You’ve probably seen his quotes all over the internet or maybe read one of his many bestselling books but we have the man behind it all Diego Perez aka Yung Pueblo here to share how to love better and treat love like the skill it truly is. We're discussing the three green flags to look out for in a relationship, why attachment is the greatest enemy of love, and how to lean into the growth that inevitably comes through any type of relationship – no matter how long or serious it may be. Learn ...
Mar 11, 2025•58 min
We're back together chatting about a relevant topic: burnout. Whether it's from dating or just life in general, we're discussing the stages of burnout and how we can minimize going over stage 4 and not having toxic hope, but actual hope, throughout the dating process. We're also chatting about bachelorette parties, wedding dress hacks, the definition of a term that will be banned from our vocab, and so much more! Enjoy. Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable...
Mar 09, 2025•30 min
It's so hard to not be focused on the milestones, but Julie had a reality check recently that she wanted to share on this quickie with you. Because as Dr. Laurie Santos discussed in this week's episode the arrival fallacy is exactly that – a fallacy. And the reality is that we're never out of the middle (even if we've hit said milestones), so do we not just embrace the middle, but truly enjoy it. Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ HOW TO BE DATEABLE...
Mar 07, 2025•4 min
Do relationships make us happy? If so, why are unmarried and childless women the most happy cohort of people out there? Because happiness is more than milestones as we chat with Dr. Laurie Santos about the complexities and common misperceptions when it comes to our overall well-being. And that's certainly not to say social connection and relationships aren't important! We'll dive into the U-shaped happiness curve, the way to enhance personal happiness while dating, and how to shift y...
Mar 04, 2025•1 hr 2 min
We're chatting over brunch recapping some of our SF together time, from dinners out together with friends to the types of questions we got from daters at our book launch events. We're talking about the only hack for having better dates, the benefits that come from finding your person "later" on, and how sending that text may lead to that second date (or if nothing else, the answers you need to move the f on). Enjoy! Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com...
Mar 02, 2025•31 min
If you feel like you've had a string of *almost* relationships that haven't quite turned into the real deal, then this one's for you! We're chatting with Ali Jackson about her journey through the world of dating – from when she was documenting all her dates in Notion to meeting her now-boyfriend. We discuss the various forms of not-quite-relationships, the foolproof way to know if someone is on the same page as you, and how to stay optimistic (yet realistic) about dating. Learn m...
Feb 25, 2025•1 hr 11 min
We're catching up after a whirlwind trip to LA discussing how we failed on the brunch front but had one heck of a time at our first book launch event. We take a trip down memory lane recapping some of our past events that resulted in concussions and almost shattered doors with the tech elite, the real problem with dating, and thoughts around the taxi cab theory if it really just comes down to if their light is on and they're ready for something real. Enjoy! Take the Dating Archetypes qui...
Feb 23, 2025•27 min
From talking about money on early dates to navigating the complexities of managing finances within a relationship, we're diving into it all with Netflix host and best-selling author Ramit Sethi. We chat about the four money types, the dynamics when there are different financial habits, earnings, and contributions, and how to create a shared vision for your financial future to build a 'rich life' either on your own or with a partner. Learn more about Ramit at @ramit and check out his ...
Feb 18, 2025•1 hr 5 min
We're dishing over brunch around the decline in dating apps, the alternatives for daters, and also when to know if you're ready to date again after ending a relationship. Enjoy! Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Sp...
Feb 16, 2025•29 min
It's time to QUIET THE FREAKING CLOCK y'all because we don't know about you but it's exhausting to be running up against societal timelines and expectations. We're diving in with Beth Gulotta both from a therapists perspective and from someone who had untraditional timelines when it came to her career, meeting her person, and having children. We're discussing how to take control of the societal pressures that exist, myths and options around fertility + the biological cloc...
Feb 11, 2025•1 hr 8 min
#brunchtalk is back...with a twist. We're trying out a new format where we dish about some of the things going on in our lives, the (dating) news, or whatever relevant topics we find related to dating/relationships/love/personal growth and more. And of course, we'll still answer your burning questions where this week we talk about age gap relationships and if there's a certain number of years between you that becomes problematic. Plus we chat about our upcoming San Francisco events s...
Feb 09, 2025•31 min
We're back for SEASON 20 with something you need to hear right now. In dating, we think we're asking for too much, when in fact we ask for far too little. So we say – scare them away. Because dating is just is much about attracting the right person as filtering out the wrong ones. We're discussing why we're so afraid to scare away the wrong people in the first pace, how to release the mentality that you may "mess" things up, and ways to start dating with your needs at the...
Feb 04, 2025•51 min
It's been one heck of a week with our book, our baby 'How to Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person & Falling In Love' officially out into the world! We're both reflecting on the week – how we celebrated and all the gratitude we have to all of you that have supported us through this all! Go get 'How to Be Dateable' on howtobedateable.com or wherever books are sold. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for...
Jan 31, 2025•13 min
IT'S OFFICIALLY PUB DAY - the day that 'How to Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love' is out, available to the world! We're so freaking excited and going to answer all your questions from what it was like to coauthor a book together, how we applied our learnings from the podcast (and our personal lives) into the book, and the many surprises that happened along the way. Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ HOW TO B...
Jan 28, 2025•53 min
While last year was all about building resilience after that heart-wrenching infidelity, this year was about finding love again. Julie interviews Yue to hear how she's been able to able to design the type of relationship that works for her and her "manfriend" – and most importantly herself. We discuss the biggest shifts she's made in dating / relationships, how she learned to love being in her single era instead of looking at it as a layover to a relationship, and of course the i...
Jan 21, 2025•1 hr 4 min
From getting engaged to quitting her job pursue Dateable full-time, it's been a year of taking that next step – saying yes to the future that's to come. In this episode, Yue interviews Julie about all these life changes – what's been incredible, challenging, and so forth. We discuss not always so linear progression of relationships, the anxieties despite the milestones, and of course the hopes for 2025 with our book 'How to Be Dateable' soon into the world! Take the Dating Ar...
Jan 14, 2025•1 hr 1 min
Welcome to 2025 all! This is the year filled with abundance and finding your person...we can feel it! Because our book comes out January 28th, and we're sharing a key component of becoming your most dateable self: discovering your dating archetype! We'll discuss the 5 types of daters we see, ways to leverage your super powers when dating, and how to discover what may be holding you back – so you can propel forward this year instead. Take the quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Follow ...
Jan 07, 2025•53 min
With the end of the year comes new beginnings. Whether you're in the thick of a breakup or just in reflection mode, you're going to enjoy this season finale banger with the one and only John Kim as we talk about the difference between a flat soda breakup, an almost relationship, and everything in between. We're discussing how to use heartbreak as a catalyst for growth, ways to reflect on your past breakups, and why the expiration of your relationship could be the best thing for your ...
Dec 31, 2024•1 hr 4 min
For our last brunchtalk of the year, we're doing a little reflection of new years resolution, prepping for dating Sunday on the apps, and answering all your burning questions for the new year. We're discussing how to set realistic dating goals for the new year, the best strategies for meeting new people in January, and how to be hopeful that dating will be different this year. Hope you have a wonderful. Happy new year! Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablep...
Dec 29, 2024•22 min
If you're looking at new avenues to meet people in 2025 or you're curious why matchmaking is so appealing to GenZ, look no further. We're giving you an insider's look as we talk to Jaydi & Lauren (aka The Love Agents of Hollywood) from LJ Matchmaking. We're discussing why they think matchmaking is having a comeback, how to best utilize a matchmaker, and the reason they're so bullish on their one-date-at-a-time approach. Plus, we talk about some big personal updates in...
Dec 24, 2024•1 hr 20 min
Whether you're single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, there's always a lot of questions that come up around the holidays. Should you invite them to your holiday events? What should you gift each other? And is it even worth it to be on the apps this time of year? We're doing a lightening round of all the hard-hitting questions, sharing our holiday plans, and wishing you all a very happy holiday season. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepo...
Dec 22, 2024•23 min
What happens when you say you want a relationship yet act in ways that drive away the exact thing you want? Introducing relationship chicken...which we think is one of THE biggest traps of modern dating. We're discussing why our dating culture often promotes unhealthy dynamics, the reason trying to protecting ourselves doesn't ultimately protect us in the end, and how to embrace your vulnerable side head-on so you don't fall for this trap. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick ...
Dec 17, 2024•43 min
Ever feel like you just can't move past those first couple dates or actually get into a committed relationship? You're not alone. Join us this week as we discuss why it's so common to feel this way – even when the reality is that most date's don't turn into more! We're discussing what metrics to focus on when quantifying dating "success", why dating apps have changed the dynamics of dating, and how you can shift the focus so you're more realistic (and optimist...
Dec 15, 2024•14 min
This is a big one y'all. We're talking about all the states, beliefs, and feelings that make dating oh so hard – and end up really getting in our way if we let them. We're so excited to be joined by Sabrina Zohar who shares her candid journey with anxiety and dating – and how she's learned to manage these emotions as they come up, We're discussing the differences between anxiety and intuition, how to to feel and process your emotions so they don't take over, and why heali...
Dec 10, 2024•1 hr 11 min
Have you ever had the thought...am I being too much? Am I too interested? Too excited? Just too much personality for this person? Let's stop the rumination once and for all in this week's #brunchtalk where we can confidently say: you are not too much! We discuss where this anxiety comes from in the first place, what to do when these thoughts start to creep in, and a reminder that the right person will appreciate you for who you are. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at h...
Dec 08, 2024•14 min
What if instead of searching for the random meet-cute, we could share another way to meet IRL that actually yields more relationships? We're chatting with Brandon & Harrison about their own experiences building connection through their networks of community and friends – and how they bring that same energy to their live dating show updating. We discuss the importance of building rapport while dating, how to find environments that connect you in your most authentic state, and why sometime...
Dec 03, 2024•1 hr 7 min
You finally found someone you're into who is also into you. Until out of nowhere – it all blows up. If you've been here before, you know how painful it feels when it seems like the the rug was just pulled from under you unexpectedly We're breaking down the reasons this may happen and how to handle the emotional turmoil that comes from this. We discuss how to get closure without necessarily needing to know why this happened, the benefits of relationship check-ins expediting underlying...
Dec 01, 2024•17 min
Are you feeling a bit dating fatigued? Have no fear, with the holidays around the corner, it's the perfect time for a reset. And what better way than to hear us chat with Jemma about her dating detox and – how it led to a different approach when dating (which ultimately resulted in meeting her partner!). We're discussing the 12 stages of dating burnout, the need to take breaks from dating, and how you can bounce back stronger than ever before. Follow Jemma @thatpsychologypodcast and list...
Nov 26, 2024•58 min
With Thanksgiving right around the corner, it can be the most joyful...and stressful time of year. Not everyone wants enjoy their turkey dinner with questions about your relationship status! But have no fear, we're going to break down some of the most frustrating questions that can come your way over the holiday season – whether you're single AF, in a new relationship, or headed towards marriage (and beyond). And also share a reminder of where this is coming from and how to embrace the h...
Nov 24, 2024•21 min
We're meant to do life with other people. So then, why is dating so damn hard? Yue's sharing why dating feels so difficult these days – and how we can start to shift our mindset to think about things differently. Because being with another human you love is natural, yet dating is not. And it's about time we change how we approach it altogether. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit I...
Nov 21, 2024•11 min
