In today’s episode, I talk about 7 things your parents didn’t teach you about relationships, and the things we should tell our children. I polled the community several months ago about this topic and your responses were so cool to see. It’s fascinating to see how so many of us didn’t learn how to show up in relationships - things like how to build healthy communication and what a healthy relationship looks like. So let’s deep dive into today’s episode where I’ll share what I think we should help...
Jan 05, 2023•27 min•Season 4Ep. 7
Let me set the scene. The tree is up. The lights are on. The decorations are hanging. And I am envisioning a picture perfect moment… the kids smiling in their Christmas outfits while we all smile for that Instagram-worthy photo. Cue. Reality. My kids are now 5 and 7. Hot chocolate ends up on their clothes more than in their bellies. I haven’t sat down all day. And this is nothing like what I envisioned. And I pause. I take a breath. I welcome my perfectionistic voice and say, “Oh, hey there, I w...
Dec 29, 2022•1 hr 5 min•Season 4Ep. 6
For so many, the holidays stir up so many emotions and old wounds. This is particularly true for parents while they sit in front of their children, seeing their own struggles and triggers being reflected back by their children - a window, an opening to be curious and to heal. And it often brings up questions of - where am I with my parent? How do I feel with them? What works and isn’t working anymore? What am I still holding on to? We’re going to tackle something big today. Abbey Williams, MSW, ...
Dec 22, 2022•51 min•Season 4Ep. 5
Social media has recently become a place for mothers to connect and share their real, raw truths, but it hasn’t always been this way. For many, we open up our feeds and are flooded with highlight reels of the lives of others. Perfectly curated holiday pictures, clean homes, and women glowing - it can seem as though every other mother has their life together. Am I the ONLY mother who doesn’t love every aspect of motherhood? Am I the only one crying daily and feeling overwhelmed? Does anyone else ...
Dec 15, 2022•47 min•Season 4Ep. 4
Does it feel like a never-ending cycle with your partner when it comes to setting boundaries with the family? Maybe you both end up getting stuck on what you should do when your mother-in-law gives TEN gifts, when you both told her only two. What are the missteps in our relationship when it comes to boundaries? My husband and business partner joins me for today's episode on boundaries. Why bring in Greg? In a heterosexual cis-gender relationship, he has the other side of the experience when it c...
Dec 08, 2022•42 min•Season 4Ep. 3
Being a parent brings new challenges to your life, but one that might have surprised you was constantly feeling touched out. Your child is tapping your arm, the furnace is humming, and you're beginning to feel like your head is going to explode. So why is this? In this episode, I sit down with Larissa Geleris, MS, OTR/L from Steady Parents to discuss parenting and sensory overload. Larissa is a licensed occupational therapist specializing in the identification and treatment of sensory processing...
Dec 01, 2022•54 min•Season 4Ep. 2
Welcome to Season 4! With each season this community passes new milestones and continues to grow! I am incredibly grateful for you - your DMs, downloads, shares, and comments. Each week, you show up. You bring me your ah-ha moments, your wins, and your struggles. Thank you for joining me here and let's get started with another amazing season! To kick off the season, I am so excited to bring Dr. Becky Kennedy to this space. New York Times bestselling author and child psychologist, Dr. Becky is re...
Dec 01, 2022•39 min•Season 4Ep. 1
We are here! Already at the season finale. Season finales are bittersweet. I have gratitude for all the amazing conversations of this season and I feel sad that we are taking a break! I love ending the season by taking your questions. So here are three of YOUR questions that I will answer in this episode: How does one deal with the fear of abandonment when you are someone with anxious attachment? How do I get my partner to prioritize better? How do I navigate the mother wound while feeling low s...
Jun 07, 2022•34 min•Season 3Ep. 15
Many people don't think of divorces as happy, which is why the story from today's guests is an important one! When Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldond got divorced, they devised a strategy to put their son's needs first. Together, they helped each other heal and build a new, blended, family. In this episode, we discuss: How Nikki and Ben came to be "Our Happy Divorce" The markers/moments that they knew it was time to divorce When you're trying to find the "right" way through separation Nikki's ...
May 31, 2022•1 hr•Season 3Ep. 14
"My partner isn't willing to change - what do I do?" We love certainty and the only thing that is certain about our relationships is that we cannot control other people. It's really challenging when our partners are not interested in learning to shift - especially since a couple is two people that make up the struggles. In this episode, I discuss: What if your partner doesn't want to change? Can change happen when only one person is ready? Ready to learn how to repair, feel closer after the figh...
May 25, 2022•17 min•Season 3Ep. 13
Do you find yourself asking… How do we feel close again after we just had a disagreement? My partner doesn’t like to come back and talk about the hard stuff. My partner doesn’t apologize. I always have to bring up the hard conversations. I get it. This is a common experience in our relationships. The reality? We didn’t learn how to repair. It was never modelled to us or it came attached with a lot of shame. And yet, repairing is one of the most important things we need to do in our relationship ...
May 17, 2022•48 min•Season 3Ep. 12
One of the most common concerns I hear is, "My partner is struggling with their mental health, what do I do?" Dr. Kojo joins me on the podcast to discuss how mental health can show up in relationships. Dr. Kojo Sarfo, DNP, PMHNP-BC is a social media content creator, mental health nurse practitioner, and psychotherapist with over two million followers on all of his social media channels (TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, Twitch, Triller). He posts skits, songs, and videos in order to...
May 10, 2022•51 min•Season 3Ep. 11
Growing up we learn so much from our mothers and growing up the messaging we receive is "obey thy mother." The things we learned from our mothers growing up and the way they coped in the world show up in us, throughout our lives. But What if our mother was wrong? What if they are passing along their own trauma? What if they cross our boundaries and teach us not to listen to ourselves? Bethany Webster began blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced a worldwide demand for her...
May 03, 2022•51 min•Season 3Ep. 10
You finally have a minute to pause and relax. As you hold your cup of coffee, just heated up for the fourth time, and look around your house, you feel overwhelmed. How can you relax when the mess keeps triggering you? I get it. There can be so much stuff in our homes that we stop feeling happy in our space, get stuck getting rid of things, and in general, feel a sense of overwhelm by everything going on. Enter Katy Wells. She is a decluttering expert, podcaster, and simplifier, a boy mom, and sh...
Apr 26, 2022•41 min•Season 3Ep. 9
A client once told me through tears that she hadn't been honouring her, and she pointed to her body. I could see reflected in her face the experiences of so many women - including me. It wasn't just a week of not listening to her body. It was years. Possibly her whole lifetime. We build these inner dialogues and narratives around our bodies and food, many of them being unconscious that guide us to make daily decisions. Some of these decisions leave us feeling good, albeit temporarily. While many...
Apr 19, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Season 3Ep. 8
Does your partner share everything with their parents? This episode dives into this topic after receiving a question from one of our community members. In this episode, we discuss: What kind of impact could sharing everything with your extended family/mother-in-law have on you? Your relationship with your partner? Your relationship with their family? Exploring triangulation and scapegoat dynamics Key questions for you to explore within yourself The reason behind your partner's sharing How to mov...
Apr 12, 2022•27 min•Season 3Ep. 7
One of the most common complaints I receive is, "We never talk about the hard stuff." What's the barrier to turning towards each other and talking? For many, it's time. For others, it's not wanting to upset the other person. Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins me on the podcast for this episode. Dr. Morgan is a relationship expert and owner of My Love Thinks. If you are struggling with the mental load, be sure to check out Season 2 Episode 6 and Dr. Morgan's great Instagram space @MyLoveThinks. Dr. Morgan a...
Apr 05, 2022•49 min•Season 3Ep. 6
We're getting ready for another holiday season. With Passover, Good Friday, Easter, Eastern Orthodox Easter, and Ramadan coming up, it seemed like a great time to ask you, my community, some important questions about family get togethers and talk about how you want to show up. When it comes to family gatherings, 46% of you feel "okay negative" about them. In this episode, we talk about: What you can and cannot control when it comes to our family, including acknowledging a key emotion that shows ...
Mar 29, 2022•25 min•Season 3Ep. 5
For the parents who just want their child to be happy. When I told my daughter that I just needed five minutes before I could rub her back at bedtime, she screamed at me. And what I did next was not my best moment. I could feel it coming over me. I screamed back at her. I know so many parents get to this point - the exhaustion and overwhelm. The Demands. Being pulled in so many directions. We raise our voice. We show up not aligned with how we want to. We maybe even slip into shame. It was my lu...
Mar 22, 2022•55 min•Season 3Ep. 4
In this week's podcast, I answer your question. Q. Dear Dr. Tracy. Every time I try to share something with my partner, he goes and makes it about himself. Recently, I was trying to share about an issue with my sister. He got so heated and upset - we've had frequent conflict about my sister - that I ended up stop asking for the support that I needed. I'm not sure what to do in these moments, but I do know that resentment is building up and it doesn't feel good. - Nicole In this episode, we discu...
Mar 08, 2022•18 min•Season 3Ep. 3
Did you know that 1 in 4 couples sleep in separate beds?1 Despite this common experience, many people continue to feel a lot of stigma around speaking out about their need for a restful night's sleep - which may mean sleeping in a different room from your lover. People tend to learn that there must be something wrong with a relationship if a couple is sleeping in separate beds. There is a term for sleeping in separate beds that contributes to this learned stigma: "Sleep divorce." This term impli...
Feb 22, 2022•49 min•Season 3Ep. 2
Our collective experiences recently have been beyond challenging. The frequent suggestions of "go for a walk" are often not enough anymore. Enter Eve Rodsky, an expert in family mediation and organizational management, and author of New York Time's bestselling book Fair Play and Finding Your Unicorn Space. Her message to us is to burn our guilt and get rid of other toxic messages that stop us from doing the very thing we need to find ourselves - and that is to find our Unicorn Space. Eve and I t...
Feb 22, 2022•49 min•Season 3Ep. 1
This episode is quite a bit different than every other episode this season. I asked the community, via Instagram, to submit questions and I picked some to answer similar to a Dear Abby column. As we close out Season 2 I want to thank this beautiful community - especially since we've hit the 100K download milestone! We truly would not be here without each of you listening and sharing it with those you love. One of the most powerful things I have learned is what it means to rest. Just like flowers...
Jun 08, 2021•56 min•Season 2Ep. 22
What happens when you sit two relationship experts down for a chat? This episode is just that - two relationship experts, one conversation. Everyone has their own attachment style, it's the way we build and respond to relationships. When we understand our attachment styles we can better help our relationship maintain healthy boundaries. Speaking of boundaries, have you ever sat down with your partner to discuss your boundaries within the relationship? In this episode I sit down with Dr. Morgan A...
May 20, 2021•59 min•Season 2Ep. 21
Have you ever reached a point, through your motherhood journey, where you felt like something needed to change in order for you to be happy? Perhaps you felt as though your needs were somehow lost in the mix while you were putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own. Who looks out for mom when she's taking care of everyone else? But what if I told you the change you need in order to reach happiness comes from within? This episode's guest is on a mission to encourage women, especially mothers...
May 06, 2021•56 min•Season 2Ep. 20
Why is it that we treat men's time as if it is as "precious as diamonds" and women's time as if it is as "infinite as sand?" (As this week's podcast guest stated it). Chances are you never sat down with your partner, before moving in together, getting married, or having children, to discuss who does what. Who takes the trash out? Who buys the mustard? Who care for the children when they are home sick from school? Who coordinates their activities and schoolwork? If needed, who leaves their job to...
Apr 20, 2021•1 hr 12 min•Season 2Ep. 19
Step moms seem to get a bad rap in movies - even cast in a poor light and labeled "Evil Stepmothers." In reality, stepmothers are human beings parachuted into co parenting arrangements they had no part in making. It can feel like fitting a circle peg into a square-shaped hole. You might be told you aren't a 'real' mother and in the same breath criticized for not being involved enough. No one hands you instructions on how to be a stepmother and there sure isn't a one-size-fits-all approach. In th...
Apr 06, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Season 2Ep. 18
"Don't go to bed angry" is probably one of the most common well wishes provided to newly weds during evening toasts and handwritten cards. But what this misses is that if you are escalated and angry, the last thing you should do is continue to talk about the issue at hand. When both partners are flooded and overwhelmed, this is a recipe for additional hurt words that do not get unheard. In this episode, I sit down with Greg, co-owner of Integrated Wellness, my business partner, my co-parent, and...
Mar 23, 2021•1 hr 7 min•Season 2Ep. 17
"You're young..." "You'll get pregnant again..." "At least you have a healthy child..." "At least you can get pregnant..." It's estimated that nearly 1 in 4 pregnancies results in a miscarriage. Yet somehow most of us are unaware of how many people we know that have experienced pregnancy loss until we experience one. Feelings of isolation, self-blame, guilt, and shame can pour in during the aftermath of a loss, however the experience of pregnancy loss is incredibly personal and does not impact t...
Mar 09, 2021•59 min•Season 2Ep. 16
Have you ever thought to yourself "are we having enough sex?" or maybe you have fallen into a rut where you can recall step-by-step how each time will go because nothing ever changes. Could anyone else be feeling this way too? In most relationship we will find mismatched sex drives, doubts, unspoken desires, and self-esteem issues blending into the bedroom. Sex is something humans do, but for many women we've been socialized to hate our bodies, minimize our desires, and to not talk with our part...
Mar 02, 2021•1 hr 5 min•Season 2Ep. 15
