Nip It In the Bud

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morning or whenever you're aft listening. I send out a whole bunch of staff writer stickers last night, probably about fifteen or so, so if you are waiting for one, you're going to get one along with a Dave Ryan Show sticker in the mail in another couple of days. So thank you for writing in. If you send in an email and we read it on the podcast, we always send you a staff writer sticker if you ask for one and put your address in there. For example, Kelsey in Scandia, Minnesota says,

good morning, Peep's Kelsey here. I was thinking about strange injuries that I gotten in my life, and I wanted to see if you guys had any I'll go first. I was young. I went to my older brother's basketball practice. I was throwing a ball and running and then sliding on my knees and my shins to catch it. Accident prone me ran face first into the wall and knocked out my two front teeth, So I was a toothless

wonder for a couple of years before the adult teeth finally grew in. Oh she was little, okay, uh, of course super crooked when they grew in. I also went down to slide once as a small child and bit through my tongue out at the bottom of the slide where it drops off, so now I have a scar on my tongue. I have numerous stories as to my parents siblings being accident prone as genetic right Jenny right, Yes,

Oh, I am a super accident prone person. I would say the silliest injury I've ever given myself was one I was up in the middle of night having a little snacky and I was cutting myself a piece of cheese and the knife fell off the counter and stabbed me in the towel. And it was it was like not a fall drop or a high drop, so there wasn't like tons of velocity coming down towards my toe. But I definitely cut my toe a little bit, like it hit my foot, and yeah, that

was probably the strangest one. That is a strange one. I don't really have a strange one. I mean I was riding on my bicycle one time when I was probably twelve, and I had a parachute on the back, and the parachute got tangled up in the back wheels and I was going really fast and then I slid tangled up in the parachute and the bike and I was, you know, sliding down a gravel road and I had scars on my side. But it wasn't like the It was just a little bike accident,

Yeah, with the parachute. I'll tell you a kind of an unsavory story. My old girlfriend Cricket, my daughter Beth's mother. Yeah, she was a little kid, I don't know how old, six eight ten, and she was up on the cupboard on a Saturday morning sneaking cereal because I

guess she wasn't supposed to get whatever. She was trying to get cereal out of the cupboard and she wasn't tall enough to reach it, so she had to get a chair stand on top of the counter and then reached cereal, and she slipped and fell and did the splits, landed on a fork that was sitting on its side, so the pork wasn't sitting times up, it was sitting on its side. Landed on her labia and cut her labia, so instead of being one laby as she now has two on one side.

Wait, is this a joke? It's And I was like, right, hold on, And I thought, oh God, how painful and embarrassing for a little kid. Yeah, and I don't know, it's been so long ago. Know, she ran to tell her parents or you know, put a towel. I don't know, But I was like, why you got two? And she and she told me the story and she laughed about it then. But god, what a fucking a horrible story. Yeah, all

right, let's move on. I've been trying to think of a new way to sign off the email, and I remember Dave trying to make nip it in the bud happen, and my thirty two year old self says nip it quite often, So that's my sign off. Nip that shit. Anyway. Thanks for making the drive to work more fun. If you feel like sending a staff's a writer sticker, and yes, I will let me take a picture of that. Nip it in the bud was a little backstory that's obviously

not mine. That came from I think the Andy Griffith Show, which was a show back in the sixties, and the sheriff Barney Fife would say nip it in the bud. And so we said it on the radio once, maybe five years ago, and a big consultant said, don't let Dave say nip it in the bud because that is from a sixty year old TV show. And I'm like, okay, fine, yeah, I mean I wasn't, like, you know, dedicated to saying nip it in the bud.

But I don't know, Kelsey, I think we're gonna stay with Dart Lick or all right, thanks for the email and this say that's for on the air. I'll do that on the air. So here we go. David Flugelbind to Ryan. I am sitting here catching up on the Minnesota Goodbye, eating my cottage cheese, and I have decided, without your permission, that we become best friends. You said you had four spoonfuls for a snack a

few weeks ago, and I couldn't relate more. You have no choice but now to be my friend, lol, because I was the other day. I was like hungry, but I didn't want to eat a lot, so I had four spoonfuls of cottage cheese and put it back in the fridge. So any who keep licking anus? Yes, Jenny, I said anus, you're dart licking pe. One Daily listener Chris from Northfield. I don't need a stick her. I've already got one on my garbage fridge because he wrote

in it's on my garage fridge and I thought he said garbage fridge. Hashtag dart lick hashtag diddling the bean. Thank you, Chris, I appreciate that that one is far on the air and this one is not. Yesterday, we talked to somebody who they had just quit their big corporate job and now they're going to be a stay at home mom, and they're like, I just, is there any advice you can give me on staying home? And

do you remember what all? She asked? In general, she wanted advice because she's never she has always been a career person herself, but then she just fell in love with motherhood and like being home with her kids. So she just has no idea because she's always been a career person what she should do with herself with being a stay at home mom. Now, okay, she writes, I'm writing response to the new stay at home mom. I've been a stay at home mom for thirteen years and it works really well for

my family. My advice is to add a few activities each week for you and baby. For example, ECFC classes. I don't know what that is. I don't either, ECFC, but baby story time at the library, music classes, et cetera. They're a great way to meet other parents. Also, if it helps to think about it like a job, takes some time to learn about child development. I'm always reading a parenting book, especially now that my kids are hitting the teenage years. Parent education is never ending.

When Carson was little, I got one like how to Raise a Boy or The Little Boy Book or something like that, and I think I had one for Alison, like you know what. We first we had What to Expect When Expecting, which is a classic book. You've heard of that one, yeah, And then what to Expect during the First four years or something, And I got The Boy Book, and I honestly, I never really read it. And I kept telling myself, I got to read that book. I don't want to screw this up. But he's doing okay, you

know what he's doing good. He's leaving for Singapore to tour with Love in like ten days. So here was an interesting thing about Carson. He's a very mild mannered, non aggressive kind of a person and he does work for this tour and he'll do things like book airplane, their book flights, and book hotels and book lunches and make sure that everybody's got their boarding passes and their passports. And he does all of that from his house. But it's

work, and he didn't get paid for something. And he's like, yeah, I send an invoice a month ago and I didn't get paid for it. And I said, well, just you know, send him a little reminder and say hey, friendly reminder. And he's like, no, if they're not going to pay you, they're not going to have said no. I said, you've got to stand up for yourself number one, because you

worked and they owe you the money, number one. Number Two, you've got to show them that you are a professional and they need to take you seriously. Number three, they probably just forgot to pay. But I said, one of the biggest things is you've got to show yourself that you don't tolerate people that don't pay you. Yes, so you're twenty three, you're

educated, you did work, you're a professional. You need to show yourself that you can stand up and advocate for yourself because a lot of you know, a lot of us are like, well, they didn't pay, and I don't want to rub them the wrong way. So so he wrote to them and he said, hey, just a friend of friendly reminder, and ten minutes later they paid him. Yes, we got like four hundred and twenty eight dollars. So they owed him four hundred and twenty eight dollars that

he wouldn't have got. That's a lot of money too, especially for a kid who's twenty three years So I was gonna say I would I needed that advice, like a handful of years ago, because I had helped host an event somewhere and it wasn't through the radio station, but they agreed to pay me for it, and they never paid me. And it was a friend who like worked for this company that I set it up through, and I felt uncomfortable confronting my friend. Of course, so I never got paid for

that. And I also like where it was at. I purchased things, so I basically paid for my own event that I was being told I was going to be paid for helping host. So that was fun and you and you got to advocate for yourself and a lot of the time people they just forgot, Like Natalie, who does the voice on our show. She'll be like, and now it's time for Dave's Dirt or back with more of the

Dave Ryan Show. I will send her a script every month or so, and she charges five dollars a line to read them, and that's a really good deal. And she likes doing it. She likes being on a big station like KATIWB and we love her voice. And sometimes I'll forget to venmo her the money, so she'll send us like twenty twenty lines, and so now I owe her one hundred dollars and I'll forget, yeah, and she'll remind me, and I'll pay her right away. And I said, Natalie,

don't ever hesitate to remind me that I need to pay you. Don't ever hesitate because I always want to pay you, and I nine times out of ten I pay her without being reminded, but once in a while I forget, so advocate for yourself. You're a pro, that's what you do and you've earned it. Finally, if you haven't already, be sure to talk to your husband about the household division of labor. Are you responsible only for child care or do you take on cooking, cleaning, laundry as well.

This might change as your child grows, but it's good to be clear on those responsibilities. L'st thing put on Katie during the day. It'll help pass the time. I love that. Play KWB in the background. Love your show from a regular listener, Susan. Thank you, Susan, I appreciate that. Do you did you do your own laundry when you were a kid? No, mom did your laundry. Yeah she did, yep, yep. A lot of kids do their own laundry. I never did.

Yeah. That was probably the only chore I didn't help out with. I mean, like I did the dishes. We never had a dishwasher. I helped with yard stuff like clean my room, vacuumed all that stuff, but never had to do laundry. Yeah. I never did either. I mean we grew up in you know, an older model of a household where mom was a pretty much pretty much stay at home She was a lunch lady that worked a few hours during the day. But Mom did the cooking and mom

did the cleaning. We kids did the chores. Like I cleaned out the chicken house, which was five or six wheelbarrows full of straw packed with chicken shit, and you had to use a pitchfork to put it in the wheelbarrow and push it about two hundred yards to the garden where it was used for compost and fertile And I had to butcher chickens and pluck chickens. We had to chop wood, we had to There was just a lot of outdoor gardening chores. But we did not do laundry. I don't know why. I

mean, we could have hello, says Kaylee. Yesterday on the podcast, somebody wrote in about a TikToker who had a sixteen hundred dollars a month car payment. I saw that same TikTok and that creator was behind on her payment. Thus her payment is really eight hundred dollars a month, still a huge payment, but nowhere near the double that the TikTok creator was trying for.

A state to state for shock value. There is no reason anybody can have should There's no reason anyone should have an eight hundred dollars car payment that cannot afford it. Absolutely sorry, but you don't need to have a new car every year if you can't afford it. I hate tiktoks like that. Meanwhile, I drove my four Tourus until the transmission blue. It was given to me by my parents, so I drove it in high school, through college and into my first year teaching. You know what, she signs off?

All right, thank you, Kaylee. I love that I drove. My dad got me a Volkswagon. First. I inherited my dad my brother's Volkswagon. It was a piece of crap, broke down all the time. It finally broke down so bad my dad had to buy me another one for a couple of thousand dollars and I drove that for years. Then I finally made enough money to buy my own first new car. But I could afford it, yeah, you know, and it was very affordable. I mean it

was a couple hundred dollars a month and it was very affordable. So yeah, I never got a car until I was a senior in college. So I went all through high school, all through college until my senior year having a car. I actually when I got this internship, I was only able to do it because of my awesome roommate who let me borrow her car. Really, because there was what I took buses everywhere in college, and I wouldn't have been able to do this internship without a car because buses didn't run

that early. Yeah, so yeah, she let me borrow her car and I just paid her gas money every week for the internship. That was really nice that she. I never knew that about you. That was really nice that she let you borrow her car. That's a good friend right there. We had somebody apply for this job one time, and it's kind of a side story, and she came in from a town out of state but within driving distance, moderately within driving distance, and she was talking to us and

she applied for the job back when Fallon was interested in the job. And she came in one day and she talked about how her brother was waiting for her in the parking lot. Her brother drove her from this other state. It turned out that she couldn't drive because she had had so many duy's that she had her license taken away. And she was nice and she was sober and recovering supposedly, but I was like, how are you going to get to work? And she was like, oh, I figure out a way.

And I'm like, I can't hire this person if they can't drive. Yeah, this is a job that I really think you do have to have a car for unless you walk, unless you live in within walking distance, because I know, like Colt so that he is in afternoons now, he used to live at the apartment around the corner when he used to do nights. So like, yeah, that could be doable. But outside of that, like, you got to have a car for this job, Yeah, you really do. I mean for probably most jobs you do. Speaking of

drive tomorrow, I'm here's a little plug. I'm driving tomorrow to the Maplewood Barnes and Noble on Saturday for a book signing for my kid's book, Little Dave's Amazing Day Tomorrow Saturday from ten thirty until eleven thirty. You can buy the book there at Barnes and Noble and I'll sign it and we'll get a picture and we'll do a selfie and we'll chat and then after that I'm going to the t Rex Cookie Bakery in Egan. Just map it, you'll find

it, and we're selling the Dave Ryan Cookie and also the books. So we'll be there for an hour from one until two, so come by. Part of the proceeds from both goes to charity. One his Children's Minnesota and one is pause for pause. All right, good morning, says Nikky. Something happened today. I immediately thought of Dave. Here's the story. Walking my two dogs on the beach, which is a huge beach. It's early, very little people and no dogs out. I let my dogs off the

leach so they can run around and get some exercise. Two guys walk by and I say good morning, and they say, way to put your dog on a leash. And my first thought was f you, And then I thought of Dave. I know how it's one of your pet peeves. I'm really interested to see what she's gonna say. Here's my issue. What is wrong with letting your dogs run a little bit when no one is around. If there'd been another dog around, I would have put them back on the

leash right away. I completely understand the need for putting your dog on a leash, but really, what's the harm if no one else is around? Was just curious if your lease issue has some wiggle room. Are you one hundred percent dog on a leash or are you okay with letting them rome if they are behaved and no other dogs are around in an open space. I

would also like to know Jenny's thoughts as well. I know, since the dogs you walk are not yours, you may not be comfortable walking them off leash, But if your dog, if it was your dog, would you just curious what you think? Nikki? Respectfully, I don't think it's okay because that's the rule. That's just the rule. You keep your dog on a leash. If you got your own backyard, or you got your own private property or it's a dog park, then you do whatever you want to.

But on a public spot you never know what. Like let's say, like somebody's I don't know, somebody brought their puppy out, or a little toddler and your dog ran off to look at the toddler, or here comes two guys. So you weren't alone on the beach, you were within talking distance for them to say, way to put your dog on a leash. So there are other people that walk by, and to me, it's like, you know what, the rules are put there for a reason, and

I get the temptation to let your dog because the dog loves it. What do you think, Jenny, I'm very okay what dogs me off fleishes in certain situations such as what she's talking about the beach where there was no one originally and then some people came along. I do agree that maybe I would have tried to get the dogs to be closer to me slash on the leash

if I did start to see people. So I'm okay with that. Like when I've gone to Oregon in California and I've done a lot of hikes, dogs are never on leashes in any of those situations, and I'm okay with it. Like really in California or Oregon and people are walking around without the lease I mean, And I was at a beach in Oregon and it was I don't know, ten in the morning. There were quite a few people

there. There were dogs running around everywhere off leash, and I just I love dogs so much, so like for me, and I know you do for me, I just don't mind it as long of course, as there if they're really well behaved dogs, if there's like some kind of potential aggression with them, then of course I do not think that that dog should ever be allowed off leash. But for me personally, yes, if I'm watching a dog, the dog is always on a leash. They are not my

dog. I do not have any idea what kind of like my things could happen. So I would never ever walk a dog off a leash for me, But those if I had a really really well behaved dog myself and it was on like a big hike in Colorado or something, I might have a dog off off a leash. Yeah, you know, I see it once in a while, and to me it's like, well, that is part of the responsibility of owning a dog, as you keep the dog on a leash. And I've hikeing Colorado and most people, if I see them hiking

with their dog, they've got the dog on a leash. But occasionally, you know, I'll be hiking over here, even by like Lake Midawashta, and here comes a dog running up to me, excited to see me, and there's the owner fifty yards behind them on the trail, and I thought, you know what if I had a daughter that once got bit by a German shepherd and she's like eight years old and she's terrified and she screams and like jumps at me and cries, Well, then you're being a dick because

you don't know what you're going to encounter, right. I do think that in a situation like that, yes, the owner should have been closer to the dog and probably kept the dog near them slash put them back on the leash coming up to you. So I do agree with like once you're going past people, but like on an open trail where there's not many people around, I think like they can run a little bit, but make sure they're not like twenty feet ahead of you where you don't know if they're going to

encounter someone without you being there. Okay. I think one other thing is that if your dog takes a dump and you're far behind them and you don't see it, or they run into the woods to take a dump, well then you're not going to clean it up. Yeah, And that's one of the reasons why dog parks are so covered with shit is because people sit there at the picnic table on their phone while their dog runs around and takes a

big shit, and you don't know. I've told the story before. I was at the Lakeman of wash To Off Leash dog Park and there's a big lab and he's over here taking a dump. And I'm like, okay, where's the owner, where's the owner? And this is a vast dog park, and so coming up the trail, about one hundred yards behind the dog is your typical what I call this day ereotypical chan Hassen woman who is about one hundred and twenty pounds, she's got blonde hair, probably arrived in a

giant Yukon, and she's with her friends. And I said, I went over to her and I handed her a bag. Yeah, And I said, oh, your dog just pooped right over there, as my polite way of saying you didn't see it because you weren't paying attention, but clean up

the dog shit. And she she's like, I've got a bag, and she kind of gave me a snotty attitude, which I don't blame her, but she would not have seen it and would not have cleaned it up had I not called her on it. Right, And they actually had to close down the chan Hassen dog park for a while because people would not clean up after their dogs. I mean, I think that that's extremely rude. I watched the dogs that I takes it to the dog park to make sure I'm

always cleaning up their poop. I will admit one time in the last month, I could not find the poop to save my life. Like I was maybe twenty feet away, but I saw the dog pooping. So I walked up as quick as I could, and it was just kind of like the leftover spring mud leaves situation that I searched for like ten minutes and I finally just picked up what I thought might have been poop, but I think it might have just been mud. I have no idea. Yikes, it is.

I mean, that's part of the thing. I'm not here to preach about going to the dog park because that you know, you let your dog run off and roam whatever. But it's just clean up after your dog. You know that. Hey, send me an email. I'm really curious if you want, and I'm not going to judge you much, but send me

an email. If you are a believer in letting your dog off the leash at your local park or on your local trail, I want to find out what your reasoning is because I'm really curious the same way I'm curious as to the reasoning of picking up your dog's poop and a bag and setting it on the side of the trail. What is the reasoning? What is the logic?

And people go, well, maybe they're going to come back and pick it up later, But you can tell when one has been sitting there for a few days, because it's got like rain and mud splat on it, and it's got some you know, like it's been sitting there, and you can tell. So give me your justification. I'm curious. Angela says, I broke up with a friend about four months ago. It was hard, but it was needed. We talked the other day about breaking up with friends.

Her daughter and my daughter were also best friends. I picked up her daughter every day after school and brought her to my house. I did a lot for this friend, but it always seemed one sided, like she was taking advantage of me. She never reciprocated. Then one day it was discovered that the daughter was bullying my daughter at school behind her back with other girls. I brought it up to the friend to see if we could resolve it with the girls between each other, but she blew it off as girls will

be girls they are thirteen. Yeah, no, not with my daughter. I gave her some time over winter break to think it over, and I didn't hear from her. So I told her that she would need to find an alternative ride or care for her daughter. It was for the best. She never reached out to try to work it out after that. It's been hard for my daughter not to have her best friend through some hard times, but we are moving on. I have come to realize maybe she was only

meant to be around for a season. Yeah. Maybe. So that is it for the Minnesota Goodbye. Send me emails about dogs or friends or whatever you want to talk about. Send it into Ryan's show at KDIWB dot com. I hope I see you at the book signing at Maplewood tomorrow Barnes and Noble at ten thirty until eleven thirty, or the t Rex Cookie Bakery and Egan Tomorrow Saturday from one until two. Have a great weekend, and thanks for listening to the Minnesota Goodbye.