Matchmaker Matchmaker with Chelsea + Catherine

Hi, Catherine.

I'm really excited about today, Chelsea.

Oh oh wow, you have a little party boomer. I actually a little podcast party boomer.

Can I tell you why, Chelsea? We are finally going to do some matchmaking.

Oh that's nice, callers, pay attention. Are these just for gay people or is this for hetero heterogenerous heado generous couples?

You know?

Here is the thing. When I finally dug into the emails, I thought to myself, like, how am I going to hook these people up?

Right?

Because people are all over the country, all over the world emailing in. Some people are gay, some people are straight, et cetera. There are a lot of straight women that wrote in. And I you know, we will do our best for you ladies, but yes, it's going to be more successful for gay guys.

Okay, well take whatever we can tell you. You know what I mean. We have to help who we can help.

Yes, But I thought what we'd do. I thought we can do sort of a crowdsourcing thing and then we'll let people side into their into an email that we create for them. Cute, Chelsea, I have some updates from some previous callers. Are you ready for this?

Yes?

Okay, Well, this first one is from a recent piece of advice that we gave Melanie. She was from an episode that you and I had done together. Her airbnb host was a little older, little sexy older man situation. She was worried about putting the moves. Uh huh, She says, I have a very happy update for you. After another month of growing closer and getting flirty, my host finally bit the bullet while we were on a hike.

Together, add sister. I love it.

Until me he'd like to be more than friends. Needless to say, I was so relieved since I've clearly been such a chicken about making a move Since then, we went on a first official date where he took me to the movies and surprised me with roses. We finally said everything we've been holding in, and things moved quickly.

Ever, I love that part or you tell each other all the times you were about to say something and you didn't, and then they tell you what they were thinking.

That's the most exciting time of a reallyationship. It's the best.

It's a very very beginning where you're just flirting and like trying to like be on your best behavior.

And like filling in the gaps from things that have already happened, like here's where my head was at with that. He treats me like absolute gold, and I'm stunned that it's even possible to feel so adored by an emotionally available man. I'm being showered with words of adoration and we're already talking about finding ways for me to stay here in New Zealand long term. It's a big adjustment. Living in the same house and dating a much older

And stay in New Zealand.

That's a safe place for global warming too. They're saying New Zealand US. All the bunkers are over there.

Are there?

Yeah, they have a lot of millionaires and billionaires have built like bunkers into the side of the mountains in New Zealand, even though it's pretty much an island.

Yeah, it doesn't have huge elevation but has protective rock layering and there are hills and stuff. Yeah.

We have a friend who is a Kiwi and he did COVID right. He decided to like leave his terrible wife and go back to New Zealand at the beginning of COVID, and he was like, I got there. You have to quarantine for two weeks, right, so they put you up. The government put you up in a nice hotel on the beach and one hour a day they would like have someone follow you for your like romantic walk on the beach so you could have some outdoors time. And then they give you like steak dinners every night

For when you were stressed out.

No, just like during the beginning of COVID when he had to quarantine because they only let.

Yeah that is nice.

Yes, I'm having dinner with my friends tonight and he just texted me, do you want sushi or steak?

I'm like sushi.

I don't want steak any early.

I don't know even when my bell gets steak for the house. I look at it now and I'm just so disgusted. I can't even eat it. I can eat a burger, but steak itself starting to get really grossed out by I know.

Sometimes you do just get the ick like I sometimes we'll get the ick for chicken for like two years ago.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I had that about salmon, and now I'm down, deep down, I'm upriver with salmon.

I love salmon.

You know why.

I also like salmon because bears love salmon, and I love fucking watching bears try and catch salmon. Do you watch YouTube videos or it's just like your canon stadium? Oh yeah, I watch are bears and fat fat babies?

Oh yes, I love both of those things.

It's amazing how a lot of people do not like fat babies because I forward that stuff to my girlfriends and a lot of them are like, stop sending us this. They're like, this is gross. I'm like what, I think it's beautiful. I mean, when is the time to be a fatty unless.

It's absolutely easiest time to do it?

See?

My thing right now is just like dogs that are howling or like singing quote unquote, and people will write these like jazz tunes underneath them, and it cracks me up every single time. I just absolutely love it. Dog humor is pretty solid, solid, It's solid.

Okay.

On that note, we're gonna take a quick break and will be right back, and we're back.

We are well, h says dear Chelsea. I'm an almost thirty three year old woman living alone in a major city in Washington State, which I recently relocated to to be closer to certain members of my family. My relationship with my mother has gotten a little bit better in recent years as both of us have been going to therapy, but still honestly has quite a ways to go. I love her very much and do believe she's a wonderful

H Hi, h Hi, Chelsea, Hi Catherine, So great to meet you.

Is that a cabbage patch kid behind you in that window?

So some weird dull?

Yeah, I'm a nanny, so there's all sorts of kid.

Oh oh, I see copy of that.

Yes, we are catching her during nap time.

So it sounds like you have a long history of this dynamic in your relationship, right, that she's been pulling this shit for years and years.

Yeah, and to the point where I want to honor her perspective and I want to always consider if there may be is some truth to any of her complaints, you know, But when I really think about it, I just can't quite figure out what her deal is, why there's consistently a problem.

And has her intuition been right before?

Not really, I mean, not in anything else. I mean, she's been correct that my relationships in the past didn't last forever. But that was my choice and a good one.

But that's more factual, that's not intuitive, right, that's what happened.

Happened.

I would put a lot less value in what her intuition is telling her. There is a nice way to say this to her, though, because you have a great opportunity because you just said all of these things that make your boyfriend or I don't know if you're calling

So yeah, well, thank you for clarifying, because that's kind of where I was trying to draw the line as well, where it's like, if it actually felt like intuition, if it was coming from a best friend who actually knows me really really well.

Or has a track record of steering you in the right direction.

Then I would be taking it super seriously. But with her, it's like, now, I think that's just a nice word for judgment.

For me, it's a big green flag to me that all your friends really really liked him, and that you know he got along with the rest of your people. And I think you know you have this track record with your mom of like, she doesn't like your friends, she doesn't like whoever you bring home. I think you mentioned she loves everybody your sister brings home.

M M.

Of course, when you just gotta feel amazing. But you mentioned, you know, wanting to do right by her and make her proud, and I think for me, especially, like that's something I carry with me all the time that I'm working on. Dismantling in my thirties is just like being okay with sort of disappointing my parents and in ways that are sort of large and small, and often you know, the result is not as catastrophic as I thought it

Right, So would you both say that would you recommend that I wait to have that conversation with her and then kind of feel out how any future meetings between them might go, because I I don't want to completely bar him from any part of my family life just because she's going to get pissy.

But I also don't want to.

I think you're going to be surprised by her reaction to this because it doesn't sound like you've had this conversation with her before.

Correct not on this subject, but I have essentially said very similar things to her opinions about either my school or my career or my this or my you know whatever. So just different topic, you know.

We'll use this topic, and trying to like just change the approach, even just slightly different, so that it's memorable for both of you in a positive way, because I think you don't seem like an angry person. But get rid of any anger.

Or accusation, okay, because even calling out her judgment is really her accusing him of being something that she has no proof to bear witness of. So I think you're gonna look at this and you're gonna be proud of yourself. And it cannot be understated to every single person who's listening today. When you act and courage and you stand up to something that bothers you in a loving way, it's like you evolve to the next level of being a human being because you won't ever have to struggle

That's going to be, you know, a double thing, and she's going to want.

To prove to you that she's not judgmental and that her intuition is right. And in that effort, she will be wanting to spend time with you. And that's not to say that her intuition is right, but that will be her motivation, do.

You know what I mean?

Because you came at her at a different level, and then that requires a different response. You can't mingle the same way when you're doing it differently.

Yeah, and you know you've learned this lesson not to judge a book by its cover. You really like this guy, he seems really great, but she hasn't learned that lesson yet. So coming at her with a sort of like you don't have to say this to her, but in your mind being like aw, like she has she's not quite there yet, you're encouraging her like maybe just have an open mind. I really like him, and maybe you'll you'll have a different opinion down the road, and then like

At some point, I feel like I can as long as things haven't been like getting inflammatory earlier on that you know, hang out or conversation. But she is in town actually for the next couple of days, so I've just been kind of keeping things neutral around a little bit of an information diet, just calling like normal and just shooting the breeze, not really bringing it up, just

And also, you know, the more that you do bring him around, the less of sort of a shock his appearance will be. Like when you get to know someone, their appearance in a weird way sort of fades away. You don't notice these sort of really specific things about them that you might have noticed so much in the beginning. So you know, I would definitely encourage you to like keep bringing him around.

Awesome, we'll do cool.

And also will you text us a picture of him too, or like the two of you together?

Yeah?

Absolutely, it's going to be from a rocky horror picture show. So we're going to look all sorts of interesting.

Love it perfect, good life.

Thank you so much, Age.

Thank you so much, both of you. Love your show so much.

Thank you.

Good luck with the babies.

Thank you.

Have a great day, you too. I bye.

My mom by the way, who was about to be in town. Every time she comes, she's like, do you have any tattoos? No, Mom, I still don't have any tattoos. That's like her greatest fear.

For it is that's fun.

Nice.

Oh my nieces have tattoos. They do have tattoos. I don't have any, but they do.

Well, you can still be buried in Jewish cemetery then.

Yeah, right, well, yes, I hope they put me on fire, though, set me on fire and tossed me into the ocean.

I hope they tossed me into the mouth of an anaconda.

That sounds wonderful, actually, well. Our next caller is Christina Dear Chelsea. I'm thirty three and my boyfriend is forty six. We both currently live in California. We dated for six months, then he abruptly ended things. I was completely caught off guard and heartbroken, of course. However, two weeks later, my dad and my grandmother died on the same day coincidentally, and my uncle died on my birthday a few months later, so, needless to say, I wasn't that concerned with the breakup.

Hi Christina, Hello, Hi telse me, I would say that it sounds.

Like you should probably move on. Oh man, Yeah. I don't think that.

Neither of these things are issues singular, but I think collectively they become some issue. Like I don't care about the age difference, but somebody at that age who's still not ready to figure out what his life goals are, it doesn't make sense. That's too old, Like you should at least have your feet underneath you enough to say yay or nay, because that can just be him stringing

And then on the.

Other side of it, like the breakup that you had and then you getting over it. Obviously you had other things to go, but like that's proof that you got past him once.

Like I have no.

Problem imagining you getting over him again. Yeah, so that's a positive thing to think about. You don't need three people to die for that to happen either, Like you can get over him, you know it's possible. And I just don't think, especially when you've broken up with someone and you got back together, that there's any room if one of if you wants to be in this for the long haul. There's no room for Like I don't know, you were just in a relationship, you broke up because

Yeah. I agree.

The year mark feels like I mean, first of all, as Chelsea said, his age, like it does sort of feel like I have forty six. You should kind of know what you want from life enough.

To know if you want to be with someone that you that you've been intimate and in a long term relationship.

With absolutely and make a future together.

What's the wishy washy that's so unattractive?

Yeah, it's not like you guys have been together three months and he's not sure if he wants like marriage and kids with you. You've been together on and off for a year and a half.

Yeah, And I joke because the only reason that we really got back together this last time, I blame it on my dog because my dog had an emergency one night and he was like the first person that I called, and so he was there right away. But if it really weren't for that, it's kind of like I've put in the effort.

And you initiated the get back together then, like that was you. So that's another reason that you should probably move on. This doesn't sound like a him and you relationship of fifty to fifty. It sounds like you making the moves and him like okay or maybe not.

I hate to say it, but I'm thirty three and so I kind of want some answers, and you know, it would just make me feel better to know what's going to happen in a way, even though that might not even work out.

So yeah, I mean, you could present it in a very direct, upfront way that's like doesn't give a lot of room for figuring it out. Like, hey, buddy, I'm kind of getting the sense that you're not down for what I'm down for. That's totally fine. There's no requirement for you to be with me or for me to be with you. But if you're not ready for that and you can't commit to like a future together, then I'm more interested in finding somebody who will.

And you know, no hard feelings.

At all, Chelsea, You've given this type of advice before, but that conversation like may include a breakup, maybe not right at that moment in that conversation, but shortly thereafter. And you know, sometimes when you do cap that with a breakup of like, okay, then I do need to move on. Like two weeks later, they're right back, like knock on your door, Like, no, I figured it out. I do want marriage and family and a kid's yeah.

That is true, And I kind of have given him a little bit more grease because, like I put in the letter, you know, his dad passed away and so he's been my depressant and that can have obviously a big effect on lot.

What everyone's dad passes away. It's not an excuse. It's something to be sensitive about, but it's not the end of the world. Everybody is dealing with that at some point in their lives.

Yeah, that's true.

How important I mean, obviously you wouldn't be writing in if it wasn't. But what's your trajectory as far as I feel like I want to be getting married and having kids, like sooner rather than later? Is it deal breaker level for you? Where are you at on that?

You know, I'm not in a super rushed I want it to be their right situation. Otherwise I don't want to do it at all. But I want to be with someone that at least kind of wants the same things and the future. So he doesn't really think that he knows, and so I'm just like, how long is it going to take for him to figure that out?

You know?

And then I'm getting older and so I just, you know, would like to have some sort of certainty in a way.

I think, Yeah, you sound very confident when you're talking to us about this, and I would encourage you to take that into your conversation with him, like leave the koy stuff behind, Like Chelsea said, be super direct and be like, here's where I'm at. This is what I'm looking for in my five year plan whatever you know, quote unquote, but this is what I'm looking for in the near future. Is that something you want as well? And I know is okay?

Yeah?

And the reason I brought up the age things because sometimes when I do come at him direct, it's almost like he can kind of talk back to me in a way where he acts like he is older than me and those more what he does. But I'm feeling like that's becoming more of an issue.

Well, and you're not twenty three, yeah, you're thirty three.

Yeah.

And another thing to remember is, you know, when you are breaking up with someone, like to not think about what you're losing, but to think about the adventures that you're about to embark on.

Like there's so much coming up for you.

When you say goodbye to a situation, it doesn't matter if it's the right decision or the wrong decision. You're like up for new stuff all the time happening. You need to focus on that when you're breaking up instead of women who focus on I'm gonna be alone, I'm gonna be alone, I'm gonna be loon.

I'm gonna miss them, I'm gonn miss him.

You're gonna be with yourself and you're gonna have a good time, and you're gonna go out with your friends and family and whatever makes you happy. And if you want to stay in bed for three days, you're also gonna be able to do that. But it's not the end of the world for any of us. As we're learning, relationships are an opportunity to do it the right way. When you're leaving someone, do it with style and grace and no anger and be like, all right, party on,

Yeah, that is true. And it's sometimes hard to make that decision. I mean, like I was thinking about it, is it harder to break up with someone or to be broken up with?

Ah?

The age old question. I don't know.

I think I prefer to be broken up with, yes for that, but I need until I don't until I'm broken up with and then I won't like it at all.

When are you gonna have this conversation with him? You think, Well, I did tell.

Him that I was going to be talking to you guys, and so he was joking and he said, well great, He's like none, I'm gonna have to say she talked to Chelsea Handler, and now she broke up with me because Chelsea talk.

Yeah, that is already a thing. I think that's out there.

Man. I can't go anywhere alone with men. I need security at all times. Men hate me so much.

Well tell him we actually said, or get off the pot.

Just say Chelsea said.

This doesn't have to be an angry or a combative conversation. She just thinks we should both be as completely.

Honest as possible.

And if his honesty is that he really doesn't know, then you have to find somebody who does know.

Yeah, And I mean the tough part about it is that's like it's logic versus emotion in a way, so it's hard to differentiate the two of those. You know, logically, this makes sense, but then emotionally it's like we do love each other. So to make that decision is tough because he hasn't really done anything wrong necessarily that I know of.

But yeah, well give us an update as soon as you have a conversation with him. And then also like when you kind of figure out what's next for you, or if he decides to man up and wants the same future as you do.

And emotions like you're talking about practicality or practical things, And emotions like emotions aren't thought, they are feelings, you know. It's what you do with that feeling that becomes the thought of your emotion. So while you could be missing somebody and grieving them, you can still be excited about the possibilities beyond that relationship.

Yeah, that is true. Well, yes, I'll keep you guys posted.

And thank you so much.

My mom got tickets to your show in October and DC so fun.

Okay, cool, I'll see her then. Thanks so much.

Christina, thank you guys so much.

Ye.

I guess she's adorable. She's so sweet. Well, Chelsea, we have our calling in backup segment today and I want to say thanks to our partners at Betterhelp Response.

Right, Yes, thank you Better Help.

And today we're joined by Courtney Cope. They're a licensed marriage and family therapist and principal clinical operations manager at Better Help. Hi Courtney, Hello there, Well, our first question comes from and dear Chelsea. Within the past six months, I've had a resurgence of self care and a new outlook on health and fitness. I've been exercising and eating healthy, and for the first time ever, I'm seeing health and fitness as an act of self love and nourishment rather

And this is such a layered question. And the thing that came to mind was the concept of seasonality in friendships and how sometimes there are seasons where we're in step and we're doing all the same things. We're going to the same place, as we're listening to the same music, we have the same hobbies. And then there are seasons where we begin to kind of diversify our interests, or it changes, our circumstance changes, maybe we move away, maybe we get a different job, all these kinds of things.

Yeah, and I also think there's a way to sort of get the train on your tracks. So, you know, if you don't want to go out and you do want to eat the food you have at home, invite her over, you know, invite her over for whatever healthy things you want to make and whatever healthy drink you want to drink if you're drinking. But there's also ways to find a restaurant that has really healthy options.

And also just try not to shove it down her throat so much like you're making it seems like you're making a lot of proclamations about what you're doing. Is sometimes it's more impactful to make the changes without advertising them.

I think that's a very good point.

Right, like, let your actions speak for yourself, because I did hear you know, the question was what do I do so that she doesn't, you know, feel bad or she might question and it's like, well, if you're just doing it right, no, if sands orbut's about it it's really hard for people to make comments about it or you know, be upset that you're doing It's like, you're just out there doing it.

Chelsea, what do you think about? You know? She mentions that the friend acts like it's a joke or sort of blows it off. That to me feels like a little bit of an insecurity thing.

Well, it just feels like another reason to stop making proclamations. She's not taking you seriously. You can't make someone take you seriously by repeating what they're not taking you seriously about.

So keep it to yourself. I know you want it to be a long term thing.

It's like when you announce that you're quitting smoking and then you don't quit. You know, it's like the dynamic if you don't stick to this. Of course you want to stick to this, you want to make lifestyle changes, but give it a year and when those changes are permanent, then you could start espousing your you know what happened and everything. But it's easy to not take someone seriously when they're into something new. So I wouldn't even put

Right.

That's a total typical part of adult relationships. And even just if you want to be compassionate towards your friend and not even bring some of these things into the mix, just plan things like events that are not food related, so going to a museum, go to the movies, go roller skating, or go on a but like bring your own food and instead of like, oh, we'll go out and we'll find a place, like focusing on things that will allow you to have parallel play, enjoy the activity

Because that's the other thing I hear is there is.

An aspect of worrying of losing this friendship or them becoming more distant because they used to go out and use each other. She says, we use each other for excuses to like make unhealthy habits and go out drinking. So if you just transition your friendship to we find meaning doing these other things, now, that allows it to be more of an easeful transition.

Yeah, and I like that suggestion because it's not like, hey, why don't we go for a hike. It's like let's go to a museum, which is like still active, but it's not like, hey, we're going to go for a run, or we're going to go to a spin class or whatever. I feel like usually the advice is to sort of be really honest and open and confront the person, but in this case that's not necessary and in fact, like taking it a notch back.

I would say the only caveat to potentially having a conversation with your friend is, you know, she does mention triggering her friend's disordered eating, and so if that is a true concern and she wants to make sure she doesn't put her friend in an awkward position in the moment, she could ahead of time just say something casual like hey, you know, before they're together, text her give her a calicy like hey, is now a time for me to

Yeah, for sure, and thank you for writing in and of course thank you to our calling him back up sponsor Better Help, and to Courtney Cope, who is a licensed marriage and family therapist and principal clinical operations manager at Betterhelp.

Thank you, Thanks Cortney. Bye bye bye.

Let's take a quick break and we'll be back with some matchmaking.

Can you please not saying matchmaking? Can you please not?

We'll be right back. We're back with matchmaking. That's how we're saying it, matchmaking. Every time you saying matchmaking, two three hard boiled eggs fly out of your mouth.

Well, Chelsea, we're here with our first matchmaking folks candidate.

So he wants to be hooked up this guy?

Yes, okay, And you know, we had talked about doing an episode about this, but I thought we could potentially make this a recurring segment so we can match make more people. I mean, I'm over here just like dreaming of all the love that's going to happen, and like hoping for dear Chelsea babies and all of these things. So I'm way down in the future. I'm picking out curtains for everybody.

Also, that might be tough with all the game and you're going to connect they can adapt.

By the way, in speaking of matchmaking, there's a bunch of child Free and Crushing Its shirts available on our website. In addition to Dear Chelsea Merch, we designed a child Free and Crushing Its shirt which has been our biggest tour seller.

So I'm sure some of the callers would like that.

That's amazing. I love that, Chelseahandler dot com. Well, our first person to match is Patrick, and I thought how we'd go about this is we are going to at the end of this give people his Instagram so people can slide right into his DMS. If Patrick sounds like someone you might be interested in. Patrick. By the way, when I first chatted with him, he was at his ex's house walking his ex'es jog and he said, I know you just had an episode saying don't do that anymore?

Is it?

It depends on the situation, but it seems like it was a positive, so he says. I recently wrote in an email to say every time I felt like I needed to write in, I've listened to your podcast and found my answer to highly specific situations from wanting to fire an assistant to ending a friendship over chewing should I buy a car, or if I should buy land or make a career move. Your podcast has steered me in the best direction. Nowadays. Everything in my life is

How are you? Hi?

I'm so good. I'm just going to put this on to not disturb.

Good luck getting it off of that. So what kind of guy are you looking for? Patrick?

What interests you are you open? Do you have a very specific expectations.

Tell us I'm quite broad and tall, so I think someone like a little bit more broad and tall like myself. I am half Native American and I can't grow a beard, so someone that has a beard, you know, chest hair two would be sick.

Are you a top or a bottom? Does that matter?

I'm like a little bit both.

Oh, yourse your worse. Yeah, I wanted to use that in a sentence for a while. You're welcome, Thank you Patrick.

I know I've told Chelsea that you were walking your excess dog when we met.

Yeah.

What's your relationship history? How many relationships have you had and how for how long?

Well, I'm thirty four, i am going to be thirty five this year, and I've had maybe like five relationships since I was like twenty, you know, one for like a couple of years, one for a year, one for like six months.

And then like one night stands and fine in between.

Yeah, yeah for sure.

And have you ever had a really really bad breakup?

Yeah? It was. Yeah.

I think like the first ones when you're really young, you kind of I don't really know how to react, and especially being a gay person that came out at twenty, like straight people always have years ahead of us in terms of like being able to date people for like since they were you know, kind of kids.

So I just didn't have the right kind of foundation to deal with it. But that was like twelve years ago. I'm good.

Now, Yeah that's good.

And have you been to therapy? Are you do you go to therapy? Are you into any of that?

Yeah? Totally.

The last one, I was like, okay, so I have a pattern of just breaking up with dudes and just kind of ghosting or it's kind of like a mutual ghosting. And I was like, you know what, these are all great people like I kind of I don't want to kind of continue this pattern. So I went to therapy and my ex and I are friends, like in a positive way, I would say, So that's why I was babysitting with dogs, and my dog and his dog are dating, so like, you know, we have to stay in touch.

And are you do you would you say you have a strong personality, like mild personality?

How would you describe yourself?

I would say I have been told him quite even Keel, I used.

To go out a lot.

I kind of like, I live in Toronto, Canada, but I'm building a house up north, like seven hours away, kind of on the lake. So I do like coming back to the city for you know, some excitement, but then it's fucking nice to leave too.

Okay, so let's say three words to describe yourself. What would you say?

Okay, fun, adventurous and solid, amazing, and because this is an audio medium, just to describe him.

He's got a full head of hair, nice dark hair, he's beefy, he's sexy. He's got a cute tank on that I think he designed, right Patrick, I.

Did for a Pride a couple of years ago. Yeah. That.

Yeah, I would have sex with you if you were straight. So there you go. I think it is human of sex with you. Of the endorsement we're looking for, and he has a great laugh.

But we should also say your location and also you have a vacation home that sounds like which is great.

Which is a great way to get people in. That's a great lure.

I'm building. It's it's coming along. Yeah.

I'm an artist and graphic designer and I have had my own business the last eight nine years and it's kind of mind blowing to myself even that I'm like able to build a house but that's so cool.

Here we go.

Yeah, and you are Toronto ish.

Yeah, Toronto is It's where my clothes are. But I'm, like I said, I'm kind of up north a lot just to get out of the city, especially in the summer.

It's fucking hot ast shit here. I didn't have time to go get my.

Ac before I got back here, so I'm like a little bit damp at the moment.

But thank you for not saying it's moist. I truly appreciate it. But now I've said it so gross.

Word.

Well, I have three little dating game questions.

Oh yeah, okay, look, okay.

Just maybe we add some little game show music under this baby if we want to get wild. Okay, So our first question is our weekend plans have just gotten rained out. What are we doing instead?

We are watching movies and cookies?

Fucking fucking I'm sorry I had to answer that because that's my answer.

We're fucking pasta first.

And then and then the fucking Yeah, we need some energy.

That's fun fucking in the rain.

Yeah, pasta from scratch, it's so much better.

Yes, all right, if you found a fifty dollars bill on the ground in a busy area. Would you keep it or try to find the owner.

I wouldn't try hard to find the owner, but if.

You're that's exactly what I would say.

I'd look around and then I'd be like, yeah, exactly, give it to someone else or not think about it often.

Yes, well he's honest, fellas.

That's what you get from is it American? An American fifty or Canadians?

A water main broke and you got to leave work three hours early, which sort of doesn't apply since you work for yourself. But imagine what do you do with your newly free time.

We're taking the dog's dog only have one.

We're taking the dog to the lake and hopefully there's a beach involved, and we're going to bring snacks and some Baga.

Sodas and yeah, don't forget your edibles.

I will bring some just in case someone needs them.

I should be an adult camp counselor as well. I should.

Yeah, it has to be legal adult activity, so it has to be with adults, maybe remedial adults, is.

What I were side hustle. I can see it.

Yeah, I like it awesome. Well Patrick, if you want to just read out your Instagram handle it.

Sure, Patrick, Hunter Underscore Art is the insta where you can find me and keep pictures of my dog and all the artwork mostly pictures of my dog, but there is some artwork on there.

Great and I will put that in the show notes as well, so fellows can just click and check you out and slide into the dams.

All right, I can't wait.

Okay, I can't wait either.

All Right, I'll let you know how it goes.

Okay by Patrick, Thank you, Patrick, over, and now we're going to take a quick break. I will be right back.

Well, we had some new and interesting things today, Chelsea, remind me what they were. We had some matchmaking. Yes, we had a couple of cotchmaking.

This is where things are gonna really hit the fan. I think things in a good way.

I think there is going to be a lot of matchmaking happening on this podcast, and now we're using and especially to the people that we want to be happy exactly.

We have so many amazing people writing in and I'm really excited to feature some more matchmakings.

You know, there's a great match would be a straight woman comes on here and a straight man and they end up being soul Bates. He's listening to Jaior Chelsea and he comes and meets this woman talk about a self actual life that would be like the most together guy that I know.

That is true.

He's the most with it.

And honestly, if he's single and he's listening to this podcast, he has the pick of the litter because there's so many straight women who listened to this podcast. Thanks so much, this has been so much fun.

Okay, we'll see you guys next week. My Okay, guys, we have added more shows to my Little Big Bitch tour. I added another second show in Toronto, so I have two shows in Toronto now the December seventh, December eighth, December ninth, I'm in Ottawa, and two new shows at December fifteenth, on a Friday, We're doing a seven thirty and ten pm show with Kevin Hart and Friends that's in Thackerville, Oklahoma. And all my other shows you can

For tickets, you'll see me.

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