I was sitting at the dining room table of a friend. We had been solving the problems of the world in an hours-long conversation when she asked, "What are you talking about on tomorrow's podcast?" When I told her that I hadn't thought about it yet, she said, "Why don't you talk about why people don't take big chances and stay in their comfort zone for their entire life?" My mind did an instant review of my life and all the areas I had stumbled on before getting out of my way. I also remembered co...
May 23, 2022•12 min•Season 16Ep. 4316
I have a saying - “Next year begins THIS year. Next month begins THIS month. Next week begins THIS week.” If you want to stay on track, accomplish your goals, and enjoy life more - you MUST take control of your calendar. It’s easier than you think: 1) Life will come at you FAST! Be sure to schedule any significant and can’t miss life events at least one year in advance. Put it on the calendar and block it out. You can always change your mind. 2) Hold your space. Decide in advance what you will b...
May 20, 2022•13 min•Season 16Ep. 4315
Mrs. Etheridge was a 5th-grade teacher at Westgate Elementary in Manassas, Virginia. She had a special knack for motivating her most free-spirited student. Now, I wouldn't be honest if I were to you, I remember how she tamed a young boy who saw the world as a place to explore - mostly between the lines. But I will say that when you begin teaching and motivating others to reach their full potential, you quickly find ways to get them out of the own way, fire them up, and enjoy more success. When y...
May 19, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4314
Can you remember when you filled your thoughts with dreams and ambitions? That’s how most of us live our early lives - until the real world splits into two distinct periods: 1) BEFORE life gets in the way. Anything IS possible. It’s a beautiful time when you run as fast as possible toward your goals. Even if your parents disagree. 2) AFTER life gets in the way. Anything WAS possible. Life is good, but it’s not what you expected. Your parents would have said, “I told you so.” What if it was possi...
May 18, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4313
Before I begin, I want to define what I mean by doing nothing. I don’t see doing ‘nothing’ as something unproductive. Instead, I see ‘nothing’ as a protected personal space that lies between your thoughts and your actions. It is a place that provides a contemplation and planning opportunity before launching into massive and focused action design to reach your outcome and achievement of your goal. It is a holding space where inspiration, desperation, motivation, even intimidation, bubble up into ...
May 17, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4309
I've been listening to clients tell me the story of their life. I can't help but wonder why they keep beating around the bush. In journalistic terms, these folks are burying the lead. Instead of getting to the point, they begin with secondary details. How does this relate to improving your life? Many say, "I can't focus on anything." No. You are focusing on the wrong things. Sometimes I hear, "I can't get myself get moving." Truth? You are moving - in the wrong direction. They may say, "I don't ...
May 16, 2022•12 min•Season 16Ep. 4307
Creating a difference in your life requires simple actions. It’s all about getting what you want and keeping what you love. 1) Decide - Everything begins with your decision to transform. 2) Define - Aimless wondering is no fun. Defining your path will get you there. 3) Deploy - Putting your plan into action is the only way to make progress. 4) Defend - Your goal should be to make life better. When you find what you love - defend it so you never lose it. Simple. I like simple Simple works! Learn ...
May 13, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4310
What if everything you did today came with no limitations and no consequences? What could you do with your life? Limitations can be helpful. Staying within speed limits keeps you from getting speeding tickets. That's good. Are you limiting yourself to a job that doesn't serve you? That isn't good. Fear of change usually creates limitations. Or is it the fear of bad consequences? What would happen if all consequences were good? Asking someone on a date may cause fear and hold you back. That all g...
May 12, 2022•12 min•Season 16Ep. 4316
As a child, I wondered why I couldn't always have my way. Mom and Dad were so mean! I couldn't wait to grow up, move out, and experience being an adult. Everything would be different - or so I thought. After stepping into the adult world, it didn't take long to realize that not much had changed. It turns out it wasn't my parents. It was life turning down my requests. Life was getting in the way. What was even worse was that I was getting in my way. I've joked over the years that if I'm the Boss ...
May 11, 2022•17 min•Season 16Ep. 4305
Did you know that happy people are regular people that look at the world differently? They don't wear rose-colored glasses either. They have a better way: 1) They realize that if you are alive, you will have problems. 2) They accept that dealing with problems is a privilege of being alive. 3) They don't get frustrated. They know problems mean you are shaking up life and living. 4) Happy people accept responsibility for solving problems. They never run from them. 5) A good day for a happy person ...
May 10, 2022•12 min•Season 16Ep. 4307
I think it’s time we stop seeking more productivity. It’s too much work! I prefer being more efficient and effective. Here are a couple of ideas that will help: 1) Say “No” to meetings if possible. If you must, keep them short and sweet. 2) Delay paying attention to incoming communication. It’s nothing more than somebody else’s to-do list. Do your stuff first. 3) Daily interruptions will never go away. You may as well expect and plan for them. 4) Never schedule more than 50% of your day. That wi...
May 09, 2022•13 min•Season 16Ep. 4303
The success and happiness that you have in your life is a direct result of something your Mom was always asking - Who are your friends? If they are positive, you will be positive. Are they negative? You will be negative. If they have money, you will have money. Are they broke? You get my point. Your life will become exactly like the people that are closest to you. Choose wisely. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 06, 2022•12 min•Season 16Ep. 4305
Have you ever found yourself stuck in the middle? I was speaking with a client who was trying to be everything to everybody. His business was not growing. His life was not happy. He couldn’t seem to find a way to make progress. That’s when I said… “My friend, you are stuck in the middle. Nothing good happens when you are in the middle.” In business and life, it’s okay to have low expectations and surround by like-minded folks. It’s also okay to reach for your dreams, have high expectations, and ...
May 05, 2022•12 min•Season 16Ep. 4304
Setting Goals is the most powerful method of getting what you want. It is the power of mind activation. Here’s how: 1) Decide what you want and when you want to get it. 2) Decide when you will start and when you will finish. 3) Decide how you will begin and maintain your momentum. Then you must get to work. Limit anything and anybody that has a distracting influence on you. You must get to work. Commit to overcoming any obstacle that gets in your way. You must get to work. The path is long. Star...
May 04, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4300
Today Not Possible. Tomorrow Possible. American Taekwondo Grand Master H.U. Lee gave volumes of advice during his life of service. In my view, his best was also his shortest: “Today Not Possible. Tomorrow Possible.” Today is a new day. Yesterday prepared you for today. If today doesn’t go as planned - you always have tomorrow. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 03, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4302
Do you ever have difficulty making decisions? In the next 60 seconds, you can harness the most potent and easy-to-use decision-making tool I have ever found. Forget the old "Pro and Con" list your Mom and Dad taught you. It's time for a new approach. The next time you find yourself challenged, use Quantum Linguistics. Ask yourself these 4 simple questions to solve your problem: What would happen if I DID? What would happen if I DIDN'T? What wouldn't happen if I DID? What wouldn't happen if I DID...
May 02, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4300
Your best life is built sequentially, one level at a time. Forget the elevator; climb all the stairs to the top, and have lasting success. In 1954, Abraham Maslow released Motivation and Personality. His Hierarchy of needs theory is all about climbing to the top. Maslow suggested that to reach your full potential: 1) You must provide for your physiological needs. Food, clothing, shelter, money, and more. 2) You must feel safe. Personally, emotionally, financially, health and well-being, and agai...
Apr 29, 2022•12 min•Season 16Ep. 4300
Wouldn’t it be great to start your week with a positive attitude and be in total control? I’m a guy who likes little airplanes. I’ll never forget the first time my instructor commanded me to blow off a great landing. He wanted me to GO AROUND and try again. Over the years, I’ve learned that the same thing happens in life. In day-to-day life, you can bet that somebody or something will mess up with your plans. Pilots handle it this way: 1) Hit the gas and apply full power to the engine. 2) Pull t...
Apr 28, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4299
There's a truth in life; nothing happens until something happens. Life happens when you take massive imperfect action and move closer to your goal. But how do you begin when your to-do list is a mile long? There's a simple equation: Start + Next = Results. Once you get moving, the trick is to focus on the to-do item that is the best use of your time. The one that will move you closer to your goal right now. After completing that task, move to the next and now the most critical item on your list....
Apr 27, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4298
Do you have too many choices in your life? In 2005, Barry Schwartz wrote The Paradox of Choice. It challenged the traditional thinking that the way to maximum freedom is to maximize choice. Too many choices are not necessarily a good thing. They can create paralysis. No matter what you choose, you'll always wonder if you could have done better. Here's my advice to you: 1) Limit choices. Narrow your list to items you have already experienced. Having every option won't serve you. 2) Be sure to per...
Apr 26, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4267
It's such a simple question that it causes people to get a blank look in their eyes. A few years ago, I visited friends who lived and worked on the Grand Canyon's South Rim. Yes, people live there - thousands of them. The drive into town is too far to commute - but that was okay with my friends. They had recently switched careers, packed up, and moved to become Park Rangers. They were right where they wanted to be. It was late in the day when we settled into the guest room of their home and head...
Apr 25, 2022•12 min•Season 16Ep. 4296
Are you striving for something different but don’t know where to begin? I have a client who is 100 pounds overweight and decided to get healthy. She had no idea how. My advice was simple. If your mind is telling you something you are doing is NOT who you are - it’s time to make an easy change: If you know lousy food is NOT who you are - give it up. If your lack of exercise is NOT who are you - give it up. If lack of focus is NOT who you are - give it up. Give up anything that is NOT who you feel...
Apr 22, 2022•12 min•Season 16Ep. 4292
Many have said, "Life is a marathon, not a sprint." But what happens when you find yourself doing both at the same time? If you've been living on this planet for any time, you've figured out life is a long game made of day-to-day sprints. If you want a big bank balance, you make small deposits over time. If you want to lose weight, you make small reductions over time. If you want to get a promotion at your job, you do well every day. The challenge happens when you have not defined the marathon y...
Apr 21, 2022•12 min•Season 16Ep. 4294
When I was a teenager, I was a weekend moviegoer, and it was the age of Rocky, Star Wars, and Jaws. Besides, with only three channels on television, getting out of the house was the top item on my to-do list. As a kid with big dreams, it was easy for me to slip into the fantasy world of films and let my mind run for a couple of hours. By the end of the film, I was always excited to get on with life and become like the folks I watched in movies. That’s when life got in the way. Like many young fo...
Apr 20, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4395
Do you have a roadmap for who you are and how you operate in the world? If not, you need a ‘Who Am I’ document. Who Am I is not a mission statement. Who Am I is not a list of affirmations. Who Am I is not a value statement Who Am I is a personal cheat sheet that reminds you who you are and why you do what you do. How do you see yourself? How do others see you? How do you act in situations? When life gets in the way, you can always turn to your pre-determined ‘Who Am I,’ and you’ll always know ho...
Apr 19, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4292
Wouldn’t it be great if you had a plan to help you get what you want? What you need is M.A.P.S. - a system that gets thinking out of the way and focuses on actions in four areas: Motivation: Everything begins with motivation and knowing ‘WHY’ you set your goals. Stay motivated. Accountability: Being accountable and accepting responsibility for your results will empower your success. ‘If it’s to be, it’s up to me’ is a great way to get started. Planning: Plan your work and work you plan. It’s sim...
Apr 18, 2022•13 min•Season 16Ep. 4294
Has anybody ever said to you, "it's good to be a quitter?" Probably Not. But it turns out to be very good advice. Being a good quitter isn't an excuse. It should never be an option for making things easier. Instead, quitting is a wise choice. You choose to leave when your progress has stopped and you are going around in circles. That's when things get interesting. Once you are committed to an important idea, it can be challenging to allow yourself to quit. Are you stuck in a lousy job, terrible ...
Apr 15, 2022•12 min•Season 16Ep. 4293
Wouldn’t it be great if you could create more time in your day without giving anything up? The secret is how you prioritize the projects that are already on your plate. That requires a simple understanding: 1) Working on multiple projects simultaneously only delays the completion of all the projects. 2) When you complete a project, not only is it off your plate, it begins producing your expecting results sooner. It also frees up time to work on your next project. The next time that you are tryin...
Apr 14, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4289
Would you like to be happy every day of the week? Maybe it's time to start thinking like a happy person? There's no magic to being happy, and rose-colored glasses are not required. Just start looking at your day-to-day life the way a happy person does. Give this a try: 1) Accept that being alive means you will run into occasional challenges. 2) Realize that dealing with challenges is a privilege of being alive. 3) Welcome frustration. It only means adjustments are required. Figure what to change...
Apr 13, 2022•11 min•Season 16Ep. 4288
Do you wish you could find a mentor to help you along the way? Every mentor I’ve ever had has made sure that I possessed three characteristics for success before they agreed to work with me. Would you pass their test? 1) Do you have a burning desire to achieve your goals? 2) Are you a coachable person and prepared to accept the wisdom and guidance of others? 3) Do you have the willingness to undertake all actions to achieve your success? If the shoe were on the other foot, you would want those t...
Apr 12, 2022•12 min•Season 16Ep. 4287
