan 10, 2025•1 hr 40 min
Ever felt intimidated when your woman was upset (about something that involved you)? Ever gotten defensive, stonewalled, or made her wrong -- "that's not what I meant, so you shouldn't feel that way"? You're not alone! And there's a high cost; this can be exhausting for you. Whether you're just dating or married, if you're at the mercy of her feelings, you likely feel out of control . You're only OK if she's OK. And you're not OK if she's not OK. The truth is, holding space for a woman’s upset o...
Jan 03, 2025•53 min
When it comes to love relationships, whether you're dating or in a committed, long-term relationship, there's one place where you need to be skillful or it will all just fall apart. It might not happen right away; you might get through the honeymoon period or even get married and it might be fine. But little by little, if this skill isn't developed and you as a couple can't "get there," you're very likely to end up in a sexless relationship, or a volatile one that you feel like you can't get out...
Dec 27, 2024•1 hr 12 min
We've worked with a lot of men who fit into the category of Nice Guys (a la Dr. Robert Glover's famous book, No More Mr. Nice Guy). And we've witnessed tremendous grown, the breaking of old patterns and habits, and astounding progress in these men. Here, we discuss the top 3 things we've seen Nice Guys do to get to get what they want -- and how to transform in ways that are lasting. We discuss patterns that lead to breakthroughs, and celebrate the wins of men who've experienced them. Remember: E...
Dec 20, 2024•46 min
Almost every single woman in a relationship (dating or married) needs reassurance sometimes. Unfortunately, many men don't know how to provide it in a way that really lands for her, which often causes unnecessary strife and disconnection. In one man's words, "I used to be the classic male 'fixer' and thought I would be the one to save the day by giving out suggestions of how she could overcome her anxiety. Surely one of those would work. The more suggestions or solutions to her issues I could co...
Dec 13, 2024•1 hr 4 min
According to my sex research, women's number one sex problem is physical pain. The truth is, it's painful when sex hurts -- for both people. Not just for the person experiencing it, but for their partner. How do you handle it if she has pain during sex, whether you're just starting out in dating or you're in a committed relationship? And how do you handle your own emotional pain or guilt around still having sexual needs? If you've ever been with a woman who was sleeping with you because she felt...
Dec 06, 2024•56 min
Ever felt like there was a "right" answer to a question a woman asked you, or a "right" way to respond to a situation with her? Did it feel like if you did the "wrong" thing, there would be consequences? Then you've likely been tested! Testing (also known as "feminine testing" -- or sometimes a term I personally dislike -- "shit testing" -- can be a confusing and frustrating experience to be on the receiving end of. Testing can happen in the early phases of dating, as well as once you're in a lo...
Nov 29, 2024•1 hr 17 min
