Vancouver. True Crime, podcast, welcomes. You my name is Mark. I am the host of the show. This episode is called evil intentions. Narcissistic Monsters the tactics. They use the emotional impact that it has some tactics to defend yourself against them. And how to recognize them in the first place. Thank you for listening to the Vancouver True Crime podcast. Before I begin the show, I like to make an announcement, very honored, and pleased.
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Evil intentions. The nature of evil intention is a complex and multifaceted topic. That has been studied by philosophers theologians and site colleges, for centuries generally. Speaking evil intentions can be defined as deliberate actions or motives that cause harm or suffering to others. Some people believe that evil intention stems from a lack of empathy or compassion. And that individuals who engage in evil actions do not I fully understand or care about the
impact, their actions on others. Others believe that evil intentions stems from a desire for power or control that individuals who engage in evil actions do. So in order to assert dominance over others, Some psychological theories, suggest that evil intentions may be the results of a personality disorder such as social pathy or psychopath e that leads to a lack of moral compass and an inability to
empathize with others. There are also theories that evil intentions are driven by certain ideologies belief systems our cultural conditioning that justify harmful actions and leads people to commit them. It's important to note that there isn't a single explanation for the nature of evil intentions. And each person's motivations may be unique and different understanding the complexity of evil intentions may help prevent
and respond to harmful actions. It also highlights the importance of Education, empathy, and understanding as a means to prevent evil intentions and actions, emotional abuse. Is a pattern of behavior that's used to control and manipulate. Or intimidate another person. This may take many forms. And it can be difficult to recognize.
But some of the common tactics is of course, gaslighting gaslighting is a tactic where the abuser manipulates the victims and to doubting their own memories perceptions or sanity. For example, the abuser may deny that a conversation or event took place Even if the victim clearly remembers it. So boil down gaslighting. It's to make you doubt your own memory. Your own perception of reality. Isolation. The abuser may try to isolate the victim.
And may forbid their partner from going out, going to work seeing friends or just doing activities that they enjoy doing Hobbies Recreation. An isolated person is weak by slowly isolating your victim. You make them more vulnerable to your influence. Their isolation. May be psychological by filling their field of vision through the pleasure and attention that you may pay them.
You crowd out everything else in their mind, they see they think of only you, the isolation may also be physical, you take them away from their normal. Environment, their friends, their family, their home. You give them a sense of being marginalized in limbo. There are leaving One World Behind and entering another one once isolated like this. They may have no outside support in their confusion there easily, LED astray liar, the seduced into your lair, where nothing
else is familiar. That is an excerpt from chapter 15 So late the victim and the Art of Seduction. By Robert Greene, isolation is a tactic that's utilize bike alts, manipulators human traffickers pimps and an abuser may use threats or intimidation to control the victim. For example, an abuser May threaten to hurt the victim or someone they care about if they don't comply to their demands emotion. Anal, blackmail, the abuser, may use the victims a motion to control them.
For example, an abuser May threaten to harm themselves, suicide, attempts, or suicidal ideation. For example, abuser May threaten to harm themselves if the victim leaves them or guilt to manipulate the victim into staying. Of course, there's economic abuse, the abuser May control, the victims access to financial resources. For example, an abuser May control. The vix of the access to money or make them ask permission to spend money.
It's important to note that emotional abuse can happen in any type of relationship. Including romantic relationship, friendships family relationships, even in work environments to I wanted to kind of dig more into like psychological manipulation some more of the subtle tactics so in one that comes up is triangulation, this is a tactic where the manipulators involve a third party in the manipulation often to gain information or crate conflict between the
victim and a third party. For example, abuser may use their children to manipulate the partner by taking the children. Aaron away if the partner doesn't comply with their demands. Projection. This is a tactic where the manipulator accuses the victim of having the same narrative characteristic or intention that they themselves have. For example, an abuser make use a partner of being controlling when in reality, they are the
one that's controlling. Scapegoating this tactic is where the manipulator blames the victim for the problems that are not their fault. And they're not responsible for an example, an abuser may be. The abuser May blame the partner for the failure of the relationship, even though the abuse is a real cause for the failure. Love bombing. This is a tactic where the manipulator uses excessive affection attention and gifts to control and manipulate the victim.
For example, the abuser May shower, the partner with gifts and attention and beginning of the relationship, to gain their trust and then uses that trust to control them later on, of course, their stocking stockings atactic were manipulators, follow track and monitor the victims, movement activities, or Or say shins for example, an abuser May track the person's phone or social media activities. Or may follow them in person to keep tabs of their movement mind
games. These are tactics where manipulator uses psychological games or mind tricks to control the victim. For example, an abuser, may play a game of good cop/bad cop, where they alternate from being nice, to being cruel, to keep the victim guessing and off-balance. It's important to note that these forms of manipulation can also also be used in combination with other forms of manipulation and abuse.
For example, intimate partner. Violence is a pattern of behavior used by one partner to exert control over the other partner in an intimate relationship. This can include. Of course physical abuse, hitting punching slapping choking, using a weapon to harm the partner. Sexual abuse forcing coercing the partner into sexual acts emotional abuse.
Again, belittling and salting threatening isolating, controlling the partner economic abuse controlling the partners access to money, resources or employment opportunities. Psychological abuse manipulating, the other partners, thoughts feelings, and behavior, harassment, repeated phone calls messages. Emails visits that can cause and strike fear, or distress stocking watching moderating, the person's movement cyberstalking using technology
to stock and harass the partner. All these things can also be known as especially if they cross the line as criminal harassment. Criminal harassment is also known as stocking. It's a pattern of abuse and behavior, that's intended to cause fear and distress in the victims, repeatedly following or watching someone either in
person or online. Sending repeated and unwanted messages or communication, either by phone email or social media threatening to harm a victim or their loved one damaging the victims property, posting personal information about the victim online, harassing the victims, friends, and family showing up at the victims, workplace, or home Uninvited using technology to track the victims move.
Moments or activity criminal harassment and stalking or criminal offenses and can result in severe penalties including imprisonment, it's important to seek help. If you or someone's experienced criminal harassment or stalking, please make a police report as a good start. And it's important to note that the side effects of this behavior is comes down again to emotional abuse. Emotional abuse can be just as harmful as physical abuse.
Emotional abuse can be very difficult to recognize can lead to long-term mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress, disorder, emotional abuse can also have physical. Co effects such as headaches, stomach problems, sleep disturbances. Emotional abuse is not limited to. One gender can be done by anyone and it can be suffered by anyone. Emotional abuse.
Can take many forms as we said verbal, social, isolation, and controlling Behavior, a pattern of chronic Behavior rather than a one-time occurrence. Emotional abuse can be subtle and Insidious. Making it difficult. Alt for the victims to realize that they're even being abused in the first place. Emotional abuse can be hard to detect as it's not physical, but it can have very long lasting
effects on the victims. Mental health and well-being, that I think is important to talk about in this evil. Intention podcast is pathological Liars, because one of the The effective gaslighting tactic is the ability to lie with this. Such certainty going all the way back to the beginning of the series. Paul Bernardo in that police station and lie with such ease and conviction. So pathological liar is is someone who lies compulsively and uncontrollably often for no
apparent reason or benefit. They may have a difficult distinguishing between truth and fiction to recognize a pathological liar. You may, you may have to observe the pattern of lying and dishonesty, a lack of remorse or guilt and a tendency to become defensive or invasive. When confronted about their lives dealing with a pathological, liar can be extremely challenging and Requires a great deal of patience. If you're dealing with a pathological liar, don't
confront them directly. This is more likely to make them more defensive and likely you're going to hear more lies and bullshit. Keep records of the lies. They tell I've even in my case, I've even had to record people and then they will be like, oh, I never said that. Oh, really. And then you play the recording So keep records of the lies. They tell this may help you see a pattern and be able to confront them with specific
examples. When the time is right, do not engage in their lives, refuse to participate in their deception, And do not provide them with an audience avoid being mostly invested. Remember that pathological lying. It's a set boundaries rather trying to change that person. Pathological lying is not a standalone Condition, it's a symptoms of underlining
psychological issues. Some of the common psychological issues that may be Associated includes narcissistic personality disorder sense of grandiose sense of importance and the need for admiration. Borderline personality disorder have unstable. Able relationship, self-image emotions, and they may engage in pulse of Reckless Behavior.
Antisocial personality disorder age and deceitful, and manipulative, Behavior, hissa tronic personality disorder, excessive, emotionality and attention-seeking behavior. Bipolar disorder. May have manic episodes that are characterized by an Some energy impulsivity that may lead to lying post-traumatic stress disorder, may have experienced a traumatic event in their past and use lying as a coping
mechanism. It's also worth noting in some cases, that pathological lying can be a symptom of other mental health conditions, such as schizophrenia and brain injury. It's important to understand that these conditions require professional help. And accurate diagnosis. Effective ways to guard against mental abuse of tricks by narcissists. Here are some effective ways to guard against the mental manipulation tactics, used by narcissist first and foremost awareness is everything.
Educate yourself about narcissistic abuse. Understanding the tactics that nurse's use can help you recognize when you're being manipulated or controlled. Learn to trust your own instincts and feelings. Listen to your gut feeling narcissus off and try to make the victims doubt their own reality. So, it's important to trust your own instincts and feelings.
Even if the nurses is trying to convince you, otherwise, hence, again, the gaslighting Establish boundaries learn to set and enforce boundaries with a narcissist communicate them. Clearly this can help you maintain autonomy and protect yourself from further in manipulation. Seek support. Surround yourself with people,
you trust and support. You don't be afraid to seek, professional help, practice, self-care narcissistic abuse, can take a toll on your mental and emotional, well-being, engage in self care practices, such as exercise therapy mindfulness, which can help you build a resistance. In cope, with the effect of the abuse, create a safety plan, in a case, Better emergency. It's important to have a plan for leaving the relationship safely.
This may include having a bag packed money saved a safe place to go, do not engage in communication with the narcissus. When you're feeling vulnerable, narcissists are skilled at exploiting vulnerability. It is essential to be in a clear State of Mind when interacting with them. It's important to remember that healing and recovering from the nurse's abuse is a process. It takes time, it's important to be patient and compassionate
with yourself again. Hypnotherapy Can Be an Effective tool for helping individuals who have been in a relationship with a narcissist to heal from the emotion and psychological trauma caused by the abuse. Here are some hypnotherapy techniques that can be used in the treatment of narcissistic abuse regression therapy. This technique can help an individual access and process repressed memories and emotions related to the abuse by identifying and resolving past
trauma. An individual can gain insight and understanding and begin to heal. Positive visualization affirmations. This technique can help individuals replace negative thoughts and beliefs with positive ones by visualizing a positive, future and repeating positive affirmations. An individual can develop a more positive self image and self improve their image relaxation. And stress management, this technique can help individuals, relax, reduce stress.
And improve their overall well-being, cognitive reframing this technique can help an individual change their thought pattern, replace negative thoughts with more positive and constructive. One anchoring this technique can help an individual associate anchoring, this technique can help an individual to associate positive emotions with specific
trigger such as words gestures. Or an image, this can be used to help them feel more positive in difficult situations break the negative pattern of thoughts and behavior associated with the abuse. Re scripting. This technique can help an individual rewrite, their past experiences, create a new narrative, A New Perspective, and past events. This can help reduce the power and the past trauma, and the negative experiences and reduce the hold of The abuser over the victims mind.
It's important to note that hypnotherapy should be conducted by a licensed trained experienced professional. Also, it's important to note that hypnotherapy can be used as a complementary approach. It should be used in conjunction with other therapy, modalities such as cognitive behavior therapy. So I'm going to end this podcast with a guided meditation. I'm going to end this podcast
with a guided meditation. This one, please be in a comfortable place, laying in bed, the couch comfortable chair, and somewhere quiet. So we're going to start off with your eyes closed. And we're going to first focus on your breathing, going to close your eyes. And don't worry. If your mind wanders, we're just going to count your breasts. We're going to breathe to a count of 10, but we're going to take exaggerated breasts. So we're going to do like this for an example, one. 23.
Four. Five. Six. Seven. Eight. Nine. 10:00. With your eyes closed. Allow yourself any tension in your body? You're going to first feel, a warm glow of light, penetrating light. A powerful light penetrate the top of your skull and it's going to move down your body and as it moves down your body, it's going to relieve any stress or tension that you may have in your body. So as of Golden Light starts, penetrating the top of your
head. Working down into your face, your cheekbones, your job, muscles your neck, the back of your neck, your chest, your arms, your shoulders. Your midsection, your torso, you feel this energy swirling around relieving, any tension, you may have in your body. Now it's going to go in your waist down your legs, right? Down to your feet, until your entire body is by this golden relaxing, light. You breathe slowly, exhale as
each breath leaves your body. Your body becomes more relaxed, as you continue to breathe deeply and slowly, imagine yourself in a peaceful beautiful place, it's quiet. It's a place you visited before. It may be a place you've been over. It could be a place of your own choosing and Imagination. However, this place you feel completely comfortable at ease. And at peace as you imagine this place, you notice the colors, the brilliant beautiful colors.
The Sounds the sensation, you can still feel the Warm Glow of the sun on your skin. There's a cool breeze on your hair. It almost makes the back your neck. Tingle. You hear sounds of birds singing in the breeze in your hair. If Phil's gentle warm and relaxing, allow yourself to be fully immersed in this peaceful, beautiful place. As you continue to feel relaxed and safe.
I would like you to think of a time when you felt emotionally abused or traumatized, it may be a specific event or a pattern of behavior. As you think about this, notice any feelings are thought that comes up for you. Now, as you continue to relax, imagine yourself standing in front of a door, the door, represents the past events or pattern of behavior that caused you this emotional.
Pain and Trauma. Imagine yourself opening the door and stepping through it. And as you do, notice that you're in a different place, a place where you're safe and in control. As he stand and this new place. Imagine yourself, looking back at the door. Notice that it is now far behind you that you no longer are a victim of the abuse. Instead, you're a Survivor, you're strong, you're capable of overcoming. Any obstacle that comes your way. Now, as you continue to relax, imagine yourself.
Taking some time to reflect on your past experiences, notice in any insights or learning that has come to, you allow yourself to progress and integrate these insights into your life. Remember that? You are safe, you're in control. You have the power to create a new reality for yourself. One. That is free from emotional abuse and Trauma. Take some time, relax. Slowly slowly come back to reality. Take your time. Breathe.
Breathe, take your time. Open your eyes and enjoy the new you the new powerful you and the new battery, you the new you of your own choosing