12. Keys for Connection
Episode description
In Episode 12, Jason and Lauren introduce the concept of Connection as the goal of intimate relationships. Connection is a felt closeness and deep, enjoyable bond between two people. Attachment styles in childhood greatly impact our ability to bond with other humans. In order to feel deeply fulfilled inside of marriage or intimate relationships, connection must be strong, and connection is built on a foundation of trust which you must proactively grow! Here are some of the keys addressed in this episode:
- The Vallottons’ friend and spiritual father, Danny Silk, says that “trust is the exchange of truth.” And with this as the working definition of trust, the implication is that building a foundation of trust and growing a deep connection requires two people to vulnerably share the TRUTH of what’s going on inside of themselves.
- Connection happens through the exchange of emotions, sharing your feelings and talking about yourself, giving your partner the opportunity to see, know, accept and love you in your present moment. The Vallotton's recommend Connection Codes with Dr. Glen and Phyllis Hill if you need to grow in your ability to locate and share your emotions (link below).
- Learning to speak the language of your partner will enable you to meet them where they’re at and love them in a way that they can hear and receive. Learning about love languages and needs will aid in the process of learning to speak each other’s language!
In this episode, Jason and Lauren give great examples of how they proactively pursue connection in their marriage and what it looks like to overcome the obstacle of disconnection.
Links:
Keep Your Love on by Danny Silk
Connection Codes with Dr. Glen and Phyllis Hill
The 5 Love Languages
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