And here we go with today's Minnesota Goodbye. And this we got a bunch of emails, so I'm excited to see what you have come up with here as a staff writer, because again, the Minnesota Goodbye is mostly written by you. We respond to it and that is why we love it, because we never know what you are going to come up with. Here is one from Hannah. Hey, guys, Happy New Year. Got a question. Do you get annoyed when a certain radio station in southern Minnesota copies all your
stuff? I follow them on Facebook because before I realized there was iHeartRadio. I listened to them when I first moved to New Olm from New Hope. They copy bits. They even asked the same questions you guys post on Facebook a lot of the time, and it's wild to me that they just blatantly do that. Imitation is the finest form of flattery. But this is a little excessive. If it's a radio station in New Olm, I don't know, but I know that there used to be one in man Cato that would
steal our stuff. I think the thing is with KATIEWB, we are the center of the universe when it comes to radio stations in this region. KTWB is the radio station. There's I mean, there's ninety three Acts and KQ and whatever. But I think we're one that other radio stations listen to to steal ideas because KTWDB is the legendary station and in radio, stealing bits is
so commonplace. M it is it just is. I guess. I'm surprised that they're stealing it like so frequently, I guess, and then exactly the way that we did it, Like we might see like a good idea that someone did on TikTok, but then it's like, well, how do we make this like Dave Ryan Show, like what we want to do and how it's like our kind of radio show flavor. Yes, I don't know what specific ones, but you know, I'm sure that if we asked something like
what did we ask on the show today? We asked what was your lock screen on your phone? Okay, right, yep? And and I guess if somebody steals it, I'm not sure why, but I would say that one of the things that I learned in radio was if I come up with my own ideas, I get better, and if I steal other people's ideas, I'm not getting better. So if I'd come up with my own idea and it works, that I'm like, oh, that works. But if I come up with an idea and it didn't work, I go, oh,
well that didn't work. So I would get better at coming up with ideas. And a lot of times Jenny and I and Drake sit around and go let's try that, and then we go, nah, that's not going to work. We'll only get two phone calls on it, or that's a little bit kind of a who cares? Yeah, what was one that we were talking about. It was something that you would come up with and we
said, well, we can talk about it for a minute. It was a podcast you're listening to, Yes, And it was all about it was just a discipline expert, and it's all about stoicism and how you should do the verb, not try to be the noun. So instead of saying am I a writer, it'd say am I writing? So you need to do what you're trying to do, not trying to be a writer. You need to do writing. You need to write, you don't need to try to be a writer. Okay, that makes sense. For example, I could
say am I a runner? Or am I running? Yeah, yeah, because I think it's all about the validation that you get with stoicism, Like you need to have internal validation from the things that you do. So if
you're just like am I a writer? Am I a famous writer? And you're you're looking at outside factors to validate if you're this writer versus if you truly care about writing, you should just be writing and that's what you should care about instead of outside validation of like you sold a million copies of a
book or something like that. Now. See, that's what's interesting because Jenny and I and we kind of would we could talk about it a little bit more, but our point was we talked about that and we just said, eh, you know what, we probably won't spend a lot of time about that on the radio. I mean, I got an Xbox for Christmas, and I don't want to spend a lot of time talking about my Xbox because
who fucking cares, right, you know what I mean? I can talk about all the games I played, But so Jenny and I will edit ourselves and say, eh, but if we come up with something really compelling in a radio station in New all Or Mancato, here's it. Some of them are going to steal it. Yeah, but Jenny and I have learned, and I'll come up with something sometimes and Jenny will say, like, is anybody going to care that Phyllis in Lakeville loves Cocker Spaniels because that's your favorite
breed of dog, you know what I mean? So, but thanks, Hannah. If you get a chance, write me back and let me know. And I'm not going to embarrass anybody. I would never embarrass another radio station and call them out for doing this, but I'd love to know. Tell me and I'll read it off the air. What station is it in what city? And what specific bits have you heard? I'd be really curious about that. Yeah, but I'm not going to blast anybody. Next one,
okay, hold on trying to find one. This one says, first of all, please don't say my name for background. I am thirty and currently single. I am writing to ask you both an intimate question. The Naughty Tuesday this week and recently seeing a short Taylor Tomlinson's comedy routine got me thinking. And then it gives a link. But I'll see if I can
do it without watching the link, because I haven't watched it. I am curious about what you both found your forever someone's when you both found your forever someone's. Did your partner become the best you ever had? Or do you love your partner but also think back about the time that you had the best sex ever with a former sexual partner. Up to this point in my life, I've had a long term boyfriend in other dates hookups, but I've always
thought about this crazy hot hookup I had. He is still the best I have ever had. The entire time was so hot. Unfortunately he moved to Sweden. What do you think? Does anybody eventually top your best or does the former person become the best in other areas but not always enough to erase those previous best sexual times from your mind? Other Minnesota goodbyes for listeners. Feel free to send in your comments if you have a story about this Anonymous
so I'm gonna read that again. Does somebody eventually top your best or does the former person become the best in other areas but not enough to erase those previous best sexual times from your mind. I really can't answer this one because I'm not gonna say anything about whether this is the best, or that was the best, or there was somebody better than whatever. I'm not really gonna answer that one, but I will say almost everybody has somebody who blew their
fucking socks off in bed mm hm. And that might not be the person that you're currently with. And sometimes you have amazing, mind blowing, lightning bolt sex with somebody that you're never going to be in love with, yeah, and you're never gonna date seriously. And then sometimes you're with somebody that you love dearly and they're good but not the best, And I think that's okay mm hmm. I also do think that love changes sex in a way
for I mean for women maybe more. But I think being in love with someone can elevate sex more than someone who gave you mind blowing sex because there's so much more of an emotional connection in that. So I would say that that plays a factor. And also, if you're with someone, I mean, you can still continue to have sex in multiple different ways and do different things and stuff. And maybe Jenny, I don't know, maybe on a yeah, maybe on an infiltrate no, so I feel like maybe, I
don't know, how did she say how fresh her relationship is? Uh, she's currently single? Oh? Yeah, sorry? I three years old, currently single. Yeah, you would get the impression after this after thinking that she was in a relationship. I don't know. I just I think that maybe you go into a relationship, you're dating them, maybe a year in you're still thinking about someone who gave you mind blowing sex and that was better. But you never know, like a year and a half and you might
start having that kind of sex with that partner. Like sex is something in my opinion that I think you should continue to grow in with your partner, because it can be like Dave says, cheese pizza, like yeah, it gets like you still like it, but it becomes kind of just like a little boring sometimes and if you continue to try different things, then you never
know what might happen. I think it's just so interesting that And Jenny's right, if you really love someone, your sex is going to be a lot more of like eye contact and touching and foreplay and building up to it.
And if you love someone, you'll have things to talk about afterward. Because back in my twenties, I would hook up with some like I don't know, some girl that I didn't know well, and it was always the worst, Jenny, because we'd hook up at my apartment and then you try to fall asleep because I wasn't going to say, well, you know what, you need to leave now, so and then you try to go to sleep, and she couldn't sleep and I couldn't sleep. We had nothing really left
to talk about necessarily, and I could tell she wasn't sleep. And when I say she, I mean multiple she's because they weren't breathing steadily, so you would hear them over there not breathing, so they're not sleeping. And I couldn't sleep because it made me uncomfortable. But there they were eight inches away, foot away, and they weren't sleeping, and it was the worst
it was like. And so sex might have been okay, but sex is so much better when you want to cuddle with them or talk with them afterwards. Yeah, for sure. All right, next one it is I'm taking a picture of her name right now. It is from Nicole. She says, Happy New Year, Dave, Jenny's Rake. This is the first time writing to the Minnesota Goodbye, very very long time listener. I actually met Dave a few times at the studio to get your book signed, and not
once but twice because my dog ate part of it. Dave, you also met my old dog Moose. As I sit here listening to your podcast and putting my five year old son to bed for the night, and listening to an older podcast about the Jello thing, the Jello in the Grand Canyon, a question popped into my head that I got asked a couple of years ago. And just like the Jello thing, it makes you think and not everybody
will have the same answer. So here it goes. If you were in a boxing ring with an animal that is bigger than you, which animal do you think you'd be able to beat? And why whatever you can't? Well, you pick cannot live in water. Okay, Now I'm not going to give an answer her answer, because I want you to think, and she gives actually a really good answer. So you're gonna fight an animal bigger than
you. What animal do you think you could beat? You want me to say, please, gosh, I mean, if it's bigger than me, but I think I can beat them, I'm gonna go with a deer. Oh good answer, yeah, because I mean they're they're not gonna they're not known to like mall and they're fighting back. That's a good question. Does the deer have boxing gloves or do they just like like kick or like use
their antlers, right, And that's what I was gonna say. I also would like one that does not have antlers, because then they probably just like gouge me to death and then I definitely would be out. But I think a deer is a really good idea. I was going to say a cow, because cows are pretty passive unless she gets up on her hind legs and she's like, you know, like punching me in the face. But I'm going to steal your answer and say a deer. Here's what Hannah said.
My answer is a giraffe because I could just take him out of the knees. Oh okay, that's a good one. But they also have you seen giraffes fight them? No, I've not seen a giraffe. Have you really not? I swear we were talking about this on the show before. They use their necks and they like smack each other with their long necks. Oh my gosh. Google giraffes fighting and tell me like it is aggressive? I might. I might do it later today, Dave Jenny, Happy New Year,
Dave. I might have missed it, but do you ever finish all nine seasons of Suits. I started watching it over the summer just because I wanted to see if Megan Markle was a good actress, and I got sucked in. I binge watched all nine seasons in about a month. Nice. So I'm curious, what do you think about Megan Markle's acting and what did you think of the last season? If you watched it, you can find
the last season on Amazon Prime if you need to. Also a heads up, Donna from Suits is on a new Netflix show called My Life with the Walter Boys. It's a teen drama. Oh, I watch that. I'm watching that show right now. I think she plays the mom. Then she's kind of a redhead. Oh, she's definitely the mom on that show. She is very beautiful. She's so hot. She's the hottest woman on current
or moderately current TV. I love redheads and she is gorgeous. And it's funny if you watch Suits, we make fun of the Donna walk because when Donna walks, there is a certain way that's very powerful but very sexy, the way she walks, and Jessica also has a little bit of that, but not as much as Donna. Let's go back to the show Suits. I'm not going to spend a lot of time on it, but because there's nothing more boring than hearing somebody talking about a show you don't watch, I'm
bored with it. I am bored with it right now at the part where spoiler spoiler, spoiler, spoiler spoiler, Mike just got out of prison and I don't care. I don't care anymore. It feels like they've just run it into the ground. What season are you on? Six or seven? Oh? I mean I thought you're gonna say maybe like three or four. And Susan still wants to watch Suits every night, and last night I said there's a movie that Jenny recommended called Salt Burn. Let's watch that instead.
I don't care about Suits anymore. And it's not that it sucks. I've just totally lot. I don't care anymore. So you know, maybe it gets better. Jenny, you and I are about the same age. We got two sisters. Also, I'm curious what your sister dynamics are. My sister and I have completely different personalities become even more apparent when we all became parents. We all three parent are kids very differently as sisters were cordial to each other, but none of us are best friends, which makes me kind
of sad when I see sisters who are best friends. We're still a close family. We live near each other and support our nieces and nephews at events in sports. Any who wondering if you're dynamics with your sisters are similar to mine or different, I would love a staff writer sticker before you run out done, wishing you health and happiness in the new year. That is from Ali in Wisconsin. You know me. I feel you on that about watching
sisters that are just absolutely best friends. I think that I am pretty close with my sisters, but we're not the type that are so so close and
best friends. We talk like text every once in a while in a group chat and stuff like that, but truthfully, we like don't tell each other things like I tell my friends so much more than I tell my sisters, and I get sad sometimes that I don't have that relationship with my sister is to be more open about certain things, but I know that, like in terms of my specific relationship, my older sister and I have always been like just a little bit closer only because our age difference is only a year and
a half, but our lives are so different now. She's got two kids with a third on the way, and I'm a single person living in a city five hours away. And then my younger sister and I kind of connect more on like an emotional level because I think we understand each other a little bit more in that aspect. So she comes to me a lot with like
boy problems or something like that. So it's it's definitely not like those you see all of the Instagram posts at Christmas and the sisters are all wearing like matching pajamas together and they're like, you know, taking pictures in front of the tree. I don't have that close like relationship with my sisters, but it's still a pretty close relationship. And I think that everybody's on kind of a sliding scale, like either you can't stand your siblings or they're your best
friend and you call them every day. And I totally get that. I understand how you see sisters that love each other and they'll post pictures of themselves on vacation and hugging each other and laughing. It's like, I love my sister, she's my best friend. And then other people they just don't have that. Yeah, and in the three of us, we have very different interests in life, like very different interests. Neither of my sisters are going
to do some extreme hike out in Tahiti and stuff like that. So it's just we have very different lifestyles, but we're close where we can be. I feel like, Okay, Dave, next one, This is from Andrew, not your Andrew. I will never hear if you respond to this because I don't listen to your show. However, my girlfriend says you will be joining adult FriendFinder. Is this because you couldn't get any matches on Grinder? Ha ha ha? Please keep pleasing my girlfriend with your show as I sure
can't. Thanks Andrew. That's funny, Andrew, you know what. That's fucking random and funny. I like, where is this gone? And I love it? You know. I joke about joining an adult FriendFinder and because yesterday I took a picture of my bicep and I put it on my Weekend in five Photos on Dave ryndshow dot com. And my arm looks actually pretty good. And I left my face out of it because the face does not
look as good. But I said, I'm going to use it as my profile picture on adult friend Finder, which I don't go on adult friend Finder because as soon as I did go on adult friend Finder, somebody would see me and be like, yeah, Dave, Ryan's an adult friend Finder. His wife knows about that. Yeah. So next thing you know, the city pages has your picture of your profile. Wait, that doesn't exist anymore, Right, that's funny. Okay, next one is a delete. It
is spam, and here comes one from Brie, Dave Jenny Drake. This is Brian from San Antonio, Texas. First of all, Happy New Year to y'all. Hope this year will be full of great memories and we'll treat you well. Do you have any new re Year's resolutions For me? I'm going to make it my goal to finish all my crochet projects that I keep that I keep starting and abandoning your's resolutions. No, my goal was the hike up Pike's Peak, and that's still my big thing. Yeah, fitness,
I think health. Yeah, I just say like having better habits is like one of my big things and I post it on my actual Instagram if you want to see like the trend of the ins and outs that people are doing. I kind of did that whole thing, and it's more to do with like lifestyle habits. Like something that's out for me in twenty twenty three is comparison, because comparison is the thief of joy, and it takes a lot of joy out of my life when I'm constantly comparing myself to other people.
And I have to just remember that I am Jenny and I am good enough. I don't know if you're good enough. I got to work out there. No, you know, I'd have heard a long time ago, and I think it's true, is compare yourself down, not up, because there's always going to be somebody who is more successful, drives a nicer car, makes more money, is better liked, has more friends. So compare yourself down to somebody who is not doing as well as you, Yeah,
and you're going to feel better. And I don't really compare myself to a lot of people, honestly, because I think I'm pretty happy with who I am, So I don't really feel the need to like, oh, he makes more money or she has more friends. I don't really feel that's necessary, but something to think about. Second, I'm catching up on the old Minnesota Goodbye episodes. Want to know what this staff writer sticker is all about. I think I understand the gist of it, but want to know how
it got started. Well, it started probably three or four or five months ago because I said, you write the show, I will send a sticker to you that says Minnesota Goodbye, official staff writer if we read your email on the Minnesota Goodbye. So somebody listened designed a great round sticker and they sent me the design and I had it printed, probably maybe five hundred stickers
and I'm probably got about one hundred left or sit. I haven't Maily kept track, but something like that, so I'll probably order more because they seem to be pretty popular. Lastly, are we allowed to send snail mail? Yes? I would love to write you a physical letter to send If so, would you mind replying to this email with the address to send it to PS. My birthday is tomorrow, January third. I'd appreciate a shout out if you could. I'm trying twenty five years old. That is from Briann.
I'm sorry that I did not get this email in time to do it on the show, but here is your Minnesota Goodbye birthday shout out. So happy did is today? January third, Happy twenty birthday, Brianne. And I'm going to write her back really quick and say a quick address Dave Ryan KATIEWBB sixteen hundred Youdica Avenue. Are you fast, hyper Jenny? I'm okay, but when I'm put under pressure, I'm not. I'm constantly screwing up and I'm like, God, delete delete or one six There we go,
and it is on his way to send that. Okay, next one, here we go. You can say my name. My name is Kayla. Listen to your show this morning. A husband wrote in about his wife feeling self conscious postpartum. I've never written in before, but I thought it might be helpful. He wrote in, said, my wife had a baby last May. She's not lost her bab bab wait. She went from walking around naked in underwear and now she doesn't like too. She covers up. We
have sex in the dark. She doesn't let me see her body. When I look at her body, she says, what are you looking at? And she feels very self conscious. So we talked about that. So she says, I recently went through the same situation, and I think everybody has valid thoughts. Yes, she grew an entire human being, which is an insane and beautiful thing. Yes, it's more about how she feels, which he acknowledged. He said, Hey, listen, I get it's not just
about how I feel, but about how she feels too. Yes, if she is dealing with postpartum depression, she should absolutely look into getting help. No, the husband won't be able to convince her otherwise. But and maybe
this was already mentioned, I missed it. I found it way more meaningful when my husband would give me specific compliments like you have beautiful eyes, or I like you when your hair, wear your hair like that gave me positive things to focus on for me personally, I never really knew what your hot meant. If that makes sense. It won't fix the problems, but it could help. Love listening to you guys on my hour long commute from Kayla. So, Kayla, thank you. Yeah for sure, definitely appreciate that
one. Okay, delete, I go to delete these as I go. This one says sorry, you guys are wrong on this one. They knew what they were doing. Oh this was the girls you talked about it, the sixteen year old girls. I think who stole a package? Oh yeah, well I think That was an email we got yesterday. I don't remember tell you it was an email where the person wanted to know if we would
press charges. Yes, somebody lived in an apartment complex or a whatever, a condominium or town whatever, and on the security camera, two girls were caught stealing a package. They got caught, and the person wonders whether they should press charges on these sixteen year old girls. I think we said no. Talk to them, talk to their parents and tell them how upsetting it was and how it made you feel violated instead of like you're lucky. I
don't press charges. This person says, they stole, they knew what they were doing, they tried to get away with it. Press charges. Put those felons in jail. Your attitude of going, well, that's all right, they stole is the reason we're in the problem of crime that we're in today, because nobody wants to press charges. Put those criminals in jail. Lick Dart, Dart Dart, lick Oh, I love the creativity. I think you're wrong on that one, Michael, and I'm gonna tell you why.
Because it's a package carjacking. I think they should be put in jail. That's dangerous. It's a fucking car that somebody worked hard to buy and they stole it. The reasoning is, and we've talked about the reasoning is because they don't want young people at sixteen years old to have a giant crime on their record that will affect their employability for the rest of their lives.
Yeah, and I get that to a degree, but I still think if they steal your car, especially if there's any kind of violence or gun play involved, arrest them, put them in prison, let them be as an example to other people so they'll go oh. Because I think a lot of reasons there's so much crime now is because people know they're not going to get punished for it, but if they see other people get punished. This is why they used to crucify people. And I'm not saying we should bring back
crucifixion, although I'm open to debate. They like they used to like hang people on a cross. It's not Jesus wasn't the only one to die on across. I know, I'm a well aware. I've seen Game of Thrones. Okay, I've never seen it, but they used to hang people on a cross to die slowly over three or four or five days it is, so other people would go, shit, I don't want to die that way.
I'm not going to steal. I'm not going to do this. But right now there's no cross, so people just go I can steal, I can car jack, and there's no consequence, So why the fuck shouldn't I do it? So Yeah, I think that I've said everything that I want to say. Yeah, all right, all right. Next one, This one says, do not say my name. I am emailing because I'm struggling. I'm in a job that I don't really enjoy. I stay because it
pays the bills, but I'm not happy. For the longest time I expect I accept it, Oh, accepted that you're not always going to love your job. Lately, I've just been dreading going to work and going through the motions, really just living for the weekend. I've come to the realization that life is way too short to live like this. This thing that is stopping me is I don't know what to do. My first thought is maybe I no longer like the company that I work for. But then I asked myself,
do I even enjoy what I'm doing? The answer is no, not really, do I need to go back to school. A lot of degrees I'm interested in aren't in the evening or aren't offered online. College is expensive, and I just can't stop working. I need to pay for my house and pay for my family. I'm afraid I'll be too scared to change and just continue with the way that this is going. I tend to play it
safe in life. My husband and I dream of starting our own business, but again not really sure for what, and we don't have much knowledge on how to go about doing that. Dave, if one of your kids was going through this, what would you say to them? Any words of wisdom will help? Thanks in advance. I won't say the name. I don't really have anything that immediately comes to mind, but you gotta do something, I will say. Some of it comes into well, how big is your
family? Is it kids that you can't cut back expenses on or is it just you and your partner that you can cut back expenses on. Because if you've got a kid or two, you probably cut back as much as you can. But if it's just you and your husband, then maybe you could work part time and go to school and also be careful about what you go
to school for. You don't go to school for something that's unemployed. They just be careful because if you're going to go back into having student debt and then also trying to find a new job, it's just it's a hard thing. Right now, what are the fields that we read an article today? And one of the things that stuck out was plumbing because there will always be a need for plumbers. Well, and that is not something that you just
learn naturally. You have to go to school for it. Also, the average age of like a lot of trade jobs, those people are starting to retire and so and there's not younger people who are doing those jobs anymore. So now there's like a higher need for that. So if you have like just some kind of ability to do a trade and I'm not telling this person to go get a job in some kind of trade, if do what you want to do. But what I'm hearing though, is that trade positions are
making pretty decent money right now. I mean, Andrew does real estate and he's got properties himself, and he's got a guy for everything who like, I mean, they make decent money. Like when we have to have them come over and clear our drain that's clogged from my hair, like, I mean, it's not that cheap, no, And I think there's a lot of places that are so not desperate but desperate to hire somebody that they might
do some on the job training. I think Dean's Home Services when they used to advertise on KWB, they were always looking for somebody, and I think they might train. I'm not sure, but there's such a shortage of crafts people yep, and electricians and plumbers and you know whatever, that might be a route to go. I don't want to sound stupid, but one way to get some extra income so you could pad your income a little bit while you're going to school, donate plasma. I know probably three or four people
that make like ninety dollars a week donating plasma. And I know that sucks, and maybe it's not for you, but if you're looking for something to kind of pad you tied you over a little bit. What else I would say, is there anything else you can tell this person about, like changing careers and getting to a career. I just think that I don't know.
I don't want to be this person that says don't go back to college because I think that if that's what you feel like you should do, you should do, But the Internet has a lot of information on it, and you can teach yourself a lot of things nowadays without needing to go get yourself into student debt, because I mean, the gen Z generation is learning so much
from TikTok that we didn't have the access to. Like it's like if you needed a recipe for something like thirty years ago, you called someone and asked them all question and did whatever. Google is now your answer to everything. I just think that there are so many teachable things. My sister has basically
renovated two houses mostly on her own from teaching herself off of YouTube. So it's like, I don't know, maybe try to find something you really like as a hobby and figure out if you can turn it into a business, because that's another thing that people are learning to do. I know that's difficult, but I'm saying, like I well, a woman who started painting a like painting ceilings, walls that just like regular painting of a house. Okay,
now she paints a bunch of people houses. She's learned how to do Wayne's coding, so she does all this other stuff and she's made it to business that like she didn't go to school for that, she just started doing it and made it into a business, and maybe there's something there. I would say, don't try to become a photographer. The world is saturated with
photographers, and a lot of them. I would say probably one percent of photographers make ninety percent of the money and the rest of the photographers, I mean, if they're good, if they're wedding photographers. And I don't know
the stats. I could be wrong on that one, but I know a bunch of people who tried to get into photography as a career and it's so competitive, and when you're getting your wedding pictures taken, people want somebody who's had experience and is really good, not somebody who is just starting out. So anyway, if you have any advice for this person, then send me an email to Ryanshow at KATWB dot com. And that is it for the
Minnesota Goodbye, Ryanshow at ktwdb dot com. Whether you want to talk about that, or whether you want to talk about oh Naughty Tuesday, or the best sex that you had, whether it's with your current partner or whether it's with somebody from back in the day, whatever you want to talk about. It's kind of your show and if you want to Minnesota Goodbye, staff writer Sticker, just put your address in the email and we'll see you tomorrow on the Minnesota Goodbye