Okay, Minnesota, goodbye these two Jenny and Bailey. We're talking about the big concert tonight, which is right now. It's Friday morning, so you guys were excited about that one. Yeah, the Minnesota Yacht Club Festival. It's all weekend. But we were talking about Bailey's only going tonight, right,
Yes, I'm going tonight. Yeah, And I'm just pumped because it's like one of those festival things where you want to see multiple acts, but the acts you want to see are kind of spread out in time, yea, So like I want to see the headliner, but I also want to see somebody that plays at like five. So then in the in between, I didn't want to be there for like a million five hours walking around drinking. Yeah. Now it got switched around a little bit because one of the
acts dropped out. So now the people I care about are back to back, so I'm good. Yeah, Okay, well good news. Let's dive in with some emails, and this is a totally random one, but I like it, so let's get started. Hello. I'm a thirty three year old Saint Louis Park resident. Like going out on the weekends, and I like going somewhere with alcohol. As a single female, guys will frequently offer to buy me a drink which I can afford to buy myself, but also
who doesn't enjoy a free drink. I was in a situation yesterday where a guy bought me my friend a drink and then I pulled her away shortly after to dance with her, and he was irritated. She's very shy and timid and had no interest in him, but didn't know how to get out of the situation without being rude, which is what girlfriends are for. Let me first put a disclaimer out here that, as an LGBTQ ally that the examples
in my scenarios could it could be any role gender sexuality. I'm not implying other scenarios don't exist, but for the ease of explaining, I will use guy girl question one. Obviously, a guy that offers to buy a girl of drink is not entitled to anything. However, is there an unwritten rule that if the drink is accepted, she is obligated to entertain him for a certain period of time or share her number, etc. I don't know.
I don't think I've ever been in that situation where I bought a girl of drink and expected to have conversation or tried to use it as a way to meet her. Yeah, I would say that honestly, if I didn't want to at least like have a tiny conversation with them, I wouldn't accept the drink. So what do you do? You just like the way, I'm good, thank you. I I already have one, or I'm going to
go get one myself. That's like all it would be, because I just feel like that accepting a drink is kind of like engaging in a conversation, at least at that point. In my opinion. You're not obligated by any means, But I think, like, don't accept the drink if you don't want to talk to the person. This is interesting. We should move this to the regular show because I think this is uh, this is I'm gonna I'm gonna email it to you, Jenny, and we can talk about this
on the regular show. But I really like it. She says question two. In general, if a girl knows she's not interested in the guy, but he offers to buy her a drink, it is it against the rule to take him up on it? If you have no intentions in mingling with him. Does the guy have a right to be upset? I don't think. Well, I don't know. It depends because is he If he's offering to buy you a drink, you can easily say no and then just like
shove off and go away. But if he is handing you a drink, it's so much more difficult to say no, I already have one, because then I don't know what if he gets like cranky and huffy about it, and then you have got like then you have to share space with this cranky dude for the rest of the night. That would suck. So if he's handing it to me, I'm gonna take it. Yeah, but it's not I feel like you're taking I feel like you're almost taking like blame for him
offering you a drink when you didn't want it. Like it's not your fault that he offered you a drink. Like I said, I think it's okay. If you accept it and you still don't talk to him, that's up to you. Yeah, Personally, I just wouldn't open that door to them thinking that a conversation is going to happen at that point, So I would just be like, nah, I'm good. You talk to him for like two minutes and then be like, well, thanks so much for the drink.
See, but people don't get the picture though. That's why I just say no, Like some people don't get it, like I'm not interested. Thanks for the drink, but I'm not interested. I will I think she wants a little bit of the guy perspective too, so I will throw that in. I'll say it's tough. It's tough because you know what, guys want to meet somebody and maybe if they're single and they see somebody who looks interesting that they'll buy a drink because you know it is is it easier to
say, hey, can I buy you a drink? Or I'll send over a drink? Or is it easier to go up and say Hi, what's your name? Do you come here? Often? I don't think it's it's easy either way for either gender. But I think that you know, most guys are probably shooting their shot and if it doesn't go well, then you know, he lost four dollars for a drink. Yeah, that's not very
financially responsible. Start a conversation first, yeah, and then and then maybe be like, all right, let's get us some drinks because I feel like they're going to say like, oh, I'm going to buy I'm buying you a drink, or here's a drink to kind of like trap you to talk to them, versus talking to them first and then offering to buy them a drink. I had a friend, Brentley. I've heard you heard me talk about Brentley. Brentley was very handsome, very he worked out all the time.
He looked great. And we were at a bar one time here in town and he saw in a track. It was one of those square bars, so you look across and there's people on the other side of the bar, and so he saw a woman. He's like, I want to send her a drink. And it worked for Brentley, and he either took her home that night or went out with her later and hooked up. Because Brentley was you could have bought, you could buy. He could buy a girl a cup of mosquito larvae and she would be like, oh God, let's
go home and hook up. And it was like always like Brentley had this magic. One time we were out at a bar in Ohio together and he saw a woman with another guy and they had their like he had his arm around the girl. The guy had his arm around the girl whatever, And Brentley gave this girl the eye and the girl gave Brentley the eyeback, and pretty soon she was flirting with Brinley and pissed off the guy that she had come with. Brentley just had this magic touch. Yeah, magnetism, he
did. He had this magnetism. And you know, I don't know what he's up to lately. I haven't talked to him aco I kind of look him up online. I kind of want to know what Brentley looks like. Now. He's a good looking guy. He looks a little bit like a reject from the nineties. And I used to give him hard about that. A hard time. I said, you look like the lead singer of Color Me Bad. Now, if you look up Color Me Bad, they were a group thirty years ago. So if you look up Color Me Bad,
he looked a little bit like that guy. Are you seeing what I'm seeing? I'm looking at Color Me Bad. There's four of them. I don't know which one's the least. The mustache guy, the must oh oh, he looks like that. Yeah, that guy's a babe. Yeah, okay cool. Oh yeah, I feel like I have seen pictures of him before. Okay, of Brentley or color me bad. No, of Brentley, because I feel like I had an image of him in my head but I didn't remember. But now looking up, color me bad, I feel like
I've seen him. This guy's hot. He is a pretty good like well, I mean, not know what I mean. Oh, color me bad. Now I think that, Well, he's thirty years older now, so he's probably got he's probably bald and whatever. But I think that was really Brentley had this power and it's kind of like a very very beautiful woman. They turn heads wherever they go, and anybody who's like, oh, would you like to hook up with her? Absolutely? Would you like to hook
up with this beautiful specimen of a man? Absolutely? So Brentley could, like I said, he could send over a cup of mosquito larvae and a woman would be like, oh my god, that's so sweet, and she would drink it because she would want to please Brentley. Sure, Okay, moving on, this guy's not cute anymore. I looked him up. Oh okay, well that happens, as you agh, Dave. You can say my name. This is my first podcast email from Leah Dave. Your bold
statement about a correlation between stupid and chatty could not have resonated more. I said this yesterday. I said, is there a correlation between stupid and chatty? And we talked about it for a while. My aunt is the chattiest person. She frequently interrupts and talks over people so much to the point you can't have a decent conversation. She has no filter and has nothing intelligent to say. Years ago, my uncle, her husband, said she's got diarrhea
of the mouth. She just spits out everything that goes through her head. This behavior makes family gatherings difficult. However, this past fourth she and my uncle were not there and it was a welcome relief to hold conversations without the fear of it being hijacked. Anyway, thank you all for the daily laughs. It is truly appreciated. All right. That's from Leah in Savage.
As we as you read that, I did just like think of someone in my head who chats a lot and definitely is probably not intelligent and probably what you're like describing when you talk about these people, and I would agree with it. Now that I'm thinking more about it because I said Andrew talks a lot, but he knows how to listen to. You know, there's people who talk a lot and just don't even listen. No, that's true.
And I've run into that where you try to contribute to the conversation and they either interrupt you as if you were never speaking at all, or they don't respond in any way, And so you'll say something like yeah, I met Joe Mauer and we played chess together, and they keep going as if they didn't even hear you say, and you're and then you sit there inside your head going, why the fuck am I even trying to join this conversation.
They're not even listening to what I say. Yeah, interrupters are the worst. They are. I'm always I always think too, like they're always married and they have like a thousand kids, and I'm like, how how did someone decide like, yep, this is the life for me? I don't know. I think about that a lot all, you know, because that's true because I'm alone probably where I'm always like, how dore you married? And I'm not because that's the truth. I dated a woman years ago and
she was not smart and she every time. And she was so sweet though. That's the thing. She was so sweet, but every time you would say something about you, it would remind her of something similar about her. So if I said, yeah, I met Joe Mauer and we played chess together, she'd be like, yeah, I like Joe Mauer. You know what. I used to watch him all the time. I got a Joe Mauer jersey. I got him, I met him, and it's like, bitch, I was talking about me, but you had to make it about
you. But then she got married, yeah, to a smart, successful person and they live in a million dollar house on a lake. And I always go, how did you do that? How did you get somebody to like you enough? And a decent guy? Yeah? Yeah, all right. Now here's one that goes the other way, about somebody who is chatty but very intelligent. And this is from Alexis. And I know Alexis sort
of personally. I've actually been to her house before, because when I used to do my podcast, I would go to people's homes and do the podcast from their home, and she and her husband wereun so shout out, Alexis. I want to send you guys an email regarding being chatty and if it means you are smart versus dumb. My late husband was one of the smartest humans I know. He was in mensa eagle scout, accepted into MIT, but got a full ride to the U of M, so he stayed in
Minnesota. In four years, he got two bachelor's degrees actuarial, math and Japanese. So he was pretty good with his noggin. But he would never stop talking. Talked in his sleep. He would talk over everybody else speaking if he had a thought that pertained to the topic that was trained out of him. After a few years of marriage, he talked in movies, etc. It drove me fucking insane. I'd chalk it up to have an ADHD
and a thousand thoughts per second. When he was fighting cancer, the first time, I jokingly told him my wish had cancer of the throat, So you'd shut the fuck up, my god, which is funny. I love humor like that. I love humor like that. Q pindrop and shocked Pikachu face, then hysterical laughter. And after that he was a little more conscious of the chatty. But now because he's passed away, sure, I would give anything to hear his voice. It's been a year since he passed in
my house and life are incredibly quiet. In the opposite direction, one of my sisters is dumber than a bag of hair who never shuts up and who is so who's to say what the correlation is. I would love staff Rider sticker if you're still slanging them babies out. New crew of people are just awesome and I listen to podcast every day during work All the Best and dart
Lick Alexis and Alexis, We will send you a staff Rider sticker. Yeah, that's like what I said yesterday that it's the ADHD that makes them talk a lot. So the slightly neurodivergent people who are super chatty doesn't mean that they're not smart. They just have ADHD. Well. I think that's true.
And I think some people that are very intelligent are a little bit awkward because I think there may be a correlation between somewhat awkward word yeah maybe yeah, and really smart because your brain is working on being like very smart, but not necessarily very socially lubricated. Yeah, social lubricating. Andrew, one of our regular staff writers, says, you were talking about people who talk
a lot. I want to chime in. I got a coworker who can talk your ear off for an hour or longer if you don't step in at some point say well, I got to get back to work or I got
to get going. While I personally, in comparison, I'm super quiet, my input to a lot of conversations with him and others seems to be right or oh yeah, or I get that, and it makes me wonder how I got to be a manager in training and even married for that matter, because I think I'm pretty boring quiet, yet others must not see me that same way. I don't know. I don't know either. I will tell
you this one. Carson is extremely quiet, but he's got a million friends, So either they love him for the human that he is, or he must be chatty and interesting around his friends, because around me and Susan, we got a pull conversation out of him. Yeah. I've always wondered that with like people who are quiet in like real life, you know, but then they have a million friends, because like we all know people like that
in high school or even middle school or whatever. Super quiet people that have a billion friends, and they're just like, how what do you guys talk? About. What do you talk about? Yeah, that's what I always wonder. But I've always been super chatty, friendly, talkative person. Are that way? You have the gift yet? But like, what does Carson talk about with his friends? I would love to be a fly on the wall. I don't know. Yeah, or do they all just sit around
and stare at each other? Maybe they're all quiet? I don't know. Dave Jenny Bailey, Bailey, you unlocked a new fear. I heard your story about the spider and your lufa, and I have been checking religiously, saying, gotta did I miss this? No, you were here when I had a spider in my lufa and I was like scrubbing my body with it before I found found it, and it was like trapped in the lufa, and so I had to like use tweezers to like get it out of the
lufa. I look at it every single time I use it now, and I have to give it a three sixty. Yeah. Well, this woman goes on to say, today I found an earwig in my loop. What is an ear wig? Yeah, you'll know what it is, Okay, Well, I mean it's got warm like features. But I classified as a bug have I never seen one of these in real life. I don't know. Is it got the stripes on it? Kind of yeah, it's got like creepy little like pincers on this butt. Well those might be on the
head. I'm not sure. Is that the butt of the head. It's the butt, okay, but yeah, Well, she goes on to say I have died. I wanted to say thank you, Bailey for unlocking a new fear and saving me from washing myself with an ear wig. Well, hey, you're welcome. I'm sorry that that happened to you, but I'm glad you found it. I love the variety of shit we get in on the Minnesota good I seriously love, love, love. I love this part
of the show better than the actual show itself. If we could do nothing but the Minnesota Goodbye and read emails all morning, I would rather do that in the show. That's called just doing a podcast, Dave, that's just that you can do that. You understand that you could. You would probably not saying that this is what I don't want to do it alone. I was going to say, you could leave morning radio and just do a podcast,
which you've done podcasts before. I have, Yeah, and there's a new one that I've got in the works, and it's called KATIWB Hits and Missus. And I think if you go to Dave ryanshow dot com, there's a link to the preview episode on there. Oh I think so, because I did a little teaser for it the other day just to kind of hold a place for it. But it's called KWB Hits and Missus and it's some of the dark moments, the big things we did over the years, the
things that failed, and inspired by the infamous Last Chance Summer Dance. But also it's got some other things in there too, So that is something. Do you see it on there? Where Am I looking? On? Da Ryan? On my podcast? There yet? Okay? Okay. We talk about Molly's birthday on the show yesterday, and Molly was on the show. It's Bailey's friend. When she turned thirteen. She had a birthday and she was expecting a lot of people and mom and dad had food, cake and
ice cream and things, and nobody showed up. Bailey showed up and she actually said that she had a decent time. Thanks to Bailey for showing up. I heard from another woman yesterday who said that she also turned twelve or thirteen. Literally nobody showed up for her birthday, and she said it was just it was awful. It was just so sad. It still bothers her to this day. Well here's another one, and this one turns out with a little bit happier ending. I heard Molly's birthday story reminded me I had
a similar experience. The year was nineteen ninety nine, my twelfth birthday, my golden birthday. I was convinced this was going to be the best birthday yet. Before that year, the kids in my family would celebrate either at Circus, pizza rip, or a hotel pool. But for my golden birthday, I wanted to go to Mall of America for glamour shots with a handful of friends. I felt so grown up. The day of my party, all of my friends canceled. I was devastated. My grandma saved the day.
She invited my cousin and my cousin's friend and we went to the Science Museum instead. It ended up being a great birthday. We even listened to Katie WB on the way home. I think that's so sweet and it almost makes me cry a little bit. That Grandma saved the day. Yeah, because Grandma looked at twelve year old granddaughter and said, ah, let's get some kids and we'll go to the science museum, right versus sorry, buddy, Well, better luck next year. Yeah, let's turn on the TV.
Right. Yeah. I've been a lifelong listener, but it wasn't until this year that I have been able to listen to the Morning Show for more than just my commute. Thank you for all the entertainment. Have a great day and a great weekend. Kelsey wants a staff writer sticker, and we will send one over. Shout out to Brie, who is secretary. Brie and she sends out the staff writer stickers another one. Hello Dave, Jenny Bailey vant. I had to write in because I heard you talking about hiding
food, mostly Jenny, from their partner. I hide food too, mostly chunk food, from my partner because he has no self control, no willpower. If I buy a bag chips, he'll eat the whole bag in one sitting, same with any candy. We sometimes keeps chocolate in the freezer so it's easier to not eat the whole thing and it lasts longer. But whenever he buys any junk food. He eats it quickly, so it's hard for me to keep anything snacky. What I do is I either will hide them
in my trunk, depending on the weather or now. We live in Miami, so it's very hot shout out people who listen in Miami. Or I'll hide them in one of my backpacks in a closet. We don't go through each other's things or anything. He just doesn't use my bag, so I'm not worried about him finding it. Occasionally, I will buy candy and just store it. He will ask me, do you have anything hidden away? I'm kind of in a snacky mood, so I do share with him,
but he doesn't know where they are. And usually when I share, I make sure we are in agreement that if he eats it, it's not my fault because he asked. We talked about Jenny hiding food from Andrew. That is funny. We don't hide food in my house, so I don't understand it, but I guess you have self control. I don't know. I'm guilty of it too. Let's see I there's another one here, and there
might be yes again, random totally different topic. I'm behind on the podcast and I just listened to the May twentieth episode where a listener asked if anybody had a dream about a loved one that left them feeling calm afterward like they did. I lost my dad ten years ago when I was twenty seven. It was probably six months after his death that I had this dream. I was sitting on the couch with a friend's side by side, talking about how much I missed my dad and how sad I was he wasn't there. From
behind my friend, my dad leaned forward. He looked around and waved his arms as if saying, can you not see me? I'm right here, I'm right here. His life easy without my dad? No, but I do feel much better and a sense of calm with him being gone. After this dream, I think he knew exactly what I needed. I'm happy to hear another person who's had a similar dream to mine. Thanks for sharing, Caitlin. My dad's been gone for twenty something years and I dream about him
probably several times a week, really, and he's right there. And sometimes it's not always like I feel like I'm in trouble, like he caught me doing something or he's mad because I didn't mow the lawn or whatever. And sometimes he's just there. And in my dream I never questioned why he's there. Yeah, you know, he's just there. Yeah, Yeah, it's coming to visit you. I guess your dreams. I wish i'd dreamt more about people I've loved. My dad. You want to dream about my dad?
Not about your dad, but maybe about my grandpa? I would love Do you ever dream about your grandpa? I have had dreams about my grandparents, but it's usually just like not moments, but like a couple of days after they've died versus years later. There is something comforting about that. Yeah, I love that. That is going to do it for the Minnesota Goodbye. I love the randomness and anything random that you think of. Please send
it to us and we'd love to get it on. If you want to do a Minnesota or a Minnesota Goodbye staff writer sticker, just let us know, put your address in there and we will send it over to you or actually, Bree, we'll send it over to you. Thank you for listening, have a great weekend or whenever you listen to the Minnesota Goodbye, And our email, of course is Ryan Show at KDWB dot com